Potty training a non verbal boy?

[slowlygoingbonkers]

Ds is non verbal at the moment (no diagnosis, just behind) he is under speech therapy and starts nursery under funding in January. I have noticed that he stops what he is doing and squats when he is doing something in his nappy. Is he ready for training or should I wait? And if so have you any tips?

Tia

[fuzzpig]

My DS was nearly 3 when we finally tried it (he was going to nursery in sept, just a few days after his August birthday) and it was really fast. I do wonder if he'd been ready for a while but because of his speech delay (diagnosed as 'severe' - approx 14 months behind) we just hadn't realised.

We just let him run around without anything on and tried to catch it with the potty if anything happened! It took nerves of steel and plenty of wipes. When some - any - of it went in the potty rather than the floor, he got a sweet. It didn't take long before he was sitting himself down to go, and wasn't even interested in the sweets is he really MY son?!

I am a firm believer in waiting until they are ready - tried DD too early and it was a total mess due to my angst, but when we tried again - and really relaxed, knowing that wetting was inevitable - it took 12hrs. Both were dry at night very quickly too (but I think that is hormone related anyway rather than an achievement!)

[slowlygoingbonkers]

Thanks. Dds trained themselves so a bit clueless. I have got a potty for him and he will sit on it for a minute or two so might wait til he has settled at nursery and see how he goes from there.

[trying4no2]

my DD starts nursery on the 9th and isnt potty trianed im really worried about this, her speech isnt what other 3 year olds is. I thought she was the only one. she is showing no signs of being 'ready' she doesnt know whe she is wet and has resulted in a few nappy leaks. any one know if I should be worried

[slowlygoingbonkers]

Hi trying I don't think you should be worried. I know a few kids who were like your dd. their parents found that nursery was the kick start to starting. I think when there kids saw other kids doing it it encouraged them to try. My dd2 was 3 years and 4 months before she even entertained the idea and it was nursery that helped. ( she was a September baby so went to a private nursery with the 3 to 4 year funding in the January) 3 is still quite young if you think about it.

[trying4no2]

thanks that helps alot. she has always been a 'late' developer (had a few arguemenrs with health visitor over it) she didnt crawl till she was 11 months didnt walk till she was almost two. and she is really small for her age she only wears age 12 - 18 month clothes (school uniform has been a nightmare to get) I dont want to push her to do it but I dont want them too think bad of me either

[slowlygoingbonkers]

Sounds exactly like my dd. she was 23 months before she walked, was small for her age etc. she is now 7 and is in the right sized clothes for her age and is actually advanced in her education so I wouldn't worry too much. They all do it in their own time

[trying4no2]

thank you Slowly. it helps so much.