Jan '07 part 7: This time last year it was all beginning - good luck to the Jan 08-to-be's

[2Happy]

Clearly I'm feeling nostalgic! Just think, some of them even had heart beats this time last year!!

[JodieG1]

Ooh I remember finding out very vividly, the whole day is a memory

[2Happy]

I think I did about 3 pg tests, lol!

[ellieandhattie]

I fell pregnant exactly a year ago tomorrow aaaaw just loooking at her laying on the sofa having 40 winks and getting a tear in my eye am just going to go and look what day I got my BFP!

[2Happy]

Yes, E&H, I was going to have a thread title about guess what we were all up to a year ago, but decided to go for the slightly fluffier less rude version

[pinkcandyfloss]

Being pregnant seemed to last forever but when I think about it the past year has gone so quickly!

[ellieandhattie]

11th May I did the test although I knew by then as period as late (use to have very long cycles though!) I really remember doing the test around 5ish in the evening as I was running Ellie a bath then telling Ellie. She she told Chris when he got home from work by giving him the pg test stick and saying 'baba in mamas tum tum' (forgot what it was like when she didnt rabbit constantly in my ear)

[LadyTophamHatt]

I remeber the day vividly too because I nearly died of shock, then walked around Brighton in such a daze that I got lost in the shoping centre.
I walked around the escalator about 6 times thinking "How the F*ck do I get out of this place"

I've shopped there tonnes of times...

[JodieG1]

Just checked and I got my bfp on May 10th.

[2Happy]

I was thinking that yesterday, PCF. Was at doldersis's house - she's now 3 days overdue (well there's a surprise!) and I was just thinking that, only 10 weeks have passed, yet still the memories of just how bloody awful I felt when overdue are really fading.

I think that's probably a baaaad sign, just as well bfing kills both my cycle and my libido

[JodieG1]

Was a bit of a shock here too as we weren't trying and dh wanted the snip (he had it done about 10 weeks ago now). I drove to the chemist with the kids and bought a test, came home and did it not even thinking that it would be postive but it was. I remember shaking and grinning but then was really in shock wondering how I would tell dh. Ended up telling him that evening and he wasn't pleased but it all turned out good in the end I did strugle for weeks though coming to terms with the pregnancy, couldn't believe it. So glad he's here

[2Happy]

(sorry, don't think I've posted for a couple of days, meant to say thank you very much for the oscar nomination, Wilkie and great reminder of RGee's mouse story )

[laughalot]

5th may I found out I was pg the same day my best friend had her little girl , cant think about this to much as dd was my last child and it breaks me to think about it.

[RGee]

Great title 2Happy (bet Wilkie prefers the rude title. Can't believe it was a year ago....[nostalgic sigh]. All those emotions ...

Would love to know some of your DH/P's. Booze, toys, golf lessons, $$$. Can't offer anything in return: DH - computer gimp, me - maths gimp.

[JodieG1]

laughtalot - same here, dh has had the snip so no more for us.

[RGee]

My Oscar nomination goes to LTH (I think it was LTH) who casually dropped in that her DS had started teething and had a photo up of his tooth. I was duped but rofl

[Wilkie]

My BFP was on 17th May 06. I did one when Rich was playing in a comp and had to get my BF round to confirm it!!!!!!! Ahhhhhhh.

DH - Golf Pro
Me - PA but will be going back as a Fitting Co-ordinator (for when bars convert from 25ml-35ml measures).

Great thread title 2Happy and RGee [Wilkie sticks tongue out] I actually prefer the fluffy nostalgic version. Just wish I had joined the thread earlier.

Yes Laughalot I do know it - can you make a trip to Lincoln?????

[Wilkie]

Do you think I am being unreasonable? I am doing a form of controlled crying with Jacob I suppose. He is a little bugger to settle and screams and screams as soon as I put him in his cot even though he is exhausted.

So, we have made the decision not to pick him up to soothe him but to leave him in the cot, when he starts screaming, go in, settle him by shushing and putting dummy back in, as soon as he has stopped crying coming back out. I have so far done this 7 times tonight and he is gradually crying less and less.

I don't agree with doing proper controlled crying on such a young one but equally I am not prepared to get into the habit of rocking him to sleep then settling him as I strongly believe this is bad habit forming (IMO). He needs to learn to settle himself.

I just feel a bit mean not picking him up but I know he is just being whingy cos as soon as I pick him up he stops crying and drops off to sleep on my shoulder.

Please just tell me I'm not being a bad mother

[JodieG1]

Wilkie it's up to you, I'm sure you'll already know what I think so I won't go over it. What I will say is that we always picked ours up whenever they cried and now are very well adjusted, happy, confident young children. They don't have any issues with being too clingy in new situations at all, both started school/pre-school with no problems at all, no crying etc. They also don't have sleep issues (other than early waking but that's just the way ds1 is! Takes after the way his dad was as a child) and they both get off to sleep easily of a night time.

[ellieandhattie]

I tend to do a little of what you do Wilkie, we dont leave Hattie screaming however, we do not rush upstairs the minute she starts as quite often after 40-50seconds she'll settle herself. If Jacob isnt getting extremely worked up and the shush pat/dummy thing work then and you and dh happy with the routine then continue (and heres hoping for 3rd night night sleeping through)

[Nemo2007]

OMg I have no idea when I found out I was pg I was just sooo shocked as DD1 was only just 4mths old. I was also in and out the hospital with her at the time so was caught up in that. I do remember doing the test and shouting down the stairs to DH "remeber when we said it would be funny to have a jan baby..well it isnt a joke anymore"
We had been talking about a jan baby as ds bday is oct, i am nove, DD1 is dec and DH is feb

[LadyTophamHatt]

wilkie, you know me well enough now (i think...I hope) so I hope you don't mind that I'm going to be really honest here.



Its far far far too young for controlled crying yet, and any form of CC. Jacob has no idea that you'll pick him up or now and he's crying less simply because he is exhausted, not because he's learning not too IYSWIM.

I know its really bloody hard to have a screaming abay , Ds3 was one and it drove me nuts (espcially at 3am) but I never did CC because he was just too young to "get it".
Jacob sounds abit like DS1 is now, he need constant activitey or he just gets bored and strts playing up and I imagine in a 3 month old it comes out as a grumpy screaming baby.

I know its all your choice but please don't do CC yet, jacob just wants you and letting him cry will (I think, and IIRC studies have been done) possibly make him a lot more insecure as a toddler because he'll never know when you're going to comfort him or not (I know you are comforting him ...I hope you know what I mean)

Sorry if I sound like a annoying pushy, nagging matron.

[Wilkie]

No, I wanted advice and I appreciate honesty (I am a first time mum after all). Maybe I was wrong calling it CC. I just go in and don't pick him up. I don't leave him in the room crying on his own IYSWIM.

[2Happy]

dsis in in labour!!!!

[LadyTophamHatt]

George doesn't get picked up every time he cries, blimey not by a long shot!

I can multi-task but not that well!!

I'm not against CC at all, if it works for someone than thats FAB but right now its just too young fro them to get it.


Now...thats kind of contradicting myself, isn't it??

I don't do CC on george but he doesn't get picked up straight away..Hhhmmmmmmm


God....I'll sound like a right know it all now but after having 4 I know when he's crying because he wants a cuddle or wants to be left alone or wants a drink....or whatever from the very first sound he makes.
For example, I'm forever saying to the ds's "please leave him alone he doesn't want you faffing over him" and as soon as they get out of his face he'll stop crying and usually fall asleep.
TBH I don't know if that come from experinece or because George is a text book baby.



God...My name is LTH and I patronise people.

Sorry......

[Dragonhart]

HI all. Had a shit day yesterday. We had planned to get loads done in the house/garden but as L has been sleeping really badly the last few nights whichi s not like him, we decided he might be uncomfortable as he is pretty heavy on his cot mattress so decided to sort his bed out. DH spent the day firstly going to Ikea to get a mattress then driving over to Halifax to get the bed my uncle is giving us for L. DH obviously couldnt resist watching my uncles new 52" HD tv so didnt get back til 4.30. Rushed around rearranging the room to fit the bed in and DH started to build te bed. Discover e has the wrong bolts! Manage to wedge the bed up til we could get the right ones, put the Ikea mattress on and it is too long! Apparently Ikea's mattresses are 10cm longer than normal ones! WTF?

So have a bed fram that doesnt work, mattress that doesnt fit, no jobs done and barly saw Dh all day. He is going to a stag do next weekend which he blagged because one of his mates going is in the Army and is goning to Iraq straight after so he was worried that something might happen to him. I know it is scary but .

Also, my right nipple is agony. Looks like it has a spot on it (might be a blocked whotsit but dunno) and it kills when R feeds. It is making me feel really depressed but getting to the docs is sucha mission. It got better for afew days but now is worse than ever. THe rest of my boob is fine it is just the nipple. Feels like when I first started to feed L.

I agree with LTH that you know when they are crying/crooning to sleep or when they really need you Wilkie. I would do what ever feels right. If it doesnt then it isnt the right thing for you iyswim.

Jodie - What a weight! Ruth was only 10lbs3 at 12 weeks so going to have her weighed on wednesday. She had dropped below her line (she has only been on the 9th centile since birth) and I was really worried about it but couldnt talk to the HV as R needed her jabs.

Sorry so wingy. Must be more pos!