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Refusing to use toilet - how long should I keep going?

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Cherrybug · 20/12/2010 09:02

I dont know what to do and I'm seriously struggling to stay patient.

After some half hearted attempts with potty training we decided we really need to go for it yesterday. DD is 2.7 and I know she is ready.

We put her in pants and all day she had accidents, not one wee/poo in toilet. Today I've been putting her on the toilet and if she doesnt need a wee or poo she'll happily sit there (even without me in the bathroom). But if she does need a wee or poo she refuses to sit on the toilet saying things like, "I'll do it on saturday" or " I dont want to do that". I take her off and then a few minutes later she wees herself.

I'm finding it hard to stay patient and I dont understand how to tackle it. She does have bladder control but seems to have a fear of doing it in the toilet. I'm wondering if I should abandon the toilet and try a potty instead but i dont think I should just stop now (and I dont have a potty in the house).

I've tried offering rewards, encouraging her, reading to her on the toilet. Once shes done a wee (in her pants) she then asks for a reward and when I say she cant have one because she didnt do it in the toilet she gets upset and asks to go sit on the toilet then (when she doesnt need anything).

I dont know what to do - I'm doing it all wrong I know because I'm losing patience. I can completely handle accidents and expect them but she is deliberately refusing toilet when she needs it so its not even really an accident, more a choice. She also keeps saying she wants to put a nappy on. She clearly only feels comfortable going in a nappy so how do I change this?

Sorry for long post - Help!

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tiger66 · 21/12/2010 20:44

Go back to a nappy, don't stress about it. She will be potty trained at some point but don't get upset with her. She is clearly struggling. Maybe keep the nappies on and just get her to sit on the potty / toilet at set times and praise her whether she does anything or not. It will come

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