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Fab Feb 2009 - come rain, wind or shine, we're here for each other with copious amounts of wine

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New thread for us to quaff and chat away on... though as the sun is out today suspect I'll be pootling around here on my todd for a bit

<starts arranging the deckchairs in best position to catch the sun>

swampster Thu 14-Jun-12 10:09:11

<piddles>

Not on the deckchairs Swampy!

MrsY Thu 14-Jun-12 17:05:00

Loving the new title. I was thinking along the lines of

Fab Feb 2009 - the originals and best so you'll have to come up with a new name 2011s

SilveryMoon Fri 15-Jun-12 08:54:06

Haha MrsY!
<Spots the copious amount of wine, pulls up the nearest chair> I'll be here for you all but might be a bit pissshed.

So, on our way to hospital to see specialist about Jacob's hip. Hoping for some definite answers.

SilveryMoon Fri 15-Jun-12 08:54:06

Haha MrsY!
<Spots the copious amount of wine, pulls up the nearest chair> I'll be here for you all but might be a bit pissshed.

So, on our way to hospital to see specialist about Jacob's hip. Hoping for some definite answers.

swampster Fri 15-Jun-12 13:51:41

Ooh dinky, you made the Talk Round-up!

elkiedee Fri 15-Jun-12 13:56:22

So MOS, congrats on new job, does that mean you're back in England? Sorry, I've only read the tail end of the last thread.

SM, good news about your job too.

I'm being made redundant, and feeling a bit demoralised. Also narked that I've now been waiting two weeks for the formal notice period - I think I have to go through the motions of a redeployment pool but I don't think there are many jobs going, and I'd sooner stay a legal secretary for an employer who knows what legal secretaries are than move to another dept here. The solicitor I worked for from 2006 to late 2011 (when not on maternity leave!) and briefly when he returned to work this year has had to take ill health retirement (and he has terminal cancer). So I've spent far more time than is good for me crying lately, and I want to move on.

I'd like to go away for some of the summer holidays, nowhere exciting, just to take the kids to see their grandmothers in Norfolk and Ilkley (well, actually we all get excited about going to see my mum in Ilkley, but you know what I mean!) Recently I've started to feel very aware of a need not to put off spending time with people.

swampster Fri 15-Jun-12 14:00:47

So sorry about your job, elkiedee, these are really scary times we're living in.

SilveryMoon Fri 15-Jun-12 18:01:06

sad about the job elkie

Good news re Jacob. It is Perthes that he has, but they took another x-ray today and it seems he is now in recovery. They compared today's x-ray with previous ones and the damage was quite clear and easy to see but is now starting to look better.
They want to see him in 6 months just to make sure he recovers fully and they will also take a look at Luke then too.

I saw an ex last weekend, and still can't stop thinking about him. sad Not that I want to get back with him or anything like that, it kind of made me realise how lucky I am to have dp, but I really can't stop thinking about this other guy.
I started a thread in relationships about it. link here if anyone has a spare few minutes to have a look and then give me a slap.

SilveryMoon Fri 15-Jun-12 18:05:09

Actually, do you know what? Don't bother reading that, I just read it again to myself and have given myself a slap!
I feel quite guilty thinking of this guy, and know he is an arsehole.
I think I just wish he'd want me so I could tell him to f-off and then I wouldn't always be the rejected one you know?

dinkystinky Fri 15-Jun-12 21:00:50

I'll try not to let my fifteen nanoseconds of fame go to my head Swampy grin

Elkie - so sorry to hear about your job. Fingers crossed you'll find another role somewhere else much more settled soon. I hope you manage to go to visit your family this summer - abit of sunshine with my boys and time seeing loved ones always seems to help raise my spirits, no matter what else is going on in my life, so I hope it does the trick for you.

SM - so pleased Jacob is in recovery now. And havent read your other thread but you know what, most people have an ex that treated them badly - and I bet a huge number of them would, if pressed, admit that they'd like to be chased by so they could turn the tables. It doesnt make you a bad person - it just makes you human.

oooggs Tue 19-Jun-12 17:00:22

MrsY I was thinking the same with regards to the title of our new thread grin need to read the end of the last thread to catch up!!

MrsY Wed 20-Jun-12 09:42:32

Met up with MOS yesterday and she gave me the card and gift. I'm so touched, much love and thanks to you all. We're hoping to order a bench to sit next to B's grave, and the council only allow one, astronimically priced, style! Will think of you all when we visit him and sit on the bench.

dinkystinky Wed 20-Jun-12 10:47:24

You, J, M and Peanut are all in our thoughts and hearts always MrsY - am pleased and touched that you'll be able to use what we gave you to help be with B though ggrr at the council dictating that you buy hideously expensive ones...

Those of you struggling with poos and potty training - may I recommend potty training the Tom and Jerry way? We're bribing Danny with classic episodes of Tom & Jerry (which he and DS1 love - I picked up a huge boxset of them for £25 at HMV and will last ages) if he does a poo in the potty - and its working a treat. When we've run out of Tom & Jerry will be moving on to Bugs Bunny and Daffy Duck grin

dinkystinky Wed 20-Jun-12 15:58:29

Just to bump thread again...

got our olympics tickets (off to hockey, beach volleyball and taekwondo) - boys v excited. Danny keeps talking about going to see the hookey at the Limpets, bless him.

Also v proud mum moment - Danny had his preschool boosters today and didnt bat an eyelid (DS1 was a nightmare with his and had to be caught as he pelted out the door between jabs).

SilveryMoon Wed 20-Jun-12 19:36:55

Evening.
MrsY Pleased we were able to get something together for you that you can use.
Dinky lol at your potty training technique! Good luck smile
Glad D coped ok with the jabs, ds1 didn't like them much either.

Found out yesterday that the poisonous bitch HoD at work is leaving at the end of term (probably before she's pushed, the useless, pathetic cow)! And the teacher I was with and had an issue with has been told she can't teach next year so is back to being a TA. I know it's immature but hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha grin

swampster Wed 20-Jun-12 19:46:57

Where is that 'Like' button?

dinkystinky Wed 20-Jun-12 20:13:25

Now that's what I call Karma...

oooggs Wed 20-Jun-12 21:12:14

Luke had his jabs today as well!!

Karma grin

MrsY Thu 21-Jun-12 09:29:07

You're such a big kid, SM grin

Bless Danny, bet your dh is just as excited about the beach volleyball!

M's got her jabs next Thursday - had to make sure it was a day J was off or I'd probably have wussed out of taking her!

MOSagain Fri 22-Jun-12 09:29:07

hello all,

MrsY it was so lovely to see you and M was a HUGE hit with Harrison who keeps asking to see her again.

elkie sorry about your job. Not sure what you mean about my job confused I don't have one, am still a lazy cow. Moved back to Uk almost a year ago and still trying to find my feet/job/sanity (delete as appropriate)

SM yes, you are a big kid but totally understand. Will find time later to have a read of your other thread then decide whether you need a slap or not. Am up to my ears in PTA/summer fair/auction shite at the moment which is driving me mad. Will be glad when next Friday comes and goes (hopefully sunny) and it is all over.

DD1's hawaaiin pool party tomorrow, please god don't let it rain, can't cope with 25+ teenagers in the house!

dinkystinky Fri 22-Jun-12 09:35:53

Hope L is ok after his jabs Oooggs - Danny's MMR one has come up in a huge lump so think he's having abit of a reaction to it. He's otherwise his usual rather boisterous very contrary but ultimately loveable self though grin

MOS - cant work out if you're brave or insane having 25 teenagers to your house grin Good on you for being so involved in the PTA - between work and general family life, I barely find time to bake cakes for DS1's class cake bakes so am always in awe of those who are so hand on with PTA stuff.

Danny's seeing DS1's old private speech therapist today as am abit worried about his speaking (sh is pronounced f, j is pronounced d) so we'll say what she says. Other than that, big news in the dinky household is that we're using DH's airmiles to go to Chicago in October for a long weekend without the boys - equally excited (about the prospect of lie ins which we havent both had for at least 6 years) and dreading it (as know will miss them immensely)

MrsY Fri 22-Jun-12 15:06:55

How exciting, dinky, but isn't Chicago a bit far to go for a long weekend! I was wondering the other day about taking M to a speech therapist, she gets a lot of letters wrong. She's grown out of quite a few, but still can be tough to follow if she talks quickly, which she very often does :D

MOS will keep my fingers crossed for the weather - although I think it may be an indoor pool party! Do you have any large buckets?

So, I think we should organise a proper meet-up so Merry and Harrison can get together again. Should we do summer holidays to involve all or wait till September so oldies are at school?

MOSagain Fri 22-Jun-12 15:48:04

A child free weekend? <sigh> Agree with MrsY though, a very long way to go.

H had a course of 6 speech therapy sessions and was re-assessed two weeks ago and they said he does still have a need for therapy but hope he will grow out of it as a lot of children do.

Meet up would be lovely. Only problem with September is that H will be at nursery 4 mornings a week which rather limits things!

dinkystinky Fri 22-Jun-12 16:28:51

We've done NY (both before and with kids) and DH wanted to make the most of the air miles before they disappear... so Chicago it is. We'd be over there for 4 days.

Speech therapist said alot of Danny's errors are typical for a child his age but his Sl and SW (which he pronounces as F) need some work so that's what we're going to be focussing on.

Meet up sounds lovely. D goes to nursery in September too - 2 and a half hours every day during the week...

SilveryMoon Fri 22-Jun-12 19:35:39

dinky Good for you guys re booking a long weekend alone.
MrsY MOS I'd like to see everyone again, so would be up for a summer hols meet-up, money permitting.
Luke also starts nursery in Sept, mornings. I wouldn't be able to make a term-time meet-up because of work.

MrsY Fri 22-Jun-12 21:07:39

Mondays and Tuesdays are best for us, or Thursdays at a push. We're on hol till July 19th, so late July or August is best here.

Found you!

Dinky can we sue the imposters 2011 Febbers for breach of copy-right or something?

MrsY so pleased we have been able to make a contribution towards Benedict's bench. It's nice to see you here. I am in awe of the way you are coping (is that the right thing to say?) but I know how bereavement can come in waves when you are least expecting it and although you have amazing RL support we're all always here if you want to rant and wail.

I'd love a summer hols meet up too if we can agree a date. 6 weeks sounds like such a long time but I know we'll struggle to fit everything in (especially now we have to re-arrange a visit to MIL as DS1 has won a pair of tickets to see the weightlifting at the Olympics!) The announcement that London was hosting the Olympics was made 2 days after he was born and I remember at the time thinking it didn't seem possible that he'd be 7 then. I really hoped we'd be able to take him to watch something but unfortunately we didn't get tickets in the ballot so this is fab and he is so excited!

In fact that's our third win this week in the Mirth household. Our lucky streak started last weekend at a fete where we won the Guess the Number of Sweets in the Jar competition and on Wednesday I found out we'd won a long weekend at one of the Featherdown Farm places in a Mumsnet competition. Although irritatingly, we have to take it by October and outside the school holidays.

swampster Fri 22-Jun-12 23:55:20

How about the River of Music for a meet-up?

MOSagain Sat 23-Jun-12 07:54:19

Tuesday and Thursdays are good for us. We are on holiday from 2nd - 17th August but can do pretty much any other time.
Will look at that link later swampy.

dinkystinky Sat 23-Jun-12 17:01:06

Wow that is quite some lucky streak THOM! Swampy - the river of music looks great! Am aoff work first week of August - going to the Lympets (tm Danny) for a couple of days but otherwise around.

MrsY Sat 23-Jun-12 17:37:39

Do we need to get tickets for the River of Music?

oooggs Sun 24-Jun-12 16:04:39

Luke was fine after his jabs thankfully.

MOS hope the pool party went well

Weather here is beautiful, doubt it will last hmm

swampster Sun 24-Jun-12 19:00:31

River of Music is 'free' but you have to book tickets through Ticketmaster and there is a £3 booking fee per ticket. We will be in Battersea Park on the Saturday. I would have rather gone to see Angelique Kidjo and Baaba Maal but the Africa Stage is too far east for me.

The Somerset House Europe Stage with Beverley Knight and Jools Holland sold out within minutes of being made available (small venue, big hype) and the stage with the Scissor Sisters was sold out long before I'd heard anything was going on.

dinkystinky Thu 28-Jun-12 12:12:03

Clearly everyone has been rushing out to book their Rivers of Music tickets Swampy (speaking of rivers - have you read Rivers of London by Ben Aaronovitch - may just appeal. Have just finished the third book of the series - v good) and deserting the thread

Lets see, what news from Dinky manor...Today is my 9th wedding anniversary - Danny celebrated it by getting up extra early and making me a sticklebrick flower on the play room floor hmm grin DS1 had another trial day at new school yesterday and I think he liked it - we're waiting to hear back from them. Mum and Dad are edging closer to exchange on a flat near us in London for their London pad (they're slowly coming round to the idea of moving down to London to be nearer me and my sister as its clear we're not going to move back up to Nottinghamshre in a hurry)... not much else though

SilveryMoon Mon 02-Jul-12 13:11:29

Happy belated anniversary dinky.

Nothing much going on with us, we also have an induction hour at nursery for Luke on 13th.
Been busy doing nothing as usual, you know how it is, life getting in the way!
Luke has parents evening next tuesday, so looking forward to that.

Hope everyone is well :-)

dinkystinky Mon 02-Jul-12 17:05:03

DS1 got offered a place at the new school! Now its just a case of figuring out if its the right move for him and if it is figuring out how we can get him to accept it (he's done two taster days there so hopefully he'll be ok with the move).

Danny did his trial morning at the nursery today - am going to call our nanny shortly to find out how it finished. I left half an hour in as he was mugging other children for their milk cartons blush

MOSagain Mon 02-Jul-12 18:37:11

hello all, just a flying visit. Am completely shattered after DD's school fair on Friday afternoon/evening. So much work involved and so many parents just can't be arsed to get involved which is so sad. It went really well and we are hoping to have raised over 5k, just waiting for final figures. Think I've run myself into the ground organising it though as am just exhausted now.

Any more suggestions ref summer (if you can call this poor excuse of weather we have summer) meet ups?

dinkystinky Wed 04-Jul-12 14:47:44

That's a phenomenal amount raised MOS - no wonder you're exhausted!

Where is everyone? Have you all been washed away?

Can't believe there's only a week left until the summer holidays! Not going to be much fun with the current weather.

swampster Thu 12-Jul-12 20:50:11

Don't know about anyone else but I am in bed eating Bitsa Wispa blush

I just had to Google Bitsa Wispa! Don't blame you! But can you not eat BW and Mumsnet at the same time or are you using your spare hand to fend off small boys who are trying to steal Bitsa Wispa?!

swampster Fri 13-Jul-12 10:11:40

Small boys were asleep in their own beds, DH was working downstairs and didn't know - I was hiding so I didn't have to share them with him. blush blush blush

I have been known to eat chocolate in our broom cupboard but bed much more comfy.

dinkystinky Mon 16-Jul-12 12:28:45

Lol at Swampy and her stealth chocolate munching

THOm - apparently some sun is going to appear at some point in the next couple of weeks.

Not much to report here - we've decided to leave DS1 at his current school for the timebeing as he was just so distraught at the idea of moving schools and would have been various large logistic issues to overcome if we moved him to the school he got an offer from. V worried it may be the wrong move but will see how it goes. Danny is starting at the nursery at that school in September so will be interesting to see how he gets on there.

MOSagain Wed 18-Jul-12 14:24:24

hello all, hope everyone doing ok.
dinky can I ask, why were you going to move DS1? I can imagine most children wouldn't want to move once they are settled, is he year 1 at the moment or reception? We had the offer of a place at a 'free school' a month or so ago which we'd applied for 18 months ago for last September but didn't get in then. They then found a place but we decided not to move DD as she is so happy and settled where she is. So is Danny going to the nursery at the school DS1 is at now or where offered? Such a difficult decision.

Life is shite here. Won't bore you all but things very very bad at home with (not so D) H. I'm suffering from a lot of stress/anxiety (lost 7lb in a week which I shouldn't really complain about). Have been having awful migraines whcih I thought down to stress so just went to see Dr.
A little bit worried as blood pressure very high (he did it twice just to double check) and although at first the GP seemed to acknowledge that it was migraines brought on by stress (had 5 in one week) he then started asking a lot more questions then said he wanted to go and talk to other doctors.

He then came back and said he didn't like the sound of it, the migraines didn't fit the 'normal' pattern in that they came on so suddenly with no warning (normally get funny lights/blurred vision etc) so he has made an urgent referral for me to have a CT scan. A bit panicked by this and him saying if I have one more, or am sick or feel confused I must go straight to A & E.

Anyway, thats my news, I've been told to try to keep calm and not get stressed. whats the chances of that when school breaks up on Friday?

Hope everyone is enjoying the lovely weather. Rumour has it there will be a change in the airstream soon and summer will officially arrive. Fingers crossed it happens by Friday as DD is having a pool party and has invited 28 little darlings!

dinkystinky Wed 18-Jul-12 14:42:14

Hi MOS - there were a few reasons we were thinking of moving DS but the main reason is that his teacher back in April called us in to say she was really worried about DS1's lack of concentration in class and his lack of confidence. One thing she said was that he definitely seemed to concentrate better in smaller classes so we were looking at a school with much smaller class sizes. However the entire school we were looking him to move to was smaller than DS1's year size - if it had been growing the school a year at a time (as we were originally told) we'd have been fine with it but they decided only to go up to year 3 and then mve them to a sister school and I thought two school moves in 2 years would be too traumatic for DS1 (who is a sociable easy going little boy who really loves his friends). Anyway we're keeping it under review to see if we still need to move him in future. And yes, Danny starts at nursery at his current school in the autumn term (quite when is anyone's guess!).

So sorry to hear about things being so bad at home and the stress/headaches sound awful! I thought you were undergoing counselling a while back - has that stopped now? I'm glad your GP is being proactive and keeping a close eye on things but cant be helping your stress levels any. Fingers crossed for sun at some point this summer!

SilveryMoon Sun 22-Jul-12 00:56:38

mos whrn's the ct? I'm sure you're fine but good that the gp is pudhing to make sure.

dinkystinky Sun 22-Jul-12 22:54:27

How was the river of music swampy? You lucked out on the weather! Just had lovely weekend in new forest with the boys - went there for an assessment fir ds1 but due to lovely weather got in some lovely forest walks and beach action too!

swampster Sun 22-Jul-12 23:15:33

It was lovely, lovely, lovely! A really nice start to the summer holiday.

dinkystinky Mon 23-Jul-12 10:44:38

So pleased you had an excellent time!

rosieposey Tue 24-Jul-12 20:30:14

Hello smile Found you all! It's quite confusing with another fab Feb thread going as well.

Its too hot today - will be quite glad when this weather breaks this weekend - I've always been rubbish in the heat though.

How is everyone? I do check in every so often but it seems the longer i leave it to post the harder it is to catch up but i have a pretty good idea anyway.

MOS hope your CT scan goes ok. I think it is just precautionary and your GP is just being sensible, better that than something be missed iyswim and plus stress can be a terrible thing I'm so sorry you are going through it so much at the moment.

Well I'm 18 weeks pg now with my 2nd DS - struggling a bit with the diabetes and keeping it under control as it goes a bit silly when im pg. Have been feeling really low this time too which is crap as i'm not usually that sort of person. DH lost his job two months ago and is going hammer and tongs to find another but despite having two interviews nothing has come up as yet and its tough out there. Perhaps that's why i feel so shit hope something breaks soon for us though as we might be in a bit of trouble by the time the baby comes!

Dinky it was three weeks ago or so but hope you had a wonderful time on your anniversary smile

Milo still in nappies at night although pretty much mastered the day stuff - only just though, we still have a few problems if he wears trousers over his pants as its a bit of a faff for him to get them down too - am glad its summer and he should have cracked it by Autumn i think. He for some reason won't ask when we are out of the house for the toilet so in nappies for trips out too but i think that will come as well - just glad he knows when to go at home for the time being.

Hope you are all enjoying this weather and am v jealous of MOS's pool envy I would be in it literally all the time! Cold showers are the way to go for me at the moment, i know i shouldn't complain as its been horrid up till now with floods and all sorts.

rosieposey Tue 24-Jul-12 20:33:54

Sorry pressed post too soon - meant to say as well hello to anyone else i forgot, MrsY , Swampster, HouseofMirth and SilveryMoon (sorry if i forgot anyone else) The river of music looks great fun - hope whoever goes gets to enjoy this sun and the music!

dinkystinky Wed 25-Jul-12 09:48:10

Hi Rosie - lovely to see you on (and thanks for the lovely anniversary wishes - had a great time thanks) but so sorry that you and DH have had such a horrible and trying time of late. Keeping everything crossed that something comes up on the job front for DH soon and things get much easier! Sorry to hear you're struggling with diabetes again in this pregnancy - hope it manages to stay under control. I dont envy you being pregnant in this heat!

I dont know if you're doing it (or managing to find any time for yourself with 4 DC already!) but I really found pregnancy yoga (you could get a dvd from the library) and hypnobirthing massively helped up my mood when pregnant with Danny. Sounds like Milo is going great guns on the toilet training - Danny is v similar (still in nighttime nappies but fine with that). We found trackie bums (rather than normal trousers) or pull up shorts that are easy to get up and down himself helped with taking himself off to the loo.

SilveryMoon Wed 25-Jul-12 10:02:11

rosie Good to see you. Sorry to hear you guys are having a rough time atm, but I'm sure things will pick up soon, they always do. Things will get easier and I'm sure dh will find a job.
I am with you completely on the heat thing. I HATE summer, I really struggle to cope in this weather, it's just too hot. I also don't like the boys to be out when it's this hot. We went shopping in Kingston yesterday, I'd covered them in sun block but a few hours later they both had red patches on the back of their necks and Luke's come out all blotchy again. We think they might be something in sunblock that irritates him, it's the only time he gets a breakout of eczema when we've used suncream.

Ds1's 5th birthday next weekend and am arranging a little get together with some friends. We don't have a garden (1st floor flat) but there is a big patch of grass next to our building which I have asked people to come to. Gonna set up a table of food and we have a box full of outside toys that me and the boys take down there when it's nice.

dinkystinky Wed 25-Jul-12 13:52:56

Look on the brightside SM - the rain is due back on Friday grin My friend is allergic to the sun so you and your boys have my sympathies. I've taken to dressing Danny in UV resistant tops to avoid the inevitable sunscreen related meltdowns. Your plans for DS1's birthday sound lovely - hope it all goes brilliantly.

MOSagain Tue 31-Jul-12 15:16:20

hello all, sorry, have been AWOL for a while. RL and all that.

rosie good to see you, hope you get the diabetes under control and things work out ok for you and DH.

silverymoon hope DS1's party goes well, sounds like a good idea, will keep fingers crossed for you for the weather.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Real life is shite at the moment. 3 weeks and 4 days ago I finally found out that DH had been having an affair. I'd had suspicions since December when I saw an 'inappropriate' message from a woman on his FB when he'd left his laptop open. I wasn't even sneaking/checking, just going to desk to get some paper and it was there sad
Confronted him that night and he said it was nothing, just an old friend, nothing going on, in my imagination etc etc and that I was paranoid. We started counselling in March and as far as I'm concerned, that has been a complete lie. I still had suspicions and 3 weeks 4 days ago (when will I stop counting?) I emailed and asked him outright. He bullshitted for a while and woudn't answer straight questions but eventually he admitted that he'd 'seenn someone else a few times a while ago'. Turns out that whilst I was in KSA he'd re-connected with an old work friend on FB, they started emailing and then FB each other and the emails then turned to a sexual nature. At some point they then arranged to meet when he was back in the UK on business. His business was in Hampshire, our house in Sussex but he travelled up to London to meet her and spent 2 nights in a hotel.

I could almost sort of understand if he'd bumped into her at a works party and it 'happened' but he planned it. He admits 'chasing/persuing' her for months and then booked the hotel at least a week in advance. The sex was in May 2010 but they carried on an email/fb flirting/sexual exchange relationship up until Dec when I found his fb messages. He closed his account the next day after I found the message back in December and apparently told her that he thought I was on to them. He claims he has not seen her since but was still exchanging 'how are you?' emails until a month or so ago.

Long story short, I threw him out when it happened (with a black eye), he went to his mums' for a few days but then I let him come back (for kids really) and also, if he was in a hotel/apartment I'd constantly be worrying/wondering who he was with, was he emailing/texting her etc.

Things are shit. we are trying to work it out but I'm struggling. Can't believe he did this. Harrison was a baby sad
Going to Florida on Thursday and feel all over the place as its our wedding anniversary whilst we are there and it would be our first one ever together in 7 years of marriage as we'd always been apart for the summers. I feel the last 2 1/2 years have been a lie. Fucking fuckwit angry

Well, thats my news. Think SM and Rosie knew but have been too ashamed, embarrassed until now to come and talk to you guys.

Hope everyone is doing ok x

dinkystinky Tue 31-Jul-12 15:58:16

Oh my god MOS! Am so so so sorry you're going through all of this shit - he really is a fuckwit of the highest order. Am sending you industrial quantities of hugs and support. YOU have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of - I am absolutely livid on your behalf. I really hope you know we're here for you, whatever you want, whenever you want us. Let me know if there's anyuthign I can do.

MOSagain Tue 31-Jul-12 16:24:31

Thank you dinky, that is so kind of you. You'd think he'd be a bit more sensible than to do that bearing in mind I was a divorce lawyer for 10 years! wink Early days, will see how it goes and if I feel I can 'move on' which at the moment I don't think I can as its all I think about first thing in the morning, last thing at night and pretty much every hour in between

SilveryMoon Fri 03-Aug-12 08:16:15

MOS I'm reaaly sad that you fell ashamed and embarrassed. We are your friends. No one here will judge you or your decisions, we will support you in whatever you decide to do.
It's not your fault that he took things to that level. A little bit of flirting or whatever is one thing, but he decided to continue to the next level.
I'm really sorry you have to go through all of this.
As dinky says, we are here. All of us, all of the time.

Calico1 Fri 03-Aug-12 11:20:42

MOS so very sorry to hear your news sad. You must be so angry and hurt - what a total shit!! I can't believe that he could risk his family life for a quick fling. You have nothing at all to be ashamed about but he certainly has. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Sending loads of hugs over to you. xx

Sad news here too, MIL died on Monday. She had been ill with leukemia for a long time but it was still a terrible shock for DH. He was with her when she died and he is reeling from the horror of her last hours - sadly it wasn't a peaceful end.
We've told the kids, DS was really upset but ok now but Lilian doesn't really understand that she won't see her again. Funeral is next Friday which is going to be pretty traumatic as FIL, DH and his brother are all totally distraught and not coping at all well.

dinkystinky Fri 03-Aug-12 11:23:26

Oh Calico - I'm so sorry to hear aboutyour MIL too. Sending you and your family big hugs and support x

Calico1 Fri 03-Aug-12 11:37:36

Rosie
Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time too. Hope things take a turn for the better very soon. There's not much good news on this thread at the moment is there....

Calico1 Fri 03-Aug-12 11:38:09

Thanks Dinky

SilveryMoon Fri 03-Aug-12 11:55:27

Oh Calico I am so sorry to hear about your MIL. Your poor DH having to see that.
sad
How awful.
We do really need some good news soon don't we?

dinkystinky Fri 03-Aug-12 13:22:39

Definitely much need for wine (non alcoholic for our Rosey of course) on this thread of late

Am really hoping everyone's fortunes start picking up soon - 2012 has been a dog of a year so far for so many hasnt it sad

MrsY Sat 11-Aug-12 14:25:56

2012 sucks. Need to fast-forward to NYE.

Big hugs to Calico and family. Will be thinking of you all and your MIL.

MOS, you poor love. DH is a totally fuckwhit to do that. Remember you have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of. Big squeezes - hope the holiday helps and we'll of course be here to hold your hands whatever you want in the future. x

oooggs Mon 13-Aug-12 20:13:42

oh calico I am so very sorry that your dh and family are struggling this way. I hope the funeral goes as well as it can and that things get easier over time. I have no experience of this so can't advise sad

MOS!!!!!! I am shocked and I have no words to say and like the others have said, we are hear and no we don't judge. FB, cat, pm me anytime and just to make you laugh I am very envy that you in Florida wink

Calico1 Mon 13-Aug-12 22:39:11

Thanks guys - your kind words are greatly appreciated as always. Spent the weekend staying with FIL, DH and BIL. To be honest I am so glad to be home now but really feel sad for them all. Funeral wasn't as grim as I thought it would be - the sun was shining and loads of DH's friends were there so it made a sad day bearable.

MrsY - I totally agree with you, roll on 2013.

MOS how are you doing? xx

elkiedee Thu 16-Aug-12 13:41:10

Sorry to hear everyone else's miserable news - nothing very cheerful to add here - I'm still enduring working out my notice though looking forward to taking all my outstanding annual leave while the childminder's away next week, with a trip to Norfolk (dp's mum) and a week in Ilkley lined up, yay!

My boss sadly died on 10 July. So many people went from here to his funeral that there was a bus from here to take them!

I'm looking forward to leaving here for good next month.

MOS, sorry to hear about your husband's behaviour, and rosey and calico, I hope things pick up for you soon. There's actually a thread on what a terrible year this has been for a number of mners, I can only say reading it all the bad things for me this year have begun to seem a bit less awful. I hope the bad stuff stops happening soon, but I'm sure that even if it doesn't I will be happier working from home and spending some more time with the monsters, or temping, or whatever I decide to do in the end.

dinkystinky Mon 20-Aug-12 13:57:31

Elkie - so sorry to hear your boss passed away and you're still in flux over the job situation but hope you have lovely breaks away. We've just been in france for a week - was lovely and relaxing but sooooo hot (44 degrees one day!) so didnt do much at all. I have the fun end of holiday task of taking DS1 off to go get circumcised (to hopefully put an end to his recurrent balanitis) this evening - am trying to downplay it rather so DS1 doesnt freak out about it. The dog of a year that is 2012 continues though as heard last night that my SIL lost her baby (and ended up in hospital needing a transfusion so all v dramatic and traumatic) and my lovely neighbour's little baby born a couple of weeks ago has just been diagnosed with downs syndrome which wasnt picked up at all on any of her screenings so has come as a total shock to the family.

MOSagain Tue 21-Aug-12 15:59:05

hello all.
FFS, this has been a bastard of a year for a lot of us. So sad about your SIL's baby and your neighbours. Not bloody fair.

calico and rosie hope things better for you.

Bastard bloody shite life for so many of us.
Not much news from me. Back from USA Sunday after a very up and down holiday. We had good moments but I'm still so very very sad and can't believe he could have done this. I'd asked him the night before we left for 100% truth. If there was anything else he'd done, no matter how petty it might be I wanted to know. He said nothing so I was prepared to consider drawing a line under it and trying to move on.
so, get back Sunday am and whilst he was in garden I went to sign into my FB account but his opened automatically. Of course, being the suspicous wife I couldn't help looking and found other 'stuff'.
I found what I consider 'inappropriate' chats last summer between him and a woman that he worked with around 15 years ago. Turns out they'd had a sexual relationship (even though SHE was married) - he said they didnt' actually have sex but everything but. Anyway, turns out they'd been writing to each other for a while when he was first in Saudi and in the messages he mentioned her letters which meant a lot to him and which were so special. He referred to a time when he and I had moved compounds when DD was only a few months old (so around 5 1/2 years ago when we'd not been married long) when i'd found some letters but not read them and he told her that he'd hidden them from me as they were special and private and I had the impression he still read them and thought of her.

he also said he'd been looking at her photos and some were a little saucy and implied he'd like to see more. I was really gutted by that as he had promised there was nothing else and even though he hadn't seen her since we were married I felt that him writing to her in FB chats in that way was really upsetting and inappropriate. This led to a huge row and I threw him out.

That afternoon I was going through other FB chat messages between him and the whore he'd slept with (who it turns out was his ex wife's best friend who was bridesmaid at their wedding!) and even though he told me the sex was around may 2010 and a few months later he decided/realised it was wrong and would not continue he was still having extremely explicit sexual conversations with her. When I was in the UK last summer he was on FB with her many times at night talking about what he wanted to do with her and w***ing whilst talking online to her. Made me sick.

I let him come back yesterday for tea and to see the kids and he asked if he could use my pc to close his facebook account (he can't do it at work) and I made him read what I'd read. He didn't want to but I made him and he went grey and said he felt sick and disgusted reading that.

He admits that if I'd done that it would be over but wants a 2nd/3rd chance.
I'm going to see how it goes but really don't see how I can ever trust him again.
its not just the sex with the other woman. Its the betrayal, the lies and the criticism of me to several women. He said I was high maintenance, difficult to be with, and several other things. Also, the worst thing was when he was 'chatting' to the woman he slept with and saying he was moving back to the UK (I was already back here last summer) she asked about meeting up and said they would meet up wouldn't they but in a safe place? (I think she meant in public so they couldn't be tempted) He said, no, not a safe place and she said 'but you are married' and he replied 'oh yeah, I forgot, tee hee'. That to me was the worst thing, I feel he was laughing at me.

Anyway, thats me, hope everyone else is doing ok and enjoying the summer.
Was there ever any talk of a meet up with or without kids?

dinkystinky Tue 21-Aug-12 17:15:04

Oh MOS, (((hugs))). I cant believe what an imbecilic fuckwit your DH has been and is continuing to be in not being straight with you. Am so sorry the holiday was up and down and so so sorry you found more stuff to make you distrust him even more. Are you guys still going to counselling? Do you think talking about all of this with the counsellor might help clarify what you want. What has he done to make you believe he is worth giving a 2nd/3rd chance? Does he realise the impact of what he has done?

SilveryMoon Thu 23-Aug-12 09:08:19

Fucking hell MOS What a fucking dirty, prick.
Fucking scumbag.
I'd be really angry too. The bit about 'forgetting' being married is a harsh, horrid, spiteful joke.
Arsehole.

MOSagain Thu 23-Aug-12 18:03:05

SM I love you in a non lesbian way grin
Funnily enough, that is the bit that I think hurt the most sad

SilveryMoon Thu 23-Aug-12 19:44:34

I love you too. All of you. You've all been here for me when I've needed a rant, we've all been here for each other, really hurts to see you being treated like this.
That bit would hurt me the most too. Think I could just about handle the physical element of cheating, if it was done on impulse, not planned and if he was remorseful, but the emotional element? Very hard.
But we've all been here for 4 years (just over) and I know that you are a strong woman and you will get through this, one way or another.
{{hugs}}

MarkStretch Fri 24-Aug-12 08:38:13

I love you all too x

dinkystinky Fri 24-Aug-12 15:39:27

I'll join the Fab Feb love-in - love you all too
x

dinkystinky Fri 31-Aug-12 11:13:38

<<wades through the cobwebs>>

Where is everybody?

SilveryMoon Sat 01-Sep-12 09:24:05

I'm lurking. Just waiting for someone to say something!
How are you?

Can't believe that Luke starts school nursery in a few weeks! I've got all his uniform, pe kit, shoes etc. tried it all on to make sure it all fits, but now need to try it all on together.
Back at work Tuesday, can't wait!

dinkystinky Sat 01-Sep-12 19:38:56

Hi SM! Good luck with the return to work and Luke's start at school nursery. Danny starts (mornings only) on 19 September - he's very excited! We had to buy him dark shoes for school and he proudly wears them everyday and tells everyone he meets they are school shoes for nursery. They recommend school uniform for nursery but its not compulsory (apart from pe kit and bookbag) so that's all I'm buying for him for now. Ds1 has been ill with temperature for 5 days now. My lovely sister took DH and I to watch Patrick Wolf on Wednesday which was fun, and have been being immersed in paralympics themed stuff this weekend - DH and I went to Queen Elizabeth Hall to watch Everlyn Glennie (deaf drummer from the Olympics opening ceremony) in a dance/drum thing which was fabulous and the first performance of the british Paraorchestra which felt very special and then took the boys and my parents and DH to the O2 arena today to watch wheelchair basketball which was v exciting (watched the US decimate Mexico in the women's preliminary match and US decimate South Africa in the men's match - sensing a theme here?). Other than that, not much more to report here.

SilveryMoon Sat 01-Sep-12 20:20:09

Bless Danny. Luke's got afternoons, he was excited until we bumped into the teacher in Tesco today, since then he's been saying he wants to stay at home!
Luke's nursery is a compulsory uniform. Proper shirt, tie and all that.
Hope J feels better soon sad poor man.

I've not got into any of the olympics at all, but sounds like you've been busy smile

dinkystinky Sun 02-Sep-12 21:13:37

We've really enjoyed it SM!

Took DS1 (who finally seems to be getting better) and Danny to watch The Tiger Who Came To Tea today (which made me think of SummerRain!) which Danny especially adored then went to watch Picadilly Circus Circus (big festival of circus perfomers and skills down Regent Street) which was a lovely end to the summer holidays. Hope everyone's little one's returns to school - or starts to school - go well.

MOSagain Mon 03-Sep-12 18:53:59

We were due to go and see the Milkshake live tour this afternoon but sods law, got a call from H's nursery at lunchtime, not long before I was due to pick him up to say he'd fallen and hurt his arm.

Fast forward a few hours in A & E and he is home with a plaster cast sad Feel so very sad for him, it was so awful watching him in so much pain at hospital when they kept moving his arm to do xrays and he was screaming in agony. Have to go to a different hospital on wed am to see the ortho specialist. Felt sad for DD for missing out on show although thankfully it was a suprise and I hadn't told her we were going.

SilveryMoon Mon 03-Sep-12 19:44:43

Oh poor H. Hope he's ok. x

dinkystinky Tue 04-Sep-12 22:51:58

Aah, poor H - really hope he feels better soon. The amazing thing about 3 year olds is how resilient they are and how incredibly quickly they recover - he'll be swinging again from the chandeliers in no time, honest.

Calico1 Wed 05-Sep-12 09:16:09

MOS poor little H!

All quiet here DS back at school and Lilian at nursery. Unusually I don't have any work to do this week so an unexpected day off! I can't remember the last time I had a whole day to myself to do as I pleased - literally years ago. Feeling a little guilty....

dinkystinky Wed 05-Sep-12 10:42:16

Enjoy your day of peace and quiet - and the sunshine - today Calico!

SilveryMoon Wed 05-Sep-12 20:00:21

Hope you enjoyed your day of peace Calico. Don't feel guilty, you deserve it I'm sure. smile

MOSagain Thu 06-Sep-12 09:35:42

hello all.
H had his arm checked at the fracture clinic yesterday and they don't think it is too bad now. Tiny hairline fracture and ligament damage so they just put a cast on for 2 weeks.
He is very excited as he is seeing Merry today (MrsY's gorgeous little girl) who he met earlier in the year and took a bit of a shine to wink

DD2 went back to school yesterday and seems happy enough so hopefully we can get back to a normal routine and see how things go.

Had a 'solo' session with the counsellor DH and I had been seeing last night and am working through things. How to learn to trust again (if ever!) is the biggest issue. DH is seeing a male counsellor on his own tomorrow am to try to identify why he did what he did. I insisted on it, he needs to work out why to stop it happening again. watch this space. I've made it clear that if he so much as lies to me again or flirts with another woman I will make a pair of earrings out of his testicles.

Hope everyone is doing ok and those with DC starting school and nursery are settling well x

dinkystinky Thu 06-Sep-12 11:56:50

HI MOS - glad that H's arm is not as bad a feared. He'll heal in no time. Am sure Merry will enjoy playing nurse grin

dinkystinky Mon 10-Sep-12 10:09:24

Wotcha all - hope everyone enjoyed the sun over the weekend. We were in the New Forest for DS1's dyspraxia appointment so managed to combine that with some nice beach action. Danny still ill - seems fine for a day or so then bam, high temperatures and poor little man looking v poorly.

Had some fab news - old mate of mine who has been trying for a second child (oldest is same age as DS1) for years is finally pregnant - with twins! So pleased for her - though think she and her DH are in shock.

SilveryMoon Tue 11-Sep-12 18:56:11

Awww, that's great news for your friend dinky
How did the appointment go?

Luke starts nursery next tuesday and is really looking forward to it!
Work's ok, very busy and I'm a bit stressed, but it'll settle down.

Had a lovely weekend, spent saturdsay at the pub and sunday recovering! lol

dinkystinky Wed 12-Sep-12 10:59:26

Hope Luke's start at nursery goes well SM and work settles down - Danny starts next Friday and keeps asking when he wakes up if its today he starts nursery! Appointment went ok - DS1's muscle tone is getting better but he has real issues with focussing (convergence) which is making reading and writing so much harder for him than it should be (am so proud of him that despite this he really tries and claims to love reading!) - we've got some exercises for him for the next couple of months but I'm fully aware its going to be a long old slog for my darling boy to help him get to the point where it isnt an issue.

dinkystinky Thu 13-Sep-12 11:43:18

Hello all - we had our nursery home visit today. To say I am umimpressed is an understatement - two TAs who called Danny by the wrong name, hadnt been briefed on the new nursery opening times and who were more interested in talking over Danny than interacting with him. Am going to see how he gets on with the nursery when he starts - can only hope it will improve from hereonin.

SilveryMoon Thu 13-Sep-12 20:59:38

Doesn't sound good dinky. Fingers crossed the nursery will be better.

dinkystinky Sun 16-Sep-12 21:48:14

Am a v proud mummy today - ds1 performed in hip hop dance show at local fair today (with only one rehearsal this morning) and did brilliantly! Then saw 2 old uni mates and their kids (one a 15 year old I remember being born when i was at uni!) randomly which was lovely if unexpected!

SilveryMoon Tue 18-Sep-12 17:41:17

Awww, well done to J for performing well.

Luke had his first day at proper (school) nursery today. he's going in the afternoons. Looks so grown up in his uniform!

dinkystinky Wed 19-Sep-12 10:50:48

Good luck to Luke for this afternoon! Cant believe our Fab Feb babies are already off to school...

MOSagain Thu 20-Sep-12 13:29:09

hello all, hope everyone doing ok?
dinky glad DS1 did well in his dance show.

SM they do look so grown up don't they. Harrison started 'yellow nursery' (colour of sweatshirt!) this week, 9 - 3 Tues, Wed and Thurs which is lovely and will give me some real quality time to catch up on so many things that have been neglected over recent months.
H's plaster cast came off last night and he is loving having his arm back.

Things 'okish' here, lots of ups and downs but I've still not made a decison about which way to go moving forward. Still HUGE trust issues and sadly I don't think that will ever change.

Don't forget everyone, MrsY's charity auction for SANDS is this weekend, from 8pm Friday to 8pm Monday. Have a look at her FB page, lots of lovely lots on there

dinkystinky Fri 21-Sep-12 11:31:34

Sorry things are still so uncertain for you MoS - hope FW is at least realising what a horrible mess of things he's made. Thanks for reminder about MrsY's auction - will pop on tonight to bid.

Am soooooooooo sad, Danny started nursery this morning. Feel like my baby is growing up way too fast. Obvious solution would be to have another one of course grin Though, while it feels like EVERYONE I come across is pregnant, that elusive pregnancy fairydust seems to be giving the dinky household a miss for now

MOSagain Fri 21-Sep-12 13:29:05

LOL at dinky I was saying to a friend just this morning she should have another as her twin boys aged 3 have just started nursery! Do you want another one though?

Thanks for your kind words. A lot of the time I do want to make it work but not sure if thats just due to having the DC. The rest of the time I feel so sad/angry/upset/devestated (delete as appropriate on day) that he could have done that to me and the very cynical part of me (99% at moment) doesn't believe that he could love me as much as he says he does if he did that sad

I got it wrong about MrsY's auction, its now running from 8pm tonight for NINE days not two (although I said 3 earlier!) blush

dinkystinky Fri 21-Sep-12 14:28:16

Oh MoS, sending you big hugs my dear. You sound so sad, and lonely, which is just not right.

Re a third, I veer between wanting a third and thinking actually life is finally back to normal now with two boys and is it just biological clock saying go for no 3. DH desperately wants a third though.

dinkystinky Fri 21-Sep-12 14:29:00

Meant to say - being sad and lonely when in a relationship is just not right, not what you're feeling is just not right. Hopefully you knew what I meant!

MOSagain Fri 28-Sep-12 17:36:39

did my gloomy conversation kill the thread? sad

Hope everyone is doing ok?
Don't forget Mrs Y's charity auction for SANDS ends this Sunday evening
<ps dinky are you really bidding on that outfit??>

SummerRain Fri 28-Sep-12 23:40:12

<<<slinks in>>>

sorry all, had my head buried in coursework and had let this drop right off the bottom of my TIO list. Was reminded tonight to hunt it down thanks to swampy being utterly lovely and helping me out <<<send wine in swampy's direction>>>

Have only skimmed the thread but MOS... hope H's arm is ok.

Calico1 Mon 01-Oct-12 09:55:18

Morning all, and hello SR!!

I must admit I haven't posted much on here for a while but I do lurk a bit...

SR hope the course is going ok? When do you finish?
I'm thinking of going back to study next year when Lilian goes to off to school (if I can afford the fees / childcare, etc), though DH is not convinced....

The SANDS auction went brilliantly smile. Lots of hugs to MrsY!!!

SummerRain Mon 01-Oct-12 11:29:57

Hey Calico, I have an exam on the 12th and then I get my first bit of time off in years .I've been cramming in modules back to back to try and get the degree by 2014 but at the expense of any breaks so I'm totally burned out tbh. It'l be my first Christmas since before A was born that I'm not trying to mix textbooks and festivities so I'm really looking forward to it grin

I'd say go for it if you want to do it.... It's amazing how much more enjoyable and rewarding studying is when you take it on as an adult. What are you planning on studying?

Calico1 Tue 02-Oct-12 11:16:20

SR good luck with your exam! You deserve some time off too....I don't know how you fit it all in.

I'm thinking of doing a 1 year post-grad teaching qualification but it seems that the nearest place I can apply to is a bit too far away to be practical. I'm fed up with freelancing and want to apply myself to something different but can't work out the studying around school drop off and pick ups <<sigh>>

oooggs Tue 02-Oct-12 19:54:45

Hi all

Nothing changed here with Luke and nursey, he is still doing the same sessions he started at Easter. But..... The oline thingy is now open to apply for his school place!!

SCHOOL!! I am not ready for my last born to go to school, even if he is wink

SummerRain Tue 02-Oct-12 21:49:03

I feel your pain ooogs, I was discussing options with A's SALT today as she thinks he may be better in a specialist SALT class but it's an hour away. I'm not ready for that decision.... He's my baby! What if he gets sick and has to wait for me to get there? But it has a class size of 7, he'd be with other kids like him, they have psychologists, OT and SALT on site........ [wibble]

I can't even wrap my head around the thought of him being in school this time next year!

oooggs Wed 03-Oct-12 06:43:16

Yes we try so hard to make the best decisions for our children but sometimes decisions are made years ago and we just have to follow.

We chose a school for ds1 6 years ago and the rest of the children just follow suit, whether it is the best for them or not. (Blimey 4 children at 4 different schools would just be undoable at primary age!!)

I hope decisions regarding A become easier. Such pressure for us parents grin

SummerRain Wed 03-Oct-12 23:14:34

Until yesterday I hadn't even considered him going anywhere other ever than across the road to the village school. Hopefully he'll take it into his head to start attempting a few of his missing sounds soon and I won't have to make a decision!

I had to bring him to the doc yesterday as he's been withholding poo so hes on movicol for the next few months. Honestly, this child is the best contraceptive... The thought of having another as complicated as hI'm would put me off sex for life grin

oooggs Thu 04-Oct-12 07:30:37

Lol summer rain, children are by far the best contraceptive ever grin

MOSagain Thu 04-Oct-12 10:15:59

oh gosh yes school! We need to think about registering now don't we? Pretty sure with DD we got sent a form to do it but better double check

Hope everyone is doing ok? still plodding on here, very up and down. Have thrown myself into organsising the school christmas fair and my two adult education classes to keep busy.

dinkystinky Thu 04-Oct-12 11:35:26

Hello all - lovely to see you chatting away on the thread! Yes MOS I bid for the ladybird outfit (and won it) for DH's niece - though suspect Danny will commandeer it when he sees it (he likes dressing up, all things shiny and beautiful, my very own little metrosexual!). He's started at nursery at the local primary school (which DS1 is at - its in special measures and about to be forced to turn into an academy) so am rather humming and hahhing about what to do re school place applications. But DS1 loves it there and Danny seems to be really loving it - and loves having little friends to have round/go to for playdates locally - so will probably end up sending him there too.

Calico - the course sounds a great idea and am really hoping you can make it work. Is there a distance learning option for at least part of it to make it work?

SR - sorry to hear about A's poo with-holding: really hope the movicol helps (and soon!). Danny and poos - the Tom and Jerry method of potty training seems to make him do 4 or 5 poos a day in the potty. DS1 went through a poo withholding stage (always did them in his nappy at night) and we adjusted his diet to include lots of dates, plums and prunes and plenty of vit c to help try to keep him regular, and the stools soft - and plenty of warm baths (two a day) seemed to help loosen up things inside. Good luck on the school decision - it is so hard.

MoS - sorry to hear things are still up and down. What 2 courses are you doing? <nosey emoticon>

MOSagain Thu 04-Oct-12 18:10:06

dinky I got the yummy dinners wink
Shocking that we have to think about applying for 'big' school now. Must make a diary note..

SR H was poo with-holding for a while but it seems (touches wood) in the past two weeks he has suddenly got the hang of it and is happily pooing on the toilet.

Things still up and down but I think I've almost reached my decision. I'm feeling stronger about making my decision for ME moving forward and several people have commented about how much more positive I am. I've been told to build up my support network which I'm working on

dinky, courses are BSL level 2 (I did level one about 9 years ago) and arabic!

oooggs Thu 04-Oct-12 19:24:48

Poo all fine here!! But dd just been referred for a wee problem. She is 5.5 and doesn't drink much (there lies the problem) and therefore her bladder doesn't like the concentrated wee so it tends to spit a bit out!!

So her knickers look like they have been dipped in lucozade and have a tide mark round them by the end of the day!!!!! Very yuk & smelly sad

So she has to have 5 drinks of 200ml a day to dilute her wee and stretch her bladder. Which for her is very very hard (her twin drinks loads)

So we are working on it

mOS staying positive is good and rl and online networks are invaluable for us all to survive, keep building

Dinky- a lot of schooling is about happiness, happy children learn so like you say, it is a big factor

I don't have to choose a school as really hoping Luke gets into the one his 3 siblings go to but it isn't guaranteed

SummerRain Thu 04-Oct-12 22:01:34

Ooogs, do you have any tips for getting drinks into small stubborn people? A and dd are both really bad drinkers and between bedwetting dd and spending 2 hours a day trying to get A's movical down him I'm at the end of my tether with it!

Mos, glad to hear you're focussing on yourself for once, make decisions based on whats best for your happiness and let FW work on himself for once smile

Hey dinky... Ds1 was like your ds1... He used to save them for the night nappy (sod!) but at least he was still doing them.... Until he had the movicol A had gone over a week and was leaking poo [boak]

Tomorrow week is my exam... I'm buried under a pile of books and being a truely godawful mother atm. My house is filthy and the kids are living on carp. Have to keep reminding myself it'll be worth it in the end.

SummerRain Thu 04-Oct-12 22:03:48

Carp grin they'd probably prefer that, they love fish. Gotta love autocorrect.

dinkystinky Fri 05-Oct-12 10:28:23

Oooggs - would pantyliners help with your dd and her wee issues? My friend at school had something similar and pantyliners (not scented ones, just plain ones) were a godsend for her.

SR - poor A (and poor you): sounds super grim! Danny's not a great drinker but eats tonnes of fruit and veg (lots of water in them) and likes smoothies. He also loves flavoured water (panda water apple flavour is his favourite) so we give him that (I buy it on special offer when I can) or use a fun frog water bottle with a pop up straw that he likes to play with to encourage him to drink.

Good luck for your exams SR - I truly am in awe at how you doing. love the idea of kids living on carp grin - wont do them any harm in the long run.

MoS - those courses sound great and I'm glad you're coming to a decision as to what the right course is for you. Lucky you getting that week of meals - looked super yummy!

SummerRain Fri 05-Oct-12 19:45:36

Oooo smoothies, A loves them, might pick up some to put the movicol in. Although, might be cheaper in the long run to buy a cheap blender in Tesco tomorrow and make some for them. Thanks dinky smile

dinkystinky Fri 05-Oct-12 21:19:48

We have a smoothie maker - have had it for years (from pre-kid days!) - and its the best £20 ever spent! Definitely cheaper than buying pre-made smoothies in the long run. And we have the innocent smoothie book (you can borrow it from the library) so they're the same recipes as innocent smoothies (and freeze really well)

SummerRain Fri 05-Oct-12 21:50:56

Just been browsing smoothie recipes online anything other than study and there are some really lush ones. I wonder does the Tesco I have to go to tomorrow do bags of frozen fruit <drool>

swampster Sat 06-Oct-12 14:55:52

<Waves at SummerRain> I've not disappeared into the ether, your order just STILL hasn't arrived. <sweary words for Next>

SummerRain Sat 06-Oct-12 19:55:52

lol.... don't worry swampy, A doesn't seem to be in any rush to earn it anyway.... maybe asking for two accident free days was overly optimistic grin

Next are a law unto themselves... I still can't believe they were out of stock on the international site, when I order from that site it gets sent via Royal Mail from ^the same warehouse^confused

SummerRain Sat 06-Oct-12 19:57:30

Why didn't my italics work???

MN gremlins at work again....

dinkystinky Tue 09-Oct-12 16:59:37

Hope A is better now SR and you're doing ok with your coursework.

Am off to Chicago on Thursday for 5 days with DH. Should feel excited (first lie in for both of us in nearly 7 years) but feel quite bad though as poor DS1 has come down with gastro-bug doing the rounds at school (and fairly sure Danny will come down with it too soon) so feel like should be at home instead of jetting off..

SummerRain Tue 09-Oct-12 17:56:25

He might be better by Thursday, and it's not like your abandoning him to strangers, I take it his nanny will be with him? Don't let it ruin the excitement of a well deserved trip away... go, have a fantastic time with dh and by the time you get back hopefully they'll be right as rain and you'll be all refreshed after your break smile

Study is going alright-ish. Could do with some peace and quiet but alas that wasn't to be. At least this time Friday it'll be over with and I can spend 3 months worrying about something else for a change (lord knows there's enough to pick from!)

SummerRain Tue 09-Oct-12 17:57:37

You're blush

dinkystinky Tue 09-Oct-12 19:45:46

Thanks SR - I know you're right logically but emotionally am feeling all PFB about my boy (who will not just have his nanny around during the day but also be inundated with grandparents and auntie and uncle while we're away - we figure 6 adults vs 2 small boys is probably good odds)

SilveryMoon Tue 09-Oct-12 19:56:55

Evening ladies.
Nice t see the thread active. Lovely to see you on SR had wondered where you'd got to. Glad the studying is going well, good luck for your exam smile

SummerRain Tue 09-Oct-12 19:58:31

{hugs} sounds like they'll be spoilt rotten while you're away... Don't let mommy guilt ruin a much needed break. You're a fantastic caring mother, it's just an unfortunate fact that they'll alway pick the worst times to come down with something.

SummerRain Tue 09-Oct-12 19:59:03

Thanks SM. smile

dinkystinky Tue 09-Oct-12 21:04:07

Thanks SR - (hugs) right back at you x

SummerRain Thu 11-Oct-12 12:01:31

Sitting next to dd at the docs... She's just been put on a nebulizer poor thing. She's had a cough for ages but last night she started wheezing. Dps asthma developed when he was 8, just hope this isn't the start of it for her.

Scrap that...... gp just handed me a prescription for steroids and ventolin. Bugger.

SummerRain Thu 11-Oct-12 12:02:53

Almost forgot to say.. Safe trip today dinky, have a wonderful time! smile

dinkystinky Fri 12-Oct-12 23:32:38

Oh SR - hugs to you and DD. i hope the dr gave dd those just in case they are needed and shes better now. Hope yr exam went well. Am now in Chicago - and can see why they call it the windy city! Having nice time though -though had a slight panic earlier as call from school woke me as ds1 had bumped his head (he's fine though apparently - more interested in finding out if I will buy him a present)

SummerRain Sat 13-Oct-12 10:23:52

Glad you're having a good time dinky. Enjoy your child free lie ins!

Dd seems a lot better now thankfully, says her chest isn't hurting. She has some selection of medications to take though! So scary to see her like that.... She's normally never sick.

SilveryMoon Sat 13-Oct-12 19:21:35

SR Glad your dd is feeling a bit better.
dinky hope you're enjoying Chicago, v jealous. Will be looking for pics on your fb wink

dinkystinky Sun 14-Oct-12 14:22:25

Glad dd is better SR. SM - Chicago is fun but rather rainy at the moment - feels abit like London! Am rubbish at uploading pics to FB so don't worry, there'll be nothing there to make you feel jealous

dinkystinky Thu 18-Oct-12 10:53:03

Hello all - back from chicago and over jetlag. Had a lovely time - though missed the boys desperately (and they were fine being spoilt by their grandparents). Had a nice surprise when I got back as had a message from MN saying my question had been answered by Mackenzie Crook on the book he wrote and I'm due to get a signed copy of his book. DS1 will be so pleased!

Hope all are well and that the house of lurgies has passed SM.

SilveryMoon Sat 20-Oct-12 18:58:05

Glad you had a good time and the boys were ok without you wink smile

have had a very draining week, due to Luke having a bit of a nasty fall. Had to have a 'word' with his nursery teacher after she left a message on my phone 'urging' me to get Luke seen and "if I were you....."
I was not happy, how dare she! I cleared it up with her, and as she was "extremely concerned" about Luke's arm/hand, I had him x-rayed. They came back fine so I took much pleasure in telling her that I know my child far better than she does, and that I was offended that she implied I was not able to care for him and that I wouldn't get him checked if there was something wrong and that I know my son is very dramatic and every time he falls it results in one limb or other being untouchable and unusable for up to 4 days.

Unfortunately, this incident has also left me with little trust in what I felt was a strong and positive relationship with the day care nursery (not the school nursery), they have been saying one thing to me and the complete opposite to the school nursery.
They called me when Luke fell and said he had a big bump on his head but seemed ok. So I didn't go and collect him.
I told them if he asks for me or seems 'odd' then I'd collect him. I called frequently throughout the morning and was told he was fine. he was quiet but was playing, had eaten etc, no vomiting or bleeding from his ears, no loss of consiousness or anything so I stayed at work.
I was quite shocked when I saw just how big the bump was, and wish I'd just gone and got him.
Anyway, over the next few days, Luke was not using his left hand at all. He'd stayed home the day after the fall because he had a high temp and I, after watching him etc decided that he was fine in terms of fall injuries and was being overly dramatic.
i spoke to the day nursery and told them my view, they were happy with that and said that I know him and if that's what it is rather than anything sinister then that's fine.
When I got this horrid message from the school nursery teacher she said she'd spoken to the other nursery and that they share the same extreme concerns.
As a result, I now do not fully trust the day nursery and am quite upset that they felt the need to discuss this, whilst saying the complete opposite to me.
I have spoken to the day nursery many times this week about this and not once did they say they felt I was wrong. I thought we had a better relationship than that.
Not sure hwat to do about it now. I had already thanked them for taking auch good care of Luke through the week and for being understanding and supportive of my knowledge of my child. Then I learn this!
Do I confront them or just leave it now???????

Sorry for the ramble, think I'm gonna be pissed off forever about this

dinkystinky Sat 20-Oct-12 19:05:46

Oh SM ((hugs)). Sounds like the day nursery have major communication issues going on between themselves (one saying L is ok, another saying not etc) - if I were you I'd speak to the main carer at both nurseries (very calmly but not in a confrontational manner) and ask both nurseries to communicate any concerns to you directly, and not to the school/day nursery and then you second hand, as you are his mother and should be the first point of contact. I can understand you being worried and concerned - but you ARE a good mother and you DO know your son best. I have concerns with Danny's nursery (mainly over the 2 nursery assistants being rubbish and saying totally different things to our nanny to the things the teacher says to me when I occasionally drop Danny off) but havent been sending him there for very long so am going to give it another month to see if things settle down before saying anything.

SilveryMoon Sat 20-Oct-12 19:13:45

Thanks Dinky
I have told both nurseries that I fully understand safeguarding issues that surround very small children, and that I know how easy it is to pull up your judgy-pants and talk about how shocking a parent is and how if it were your child etc etc because I am guilty of that in my job, but that I assure you, we are not one of those families.
That I regret not collecting him after the fall but felt reassured that he was being cared for at nursery and they were happy to do that. I also felt that I'd made it very clear that if the school nursery where not happy to take him with a bump on the head that I had not see, that I would come and get him.
When the day nursery called and said he'd had a fall and was quite upset, I said "well, Luke is a very emotional child and is very dramatic about scrapes etc" because I can't leave work for every little thing.
Ok, the bump was worse than I thought it'd be and can understand why the school were initially very worried about him, but once I had seen him, surely they realise that I am capable of ensuring he receives medical care if he needs it.
I really want to know what member of staff the school teacher spoke to at the day nursery.

dinkystinky Sat 20-Oct-12 19:18:50

Sounds like you have done the right thing SM. Please dont let it prey on your mind.

SilveryMoon Sat 20-Oct-12 19:24:49

Thanks dinky I'll try, but you know me, I hang on to things, can't let go of disagreements etc and hold grudges.
I am very proud of myself for being able to clear it up with the school nursery so calmly and I explained that I'm sure it wasn't her intention but certain comments made me feel this this and this and that I had to verbalise it to her and talk it out because I didn't want this to be clouding my mind every time I spoke to her. She seemed to fully understand and we ended the convo on a good note.

I can't help thinking that the other nursery aren't as 'on my side' as I'd thought. (I obviously know the only side they have to be on is Luke's, but ykwim)

Tis all done now. But next time they call me for the smallest thing I'll be straight there.No more letting them tell me they are happy to do this and that

MOSagain Sun 21-Oct-12 18:27:28

SM (((hugs))) hope he is ok now.

For anyone who didn't think I was already insane, I've just singed up to trek Machu Picchu (Inca Trail) next May shock

I've trekked the Great Wall of China (7 years ago) and Jordan (last October) but apparently they are a walk in the park compared to MP. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that my GP will sign me off as 'fit' enough to do it. Previous treks I've just had to complete a medical myself but this one the dr needs to confirm my fitness so a little worried due to my diabetes. My health is going downhill at the moment so as I've always wanted to do MP I figured it really is now or never.
I'm hoping to see the diabetic specialist who endorses the fact that exercise is one of the best things for diabetes and hopefully he will back me up. Keep your fingers crossed and watch this space.

Previous treks have been to fundraise for NDCS (National Deaf Children's Society with whom I've had a longstanding 'relationship') but this one is being split betwen NDCS and SANDS, in memory of Benedict.

Hope everyone is doing ok x

SummerRain Sun 21-Oct-12 19:08:27

Wow mos, that's amazing! I hope all goes well with the diabetes specialist and you get the all clear, what a fantastic experience.

Crazy day here, got up at 7.30 and drove 30 miles to do a car bootsale. Got a call fron dp at 1.30 to say Aaron had a severe uti, was in a lot of pain and seeing blood so had to ring out of hours docs. Was given an appointment for 3 in our local town and couldn't make it back so dp had to bring 3 kids in his car which doesn't have space for them. When he got there there was no doc and it was locked up. Luckily I was on my way back as it turned out there'd been a mix up and the only clinic open was 30 miles in the other direction. I grabbed A and headed for it and he's got a nasty infection and may have to be circumcised if it recurs.

Why do these things always happen in clusters!

dinkystinky Sun 21-Oct-12 19:11:52

Oh SR ((hugs)) to you and Aaron. UTIs are horrible. DS1 used to get those all the time and was circumcised this summer and while he was abit tender after the circumcision it was the best thing for it/him. It should clear up quickly with the ABs and cream - no soap in the bath for him (clean water only) and if he's really suffering when weeing, get him to sit in a shallow bath of lukewarm water and wee in that.

MOS - respect!

SilveryMoon Sun 21-Oct-12 19:38:36

MOS Wow! Good for you. Hope your doc signs you off for it, will be a great thing to be able to do!

Oh SR Poor Aaron! Hope he's coping ok, poor love. There was talk about jacob having a snip due to tight foreskin, but thankfully as he's got older, it doesn't seem to hurt so much.
Lots of hugs to Aaron.

We've had an awful weekend here. Luke has been displaying some very negative behaviour which is really not like him at all.
Hopefully it will pass quickly, am sure he's just punishing me for not rushing to his aide in the week!

SummerRain Sun 21-Oct-12 20:36:57

I was going to ask you about that dinky, I vaguely remembered you mentioning one of your boys having similar problems. I'm glad to hear a positive story about circumcision... Before he ever got the uti I had an inkling he might have problems as he pees sideways so his foreskin must be very tight. Hopefully it'll loosen without intervention but it's good to hear it helped your ds1 to have the op.

sm... Testosterone surge? My boys go through patches of horrendous wild behaviour every now and again, I always put it down to a testosterone surge! Hope things improve soon, it's so draining when you're having to constantly battle about every little thing.

SilveryMoon Sun 21-Oct-12 21:38:39

Ooohhhhhhh SR I remember a comment like that when I was experiencing similar difficulties with jacob.
Probably.

dinkystinky Mon 22-Oct-12 10:15:32

SM - it most probably is that. I had DS1 having the most horrendous tantrums last night - he's nearly 7 and normally a pretty chilled little fellow so was rather disconcerting.

SR - DS1 had a ridiculously tight forskin - we couldnt retract it at all. My mum (Gynae obs dr) said to try retracting in the bath every night -may help A. Dont use bubble bath as increases chance of infections. Make sure he fully shakes his penis to get as much wee out as possible from under the foreskin after he does a wee in the potty if/when potty training. Nystaform HC was a godsend with DS1 - whenever his forskin looked red we knew we had to start a dose.

SummerRain Mon 22-Oct-12 15:37:15

The doc yesterday prescribed hydrocortisone cream but our own gp took one look today and said there was no point even trying it as he's so tight at the tip it wouldn't penetrate. He said if he was older they'd encourage him to stretch it gradually himself but he wouldn't recommend I do it in case it stretches too far and rips. He's referred A to the general surgery consultant for in his words 'possible/probable circumcision' and wants me to bring him in again in 2 weeks to check on him.

A is a lot more cheerful today though and it looks a lot less swollen than yesterday so hopefully we have it under control. Thanks for all the advice dinky smile

dinkystinky Mon 22-Oct-12 16:57:29

Good, I'm glad he's better SR. Worth applying the cream (just a tiny smear at the tip) even if you cant retract forskin as does help/work.

SummerRain Mon 22-Oct-12 19:32:37

I was going to but the doc today took the prescription and never handed it back confused.

I'll ask again when we go back in a couple of weeks.

SilveryMoon Wed 24-Oct-12 02:33:26

How's he doing SR? Hope he's a bit better now.

SummerRain Wed 24-Oct-12 09:15:23

He seems a lot better now thanks sm smile

And to add to the good news it looks like he's starting to keep his nighttime nappy dry this week. I'm over the moon as I was dreading him following dds suit and being a bedwetter.

How are things going in your house? Hope Luke is back to his usual self.

dinkystinky Wed 24-Oct-12 09:56:41

Glad he's better SR: just keep an eye on him, keep his fluids up and avoid scented bubble baths etc for him.

Danny is being totally adorable at the moment: He's decided he has to have showwers with me in the morning (he wakes up and thunders up the stairs immediately to go straight into the bathroom) which is very cute - but he's a water hog so I cant wash my hair in the mornings!

SummerRain Wed 24-Oct-12 12:20:13

Lol, A used to insist on sharing with me too... Unfortunately we're all restricted to 2 minute lukewarm showers atm as our electric shower is broken and we're relying on a faulty immersion tank. If we weren't behind on the rent id be screaming at the landlord about it but ho hum....

dinkystinky Wed 24-Oct-12 14:31:32

angry at your LL SR! But on the bright side, the Halloween smileys are out grin and the Lovely Dawn French answered my question in her webchat ((still in shock))

SilveryMoon Wed 24-Oct-12 17:23:54

Glad to hear he's doing better sr.
Luke is fine now. Things here are the same as always. Dp is too stressy with the boys which pissses me off. Nothing will ever change. He's booked next week off work too, so that's a whole week at home, all of us. What joy.

SummerRain Wed 24-Oct-12 19:09:05

sounds familiar sm... Dp drives me mad at the weekends shouting at the boys about every little thing... They're so immune to it now they ignore me shouting when it is actually serious angry

Go dinky! What did you ask her?

dinkystinky Wed 24-Oct-12 19:49:49

2 questions SR - one about her role models (a teacher and Eric Morecambe it turns out) and one about her favourite biscuit (shortbread made by her daughter it turns out)

Sorry DP is being hard work SM - cant help matters at all!

SilveryMoon Wed 24-Oct-12 21:28:07

He's just gone to work and it's been the first time that I've been awake and he's not kissed me goodbye.

dinkystinky Thu 25-Oct-12 11:01:25

sad ((hugs)) SM - hopefully a good sulk today will help sort out his moods.

MOSagain Sun 28-Oct-12 12:50:16

another one here with an other half that gets too stressed by DC and is always shouting at them sad He was trying to do something yesterday on the PC and got really angry because they were 'too noisy' (they really weren't) and started yelling at them.

Just taken kids out to soft play for a few hours and got back to find a lovely, but suprising email from MNHQ which has me rather confused. Seemingly I was nominated for Christmas appeal which I just don't get. I always donate and sometimes nominate so think they might be getting mixed up.

Not sure how to word my reply to them but I'd like my nomination to go to someone else instead but don't want to offend. There is nothing I (or kids) need unless someone can magically wave a magic wand and get me a new husband (Daniel Craig would be quite nice). I hope I don't offend anyone by asking if someone more deserving/needy could have it. There was someone I wished I'd nominated but it was too late as I missed the cut off. WWYD?

Hope everyone is doing ok and has a lovely (but bloody cold!) half term x

dinkystinky Sun 28-Oct-12 21:50:47

Hello all - and happy half term and Halloween to you. SM, MoS - my DH is also increasingly getting stressed and angry at the kids. The bad thing is I catch myself doing it too on an increasing basis so, in the same way I count to give the kids a chance to correct something before I tell them off, am introducing counting down under my breath for me to try to deter explosions. My mother was always the disciplinarian and shouting and scolding and simply not listening, and I vowed not to be like her when I have kids - only to find myself acting like her at times. This parenting lark is hard work isnt it?!

I also received an email from MNHQ about this year's christmas appeal. While I'm delighted, and very very touched to be nominated, I'm exactly the same as you MoS (though for what its worth, you have been through a really tough time of things recently with everything going on so I can understand your nomination, to bring a smile to your face as much as anything else) -I really couldnt in all honesty accept a nomination as I'm in much better place than so many MNers out there. Simply being nominated has been a gift in itself. So if whoever nominated me is out there reading this, thank you - you've made my christmas simply by nominating me - and I hope by declining the nomination I help some other MNers make some one else's xmas a lovelier one too!

MOSagain Mon 29-Oct-12 08:00:26

DH has been a complete arsehole again this weekend, constantly shouting and moaning at the children. I honestly believe he has 'single man syndrome' and even his counsellor (and our joint one) have said that perhaps he had kids too late in life and hasn't the patience required. I get so angry when he is shouting at them and screaming about their behaviour and that they should be punished. I can't help but think he is a hypocrite. After all, he has done what he wanted the last 2 1/2 years, flirted with and slept with other women and yet he has got away with it. Need to try to bite my tongue and not say what I feel.

dinky thats exactly how I feel. I emailed MNHQ last night and said how suprised and touched I was but felt it should go to someone else who was more deserving/needy. I've bought for people the last 4 years and I like to think that I'm buying presents for children who would otherwise have nothing, or very little. My kids don't NEED things. They want lots, as all kids do but they don't NEED things. I think I'd feel really guilty if someone bought for me unless they can find me a lovely new husband, that I might be forced to accept wink

Like you say thought, it is so lovely to be thought of an nominated and I was quite tearful last night. I think it brought home that complete strangers are thinking of me when FW hasn't done so for the past few years sad I asked if my nomination can go to cupoftea who has truly had the worst year of her life. She lost her darling daughter Bea this week who was 13 months old and had struggled to survive every long day of those 13 months. I may have a complete bastard of a husband but I have 4 beautiful and healthy children and have a lot to be thankful for.

wine to everyone x

oooggs Mon 29-Oct-12 08:09:58

Lovely MOS & dinky smile

Sorry MOS that h is being a

Half term and dh has just left the building til Friday, not impressed (work related) and dcs have 'started' already!!

Too early for wine wink

SilveryMoon Mon 29-Oct-12 12:00:16

MOS That's great news that you got nominated. I'd really like to be able to donate. I know it says that no gift is too small, but I wouldn't be able to donate to the level that I've received. Am def gonna donate next year though. Now I know you do it via a link in a thread, I can keep my eyes open for it and plan better.
I can understand your want for your nomination to go to someone who may be more 'needful' of material gifts than yourself, but I think you should accept it as someone out there maybe just wants to do a little something for someone they have relied on, has helped them etc and just want to say thank you.

Dinky and MOS I tend to be wound up and stressed out just when dp is around, so at these times I tend to have a very short fuse and shout more than I would if it were just me and the boys.
I count down out loud. For example, at about 6pm, I'll say in 10 minutes it's time to tidy up. Sometimes I set a timer so they can hear when the time is up, and then I ask them to tidy up. When they say no, I tell them that I would like them to be able to play for longer but that it's tidy up time. If they do it nicely, they can play with the toys tomorrow, but if not the toys will be taken away (I try to visit the positive first). If they say no again, I say simpler that they need to tidy up. If there's still an issue I tell them that I have told them twice and if I have to say it again, I will get cross and they will need to sit in thinking corners until I have taken the toys away. 5........4.........3 which is when they normally get on board.
It's long winded and dp would rather just shout and get them to do stuff "because I said so" but for me, it;s more about choices and the freedom they have to make choices iyswim.

dinky That's nice you got nominated too. Again, someone thought of you for whatever reason, and I'd imagine they'd like you to receive something as a token for whatever it is you've done for them.

MOS Sorry to hear dp is being a prick. Why are you biting your tongue? Why not just say how you feel? Isn't that a better way to try to work through it? I don't think I'd ber able to help myself.
I'd probably say something really bitchy like "I don't think you are the best person to set bounderies for our children. Let's face it, they have to grow up having a better idea of right from wrong than what you're able to teach them........lalalalalala"

I have been nominated in the past. I felt a little guilty at receiving something that I felt I didn't deserve or need, and when the packages arrived, I was in floods of tears about peoples generosity.
Yeah, we struggle sometimes, but not to the point where the boys go without new presents (apart from that year that Luke got jacobs old toys wrapped up for christmas!), and I'm sure there are people out there who needed those gifts more than I did.
Should I have refused my nomination?

SilveryMoon Mon 29-Oct-12 12:06:44

oooggs It's gone midday, crack open the bottle wine cheers

SilveryMoon Mon 29-Oct-12 12:10:56

I'm sure cupoftea will be touched that people arer thinking of her too. Am also sure that whoever nominated you will undersatnd your feelings and be happy with whatever choice you make for your nomination. If someone has nominated you, am sure they'd be happy with helping you help someone else.

MOSagain Mon 29-Oct-12 12:14:29

SM no, you should not have refused your nomination, you deserved it then and if I remember rightly, things were bad for you (financially) at that time? You therefore shouldn't feel guilty.
LMAO at your suggestion to DH about boundaries, might use that tonight wink

oooggs the sun is over the yardarm somewhere in the world as my old dad used to say. Hic! x

SilveryMoon Mon 29-Oct-12 12:20:40

I think you're probably right. We probably weren't in the best of financial places. Thankfully it's better now smile
It was a wonderful surprise. Not just to be nominated, but to receive a gift, and not just 1 but 2 packages one year.
Luke still plays with a wooden noah's ark we got one year.
MN is a wonderful community to be a part of this time of year.

MOSagain Mon 29-Oct-12 12:30:45

grin
If you want to give something back SM you should become a woolly hugger. We are currently knitting blankets for babies in special care. If you can't afford to buy the wool, as many can't then there are donors who can't knit who will send you the wool. Its a lovely thing to do. <mos wonders if she was nominated due to her wobbly bottomed squares?>

SilveryMoon Mon 29-Oct-12 14:58:10

Hmmm. I thought about knitting when you suggested it before. I can do a few different types of stitch, a bit out of practice now and my tension is inconsistent.
I've never tried to cast off either.
I should try to get back into it if I ever get the time.
I can fund some wool.

oooggs Mon 29-Oct-12 19:43:15

SM I was nominated about 4 years ago and I also accepted at that time. Things were tough, not financially, but everything was on top of me (very tired with young twins & ds1) and the straw that broke the camels back was buying something off mums net (at the times when there was a lot of buying and selling) and it never arrived so I lost that money.

Not only was I nominated but the stuff I was buying was one of my parcels, but much more of it. I was stunned that the person who nominated me put that in my nomination in the hoe that someone would send it to me.

Sorry I am garbelling on!!! But you can see the point I am trying to make (I hope!!) mums net rocks!

And I really like your advise to MOS about him not being the person to set the boundaries grin

SilveryMoon Mon 29-Oct-12 20:05:11

Oh oooggs Glad you got something when you needed it. Is so nice.

MOSagain Tue 30-Oct-12 08:46:51

oooggs that is so nice. Like dinky I'm just touched that someone thought of me but a bit sad that DH never does sad

SM get on with your knitting woman. You can do it whilst watching X Factor grin

SilveryMoon Tue 30-Oct-12 19:16:24

lol MOS you've seen my running commentary of x factor then? wink

MOSagain Wed 31-Oct-12 08:43:01

SM oh really, do you watch it? wink

dinkystinky Wed 31-Oct-12 08:58:14

SM - I agree with Oooggs- you absolutely should not have refused your nomination: things were hard for you then, as they were for you too Oooggs and those nominations and gifts brought a smile to your faces at a difficult time in your lives smile

We are having a few days in Lisbon over half term - lovely city but didnt realise how hilly it is! We'll all have buns of steel by the time we return home grin

MOSagain Wed 31-Oct-12 12:37:47

dinky we are due to go there at Easter, purely by accident. We had loads of airmiles that we'd been saving up to go to the States but then BMI pulled out of some loyalty club and we had about a weeks notice to book something or lose them and about the only place that had availability was Lisbon which we booked (having no idea where it was at the time)

We have found a villa on Owners direct which looks nice so hopefully will be a nice break. Hills will be good practice for me for machu picchu in May grin

dinkystinky Thu 01-Nov-12 09:49:04

Its a really lovely city MOS - they LOVE children here so DS1 and Danny are in their element. Never fear - there are lots of funiculars, trams and elevators for those who dont want to tackle the hills themselves. We're having a lovely time so happy to pass on top tips nearer the time.

MOSagain Fri 02-Nov-12 09:27:03

Thats good to hear dinky, What is the weather like? x

dinkystinky Mon 05-Nov-12 09:18:30

Sorry MoS -moved on to a new hotel with no WIFI - was surprisingly liberating! Weather was good on the whole - warm during day (around 19 degrees), mostly sunny and fun. We had a couple of rainy days but there are loads of museums/indoor things to do (including a fun fair at the top of a huge shopping complex called Columbo - has to be seen to be believed). Lisbon airport is a bit of basic though...

MOSagain Fri 09-Nov-12 08:14:51

Hi all, dinky glad you had a good time, will look out for that funfair.

RL has been shite this week. DD1 admitted to hospital on Tuesday morning. She'd had a blood test last week as I suspected diabetes and on Monday the Gp surgery phoned and asked her to go in on Tuesday am first thing and they tested her urine and blood and sent straight to hospital where we had two delightful days on a ward of loons! Sadly, as she is 4 months past 16 she is fair game to go in with the nutters.

Happily she is home now but has type 1 diabetes which was a bit of a shock. You might remember my mum died as a result of her (uncontrolled!) diabetes and I was diagnosed in Feb. I'm 'only' type 2 so type 1 is a whole new thing to take on board. So proud of DD though, she has taken it in her stride and is being good with her testing and injecting herself.

Hope everyone is doing ok?

SilveryMoon Sat 10-Nov-12 05:42:27

Hi.
MOS Sorry to hear about dd's diagnosis. Glad to hear she's coping ok with it at the moment.

We had Jacob's parents evening the other night. Were told that he is below average in everything and is probably about a year behind.
Not sure if they are taking into account that he is nearly a year younger than some pupils being an august baby.

Everything else is ok.

MOSagain Sat 10-Nov-12 09:07:49

SM tell them to fark off! He is still so very young for christs sake. Like you say, there is nearly a year between him and some of the older kids.
I had this worry when DC1 and 2 started school as they were June and July babies. At first, the gap seemed huge and indeed it was (DDs best friend's birthday was start of September so a lot older and 'smarter' than her) but they soon catch.

DS1, the July baby ended up getting a scholarship at his prep school and then at his sixth form college and got AAAB at A levels so clearly they can catch up. (and its not as if he gets his cleverness from me!) Please try not to worry, I'm sure he will catch up. Remind me, is he in year 1 or 2?

DD is going well, really coping well with the constant testing/injecting, so very proud of her

dinkystinky Sun 11-Nov-12 21:59:23

MoS - hugs to you and DD1. That sounds like a really horrible experience for all concerned. I'm glad that she's been diagnosed (sorry she went through such a horrible time on the ward though) and is taking it in good grace.

SM - J's only year 1 isnt he? How can they possibly tell at that age where the should be. DS1 could barely write his name at the start of year 1 - they just "get it" in their own time..

dinkystinky Sun 11-Nov-12 22:00:33

Missed some words in earlier post - "glad she's been diagnosed and its been caught early"...

dinkystinky Fri 16-Nov-12 10:57:00

Just dropping in to say I'm expecting dinkystinkymark3 (the even smaller stinkier version) - still super early days and not telling family or anyone else in real life or on FB, but figured I could tell my invisible online friends. Found out on my birthday last week but waiting till after have had my booking in appointment to post on here: delighted as we'd just about given up as it just wasnt happening.

MOSagain Sat 17-Nov-12 08:29:03

FANTASTIC NEWS DINKY so very very pleased for you.
What a lovely lovely birthday present xxx

dinkystinky Sat 17-Nov-12 14:50:56

Thanks MOS x

SilveryMoon Sun 18-Nov-12 15:45:00

Congrats Dinky grin So happy for you xxx
<Does this mean our leader will be upping sticks to a new pregnancy thread? sad>

dinkystinky Sun 18-Nov-12 17:47:29

I'd never leave you guys - we've been through thick and thin together!

SilveryMoon Sun 18-Nov-12 18:00:56

Good to hear dinky wink

dinkystinky Wed 21-Nov-12 10:25:31

Morning all. We've been infested with nits in the dinky household - all v scritch scratch. Kids and DH have been Lycleared up and combed out - but I cant use Lyclear. Any top tips on other ways of denitting - other than an entire bottle of conditioner and a nit comb every day (which is proving rather dull!)?

swampster Wed 21-Nov-12 13:53:02

Hedrin basically doesn't poison them, it shrink-wraps them and strangles them. If you look at the ingredients, it is the same as in hair serum to make your hair shiny and smooth so safe, safe safe. Grand stuff. Coupled with a Nitty Gritty comb - and it HAS to be Nitty Gritty! - the little buggers don't stand a chance.

dinkystinky Wed 21-Nov-12 14:39:14

Ta Swampy - will check Hedrin out. Our nitty gritty has gone walk about - I think the nits have hidden it! grin

swampster Wed 21-Nov-12 14:59:29

Order a new one immediately!!!

dinkystinky Wed 21-Nov-12 15:34:28

Its on its way grin

dinkystinky Wed 28-Nov-12 11:43:29

Where is everyone?

Its DS1's school play this afternoon - he's a witch in Macbeth confused Even more confusingly there appear to be nine witches (of both sexes) in the play - am intrigued to see what its like...

swampster Thu 29-Nov-12 00:01:07

I am here, waiting to hear news of your wee six-legged visitors.

Like the nine witches!

dinkystinky Thu 29-Nov-12 09:26:08

The wee six legged visitors have been hedrin-ed to death (though getting the hedrin oil out my hair is proving to be a herculean task!) am pleased to report Swampy - also we now have nitty gritties in every bathroom in the house!

swampster Thu 29-Nov-12 13:07:07

I bet you look really sleek!

dinkystinky Thu 29-Nov-12 14:09:52

More like Slick Swampy grin

swampster Thu 29-Nov-12 16:41:59

That's what I said, Dinky! (With a greasy accent).

dinkystinky Thu 29-Nov-12 17:47:41

grin

Off out to a Scandinavian xmas cookery course tonight (BDay pressie from DH) - DH has kindly volunteered to drink/eat the things we're making (most of them!) I cant eat. Hmm

dinkystinky Fri 30-Nov-12 09:28:29

I am now an expert in curing fish and meat courtesy of my scandi cooking course - and in eating making rice pudding with hot cherry sauce

swampster Fri 30-Nov-12 19:57:29

Stop gloating and bung a cured fish in the post to us.

dinkystinky Sun 02-Dec-12 10:11:33

On its way swampy,!

dinkystinky Tue 04-Dec-12 14:12:38

Hello all - am taking Danny and DS1 off to go see Santa at Harrods tonight. V late slot - 7.30 - so am praying Danny wont be too overtired to charm Santa!
Danny's decided he wants a cat (toy one will apparently do), an oven, a chocolate maker, a lollipop maker and a banana maker for xmas this year. Anyone else's kids come up with something crazy?

SilveryMoon Sat 08-Dec-12 01:54:51

How did the Santa trip go dinky? I'd love to take my boys but they are a bit afraid of Santa.
Luke wants a dog for Christmas. My friend's 4 year old told him he wanted a Lamborghini!
Just got a few more bits to get present wise and get the tree up.

dinkystinky Sun 09-Dec-12 18:38:30

It was really lovely thank SM. We met the boys with their nanny at Knightsbridge tube after work and loved their faces when they saw Harrods all lit up! We went to the toy kingdom first and the Disney cafe for hot chocolate before going to see Santa - and they loved it and were really good with Santa. Danny was abit fearful of him for the first two years but in the past couple of years has got over the fear. It was great as we were at the end of the day so wasnt too busy and more of less sailed through.

Love that Luke is asking for a dog. Can he too be fobbed off with a fake one?

We got our tree up yesterday (in between school xmas fair and 2 lots of kids parties and swimming class) so feeling very festive now.

dinkystinky Mon 10-Dec-12 20:22:02

Had a fun afternoon in A&E today as Danny managed to split his head open on a radiator. They glued it shut and he was a trooper but still v scary.

Calico1 Thu 13-Dec-12 21:24:48

Ouch poor Danny! How's his head now?

Have been working crazy hours the last few weeks so no time for anything except sleep. All finished now so have to get into gear for Christmas as next to nothing has yet been bought yet alone wrapped.....(panic)

Lilian tried to explain to me what she wanted from Santa.... 'a long thing with a cat head and nice things inside'. After some time I worked out that it is a Hello Kitty pez sweet dispenser! Bless her - that's all she wants.

DS has his school play on Monday night - he is a Polish waiter hmm. Funny, I can't remember that role in the Nativity.

dinkystinky Thu 13-Dec-12 21:54:26

Ah bless Lilian - that's so cute! Danny too is a massive hello kitty fan. He's getting a hello kitty play oven from my mum and dad for Christmas and already has a hello kitty phone (from the hello kitty magazine of course) and pez dispenser. ROFL at the polish waiter at the nativity. Am sure DS will do great though!

Danny seems to be ok thanks - his usual cantankerous supremely independent little self. Made the mistake of trying to make gingerbread men (well, actually ninja bread men as they are all striking karate poses - deliberately honest) with him when I got home and of course as he wasnt listening to me he got flour EVERYWHERE and had to be stripped and cleaned afterwards - and then nearly burnt himself trying to get in the oven to check on them. DS1 wasnt listening either. Makes me wonder what the hell I'm doing going for a third! Still too late now... Had scan today and am 11 weeks today.

swampster Fri 14-Dec-12 10:13:01

Three is brilliant, dinky. Especially three boys - or am I biased?

The fruit trees I ordered back in the beginning of September are due to be delivered today. If they are a bunch of scraggly twigs I shall come back here and cry.

DS2 is off sick. Fingers crossed the throwing up this morning was a one-off. DH was there to catch it. I've kept DS3 home too as I can't handle the nursery run with an unwell child plus he's good company for DS2. I have work to do today.

dinkystinky Fri 14-Dec-12 10:44:06

Thanks Swampy - reassuring to hear someone out there is surviving the onslaught of 3 DSs!

Fruit trees in your garden? Am v envy. What did you order? Hope DS2's vom is a one off and he and DS3 have lots of fun playing today.

swampster Fri 14-Dec-12 11:20:18

If you can call it surviving...

Cherry tree with potential to become huuuuuuge, Victoria plum, and greengage. Plus some raspberry canes, redcurrants, blackcurrants and, I think, a gooseberry. I figure there's no point in growing anything if you can't eat it.

dinkystinky Fri 14-Dec-12 11:44:28

Am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO jealous - have always wanted my very own blackberry brambles¬ Your garden is going to be ace Swampy.

swampster Fri 14-Dec-12 11:46:14

It is always a bit touch and go with me and gardening - survival of the fittest. I reckon 80%+ of things I plant don't make it.

dinkystinky Fri 14-Dec-12 12:27:05

Ah. I'm a v v lazy gardener - so lazy we had our lawn taken up and astroturf laid instead blush

MIL (avid gardener) was appalled grin

Calico1 Fri 14-Dec-12 13:16:18

Brilliant news Dinky smile

Swampy - we have an ancient greengage tree in the garden, it only fruits every 2 or 3 years but when it does decide to there is such a glut of green plums that we have a jam mountain. Have never had any fruit of our gooseberry bushes - the rabbits, badgers, birds and deer always get there first so hope you have also ordered plenty of netting....

swampster Fri 14-Dec-12 13:23:17

They are here - all packaged up, can't believe it all fits in two wee packages but one package is reassuringly TALL.

dinkystinky Fri 14-Dec-12 14:12:40

Oooh so exciting Swampy!

MOSagain Fri 14-Dec-12 19:05:19

hello all, just poping in to say hi.
All okish here, plodding along. Am relieved DD's school christmas fair is over, it was taking over my life.

DS1 just arrived back from Uni for xmas so all manic here.

dinky congratulations on pregnancy, you must be due around the time of the royal baby!

dinkystinky Fri 14-Dec-12 19:46:51

Must be nice having everyone home for xmas MOS. dH pointed out the royal baby date link the other day - as long as she steers well clear of my hospital I'll be happy!

MOSagain Sat 15-Dec-12 12:32:13

LOL about hospitals, just your luck.
Bastard chicken pox has descended. DD2 has it and just waiting for H to get it. Gutted, had a week of parties ahead and DD's school play on Wednesday sad

Anyone had it recently who can tell how long approx til she can go back to school?

SilveryMoon Sat 15-Dec-12 19:31:39

Glad to hear D's back tohis normal self Dinky and that the scan went well grin
Hope G and H are ok Mos and coping ok with the CP.

All ok here, nothing much to report.

dinkystinky Mon 17-Dec-12 09:47:37

So sorry to hear the Pox has landed in your house MOS. Virasoothe gel is great. Danny seemed to have a really mild case in Easter - he was fine within 5 days. I think they say that kids can go back to school after the pox have all scabbed over - but may be worth checking with the school as sometimes they have different policies.

Calico1 Mon 17-Dec-12 22:45:40

MOS sorry to hear about the pox - what terrible timing!
Both mine had really mild chicken pox when they were younger (less than 5 spots) but had to stay of nursery for a week - though I understand that they are most infectious just before the spots appear.....so probably too late to stop it spreading anyway. I guess your friends might not be too happy about you bringing a pox infected child to parties just before Christmas but what a shame to miss out on your DD's school play. Hope they recover quickly x

Had DS's school play tonight. After weeks of rehearsing his one line he started to say it then froze half way though and had to be prompted (v stressful for me watching!). Was very sweet though grin

SilveryMoon Tue 18-Dec-12 00:45:42

Calico, bless him. Sure he did very well. I've got Luke's on Wednesday. Very excited!

dinkystinky Tue 18-Dec-12 09:02:46

Ah bless your DS Calico - bet he was adorable. Good luck for Luke's play tomorrow SM. We have Danny and DS1's nativity concert this afternoon - they've been practicing carols all week so looking forward to seeing how it goes!

rosieposey Sun 23-Dec-12 16:57:27

Hello ladies - long time no post, i love checking in to see how you all are although i think most or all of you are on my fb so i can see how you are all doing smile

Dinky thats fab news - we had given up too and i think it took about 27 month of trying and now Caspars 3 weeks old! I notice you havent mentioned it on FB so i will give you hearty congratulations on here smile smile smile

MOS i saw on fb about your daughter, sorry about that - i had an awful time with diabetes this pg and thats why Cass came nearly a month early - time for me to stop having babies as i was on 120 units of insulin per meal near the end such was my insulin resistance - how is yours going? You have lost weight and are doing a trek arent you? I hope to be inspired into losing some significant weight this coming year although i am only 4lbs off my starting pregnancy weight - still fat though!

Well its nearly Christmas and we are all excited here - never thought this time last year i would have a newborn so very happy smile Hope everyone else is ok, I cannot believe that our babies are nearly 4 - it makes me a bit melancholy, its going so fast! Happy Christmas everybody!

SilveryMoon Sun 23-Dec-12 20:53:47

Evening all. MOS How's the pox going?
rosie good to hear from you! Caspar is such a sweetie.
Off to my mums tomorrow for christmas. The boys are really excited.
Everyone ready?

rosieposey Mon 24-Dec-12 13:24:28

Waves at SM smile Hello! Have a great time at your mums smile I'm ready, tired but ready!

dinkystinky Mon 24-Dec-12 16:41:55

Thanks Rosieposey. I have to admit I feel exhausted reading your FB posts - cant believe you have a tiny baby and 4 other kids (including a preschooler) to juggle too! Wishing you a lovely xmas.

SM - hope you have a lovely xmas at your parents. I'm at my folks too - the kids are going crazy with excitement. We took them in the pouring rain to see some reindeer and a northern santa today - was amusing, if soggy.

MoS - hope the pox has passed and your christmas goes with a swing.

Wishing all the other Fab Febbers a very happy christmas and a happy and successful new year x

MOSagain Tue 25-Dec-12 12:17:50

hello all. Just stopping by to wish everyone a merry christmas.
I know our lovely MrsY will be having a particularly hard christmas this year so she is in my thoughts and prayers and a candle has been lit here in memory of Benedict xxx

rosie, wow! 120 units! DD is currently only on 6 with each meal but her nighttime one has been increased from 16 when she was discharged from hospital to 34 and is being monitored weekly. Am very proud of the way she is coping with it.

hmm you are right and wrong. Yes, I am doing the trek, doing machu picchu, the inca trail to raise money for SANDS in memory of Benedict and also NDCS. Not lost weight though, if anything, I've put on about 5lb since I signed up for it. Things have been very very stressful the past few weeks sad
Am going to stick to my NY resolutions this year though and main one is to get fit and lose the weight which I have to do if I have any chance of surviving MP!

DD's pox has gone and if H is going to get it it is probably going to be tonight or tomorrow, just in time for my birthday!

Have a great time everyone and a happy new year xxx

SilveryMoon Tue 25-Dec-12 17:22:52

I thought of mrsy earlier today and hope she's ok.

Speaking of new years resolutions, mine's to stop being such a bitch. Normally doesn't last long though.

Today's not been so great, can't wait to get home. Might ask dp if we can go when he gets back from work.
I always forget just how hard my mum is to be around this time of year until I'm here again. Not next year though. Def staying at home.
The boys were up at 5 and had presents from my parents. Lots of power ranger stuff so they're happy. Waiting for dp to get in so we can give them our presents. That'll be fun. Really looking forward to that, hope they make it.
I keep them up later last night in the hope they'd sleep in. No such luck.

Anyway, hope everyone's having a nice day and a very merry Christmas to all x

dinkystinky Thu 27-Dec-12 16:52:06

SM - hope you got home ok. I know what you mean about mums and prolonged exposure. My mum spent most of xmas snapping at my dad and refusing to let anyone help her! Was v silly.

DS1 and Danny loved xmas though - Danny got a hello kitty oven from my parents and a soft white cat toy to sleep with from Santa and was delighted!

oooggs Thu 27-Dec-12 16:58:49

Missed your news dinky!!!!!! How wonderful

Can't comment on 3 children as we went from 1 to 3 but going to 4 was great.

Talking of no.4 Luke thinks he is 4 now as we told him he would be 4 after Christmas!!!!! He has to wait until the 20th January for it to be official wink

dinkystinky Thu 27-Dec-12 17:22:30

Thanks Oooggs grin Had my nuchal test scan today and the baby was waving at me - suddenly felt very real!

Bless Luke. Must be a fab Febber thing. In Danny's head he's older than DS1!

MOSagain Thu 27-Dec-12 18:07:45

yay! waving baby grin Glad ok dinky and hope you are not feeling too tired.
Off out tonight for a belated birthday curry with my besty and her DH (and my DH who has been on his best behaviour the past week or so) hmm

SilveryMoon Fri 28-Dec-12 20:39:37

dinky Glad I'm not alone. There is def a reason we are destined to fly the nest!
Hope you had a lovely birthday MOS

My Luke doesn't want to be 4, he's happy to be 3 and a half.
I took my driving test today. I failed, but only just. Going to do it again in the new year.
2 majors, but only 4 minors, and he said if it wasn't for the second major (I came out onto a roundabout too soon), he'd have let me off the first one (I bumped the curb when pulling over) and passed me. Gggggrrrrrrr. Was a really easy stretch of the route too.
Oh well.

dinkystinky Sat 29-Dec-12 10:27:16

Dont worry SM - you'll pass with flying colours next time. I had 6 major fails on my first driving test - took me another 6 attempts to pass!

dinkystinky Sat 29-Dec-12 10:28:10

But I am a rubbish driver to be honest.

My friends who failed first time with only one or two majors passed the next time.

Calico1 Sun 30-Dec-12 20:40:49

Hi all, hope you all had a great Xmas. All fine here though DS has been poorly most of the time, poor love. My two both had a lie-in until 8.30 on Christmas Day - I had to wake Lilian up in the end as I couldn't wait any longer for her to get up!

Rosie congratulations on your new little one - lovely name grin

dinkystinky Tue 01-Jan-13 13:16:49

Happy new year all. Hope DS is fully recovered now Calico - seems to have been lots of bugs around this Christmas.

SilveryMoon Tue 01-Jan-13 19:21:08

Happy new year everyone.
Luke's been a bit poorly, we had him at A&E the other day for the nebuliser. He is ok now though. they did a chest x-ray and said there was something there but they weren't sure what it was so gave anti-biotics, and although he has a bit of a cough, is fine now.

dinkystinky Wed 02-Jan-13 09:06:30

Poor L - glad he's better now SM. Must have been scary having to take him in to A&E though. Mind you, Danny now loves childrens A&E (having been so many times last year) - lots of toys and tv - what's not to like hmm

SilveryMoon Wed 02-Jan-13 09:17:33

Yes dinky It's something like that here too! I'm ok with it all actually [heart of stone emoticon]
No idea what to do today. Def have to get the boys out of the house though

dinkystinky Sun 13-Jan-13 20:18:45

Hello all - quiet on here! Are you will battening down the hatches for the impending snow deluge?

Has anyones child suddenly gone from loving nursery to hating it? Danny was in tears tonight about nursery tomorrow - I thought he was happy but wonder if recent staff changes (2 of 3 leaving last term) have unsettled him. Any tips on how to comfort him and make him look forward to it again? He has some good friends there so its not that he has no one to play with....

SilveryMoon Tue 15-Jan-13 18:01:56

Hi dinky. Poor Danny, hope he's ok. Jacob sometimes says he hates school because his friends and teachers are rubbish to him! Lol
I have no idea how you can help Danny through it.
Not experienced any of this with Luke but am expecting it to be bad when he has to go to school all day and not go to the day nursery.
Am sure Danny will perk up about it once he's fully settled back in after holidays.

dinkystinky Wed 16-Jan-13 10:42:49

Thanks SM. He seems to have come out in a really bad cold so maybe it was him feeling ill. He's quite a homebod really and v attached to me and his nanny at the best of times I guess. Keeping everything crossed he settles in ok soon.

oooggs Sat 19-Jan-13 08:31:39

Birthday season upon us already!!!!

dinkystinky Sat 19-Jan-13 11:45:27

Wow its fine round fast! What does Luke want for his fourth birthday? Danny seems to change his mind on an hourly basis. Think we might get him and DS1 bikes for their birthdays this year.

dinkystinky Sat 19-Jan-13 11:46:13

For fine read come! Bloody predictive text. Grrr

oooggs Sat 19-Jan-13 13:22:35

Lego mining, 2 wheeled scooter, Nerf gun, jigsaw & play tent but not all bought by us!!!!!

Luke is totally different to ds1 in terms of development have 3 older siblings to learn from!

dinkystinky Sat 19-Jan-13 15:45:38

Wow that's quite a haul - lucky Luke!

oooggs Sun 20-Jan-13 18:44:14

Luke is now 4!!!!! Who is next?????

dinkystinky Sun 20-Jan-13 20:31:56

Happy birthday Luke - hope he had a lovely one. Did all the snow bring back memories of when he was born (or rather shortly thereafter)?

SilveryMoon Mon 21-Jan-13 17:53:03

ahhhh, happy birthday Luke! grin
Can't believe it's 4 years already!
My Luke wants Mike the Knight Toys for his birthday, and the Moshi Monsters house (he got the tree house for xmas), and despite getting a new scooter for Christmas, he wants another one because he doesn'tlike the one Santa brought him.
No idea what he'll actually get...........

dinkystinky Tue 22-Jan-13 16:33:42

There's the baby boom at the end of Jan/start of Feb - Swampy, MsLucy etc.

oooggs Tue 22-Jan-13 19:31:49

may try and find our stats list, come on dinky, you will probably find it faster than me!!!!

swampster Tue 22-Jan-13 19:40:18

The most up-to-date list I've located so far (on this thread:

scubagroover Sun 01-Mar-09 19:01:47
New Arrivals

TinkerBellesMumandFifi2 - DD Sîan Anne Denise, 4lbs 8.5oz, 02.01.09
Dinkymum - DS Isaac Christopher, 5lbs 8oz, 19.01.09
Ooogs - DS Luke Daniel, 8lbs 6oz, 20.01.09
Herbgarden - DD Amy Hannah, 5lbs 14oz 23.01.09
idontbelieveit - DD Freya Rose, 6lbs 8oz, 26.01.09
laidbackinengland - DD Mabel Lucy, 8lbs 14oz, 29.01.09
tinasan - DS Enrico Marco, 6lbs 10oz, 29.01.09
onwardandupward - DC2 [I'll put name on fb], 8lb exactly, 30.01.09
stacysmom - DD Tabitha Rose, 6lbs 15oz, 31.01.09
MsLucy - DS Stanley William, 8lb 7 oz, 02.02.09
LittleMissNorty - DS Ewan Scott, 6lbs 13ozs, 02.02.09
swampster - DS Jacob, 7lb, 02.02.09
Jelliebaby - DD Olivia, 7lb 3oz, 02.02.09
MarkStretch - DS Frankie, 7lb 15oz, 03.02.09
Pempe – DS Harry, 03.02.09
Nkweto - DD Alexandra, 8llbs 11oz, 04.02.09
MamaGoose - DD Indigo Norah Rose, 4.15kg/9lb 1oz, 04.02.09
littleboysblue - DS Luke Alan, 7 lb 13 oz, 04.02.09
fgpl - DD Phoebe, 8lb 9 oz, 05.02.09
McDreamy - DD Abigail Louise, 7lb 1/2oz, 06.02.09
Rosieposey - DS Milo John William, 8lb 10oz, 06.02.09
mumoverseas - DS Harrison William, 3.1k, 08.02.09
Questionkid – DS Alexander George, 08.02.09
PinkTulips – DS Aaron Matthew, 8lbs 2oz 09.02.09
Dinkystinky - DS Daniel Nikhil, 8lbs 6oz, 10.02.09
MrsY – DD Meredith Lilian Faith, 7lb 7oz, 10.02.09
Givethedogahomebirth - DD, 8lbs 15oz, 11.02.09
KT1983 - DD Poppy Louise, 6lb 80z, 13.02.09
Pluto - DS Albert David Magnus, 10lbs 10oz, 13.02.09
JenniferTurkington, DD Harriet, 9lb, 15.02.09
America - DS Leo, 3.3kg, 15.02.09
KazzaL - DS Benjamin Hector Douglas, 8lbs3oz, 16.02.09
Astarte - details to follow.
winemakesmummyclever - DS Issac Alexander, 7lb 4oz, 17.02.09
TheHouseofMirth - DS Tarran James, 7lb 2oz, 18.02.09
Fruitstick - DS, Arthur, 8lb 13oz, 18.02.09
Calico1 - DD Lilian Helena, 7lb 4oz, 19.02.09
Mentalpup - DS Harry, 7lb 10oz, 20.02.09
Neerly3 - DS Charlie, 7lb 8oz, 20.02.09
Cocodrillo - DS Rufus, 8 lb 8 oz, 20.02.09
pinkbabybump - DD Eleanor Catherine, 6lb 14oz, 20.02.09
lardybump - DS Owen Francis, 8lb 12oz, 21.02.09
Catstar - DS Samuel James, 9lb 1oz, 22.02.09
chilledmama - DD, 8lb 5oz, 23.02.09
Littlesez – DD, Isobella Rose, 8lbs 23.02.09
katieblirdsnest - DS Ivor, 8lb 4oz, 24.02.09
ihavenewsockson - DS Viktor Jake, 8lb 15 oz, 24.02.09
ScubaGroover - DS William 7lbs 10 oz 26.0209
WHO'S NEXT.....

Munteria - DC2, due: 11.02.09 (age 37, Putney)
Ranirani - DC1, due: 13.02.09 (age 35, Herts)
Justme84 - due 14.02.09
Bunsen - DC2 (girl) due 21.02.09 CS booked for 16.02.09 (age 32, Leeds)
fruitstick - (a suprise), due: 18.02.09
DizzyBrummie - DC2, due: 20.02.09 (age 36, Berkshire)
Spottyshoes - DC2, due: 24.02.09 (age 28)
eejaykay - DC1 (a boy), due: 24.02.09 (age 34, London)

oooggs Tue 22-Jan-13 19:42:34

exactly what i was looking for swampy!!!!

Thank you

I was actually distracted as found the thread the April 07 lot (when I had the twins) that they started in honour of Luke when he was born!!!!!

swampster Tue 22-Jan-13 19:45:47

OK, this is the last list I found on this thread:

MrsArchieTheInventor Fri 20-Mar-09 13:18:43
I've not made a birth announcement yet despite being up all night on mn the night before I was induced, so here goes...

New Arrivals

MrsArchieTheInventor - DD Eleanor Elizabeth, 10lbs 3oz, 06.02.08
TinkerBellesMumandFifi2 - DD Sîan Anne Denise, 4lbs 8.5oz, 02.01.09
Dinkymum - DS Isaac Christopher, 5lbs 8oz, 19.01.09
Ooogs - DS Luke Daniel, 8lbs 6oz, 20.01.09
Herbgarden - DD Amy Hannah, 5lbs 14oz 23.01.09
idontbelieveit - DD Freya Rose, 6lbs 8oz, 26.01.09
laidbackinengland - DD Mabel Lucy, 8lbs 14oz, 29.01.09
tinasan - DS Enrico Marco, 6lbs 10oz, 29.01.09
onwardandupward - DC2 [I'll put name on fb], 8lb exactly, 30.01.09
stacysmom - DD Tabitha Rose, 6lbs 15oz, 31.01.09
MsLucy - DS Stanley William, 8lb 7 oz, 02.02.09
LittleMissNorty - DS Ewan Scott, 6lbs 13ozs, 02.02.09
swampster - DS Jacob, 7lb, 02.02.09
Jelliebaby - DD Olivia, 7lb 3oz, 02.02.09
MarkStretch - DS Frankie, 7lb 15oz, 03.02.09
Pempe – DS Harry, 03.02.09
Nkweto - DD Alexandra, 8llbs 11oz, 04.02.09
MamaGoose - DD Indigo Norah Rose, 4.15kg/9lb 1oz, 04.02.09
SomeMightSay (lbb)- DS Luke Alan, 7 lb 13 oz, 04.02.09
fgpl - DD Phoebe, 8lb 9 oz, 05.02.09
McDreamy - DD Abigail Louise, 7lb 1/2oz, 06.02.09
Rosieposey - DS Milo John William, 8lb 10oz, 06.02.09
mumoverseas - DS Harrison William, 3.1k, 08.02.09
Questionkid – DS Alexander George, 08.02.09
PinkTulips – DS Aaron Matthew, 8lbs 2oz 09.02.09
Dinkystinky - DS Daniel Nikhil, 8lbs 6oz, 10.02.09
MrsY – DD Meredith Lilian Faith, 7lb 7oz, 10.02.09
Givethedogahomebirth - DD, 8lbs 15oz, 11.02.09
KT1983 - DD Poppy Louise, 6lb 80z, 13.02.09
Pluto - DS Albert David Magnus, 10lbs 10oz, 13.02.09
JenniferTurkington, DD Harriet, 9lb, 15.02.09
America - DS Leo, 3.3kg, 15.02.09
KazzaL - DS Benjamin Hector Douglas, 8lbs3oz, 16.02.09
Astarte - details to follow.
winemakesmummyclever - DS Issac Alexander, 7lb 4oz, 17.02.09
TheHouseofMirth - DS Tarran James, 7lb 2oz, 18.02.09
Fruitstick - DS, Arthur, 8lb 13oz, 18.02.09
Calico1 - DD Lilian Helena, 7lb 4oz, 19.02.09
Mentalpup - DS Harry, 7lb 10oz, 20.02.09
Neerly3 - DS Charlie, 7lb 8oz, 20.02.09
Cocodrillo - DS Rufus, 8 lb 8 oz, 20.02.09
pinkbabybump - DD Eleanor Catherine, 6lb 14oz, 20.02.09
lardybump - DS Owen Francis, 8lb 12oz, 21.02.09
Catstar - DS Samuel James, 9lb 1oz, 22.02.09
chilledmama - DD, 8lb 5oz, 23.02.09
Littlesez – DD, Isobella Rose, 8lbs 23.02.09
katieblirdsnest - DS Ivor, 8lb 4oz, 24.02.09
ihavenewsockson - DS Viktor Jake, 8lb 15 oz, 24.02.09
ScubaGroover - DS William 7lbs 10 oz 26.0209

SilveryMoon Tue 22-Jan-13 19:46:46

Wow! Look how many of us there was!

swampster Tue 22-Jan-13 19:47:18

Happy 4th to everyone. I feel very happy, proud and privileged to have lurked around known you guys for so long.

oooggs Tue 22-Jan-13 19:53:21

very true swampster!!!! I only really follow 3 thread, D'ya ever... multiple thread (have met some of them) April 07 thread (met some of them as well!!) and the Feb 09 thread

lucky to know people who are going throught the same thing at the same time soppy cow emotion wink

rosieposey Tue 22-Jan-13 19:59:09

Ahhh that list makes me nostalgic smile I didn't join the due in Dec thread when I was pg this time with Caspar - moved too fast and everybody seemed really really young!

How is everyone? how exciting that there are new babies to look forward to smile Cas is now 7 weeks and unfortunately I think he has some sort of reflux as we literally can't put him down and he is very hard to settle/wind ect so fingers crossed when I take him tomorrow for his innoculations I can have a word with someone about it. He is a lovely baby though.

Can't believe he is my last, I am grateful for my 5 wonderful children but I'm 41 in a couple of weeks and this really was it for me - took ages to fall pg and boy do I feel old and tired ATM lol but I will always miss the wonder of a very tiny baby.

oooggs Tue 22-Jan-13 20:05:48

rosie - Luke is our last (of 4) and he seems to be growing up much faster than the others did. with dts only 20 mths older than him he is chasing their heels every day. As he moves up a stage I am getting rid of the stuff we no longer need sad

dinkystinky Tue 22-Jan-13 20:06:47

Aah that list made me feel all gooey inside! Love you all too x

Rosie - sorry to hear Cars has reflux. Cranial osteopath helped with that with DS1 and you can get anti reflux cot pillows you can put under their mattress which can help too (as pain lessens for the baby if on an incline). Hope the doctor/HV can suggest things that will help when you see them.

dinkystinky Tue 22-Jan-13 20:14:07

Aargh blimming autocorrect - I meant CAS!

SilveryMoon Tue 22-Jan-13 20:24:37

Me too swampy I def wouldn't have got through the early years without all of the ladies here. This thread has been a lifesaver.
rosie Symapthies for the reflux. Ds1 had it quite bad and I remember it vividly. Poor Caspar. He is very cute!
Luke is also growing really fast. He seems so advanced!
There will be no more babies here either, and although I kind of like the idea of having a baby again, I know I couldn't cope.
Have no idea how you lot manage 3/4/5! Hats off smile

rosieposey Tue 22-Jan-13 20:35:23

OOoggs that's what we did with Milo's stuff, just didn't think that we were going to be lucky enough to get pg again as it was a good couple of years. I gave it all to my neice and it made me very melancholy but happy to see her DS in milo's old stuff - I know it's a cliche but they really do grow up so fast don't they?

Dinky smile how are you feeling!? Well I hope. Did you join another thread yet for your impending arrival? Are you going to find out the baby's sex too? Oh goodness I bet the boys are super excited - mind you milk came to all the scans and was a bit meh til Cas was actually here - now he is wonderful with him smile

Thanks for the advice on the reflux - I'm assuming that's what it is as never he this with any of the girls or milo. He just about ticks every single symptom on the top 10 symptoms for reflux - my god I have never heard a baby fart so bloody much! It would be funny but the poor little guy is so obviously uncomfortable and crys a fair bit especially when laid flat. I'm going to order a reflux pillow Dinky as its a start before any gavoscon ect. I will look into the cranial osteopathy as well - need to google someone local as its getting to a point where we have to do something he is so whingy and sad around his feeds.

rosieposey Tue 22-Jan-13 20:40:52

Ha ha SM that's the thing that puts me off evening the numbers to 6 lol - I don't actually have 5 children just two children and 3 (stroppy) young adults who are my children too smile I couldn't cope with three under 5 which is what I did in my 20's when the girls were young it seemed so easy then!

The girls are a great help though so I guess it's all worked out perfectly in the end. Like i said up thread though I don't half feel old this time - moreso than when I had Milo.

dinkystinky Tue 22-Jan-13 20:54:34

Feeling fine thanks Rosie - had 16 WK appointment today and heard the heartbeat, which was lovely. Feel absolutely huge already though.

Re reflux - DS1 liked being held upright in a sling. Pressure on tummy and being upright helped him I think. Poor old Cas - it is miserable seeing them in pain and unsettled.

dinkystinky Tue 22-Jan-13 20:55:55

Oh yes - boys excited, Danny more so than DS1. Have joined the July thread but not seen the duchess of Cambridge on there yet.

dinkystinky Tue 22-Jan-13 21:10:04

In other news, found out why Danny doesn't want to go to nursery anymore. A boy in his class is about over keen and rough and annoying him - not sure what to do as pretty sure the boy in question has learning difficulties and not meaning to upset Danny. I guess I will need to speak to the staff. Ho hum.

swampster Tue 22-Jan-13 21:53:38

Dinky, that's exactly what happened to Jacob last term. A particular little boy who was annoying him (there's a different one now!). It was coupled with a slight change in his nursery schedule/routine (I started picking him up early, at 3 pm instead of some time between 4 and 6 and it really threw him).

He started crying when I left him, something he hadn't done for AGES. And hardly did at all in any case. It was fairly distressing for a couple of weeks but he's fine now.

Now he actually seems to get on OK with the original little boy who was annoying him. But I had to take him to A&E to get his head glued shortly before Christmas when Annoying Boy No.2 pushed him against a wall in the book corner and split his head open.

dinkystinky Wed 23-Jan-13 09:51:27

Good to hear it passes Swampy. It was obviously en vogue for Fab Feb boys to get their heads glued shut last year as had to rush Danny to A&E to get his glued when he cunningly split it open on a radiator...

swampster Wed 23-Jan-13 13:42:21

grin Dinky, as they were parting his pick hair to glue the gash, just next to it a bit to the left I saw the scar of the previous gash which had been glued almost exactly a year before when he knocked it on the trampoline.

Calico1 Wed 23-Jan-13 14:51:55

Aww - I can't believe it's been 4 years! Lilian as yet hasn't let me know what she wants for her birthday except to say she wants a party with a balloon so they can all play keepy-uppy! Should be do-able....

Would love another baby but couldn't bear another pregnancy - had too many health scares with both of mine (me not the babies)!

rosieposey Wed 23-Jan-13 23:35:07

No trips to a and e since Milo fractured his skull at 8 months - DH did warn me that boys were a little more 'boisterous' than girls and he was right! No glued gashes as yet though.

In two weeks he will be 4 - how the heck did that much time pass? Until a very few months ago I still thought of Milo as a toddler but he isn't anymore, not really - he's a little boy who suddenly seems much bigger since his little brother's arrival!

He still has spectacular meltdowns like a toddler though ... Wish they would hurry up and stop! hmm

dinkystinky Thu 24-Jan-13 09:49:12

Rosie - Danny is a little diva too with many tantrums a day. We find sitting him on the thinking step till he's finished tantrumming and ready to come tell us what the problem is helps him calm down.

MOSagain Thu 24-Jan-13 11:04:46

hello all, can't believe our little ones are now/nearly 4, where has the time gone! Shame so many have 'dropped off' there were so many of us to start with.

dinky glad all going well with your pregnancy.

All very busy here, have organised a charity horse racing night which is on Saturday 2nd Feb. Fundraising for NDCS in memory of a deaf friend of mine who died a few years ago and SANDS in memory of MrsY's Benedict. I know most of you are too far away to come (its in Crawley) but if you want to buy raffle tickets which are £1 each there are some fab prizes. Although a lot of them are 'local' ie meals in local pubs/restauarants a lot are not. PM me if interested.

SilveryMoon Thu 24-Jan-13 23:02:18

Good to hear Luke isn't the only one who massively tantrums still! He is a very emotional child (wonder where he gets that from.......) the smallest thing makes him cry and he is such a drama queen!
He's also had his forehead glued when he was very young. Fell into the doorframe.
I'm keeping him off nursery tomorrow as he seems to have some asthma symptoms.
I just don't trust the school to keep an eye on him and give the inhaler. I know that's silly and they'll have loads of children with asthma but I'm feeling uneasy about it so staying home.
Think I'll book to see his teachers to have a chat about it and make sure they have a care plan of sorts and know what Luke's key symptoms are and that they know what to look for.
God, I'm one of those mums.

dinkystinky Fri 25-Jan-13 13:57:18

Dont worry SM - I'm one of those mums too. I sent in a note earlier this week about Danny suddenly being upset about nursery and wanting to speak to the nursery teacher to find out what's going on and what we at home, and they at nursery, can do to ensure he's happy at nursery again and have heard zip. Ho hum.

SilveryMoon Fri 25-Jan-13 15:59:52

That's really bad that they haven't got back to you about that dinky.
Ok, mainstream nursery, 30 children but I'd expect a reply within a week.
Hope you can get to the bottom of it and make it better for Danny soon

dinkystinky Sun 27-Jan-13 16:38:59

Managed to arrange a meeting tomorrow before work - not expecting much of it though!

SilveryMoon Sun 27-Jan-13 19:57:04

Good luck dinky Hope you get some answers tomorrow. Let us know smile

oooggs Mon 28-Jan-13 09:39:01

Hope the meeting went well dinky

dinkystinky Mon 28-Jan-13 09:46:05

Thanks Oooggs and SM - teacher was very nice (but very new - only been there since the start of term). She said she thought Danny was unsettled because of the change - new teacher and new TA (so only nursery nurse is the constant) but she's not concerned as he seems very happy generally at nursery and has a little pack of boys (and a couple of girls) he likes to play with. I spoke to her about the boy he said had been upsetting him - she confirmed he has special needs and that the 3 of them find it hard to keep an eye on him at all times as he finds it very hard to socialise/understand norms (like why throwing sand in a childs eye in the sandpit when they are playing there is not funny) but said that as of this week he is going to have a dedicated one on one TA in nursery just for him so they expect things to settle down - Danny isnt the only child who has been upset apparently. So fingers crossed things will settle down - and hopefully Danny will get a bit happier.

oooggs Tue 29-Jan-13 12:09:35

Hope so dinky. Here's to a happier Danny at nursery very soon!!

SilveryMoon Tue 29-Jan-13 22:22:00

dinky Glad you got some answers. That does sound tough on little D, but sure he will turn a corner in no time.

Luke's birthday on Monday! Have invited some of his friends round on Sunday to trash the place play, hope they can all make it. My parents are coming Saturday, and I have a leaving do after work on Friday. Going to be a long weekend

dinkystinky Wed 30-Jan-13 09:25:06

Thanks Oooggs and Silverymoon. I caught myself watching Danny sleep last night when I went to check in on him - I cant believe this funny, sweet, wonderful little boy has already been in our lives nearly 4 years and couldnt imagine life with out him or DS1. I feel really blessed to have him and all my lovely Fab Feb friends I made on this thread while waiting for him to come.

blueskymum Wed 30-Jan-13 09:31:38

Hi, I was on the thread when we were all expecting many moons ago and have lurked now and then. Just popping on to say happy birthday to all the four year olds! Can't believe they're this age now......Memories of expecting in 2009, with the snow etc. are really vivid. Hello to everyone.

dinkystinky Wed 30-Jan-13 09:43:17

Hi Blueskymum - hope all good with you and that your little (or rather not so little anymore!) one is well.

blueskymum Wed 30-Jan-13 09:46:01

Hi, dinkystinky,

Am at work in London, so actually managing to post for once! My (not so little) one is 4 on 16th Feb, unbelievable. Am trying to decide whether or not to allow my house to be trashed by his friends, or have a small party at a soft play place etc. Is anyone doing the home party thing, or am I mad?!

dinkystinky Wed 30-Jan-13 10:28:28

Silverymoon is doing a home party - brave lady!

I did a home party for Danny last year - but there were only 8 kids. This year, as he's at preschool, he wants 18 at his party so am hiring out a local play area (has a room we can play games in, a very small soft play room and a room we can do food in) for his party as my house wont be able to accomodate that many small kids and parents!

blueskymum Wed 30-Jan-13 13:35:25

Thanks - food for thought there. That's true about parents coming too.....it will be packed! Might just do a small party then.

swampster Wed 30-Jan-13 14:49:43

I have found softplay is brilliant for 5th and 6th birthday parties. But Jacob doesn't know that many people. We'll be partying at home with his select group of friends and I expect a large amount of siblings to crash. And parents too - must get some wine in!

dinkystinky Wed 30-Jan-13 15:50:37

Sounds like a nice party Swampster! J (and you with that wine wink) will have a whale of a time.

SilveryMoon Wed 30-Jan-13 20:23:01

blueskymum Hi grin I can’t believe it’s been 4 years either. Crazy.
I’m doing the house-party thing. We do it every year for ds1 and 2. Just a few friends, normally between 5 and 10, but I’m in a 2 bed flat so not much room. They trash the place completely but all have fun.
One year, It must have been ds2’s first birthday, I set up a ball pool in my living room, a colouring table and some play dough. Will never allow play dough to come out at a party ever again, I spent weeks with butter knives and ice cubes trying to egt it all out of the bedroom carpets!
Ds2 is 4 on Monday. My parents are coming over Saturday and we are having his friends round on Sunday.
Yes dinky that’s me, crazy. We are close with 2 of my friends, my dc’s and theirs are all growing up closely, so they are coming. That’s 7 children. I told Luke he could choose 2 others from each nursery he attends. Not heard back from some of them, so fingers crossed.
swampy That’s what happens here too, small group of children trash the place whilst mummies drink wine. Everyone’s happy wink

Hey all. I managed to lose this thread again! blush

Not had a huge amount to say tbh, A is doing really well at playschool. His confidence is coming on in leaps and bounds. We're still battling about the toilet but 3 hours a day apart has done wonders for my patience wink

Just going to read through now...

dinkystinky Thu 31-Jan-13 16:40:57

So pleased that A is doing well and clearly enjoying life at pre-school SummerRain - is this the local one or did you send him to a specialised one in the end?

Dont know if you and Swampy and Ooggs found this third time around, but I am ENORMOUS already - easily look around 6 months gone and only just coming up to 19 weeks. Rather worried as to how big this baby is going to be when he/she arrives...

Ok, all caught up!

Were doing a house party too.... I'm just so overjoyed that he actually wants a party with other children I'll tolerate the destruction grin

I'm not inviting all of playschool though, just the few he'll be moving to school with in September, so 6... Plus some siblings. Haven't planned anything yet though <eek>

Dinky.... I was definitely showing sooner with A. I wasn't tragus huge though, I was with ds1 as I had massive amounts of amniotic fluid and he was back to back. I was enormous!

I went with the local one on the end, I heard a few stories about the other one that worried me (to strict for A by far) so it made more sense for him to be with the kids he'll be going to school with. One little girl took him under her wing and he's slightly in love with her now!

Just as well too, my car broke down in a rather permanent way and we can't afford to replace it so I'm glad to have him a bit closer yo home. It would have been s very long walk to the other playschool!

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 10:00:25

Happy birthday in advance to MsLucy's S and N's A - hope they all have fab birthdays whereever they are. And happy birthday in advance to Summerrain's A and SilveryMoon's L and Swampy's J, - hope they have brilliant parties this weekend (and you enjoy the wine and chaos!).

next weekend dinky, don't give me heart failure <<<<wails 'I'm not reaadddyyy'>>>

wink

we haven't even bought his present yet, I'm so chronically disorganised this year it's terrifying...

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 12:24:23

Sorry, thought you said it was this weekend!

Just had heartfailur myself - got a call from the school nurse (and thought it was the weekly call about DS1 falling over I get). But no, she had Danny with her 30 minutes after nursery pick up time because our nanny hadnt turned up to pick him up! Called our nanny and no answer so was getting ready to go to school to pick him up - and our nanny called. She'd been running errands in her car (which was the first I'd heard of it) and got stuck in traffic without her phone and couldnt call but was going to pick him up now. I know these things happen but she knows I'm paying her to be there to pick him etc at 11.30 and poor Danny was in floods of tears (so much so that the nurse had to go get DS1 out of class to calm him down) so am feeling v let down. Even worse we had a letter home from school last week saying that if anyone picks their kids up more than 20 minutes after home time they automatically get a fine and it goes on their school records - never expected that to happen with our kids with a nanny who is meant to be there at home in order to pick them up on time.

swampster Fri 01-Feb-13 12:30:41

I need to do baking now... I'm tooooooooo tired.

Dinky, I was biggest with DS1! I'd had fertility treatment and blew up like a balloon. I was offered a seat on the tube the day before I hit 12 weeks. I was just under 9 stone when I got pregnant, 13 stone when I gave birth - shocking! Most of it seems to have been water as DS1 was only 7kg.

SM, I've been to Lidl for little baggies of Sugarland sweets and Hula Hoops to turn them into monsters tomorrow.

Happy birthdays, everyone.

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 13:06:11

Chocolate crispie cakes all round eh Swampy? Hope the baking goes well - we've outsourced Danny's cake to a friend of a friend (he wants a special hello kitty one and I'm buggered if I know how to create one that complicated)

swampster Fri 01-Feb-13 14:39:13

Butterscotch banana cake! Will bake some brownies too. The outlaws will bring the traditional balloon cake from M&S...

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 17:08:29

Hmm, sounds yummy swampy. Can you send me a piece in the post if any left (wouldnt want you to risk having to smuggle it past the farringdon mice)?

swampster Fri 01-Feb-13 17:58:53

grin It is a truly fabulous recipe. Next time you have any gruesome bananas that are on their way out, make some yourself!

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 18:43:07

Looks lovely - just need to keep Danny away from the bananas long enough to let them ripen... Wonder if barbed wire would do the trick...

Dinky.... Poor Danny shock

Something similar happened with dd once, her friends mother was supposed to collect her and didn't. I was fuming and wanted to rip her a new one.... And she wasn't a paid employee!

I hope he's ok now, I know his spiritual twin sat next to me would have been really shaken in that situation.

Swampy, that cake looks divine. Hope the party goes well... Big hugs to your birthday boy from us smile

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 19:28:34

He's about clingy and told our nanny he thought she had forgotten him - bless. Hopefully he will get over it and our nanny knows not to do it again - and she was feeling v guilty and remorseful. Am resigning myself to him still being unsettled and clingy for the next week at least. Rubbish timing as DH has to go look after his mum for a week as she has just had an op.

swampster Fri 01-Feb-13 20:48:37

Awww, missed that about Danny being picked up late. sensitive wee souls, aren't they?

dinkystinky Fri 01-Feb-13 20:59:20

They are indeed sensitive little souls. Danny was double checking I would stay in the house after I put him to bed tonight, bless him.

sensitive wee souls is right

I found A crying in the loo at toddler group today because 'they won't let me be on in hide and seek' hmmsadgrin

Although I wasn't to pleased with ds1 on that one. He was there with us as he was off school. I'd noticed A was missing but assumed he was playing in the loos (all the kids had been running in and out during a fairly convoluted and loud game of hide and seek) so sent ds1 to check on him. Ds1 comes back out and goes back to playing with the other kids. After a few minutes A still hasn't appeared so I ask ds1 what he was up to. Ds1 says 'i don't know whats wrong with him, he wont tell me'.

It hadn't occurred to the daft child to tell me A was crying!

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Feb-13 08:47:28

Poor Danny! Hope he's ok dinky
About to start the housework, get the place in better shape for tomorrow, just so I can do it all again tomorrow after party!
Happy birthday to all the Fab Feb babies. Can't believe they are growing up so fast!
dinky I was huge with both ds's, but with Luke was in maternity trousers before 12 weeks blush

dinkystinky Sat 02-Feb-13 14:55:15

Thanks SM - he seemed absolutely fine today, woke up and started playing quietly in his room with his toy animals. SummerRain - DS1 is like that too: wouldnt occur to him to tell me if Danny was upset or doing something he wasnt meant to.

Glad to hear others have been huge at different stages - makes me feel slightly less like a ginormous freak.

It was your ds1 who was being assessed dinky wasn't it? How's he getting on now?

Ds1 is finally under full assessment with child guidance, meeting the consultant psyche on the 14th.... Apparently his presentation is 'complex' so no easy answers yet [rolls eyes]

LittleMissNorty Sat 02-Feb-13 15:51:42

Just wanted to say hello an happy birthday to everyone's 4 year olds. Congrats to the new babies as well.....none of that here.....2 are keeping me on my toes. Am getting emotional about my baby starting school already......what am I going to be like in September. Great to see you all still chatting. Must try and get on MN more.....couldn't have managed without itduring my pg.

MarkStretch Sat 02-Feb-13 16:00:37

Hello everyone. Happy birthday to the fab feb babies who turn 4 this month. Wow, 4, I can't believe it. And some of us have had more since and are still cooking sone new ones! (Congrats dinky x ) Frank is 4 tomorrow and we are going to Pizza Hut for lunch (big junk food treat) and then bowling. We had p,Anne's a day out at the Dinosaur Park as requested by his nibs but it's still toooooo cooooold!

Aside from all that I hope everyone is well, I still think about you all and love seeing what is going on on fb when you all post things. No more babies for me but I'm so glad my little Ivy joined our family when she did, 3 is the magic number... However I've had to go back to work (part time shifts with the Ambulance Service working my shifts around Jason) so we can sell our house and buy a bigger one to fit everyone in which will be brilliant but we will be skint forever more!

Lots of un-mnetty hugs to you all x

elkiedee Sat 02-Feb-13 16:01:20

Happy birthday Stanley and Jacob.

Great to see our thread at the top of postnatal after 4 years.

MarkStretch Sat 02-Feb-13 16:01:30

I meant planned a day out, bloody auto correct is mental!

elkiedee Sat 02-Feb-13 16:03:43

Congratulations Dinky on going for a third.

dinkystinky Sat 02-Feb-13 16:11:30

Lovely to see you guys on. Happy advance birthday to Frank stretch for tomorrow - bet he'll love his outing even if no dinos involved.

dinkystinky Sat 02-Feb-13 17:35:35

SummerRain - yes DS1 is being monitored by the school senco. We took him to be assessed as school was doing nothing much. Ds1 has difficulties reading and writing - misses small words, reverses letter etc. He has problems focussing in and tracking. We have started him on omega supplements and others and doing balance coordination and tracking exercises with him daily. It seems to be helping - he has gone up several book bands since the start of the year and is getting better at writing and maths too. His concentration is variable so we are trying cooked breakfasts too to see if that helps.

oooggs Sat 02-Feb-13 18:32:00

Luke is concerned that I am going to be lonely in September when he goes to school.

Not more toddlers!!!! Have been going for 9 years!!!

Hope all having lovely birthdays, 4 is too old!!

dinkystinky Sat 02-Feb-13 18:47:39

Ah bless Luke - that is so sweet!

9 years of toddler tantrums - you deserve a medal!

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Feb-13 19:55:32

dinky How old is J? We've been told that ds1 is a full year behind. I saw his teacher the other day and she said that he has only just come off the EYFS. He is in year 1.
He gets letters the wrong way round, his reading is below average as is his writing, maths (although out of everything, this is what he is best at).
Dp is starting to think there is something 'wrong' with him because of his lack of focus, his inability to listen to and remember instruction and that he continuously makes these silly noises.
I think it;s just him being a 5 year old boy, but dp is concerned. Well, I say 'concerned', but I don't know really, when I ask him (he's said things in gest) how he actually means it, he shrugs and says he doesn't know.

dinkystinky Sat 02-Feb-13 20:49:34

SilveryMoon - DS1 is 6, in year 2. It was half way through year one his teacher said she was worried about his concentration levels and got the senco involved. DS1 was barely reading or writing when he started year 1 - he progressed lots in year 1 (ended up at level 2c at end of the year). He has progressed much better this year - personally I just think he is a late starter (my sister was too) but will do well when he hits his stride. He is young in his year - turns 7 at end of April. If I remember right your J is v young for his year so probably more to do with his young age - no 5 year old boys I know are any good at listening, focussing or doing as asked first time!

SilveryMoon Sat 02-Feb-13 21:18:05

Thanks dinky. Yes, Jacob is an August born child so is very young.
I'm sure with a bit of maturity will come focus.
Glad the school is keeping an eye on your
J and are looking into things.
Thanks for your reassurance

elkiedee Sun 03-Feb-13 13:09:13

Happy birthday Frank.

dinkystinky Mon 04-Feb-13 09:22:17

Hope all the parties/celebrations over the weekend went well.

SilveryMoon - when school were talking to me about DS1, I got a book out by Robin Pauc which has some of the exercises I was talking about in, and has lots of diet etc recommendations. Pregnancy brain has hit with a vengeance so cant remember the name but will try and dig it out if you'd like the details.

MOSagain Mon 04-Feb-13 13:56:44

Happy birthday to those that have already turned 4.

If anyone is interested, charity night went really well and we raised just over £1,000 for NDCS and SANDS in memory of MrsY's Benedict. Huge thanks to catstar/STW? for generously donating a raffle prize and buying tickets
It was lovely to catch up with MrsY too x

dinkystinky Mon 04-Feb-13 14:32:43

That's brilliant MOS - so glad it went really well!

Calico1 Mon 04-Feb-13 15:27:45

Dinky poor Danny, he must have been upset. Similar thing happened to DS last year when he was supposed to be going home from school with another child and his mum but she forgot! Poor DS was distraught, even more so when his teacher brought him to our door (we live next to the school) and no-one was in!

Swampy that cake sounds fab - I'm going to transform the pile of blackened bananas in my fruit bowl.

Lilian has asked for a cake that looks like a strawberry for her birthday hmm. Lilian is having 4 of her friends for a party lunch at home....I'm hoping that they'll all be well behaved little girls and it won't be too traumatic!

dinkystinky Mon 04-Feb-13 18:50:51

Its a good thing you're artistic Calico grin

Lilian and her 4 ladies who lunch sounds positively civilised.

Danny was v upset at the time but seems to be bouncing back thank god.

dinkystinky Tue 05-Feb-13 10:21:45

Happy birthday for tomorrow to Rosey's M!

SilveryMoon Tue 05-Feb-13 20:10:35

Thanks dinky Info on that book would be great, but not to worry, I'll google the author and find it. Give that baby-brain a rest wink
mos Great news on the continued money-raising. You are doing a great job, I see it all on fb.
grin @ lunching 4yo's! hahaha, hope they had fun and it wasn't too traumatic wink