Day two - zero progress

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englishbreakfast Tue 16-Jul-13 19:24:51

We started potty training DD (2.4 yo) yesterday. She has shown signs of readiness for a few months. First day was in re-usable training pants, zero effect! We'd put her on the potty every half an hour or so, she's sit for a minute or two, then would get up and pee in the pants at some point later (won't tell us when she's done it, although can feel that pants are wet). All day today went bottomless, same story, we would sit her on the potty every 30 mins, but she would only pee on the carpet (quite cute really, like a little kitten! smile). Managed to catch wee once in 2 days. Have no idea how to encourage her to go in the potty? Any advice from more experienced mums? x

cedar12 Tue 16-Jul-13 19:29:35

I would try for couple more days. My son clicked on about day 4. We are about 5weeks in now and he still has the odd accident maybe 3 a week. if she doesn't show any progress after a few days a should leave it a bit.

Hardhaton Tue 16-Jul-13 19:33:30

My ds4 has been going on the potty all weekend, Monday come he wee'd in my car, then next to the potty when he got up and then in ds3's playground!
Given up until school breaks up

BeaWheesht Tue 16-Jul-13 19:34:28

Give it a day or two more, if she doesn't improve leave it a while.

When she pees on the carpet still take her to sit on the potty afterwards to see if there's anymor

englishbreakfast Tue 16-Jul-13 21:06:20

Thank you! I've been reading other threads and realise now it's not unusual. This evening she looked like she wanted to pee and went and grabbed her potty and sat on it for a few minutes but unfortunately didn't produce anything. It seems she's been holding pee today (only peed a few times and small amounts). We went to the toilet together before bed, me on the toilet, her on the potty, tried again before bed. Now in bed and pull-ups for the night and crying she wants poo so hopefully she's not getting constipated. We will carry on for a few more days and see what happens.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Tue 16-Jul-13 21:08:41

Doe she want to be potty trained?

Ds1 asked to stop wearing nappies at 2.1 and was a breeze to train, ds2 wouldn't hear of it until he was 3 and that was it - no accidents at all!

Is she's not keen, I would leave it for a couple of months.

englishbreakfast Tue 16-Jul-13 21:12:10

no, she doesn't seem particularly keen. It's more of a case, we are praising her for it, so she's agreeing to sit on the potty to please us. It's just that she's starting preschool in September (2 days, 3 hours p/d) and while they are happy for her to be still in nappies, I thought it'd make things easier if she was potty trained when she started...

Has she got a potty book, pretty pants etc? We are on day 4 with DD (2.10) and these seem to be quite useful. She also sees other children at nursery who are potty trained, which is quite handy. We aren't having much success with poos, but wees are getting there. DD prefers the toilet to the potty, but will use either. This is our second attempt, and I don't get the impression that it is unusual to stop and start again if you don't get much luck.

Smartiepants79 Tue 16-Jul-13 22:08:33

Can take a few days. My Dd had a couple of days of weeing everywhere except in the potty. Then suddenly she just started doing it. I would give her a good few days. It sounds like she is going in the right direction.

pooka Tue 16-Jul-13 22:11:40

My own take on it is that it's easy when they want to and are ready but pain in arse and unnecessary stress when they aren't.

Dd was completely trained in 3 days, barely any accidents, when she was 2 and 4 months.

I tried with ds1 when he was similar age, perhaps a bit older. If it could turn back the clock I would not do it again. He got terribly constipated very very quickly and 18 months later, when he was finally constipation free and about 3 and 9 months he trained quickly and easily. 18 months of discomfort, movicol, doctors appointments and impact on his eating and general happiness.

So with ds2 I waited and waited and waited. He is now 3 and 10 months. 2 weeks ago he went into pants, had a happy sticker chart with 10p a sticker at the end of the week. Had 2 pee accidents on day 2 but has not had a single accident since then and is now also dry at night. A breeze. Yes, he was old to be in nappies, but happy and old.

Incidentally, even in nappies, neither ds1 nor ds2 EVER had a poo at preschool (although ds1 had leakage while he was constipated, which he found distressing, sadly).

Smartiepants79 Tue 16-Jul-13 23:05:14

If I had waited for my DD to think she wanted to be toilet trained she'd have been going to school in nappies.
She was 2.9 as it was.
She was completely ready.
After the first week we had no more accidents and within a month we stopped using nappies at night and she has never had an accident.
Some children do just need a little push!

EauRouge Tue 16-Jul-13 23:12:29

I agree, some children do need a little push but if there's no progress after about 5 or 6 days then I would leave it for a while. We just had our first go with DD2 (2.5yo) and she didn't quite get it. There were a few in the potty but a lot on the carpet too. DD1 cracked it within days when she was potty trained (at about 3.9yo, 3rd attempt!) so she was obviously ready.

Encouragement is fine but don't force it if she's not ready.

englishbreakfast Wed 17-Jul-13 08:43:28

Good morning everyone. Well, day 3 and DD got up and sat for a couple of minutes on the potty in the bedroom and then again in the living room, but hasn't done anything. I think she must have gone into the nappy before getting up but she also looks a bit uncomfortable so possibly holding it in a bit. She also just did a bit of a poo on the carpet, I put her on the potty to finish, but she just sat on it saying 'pee-pee' and 'ka-ka' (for poo). At least she seems to (sort of) understand what it's for, it's just the doing bit not happening!

I think as we've started now, we'll definitely carry on for a few more days just so that we give it a good shot. I will keep you posted about our progress. Thanks very much for advice / sharing your experience so far. My mum makes it sound like it was nothing when I and DSIS were potty trained, but her memory must be hazy after so many years! smile.

englishbreakfast Wed 17-Jul-13 16:10:55

a quick update to say that we've had one poo and one wee in the potty today!!! smile She started to poo on carpet, so my DH put her on the potty straight away and she finished there. And later today she was looking like she wanted to wee, so we said go on the potty, and she went and sat down on it herself and did a wee, I couldn't believe it. Am really hoping that she is starting to get it...x

Excellent - well done mini-breakfast.

Smartiepants79 Wed 17-Jul-13 17:55:23

Sounds like good steps in the right direction. Stick with it for a bit and see if it continues to improve.
Well done little girl!

englishbreakfast Wed 17-Jul-13 19:51:02

Thank you! Unfortunately these were the only successes of the day but it's a start.

We're at a stalemate on poos in the potty or on the toilet. I might have to be understanding of poo accidents. DD wanted to put her pants on to do a poo. I insisted that she sit on the loo, which meant no poo at all. I think she may appear any moment with a poo in her nighttime nappy, but otherwise I am going to cause her constipation problems if we get into a battle of wills.

SageYourResoluteOracle Wed 17-Jul-13 21:38:46

I'm so glad I've found this thread.

Englishbreakfast - well done for persevering!

Day 1 of PT with DD today. She's just turned two and has been showing signs of readiness since around 20 months. I've taken a week off work & I'm beginning to think that I've put too much pressure on the both of us to crack potty training.

I seem to have a little kitten too. She's wee'd on the carpet, twice on the sofa, in her bed at nap time and on my and DH's bed. She's also wee'd in the first nappy she was in at bedtime and then pooed in the second one (she often does a poo after being put to bed). The only success today was when she said, 'Oh! Wee wee!', sprinted to the potty, I helped her with her pants and then she did the tiniest poo: it was the size of a raisin!

My thinking is that DH should use his ruddy annual leave to train her. I need to go somewhere exotic where there are cocktails and gorgeous waiters. . .

Seriously though, given that her wees have been hours apart and big wees, she's got bladder control. Although she likes her Big Girl Pants and doesn't seem to mind about sitting on the potty, I think she sensed I was being a bit of a Spongebob Stresspants and maybe felt pressure to perform as every wee was when I wasn't watching her/ had nipped to another room for a split second. I started off with the potty in the living room but it's now back in the bathroom and I've said she's to go if she needs to.

I guess the poo-lette (ie very tiny poo) was progress as she did it completely unprompted. Good to know though that it can take a few days for there to be progress. I have to confess to reading Gina Ford's potty training book as lots of friends had recommended it but it says that there should be more wees in the potty by the end of day one than accidents. Epic fail!

I'm going to forge ahead for a few more days.

Who will hold my hand (and bring me Sauvignon Blanc??)

Also, whole other board but AIBU to have eaten two out of the three little bags of chocolate buttons I'd bought for bribery encouragement?

DD hasn't wee'd while sitting on my lap since the weekend, which is lovely as she sits on my lap quite a bit and it wasn't nice.

SageYourResoluteOracle Wed 17-Jul-13 22:02:39

Oh god. Wee on ones lap. Hadn't considered that as a possibility! shock

englishbreakfast Wed 17-Jul-13 22:44:21

holding hand Sage, good luck for the next few days! I'm trying to make a plan for the weekend as don't fancy being stuck at home and don't think she's going to be able to ask to go while we are outside, so I probably need a waterproof mat for the pram, and some pads for DD's pants!! Do people take a portable potty for outside? I can't see DD using public toilets for a while!

SageYourResoluteOracle Wed 17-Jul-13 22:53:23

Aww fanks English.

I bought a waterproof buggy/car seat cover, a pottete plus portable potty and I've got some pampers bed mats coming in the shopping delivery tomorrow. Totally agree: will lose plot if I can't get out at weekend. I took the pottete out this afternoon just in case. It's fab! You could get one from amazon on next day delivery!

Tomorrow is another day and I'm going to give it a week before stopping what I've started. Time to go to bed. I've found today exhausting!

SageYourResoluteOracle Wed 17-Jul-13 22:54:54

Public loos! Perish the thought!

englishbreakfast Wed 17-Jul-13 23:33:27

Have just ordered the Potette, hopefully it arrives by the weekend!

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