Would you like to be on Mumsnet's research panel? We're especially keen for new parents (and parents-to-be) to join. You can sign up here - there's (nearly) always a great incentive on offer for your views.

May 2013 thread our new and not so new arrivals

(751 Posts)

Hi ladies

Just thought we could all really do with this. Rather selfish a its mostly for the thousand odd questions I have and things I'd like to share/ vent that no one else would understand.

We've all been together so long I even talk about you all to DP smile

10storeylovesong Fri 24-May-13 08:02:18

Haha, I do too. He knows every new arrival. I still have a thousand questions and have no idea what I'm doing too.

Quick summary... We've been home 6 weeks now although Seb's corrected age is only 2 weeks. It's hard, as I keep comparing him to other 15 week old babies and he's so far behind. He's now 6lb 14 oz so has more than tripled his birth weight!

So far as routines etc go, no chance! He reuses to be put down at all, making for very hard work. He was feeding quite well, taking about 100-110mls at a time (formula fed now after I completely dried up, despite expressing constantly and being on meds) but after his op went completely off his food, crying every time a bottle went near his mouth which was very distressing to see. He's getting slightly better now and has been taking between 60-90mls at each feed.

Sleep wise, he had been sleeping in something called a poddle pod in our bed, but again went off that after op and I spent every night sitting up with him on my chest until dh went to work at 630 when he dropped him off at mil's for me to get a few hours kip. Such hard work. However, last night he settled in his pod again - and I developed insomnia!!

We're also battling through a cold at the moment and he sounds like a little piggy with his snotty nose!

I hope everyone's doing well with their little ones and can't wait to catch up x

Zorra Fri 24-May-13 08:02:29

Well done Beaut, looking forward to continuing the conversation! X

We are only on day 5 here. Feels like longer as Ive always stayed in hospital for a bit and this time we were home the same day.

10 have you already tried everything to get him to try an take more formula? Tips include blowing gently on them, stroking feet, taking off a layer of clothing. For the first few days Teddy would only take an oz. Now I feed him, wind him, feed him, wind him, change his nappy, feed him and wind him. He now takes 3oz most feeds although last night was only taking an oz.

What bottles is he on as they can make a huge difference. I'm using Tommee Tippee. My friend highly recommended MAM. With my first I tried 3 different bottles and the last one made it seem like I had a new baby smile

Beaut, our babies are the same already on 3oz most feeds, my midwife was really shocked coz she never lost any birth weight. not surprised the amount she eats. Glad I chose to bottle feeds again or I think she would prob be on me all the time.

We had our 1st bad night last night. She was so unsettled and kept crying in her sleep so we ended up on the sofa at 3am. Luckily I got to go back to bed for a few hours as DH is here or I would of been a zombie today. Glad we have this now coz I have so many questions to I seem to have forgotten everything in 2 years. And also people to chat to in the middle of the night.

roastpotatoes Fri 24-May-13 09:42:47

Beaut, thanks for starting this off - its nice to have somewhere to share the many complexities of a new baby! We got off to a great start for the first ten days, with a baby that got the hang of bf and seemed fairly content. But the last few days have been really tough. Alice hasn't regained her birth weight- in fact she's stayed at 10% below so they think I don't have enough milk supply. I've feeding as much as I can and expressing lots but its so depressing because I sit there for an hour and only get 20ml off. She had been doing really irregular pops, about every 5 days, which again she's not taking enough in. But yesterday she did 5 poos! So maybe we're turning a corner...? Fingers crossed.

(17 days)

10storeylovesong Fri 24-May-13 10:34:08

Beaut - he was feeding well until the op and then I think it was a combination of pain and being full of a cold that stopped him. He was literally screaming when bottle when near his mouth, thrashing about and arching his back. He was on Tommee Tippee bottles and on recommendation from hospital we switched him to Asda's own and he's been much better. Had 3oz last 2 feeds without battling so fingers crossed!

Roast - sounds like it could be picking up. Well done for persevering - cant be easy. You probably already have, but have you tried Fenugreek? Didn't work for me but I've heard very good things about it.

Inneed Yes our babies seem spookily similar.

10 Hopefully he's turning another corner then and things improve. He has done so well being so early and then in for an op. Hope things continue to go well for him I'm sure they will. He has battled it all. How are you ? You never really say. You are amazing and really hope if I ever go through such tough times I can have just an ounce of your courage smile

Roast My best advice is to not stress yourself. My midwife always used to say stress affects the supply. I have to say that whenever I chilled out before a feed had a bath or something that I fed better.

Been to the docs this morning as have an infection.

aberjen Fri 24-May-13 15:02:55

Hi all!

beaut thanks for starting this thread.

roast fingers crossed 5 poos is a good sign! Btw, I know we live in the same city. I accidentally ended up at one of the breastfeeding clinics today (midwife kind of sprung it on me!) and the specialists there were fantastic - cant remember if you said you'd been already? I'm struggling with positions but they gave me some pointers so that I can have one hand free - means I don't feel quite so incapacitated for each feed, which was getting me down. Basically, they've shown me ideal lounging in front of the tv positions and I'll have a hand free to change channels...!

Was also really good to have first solo outing. Think I've been relying on/deferring to DP too much and today gave me a bit of a confidence boost. smile

beaut and InNeed DD at 11 days would happily guzzle 3 oz ebm from a bottle and midwife was amazed so sounds like your little ones are doing brilliantly!

As this is my 2nd baby you would think I would not be so paranoid this time about stuff.

Called my midwife this morning (who luckily is my friend to) and said there something wrong with her belly button. It didnt smell pleasant and looks sore and inflamed. She said I'll come have a look and swab for you. Turns out that's how they fall off. Looks like it's hanging on 2 pieces of black thread. Felt like such an idiot for calling here out.

Did anyone else have a tear that didn't get stitched so left to heal on it's own?? Just curious to see how long it took for people to heal. Mine still has fresh blood everyday after a week.

Inneed I tore with ds2. It took a few weeks to heal. I never had any pain and was just advised to keep it clean so had lots of salt baths.

Can't believe Ive ended up with an infection. I really am in pain. When I had baby midwife did say she didn't think all of the membranes had come out. I'm on two antibiotics so hope it goes quickly.

Thanks Beaut, and an infection doesn't sound good. Hope it goes quickly.

10storeylovesong Fri 24-May-13 15:55:01

beaut thanks for the kind words. I'm ok. I just keep thinking that it could have been much worse, and I have my gorgeous little fighter for inspiration! You would get through it... You don't have a choice! Plus, I have the most amazing support network around me. Anthony, my dh, is having baby all weekend so I can go out all day with my friends for posh cocktails (and recover Sunday!), and I'm back in the gym to try and boost my endorphins and get rid of some of the weight.

Everyone has their own challenges when they have a baby I've learnt...

10storeylovesong Fri 24-May-13 15:55:46

Btw, hope the infection clears up soon.

Hello everyone. Thanks for starting a new postnatal group Beaut - hope you're infection clears up soon.

Roast, DS only took expressed BM so I had nearly two years of pumping which meant I became obsessed with my milk supply. The most effective thing for me was something called 'More Milk plus' by Motherlove. You can get it from Express Yourself Mums (I think they sell it on Amazon). It worked very quickly for me, but I'd suggest getting the capsules rather than the liquid because it tastes disgusting.

We're at home now, Evie's fast asleep and I'm trying to unpack all the stuff I took to the hospital with me. She's a bit yellow still, even after having light treatment in hospital, but she's feeding well and gaining weight so they think the jaundice will go of its own accord. InNeed, her umbilus makes me feel sick every time I have to clean it, I'm dreading when it comes off.

I can't believe she's only 3 days old, it seems as if she's been here for ever.

Mamma glad your home now and hopefully had a decent cup of tea!

10 I bet you cant wait for your evening out. I'm hoping to have a couple of glasses of wine coz the in laws are here. I'll prob have 1 and fall asleep.

10storeylovesong Fri 24-May-13 17:59:44

mamma they probably mentioned to you but there's something called breastmilk jaundice which just goes on its own. Seb had it in SCBU and they weren't concerned.

Anyone else with an iPhone. Can you recommend a good photo app or two. I'm taking ally pics on my phone

Ally=all my

SevenReasonsToSmile Fri 24-May-13 18:44:16

Hi all.

roast odd question but what colour is her poo? Apparently yellow is a good indication that they're getting what they need.

10 did you buy a wrap? DD1 was a nightmare baby and wouldn't be put down, it really helped calm her by being in the wrap and saved my sanity allowing me to get jobs done! I also think you're really brave, I struggled seeing Beatrice in SCBU and all she needed was extra oxygen in the incubator and a glucose drip for the first 14 hours.

Beatrice is now 3.5 weeks old and weighed 6lb 3oz on weds, little piglet gained 13oz in 8 days!

Seven Shes teeny. Teddy had his weigh in today and is 7lb 1 oz can't believe he only lost 2 oz. Well I can hes a lil piglet grin

10storeylovesong Fri 24-May-13 20:09:44

I found a BNWT Moby on eBay for £14. Was my first day of using it today, and love it! Managed to get some jobs done and he just slept through it. Dh is currently sat wearing it watching TV!

Wow, 13oz in 8 days is impressive!

DXBMermaid Fri 24-May-13 22:30:17

Haven't had my baby yet, but marking my spot.

Good to read all your experiences. Very happy hear that your babies are doing well despite some feeding issues.

Getting so impatient!

rachywhite83 Sat 25-May-13 08:42:36

colic ! help needed for our sanity !

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now