Where do I start?
My DD is 3.6 and will not even consider using a potty. We've encouraged/gently tried to persuade her for about 2 years now leaving potties around, explaining, books, all the stuff everyone tries and suggests but nothing. She's sat every one of her toys on the toilet training seat and, at her insistence, she accompanies me to the loo.
When she was 2.6 we moved house - bad timing but necessary - so we didn't try too hard with her then but continued to gently mention it was time to be using the potty.
She wore knickers for a day just after she turned three but told me when she was weeing rather than when she needed to (i.e too late!) so again we decided she wasn't ready and continued with the encouragement. In the meantime, she developed a mounting fear of potties/toilets and began shouting 'NO' every time we mentioned it. A couple of months ago I slowly and with bribes of stickers and small chocolates got her to sit on the potty; first fully clothed then by the second week she was putting on her knickers and pulling them down sitting on the potty, pulling them up etc. She was still in nappies permanently but when she was 'practicing' she would go without for a while and say she wanted one putting on when she needed a wee. I was thrilled to get this far and she seemed really excited by my response.
However, one morning after a particularly good, long session the evening before of her 'practicing' she totally refused to do any more and lost all interest. Tempers have mounted ever since and by last weekend I told her there were no more nappies and she'd have to wear her knickers and use the potty. I'd warned her for weeks beforehand and she said she understood but when I tried to put knickers on her she screamed and clung on to me crying. I had to give in and put her back in nappies as her distress was terrible (so was mine!).
The most frustrating thing is that I know she can control her bladder because as soon as I put a nappy on her she wee's!!!
She's not daft, has no other problems, has been to the toilet with her cousin of the same age, goes to nursery a couple of days a week....does it all! She tells me she's scared of the potty and doesn't want to be like other children, that she wants to be a baby. Bribes no longer work.
What on earth do I do?
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Scared of potty and refuses to wear knickers!
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EmmasMumHelen · 24/08/2010 17:25
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