Day two - zero progress

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englishbreakfast Tue 16-Jul-13 19:24:51

We started potty training DD (2.4 yo) yesterday. She has shown signs of readiness for a few months. First day was in re-usable training pants, zero effect! We'd put her on the potty every half an hour or so, she's sit for a minute or two, then would get up and pee in the pants at some point later (won't tell us when she's done it, although can feel that pants are wet). All day today went bottomless, same story, we would sit her on the potty every 30 mins, but she would only pee on the carpet (quite cute really, like a little kitten! smile). Managed to catch wee once in 2 days. Have no idea how to encourage her to go in the potty? Any advice from more experienced mums? x

BeaWheesht Mon 22-Jul-13 18:53:47

Poor wee soul. (No pun intended)

Well I spoke to soon, dd wet herself just now I think because she was too busy playing outside!

englishbreakfast Mon 22-Jul-13 18:32:46

Hi Bea, DD's 2y 4m, so could possibly understand but she doesn't seem to be willing to cooperate at the moment! We had hardly any sleep last night as she was feeling poorly, and things were not helped by her screaming she wanted a potty in the middle of the night but not managing to go when sat on it, she then had a full blown tantrum at 3am! shock It took a while to persuade her to stay in a nappy. She asked for potty again when she got up in the morning and managed to wee in it, but then she'd had accidents all day. I don't want to force her into nappies if she doesn't want to wear them, so we're letting her get on with it and she's taking turns wearing pants and going bare bum. We just keep reminding her from time to time that she can go to the potty if she wants to wee / poo but not to worry if not. We have armed ourselves with lots of cleaning products!

BeaWheesht Sun 21-Jul-13 23:35:53

How old is she English? Old enough to explain why you're putting her back in pull ups?

englishbreakfast Sun 21-Jul-13 23:05:12

Aww, thanks ladies! It was weird, I wanted to put a pull up nappy on DD in the afternoon as she was getting frustrated clearly wanting to go but holding it in, and she just refused it outright. So we resorted to training pants. She sat on the potty a few times in the evening of her own accord but didn't do anything, although a couple of times got off it crying as was unable to go, so I am now worried she might be creating negative associations, so will get her to wear pull-ups until we are sorted with this chicken pox nonsense...x

BeaWheesht Sun 21-Jul-13 22:45:38

I'd stop too, the urine will stung her skin so better not to have it running down legs etx. Have you tied bicarbonate of soda bath? They really helped when dd had pox.

Well dd was dry last night again and we left her with dh's mum for a couple of hours so we could get peace to go to Homebase (the glamour!) and she asked to go for a pee and went no bother smile

I'm probably speaking too soon but I don't think she's had any accidents for about 10/11 days now and has been dry maybe 8 nights too.

She's a little madam though as she now says 'need a pee' whenever we are trying to get her to do something she doesn't want to do eg bedtime / getting told off / getting dressed.....

I think you are doing the right thing - prioritising her comfort now. We stopped and tried again about 2 months later. This didn't seem to be a problem for DD and it has been much more successful this time.

SageYourResoluteOracle Sun 21-Jul-13 22:06:07

Awww. Poor poppet. I think you're doing the right thing. She just needs to be comfy right now. Good luck to you too! It's been nice having support.

englishbreakfast Sun 21-Jul-13 16:47:35

DD's been miserable all day today and we had nothing but accidents. She sat on the potty a lot but not managed to go once despite clearly wanting and would then get up and pee on the floor. This afternoon she started to get upset, as was trying the potty but not managing to do anything. She's also got spots around her wee / poo area so must be feeling pretty uncomfortable down there sad. DH is not keen to carry on as feels she's feeling rubbish so we shouldn't be making her more uncomfortable, so we've decided to stop for now. Will start again when she's better and hopefully some of the stuff she's learned over the past few days will have stuck. Best of luck everyone with your potty training! x

Your poor DD - I hope she feels better soon.

englishbreakfast Sun 21-Jul-13 08:21:30

Yay Breathe and Sage DDs!

DD was dry during out trip to the doctor's yesterday but had a couple of accidents in the evening where she started to wee on the floor and had to be reminded to use potty, so would then run to the potty mid wee and finish there! Her nappy was full this morning and although she's sat on potty a few times, she's not produced anything yet today. She's not drinking enough so maybe doesn't want to go. Tbh I'm not expecting much progress until she's better as she's probably distracted by feeling a bit miserable, but we will probably stick with the training unless it starts to upset her.

We had a wet nappy this morning, then no accidents all day (which was amazing as we have had a busy day). I'm not entirely convinced that DD has been drinking enough. She waited for her bedtime nappy to be on before doing a poo - which is fine by me.

SageYourResoluteOracle Sat 20-Jul-13 22:20:39

Oh poor DD English. A friend's DD has just come down with the dreaded pox - it's no fun. I hope your little poppet feels better soon and isn't too itchy and miserable. And go her doing a wee and then proudly showing you- definitely sounds as if you've cracked it!

So, today was day 4 for us and DD had NO accidents! grin
All wees were pretty much unprompted (3 wees in total - she's certainly got bladder control). One of them we got just in time as her pants were a bit wet but I think we're getting there. . . with wees anyway.

Still no poos but we almost got one at bedtime. DD shouted 'oh! Wee wee' and, although she was already in pull ups ready for bed, I thought it best to help her pull them down and have a go. Very unfortunately (rookie error) she'd actually meant poo so flecks of poo came flying out as we were whipping the pull ups down. Her leg was smeared, outside of the potty was smeared. . . oh dear!

She's been pooing into pull ups during her afternoon nap and at night time but, to be fair, she's been doing this for a while at sleep time - way before potty training- so I think it's that she's relaxed and feels more able to 'let go' when she's asleep/almost asleep.

I'm going to try and give DD the main bulk of her daily fibre by lunchtime to hopefully change her number two timings.

I'm obsessed, aren't I?!

TitianSpirit Sat 20-Jul-13 20:10:30

awww bless her wee socks. Hope she's better soon. smile

Well done for her potty training. Looks like you've cracked it. wink

BeaWheesht Sat 20-Jul-13 13:58:57

Awh bless her!

Chickenpox didn't make either of mine ill as such just itchy so fingers crossed she won't suffer too much

englishbreakfast Sat 20-Jul-13 13:56:11

DD broke out in a rash today, nurse at 111 said it's most probably chicken pox sad. Now going for an out of hours GP appointment to confirm. We are carrying on with the potty for now as she seems to be willing. She weed in the potty in the morning and then when both DH and I were out of the room for a minute, we heard her calling and she was stood there with a potty with wee in it in her hand to give us grin. Although there was a wet patch on the carpet to, so she must have started weeing on the floor and then remembered about the potty!

TitianSpirit Sat 20-Jul-13 13:36:15

I really don't think that happens, I think she'll be pleased to show u what she remembers when u pick it up again. i'd give her time off cos she might start to get upset when she's not well, and start learning how to avoid rather than do. Just a thought. smile

englishbreakfast Sat 20-Jul-13 09:11:52

Thank you Titian! She's still asleep, which is highly unusual, as she's normally up around 7 - 7.30am. Not sure if we should carry on when she's unwell, but at the same time don't want to write off the last few days either... confused

TitianSpirit Sat 20-Jul-13 01:26:36

Waves back to english and sage smile smile

hope your DD is feeling better. hate it when they're ill. I always wish I could take it away from them somehow.

sorry for the late post but only getting 5 mins now.

Poos are strange to do cos they feel the motion more um leaving their bum and don't immediately associate it with a poo.

I would change the dirty pullup and finish by tipping it into the loo with DD and giving it a flush with lots of praise. I'd point out at the same time that healthy poos are smelly. I let her come up with the idea to use the potty then tip it in so it doesn't stick to her bum.

Its a lot of work but well worth it. The key is to make it a fun game they are good at & build it up bit by bit. oh yeah and choc buttons helped a lot blush

hope your DD is feeling better soon. I've her in my thoughts.

SageYourResoluteOracle Fri 19-Jul-13 22:09:11

Oh bless your little pickle English- I hope she's feeling better soon. This weather can't be helping!

Final count for today: 4 in potty, 2 when DD told us she needed to go, 1 me spotting and 1 her yelling 'wee wee' and me catching.

It's official: I've become a potty bore.

How to get little ones to do a poo though????????

englishbreakfast Fri 19-Jul-13 19:33:57

Excellent news Sage, well done to you DD! Today was much of the same for us. Managed to catch a couple of wees in the potty, one was on the carpet and one in the nappy during nap time. DD's got a fever today though so maybe that's why she's been a bit disinterested. Onwards and upwards hopefully!

SageYourResoluteOracle Fri 19-Jul-13 15:29:53

Waves at Titian! Thanks for that- I had read that it was a good idea to show the little ones their poo in case they were freaked out at being suddenly confronted by it. DD just gazed with awe and wonder at the teeny poo she did the other night. 'Oooooh! Poo poo!'

I fear I'm becoming a potty bore and my friends and family possibly want me shot! <disclaimer: that was in jest!>

But, drum roll: Day 3 today and DD did her first two wees on the potty. The first was partly her letting me know and me partly spotting her cues and the second was totally unprompted. Two followed on the floor but I'm elated! Might hire a marching band! So I'm going to stick it out for the week and just see.

Bless her though- she was a bit agitated just before going the first time. I think it must be a very different feeling than going in a nappy.

How is everyone else doing?

englishbreakfast Fri 19-Jul-13 07:27:01

Brilliant to hear your DD is doing so well Titian. When DD pooed in the potty yesterday, she then had a proper look at it for the first time, and there was such a funny look of disgust on her face. Didn't stop her trying to stick her hand it it though! smile

Breathe, we've got carpet everywhere in the flat too and I'm just grateful for the hot weather as at least it dries very quickly!

We are now in day 5, DD did a wee in the nappy in the morning and nothing in the potty yet. I'm at work today so DH will be on potty duty. I'll keep you posted how today goes for us.

TitianSpirit Thu 18-Jul-13 23:38:06

Ok, I'm on the other side and have a 3.6 DD who is dry most nights & loves the loo.

I hope this helps a little. The longer you leave it the easier it is.

DD is strong willed but gentle & sensitive. At 2.8 mths was potty trained in 24 hrs(with 2 weeks prep work). She was showing signs of being ready from 2 so I allowed her to try but it was equally hit and miss. So I took the pressure off and left it 6months (she was ready after about 3 months but our family wasn't, things were happening).
So brought it out again but didn't try her, instead for 2 weeks I kept the potty in the toilet so dolly or teddy could go when she went with me. I also allowed her easy access to a quiet spot so she could go in the nappy. I worked out her routine as I got the nursery to pop a time beside her movements. DD was an afternoon girl. If there was no show she was a next morning then again late at night or thru the night girl. During this time I also allowed her to see her dirty nappies both types. At first she was shocked (at the poo! her poo!), but then she relaxed. At the end of 2 weeks (I work part-time so it took me this long) I bought a simple padded potty with a lid and stickers to put on it. She still loves it. I popped her on every 2 hours. bingo she got it. Only had about 3 accidents the first month. She is dry most nights but with the heat I'm not rushing anything. More fluids = more mistakes at night. She uses it to stand on to wash her hands now. Good luck & best wishes.

BeaWheesht Thu 18-Jul-13 23:10:09

Same to you!

englishbreakfast Thu 18-Jul-13 23:03:22

Well, here is to tomorrow. Good luck and lot of patience to everyone!

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