Not interested in potty training

(10 Posts)
Tenochtitlan Fri 27-Sep-13 16:48:32

I feel it's about time my 33 month old boy was potty trained. Evidently I've not felt the need to rush it, wanting to make sure he was ready. In most respects I feel he is ready ie he is interested in other people going to the loo, watches his little brother having his nappy changed, and aware when he has gone himself. I've also spoken to him about it quite a lot but if I ask if he wants to try the potty like some of his friends at nursery, he refuses. The "being like a big boy" incentive appears to be of no interest to him. So what incentive can I offer him?

Bert2e Fri 27-Sep-13 16:57:34

Chocolate buttons - one for a wee, two for a poo - and lots of clean sets of clothes worked wonders in this house!

IAmADonkeyOnTheEdge Fri 27-Sep-13 17:03:28

An absolutely awful ' singing ' duck potty ...... And now chocolate money for each poo in the loo ! Dd is 3.5, and we wish we had gone down this route a year ago (has been a long year with no part of the house untouched by poo !)

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 27-Sep-13 17:05:37

33 months is definitely not too old to not be potty trained. You have done all the right things.

MikeLitoris Fri 27-Sep-13 17:10:14

Dd is like this. We have long conversations about going on the toilet (won't entertain potty, not even musical) and even the mention of chocolate produces a huge melt down until she gets one. Tried stickers/reward chart etc. Nothing works so I'm watching this with interest.

Bobolbach Fri 27-Sep-13 17:12:09

My Ds is a similar age. I had an aborted attempt at potty traing about a month ago. It was a disaster!
He point blank refused to sit on the potty or the loo dispite me wasting a fortune on different styles of potty and loo seats. No amount of bribing, singing etc would persuade him. He was holding his poo until a pull up went on at bed time, so I know physically he is ready.

I'm leaving it a little while to see if the break helps. Other than that, I don't know what to do. You would think it gets easie, but he is my 3rd! Don't remember this much resistance with the others.

Tenochtitlan Fri 27-Sep-13 19:38:47

Thanks for responses. Choc buttons and reward chart sound good idea. However, another stumbling block I think we are going to have, is him freaking out about not having a nappy on! I'm fairly sure (ok I need to test this) that he will just lie on mat demanding nappy and trousers which will then probably turn into a tantrum. Or if I opt to put him in pants he'll go crazy as he generally does whenever he has a new item of clothing (he doesn't like anything new!) As I write this, I realise I need to test these theories but fairly sure that this is going to happen....

Jergens Fri 27-Sep-13 23:04:50

We're in the same boat with 2.10 yr DD. She doesn't want to have big girl pants yet, so she tells me. She can hold wee for hours and tells me before she poos. Often wakes up dry in the morning. So, I feel that she is physically ready but not prepared to take the leap yet. She doesn't mind being bare bottomed as she has good control for hrs, but will not entertain wearing pants. Argh.
She is the most strong willed person I know - peer pressure, bribes, chocolate buttons, star charts don't impress her much! confused

Tenochtitlan Wed 06-Nov-13 19:58:58

Back again after a few weeks. Well we've made some progress but seem stuck again. Finally we managed to get some enthusiasm out of him about buying big boy pants. Bribed him ( with choc buttons) onto the potty a few times (obviously no nappy on) whilst we read stories, but nothing "produced". Also got him into big boy pants for 2 hours. He was not happy about putting them on, but forgot about them 10 minutes in.
However, over the past week or so, I've suggested he try the potty again so he can get some choc buttons but seems to have lost interest! He still wants choc buttons but when he realises he needs to go on potty to get them, he loses interest. The thing is, he doesn't have to do a wee or poo to get them, as I gave them to him just for sitting on potty and trying. Anybody got any suggestions or should I just leave it for a few weeks on the assumption that he's just not ready and will come round to it eventually?

taffleee Wed 06-Nov-13 20:04:52

Oh just dont rush it x so much pressure is made on parents to have their children potty/toilet trained - just keep talking to littleun about getting 'poo's in the loo' - we've bought books and made it fun and its worked both time, just don't worry if it takes some time xxx

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