I know it souns silly but i am already worrying about the something and i am only 17wks. My in laws live 2-3 hrs away and this will be their first gc.Mil works in a school so only gets weekend to visit. They are very nice but i am not particularly close to them as they live away and we have only been together 4 yrs so see them about 6x a year so not ever developed anymore than a friendly relationship.So i am kind of on my best behaviour with them.(not easy for me)
They stay occasionally and are good guests generally but its the usual story of endless meals and drinks and clean bedding and towells.
My baby will be born by elective c section so ideally they can visit when i am still in hosp but my fear is that i will not be in during the weekend and they will then expect to come at the weekend which will only be a few days post op.
I just want to weep at the thought of our special time being "intruded on"and the physical things like leaky boobs and san towells when a man in the house. Want to just flop in pjs and bond with baby and dd 8 will need a look in.
I have told dh and he aggrees but i think logistically it will be so hard at the time. Obviously they want to see dgc asap but how the hell can we ask them to stay in b and b and even then it means all day visits which is just as bad.I have had 3 previous sections and know how i will be feeling.
I am a paternal granny myself(honestly) and understand the strong feelings you have for gc and am not implying at all that they should not see and spend lots of time with dc just that it needs to be in measured doses as with ALL visitors and not intrude upon all our exciting time together.
Dh says he will do a kind of planned rota as soon as i get my date which is ok in theory but i feel cruel and unreasonable not to allow them to stay whilst at the same time feel desperate to have some quiet time after.
Also why is it bothering me so much and so early,is it my flippin hormones?
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advice on overnight visits post c section
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ledkr · 25/08/2010 20:05
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