pull ups or not?

(21 Posts)
omama Wed 22-May-13 21:34:18

We tried potty training a few weeks back & while ds was willing to sit on potty, after 5 days we'd had zero success & he didnt seem to be able to tell us before he went, so we felt he wasn't ready & he's back in nappies.

However, he still keeps trying to sit on the potty (although still not produced anything). He takes his nappy off in order to do so, BUT then can't put it back on again. I've always avoided pull ups as i keep hearing they can be confusing, but am wondering if they might actually be useful in this situation, giving ds opportunity to practice pulling up & down & sitting on potty, until we are ready to try again in pants.

Thoughts?

omama Wed 22-May-13 21:34:38

He's 2.9 btw.

Smartiepants79 Wed 22-May-13 21:42:55

Tricky.
My DD is a similar age and we have just gone cold turkey on Friday.
No nappies except at night.
After 2 days with puddleson the floor she is now doing brilliantly. No accidents since Saturday. Wees and poos in the potty.
Pull ups did not work for her as she just used them as a nappy. She needed the sensation of wetness an the realisation that the nappies were gone for good to make her make the effort to use th potty.
Have you tried cold turkey? Several friends have done the same and had similar results.
The first day or 3 were hard but then they've never looked back.

omama Thu 23-May-13 07:12:39

Thanks for the reply. Yes we did 5 full days in pants, nappies only at night. Zero wees or poos in potty. He just didnt get it.

I dont want to switch between pants & pull ups as i know it can be confusing, once we decide to try training again he will be straight in pants.

In the meantime, potty is in corner & i've made no mention of it since we stopped training. He keeps trying to sit on it of his own accord, makes a 'pssss' sound then gets back up. I dont want to discourage it since irs ultimately what we wanKeep hoping that one day he might just wee in it & then i can go for it. But he gets in a tangle taking the nappy on & offust wondered if they'd be a better instead of nappies while he's wanting to practice sitting on potty but not yet ready to go.

omama Thu 23-May-13 07:16:05

Thanks for the reply. Yes we did 5 full days in pants, nappies only at night. Zero wees or poos in potty. He just didnt get it.

I dont want to switch between pants & pull ups as i know it can be confusing, once we decide to try training again he will be straight in pants.

In the meantime, potty is in corner & he keeps trying to sit on it of his own accord, makes a 'pssss' sound then gets back up. I dont want to discourage it since its ultimately what we want. But he gets in a tangle taking the nappy on & off. Not sure what to do. Guess i just have to persevere for a few more weeks then try again.

omama Thu 23-May-13 07:16:28

Dont know what happened there!

valiumredhead Thu 23-May-13 07:19:56

We used pull ups, they were fine then progressed slowly to pants. When we went out he used pull ups and then at home pants then at night pull ups again.

CatWithKittens Thu 23-May-13 10:19:54

This really is where old fashioned training pants are helpful - terry inside and waterproof outside. they are pants, can be got up and down but prevent a real flood.

valiumredhead Thu 23-May-13 10:29:00

That's what pull ups do - they aren't as absorbent so the child can fell wet, but prevent a big accident.

janey223 Thu 23-May-13 10:58:09

Could you try easyup nappies?

omama Thu 23-May-13 14:49:47

Janey - i've bought some easy ups today. Except they dont seem to stay up once they get a bit of weight in them!

Cat - i may have to look for some training pants. Any idea where i can get them?

valiumredhead Thu 23-May-13 14:57:10

They aren't meant to stay up once the are wet, that's the whole point, they are meant to be used as pants.

Perhaps he's not ready yet?

janey223 Thu 23-May-13 15:38:58

Maybe they're too big? DS's fall down in a 5 (he is in for normal nappies) so he wears a 4 in them.

The easy ups aren't training pants, they're marketed for runners! DS has been using them since e started escaping about 10m, he stands and puts his legs in them but runs from normal nappies!

omama Thu 23-May-13 15:41:43

valium - not ready for what? I'm not potty training!

Janey - ds is also in a 5 for normal nappies so maybe i need to try the 4.

Smartiepants79 Thu 23-May-13 19:03:10

Mothercare do training pants. So do kiddiecare.

CatWithKittens Sat 25-May-13 11:27:31

Omama - We got our plain white terry and plastic original ones from Boots but we topped them up with some bigger ones for DS2 who was physically bigger than his elder brother and sister. We got Bright Bots ones which are colourful, less nappy like and more fun. I seem to remember we got quite them cheaply - and quickly - from Amazon. They are also less plasticky but I was never sure they washed as well after a poo mishap so used the white ones for DD2 until she was clean and the others later..

omama Thu 30-May-13 23:22:46

Thanks for the training pants tips. Sorry may be a dumb question but Will they keep his clothes from getting wet?

DS is now insistent on having no nappy on most of the time when we're at home. But is just pissing & shitting messing all over. So I now find myself in exactly the situation i didn't want to be i.e. switching between nappies when out & about & nothing at home. Surely this will just confuse him?

So what the hell do i do - say no if he wants nappy off? he's still not grasping that it needs to go in the potty, or maybe i should rephrase - he doesnt know before, only after he's done it so not getting to potty at all. Today mid poo on carpet i tried to hurry him there & he was more interested in stopping to look at his plops than get to the potty. Is he one of those where i have no option but to bite the bullet & then spend months on end cleaning up mess?

Help!

janey223 Thu 30-May-13 23:55:46

Oh no sad I know a few with younger DCs who go on the potty in the house, nappy when out and it works for them but they're not trying to fully train so I don't know!

vix206 Fri 31-May-13 06:54:25

I use a mixture of normal cotton pants and pull ups. No confusion here, DS understands he shouldn't use either for wees or poos.

The reason I'm still using pull-ups occasionally when we go out is that after 2 months of being fully trained with wees, DS refuses to poo on the potty or the toilet. confusedconfusedconfused

ClaireDeTamble Fri 31-May-13 07:04:31

Just stick him in pull-ups. It will cause less confusion than wanting to sit on the potty and not being able to.

We never 'trained' DD1. She asked to sit on the loo a couple of times so we put her in pull-ups, letting her use the loo when she asked and periodically asking throughout the day. If she wet or soiled we just changed her like a normal nappy with no fuss. Within 2 or 3 weeks she was completely dry and only ever had a couple of accidents.

CatWithKittens Fri 31-May-13 14:28:50

Training pants should keep his clothes dry provided you check them fairly regularly - if left too long and allowed to get really wet they will leak around the legs but since you are training that it unlikely to happen. They are very good at containing a poo accident which we always find more difficult, specially in somebody else's house! In the car for a longish journey we used to slip a folded terry nappy into the pants but that was more as a precaution when training had got some way along the line.

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