My 5 year old ds2 was potty trained around about 2 yrs old, and we had no problems for about 6 months (as I recall). There then came an episode with ds1 (now 6) where he had a bit of a pooing accident on the bathroom floor after bedtime, and accidentally got quite a lot of attention while we were cleaning him up, which ds1 saw from the door of his room. I think this is probably what started the problems, but it may just have been coincidence.
3 years later, I really feel we've tried all sorts, and it just doesn't seem to be getting any better. We continue to keep a reward chart (because every time we've previously stopped the problem seems to return) - 1 sticker for every poo successfully in the loo, 1 treat of his choice for every 6 stickers. For a while the problem was helped by making him sit on the loo straight after breakfast each day, but then sometimes he would poo at this time and then again later on in the day. So then we started trying to make him sit on the loo after school as well.
Recently (since beginning of new school term - he has just started Y1) we have had poos in the bath and in the pants, often just after he has sat on the loo to try. He has also been pretty badly behaved recently, which we are putting down to tiredness and the stress of a new class, new teacher etc. We have grown very weary of making him sit at regular intervals, since it doesn't seem to be working brilliantly, plus also we often have 10-15 minutes of argument/wingeing/shouting if we insist and he doesn't want to. We don't punish him for pooing himself, but I have sometimes recently punished him for refusing to sit on the loo - I always say to him "you don't have to do a poo, but you do just have to try". I have pretty much stopped insisting on the sitting on the loo, to try and avoid the conflict/punishment that inevitably follows.
I don't actually mind the poo itself. I have a 1 yr old baby, so I clean up poo, it's no big deal, it's only ever a tiny bit in the pants and doesn't explode messily. If I knew for sure that by carrying on as we are or doing something different he would safely grow out of it eventually, I would be reassured. It is upsetting when it happens at school, for him I think as well as me, but it has only happened that way once or twice.
Does anyone have any tips I haven't thought of?
Is anyone able to tell me that they had this problem and it just solved itself eventually through time?
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5 year old ds has pooed his pants on and off for last 3 years - will it ever end?
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wehopeyoulikespaghetti · 18/09/2011 14:37
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