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February 2013?

(292 Posts)
KeepTryin Wed 13-Feb-13 00:09:26

Is there a born in February 2013 group yet? I didn't manage to keep up with the antenatal threads so thought I'd get a head start on the postnatal threads before I've even had baby! wink

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 08:02:18

That was me last night marcheline.

Have you got a dummy? I think they are comfort sucking. My new plan is give him a good amount of time at the breast and then do a switch and if he's not still hungry he will settle with a dummy. We were going to have a morning out yesterday but I couldn't get him off even to get dressed

First morning bloody hectic. Ds1 is jumping all over and ds2 permanently baying for milk!

Good luck everyone x

Marcheline Mon 25-Feb-13 08:36:55

I haven't got a dummy, dd1 would never take one so it's just not something I think of. I might get DH to pick some up after work today though. You're right, it does seem like comfort sucking.

I hope everyone has good days today.

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 09:52:10

Same here Ds1 didn't. They gave Ds2 one in hospital as they said he needed some comfort when he was tube fed but I didn't think to give him one at home but last night was so much better. When he had been feeding for an hour and seemed to be comfort sucking I quickly switched them over and he did sleep! It's never caused a problem with latching ( he was given bottles overnight too in hospital which haven't either)

Happy days ! grin

bangersmashandbeans Mon 25-Feb-13 10:54:44

Pickled your morning sounds just like mine!! DD doesn't get that DS does not want her jumping all over him and putting her face right in his when he's trying to feed! Been trying not to get cross with her but its hard. She just said to me 'mummy are you cross with me?....but sometimes I am good' Breaks my heart and does not help with the constant guilt!!
Didn't have too much of a bad night, actually got him sleeping in his Moses basket which is a result! So it's nearly 11am and I'm only just dressed - how on earth am I going to get out the house on time on nursery days?!
Lovely relaxing bath this morning by the way...DS in the bathroom in the home the steam helps his cold and DD decided not to be left out so obviously that was a good time for her to sit on the loo and do a poo!!confused
DH won't even entertain the idea of a dummy - pisses me off slightly as its not him that permanently has a person attached to their over-used and sore nipples!!!

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 11:11:04

Tell your DH that my other half is 36 and still sucks his thumb! You can take away a dummy but its hellish to stop thumb sucking.

The MW had just been and ds has not put any weight on, though he's not lost any and they want me to give two big bottles of formula a day.

Panzee Mon 25-Feb-13 11:27:50

I think I would nod and smile at that advice, then just try to feed more. grin my first son used to put weight on every two weeks, so I would get a lecture one week but not the next. hmm

Marcheline Mon 25-Feb-13 13:21:02

Pickled if he's not lost weight then you're doing really well. Keep going with the feeding, It will be worth it.

My nipples are agony, I just can't get her to open her mouth wide enough. Any tips?

My mum is here helping with DD1 and letting me get some sleep. I am absolutely terrified of being in my own with them both. Is it ok to plonk a toddler on front of the telly all day while I feed the baby?! I really hope it gets a bit warmer so we can at least do walks without me worrying that the baby will freeze.

Marcheline Mon 25-Feb-13 13:23:39

Oh bangers, I've instructed DH to bring back a dummy tonight. I'm not sure whether I'll use it as am a bit scared of ruining BF even more. DH wasn't keen either but like you say, it's not them that have to be in agony.

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 15:05:10

I've had telly on loads today. What can you do? It's so cold outside and they need feeding.

I rub ds nose and when it's at it's most open just ram as much in a poss I slighty sqeeze it to made it slightly flatter if that makes sense ? Seems to be working as I've not had sore nipples just trouble with pains when milk came in.

Could you ask for a bf specialist me to come and give you a hand with latch? It's hard to get used to it.

Trouble is DS2 lost 13% initially then put 8oz on in hospital and not since so they are concerned. I just got a little bottle ready to top him up and he's fallen asleep! Typical.

I have some expressed milk in freezer so if he's not settling and has had a good feed I might try with a bit if that.

Marcheline Mon 25-Feb-13 16:59:48

I've called a breastfeeding helpline, been watching jack Newman clips on you tube and will go to the bf clinic on thurs morn. I've tried all kinds of latching on but she won't take any areola in her mouth at all, she just sucks on the nipple. It's agony.

Anyway, so how was everyone's first day alone? DH is going to be around tomorrow and Wednesday, ten I have Thursday and Friday totally by myself. Really not looking forward to it.

ImGoingToCountToThree Mon 25-Feb-13 17:19:36

confused Marcheline it sounds toe curling! Some babies just don't want to open their mouths, if DD comes at me with a pursed mouth I usually stroke my nipple near her mouth until she opens wider then I squeeze my breast so it's flatter and try to put as much in as possible of areola making sure her lips are sort of curled back. That's easier said than done if you have a baby that just doesn't want to open their mouth wide enough though. Hope you get the support you need to make it more enjoyable.

Today has been ok on my own, DD been feeding every 1- 1 /2 hours during the day and sleeping in between. We got up at 7am, which wasn't easy after 1am,3am,6am feeds. We managed to get out of the house on time for school but then DH did wind her and change her whilst I was sorting out breakfast....I won't have that luxury next week.
Midwife has discharged us today into the care of the Health visitor.

Managed to put one load of washing in and put a few clothes away but that's all as had a little sleep for 40 mins before collecting DD1 from school.

Felt a bit teary this morning, anyone else?

Marcheline Mon 25-Feb-13 19:03:02

Three, I've been teary all day. I'm telling myself that it's normal, and trying to give myself a bit of a break. Well done for having a nap, that's definitely more important than housework!

I'm dreading tonight, I can't do another night of no sleep!

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 19:30:10

I've had a moment just now. Used to take DS1 out loads and for the last few months we've hardly been out.

I feel really sorry for him which is daft as I know we will be out & about soon enough.

I think my eyes will leak shortly.

bangersmashandbeans Mon 25-Feb-13 20:22:58

Hi everyone, sounds like emotions are running high tonight sad It is normal it is normal it is normal it is normal - I needed telling about a million times. I'm on day 16 and for the first time have felt in control all day. First day on my own and we didn't get dressed until 11am so not a great start but it got better! I wrote myself a very small list of realistic things to achieve and I've managed to tick them all off. Baby steps but steps none the less.
Totally know how you feel about the guilt towards DC1 - I really can't get past it. It's so silly because part of the reason we have a second child is for the benefit of the first! It's just so hard when she's watching me feed for hours in the day and when she asks me to play with her I have to say no or maybe later, it breaks my heart.

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 20:36:10

I know! And really it will only be a few weeks and we will feel much more in control I know this!

Ah well we can't help it just have to live with our irrational thoughts for a bit!

PickledInAPearTree Mon 25-Feb-13 20:45:31

How's your bum anyway bangers?

grin

bangersmashandbeans Mon 25-Feb-13 20:52:48

Pain free!!! Not pile free but they have shrunk sufficiently to not hurt anymore. Seeing colorectal consultant on Thursday to discuss long term options.

Marcheline Tue 26-Feb-13 01:02:32

So glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling guilt for DC1. DH and I tried to make ourselves feel better by saying 'yes well DD1 did get a lot of attention over the last three years'!! As if it made it better that she now is getting zero attentiOn blush

Ouch re: piles bangers. As if there isn't enough pain going around already. Glad they don't hurt anymore though.

Pickled, I like what you're saying about if only being a few more weeks and then feeling much more in control. Every day is a step in theright direction. I might write that on post it notes and stick them randomly around the house.

Hope everyoneis having good nights x

PickledInAPearTree Tue 26-Feb-13 05:17:19

I'm dressing Ds2 in DS1s old clothes but its just making it worse !

I have started feeling really sad & nostalgic for my ds1 baby.

Argh hormones! Piss off!

PickledInAPearTree Tue 26-Feb-13 05:17:19

I'm dressing Ds2 in DS1s old clothes but its just making it worse !

I have started feeling really sad & nostalgic for my ds1 baby.

Argh hormones! Piss off!

Marcheline Tue 26-Feb-13 09:08:01

Oh pickled sad

Don't worry, it will pass. As soon as your DS2 starts smiling and rolling over, developing his own personality, it will be so much more enjoyable. And sooner than that, your hormones will level out. It will all be much easier in just a couple of weeks x

PickledInAPearTree Tue 26-Feb-13 10:05:48

Feel a bit better today!

Managed the nursery drop off for 9 went to the shop and registered ds at GP.

Phew!

ImGoingToCountToThree Tue 26-Feb-13 11:07:43

Ahh i think we are all feeling the same....Guilt...yep got a whole load of that too with a touch of the tears this morning.
Feel like I'm not spending enough time with my DD1, obviously because she has been the youngest for so long I feel that I'm neglecting her a bit due to having to sit down to feed every 1-2 hours. We normally bake together or have a bit if dance etc but I'm just so tired I don't feel like doing anything.
Normally I get in to bed with her at bedtime and we chat and have snuggles but it's all having to be rushed as DD2 usually needs feeding again by the time we have done supper, wash & teeth.
She seemed quiet this morning on the way to school. She adores her new baby sister though and there is absolutely no signs of jealously so maybe I'm feeling it more than she is, I could cry at the thought of her feeling pushed out a bit.
DS is taking it all in his stride but then he is used to being the oldest.

I fell asleep sat up feeding her at 10.30pm last night, so after that feed DH packed me off to bed and kept DD downstairs with him until 12.30am then brought her up put her in her crib and she slept until 3am! Another feed at 6am. I felt good getting a few hours sleep but was it was still a struggle when the alarm went off at 7am.

On a lighter note, baby's eye colour. My other two have blue eyes.
DS very light with lots of white almost silvery
DD1 deep blue with dark blue ring around and both quite striking and they get comments about them.
I have average green/dark brown eyes hmm
DH has very light blue eyes almost see through (the old lady in the bank likes them).
I was wondering if maybe this time I will get a brown eyed child.
How about your children's eye colour are they the same as yours or your partners?

Hope everyone has a good Tuesday and we all stop beating ourselves up soon, I feel the only remedy for the tears is the box of dairy milk I received as a gift grin

ImGoingToCountToThree Tue 26-Feb-13 11:08:16

Sorry that was a bit long <blush>

Marcheline Tue 26-Feb-13 12:03:37

Three - I have eaten approx five times my body weight in chocolate / cake in the last week. Definitely a good cure for hormone imbalance.

We had a good night last night, baby fed at about 10pm, 1am, 3am and then 7am. My milk reduction seems to be settling down today so less engorgement pains etc, but I'm so scared of hthe pain if latching her on and the damage to my nipplesthat it takes me a good few minutes to build up the courage to latch her on, which is horrible for the baby obviously. I sort of keep trying to et her to open her moth with my nipple, then pull it back whimpering until I sort of steel myself. It's awful!

Eyes - I have green and DH has bright, clear blue. DD1 has vey bright blue but then so did I until about age 6. DD2 seems to have a darker blue at he moment. What is really strange is, she was born with absolutely masses of really dark hair! Her big sister was practically bald and White blonde, I'm dark blonde (after a bit of a dye these days) and DH used to be light brown (now silvery). I have no idea where this dark hair came from! I love thinking about what she will look like, I know I'm biased but I think I will have two very beautiful girls, teenage years will be intersting grin

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