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November 2012 - sleeping through yet?

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StuntNun Wed 09-Jan-13 23:03:10
KissysUnderTheMisteltoe Thu 10-Jan-13 17:35:23

Sorry to hear that detective, but like others have said best not to be indebted to someone like that thanks

GTbaby Thu 10-Jan-13 17:37:32

Opps

I'm referring to GF 7-7 routine. Which includes a 11pm dream feed. Which in my ideal 9-9 routine I would give at 12 as LO feeds every three hours. ATM he has final feed at 9. Then sleep to 7.30. Feeds then bk to sleep till 10ish. I KNOW IM VERY VERY LUCKY grin

My issue is I still sleep quite late (when i can sleep that is!) as DH works shifts. So I end up staying up to have some normal grown up time. Or when he is on nights or early, i stay up late to have some alone time as pil are around all day.

horseylady Thu 10-Jan-13 17:40:10

Oh ok. Thatll make the dream feed 1-2am lol!! smile

Im always amazed with colds how much you can blow your nose. It's unreal the body can produce so much snot!!!! And that your voice can totally disappear!!

I've started using the bumbo seat. It's great!! Ds hates lying down but in this he sits happily and watches me do things!! We can chatter to each other too!!

Mm - £27 is just laughable!! Assume your getting child benefit? It's just a stupid situation! How can you work and not get a penny (which relatively speaking you aren't!!) and yet some people get a house??!!

Dixiebell Thu 10-Jan-13 17:57:54

toomany , thanks for the Pudsey suggestion. No Asda nearby unfortunately. But I've ordered the spotty bib, and found some iron-on spots on eBay so will put those on a plain t-shirt.

On BFing and poos, Teddy goes at least 6 times a day. But he does seem to struggle with it if he hasn't been for a while so I understand your LO being uncomfortable if it's been 2 days without.

pikz Thu 10-Jan-13 18:05:19

Dixie I was too scared to say Luc also goes that many times still!

J is a bf baby and he does 3-4 explosive poos per day still :/ I'm now wondering if that is normal? He's 9 weeks and still has bright yellow runny poo with pips in. confused

I'm struggling big time today, both older DCs are being shits and I don't have time to do everything all the time !!!!!

BigPigLittlePig Thu 10-Jan-13 19:04:12

Pikz and toomany, little pig was going that often until the gaviscon wreaked chaos on her poor little tummy helped her reflux. Have an appt with GP to get some ranitidine for tomorrow, as can't face the weekend with reflux/constipated baby.

On a positive note, little pig has put on 1lb 5oz in 12 days shock

TheDetective Thu 10-Jan-13 19:04:13

Oh yes, I know. I'll still save for a pension one day soon as I won't ever rely on anyone else. I've always been too independent to rely on anyone, not even DP. I've got my plan, and who knows. Perhaps when I get to retire, I will be able to live the wild life with my pension, and his dosh... grin. I'll be one crazy old lady! But on the plus side, my children will have money to help them through life. Not soon enough to help DS1 on to property ladder etc, but at some point, he will. Oscar will benefit more as he is so much younger.

On a similar subject, both my parents have insisted that they won't be living once their quality of life deteriorates in their old age. I know what they mean by this. Has anyone elses parents said similar to them? Or are both mine strange!

My mum is furious at my dad. She hates him more knowing that he has all this money because he screwed her over when they divorced. He got the family home, and me and my mum lived in my nans granny flat, which was as big as a shoe box, there was no bedroom, just a living room with a kitchen and bathroom attached. We lived in that for almost a year, 2 adults and a child!

He never paid her a penny in child maintenance because he moved to Switzerland not long after they separated, and the CSA couldn't chase him. He was supposed to be paying £600 a month, and that was 19 years ago. And not on his even bigger salary that he got from moving to Switzerland.

Whatever. He is the one who has lost out - he lost out on my childhood, and he has lost out on his grandchildren - which most parents can't wait to have. He isn't arsed. He called himself uncle c**** to DS1 a couple of years ago. Then realised what he had said and corrected himself to grandad c******. Idiot. I'm sure he forgets he has a daughter and grandchildren, and that instance just served to demonstrate that!

BigPigLittlePig Thu 10-Jan-13 19:05:57

Sounds like a right prik idiot detective

Lane81 Thu 10-Jan-13 19:09:29

VQ I've introduced 1 formula feed as last feed of day (4-6oz, 6 offered) and it does knock LO out for 4, sometimes 5 hrs. She's not had it the last few days and has returned to waking every 2 hrs. Hasn't affected supply in slightest, think because I still do the 4am plus feeds...

PetiteRaleuse Thu 10-Jan-13 19:09:53

Detective that is a sad story. My dad was a shite as well but fortunately he's pushing up the daisies now (in French they have the same expression except for dandelions) so I don't have to deal with him now.

PetiteRaleuse Thu 10-Jan-13 19:11:01

Anyone else got a LO who laughs when feeding? It's so cute !

<warning rant>

AIBU to have the rage and take myself off for a lovely bath with lush smellies?

At 6pm got home from my mums with M, she's fallen asleep in her car seat so is finally quiet after spending the day crying.
Put her down and went to sort out the pile of junk letters on the coffee table. There's all the Xmas cards that DH took down when he took the decs down while M and I had a lie in on Sunday so I put them to recycle.
Then I realise there's none of Ms cards. Last week I'd made a pile on the fireplace of all the 1st Christmas cards for M from us, grandparents etc and the Mummy and Daddy card from M to us. We've got a memory box for her so I was going to put them in there. Ask DH where they are, no idea. It's looks like they've gone in the bin angry but the pile of big standard cards from neighbours and acquaintances etc he's piled up. Why? Did he not think that I might have piled them neatly on the fireplace for a reason? angry

I know it's something or nothing but I wante to keep them. An I know I'm being irrationally annoyed but I took myself off upstairs as I could feel I was going to cry sad probably the effects of M being wingey all day.

While I'm upstairs I think I might as well do something to busy myself while I sulk so I sort out and put away about 3 loads of washing, tidy the bedroom and bathroom which are both bombsites. Come downstairs 30 mins later and he's still sat on the sofa playing on his phone and Ms still sat in her car seat on the floor. Hasn't bothered to get her out, hasn't thought oooh ill cook some tea or clean the kitchen. angry

He's just asked what shall we have for te, why he can't think on his own. So I've seized te opportunity of M being asleep in her car seat with her coat still on and gone for a bath leaving him to cook.

I know it's everything bubbling up and me being annoyed at not getting chance to do anything and M being v cranky but I'm fed up tonight so stuff it, I can't be arsed

Sorry for the epic moan

PR DT2 smiles away when feeding and gets covered in milk. I can't help but smile back at her, it is adorable!

BigPigLittlePig Thu 10-Jan-13 19:17:27

Fatima rant away.

DH is currently snoring on the sofa after a "hard" day at work not as hard as having mangled boobs and a screaming baby and not a wink of sleep for over 24 hrs

horseylady Thu 10-Jan-13 19:25:34

Petite it rains cats and dogs in the uk but I can't think of a term the French say? I knew the daffs one but I remember hearing something and thinking mmm odd ! Then raining cats and dogs is odd.

Detective. Different people go through life in different ways. I try to think that whenever people are doing something erm, different!! Their loss!!

I'm obviously a very comfy pillow today!!

pikz Thu 10-Jan-13 19:33:12

Lane what time do you give it? I could just do with 4/5 hours sleep and then I'm happy to go back to every 2/3 hours to keep supply up.

KissysUnderTheMisteltoe Thu 10-Jan-13 19:59:27

Gah! I've got a blocked duct in my boob confused this is what I get for 6 hours between feeds last night. I'm already taking one if the antibiotics they prescribe for mastitis for my c section scar hole so hopefully it won't get too much worse!

Will catch up properly later, but yes PR my LO laughs when feeding - too cute

ValiumQueen Thu 10-Jan-13 20:00:01

Interesting lane I am very keen to keep his gut virgin, but I also want to sleep.

I am lying in bed on my own having put the girls to bed, fed Jacob, done a few chores, and left him downstairs with DH and a bottle of EBM. 5oz. J is asleep. DH will bring him up when he comes to bed, and if he wakes hungry he will feed him.

I had a bit of a meltdown last night and again today. Last night my nips were so sore. One is bruised today on the areola, a proper blood blister type bruise from being mangled by the ferocious parasite. J has slept and fed today with minimum interaction. Typical growth spurt focus. This evening however he was smiling and laughing on my boobie. Melted my heart. He is just doing what his instinct tells him.

Feel a bit bad as he was in footless gro and I tickled his foot mid feed. Poor little bugger nearly choked.

Why can I not sleep? Even with the wee bit of fake baileys in my tummy?

Gonna shut my eyes and try to at least chill.

Sleepy dust to all mummies and babies x

PetiteRaleuse Thu 10-Jan-13 20:27:45

Horsey try 'il pleut comme une vache qui pisse'

It's raining like a pissing cow..

TooManyDicksOnTheDancefloor Thu 10-Jan-13 20:29:24

I've got a polka dot sleep suit in size 0-3 months if you want me to send it to you dixie. It's a unisex one from next, white with small spots which are red, blue, green etc. it was dd1's, just found it when sorting through clothes.

Bronwen took a bottle today, yeah! It was a nuk, she was able to latch on to it properly. I expressed 3.5oz, it took her 30 mins to drink it and then she fed from me for another 5 mins, so god knows how much she takes in total. I think she needs fast flow teats, my boobs are defo fast flow.

kirrinIsland Thu 10-Jan-13 20:39:20

detective that sucks, but like everyone says - best not to be in debt to someone like that. And best not to rely on the inheritance either. Both my parents should have had a pretty good inheritance but both had a parent with dementia - by the time they died everything had gone in care fees.

I'm hopeful N will sleep a little more tonight as she's been awake more today. Last night was ridiculous. She slept till 00.30-02.30 and then refused to go back down until about half 6 - she'd sleep on me but wake as soon as I put her down. I'm reluctant to try formula but a bottle of ebm before bed made no difference to how long she slept. I'll try it again tonight though <<lives in hope>>

MissMummy1 Thu 10-Jan-13 20:49:21

Fatima rant away. I am super pissed off with dp for very similar reasons. (although not binning things, I would kill him for that!)

Tonight was meant to be his first day on nights. I told him to take the car just incase he got away early or needed to come home for whatever reason in the middle of the night, I'm not needing it anyway! They have a minibus liftshare thingy at work which they've been using, which is great during the day when I need the car. Stubborn bastard thought he knew best getting it tonight and is now going to get away at midnight. I'm so angry with his lack of forward thinking as he now expects me and M (okay, we will probably be awake but it's freezing tonight) to go and get him angry. We're a 45 min walk from the site - should I make him walk it? If he was organised the muppet can't organise a piss up in a brewery he could get a lift home in one of the boats. But no, I have to go and get him because he "did me a favour leaving me the car" - which I neither needed or wanted angry angry

As for revenue and customs? When I registered self employed at the start of the year I was told to take out a NI exemption certificate and cancel it when my earnings went above the threshold. I queried this a few times and was told each time that as long as I made voluntary contributions it wouldn't effect any benefits (ie MA). This is in fact utter bollocks and because I had the cert for most of my pregnancy before cancelling it I am treated as having not paid enough NI - despite paying the whole damn lot through voluntary contributions. Don't know if that makes sense but basically they screwed me over and won't do a thing about it. sad Horsey you're right, if I hadn't worked the past year I would be a lot better off. Luckily DP has permanent work this winter and not seasonal otherwise we really would be screwed!!!

MissMummy1 Thu 10-Jan-13 20:53:52

Detective my dad is an absolute prick as well. He is unbelievably selfish and couldn't give a damn about his kids. And now he's doing the same with his granddaughter which I will never forgive him for. He also screwed my mum over in their divorce and left us struggling for years. I'm secretly proud of the fact I have never had to depend on him for help, and even if he came crawling now I still wouldn't.

horseylady Thu 10-Jan-13 20:55:02

Anyone watching stargazing live?! They are ultra close to my house!!! Very exciting I look forward to using the telescope!!

Yes petite possibly the pissing cow. Thought there was something odd to do with handbags. Or something like that.

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