How did you encourage your dc to pee/poo on the potty?

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lottytheladybird Sun 07-Jul-13 13:48:02

I put my ds in pants for the first time this morning. I've put him on a potty and on a training seat over the loo, but he wouldn't pee and has been holding it in. As soon as I put him in pull ups this afternoon for his nap, he let go straightaway. Any tips on how I can encourage my ds to eliminate in the potty would be gratefully received. Thank you! (I think it's going to be one long summer!)

farmersdaughter Sun 07-Jul-13 13:57:31

Personally I would removed the pull up nappy. Trying to potty train yet still in a pull up, will just confuses the matter.

IMHo cold turkey is the way forward. A few hellish days ahead but it worth it.

Don't force sitting on the potty or loo, ask if he needs a wee etc, if he says no, leave it and repeat again later. Also remind them where the potty is!

Good luck.

farmersdaughter Sun 07-Jul-13 14:03:16

Should add my DD told me she wanted to stop wearing nappies. So that did help.

Also we didn't wear nappies for naps only a night.


How old is your ds?

lottytheladybird Sun 07-Jul-13 17:44:02

Ds has been in pants all day except for his nap. It's just that I can't be there for him when it's nap time, as I have to settle my 1 year old at the same time, who if I leave screams like I'm torturing him!

Ds has just turned 3, but has a speech delay, so it's difficult to communicate effectively with him.

From what I've read, (books and online) it's recommended they wear nappies for day nap until they have dry nappies after their nap for 2 weeks. Then they can wear nappies just overnight.
I've also read as a PP said, pull ups just confuse things so stick to nappies.

How's he got on today?

farmersdaughter Sun 07-Jul-13 20:04:20

Hi, how have you got on the rest of this afternoon? Potty training is is a pain even more so with a baby to attend too.

Just keep going, it will fail into place. X

lottytheladybird Sun 07-Jul-13 20:25:49

farmersdaughter & choccy

Thank you for your much appreciated support. I put ds straight back into pants after his nap. Again, many frequent potty trips this afternoon, but without any success. He then had an accident. We'd spent almost the whole day in the garden so that if he has an accident, it'd be fine, but he did an enormous wee in his room over his train set!

I'm utterly exhausted by it all and am dreading it all over again when it starts at 5:30am, when he'll be up in the morning!!!

InvaderZim Sun 07-Jul-13 20:27:44

Lots and lots of chocolate buttons!

farmersdaughter Sun 07-Jul-13 20:36:21

Chocolate button are a must esp for Mummy! grin

Our first day potty training (only 3 weeks ago) was rubbish. But it got better and by day 2 in the afternoon it started to click. Just keep going.

Time for a glass of wine x

farmersdaughter Mon 08-Jul-13 08:22:04

Good luck today!

My DD wee'd all over her bedroom carpet this morning despite the potty being right there!

Arghhh and breath grin

Keep up the good work!

We're on day 1 today smile Just been to get some pants as I forgot it was Sunday yesterday and tesco was shut!
He's loving his new superman pants. I'm not expecting miracles, our ds isn't 23 months yet but he's pooed in his potty on occasions and happy to sit on it so thought we'd give it a go smile

So far so good.......
Had an accident at 9.20 after an hour in his pants, which he loves! I just sat him on the potty in his pants and he weed.
45 mins after the first one, I nipped inside really quickly, turned around and he was looking down and his pants were dripping, so that was my fault.
2 hours later he still hadn't weed and he was sat eating his lunch on his new deck hair I got him this morning (thought it'd be easy to clean up accidents!) Anyway, I could see a small wet patch, but he'd held it, so I pulled his pants off (he doesn't like them down, it's either on or off), started to wee again and held it until he was on the potty and then he let go grin grin grin grin grin Did his first proper full wee on the potty.
Proud mummy and daddy!

Currently in bed in a nappy, then will see if he's weed again when he gets up.

How are you getting on today x

lottytheladybird Mon 08-Jul-13 13:46:16


So happy for you that your ds is happy to pee in his potty and it's great that he's excited about his pants! We've had three accidents so far and no peeing or pooing in the potty or loo. sad

Another long day of frustration and cleaning and laundry...

I'm ready to throw the towel in already, but know I must stick at it for a bit longer yet!

So today we've had 5 accidents, but managed to get ds on the potty although he didn't then wee. We've just had a poo straight on potty (sorry if tmi), and we've had 1 full wee, and 2 accidents then finished in the potty, think that's quite good????

How've you got on x

lottytheladybird Mon 08-Jul-13 19:52:55

Still nothing but accidents! 5 accidents in all. He seems a little happier about sitting on the training seat on the loo today, but seems to really dislike his potty.

I ordered a carpet cleaning machine the other day, which is coming tomorrow. I think we'll be using it a lot!!!

I'm so glad ds is in bed and I can relax a little and not be on potty training duty! Still, I've now got all of today's wet pants etc to sort out...the work never ends...

How's today been?
We started off with a few accidents, and wouldn't take pants off to wee in potty, so this afternoon ds has gone bare bottomed and every wee since his lunch nap he's done in the potty!!
One before last he started to dribble so I said do you need the potty, he took himself over to it, sat down and weed gringrin
Last one, he just sat down for dinner, looked down and there was a tiny drop coming out, so I put him down on the potty and weed.
Feeling a lot better about it all, hard work watching him all day though!

*he looked down when he was having his dinner, then I looked to see what he was looking at. Seems to be more aware when he's weeing

lottytheladybird Tue 09-Jul-13 19:54:51

My ds seems much more aware he's weeing, too, in that he's looking down at his wee when he has an accident. It's been a frustrating day, as every accident he's had, it's been just a minute or two after coming off the loo!!! I did manage to plonk him on the loo mid pee for one of them, but that's the nearest we've got to him peeing in the loo!

He was at nursery this morning, so it was nice to have a break from potty training. We've been staying at home since Saturday because of potty trraining, but ds goes horse riding on a Weds and it's a 30 min car journey. Don't know whether to go with pull ups or risk pants...

How old is your ds choocy? Mine's just turned 3.

ColourfulColour Tue 09-Jul-13 20:27:10

Lotty mine is also 3. If you don't have one of those seat mats, a towel and plastic bag work too.

We are on day 5 and still have lots of accidents. I don't know whether to jack it in. He is very stubborn and often refuses to try and go, says he doesn't need to, then pees on the floor.

madamginger Tue 09-Jul-13 20:36:42

I've just done ds who's 2.9. He much prefers to wee standing up. Once I tried that it suddenly clicked, he has a speech delay too and the first 3 days were a nightmare.
We've had dry night nappies for a week now as well which is great

lottytheladybird Tue 09-Jul-13 22:03:03

It's hard work isn't it? I wonder how long I'll keep going with it if ds still doesn't do anything in the loo... All this cleaning is no fun at all...
So pleased for you! I hope it'll click for my ds too soon!

It is very hard work watching them all day. My ds is 2 in August lotty, and not quite 23 months yet.
I put his nappy on for bed last night and he has a bit of tv before bed. My dh went to the toilet and locked the door and ds was banging on the door going mad, 2 minutes later he'd pooed in his nappy, so we were wondering if he was banging on the door for his potty perhaps? We thought it was because he was locked away from dh. I guess we'll never know!

Madam, sounds like you're doing great smile My ds stood for one yesterday as I 'caught' it. He was fascinated, but he sat down for the rest. I feel I should be teaching him standing really seeing as he's a boy!

lottytheladybird Wed 10-Jul-13 13:31:09

Another day of near misses! Three accidents just a minute or two after getting off the loo! We keep him on the loo for 5-10 mins at a time, but he just doesn't want to do it in the loo! confused

We went with pull ups for the riding and in fact he was dry for the whole round trip!

How are you getting on choccy?

Oh no lotty. Will he wee standing if you get him a step?

Proud mummy here. Ds was in the garden and started to wee standing so I sat him on the potty to finish. About 45 mins later, we were in the kitchen and he was sat down playing with his willy and I said do you need a wee? He stood up, walked over and sat in the potty and weed grin
Did the same about an hour later, then he sat eating lunch and started weeing so I put him on the potty to finish. I think he forgot himself there!

Just a suggestion. Do you have 2 potties? To start, I sat with ds on his, me on one too, I had a wee and so did he at the same time. Just so he knew what it was for.

Howse today been?

All good here, chuffed to bits. Ds has only had 1 proper accident today, and 3 semi accidents where he's started to wee, then finished in the potty. Chuffed chuffed chuffed!! grin

He's done 4 proper sat-on-the-potty-from-the-start wees too (after me prompting him).


lottytheladybird Wed 10-Jul-13 19:47:43

Wow, you are right to be chuffed! I would be, too! Today has not been any better, ds just won't wee in the loo. We don't have two potties, but I have shown me weeing to him many times to show him what to do on the loo. sigh!

I think for us it might just be that he's not ready and that we'll have to give it another go another time. But I want to make the most of this good weather and being able to have him in pants outside a lot, so we'll probably keep going for the time being.

Not sure about the standing up thing, but might give it a go anyway, as there's nothing to lose! Will have to get dh to demonstrate!

That was the only reason I started my ds was because of the weather.
It's worth having a go as long as they're not getting upset. Saving a fortune in nappies too grin
I'm sure he'll get there if you stick at it x

MAnderson Wed 10-Jul-13 22:42:54

Froot loops in the loo has helped me - seems to be a motivator for the little guy... he runs off to hit the loops smile Similarly, my grandmother painted a target on one side of a ping pong ball, and glued a small button or some other weight on the other side - then when you float it in the toilet bowl, the weighted side stays down, and the target is visible to shoot too!

So, a bit of a relapse. Only one time ds sat on the potty on his own for a wee today, every other time he started, then sat on the potty to do the rest (most of it to be fair). I ask all the time if he needs a wee and he says no and goes mental if I go to sit him on the potty if he doesn't need it, then 5 mins later he starts weeing!
We did however go to the shops earlier, only for half hour, and no accident which was great!

Any better today lotty?

MrsOakenshield Thu 11-Jul-13 19:54:10

to be honest, I would put him back into nappies and try again in a few weeks. In fact, reading on MN persuaded me to do this, as I read of so many who had left it until their DC were ready and they were dry (no accidents) in a day. Which is what happened on attempt 3 (when she'd just turned 3) with DD. (This is also true in RL - those friends who waitted got on better than those who had a timetable for whatever reason.) Is there any particular reason why you're doing it now (summer?) - attempt 3 was midwinter, we just whacked the heating on and it was fine.

Choc buttons and a reward chart are good - but only if he is really ready.

Best of British!

MrsOakenshield Thu 11-Jul-13 19:55:41

I should add - attempts 1 and 2 each lasted a week (and were derailed in both instances by illness, tonsilitius in one case poor lamb) and looking back, although there weren't any accidents, she really wasn't ready.

lottytheladybird Thu 11-Jul-13 21:29:55

Choccy, no better today, I'm afraid. Still not peeing in the loo. Ds wanted his pull ups first thing this morning, after I put him on the potty after he woke up (at 5:30am!), but got upset when I put him in pants. He went to nursery this morning, but unlike on Tuesday, he got really upset about being put on the loo.

Dh showed ds how to pee standing up, but ds didn't want to stand in front of the loo. He just wanted to sit on it. Still, worth a try. I think if ds still doesn't do anything in the loo by tomorrow, then we'll call it quits for now. Like you say, it's really hard work watching them ALL the time! Not being able to go out like we usually do isn't much fun either.

Must have felt great that your son was dry when you took him out! It's a shame you had such a great day yesterday and then he wasn't as keen today, but 1 'whole pee' in the potty is still good! smile

lottytheladybird Thu 11-Jul-13 21:31:54

Mrs Oakenshield, yes, we're giving it a go because of the good weather, which doesn't come around very often!

lottytheladybird Thu 11-Jul-13 21:32:53

Manderson, that sounds like good fun!

ColourfulColour Thu 11-Jul-13 22:40:30

Well ds seems to have got it (for pees anyway)! Still the odd bit of leakage and one I-am-busy-playing accident today but otherwise two days of telling me and also taking himself to the potty unaided. Poos still a work in progress, however. But I cannot believe he's done it after so nearly putting him back in nappies.

We've been out as well and the tension of watching him and rushing to loos nearly sent my nerves over the edge.

If it is warm enough with you and you have a garden I would recommend no bottoms, short top and plastic sandals. Then you really can leave them to it and they can practice themselves.

I think the accident on the floor straight after getting off the potty is because, with ds anyway, he thinks Yay! I'm peeing! and jumps off as soon as he starts to go. So we often have three pees for each episode.

lottytheladybird Fri 12-Jul-13 08:57:25

Well done, colourful! smile

We're taking a different tack today. We're going to try and catch ds's pee in the potty! He's never been keen on the potty before, much preferring sitting on the loo. Since introducing the iPad whilst sitting on the potty (yes, please don't judge - just trying everything to encourage ds to pee!), he's been much happier! Hopefully this will be easier than trying to rush him to the loo mid pee! Is this what you've been doing, choccy? Keeping the potty beside ds all the time in case of an accident?

issimma Fri 12-Jul-13 09:55:05

Can I join the potty talk! DD (2y5m) asked for pants and no nappy yesterday. We bought some and she stayed dry for her daytime nap. A couple of accidents before bedtime.

This morning she asked for pants straight away. We've had 2 accidents and 4 potty successes! She gets a sticker for each one so I think she holds bits in!! Looks like it's starting to click though. Staying in today to blitz it :D

Just scared of the first poo!!

Yes lotty, we have 3 pottys (3 storey house), so I have one on each floor, but because its been so nice, one is outside and one in our kitchen/family room which is downstairs and one in our lounge which is upstairs.

Currently in the lounge as our kitchen gets cooler when the sun goes in, hence we're doing it n the summer, also its tiled in the kitchen so easier to clean up.

Saying that, he'd JUST looked down at his Willy so I knew he was about to wee, so I quickly said do you need a wee and sat him on the potty. Only just missed the first bit, think will go back downstairs!!

Well done colourful!!! That's fab!

Hello issimma smile

So, ds hasn't pooed for 2 days so have been eagle eyed looking for him with the look of concentration as he starts.
Half hour ago, I was bursting for the loo and he wouldn't come with me. 10 secs later I heard him shouting for me from outside saying 'it stinks, it stinks!' Which is what he says when the dog poos, so I knew exactly what had happened.
I didn't however expect to come outside and he'd stood in it and walked it all round the patio! Out came the hose!

And the potty was there too hmm

lottytheladybird Fri 12-Jul-13 13:46:13

Oh no, Choccy! What a pooey mess! At least he walked it round outside and not on the carpets! My ds seems to be holding his poos, too. Normally he poos everyday, but he hasn't done so since being in pants. He often waits till he gets his pull ups for nap time.

We managed to catch half of one pee in the potty this morning! First time anything's gone in the potty! Yay! He then initiated a potty trip for the first time just now, but didn't pee unfortunately.

Hi, issimma! I'm scared of poos, too! We've had one in pants so far and I can't say I particularly enjoyed cleaning it up!

MrsOakenshield Fri 12-Jul-13 14:11:06

DD held in her poos a lot to. If it continues, ask the doc for some Lactulase, it's a poo softener (sorry!) not a laxative and can be given long term. When DD did her first poo in the potty (after 5 days witholding!!!) it was after having eaten a very rich, gooey chocolate brownie - worked a dream!

lottytheladybird Fri 12-Jul-13 19:51:44

Might have to make some brownies...

Well, we've given it 6 days and unfortunately ds hasn't done any proper pees/poos in the potty or the loo, so we're going to take a break from potty training. It's a shame, but when there's been nothing but accidents, it's difficult to carry on, for both ds and us, I think. We'll have another go in a week or two.

MrsOakenshield Fri 12-Jul-13 20:43:10

I think you're absolutely right to stop - 6 days is a good go. I think we had 6 months between 1st and 3rd attempts, I just couldn't be arsed with it and there was no particular rush for DD to be out of nappies. Like I said, midwinter for us!

hermioneweasley Fri 12-Jul-13 20:56:45

My DS was the same - he was physically ready because he could hold it in. He just seemed absolutely terrified of letting go on the loo or potty, so we stopped.

What worked for us was building up to it - we gave him a countdown and told him the "nappy fairy" would come and bring a toy he had wanted and bring big boy pants. We also watched A LOT of "potty time" from
Bear in the Big Blue House.

It worked - he was super excited about his toy and trained within a few days.

He was over 3 by the time we resorted to nappy fairy though.

lottytheladybird Fri 12-Jul-13 22:06:31

Hermione, the nappy fairy sounds like a super idea! Unfortunately, my ds has a speech delay, so he would not understand... I will definitely bear it in mind for when my youngest is ready.

hermioneweasley Sun 14-Jul-13 21:07:32

Lotty, I have heard before that toilet training is a social skill, and linked to language development (I think it was Tanya Byron). Is it possible the he just isn't ready?

I don't blame you lotty. We've done a week, and this morning I've put ds back in nappies. He was doing sooooooo well, but I've just decided he's not ready. He's got the grasp of it, and in the car and out he was fantastic, but I think he's just too young at the moment.

Going back on what I said about the weather, I think we may just try him in the cooler months tbh, he'll be drinking a lot less, therefore less accidents and he'll be able to communicate more.

I've just bought Pirate Petes potty training for boys too, so will read that to him over the next few months to try and get the grasp.

Good luck next time x

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lottytheladybird Tue 16-Jul-13 14:56:25

Thanks, Choccy. smile Good luck to you next time, too! It was really nice chatting to you during our week of potty training.

I feel so much more relaxed now, now that ds is back in nappies!

lottytheladybird Tue 16-Jul-13 14:59:24

Hermione, that does make sense. That would mean that that ds isn't ready, which is what we suspected. We thought it would be worth giving a go though, as he's three.

TurnipIsTaken Fri 19-Jul-13 02:52:29

Lotty I tried ds a few weeks ago and it was a disaster. But just 2 or 3 weeks has made such a difference. He'll get there!

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