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Start your runners (talk) and your new jars of Jam, 'tis the season-almost.

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Vagolajahooli Wed 06-Nov-13 09:04:48

Here we are ladies, time for all that talk of christmas table runners and chrissie deccy colour combos. And will we be getting some new Jam in this thread! Maybe not quite.

Vagolajahooli Thu 16-Jan-14 08:30:06

here tis

Vagolajahooli Thu 16-Jan-14 08:21:10

So a bit quiet on here. Shall I start another thread?

Honsandrevels Wed 15-Jan-14 20:05:54

Just quickly as food is ready. Lady It must be awful not being able to make preparations. Much love to you xx

RTjoke Wed 15-Jan-14 11:23:30

Good news on the milk Jamster!

It's so nice to hear from you Lady. Bless your little girls having to process the loss of another grandpa figure when they are so young. It must be so hard for you being reminded of the loss if your DH. I hope your DP is being supportive. We are all here for you.

What possessed me to have three children, in three different schools/child are establishments, with a full time job? I'm on my knees with tiredness just settling DS into the work nursery and I'm not actually working until Monday. Unsurprisingly a rush hour Tube commute with a baby is proving stressful.

Mckayz Wed 15-Jan-14 10:53:05

Lovely to hear from you Lady.

Vag, that's horrible about your friend.

Jam, I hope feeding is getting a bit easier.

We'll need a new thread soon.

Vagolajahooli Tue 14-Jan-14 21:53:30

Lovely to hear from you Lady, sorry everything is so crappy at the moment. Would be nice to think next winter will go by uneventfully for you. Madrid sounds perfect. Where is the exhibition? Not really a Reina Sofia style artist so I guess not there. The Reina Sofia in Madrid is one of my favs.

hooray for less hurty boozies Jam. Is DH home now? Can he work from home tomorrow then?

I should have gone to bed an hour ago but started watching Wild Brazil. I want to go to Brazil now.

ShadyLadyT Tue 14-Jan-14 21:36:54

Hello lovely ladies. Sorry for prolonged absence. Thanks so much for your kind words and thoughts - I'm touched. It's all been pretty horrible. Can't even organise a funeral yet because FIL is still with the coroner...Still a mystery what happened - apparently it was the gas fire but now they don't think it was faulty, just that papers near it caught fire. But that doesn't really explain why he didn't escape. Anyway, I have just had endless dealings with the insurers, I had a terrible virus and actually lost my voice for days, the girls are upset...oh my. Also, it just seems to have raked up DH's death as well (for me). Well, I am just moving my way through it slowly and trying to keep calm. The girls are a massive comfort (as well as making things more difficult as I feel like I am not giving them proper time at the moment, and also they have been a bit naughty, I expect because they feel upset and confused. They are talking about what's happened, though, which I think is a good sign).

Also, last week we had to attend a council meeting as there has been a Traffic Order which basically prevents us from parking near our house. It has caused a lot of aggro in the village. DP and I both gave presentations but though I think we couldn't have spoken better, we lost. The whole thing was such a stitch up. But I will bore you about that another time...

I haven't even been lurking. But it has been nice to read through just now. It's lovely to read it all in a big lump. I am just going to randomly mention a few things:

Indith, I am so sorry about your Mum. But as you must know, Stage 1 is a great cause for hope. But still scary for all concerned, I realise.

Arti - I go out perhaps once a fortnight. Sometimes it's twice in one week. But not often. And DP and I get to go out on our own practically never! Which is not good, really.

Jam - you are being such a trouper. My gosh, you poor old sausage. I just really hope things get better.

Rubes - sorry to be thick but what's the latest on the house?

Kayz - re: baths - could you try making the bath very shallow? Getting her excited about a new toy and building it up all day? Could you find a very exciting bubble bath?

I know this is only a little post but I am easing my way back in. I like hearing about your travels, Vag. I am taking myself off for a supercheap weekend in Madrid at the end of the month. Just me, a rucksack and the Velazquez exhibition.

Sorry for the crapness of the catch up.

JamInMyWellies Tue 14-Jan-14 18:56:01

Boobs are loads better the cracks and craters have healed still v soft but I think my supply is ok. He comes off milk drunk so hopefully all ok. Will find out when we see the midwives on sat. Hopefully I will be discharged. Totally forgot how hideous the first few wks are. Have had him in the sling lots the last couple if days which helps in the afternoon when he gets fractious.

Poor DHs flight got canned last night due to mechanical failure. Guess better to find out at Newark than halfway across the Atlantic. He is now due to land in the next half an hr. I really hope he will be able to WFH tom. Boys were gutted he wasn't home for after school today.

Vag such sad news for your friend.

Rubes I can't believe you did swimming personally would have sacked it off.

How's everyone else doing?

RTjoke Tue 14-Jan-14 18:45:21

Same keeps happening to me Jam. V annoying.
How are the boobs?

JamInMyWellies Tue 14-Jan-14 17:55:24

hurumph I posted from my phone this morning and its not here. Ever since I updated my iphone this happens. Will try come back later.

JustRubes Mon 13-Jan-14 17:22:20

Your poor friend vag. What an ordeal.

Vagolajahooli Mon 13-Jan-14 17:12:34

A chain reaction order of mine for DS1 got lost in the post so you have reminded me I need to sort out the declaration thingy saying I never received the order. Such a faff.

Waiting for DS2 to come out of gymnastics. It's suddenly a bit chillier here. I hope that artic vortex isn't heading this way.

I'm not sure if I told you a while back about a friend of mine who was diagnosed with breastcancer earlier last year. She had a mastectomy and has finished her treatment. But it has been hard. Anyway a couple of weeks ago their house burnt down. Thankfully no one was hurt but they lost everything. Poor thing. I'm looking forward to seeing her at the end of February, she is a mate from Derby. But how hard can life be huh. Sometimes life just deals out some difficult cards.

JustRubes Mon 13-Jan-14 16:26:41

Yes. dh is a tinkerer unless I give him a task to do, or unless I piss off out the country leaving him in charge. However, he's often tapping away at work, but still... also tends to "wait for pages to load" then get side tracked on the Chain Reaction website..... hmm
Right gotta collect ds shortly then take him to swimming lessons. Having only landed at 2:15pm, I'd rather stick pins in my eyes, but hey ho.

sybilfaulty Mon 13-Jan-14 12:59:29

How are you today, Jam? Still thinking of you .

Vagolajahooli Sun 12-Jan-14 20:11:09

Jam you poor thing. I remember being obsessed with looking at the boys poos to see what colour they were green or that yellow/brown colour. I'd get really despondent if I felt it was the wrong colour. In hindsight if I'd just looked at the baby whose nappy I'd just changed I probably would have been less freaked out. But what are we supposed to do but freak out, it's their food intake. It's a big responsibility. I don't know what to say to make you feel better, all I can do is make shhushing noises and pat your back.

JamInMyWellies Sun 12-Jan-14 19:21:38

What is it with men and garages? Mine is always hiding sorting out in there.

Sorry so difficult to post at the mo.
The day to day showering eating getting the kids to school is fine. I just find the feeding tricky. My nipples are healing and hardening up it just feels like I get rid of one problem and another tears it's head. Saw the midwife this arvo and after constantly gaining weight he has now lost weight. So of course I am now in overdrive worrying even more so about supply. Even though she told me she is not concerned about weight or my supply.

God it's just a merry go round of stress.

Arti glad to hear you have managed to have a chat with the au pair.

beans37 Sun 12-Jan-14 17:49:26

PS Vag, I know what you mean about the constant tinkering. After lunch, having done 20mins on the trampoline with the girls, DH has been in the garage since. I could really do with him doing a spot of childcare, to be honest. Exhausted. Think ill be in bed before Sherlock tonight!

beans37 Sun 12-Jan-14 15:36:06

my sisters both want to just do 2 days too, so it turns out it's ok. I think I might even get the train. imagine. sitting quietly with a book for 4 hours with no interruption. bliss!!! DD3 will be 9 months by then. time is running away from me.

vag, I know what you mean about slipping away. both older DDs still very touchy feely, but a lot less cuddly than they used to be. Although when she's feeling insecure, DD2 still puts a hand down my bra!!! quite weird!

Vagolajahooli Sun 12-Jan-14 14:59:06

Beans I know what you mean. I can't really complain about DH being away a lot. He us around loads and us great with the boys. But he is so much on hos laptop or twiddling with his bike or doing something. I often have to tell him to do stuff with the boys. I endlessly have to tell him to do stuff with them. If we go out to the park, beach or anywhere out of the house he is brilliant. But if we are home he seems to wander off doing other stuff.

anyway that making you have 2 days to spread your dads ashes instead of 3 is a bit out of order. Seems a bit dangerous making you rush the drive.

Jam go easy on yourself and your boobs. You & them are doing a great job. As RT says get your gear off and have a snuggle with DS3. Might not help the BM production, but it will feel nice.

DS2 is gets a bit nostalgic for the good days of nudey cuddles. He still puts his hand up my top to touch my tummy. On the bike I often feel a little hand slip under my coat and up on to the skin on my back. This morning he lifted my shirt up so we could touch tummies. Little sweety. DS1 on the otherhand is just up for cuddles now and not so much for the lingering ones. I can slowly but surely feel him slipping away. I'm glad we snuggled so much and co-slept when he was a baby. I think it would make him moving away from me even harder.

beans37 Sun 12-Jan-14 14:16:03

Rubes, it's self-induced guilt too.
I wish I was in dubai too.

Have just made a delicious roast lamb with all the trimmings. 1.5hrs cooking, 3 minutes to scoff! even the girls had 3rds!!

JustRubes Sun 12-Jan-14 13:17:59

Ah poor thing Arti. Glad you got to the bottom of it and all seems well.

Why do I try to troubleshoot things myself? Kettle tripped out TV and I now have drawn blood sticking my arm down the back of wires behind TV. Should have just called the ever efficient hotel staff first. They were here in a nano second. Forgot how bloody brilliant Dubai is.

RTjoke Sun 12-Jan-14 13:04:07

Oh Jamster, is there any chance of 24 hours of you and DS3 relaxing together with lots of skin to skin and feeding to stimulate supply? That probably too much to dream I know. If its any comfort I never express much yet have fed three huge babies so I'm not sure the amount you can express is a good indicator of supply.

Rubes, all ok with a u pair. I got home on Fri all ready to have a big talk and found her in the kitchen looking very sad and ill. She only has a cold but has never been ill away from home and she told me she'd been feeling homesick. We had a good chat and clearly that was the problem and it reminded me how young she is and she seems much happier since.

JustRubes Sun 12-Jan-14 12:36:48

Bill anyways?? Meant to read i'll always

JustRubes Sun 12-Jan-14 12:35:53

Does he actually say stuff beans or is it in your head? I ask because I often "feel" guilty when I need to go off and do things and leave dh with the kids and bill anyways text saying "won't be long" etc but he always sats I shouldn't worry and to take as long as I want etcetc but I still do worry. He's got the kids last night and today but says he's having a great time so I feel ok about sleeping and room service (raining here) Maybe it's just that you're feeling guilty with no reason to? But if he says stuff to make you feel that way then I'd be pissed and put your foot down. 2 plus a new baby would be bloody hard.

beans37 Sun 12-Jan-14 11:52:19

I seem to spend my life feeling perpetually guilty. Why is it that men don't get that?

This weekend, DH has been for an afternoon of cycling, an hour's run this morning and now gone to Homebase on his own til lunchtime. I don't think I'd be able to leave him that often with the kids without feeling bad. And I constantly feel bad that I'm neglecting one or the other child... Usually DD3, although when I'm lavishing attention on her, I worry about the other two!! Endless.

I've also just asked DH to take 3 days off work so I can go with Mum and my sisters to sprinkle Dad's ashes in North Wales. Somehow, he's managed to negotiate it down to 2 days so I'm travelling late at night. How did that happen?? I am too wet.

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