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How soon after second degree tear did you have sex?

(21 Posts)
Dogprobs Wed 01-Jul-15 13:15:33

I'm 5 weeks post natal and had no issues with stitches etc. dying to get back to it (I'm not a troll!!). is it too soon? Thanks.

Lonz Wed 01-Jul-15 14:47:00

I waited about 3 months before I even wanted it with an episiotomy and 2nd degree, but even then I was worried about it. Ask at your 6 week check if all is fine. You can do it after that if you really want. There's not really any set time limit, just need to heal and be comfortable.

myneighbourtotoro2 Wed 01-Jul-15 16:05:33

It was 4 weeks for me with no problems at all , I felt fine . I wanted to after 2 weeks but was too scared .

Dogprobs Wed 01-Jul-15 16:49:59

Thank you! I think I'm gonna try tonight when dh comes home!

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Wed 01-Jul-15 16:50:53

4 weeks with a second degree tear. I found that my tear felt healed after a week or so!

Dogprobs Wed 01-Jul-15 16:53:19

I haven't noticed it at all. I am slightly worried that it will all tear apart but that's probably irrational.

AnathemaPratchett Wed 01-Jul-15 16:58:36

4 months but it hurt too much! 6 months and it was fine smile

ALittleFaith Wed 01-Jul-15 16:59:28

About 7 weeks. It was tender but not terrible.

PosterEh Wed 01-Jul-15 17:00:17

About 6 weeks. It was healed at that point but the scar tissue made things painful until about 8months.

Dogprobs Wed 01-Jul-15 21:10:50

Oh dear might change my mind then!

myneighbourtotoro2 Wed 01-Jul-15 21:17:09

Just don't go mad grin and you can always stop !

GinUpGirl Wed 01-Jul-15 21:18:02

Just use buckets of lube and go very slowly!

nottheOP Wed 01-Jul-15 21:21:04

4 weeks for a third degree tear. It was fine

LBOCS Wed 01-Jul-15 21:24:57

7 weeks for a borderline 2nd/3rd degree tear. It hurt, a lot. It was probably c. 6 months before I had no discomfort at all - but I tore up and down (front and back?!) so I think that part of the problem was that there was no idea angle which didn't put pressure on the scar.

Roseybee10 Thu 02-Jul-15 08:28:44

7 weeks with second degree tear. No pain.

5 weeks for first degree tear with no stitches. Also no pain.

Buy lube!!!

Dogprobs Thu 02-Jul-15 08:30:49

Well I tried, with lube. It hurt!!!!

Roseybee10 Thu 02-Jul-15 08:47:05

Oh dear.

Dogprobs Thu 02-Jul-15 18:57:14

Maybe I'll have better luck next week grin

drinkscabinet Thu 02-Jul-15 19:10:27

It's a case of how long is a piece of string. Depends on the tear, I had no issue with one tear but it hurt for over a year with the second. Fine now though.

Cgow Thu 02-Jul-15 22:19:55

5 weeks for me loads of lube and took it very slow romance was slightly dead the first time as I was petrified but second time was fine! No pain at all x

Dogprobs Sat 04-Jul-15 21:56:43

Thanks for the responses, my main fear is that the tear will come apart again with something going in there, with force. Superbly irrational but that's the truth! I'm desperate for it though!

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