Just to put things into context, DD aged 3.4 has never weed on the potty or the toilet EVER. She has cast iron bladder control and would rather hold in her urine, in obvious discomfort, for hours and hours rather than give in.
When she's dancing and writhing around with a clear look of pain on her face, I invite her to sit on the potty or toilet (her choice) but she absolutely fights the urge to urinate to the extent that I eventually let her get off (it seems cruel to force her to sit there indefinitely, because no matter how long she sits there she NEVER goes) and eventually she'll wet herself.
I've been trying off and on since the summer when she was 2.11, in a very softly softly no pressure way. It was awful. She would hold her bladder for 6 or 7 hours, crying in pain, until I gave her a nappy because I didn't want to see her in pain.
If I'm honest, I've been waiting for her to show a desire to stop wearing nappies, but I'm starting to think that was a mistake because she doesn't care at all. At 3.4 I'm just fed up with nappies, and am expecting another baby in early summer and do not want a baby and a 3.8 year old in nappies
She's also a very stubborn, very contrary, very wilful child. I often think she refuses to do things purely because I want her to do them. I've tried bargaining and bribes, but she couldn't care less.
Needless to say, we have big problems with food as well.
So as you can probably tell, I am absolutely at the end of my rope with this child who is completely determined to never toilet train. I am determined that this is it, so I am putting her in knickers during the day whether she likes it or not. So far, so predictable: urine withholding and wetting herself within minutes of getting off the potty. She saves poos for when she has her nighttime nappy on, apart from one completely accidental poo on the potty which she was absolutely distraught about, despite masses of praise and a long-promised present.
Sorry this is long. Please, someone come and sympathise with me about extremely stubborn children.
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seaoflove · 12/01/2015 16:34
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