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December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

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MaMaPo Thu 21-Feb-13 02:29:08

smile

Everyone has a lottery plan - who you'd split with, how much you'd give everyone, what you'd buy yourself!

I work as a medical writer, writing up clinical trials/information packs, etc. I do have the option of going freelance if I want, but that seems a bit scary at the minute.

Ds keeps being sick all over me angry

How long after jabs is it normal for them to affect them? D was a bit grouchy yesterday but today is sleepy and fussy and clingy, is that normal?

Secondsop Thu 21-Feb-13 14:50:04

Re age gaps, I tend to think that either a small gap or a big gap is good. I had a 3 year gap between me and my older sister and we only really got on once she was about 18 upwards. Whereas my younger sister is six years younger than me and we've always got on better.

utopian99 Thu 21-Feb-13 16:02:55

Much better night followed by productive morning work wise and then nice session at baby massage for the two of us..

Have mil round for lunch/to see Oz tomorrow.. No idea wear to do apart from obviously give her lots of playing time. We get on fine but have never bonded to the point of choosing to go for coffee together were it not for ds.. Any tips?

halesball Thu 21-Feb-13 17:43:17

Welcome Annelid envy of your sleep.

I always ask my DP's mum about him and his sister when they were at H's age. Seems to get a good conversation going Honey.

Spotty, H is sick on everything i wear i'm now use to wearing l'eau de vomit perfume haha.

I have mastitis again. Can't believe how painful it is compared to last time sad i'm going to take the antibiotics and when i'm clear of Mastitis, i'm going to have my last pleasurable BF then stop. I am not going through this again.

Good idea hales, you want your last one to be a good one smile hope it clears up quickly for you

Chloe55 Thu 21-Feb-13 18:32:07

I think that's a great idea hales and well dine you for feeding through the oain-i know they say you should but when I got mastitis with D's at 6weeks I couldn't bare it, gave up there and then and regretted it ever since sad

MaMaPo Thu 21-Feb-13 18:42:29

Hope you're ok with your decision hales. It must be tough.

Some PhDs around here! Well done willyou and honey! I have one too, in neuropsychology. I have a couple of friends who finished theirs after having a baby - it was hard enough without, I can't imagine how they did it!

Nice day today - went to a piano and cello recital for children. Lots of crying little ones, but C sat contentedly for a little while then slept solidly. Don't know if this means she's a classical music fan or not!

Will be interested to see how she sleeps tonight - she will have to sleep in her grobag as she pooed on her swaddle and it isn't dry yet. Hopefully she doesn't keep hitting herself in the face.

All this talk of trying for the next baby already is making me shudder!! DS is very likely to be an only child. It was a very difficult decision for me to TTC and it was and still remains very emotional for me. I won't say no never, to having more but it's very unlikely.

Besides, I have the contraceptive implant in so that's me sorted for three years!

Secondsop Thu 21-Feb-13 19:36:42

mamapo hopefully she'll sleep fine - Z never took to being swaddled and can be quite a squirmy baby but when he gets to sleep it's with his arms up either side of his face, quite peacefully.

Barbeasty Thu 21-Feb-13 19:58:12

I took A to be weighed today. He's 10lb15 so he's dropped down again to the 9th centile.

Finally I've been asked to come back in 2 weeks to see if he's found the line he wants to follow, or whether they need to start looking to see if there's anything wrong.

What's happened to COD? Hope she's ok smile

Barbeasty how old is A now? Are you worried?

minipie Thu 21-Feb-13 20:39:51

marking place

can't believe some of you are planning number 2 already! I'm still not sure whether number 1 was a good idea grin

we have had a bad week sleep wise, fingers crossed for better tonight. am heading to bed now to try to catch up a bit...

WLmum Thu 21-Feb-13 20:59:18

hales if it's not working for you then don't do it. As someone else said, happy baby needs a happy mummy. You've done amazingly well.

Sorry to hear tough birth/conception stories.

We still haven't had sex - we're kind of gearing up to it - I do want to now, not because I've particularly got any libido but because it def makes us closer and nicer to each other. Having spent most of the last 8 years ttc I dug out our old johnny jar - contents expired in 2010! Decided not to risk it what with sods law and all that. DH bought home a new pack but he's been on the late shift since so I e been asleep when he gets in.

Someone asked about the jump from 2dcs to 3 - obviously it's pretty busy and we have easier/harder days but def not as big a jump from 0-1 or 1-2.

itsMYNutella Thu 21-Feb-13 21:13:40

Hi everyone, just checking into the new thread and marking my place.

I thought I was insane to be thinking about trying next year for no.2! My brothers and I are 18 months apart and IMHO I think 2 years ish is a good gap. I'd also like 3 but not sure at the moment wink DS's nickname is often PITA grin he will have one chilled out day followed by a day of hardcore screaming... I'm hoping it is belly pain related and that in a few more weeks that will ease off when he will also start sleeping for 6/8 hours at a time

MaMaPo Thu 21-Feb-13 21:16:12

Seconds - non-swaddled sleeping failed already! Only 10 minutes after I put her down asleep she was awake again which is unusual for her. Swaddle was finally dry so she's all wrapped up and asleep again.

Husband's still at work sad but should be home soon so I'll eat with him. We also haven't had sex yet - boo - mostly because of opportunity. He said 'why not just one afternoon when she's asleep?' And I could barely contain my withering glance. She almost never sleeps long enough in the daytime to get anything done. Once she's asleep in the evening, she's in our room (which feels weird) and also, we're both tired! I kind of want to ask my friend to take her out for a walk for an hour so we can get it on.

utopian99 Thu 21-Feb-13 21:31:39

We've shamelessly been shagging while ds sleeps in his hammock in our room, he never needs to know blush. (not RIGHT now, obviously!)

Frequency has definitely suffered though due to tiredness...
Dh has taken ds upstairs for a nappy change and i can hear them 'chatting' away at each other. Cute! grin

SeymoreInOz Thu 21-Feb-13 21:56:02

Just checking in.

Hats off to those planning to TTC. I had 2.5 years between DC1 and DC2 and 4.5 years between DC2 & DC3. Realistically we are done, financially and physically. The morning sickness, then the heartburn, then the sciatica nearly finished me off this time! And I really want to retrain when we get back from Australia. But I'm just 32 so who knows!

After a long stretch of bad nights DS did 7pm-10:30pm-4am-7:30am! Whoop! The most sleep I've had in 12 weeks!

SeymoreInOz Thu 21-Feb-13 22:00:18

snap Nutella we have about one day a week when DS is relaxed, and the other days are filled with shock-and-awe type screaming. I cannot believe how loud he is! DD was similar (but not as loud) and chilled out between 3 and 4 months, nearly there!

I'm pissed off tonight. DP has told me I don't need to do everything and he will do some stuff, but he does it at a fucking snail's pace on his own time. Which means getting up to make the bottle at midnight rather than at 10:30 when I ask him so it's boiling hot when we need it. Or only getting as far as putting the kettle on then forgetting all about it.

Immediately following this conversation he asked me to go and make him a drink as he had hold of DS. If I need a drink he says here hand me DS while you get one. What does he think I do all day? I'm off on this hen do and he's in for a shock!

itsMYNutella Thu 21-Feb-13 22:06:00

What's worse Seymore is DS has chilled days often when DP is working from home. Then when DP has to be out all day or away overnight DS takes me to breaking point refuses to be put down or left for a second without breaking into monumental screaming confused

FriendofDorothy Thu 21-Feb-13 22:15:08

Hah Willyoudothefandango - you could be me tonight. I am stropping about very similar things!

WLmum Thu 21-Feb-13 22:16:53

I hear you will you

SeymoreInOz Thu 21-Feb-13 22:27:52

We have that problem willyou. I end up doing most things myself to save me grinding my teeth while DH takes an age just to change a nappy! The hen do will sort him out!

Me too Nutella, DS usually has one of his good days at the weekend so DH thinks I'm making it up half the time. Although I've taken to calling him at work "for a chat" when DS is at full pelt...

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