Encouraging without pressure? How?

[TerrariaMum]

I suspect I am pressuring DD1 (3.3) a bit because I am stressed about her beginning at nursery and an upcoming visit from my parents who I know will side eye me. Also nearing the end of a pg with DC3.

We have got the 'I Want My Potty'book, 2 potties for upstairs and downstairs, a seat for the toilet (we only have one loo). We have a waterproof undersheet for her bed and she has a few pants that she asked for. But I think she doesn't like them any more and though I've asked if she wants to pick some new ones, she always says no.

I have tried to suggest nappyless times and the one time she sat on the potty and did a wee, I praised her to the skies, boasted to DH, etc everything the books say you should do. But she hasn't done it again and she says no to any suggestion of learning to use the potty. She loves the 'I Want My Potty' book though so I have tried to do that.

So I have backed off a bit, but I think my worries about nursery and my parents are still evident and this makes her dig her heels in and thus makes everything worse. I really don't want to pressure her to do it until she is ready, but she clearly does have some control.

Anyway, if you have read this far, sympathy/advice would be welcome.

[TheSurgeonsMate]

Chocolate buttons?

[happyyonisleepyyoni]

You may have to be firm and tell her that she won't get to have a story/watch Peppa pig et. until she has sat on the loo and tried. We found the voluntary approach did not work with our DD and she had no interest in stickers etc. but she got the hang of it v quickly when she got over the initial toddler refusal to so anything you ask her.

[TerrariaMum]

Thanks for the advice. Sorry if I sound abrupt. I'm quite sleep deprived and stressed atm.