Those with a baby, can you talk me through your day

[Neverpeelmushrooms]

How much you get done etc. Feel like I am failing at life...

All I seem to manage to achieve is taking care of baby, meals made, washing done, school runs and some very basic housework. 2 baby groups a week. House is a mess and I'm a bigger mess.

[melibu84]

What are you talking about, you're doing loads!

[melibu84]

I have a 3 month DS and aside from laundry, all I did was binge watch season 8 of charmed lol

[MusicalChairsOh]

I have a 2.2yr old and an 8 month old. Manage to wash up and do laundry everyday along with cooking meals etc . Anything else is a bonus.

[Amanda89x]

You're not a failure op. DD is 16 weeks old and I'm managing about the same. Only really get a chance to do extra if DH is about to watch her and I have enough energy to do it lol.

[Neverpeelmushrooms]

See melibu I am doing a shit job as I am on the go constantly and have no time at all to watch TV. I feel like I must be making a meal of things as no one else seems to be so busy yet achieve so little

[melibu84]

Trust me, my place is a bit of a tip right now. You're doing a great job!

[Neverpeelmushrooms]

Thanks for the kind words, I wish I felt like I was!

It's like I'm swimming against the tide, always busy but achieving nothing

[IceCreamMonkey]

You are definitely not failing, be kind to yourself, you are doing loads (more than me!). My house is a tip, I never seem to get to the bottom of my laundry basket and I rely on my other half's help to batch cook meals at the weekend to use in the week. I think if the children are looked after, everyone is clothed and fed, anything else is a bonus!

[Neverpeelmushrooms]

Thanks.
I think the elder dc are a bit neglected tbh, they just like to read, watch TV, or go on technology after school and it's easy to just let them on the days we don't have clubs. So maybe step one should be to dedicate a bit more time to them.

So to be kind to myself:

The school run takes up 2 hours of my day.

Older dc have activities 4x a week. 3 of which adults have to stay at. So that's another 4 hours approx a week gone.

The baby wakes continuously through the night so I am extremely sleep deprived and don't have much of an evening as I try to head to bed soon after the children to maximise my sleep opportunity.

I prepare and clear up from 2 meals a day for all 5 of us (packed lunches for dc and dp). Breakfast is just cereal and dp and dc help themselves but I feed the baby and load everyone's stuff into dishwasher.

I do shit loads of washing and drying and folding and bed making.

Baby is shit at sleep in the day as well as at night so I usually walk for 1-2 hours to get her to have a decent sleep. Or when I'm really knackered and cba then I will rock her then sit and hold her for her nap. So that's another 1-2 hours where I'm not doing anything else.

We have a big old falling apart house that generates dust and never looks done.

So I can see why I am busy, but I still look at what I've done each day and think 'is that really all I have done'

[1sttimemama1986]

You need to give yourself a break!! I achieve much less with one 8 month baby and a partner who despite working full time cooks all evening meals and is domesticated in that he also does majority of housework!!

I've come to accept despite loving being a mum and being good st looking after my boy - we have fun, lots of love, lots of socialising etc - I am terrible at your stereotypical mumsy jobs 😂

And I'm actually ok with this!

[lostandconfused6576i]

Does your dp help? You sound like you are running after everyone, when do you get time to yourself?