banning nappies?

[elseIlltellyourfather]

DS is 2.9. He has been dry for about 6 mths but WILL NOT do a poo in the loo or potty. He never goes in his pants but insists on having a nappy put on then being left alone to go. I am considering saying that, from Wednesday, we are getting rid of all the nappies and that's that! I can mark the days on a calendar for him and he is able to understand that but I have one big concern; that he may start to hold on or go in his pants. He has simply never done either so I realise I am lucky in that respect and don't want to make an irritating situation into a disaster for the sake of it. I am just gettign so frustrated - we have tried everything and I never get cross - rewards charts, new toys (shown him in the shop) even a new DVD of his favourite programme, still wrapped up and waiting for him, which he understands and often looks at the case for it and talks about when he does his poo and gets it! Anyone have any experience of this or advice - will it be a big mistake?

[follygirl]

My ds would only poo in his nappy. He would wait until I put his nighttime nappy on before bed and would poo in it.
To be honest I let him as I didn't want him to start holding in his poos as it can lead to constipation and problems with bowel training. Even when we got rid of nighttime nappies, I would give him a nappy to do his poos in. At first he would only poo standing up but I persuaded him to do it sitting on his toilet seat but still with the nappy on. After a while I started cutting holes in his nappy so that the poo would actually go straight into the toilet. After a few weeks of that, he decided he didn't need to wear nappies and we haven't looked back.
I won't lie and say that it wasn't stressful. It also meant that I would have to carry nappies with me in case he needed to poo when we were out of the house. I was just very worried that he would start holding them in and was happy that he would go everyday.
I know that some people would say that I was wrong to let him wear nappies but in hindsight I'm pleased that we did it the way we did and now he poos normally and we didn't ever need to use laxatives.
I did also promise him a 'big boy' scooter when we could throw the nappies away and it was his decision the day we did.