Have we missed the window??? Where to go next.

(9 Posts)
wotamidoing Fri 29-May-15 14:15:41

We started training our ds at Christmas, just after he turned 2. Young, I know but he was showing all the signs of readiness and did amazingly well - after the first couple of days we were getting maybe 2 accidents a week. This lasted about 6 weeks. He was also getting us up at night to go for a wee, and nappies were dry most mornings. So far so good. However, dh was getting a bit ground down with the night wakings, ds2 was about 8 weeks so I was dealing with him overnight. He had a word with ds1 along the lines of "you can wee in your nappy at night". We did discuss it but I didn't think very hard about it. In hindsight we should have tried reducing drinks in the evening etc first. Anyway, outcome was an almost immediate increase to a couple of accidents a day, and since then it got worse and worse to the point where a few weeks ago we went back to nappies. I think there was more than 1 reason for it - sudden realisation that ds2 was here to stay, none of his friends at nursery were potty training so he was having to leave toys to go to the loo, back molars coming through making poo looser, so maybe more difficult to tell it's coming, a little bit of attention seeking, but I still reckon it really didn't help for dh to make it ok to wee in nappy at night!!! We've backed off totally, he uses the potty if he wants but otherwise we aren't mentioning it, and hoping he'll tell us when he wants to wear pants again. He definitely can do it - if he's not wearing anything on his bottom he uses the potty no problem, and no accidents. I think he just can't tell (fair enough) whether he's in a nappy or pants so doesn't choose to go.
Sorry for the long post. Just not sure where to go from here - he talks about "when I am bigger I will wear pants", but no signs yet. I'm just feeling we mucked it up at the start, and want to believe it's retrievable!

Piratejones Fri 29-May-15 19:40:33

Wait a little while and start again. You could start saying when you are 3 you wear pants or something similar. don't worry about missing the window, it will come round again.

98percentchocolate Fri 29-May-15 19:48:28

I really wouldn't worry too much, he is still young. Dd was very nearly trained last year but we moved house and went back to square one. It felt hopeless but a few weeks ago it just clicked and she is now trained. Give it some time and it'll be fine, don't worry.

Marioswife Sat 30-May-15 10:21:47

Telling them to pee in the nappy happens, I'm guilty of it.

When they cotton on to being able to get out of bed by saying they need a wee every few minutes you find it's easier all round.

Jaderuby Sun 31-May-15 06:41:13

I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are doing OP your DS is still very young there is plenty of time to train him.

wotamidoing Mon 01-Jun-15 21:34:48

Thanks everyone for the reassurance. I know we'll get there, just not really sure how at the moment. He'll be potty trained by 14, right???grin

Piratejones Tue 02-Jun-15 02:34:03

grin with Luck.

poocatcherchampion Tue 02-Jun-15 05:50:16

Lots of bare bottom at home?

Marioswife Tue 02-Jun-15 07:55:51

My 3 year old pretty much trained herself. We just went about it in a very relaxed way like you are doing, I put her on the potty at bathtime, we never refused the potty if she asked, and let her go around bottomless when we we at home together.
The rest of the time she was in a nappy and very happy, then one day she just decided to give them up and we've not had an accident since.

I really pushed my 5 year old with potty training and it's made things so much worse, he's still not trained now.sad I regret the way i approached it.

I trained my 9 year old when he was 3 that was easy and pretty much by the book.

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