Point blank refusal to use a potty/toilet

[nutelladipper]

My daughter is 2 yrs 10 mths. She's, in my opinion (although I'm no expert), ready for potty training!

She point blank refuses to use a potty or toilet (with or without a seat!). We've tried all the usual bribery. She says she will when she's a big girl.

I've got DC3 due in mid August so I want to try next week (off to peppa pig this week) as I don't want to leave it too close to due date/new baby arrival as I fear regression!

I then don't know how I'll do it if I'm tied to the sofa breastfeeding for a good few weeks so if i got to choose I'd prefer to wait till November time.

Any tips for my attempt next week?

She currently has good bladder control, goes plenty of hours with a dry nappy, knows when she's done a wee and tells me when she needs a Poo. I have tried a few afternoons with no nappy so she can get the feeling of wetting herself and she just demands her nappy back on if she wets herself.

I'm at a loss! Normally she'll do most things for a sticker and anything for a sweet!!

I thought my DS was hard but she's so adamant and we've not even started.

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[mrstweefromtweesville]

Towelling nappies. tell her that disposables are too expensive and you have to go to terry. The alternative is use the toilet.

This ploy was very effective in 1985. Sorry, DD!

[nutelladipper]

Any other wise words?

[ThursdayLast]

A HV recommended to me putting pants on UNDER the nappy so they get a bit uncomfortable when they're wet.

DS is 2.2 and absolutely no where fricking near potty training yet, so I can't vouch for its effectiveness but it seemed like quite a logical suggestion to me.

[LetThereBeCupcakes]

So she's physically ready but not emotionally ready?

Does she understand that DC3 will arrive in August? It's just that her saying she'll wait until she's a big girl makes me think she's feeling insecure about the arrival of a younger sibling, and being displaced as the baby of the family.

Is there any reason why you can't wait until she's ready? Emotionally, I mean. IMO that's just as important for them as being physically ready. 2.10 is still quite young.

[BakeItOff]

If she doesn't want to do it she's not ready.

[IAmAPaleontologist]

Just wait until she wants to do it, save yourself a lot of hard work and potentially causing problems with witholding. Believe me a toddler having a load of accidents is a lot more work than a toddler who needs the odd nappy change when you have a new baby!

[nutelladipper]

Thanks all. You're probably right. She does say that she wants to give her nappies to the baby as she'll be a big girl so maybe waiting until after being born will work. She says she doesn't want to be a baby.

[IssyStark]

I would wait.

My ds2 was I think physically ready when he was 2.5yo but whenever I suggested it, he came up with reasons not to: wanted red potty (got red potty, still wouldn't), would after his birthday (birthday came and went he still wouldn't), would after Christmas (you can guess the rest). Finally in January, at 3y2m, we got a Peppa Pig reward chart, with the reward being a trip to Peppa Pig World (we're local to it). He potty trained within 2 weeks with a grand total of three accidents.

[juliascurr]

no clothes on at home in warm weather? easy access to potty - wood floors preferable
this method is considered 'wrong', btw
worked for dd

[BakeItOff]

honestly, once they want to do it, it's so easy!

[nutelladipper]

Thanks all. I'll try and be patient!

[londonlivvy]

My DD was adamant she didn't want potty etc until her two best friends both started using the potty / loo regularly. She woke up one day and said she wanted big girl pants like x. That was four days ago and we have had one small accident each day but otherwise brill. peer pressure was the answer. No reward charts or bribery needed (though buckets of praise with each success, including telling Granny on face time for her to add praise). DD is three in October.

So I'd suggest hanging out with friends who are a bit further down the road than you and see if that helps. my DD is v competitive tho.

[poocatcherchampion]

Why us that "wrong" Julia? It is what we have done twice and I have been very smug about it.

[Jenijena]

At that age, my son was the same. Big boy pants were something other children wore. He would run away from toilets and potties.

The week of his 3rd birthday, he got it. Minimal (