I give up. DS(2.7) can get married in nappies!!

(12 Posts)
Cjilly Mon 23-Sep-13 10:15:34

I don't expect replies but I need somewhere to vent.

I've been trying to potty train DS for a long time. He's definitely ready, all the signs are there; he tells me when he needs to wee and poo etc.

I bought a child seat, he hated it. bought a singing potty and he likes it but sees it more as a toy. Tried bribes, lots of praise and I've had it.

My mum suggested the 'disgust' technique. Laughable, as DS couldn't care less if he had a dirty nappy. it's the wet pants he hates. I just think he's lazy. I loathe changing his nappy and what annoys me more is that he'll casually leave the room (I think he's going to get a toy etc) and he'll comes back saying "mama, you need to change my nappy now, I've pood' hmm hmm 'mama! I need a nappy change'

I welcome death. DH is never home so leaving him to it is pointless.. besides he doesn't mine changing his nappies.

lunar1 Mon 23-Sep-13 10:22:48

Have you tried just getting rid of the nappies if he hates wet pants. I put ds1 in pants and thick heavy jeans that would feel horrible when wet. Day one was horrendous day two still pretty bad and by day three only one accident.

You will get there.

I think just over two and a half is a bit young but that's maybe because my ds was 3 and a half. He seemed ready some times before that but they weren't successful so rather than adding stress to it, I just left it a while before trying again.

mum23girlys Mon 23-Sep-13 10:25:46

Honestly put him back in nappies. He's still quite young. My dd has just potty trained in July after a couple of previous abandoned attempts. She was telling me she was going to pee and poo for months but just didn't 'get' potty training. In the end it was just stressing us both out. Then one day when she was almost 2.9 I was running low on nappies and said to her that we'd need to go to the shops. She then announced that she wanted to wear pants. She's obviously had a few accidents but has been very good right from the start.

Best of luck

Chopstheduck Mon 23-Sep-13 10:28:59

my 8 year old will prob still be bedwetting when he gets married, and would happily wear them during the day given half a chance. Some kids really don't care about feeling wet, do they!


He will get there eventually, honest!

ReallyTired Mon 23-Sep-13 10:29:25

lol... (Sorry I am laughing at your title.)

I don't know what the "disgust technique" is, but it sounds cruel and nasty. Sometimes pressurising a child does more harm than good. Plenty of children are still in nappies at two year old and its nothing to be ashamed off.

I suggest you completely back off and keep your child in nappies. Prehaps you can try again after Christmas. There will come a point when your child will want to wear wants and be toilet trained. It is far easier to toilet train a child who is up for the idea.

Cjilly Mon 23-Sep-13 10:29:57

Thanks everyone.

I'll try the thick jeans technique and if that doesn't work I'll leave it for a while. I suppose it's the constant pressure from family saying 'still in nappies? __ was out of his/hers by 1' that's nice

lottieandmia Mon 23-Sep-13 10:31:07

Sometimes a child can be physically ready for toilet training but not emotionally ready. The best thing to do is just leave it for a while. My dds were all over 3 when they were trained. I tried training dd3 at 2.7 and she just didn't want to do it. She stopped wearing nappies one day at about 3.3 years when she realised she didn't like having them on any more and she went and used the potty by herself - it was her decision.

One tip I would give you is to make sure he has a potty that he feels comfortable on. I first of all got a cheap one from Mothercare but dd found it uncomfortable so I bought her a Baby Bjorn potty chair and she was much happier to sit on that.

AnythingNotEverything Mon 23-Sep-13 10:32:18

He's still young.

I know it doesn't feel like it, but he'll do it when he's ready. I know that's no help!

I'd completely ignore toilet training for a couple of months, and then come at it from a completely different angle. I wonder if he's the kind of child who needs it to be his choice?

lottieandmia Mon 23-Sep-13 10:34:38

Just ignore family - if they're talking about children who had terry nappies then it's a different issue. Of course they were more keen to get out of nappies - but today's disposables soak the wee up quickly and the child is more comfortable to keep them on for longer.

absentmindeddooooodles Mon 23-Sep-13 10:37:52

Hes still young. I thoughy ds 2.6 was ready. Like you say showing all the signs, telling me he needs a nappy change. But alot of the time he just doea not want to use the potty or the toilet. So im leaving it for a few months. No rush. They wont still be in nappies when they are 20 so dont worry.
As an aside I hate changing nappies too. But....it wont be for too much longer so not rhe end of the world. smile

He's obviously not ready, otherwise he would be dry by now.
When they are really ready, potty training takes about a week.
I left it until DS was nearly 3, and it was really easy because he wanted to. And I didn't have to carry a potty around with me because he could hang on long enough to get to the loo.

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