i need some advice about regression in toilet training

[Canella]

dc3 (now 4.6) has been out of nappies since he was 2.9 but its been a rocky road with lots of wet pants along the way.

He had been doing really well in the last year and was much drier but this last week he has been wet far too often.

Nothing has changed in our life or routine, he isnt unwell or complaing that its sore to go to pee but he's just wet too often.

Yesterday afternoon he wet himself 3 times. And i dont mean a little bit - like soaked through. Each time he was busy playing and i think just didnt want to stop what he was doing but i dont think thats right in a child his age. He gets made to take his wet stuff off himself and put it next to the washing machine and has to go and get the dry clothes.

Today - he came home at 12.30 (had been dry the whole morning). I told him to go on the toilet then, he had a drink with his lunch then about 2.00 i could see his trousers looking a bit wet so i sent him again to the toilet. He then didnt drink anything else but went to the toilet about 4pm. We were then out having some dinner and he had been playing a bit and asked to go to the toilet where he then wet all thro his pants and pooed on the floor. This was only at about 5.30pm. i could have honestly cried by this point.

i feel like i've tried everything - i give him huge praise and give him big cuddles when his trousers are dry at the end of the morning then in the evening. I dont punish him for wetting his pants i just send him off to sort it out. i started a reward chart with gold stars for him being dry and a black cross for when he's wet and talked about rewards of his choice for getting gold stars. But he's still wetting them.

Any advice would be welcome
Thanks

[Dawnybabe]

I could have written your post and I did post on a similar thread last week. My dd1 4.2 was dry for months until we moved house and changed pre-school. She's absolutely fine in herself but has wet herself constantly ever since so it must have had an effect on her. I don't know why and I don't know what to do about it. We've tried everything we can think of. All I can think is that she decided last time to use the toilet and we might just have to wait for her to make her own mind up this time too.

It is worse when she's distracted. I personally think it's lazy rebellious disobedience, she can't be bothered to go and she doesn't care. I just hope it sorts itself out before she starts reception in September.

Probably not much help to you but hang in there, you're not alone.

[Mairi261]

I could also have written your post... DS1 (4.3) has had a few regressions since we started potty training at 2.5. Current regression similar to yours, in that he gets busy and doesn't want to go the potty/toilet.

Frustrating because he can do it, he just doesn't seem to want to sometimes. Whenever I get to the brink of despair and decide to seek GP/HV help, he will without fail go back to being great.

My current tactic is to threaten to take away a favourite item (t-shirt with a dog on it just now) if he can't use potty/toilet. This seemed to be working, but he pooed and peed pants at bedtime tonight.

No idea where to go from here.

[Canella]

Its so good to know i'm not alone!! I've tried taking away things he likes - likes to play on the wii or on dc2's DS so he couldnt have a turn on those for 1 day if he was wet. Made no bloody difference!! It is so frustrating when they can do it but they dont!!
We're not in the UK so he's not started school yet but if we'd still lived there he'd be at school by now - can you imagine all this at school!

We used to have toilet sweets - this was a bag of smarties or whatever that he could take one from if he went on the toilet. Dh suggested we go back to this and i think i agree!! Bribary might be the way forward ......... Again!!

[Canella]

fecking nightmare few hours!! one very wet pair of trousers then found him with poo in his pants. and he hadnt just done it so dont know how long it had been there (he'd been at his friends for an hour).

I know its only day 1 of toilet sweets but it worked instantly when he's regressed before!! why oh why is he doing this!!!!!