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January 2013 Part Two: Coos and smiles but not always so much sleep...

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Our first thread has almost finished so I thought we'd need a new one!

happyhow Thu 07-Mar-13 18:36:04

That's great Lora

Apple, keep your head up. Having no sleep makes everything worse. Hopefully your day has been better.

Homemade tikka chicken is off the menu for me... Had it for dinner last night and have had some mega spew-a-thons today.

Started to have a little 'fun' with hubby last night for the first time post birth but stopped halfway through as he didn't want to wear a condom and as much as we both want more children, Bailey is enough for now! Roll on my 6 week check (at 8.5wks) on Tuesday so I can get something sorted!

Lora1982 Thu 07-Mar-13 18:42:17

At my six week check... She didnt check me at all.. Mums annoyed and keeps saying i shoild be etc but i dont know wether to be fussed or not.

Thanks happy. Feeling a bit better now as this evening was better dcs all asleep except ivy who is tired but refuses to settle! Have started a thread in larger families to get some ideas to help cope.

lora glad things are better with the boob x

Lostbobbles Thu 07-Mar-13 21:21:06

Lora: good news on the boob

Kato : We are using the Dr Browns bottle's with level 2 teat, she actually gets less wind from the bottle than she does from me. :-( (Evil jet wash letdown)

Apples - Hope you have better night, hat's off to you. I am dreading coping with just the two on my own when DH is away next week.

As for sleep watch, still not getting more than 4 hours but, routine is kind of coming together. She sleeps from 7ish -11 (Dream Feed, which she usually wakes for) then will go to 2/3 and after it all goes downhill, will sleep 1-2 hours ish or will whinge and moan and i lose all resilience and give in and bring her into bed, where she will sleep like a log in the crook of my arm. (I have all these great intentions of being strong but all goes out the window)

I have also realised I (and DH) need psychological help when it comes to the dummy, I don't know what is wrong with me but without thinking i find myself just shoving it in at first sign of a cry/whinge/moan. Bless her poor child is not allowed to speak!! Guess i can't moan about her not settling herself as it is all our own doing. (We are useless, both of us said we wouldn't use a dummy, second time around)

Lost ivy is in a similar routine where she maked such a racket after about 3/4 that she ends up sleeping in the crook of my arm i can't even put her in our bed because all the noise starts again if i do! I don't like sleeping like that though as i often nod off and am terrified of dropping her.

tisonlyme Thu 07-Mar-13 21:44:26

Eek - tonight is the first time I have put ds down in our bedroom and come back downstairs, he is 5wks old today. I have the baby monitor next to me and me or dh keep popping upstairs.....not liking it lol. Am going to try dream feeding him at about half ten and go from there. Am liking not going to bed at half eight tho like I have been doing!

Lostbobbles Thu 07-Mar-13 21:52:11

Apples- Lois is same if I try to lay her down in my bed hmm. I don't like having her on me either but use my pregnancy pillow, its like a hard long bean bag (filled with husks) to rest my arm on and she lays on top in my arm so I can't drop her.

Jinxed myself little madam has just woken angry

Lora1982 Thu 07-Mar-13 22:14:45

Oooh that was scarey... And a revelation. Dexter was squealing.. He never cries unless starving or when someone hurts him like the needle woman today (should of seen the look he gave her) well i realised he had a temp of 38.3 poor soul but my word calpol works quick. Must have been five mins now hes back to his old self thank god

tisonlyme Fri 08-Mar-13 06:17:59

Well, tried dream feeding last night. When I tried at eleven - he was having none of it....fast on and nothing would stir him enough to take a feed. He then stirred himself at 12, but because I was still awake and feed was ready he had that whilst asleep. He woke at about half two and took 2 ozs and then woke up at 5.45. So not quite an epic fail, but not the miracle night either....I know it will take a while to settle him into a new routine tho.
Any tips on dream feeds etc - or recommended books?

Bunny222 Fri 08-Mar-13 06:48:58

After a really tiring week of poor sleep, DS
Managed to sleep from 9pm for 5hours, had a feed, then slept for 3 hours until 6.15am. Only one night feed! Am in shock
:-) really impressed as he is 5weeks, and realise its probably a fluke.

Hope ur all doing ok. So excited that for many of us it'll be our first mothers day on Sunday. Have reminded DH that I am expecting a card from DS....

tisonlyme Fri 08-Mar-13 07:03:03

Bunny, my ds is 5 weeks as well, and generally wakes once or twice thru the night - I can handle that one! I can't wait for Mother's Day. After 10 years of waiting and trying....I finally get to take part as a mummy smile

tinkletinklestar Fri 08-Mar-13 07:03:11

Well looks like were back in the crap.

Dd really upset most of the night, I desperately need some decent gaps between feeds!

tisonlyme Fri 08-Mar-13 07:04:25

Oh no tinkle. How old is ur dd? I really feel for you. We've had some horrendous nights and u really just feel like a zombie the next day.

tinkletinklestar Fri 08-Mar-13 07:04:27

tis enjoy your day! It falls on dd1's birthday this year so should be a fun day

tinkletinklestar Fri 08-Mar-13 07:07:07

She is 8 weeks today, its so annoying just when we think we're getting somewhere andthat the medication is working she goes back to be unsettled.

Think im in for a long day, at least dd1 has pre school at 12.

tisonlyme Fri 08-Mar-13 07:07:18

Thanks tinkle. Hubby better get it right! grin Hope your dd enjoys her bday. X

tisonlyme Fri 08-Mar-13 07:10:28

hmm I keep waiting for a horrendous night. Ds struggled with wind first so we had bad nights, then was in hospital for bronchiolitis leading for some more horrendous nights, but since getting over that hasn't been too bad. Hope u get to nap a bit when ur dd goes to preschool.

Berniebennett Fri 08-Mar-13 07:22:11

We have had a good night here, asleep from 10.30 - 7 (we actually woke him as he gets up when daddy does)! He normal wakes from 5 and we put him in out bed were he conks out but he stayed inhospitable Moses basket all night!

I'm now really worried as we are going away for the weekend Amanda I don't want to upset his routine, wish us luck! xx

Berniebennett Fri 08-Mar-13 07:22:55

Stupid predicted text!

Pascha Fri 08-Mar-13 07:37:30

Have a good weekend, Bernie.

DS slept in my arms from about 8-9.30 last night when DH got home and took him while I went to sleep. Total refusal of bottle apparently with lots of back arching and spitting teat out. He came up at 12.30 when I fed him, woke against 3.30ish then resettled with dummy at 5ish.

We seem to have nightspots reasonably cracked now with 2 feeds between midnight and six which is fine. The evening hasn't settled much at all though, sometimes he's wide awake, sometimes he'll sleep in the sling, rarely he's slept in the swing for a bit. The one thing he won't do is settle in the crib til much later.

DS1 was a textbook easy sleeper, he was down at 7pm in the crib upstairs and rarely stirred til 10pm feed, then sleep through til 4am feed and 6.30 for the day. Dan is a different breed of baby, needs much more reassurance and fights naps all the way.

Lostbobbles Fri 08-Mar-13 12:14:59

Tinkle sorry to hear DD is not good again. Will she take a dummy? (in your dd case it can help keep the acid down)

On my own dummy situ, 1st day of therapy and she has only had it for few min so far grin lots of screaming though hmm

Lostbobbles Fri 08-Mar-13 12:36:02

Silly phone lost half the message

Welcome Tis, gosh ten years, he is a little miracle baby and you deserve to have a sleeper. (mind you so do the rest of us, are you listening oh ye of baby sleep god) wink

lollipoppi Fri 08-Mar-13 13:45:41

DD slept from 11.30 - 7.30 !!!!
Shame i was working until 1.30am last night or I would have actually had my first full nights sleep!!!!!!

lollipoppi Fri 08-Mar-13 18:50:57

Ok .... Actually getting a bit worried now ... Following on from last post about DD sleeping all night, she has also practically slept all day too, she has probably been awake for about 3 hours tops today, so I'm either in for a rough night or something is wrong??
She is 6 weeks, anybody else's LO had a sleepy day like this? Xx

lolli dd is having a day like that. She was up once last night, had to be wakened at 8.30am, was back down from 10 - 1.45 and is currently dozing on boob, and has been for the last feed too.

I just go with the flow - hard though!

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