Advice please as i know I'm doing this all wrong!

(12 Posts)
viagrafalls Fri 11-Apr-14 20:29:11

I am currently potty training for the 10th time, only this time its different as its with my own child. Of course as it was something I felt reasonably confident with due to nannying experience, my daughter has decided to throw me a curve ball. She has been holding onto her poo and I don't really know what to do. When we started training (Monday) She had no wee accidents and a small poo in her pants, I didnt make a fuss, just put some clean pants on and said next time we'd try to use the potty/loo.
By thursday she still hadnt done a poo. She said she needed the potty whilst in the garden and when she sat down a smallish poo came out. The look of shock on her face was a little shocked but I said well done etc and gave her a lollipop as promised. She then kept saying she needed to do another later in the afternoon but despite repeated attempts to sit on the loo, the potty and have a nappy on nothing happened. Until 2am when she woke me shrieking and she'd done a huge hard poo that must have been rather painful. I changed and comforted her and she went back to sleep promptly. She has eaten loads all day today and keeps getting skidmarks in her pants and saying she wants to go nothing has happened, despite again using the loo, the potty and two nappies changing her mind over what to use. She saw me get upset as I'm shattered and it had been over 1.5 hours of her trying, and I'm just so worried this is going to be a 'thing' that of course I'm making it into a thing by being so stressed out about it. Its heartbreaking that she clearly needs to go but is holding onto it. We've had no accidents with wee for two days or any problems with that.
I've read other threads about using lactulose etc, she has a very rich fruity diet and normally no problems with going at all.
Do any of you have any words of advice?
Thanks

YesIcan Fri 11-Apr-14 20:37:59

What age is she? How long are these 10 attempts goingon? - at what age did you start

YesIcan - she hasn't done the 10 attempts with her own child. She was a nanny - she's done it with nine other children (of clients). This is her first attempt with her own.

viagrafalls Fri 11-Apr-14 20:41:57

No, sorry, i meant that my own DD is the tenth child I have potty trained, not the tenth time for her. I used to be a nanny.
DD is just over 2.5.

viagrafalls Fri 11-Apr-14 20:43:39

Crossed posts with Elpha, thanks!

viagrafalls Fri 11-Apr-14 21:04:26

bump
Please help !

Auntierosemary Fri 11-Apr-14 21:28:16

Sounds like she might just be a bit confused - she is trying her best to hold on for her potty rather than just go when she feels like it, and the longer a poo is "retained" the most water the colon drains out of it, the harder it becomes and the more difficult it is for it to be passed.
My brother had a similar experience with my nephew - he held on too long, then it was difficult and painful to poo so he held on for even longer etc etc.
I would cut straight to a laxative like lactulose so that it is easier to go straight away, to avoid the possibility of it becoming a big issue. And maybe lots of reassurance that it won't hurt when she poos, and lots of rewards when she does. Good luck!

PirateJones Fri 11-Apr-14 21:38:26

focus only on peeing at first, you can give her a nappy for pooing and tackle it after, you don't want her to start getting into the habit of withholding it's a cycle that's hard to break.

viagrafalls Fri 11-Apr-14 21:50:00

Hi pirate She won't poo in her nappy. I've tried pull-ups and nappies and she's still not going.

PirateJones Fri 11-Apr-14 22:04:06

sad glycerine suppository to remove the blockage and then stool softener so she is going everyday.
A doctor can prescribe miralax if you explain things to him, you might have to mess with the dosage so it’s too soft for her to hold it, but not loose.

My 6 year old has going through the same thing, stool withholding it's not nice.

viagrafalls Sat 12-Apr-14 08:07:18

Okay, i am sending OH off to buy Lactulose this morning, stage one will be that and then I guess it will be a Doctors visit. Its so frustrating as its such a vicious cycle sad the more she holds it in the more its a vicious cycle. Wish me luck today. To top it all off I'm supposed to be going out for a rare child free lunch and leaving Daddy in charge. Stress! confused

YesIcan Tue 15-Apr-14 01:21:26

How did you get on?

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