My baby boy is 5 weeks old. I'm a first time Mum and struggling. I'd love some wise words from experienced Mum's.
We had a traumatic birth with forceps, resulting in no skin to skin at birth and a long recovery for me where I wasn't able to hold him much. He was bashed up on the way out and had a sore head. 5 weeks on and I'm on the road to recovery and with a lot of perseverance we've got breastfeeding established. He is fit and healthy.
However it's breaking my heart, and my husband's, that he doesn't seem to have bonded with us. He cries when I pick him up. He appears to find no comfort in my arms or when I talk or sing to him. He is often in an inconsolable rage that is only stopped by feeding or excessive jiggling in the sling. Sometimes he is calmed by being put down and never is calmed by being picked up and held. I'm scared to go out as after 5mins between feeding he just screams and screams and there is nothing I can do to stop him.
He seems so angry and unhappy and we are unable to console him. It's soul destroying and I'm feeling cheated by the terrible birth experience and wonder if it has set the tone for his whole life.
I'm at a loss and feel like a complete failure.
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Not bonded with newborn and its breaking my heart
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FoxgloveStar · 09/07/2016 23:12
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