Meeting Santa!

That's what we'll do tomorrow. We have been so busy in the house, and I said to DH we were having a day out tomorrow. So, visiting Santa it will be. DS1 has lost the magi , but DD is just the right age for it this year (DS1 under pain of death to not spoil it for her!!)

Off to google local grottoes and then bed!

We have been up since 4 this morning ; it gets worse

cross posts twink. Sounds like your sister is making things a lot worse for you and your other sibs by being so biddable. I think DH's mum would like to be like your mum, but he doesn't pay her any heed . For all my parent's faults, the one thing they never did was interfere in any of our lives (apart from my sister over an old BF but that was fully justifiable as he was a nutter, and only she couldn't see it, but it was only when they stopped their nagging that she came round!)

I've given up analysing my MIL. I mean today they came to babysit while we did the sale. They turned up and half eight and we had to leave sharpish after that. We got back at about 12.45ish and by the time we had parked up and got in the house she had her coat on and was gathering her things together; so sitting sharing a cup of tea and passing the time of day....so diferent to my family dynamics, but hey ho. In fat, it is five weeks until Christmas and I have no idea whether or not we are seeing them on hristmas Day or even what they are doing . Part of the problem is DH though as he won't ask them unless I prompt him to. Pehaps he has had enough of her???

gah, I have verbal diahorrea tonight

Thank you daisy.
And that is just one of my irks with mum, at the mo.
We have fallen out in the past few days over another issue entirley, but I think all my resentments over the year have added to us clashing big style now.
I am just so fed up with the power struggle and game playing.
I want out of it all

sigh, This to shall pass
but I do think it has affected our relationship badly.
Well, she has said as much.
och anyway, enough about me.

Well done you £100 for all your old tat ain't half bad!!
Got another christmas fayre tommorrow.
Think it is gonna be a good one (not to mean I will actually make any money!).
I have told DH he has to take DD out to meet santa!

ah twinks, sorry for your ongoing mum issues; sometimes mums just don't realise when to butt out <prays I don't become one of thsoe mums>. Perhaps you should say to her, yes, I did it differently with DD, but I had a normal pregnancy and she was a happy, healthy baby, but given the problems I had in pregnancy with J, early on and then later, and him being born early and the transfers to another hospital etc, then of course you are going to feel a little more protective and do things differently, but that this is NOT a bad thing; it's YOUR maternal instinct coming to the fore. Also you being a second time parent has a lot of influence as well; I did a lot of things with DS1 that now seem pretty odd to me as with DS1 I went "by the book", but with DD and DS2 I feel I have done things a lot more intuitively, and I'm sure that is just down to being more experienced as a parent.

Sorry, that was a bit of a rant but I hope you know what I mean!

Not sure what to do about SF here. By all accounts, DS1 should have been invited already as he has asthma, but nothing forthcoming so far, and i'm not sure about bumble as he has his Hib/MenC booster and his MMR coming up and that's a LOT of imms imo.

My dad always used to have a reaction to seasonal flu jab ellie, but his doctor always poo poo'd him and said it was his imagination/coincidence/another bug yadayada . I hope you're feeling better tomorrow.

Did our table sale today and made nearly £100 and that was only about half of what we had to sell so we are looking for a car boot sale somewhere soon. I also, in the course of ripping the house apart trying to find the school chequebook, an uncashed cheque for just under £15 and a ten pound note all scrunched up with an old till receipt <thanks heaven that I hadn't thrown that particular receipt out>

still not fully caught up....I'm trying, honest

Oh my god all those typos!
And do your think that was a freudian slip
(not with this, I don't think she was not being manipulative)
I don't think she was 'not' being manipulative

Oh gowd, I am so sorry for all these massive posts

You are right pinky. It just all feels so petty that I guess I am apologising for that straight out, but it does affect me so maybe I shouldn't
You are spot on with the 'power struggle' it is all about retaining her power. She will huff and strop and take it to any level until we, children, admit that were at fault, end of.
Sis has coached me in the art of deconstructing the bomb that is mum and tells me, for an easy life, it is the only way.
It is false, I won't actually mean sorry and, as much as I can help it, I won't actually utter those words.
At least it will be an, I'm sorry we argued. Which is true.

Tried to meet up with her today, but a couple of texts and dad was on the phone to say that she was ill (not with this, I don't think she was not being manipulative) and that we woudl speak soon.
It was a truce, of sorts, to say that she is not still fuming with me, but just not well enough to face the world at all today.
But he, dad, did relay that she is feeling that I don't give her enough respect. That, in fact, only sis, out of the 4 of us, does.
But that is because sis will drop everything, even lie to mum in saying no I had nothing planned, in order to do mums bidding. Sis is hppy to do it, she places great emphasis on 'family' and woudl drop anything to help any ne of us.
Makes you feel bad but that is her choice. I choose me and mine, sorry <shrugs cos not actually sorry at all>
I am not saying I don't do thikngs if I can, but if we had plans I woudl be honest about it ad try to work around them, not drop them without a thought.
The point is that sis, bless her, is exactly the character that mum likes, ready and biddable. Doesn't answer back and plays mums power games.
The rest of us are, aparently, not playing them. So we are all out of favour for it.
Sory, but it seems a bit petty, doesn't it?

I spoke up, she didn't like it, so she will strop until I stop doing it and make amends for being 'disrespectful'

I have to say in defence of it everyone else I have spoken to have only had a sore arm after having the injection! I think it must be better than having the SF

eek ellie that sounds scary! And yes you have achived something in going for it- that must have taken some courage!

I said to my friend that she may be over-thinking it a bit- and that if she actually got SF she would feel much worse than after the jab. I'm not sure wether to take it up for my DC, well, the girls, since DS has had it already. But they are all still so full of colds, sore throats I won't be doing it this week at any rate.

Oh meant to say thank you for all your lovely messages about my friend turns out she has an overian cyst, so at least its not malignant.