help - 32 month old won't wear nappies

(17 Posts)
bebo100 Wed 16-Dec-15 20:24:01

So after a few months of my son saying he wanted big boy pants we decided to give it a go.

Started ok-ish with about 3 accidents a day, but he was happy to sit on potty and try and wee for a small reward.

But we seem to have back-stepped in that he no longer wants to use the potty or toilet. But tantrums if I try him in pull ups, and just takes them off again.

Help. I feel we've ended up in a power struggle.

I'm pretty sure he can actually do it (most of the time) - just chooses not to. We come back from trips out with dry pants / pull ups. He'll refuse to wee on toilet, but then 30 seconds later wee in the bath with a big grin on his face looking me in the eye.

I've explained that if he wants big boy pants he needs to sit on the toilet. Or we can use nappies / pull ups and that's fine too.

I've just found him in his bedroom having taken his night time pull ups off and put his pants on under his pajamas.

I don't want to force him back into nappies if he's so anti them, but neither do I want a fight about the toilet every few hours.

Help

captainproton Wed 16-Dec-15 20:37:15

Don't turn it into a battle or a game. It's a pain having to clean up after them, so if he is wilfully doing his wees anywhere other than potty or toilet rope him into cleaning up without making a fuss.

I used to strip off DD and wash her very slowly and make it very tedious for her and she had to help me put the wet clothes in the washing machine. If it was a genuine accident I wouldn't make her, I could tell because she would be upset rather than laughing. I didn't get angry or anything just said that's what we had to do.

Then I bought a toy that she really wanted to play with and said if she used the toilet she could play with it for 15 minutes and if she was really determined to toilet train she could have it.

Reminding her every so often was making her militant and would backfire. In the end I said ok, "I'll leave it up to you" and honestly it worked. I think all 3 tactics worked for us in combination.

Bribing with stickers and chocolate didn't work at all.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Wed 16-Dec-15 20:41:07

Can you pit a ping pong ball down tje loo - it wont flush and je can stand and aim.
Also second a toy - DS had a magazine to read on the loo.

bebo100 Fri 18-Dec-15 09:51:55

Thanks for the advice ladies.

So no accidents at nursery yesterday (where they take them to the potty every 30 mins). But within 10 mins of getting home he's had an accident.

I'm trying not to ask him if he needs the toilet, as he just says no. And if I lead him there starts to kick up.

But he's made no attempt to go to toilet / potty on his own recently (he used to).

Aargh. Liking your suggestion on ping pong ball - might add a new element of novelty, and restart the toilet trips. Just need to see if he's tall enough....

Then re-start a new awards system.

Any other ideas let me know....

Uptownfuckuup Fri 18-Dec-15 10:00:54

32 months confused

bebo100 Fri 18-Dec-15 10:25:12

Oh dear. Does 32 months just say it all Uptown?!?!

Sairelou Fri 18-Dec-15 11:12:01

I don't see any problem with 32 months, most potty train between 2-3 years old, don't they? confused

SoupDragon Fri 18-Dec-15 11:18:20

I don't understand the ping pong ball thing. Doesn't it get covered in poo?

Jw35 Fri 18-Dec-15 11:41:50

Don't put pull up on him, take trousers off in the house and jut put pants on him. Tell him to go the toilet every 30 mins, no power struggle just 'go to the toilet now please' and mean it. Take spare clothes out with you and clean up messes without drama. That's what I would do. Power struggles are a bad idea in toddlers. You can insist he goes to the toilet with traumatising him, just like you insist he eats dinner at the table, brushes his teeth etc

SpaggyBollocks Fri 18-Dec-15 11:45:17

why still give your child's age in months after 2 years?

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Fri 18-Dec-15 11:46:22

sair I don't think it's the age of the chold being potty trained that is confused, more that he was described as being 32 months rather than almost 3.

Sairelou Fri 18-Dec-15 13:01:09

Ah right, sorry! blush

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Fri 18-Dec-15 13:03:01

I have no idea on the poo front!! My son always stood for a wee mainly in the garsen and I know he was the only boy in nusery who did.
Never tried sitting him down.
Get a foot step to help him out. £5 ish

msgrinch Fri 18-Dec-15 13:03:45

2. Your child is 2!

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Fri 18-Dec-15 13:10:57

Another thought if you have a willing male in the house to take them, as he wants to be a big boy.

bebo100 Fri 18-Dec-15 16:52:58

I am aware he is TWO,

It's there was a big difference in what a 'only just' 2 year old can do and under and, vs an almost 3 year old.

So was hoping for some age appropriate suggestions. That's not that strange is it???

Anyway thanks for all the ideas so far

P1nkP0ppy Fri 18-Dec-15 17:00:29

Put a face on the ping pong ball with waterproof pen, get DH to demonstrate - worked brilliantly with DS.

I don't know if not using pants etc at home would work....you'd have to be very brave fhmm. Do you have a toddler toilet seat?

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