In recognition of...

[Deliaskis]

...some of the lovely things our DH/DP/Significant Others/friends/family/colleagues do when we're pregnant. I know we are the ones going through it, but I sometimes feel like I spend time moaning about the things people don't understand, don't get, won't help with etc. when in fact I am sure lots of us have had support from others that has really helped. So post them here. I'll start...

• On Tuesday, DH walked 2 miles home from work in the pouring rain to take delivery of my nursery feeding chair, so it wouldn't get wet. It took his coat 36 hours to dry!
  

• A lovely mnetter is knitting something lovely for my baby (due Feb), for really no reason whatsoever, just because she's lovely and likes knitting.
  

• I was late in work on Wed as I had been v sick in the morning (am 25 weeks so it's getting a bit tedious), and a colleague, before I had even taken my coat off, had scurried off to make me a 'pregnancy tea' (she knows just how I have it at the mo), when she wasn't brewing for anybody else.
  

So continue, if you like...

(Sorry if this is too soppy and un-mumsnetty, but I thought it would be nice)

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[lucielooo]

It's just DP really, but since being pregnant he's got up early every day to bring me breakfast in bed before work. Originally because of morning sickness but he's carried on in my 2nd trimester even though I've felt fine for ages, just so I don't get too hungry

[Deliaskis]

That's nice lucieloo .

I'm sure it can't just be us.....

[lucielooo]

LOL.. perhaps everyone is too busy having their pillows plumped/grapes peeled to reply :)

Actually my mum and sister are sweet too - even when I was 5 weeks they were sitting me down and fussing over me. It's lovely really and a good idea for a thread :)

[GretnaGirl]

I'll happily join in here, I've been pretty poorly and down but I have the best DH, Mam, MIL and FIL. They have taken over care of my DS as much as they can, cleaned, ironed, ferried me around and given me lots of love. My DS who is 2.10 hugs me and says "you better soon Mam"
They have all been amazing and I couldn't manage without them.

[Deliaskis]

That's sweet GretnaGirl !

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[GretnaGirl]

Nothing beats your DH walking all that way in the rain to save a chair - where did you find him??!

[Deliaskis]

Errmmm....yeah well, I was acutally dating his friend and decided I rather preferred him [wicked lady icon] !

Twas about 12 years ago and I was young and flighty so I think I can be forgiven as we are still together!

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[GretnaGirl]

Very good decision by the sounds of it! GG

[knackered76]

my DH has been very gracious when I have completely over reacted to things and not commented or held it against me! I'm only 9 wks so there's plenty of time for more.

When we had our first dd though he would pick her up out of the moses basket, bring her to me for feeding and then take her back and settle her . . . even though the moses basket was on my side of the bed!

[Deliaskis]

Yes knackered thank heavens for DH's being really gracious when we're moody/hormonal etc. He's had to do a lot of the gracious thing!

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[Deliaskis]

That doesn't scan right, I meant when I'm hormonal etc, and that my DH has had to do a lot of the gracious thing, not necessarily yours!

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[LLKH]

I'm very happy to join in this one. DH has been so supportive and sympathetic to me. He kisses both myself and the bump when he leaves for work in the morning not to mention telling me how lovely he thinks I am and how well I'm doing at this whole pregnancy thing.

My first trimester, I could only cook pasta as everything else made me feel ill so DH took over the majority of the cooking. He and I both like to cook and joke that we squabble over who gets to cook, but when I couldn't, he did far more than his fair share. I appreciated this immensely as DH is a fantastic cook and I was often very hungry at that stage.

[JBrd]

My DH has been so supportive - cooks me everything I fancy and always makes enough, so that I have lots of leftovers the next day for lunch, he cleans the cat loo and gives the cats their flea/worm treatments and keeps reassuring me when I have a fatday. And when I hang retching over the toilet, he helplessly pats my back and asks if he can help in any way - and he absolutely hates the sight and sound of people being sick. Bless him

[smaych]

My husband has been incredible, he supports my decisions and takes a really active interest in all the pregnancy/birth/childcare research that we've been doing. He has also been looking after me, the cats and our home for several months now while I've been sick with HG!

I'm a lot better now (4 months) but when I was at my sickest I couldn't even get out of bed and needed his help to get to the bathroom. He fetched me any silly thing I even slightly felt like I could eat (ice lollies!) at whatever ridiculous time I felt like it.

He distracts me and makes me laugh when I am worrying (I worry a lot!) and keeps telling me how beautiful he finds me and my body at the moment.

I've been getting extra sick in the bath/shower since the feel of the water moving is enough to make me so nauseous, so he bought me some lovely natural bath products that smell citrus-y (citrus is about the only smell that doesn't make me nauseous!) yesterday to help.

In so many ways he's gone above and beyond, and he still quietly insists that I'm the one doing all the hard work whenever I try to thank him.

[Deliaskis]

I'm so glad this thread is still here and that other people have added to it.

Hoorah for all the lovely people, friends, family, etc. who are helping us through the difficult times!

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[slimyak]

DH has been great doing more than his share of the day to day chores. DD aged 3 keeps bringing a tear to my eye with the super cute things she keep saying about our newbie. And my friend have arranged our annual Christmas get together at someone's house, with a menu I can eat (I have GD) so all I need to do is turn up, enjoy the company and head home when I'm tired. And both my Mum and MIL have been tripping over themselves to babysit DD so DH and I can have the odd night out for food or the cinema before the imminnent house bound phase.

Even my boss has started coming up trumps and is definitely taking the pressure off and reallocating work without making me feel like a spare part as I slow down.

[Samraves]

Awww, this is a lovely change - I love this thread.

My DH is being fabulous - he brings me breakfast in bed every day and has done most of the cooking and more than his fair share of cleaning etc - especially when I am having a bad day.

He still says and makes me feel like a sexy beautiful woman, even though I am the size of a house and feel so rubbish that I can't believe he could feel that way...

Bless him :)