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Jan 2013: Part 5 - Food is for fun - Sleep is for wimps...

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Pascha Sat 03-Aug-13 09:50:51

Here we go again

Angielka Wed 23-Oct-13 09:50:11

thlgrin

Angielka Wed 23-Oct-13 09:49:53

I hope that creepy and cupcakes run away to a spa together; glorious manages to sleep despite worry about Mum (big hugs there glorious I know exactly how that feels) by being told by boss today that she will be paid but doesn't have to come back to work as early as she thinks; lolli gets a magic remedy for the shits and bunty gets a full night's sleep before she kills her rl friend.

Nice to dream [thigrin]

Meringue33 Wed 23-Oct-13 09:22:56

Hope your mum is ok Glorious x

Wrote a big long post yesterday with individual responses to everyone, it disappeared! Grumpy! So no change here grin

Hope everyone else is hanging on in there x

Oh no glorious hope she's OK flowers

My mum still rocks her supermarket trolley, 30 years after she's had a pram!

Love the nickname Pascha

glorious Tue 22-Oct-13 23:00:40

creepy I'd definitely find something you need to go out for longer to do then. At the very least you'll get a break.

cupcakes how lovely everything's so close. Settling in sounds good. We've just decided on a childminder and we're about to sort out the details. She's suggested we meet up at a local playgroup a bit too which is a good low key way to start.

I'm really worried tonight as my mum has rushed back to the UK for urgent tests on her breast and skin sad It's hard not to catastrophise. Not sure I'll sleep which is saying something as I'm beyond exhausted as DD'S cold came just after she got over the jet lag so it's been ages with v little sleep. Speaking to my boss in the morning about new job and hours confused

Lostbobbles Tue 22-Oct-13 21:17:46

Lol Pascha, that's some nickname

DanielHellHoundMcSpaniel Tue 22-Oct-13 21:02:38

Oops! Shit sorry its Pascha in hallowe'en disguise! blush I used our nickname for Dan when he's being particularly cheeky

blush

DanielHellHoundMcSpaniel Tue 22-Oct-13 21:01:15

I sway too.

Lostbobbles Tue 22-Oct-13 20:05:00

Another one guilty of the mummy sway blush

So many crap dps! Sorry you're having problems. The first year is so hard especially as so little reallt changes for men! Dp only really 'got' it when i was pg with dd1 and got a nasty bug which landed me in hospital and he spent 2 days askinh when i could come home!

Creepy i've been swaying like that for years nutter

Ivy loud today! Keeps shouting at me while climbing up the sofa then falls over and claps!!

Creepy I shall bring cake and chocolate.

CreepyCrawly Tue 22-Oct-13 17:28:16

Guilty of that one too! Sounds like we need to run away together cupcakes!!

Creepy I do that! Even worse - the other day I was in the supermarket and bumped into a friend. I started rocking the trolley to keep the baby content, which would have been fine, accept the baby wasn't IN the trolley. He was with his dad blush.

I'd forgotten about the 7 year itch thing - we're in year 7 too so maybe things will get better. Although I can't see that happening until DH actually starts to help with DS or do some housework. And stop lying about his debts. hmm

CreepyCrawly Tue 22-Oct-13 16:47:06

Thanks guys. It's so shit isn't cupcakes? We used to have a pretty much perfect relationship. I suppose you shouldn't have a baby in the dreaded 7th year of a relationship! I hope things gets better for you soon. Good luck with the settling day! I bet the dogs will love it grin

glorious I'm still bf but she does take a bottle of expressed with no trouble so I may just do that. He doesn't realise how lucky he is either because she's such a content little thing, always happy.

Anyway, who's adopted the 'mum sway'?! If I'm stood up for any amount of time, I find myself swaying back and forth whether I have a baby in my arms or not grin

glorious we have an hour on November 4th where I stay with him, and then 2 hours on November 5th where I leave him. I think I have to spend some time filling in paperwork, going through his routine etc, which I do in the office on site, then I guess I'll just come home and play with the dogs for a bit! Fortunately I live really close to nursery (can see it from the bedroom window in fact) and also work close by, so will never be more than 15 minutes from DS. I'm only going back to work 3 mornings per week so it should be OK. I think he'll love nursery as he's so sociable and active, just a bit worried about the transition as with DH working away it's just been the two of us.

glorious Tue 22-Oct-13 15:52:33

Oh and cupcakes when's settling in? Have you lined up something nice to do when you are leaving the building for short periods?

glorious Tue 22-Oct-13 15:51:23

Oh creepy I'm really sorry sad . I can't remember how you are feeding but just wondering whether there's any chance of leaving him in charge for longer? My DH is good anyway but it made a huge difference when he had a month off between jobs recently and he saw how relentless it is. Can you try to put any big decisions to the back of your mind until you're a bit better rested?

cupcakes sorry you're under strain too, and that your DH has such crazy expectations angielka .

lolli I don't know really but I'd offer plain food and be guided by appetite.

creepy so sorry you're having problems with your DH. I think they quite often don't realise how much life changes, do they? My DH's life hasn't really changed much but having DS has really put a strain on our already dodgy relationship and this is one of the many reasons we probably won't have another, even though I would dearly love more children.

Lolli if it's getting worse is a call to the GP in order? Ours are excellent at telephone consultations which save you trekking in and will only call you in if they really need to see you.

Just booked DS in for his settling in session at Nursery - I go back to work on 11th November. <sob>

CreepyCrawly Tue 22-Oct-13 15:05:03

I go to a 2 hour exercise class every Saturday morning, so he's with her then and has to give her breakfast etc. but I think he just plonks her in front of the telly afterwards. He has seemed slightly better today, but he's still lying to me about smoking now which is really pissing me off. He's almost 10 years older than me so you'd think he'd be a bit more mature. I'm seriously wondering if I can be bothered anymore sad

Oh no on the bad bum lolli. I'd just make sure she has plenty of fluid I think.

How was last night bunty?

lollipoppi Tue 22-Oct-13 12:41:43

Creepy, how would you feel about just leaving DH with DD? Maybe have half a day out with friends and leave them to it, that way he can have some 1on1 time together? It might make him appreciate how much hard work goes into looking after a little one.

DD has got the shits confused she has had it for a week now and it's just getting worse, I don't even know if I should still be offering food or just let her get it out her system?

Angielka Tue 22-Oct-13 09:33:25

Glad to be of service ladies grin.

creepy think lost has an excellent point. Once the novelty wears off, the shit this is forever idea hits home and some people find that difficult to deal with, both mums and dads but usually dads

Exploded at DH just this morning. Despite experiencing the chaos of our lives at weekends he still seems to think that I am on 'leave' so will have time for jobs like cleaning the oven or washing curtains as well as all the feeding, changing, planning, tidying, cleaning, wiping and food shopping I have to do.

Bottom line I guess is that it's down to us to tell it as it is. So tiring though, and another reason to be tired is really not necessary. sad

Lostbobbles Mon 21-Oct-13 22:56:43

Hi Ladies

Sorry to hear about all the stress the little munchkins are causing ....

Bunty- hope meds help, what a little madam. Have teeth appeared yet? Also how long do you leave her before going to her, I have a ten minute rule after 11pm now and most of the time she will settle, if she wakes a few times in quick succession I usually know she is after milk.--prob doesn't really need but I can deal with once a night--

Pacha/Birdies - yay on DS1 speech and birdies my DD1 took a while to string sentences together but had loads of words. My only advice is talk talk talk, any mundane nonsense will do ...... Also let them answer and try not get them what they want if they point etc if only I could follow my own advice......

Creepy, hope DH situ improves, sometimes it's easier to bury head in sand rather than open up. He may be at the reality hitting stage, that life has changed forever and he is responsible for the both of you and he may just need you right now as much as you need him. and unfortunately we seem to have to be the stretched in every direction person Is he a similar age to you?
or he could just be being a twat
But really hope you start to feel better in yourself as it's a horrible place--

Anyway my DD2 is obsessed with anything/ anywhere she is not supposed to have/be and for xmas I am getting her a car key fob from eBay grin

Other news day one of 2 week half term and I'm losing will to live already confused

CreepyCrawly Mon 21-Oct-13 21:34:01

Baby gym is a genius idea! I've found putting a toy in my mouth works for a little while, or an empty packet of wipes has done the trick today.

Sort of had a talk with DH today. He says he'll change his ways, which I've heard countless times before. But he did read her a story this evening and settled her in bed too. They are shits most of the time aren't they?! He's told girly from work that she can stay here after our works christmas do. Um I don't fucking think so hmm

Hoping everyone has a good night, especially you bunty

Lora1982 Mon 21-Oct-13 20:10:26

unpacks the baby gym

Im sorry your both having a crap time ladies sad and im glad youve got help bunty, hope it works!

On the dh front creepy id be having it out with him. Sometimes blokes aareso thick they dont realise they are being so ignorant.

Dp only tthissunday gave dexter aabath for the ssecondtime in nearly ten months!! That took aa lot of nagging.

angiel you are a genius, I have one of those baby gyms but had put it in the loft once dd was sitting. I got it back down and it kept her amused while I changed her nappy.

bunty definitely kill her wink. Glad you have some meds, hope t they will improve things for you.

creepy flowers that sounds rubbish

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