3 year old was almost dry, but has regressed

[mummyme93]

My three year old son learnt to use the toilet back around July. He has never been fully dry, but he got to the point where he was having an accident maybe once every 3 days and he was completely dry at night. He was also very good when he was out, he would always tell me when he needed to go, or he would go when i brought him to the toilet.
But i started college 3 weeks ago, and since then he uses the toilet maybe once a day and wets all through the night. My partner, his dad now stays at home with him instead of me, and i know its thrown him off his.
Some times he runs out the room to wee on the floor, or sometimes he does it just where hes standing, and he wont tell us.
Also when he was out yesterday with his granddad and dad he was brought to the toilet but didn't go, instead as soon as he got off the toilet he wet himself and pooped too.
I'm at loss of what to do, especially as im not at home most of the day. but hes weeing on everything and i cant keep track with the washing, we currently have no bedding (he weed on our bed too)
we also have a 7 month old, but im not sure how much of the issue is related to that, as my oldest learnt to use the toilet 5 months after the baby was born.
any tips would be appreciated.
oh he learnt to use the toilet through the bribery method with sweets, ibut i felt that he wouldnt mind weeing on the floor because he new if he went to the toilet next time hed get the sweet still.

[mummyme93]

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Really appreciate some advice. Toady he was sent upstairs after weeing on the floor. While he was upstairs he poohed on the floor and rubbed it everywhere, and since than hes been weeing everywhere :(

[CatWithKittens]

One of ours relapsed after the birth of a baby and we made a great fuss about her being a big girl and generally gave her a lot of attention as such. Although I wonder if this is related to resentment at his Mummy not being there as much as he is used to, I wonder if a somewhat similar approach about being big and helpful and able to do things with Daddy now he's bigger etc. might work. The other thing I suggest is absolutely no comment when he wets or soils but a simple cleaning up process without comment or anger or overt reaction so that he gets no attention from wetting but lots of attention at other times. I'm sure it's difficult with a relatively new baby, a new college course and then this on top. A further possibility is going back to nappies or trainer pants to reduce the washing - not as a punishment or after a threat but simply as a matter of fact reaction to his wetting: "I think it would be best for everybody if you have a nappy (or trainer pants) so we don't get wee or pooh everywhere." It lasted less than three months with our DD and I'm sure it will pass with yours too. Good luck - HTH a little.

[RNBrie]

Mine relapsed too - about 3 months after dc2 was born. We fixed it by bribing her with Smarties. If we asked to go for a wee and she had dry pants, she got a smartie, if she went by herself and had dry pants, she got two smarties. Took about 2 weeks and she was totally dry and didn't need the smarties any more.

[mummyme93]

Thanks for the advice. I this i might have to wait it out. He gets stickers for his sticker chart and a sweet every time he goes. I think ill try not reacting to his accidents (easier said than done sometime).
he started nursery this week, maybe being with other children using the toilet may encourage him.