need help

[firefly78]

my son will be 3 in June. we started potty training about 6 weeks ago and hes been fine with wees and is even dry at night. but he poos his pants. its so disgusting to wash his pooey pants that ive put him back in pulls up. to start with he treated these like pants but now he is using them to do wees in too. I feel like ive ruined things by going back to pull ups. Also he doesn't even tell us when hes done a poo. We only know cos we can smell it.

I dont know what to do. I think best thing might be to let him run around with just a top on?

[AMJ67]

I think that you might be right and going back to pull ups might have been wrong. I would go back to then same system that you used for potty training but focussing on the poo this time. Perhaps I would leave him a couple of times with the dirty trousers for 1/2 an hour or until uncomfortable.
I read some parents asking the child to clean himself (with help, of course). It seems to have good results.

[PirateJones]

Try no underpants.

[firefly78]

thank you. he doesn't mind when he poos though. it doesnt bother him if its in pants and he runs away from being changed. also my husband doesnt want him to run around with nothing cks he thinks its unhygienic.

[AMJ67]

If he runs away when you try to change him I would think that he has learned that this is a way to get your attention and to make you run after him.

This is not going to be easy, but I would suggest that you turn away from him when that happens and wait till he comes to you. Then refuse to play with him or give him his snack until he is clean. If he refuses, then ignore him again. Repeat until he accepts to be cleaned and them make a big fuss of it and give him everything he wants. Keep consistent (and be more stubborn that him) until he realizes that doing what you want is more rewarding than running away with soiled trousers.

You can think of potty retraining once you have corrected the behavior.

And get hubby on board with you (or at least out of the house while you work on this because it might get even more unhygienic).