how do I potty train when she just doesn't GET it?

(20 Posts)
johnworf Wed 17-Apr-13 21:02:46

Hi ladies.

I used to be on the potty training threads quite a lot last year when my DD#2 was still not using the potty with 2 months to starting school. I was thinking she'd be starting reception in pull ups. We had loads of false starts and in the end I just left it and let her get on with enjoying her day wearing a pull up.

She got it herself. With just 4 weeks to spare until starting school she did it herself. Within days she was dry.

I think sometimes it's best to step back and just put them in nappies if they're just not understanding what it's all about.

Sometimes they can feel pressurised or a bit stressed out when they don't 'perform' and I think that can push them back.

As someone said up thread, you don't see teenagers weeing on the floor...much smile

joanne86 Tue 16-Apr-13 15:50:30

HELP ME sad my boy is 3 next week. Tried potty training a couple of times before now but he wasn't interested. Tried again today and was a disaster. He doesn't tell me when he needs to wee just goes on the floor then when I try and put him on potty/toilet he just refuses and pushes legs out so I can't sit him on there. Any tips or advise? This is my first child so all new to me, he will start school nursery in sept so need to get him dry for then. Atm it feels like its never going to happen!!

crazyscientist87 Sat 13-Apr-13 05:06:56

Lol, just realised what I'd written in that last sentence (obviously I meant my DD to go back into pull ups! ha ha).

crazyscientist87 Sat 13-Apr-13 05:06:08

I am awake too early so thought I might as well post as I'm going through the same.
DD is 2y10mo. We were on day 5 yesterday and she's only managed to tell me twice in the last 2 days that she needed a wee which were only small amounts. Then about 10 minutes later she would do a big wee on the carpet. I think I'm about ready to go back to pull-ups!

Beamur Fri 12-Apr-13 20:24:06

LOL LaurieFairyCake so true.
My DD was 3.5 before she got there.

Crikeyme Fri 12-Apr-13 20:20:14

Just checking in to offer some encouragement - having had a right old rant on Wednesday morning, we had a very successful afternoon. DD has only weed on the potty since then (although she has either poo'd into her pants or saved it for the middle of the night, but does at least wake up and feel uncomfortable enough to demand a change). The only accident has been because I couldn't get down the stairs to her quickly enough!

So I wanted to thank you guys for being a sounding-board, and say hang in there - I honestly thought day 2 would break me, I would never have believed things could turn around so quickly. I hope things move as quickly and encouragingly for you, too!

alwayslateforwork Tue 09-Apr-13 15:40:02

Encopresis. Damn you, autocorrect.

alwayslateforwork Tue 09-Apr-13 15:39:35

They are all different.

And my child with very low muscle tone (she has cerebral palsy) was dry and night just after 2. We were told she would be doubly incontinent. grin

My two nt children both still wet themselves at school, and my 11yo has had ongoing issues with encores is. He's still not dry at night.

Even siblings can be crazy different.

Pollaidh Tue 09-Apr-13 15:36:16

Just chill. She's not that old. Children develop at different times and rates and it's no reflection on her or you. Forget about it for a while and come back to it in a month or so. Try to keep very calm.

NB if she has any problems like low muscle tone, floppiness or hypermobility then she will likely have problems controlling her pelvic floor muscles. She'll get there but it will take longer.

Mine was keen for well over a year and we tried a few times but she wasn't ready. Eventually it just clicked and then the wee training was simple with only a couple of accidents. Still working on poos.

Crikeyme Tue 09-Apr-13 15:18:44

Beatlegirl, I'm in the same position, although I have no previous experience - DD will be 3 in a month and just doesn't tell me when she needs to wee (I know when she wants a poo as she goes and sits by herself and tells everyone to go away). She's just been dry for over two hours, and asked for some toys from upstairs. I asked her if she needed a wee, she said no, and then BEFORE I'D EVEN REACHED THE TOP OF THE FREAKING STAIRS, she yelled that she was all wet. Yet when I ask her what to do when she wants to go to the toilet, she automatically says 'Tell Mummy!'.

Does she still just not recognise the feeling? It's driving me insane...

beatlegirl Fri 05-Apr-13 16:00:54

Thanks for replies. I don't see this as a "rush" really, my other children were sorted long before this age!

We've done the going back to nappies thing 3 times now. I really thought we'd make some headway this time.

beatlegirl Fri 05-Apr-13 15:47:53

Thanks for replies. I don't see this as a "rush" really, my other children were sorted long before this age!

We've done the going back to nappies thing 3 times now. I really thought we'd make some headway this time.

Suzieismyname Fri 05-Apr-13 15:44:05

Give it a month or so and then try again. I would only worry if school was looming but you have a whole year yet. What's the rush?

You just leave it til she's ready.

There aren't many teenagers who still crap on the floor wink

georgedawes Fri 05-Apr-13 15:42:52

Same prob here. We're leaving it for a bit.

seeker Fri 05-Apr-13 15:41:27

Back to nappies and try again in a month. Honestly, potty training isn't worth a smidgins of angst on either side.

Jacksterbear Fri 05-Apr-13 15:40:03

If I were you I would think about leaving it for a few weeks then trying again. My ds didn't get it at that age and we had several unsuccessful attempts that turned into miserable battles. Then suddenly it just clicked when he was about 3.2 and he never looked back!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 05-Apr-13 15:36:33

Watching with interest. My DD similar age also seems to have no awareness of when she needs to wee.

beatlegirl Fri 05-Apr-13 15:35:23

anyone? She has just pooed on the floor again and I'm at the end of my tethersad sad sad

beatlegirl Fri 05-Apr-13 14:57:19

I have a DD who will be 3 in 3 weeks, and I'm getting nowhere with the potty training. She simply doesn't seem to know the wee is coming. Any tips?

Is it just a waiting game or is there something I can do?

I've had 2 other children who potty trained easy! Is this my punishment? grin

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