Standing up urinating

[masochismTangoer]

How to encourage this in DS - 3 years couple of months of 4 years.

He has been very slow to train and still has a lot of accidents but is making steady progress now. He is particular about toilets being clean and will only use one of the potties in the house and is very shy about asking to go when out and about.

Occasionally if he is not paying attention he gets wet pants - so can see a benefit to him standing. Also wonder if it is another reason he is reluctant to go at school nursery - and they are not any good/interested in helping him.

So is this something that will gradually come or should/are there ways to encourage this?

[wigglemama]

I think it'll just come with age. My DS (also 3) went through a phase of wanted to copy daddy and pee standing up. It was actually more messy because he was a worse aim that his dad So he sits now all the time. Have you spoken to his nursery about giving him extra support with it?

[wigglemama]

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[wigglemama]

than. God, I really need to proof read before I post!

[onimolap]

I think the art of the standing wee is something best left for Daddies to do!

(I realise that's not terribly helpful if he's not around).

I'd leave it to come naturally - I certainly wouldn't encourage it into a potty because of splashing. Outdoors might be a good place to start?

[Limelight]

DS made that decision himself at about 3. Once he was very comfortably trained, he started distinguishing between a wee wee and a 'big boy wee wee' which meant standing up like Daddy basically. Took him a couple of weeks to get the hang of it, and we also had to deal with using public loos without a step because they were too high. We got round it by him standing on my feet!!

[masochismTangoer]

That's for the replies they are very re-assuring. DS is still struggling with it all so maybe I am worrying a bit to soon.

DH is around but not very good with potty training in general and dislikes actively avoids DS watching him - did not help DH had toileting issues himself, due to injuries, when we first started training DS. Will leave it a while and talk yet again to DH on the subject and hope DH is more comfortable in the future and if not maybe approach the male relative the DC are due to stop with much later in the year.

Have spoken to the Nursery on several occasions but they have been spectacularly unhelpful.

Will think about out doors training - had not considered mess or what happens when out and about - currently I pick him up and put him on the normal sized seats might have to think about that one a bit more.

So I will stop worrying about this for a while at least. Thank you .

[MegBusset]

DS1 is 3.11 (toilet trained at 3.2) and still always sits down to wee, I leave him to it tbh, I don't really see what difference it makes. I know more than one grown man who wees sitting down!