Tips on getting serial wee accident DD to stay dry?!

[PolyesterBride]

DD2 is 3.5 and has been potty trained for over a year. She wears knickers, knows what to do, seems to be fine about everything. Except that she has accidents ALL the time. At nursery they tell her to go every 30 mins and she apparently
complies happily but at home she always resists so I don't try to make her go that often. As a result she nearly always wets her knickers. It is now rare that she will tell us she needs a wee and even if she does she usually doesn't make it in time. Most of the time, we ask/tell her to go, she refuses, she wets herself.

It has become a huge battleground. We have tried sticker charts, telling her 'when you've had a wee, you can watch tv/have a drink etc', getting cross/threatening 'if you do a wee on the sofa, there'll be no more blah blah blah', encouraging, madly praising, talking about being a big girl, buying new knickers - everything!

I feel like she can do it, she just doesn't.

Has anyone experienced similar? Will she eventually get it. She's going to school next year and she can't keep having this many accidents. Are there any other strategies I could use?

Thanks.

[PolyesterBride]

Anyone?

[Loftyjen]

Have been through similar patches with DD who is 3.3yrs & completely empathise.
We've just come out the other side of another regression - last Sunday saw 5 accidents in a day & expecting another long patch soon as I'm expecting No2 any day
Stickers/small rewards for getting to the end of the day seem to work well, interestingly, the most recent period improved greatly once she was at nursery for a few days - makes me think the uncertainty/stress awaiting a new baby has had on all of us at home was the cause.

To encourage her to use the loo, we often ask her to help us - she will "hold" me on the loo so I don't fall in & will often then want to go herself (even if she's denied it immediately beforehand) & if she goes, lots of praise and minimal " told you so".

Also try to remember that it is a phase & you will come out the other side

[PolyesterBride]

I dream of her making it to the end of a day! But maybe I could do the end of a morning or something.

Thanks for the reply. Maybe when the baby's born you can encourage her to show the baby what to do!

[SecondStarToTheRight]

I'm having the same problem with my 3 year old son.

Don't know what the answer is!

[Shenanagins]

We are also having the same problem to the point of considering stopping for a while especially as he is also pooing himself.

[Watto1]

DD (nearly 5) went through a stage like this a few months ago. I was tearing my hair out as I knew that she could do it and simply couldn't be arsed to go upstairs to the loo.

She stopped wetting herself when we started to potty train her younger brother. The potty was in the living room so she used that to "show DS how to do it." Then I started to make her go to the loo when I saw her heading for the potty!