mother of 3 year old- not started potty training yet :-s views??

(17 Posts)
Tiddlypoo8 Tue 05-Jan-16 20:04:12

Hi there
I'm a mother to only child Dd 3 years in November
We've touched on potty training, but she's a very distracted child and will only try something a few times.
She'll happily sit on the potty a couple of times, but then gets bored of the idea.

I'm aiming for this summer, but in all honesty I think I've left it this long because she's my only child, I don't know what I'm doing or the right way to do it & I'm terrified of how to go about the whole process.

Knowing my daughter, I honestly don't think I'll have much problems but I'm scared (why am I so scared!?)

It'll be purely me doing it (dad won't get involved)

How do I start in a simple way and get her prepared for spring summer?
I've brought all the fear but I've read too many different approaches that I feel incredibly overwhelmed and feel ill not cope with it

Please somebody put my mind at rest with a simple way of starting that won't daunt me or dd

nephrofox Tue 05-Jan-16 20:09:42

It will be fine.

What are you scared of? Accidents? Stress? Embarrassment?

I would start by asking her to sit on potty whenever you change her nappy. Reward with sticker, choc button or whatever. Alternatively, as she is older why not ask her? If she wants to wear knickers then she has to use the potty. Reward both effort and actually producing something.

You really need to stop stressing, she will pick up on it. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Tue 05-Jan-16 20:14:15

I really wouldn't bother with a potty, otherwise you have the stress twice! Just get one of the seats for the toilet and go straight to it. I'm sure she'll be fine, DD1 took about 4 days to crack daytime, 2 weeks for nights

Smartiepants79 Tue 05-Jan-16 20:18:56

Well I have now managed to potty train 2 girls and did it basically the same both times.
Bought pants, potty, loo seat and some pull ups although I didn't use them that much, especially the second time round.
Took away all nappies and put them in pants. Encouraged frequent loo trips and stayed calm when accidents happened.
In my experience the first few days we had lots of accidents but as they understood the link between needing a wee, having a wee and being wet they stopped.
If you think she is going to be happy to do it, then you just need to go for it. I would start to worry that the older she gets the harder it will be.
I would also say that some kids just need to be told that's it's happening and made to get on with it. If I'd waited till my eldest was telling me she was ready for it she'd have still been in nappies now!

Tiddlypoo8 Tue 05-Jan-16 20:19:08

I'll have to use potty. I only have an upstairs loo (very steep stairs) or a freezing outdoor one!

Tiddlypoo8 Tue 05-Jan-16 20:21:17

Thank you- I'm
Aiming for summer and going to try before then to sit in the potty frequently and then go for it in the summer, straight into 'nik Niks' which she really wants like me because I buy ones with dogs and stuff on for myself lol!

Tiddlypoo8 Tue 05-Jan-16 20:22:11

I don't know what I'm scared of. I think it's because despite having a husband this seems to be a single thing I have on my shoulders and I worry..

Smartiepants79 Tue 05-Jan-16 22:07:10

If she's asking for knickers, showing interest and able to communicate her needs then I'd suggest you just go for it. Summer is quite a long way off. I'd take a Rick and give it a go. The worst that can happen is you go back to nappies and try again in the summer.
Why is her father not going to be supporting this? Is he planning on changing her nappies for ever?

megadams287 Wed 03-Feb-16 08:59:17

you are doing just fine.. i have a 2 year old that she will only go to the bathroom when she wants to. she is very independent and the more we praise her the worse she is.. i would like to give you a free e book you can share it or do what ever you like with it. it contains tips on potty training. hopefully it helps you out www.scribd.com/doc/297725402/Potty-Training-Guide-to-successful-potty-training

MiaowTheCat Sat 20-Feb-16 08:51:37

DD2 turns 3 next month and to be honest we've not started yet. Her sister was trained by about this point (decided herself to finally crack it) but the younger one has much less language and a naughty streak a mile wide too!

I'm holding off till our kitchen renovation is done before giving it a serious try - no way am I doing it without a washer plumbed in!

Allnamesaretakenffs Thu 03-Mar-16 12:35:22

She'll get it eventually - afterall, she won't be 15 and still in nappies smile My son is almost three and we're attempting it for 3rd time, he's so much more ready this time around but I'd still wait if he wasn't (despite bloody family members boasting about how their kids were potty trained at 18 months or whatever and making snide comments about how he's too old to still be in nappies). It's down to the kid.

blamethecat Thu 03-Mar-16 12:42:01

I am going to try at Easter with DS who is 3 in June, I need to go and but a potty/seat first. not sure how to approach it, but I think he is ready, he tells us when he has done or doing a poo and sometimes a wee and if he is in the bath he will do a wee in the bath and tell me he is doing so thanks son

Ihopethissongstartsacraze Sat 05-Mar-16 20:42:50

It's a tough thing to start potty training. If you like positive stories then read on.

I just decided today that my just turned 3 yo needed a good go at potty training. I put her in (new frozen) knickers and told her to sit on the potty every half hour or so in the morning. One sweet for a try and two for a wee. Every single wee was in the potty today (6) and she even managed a poo. By the end of the day she stopped asking for sweets, was telling us she needed a wee and proudly asked to call her extended family to tell them she wears knickers. Tomorrow is another day but we can't go back now.

I hate potty training too. I'm not sure why but it makes me anxious. I also found it was me that pushed it, not DP, he was happy to wait. Good luck whenever you start.

cakesonatrain Sat 05-Mar-16 21:35:51

Unless your husband works nights and never sees her, why on earth is this all down to you?

We waited until gone 3 with Ds, and DD has just got it this week really, and she was 3 today.

Don't worry about it. You will be clearing up a few stray wees and poos, but that's hardly the end of the world..

NerrSnerr Sat 05-Mar-16 21:45:52

I think sometimes you have to bite the bullet and go for it. Why won't her dad get involved?

PrincessHairyMclary Sat 05-Mar-16 21:53:07

It doesn't have to be stressful. Just make sure you carry spare leggings and knickers everywhere. My DD pretty much potty trained herself at 2.5, she decided she was too old for nappy and that was it. We used a folding toilet seat when out and about and a padded toilet seat with a ladder attached for at home, both from Amazon. I used stickers to keep her interested a small one for a wee and a big one for poo

starry0ne Sat 05-Mar-16 21:54:25

I think if she is asking for pants..Time to give it a go... maybe not tomorrow.Mothers day seems tough day to start but soon..

I started my DS weeing on the potty every night when he went for bath..I used toilet he used potty...Loads of praise for sitting on it and trying..Even more for weeing.

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