Taking nappy off at night(11 Posts)
DS1 is 3 and started taking his nappy off during the night a couple of months ago. Resulting in either a wet bed in the morning or like tonight I notice when I go in on my way to bed and put it back on him. Initially it was only occasionally but now it is 2-3 times a week.
When it started it coincided with his friends a nursery potty training. It was also a few weeks after his brother was born and I was really struggling with breastfeeding and he wasnt getting the attention he was used to.
What do I do? The options I've come up with are
1. Totally ignore and just deal with the extra washing.
2. Put a potty in his bedroom at night and tell him it's there for him to use if he wants. (Worried this will encourage him to take his nappy off more)
3. Superglue his nappy to him at night (not serious)
Does anyone have any advice?
In case it's relevant below is as brief as I could make it history of our daytime potty training.
When it (taking nappy off at night) first started I spoke to him about it and asked if he wanted trying not wearing nappies in the day. He agreed. We did just over a week of no nappies (with the support of his nursery) during the day and had only one highly manufactured success which he got huge amounts of praise for. The rest of the time was accidents. After just over a week I decided that this really wasn't working so went back to nappies. About a month ago he started showing interest in potty training during the day. For example if he was playing with no nappy on he would come and ask to put a nappy on. He would use it, I would change him and he would go back to what he was doing. I very gradually extended the length of time he spent with no nappy on and he got more confident and had very few accidents. He then started to ask to use the potty to the point where he now at home rarely wears anything on his lower half and other than last week with the excitement of his birthday celebrations there have been very few accidents.
I am pretty happy that he will progress to be able to do it fully clothed and when we are out and about in his own time and way. I'm happy to keep following his lead.
I think you should try putting a potty in his room and tell him to pee in there. I'm quite curious to see what happens with this.
Being dry at night is a biological change, there's a hormone involved (I can't remember the name). Point is you won't be able to "teach" him to be dry at night. He will not learn via osmosis just because others are dry. It will only happen when he's developmentally ready and so there is no point whatsoever doing it beforehand.
Put his nappy in backwards
Swap to pull ups
Use a sleeping bag
Tell him off for removing his nappy on
Reward for leaving nappy on
I take your point that he is not going to learn to be dry at night. Was just tearing my hair out at the amount of washing. Putting his nappy on backwards is a genius idea! Why did I not think of that? Will give it a go.
We tried pull ups. They came off too. I was worried that punishing take his nappy off at night would make him be start a negative association with potty training - I'm probably over thinking this. We started the first disastrous attempt at potty training as a sort of reward for keeping his nappy. If he kept it on at night he could try not wearing it in the day which worked for a while. But once we gave that up I suppose it stopped being a reward. Will think of a better reward for keeping it on now that we are treating day time differently.
Thank you both for your ideas.
Was just tearing my hair out at the amount of washing
I remember when my DS was young people were so competitive about how many dry nights their kids could (and couldn't) manage and all I could think is who needs to know I would far rather throw away a nappy each morning than have to wash all the bedding every day.
there's a hormone involved
Vasopressin, I think.
Persian thankfully I've not experienced much competitiveness yet. But I totally agree a nappy is much easier to change than a bed.
I put the nappy on backwards at bedtime and have just been in and checked it's still in place. I'm pretty confident that he will potty train in his own way and time. Hopefully this will reduce the amount of washing in the meantime.
Thank you all again
Sellotape. That is what we did when ds1 was doing this. Sellotape all round, with the join at the back, so they can't reach it - you do need to have a pair of scissors available for the morning nappy change, but that is easier than all the cleaning up!
Nappy stayed on all night. Not going to get carried away yet. SDTG if putting nappy on backwards doesn't work will definitely try sellotape thank you
Nappy stayed on all night
Excellent, have you thought about putting a great big gold star on your kitchen calendar and then telling your DS that when he gets 7 in a row he can have a small treat of his choosing?
I know that it is sort of bribery but I found that it really worked.
I was thinking of something along the lines of a reward chart. But that would be a really easy way of doing it quickly. Extra plus is that he loves our calender. He helped choose it so it full of cars.
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