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November 2012 - The first fearless steps and the rest of us hoping our babies remain stationary for a bit longer

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StuntNun Sat 07-Sep-13 08:25:10
Evilwater Sat 07-Sep-13 21:33:16

It's nice to know I'm doing things right yellow hopefully ill put some pics up soon.
Evil

YellowWellies Sat 07-Sep-13 21:57:31

Hurrah elderly fat cat can haul ass over the kitchen stair gate - here's hoping pup and bear will be trapped grin

TheDetective Sat 07-Sep-13 22:02:38

sad O isn't fussed when I go. He's always happy to see me when I come back though.

But I can leave the room fine.

He is fine with strangers.

I've fucked this up. sad

Bryzoan Sat 07-Sep-13 22:05:25

Chasing - I am even more pleased to know you are getting a lovely friend than a possible relationship. Glad you had a good day today in the end. X

Stunt - hugs

Peaches - awesome to have you back. Sorry to hear you've been having a tough time.

Dh and I watched strictly. I thought rod Stewart was surprisingly good. I have added him to my "fantasy strictly" celebs line up. So far I have:

Rod Stewart
Robbie Williams
David cameron
Mr bloom, and
Anyone from rhyme rocket

That doesn't look so great written down. I am not deeply impressed with ashley whatsisface from Hollypaks taking part when his baby is about due. How to miss spending time with your newborn and make your partner feel rubbish all in one go. Nice.

GingerBeerAndTinnedPeaches Sat 07-Sep-13 22:08:37

You're doing the right thing evil . You're back at work so the separation thing has to be got through but he will be fine.

DD1 never went through the separation anxiety thing but because she was used to being looked after by others for the first three months of her life, as I was so ill, it was to be expected. We're fairly close now, when it suits her grin

So. Nursery. DD1 has been fairly easy. I've been building her up to going, and she really needed the social aspect and the discipline. Over two weeks she went in every day from 30 minutes to 6 hours and is reasy to go full time on Monday. Whoop. She nap dodges there too, much to their dispair, but apart from a few incidents where she tried to nick other girls's hairclips she has settled in verywell.

LO has found it much harder. She did 90 minutes on Friday and will go up to 6 hours by the end of next week. Hysteria to the point of fainting the first couple of days (10 and 15 minutes) but, although she is stillcrying most of the time she has started to build a relationship with her key worker, ie turns towards her now when she is upset, rather than away from her.
It's hard, and DH has had to take next week off too (his sudden unpaid leave request was accepted with no quibble, funny that) as I am on sick leave and have to stay in most of the time.

But the nursery workers are good, I trust them 100%. They don't have to suck up to us as the places are so oversubscribed, so can afford to be honest about how things are going. They are being so lovely with LO in particular as she is finding it so hard. They have assigned her a much older woman as her key worker as they know she doesn't have a nearby granny. I thought that was a very sweet detail to have thought about.

They have decided not to try and make her nap in the dormitory til she is ready and will put her in a bouncer, swing or pram as they see fit to ensure she does get rest.

The facilities are fab. A garden which is in part tended by the big kids, so dd1's group. A swimming pool room which is more like a giant bath for water play, but filled with polysterene balls in Winter. A huge big games room which is a soft play area. And then the three main rooms for the age groups. There is also a 'classroom' for quiet activities for the bigger children, dormitories for each age group, and a huge wooden veranda which runs right round the building, which is open for the kids to run or crawl free as long as it doesn't rain or snow ( though there is a fence to stop the toddlers from running ocer the babies).

You know what? If there weren't so many small people there I would like to go there for daycare myself!!!

The menu for September is great. A raw veg starter; meat or fish; cooked veg; a cheese course then fruit or pudding. It is far better than the leftovers or pasta I fed them at lunch. On Friday DD1 ate coleslaw, cod in a tomato sauce with green beans, brie and fruit salad.

OK. So that's nursery summarised. I'll talk about me on FB. Tomorrow maybe.

Bryzoan Sat 07-Sep-13 22:10:08

Det g is mostly happy with anyone too. He is also always delighted to see me, and very secure. You haven't fucked it up. They are all just different.

GingerBeerAndTinnedPeaches Sat 07-Sep-13 22:13:04

bry Mr Bloom would be great, but paired up with Mr Tumble.

Detective you've done nothing wrong. He's self confident, not indifferent. Oh, I popped a very little something in the post for you yesterday. Something I can't use but I hope you will. Nothing exciting, just a book.

Thanks for the welcomebacks grin

Brockle Sat 07-Sep-13 22:21:30

bry Chris and Poi from show me show me should be on the list.

det you have a happy confident little boy who is secure and clever cos he knows you will be back. Sep anxiety doesn't affect all babies. Y smiles when I leave and smiles biggest when I come back. he doesn't like me leaving the room when I am in but I can live with that. smile smile

PurplePidjin Sat 07-Sep-13 22:21:49

R isn't fussed when i leave unless he wants milk or a nappy sad

He has never been parent facing in a buggy. My mum's friend passed on a buggy for me so my mum didn't bother buying me a nice one. It's total shit and everything i didn't want - ff, tiny rattly wheels, horrible lime green, no way to attach a car seat or any kind of nice enclosed pram bit. He was 8 mo before he'd tolerate being in it for more than 5 minutes sad

I hate being poor

YellowWellies Sat 07-Sep-13 22:21:54

Det it might not have hit yet or might have hit aaaages ago for Oscar as he was such an early mover. Separation anxiety seems to be linked to independent movement - perhaps a fear of getting lost from caregivers when they can crawl makes sense evolutionarily speaking? I remember you mentioning a period that O was really clingy and whingy. That was probably it but given he's a boy in a hurry it was aaaages ago. Jonas' has just kicked in this last week he's been proper crawling. I'm trying to be flattered.

horseylady Sat 07-Sep-13 22:26:01

Hi ginger

We have seperstion issues here a bit. Getting slowly better.

I'm feeling awful though. I'm working so much it's fucking crazy. I've hardly seen him the last couple of days sad yesterday I worked730am to 10.30pm then today 8-6 sad I'm competing tomorrow so will be out for ages too sad I might take half a day Monday or Tuesday to just sit and cuddle him.

Dh ultra broody. I am very much not. I feel like my life is just stupid and another baby would just not be good. I've told him not to mention it for at least 6 months.

BigPigLittlePig Sat 07-Sep-13 22:49:32

Tired mummy pig.
Super snotty poorly little pig

sad

GingerBeerAndTinnedPeaches Sat 07-Sep-13 22:58:37

sad (((hugs))) in direction of the pigsty.

(((Hugs))) pidg

Does anyone ever want to comment on a friends/family members FB status and tell it like it is. Someone's irking me at the moment and I really want to write "FFS you're a twat! Face up to your responsibilities and realise how easy you've got it. Stop fucking moaning. Oh and stop writing about eastenders/x factor/your neighbours dogs rabbit and get a life"
And breathe grin

Oh and can I have another internal scream at MIL and bloody purées again? God knows how many times we've said M doesn't have puree, she just eats what we eat. She tried to give her a shepherds pie pouch when she had M this week. M refused to eat it. MIL tasted it and said it doesn't taste very nice. MILs friend said "why not just blend up some normal shepherds pie". confused
Both DH and I looked like confusedangry and said again she doesn't eat purées, she eats the same as us, why would it need blending etc etc
Why is she so desperate to feed her bloody purée, she didn't eat them at 6 months so why the frig would she be suddenly having them now nearly 4 months later.
Arghh feels better to get that off my chest, MIL is lovely really smile

Kirrin Sun 08-Sep-13 00:20:49

stunt sounds like you're handling things well.

chasing glad you had a good day. That break must do you the world of good.

Good luck with the jobs pidj

Your poor eye peaches Hope its not giving you too much grief.
That nursery sounds fab. LO will settle soon enough. Lucky your DPs work are understanding ;)

You haven't done anything wrong * detective* I reckon YW is spot on.

I had a shit day sad Crap mum of the year award goes to me. I undid N's buggy straps and then got distracted by DD1 - literally for a second but long enough for N to lean forwards and fall out shock sad She's fine but I feel completely shit. It keeps replaying in my head. Add another screechy moment at DD1 this evening and I'm starting wonder if this parenting thing is really for me - I'm really not good at it.

Bryzoan Sun 08-Sep-13 01:38:46

Kirrin - sorry you've had a bad day. Don't beat yourself up though. All of us have at the very least had near misses on accidents. You aren't a crap mum. You always sound like a great mum to me when I read your posts:

Horsey that sounds really hard. Hope things ease up soon.

Hugs and hankies to the pigsty, and hugs to pidj too - hope your interviews go well.

Sorry about your eye peaches and also that lo is struggling to settle. Hope next week is better for you both.

Mr tumble and chris and poi would definitely be on dd's fantasy strictly list. She would happily watch a documentary about the royal family if they were in it.

wellieboots Sun 08-Sep-13 04:02:33

Marking place and resolves to post more than once on this thread. I thought we had a walker here, DD. took a couple of steps on Monday but now we're back to holding fingers again. Oh well, I'm not in a hurry!Good to see you back peaches. Hugs to stunt chasing and anyone else who needs them.

GTbaby Sun 08-Sep-13 06:02:23

Wtf why am I awake? Can't get bk to sleep confused betting on snoozing 5mins before lo wakes. confused

Off to catch up on thread.

ChasingDaisy Sun 08-Sep-13 07:09:58

He's been awake an hour and I'm already sick of the whinging. It's constant from the moment he wakes up. Apart from when he's with anyone else of course. Plus it is Sunday and I hate Sunday's. They're family days.

Sophiathesnowfairy Sun 08-Sep-13 07:24:32

ginge that sounds Rough about your eye, but nursery sounds great.

Don't worry kirrin I remebered this weeks a toddler and a baby is hard physically you need hands and eyes everywhere if you new how many head meets concrete incidents we have had you would be shocked. O has now perfected his judo fall and just smiles!

det my O has never had separation anxiety. EVER. Though like you say always pleased to see me. I think it was because he was in nursery at 6 months.

Another day at Slieve Fairy. We now have a task am thinking downtown tonight. Or is that getting a bit passé?

PennieLane Sun 08-Sep-13 07:37:08

Thanks for new thread stunt and I hope things improve. Sounds like you've got it under control.

chasing glad you had a good day, and peaches v sorry to hear about eye-sounds horrendous!

We've a walker here, but she doesn't do distances. She walks between furniture or to me if I'm on other side of room say. She'll do 4/5 ft alone.Still holds hands when outside, although I drop her hands and she'll carry on until she realises. I'd say this is how sep anxiety has manifested itself here. I thought she'd just be walking all the time but its like she has to develop the confidence that I'll still be there/she won't walk away, and you can sometimes see the panic if she realises I've let go of her hands. But she's growing with confidence everyday and I love seeing it. It is odd though as thought it would be like crawling where they are just off. She does more and more everyday and now prefers it to crawling.

Went to a wedding last might, just me and DH. Had to socialise though which was a Shame as wanted to hang out together. Feeling hungover this morning. Eek.

pass great image!!

fruitpastilles Sun 08-Sep-13 08:31:33

Hope L's cough clears up soon jj have a safe journey back.

Nursery sounds fab peaches I'm sure LO will settle soon, it sounds like she is making progress anyway. Hope you eye clears up soon.

Hope little pig is feeling a bit better this morning pig and that you had a decent sleep?!

Hugs kirrin you are not a crap mum at all, you are the best mum your dd's could wish for. These things happen. We put the heating on yesterday for an hour and I completely forgot to factor in S crawling and touching the radiator, cue lots of crying and me feeling totally shit. The living room radiator was promptly turned off!

brewbrewbrew To pennie hangovers and lo's don't mix well! I was the same last Sunday!

S had a lie in this morning, she didn't wake until 6:30, she's normally a 5:30 kinda girl. Apart from getting her down in the first place she had a better night that the past few, a few cries out in her sleep, one was a piercing scream though that scared the crap out of me. A couple of dummy inserts and that was about it. She didn't go down until 9 though, when she's normally asleep by 6:30.

fruitpastilles Sun 08-Sep-13 08:32:39

Did we hear from vq yesterday? Hope she's ok!

Sophiathesnowfairy Sun 08-Sep-13 08:33:00

Obviously I mean TV. I also have lots of tasks.

GTbaby Sun 08-Sep-13 08:43:01

Lo is parked right in front of tv. Can't decide if I should just enjoy him distracted or discourage such behaviour.

And as I decide option one is ideal this morning he crawls over and starts climbing up me confused

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