So, how many of you have the same political views/leanings as your DP/DH?

[AbsOfCroissant]

I've seen on some of the threads here that there are people who's DP/Hs are at the opposite end of the spectrum.

DP and I are pretty similar, which he's happy about - he can't vote in the election, but is glad that we would both vote for the same party so I'm kind of voting for both of us.

Do you end up fighting a lot (around election time)? I don't know if I could be with someone who had the opposite political views to me. Same on religious views. And music. Movies we differ, SUBSTANTIALLY

[EddieIzzardismyhero]

Very similar views, and it was very important to me that we did.

I could never ever have married a Tory. Voting Tory says a lot about your values and I couldn't marry someone with values so opposing to mine.

So no arguments here .

[RooBear]

we are exactly the same! how spooky, have same polital, religious and music tastes (mostly) even enjoy the same tv shows but movies are where we can't decide. Probably the reason why I've only seen about 10 films in my life!

[ShowOfHands]

In our household I vote Lab, dh votes Lib Dem. We agree on a lot of things actually and are able to discuss things without resorting to arguments. We're both lefties though so not too polarised.

ILs vote the same way- FIL LD and MIL Lab- and they cannot discuss politics at all.

[NoahAndTheWhale]

DH and I are voting differently this year (if he votes for who he says he is planning on). But both of us have voted in different ways from the way we are voting this year in other years. Probably have co-incided sometimes . Both of us are happy with this.

However, if he voted BNP that would be a different matter.

[OhYouBadBadKitten]

dh refuses to tell me. I suspect he votes the same way. I respect his privacy on this (though I'm dying to know!)

[RooBear]

oh I'm a Tory eddieizzardismyhero good job you didn't marry me!

[LadycAshcroft]

I do.

[ImSoNotTelling]

We agree on everything but politics.

The thing I can see is that we are both products of our upbringings and, while obviously grown-ups should make their own minds up, the influence of background is strong.

So on that basis I can overlook DHs politics, as I know he's not actually a nasty selfish person, he isn't, he's just been indoctrinated. When I ask him specific questions the answers that he gives are not in line with how he (sometimes) votes IYSWIM.

We agree to disagree, but the London Mayor elections are always ratehr trying

[EddieIzzardismyhero]

There would have been no chance RooBear ! Our relationship would have been doomed from the start .

[zephyrcat]

We have voted differently. It's actually the first time that either of us have ever voted so there has never really been cause for discussion about it until this morning as we were getting ready to go to the polling station and then a 'debate' () started!

[whatname]

completely different.

[RooBear]

oh well - I do like your name though!

[Lizzylou]

We are pretty much the same, he is farther left than me, but pretty much agree onmost things.
We can have a good discussion without getting heated/arguing.

Not the case with my Mother...I tend to just give her wine until she falls asleep, once she is off on one there is no stopping her.

[sfxmum]

we do it is one of those fundamental things, political views, atheism that have an impact on living together and bringing up a child together

[peppapighastakenovermylife]

Same. DH is very persuadable

[orangina]

Hmm, I think we are voting the same this year, but that's not always the case. DH came from much more trad conservative background, so I think he was hard wired differently, if that makes sense.

To be honest, we share mostly the same values, so what he votes is his own business. Obviously if he voted bnp, I would feel some kind of re-assessment was needed (!!!!!!), but I don't think I have a closet bigot in the house....

Wierdly though, we had a bumch of dh's friends for dinner last year, and a woman there had just been off for a day of finding out how to become an MP. I asked what party, and everyone turned round and looked at me as if I was bonkers for asking and said "Conservative of course...". I did wonder whether all of these university edicated people had actually THOUGHT about their political beleifs, or whether they were just doing what their parents had always done....

(baffled)

[BottleOfRum]

DP is a bit thick not very well educated, and so doesn't know much about politics etc. He said a few weeks back that he did not want labour back in power, but did not know who to vote for instead. As a very firm LAB supporter, I have spent the last few weeks talking loudly about how much I will mourn the loss of our tax credits, and very possibly lose my lovely public sector job therefore he will have to work twice as hard to support us. Suffice to say, he is now firmly labour!

[orangina]

(educated.... duh, sorry for the typo!)

[LyraSilvertongue]

We've voted differently. I voted for the party I want, even though it's probably a wasted vote, and he voted tactically.
We both support the same party though.

[EddieIzzardismyhero]

Thank you RooBear .

[AbsOfCroissant]

My family (siblings and their partners, parents etc.) are all Tory. It's insanity. And they produced me who was a raving communist most of my teens.

Yet another sign that I'm most probably adopted/swopped at birth.

[ZephirineDrouhin]

Pretty similar, although dp perhaps a little further right, and less anxious to vote tactically than me. Hence some heated discussions about the Lib Dem stakeboard which he has had put up outside our front door in our Labour/Tory marginal seat.

[Niecie]

Normally DH and I vote the same but for some reason my normally sit-on-the-fence, mild mannered and slightly indecisive DH has been ranting about Brown for the last 6 weeks and bigging up the Tories so I feel like voting Labour just to even things out!

Don't know what's got into him. We don't normally vote labour but there is no reasoned arguing with him at the moment. Normally I get frustrated with him when he has no real opinion but I think I prefer that DH than the one I have this time!

But we aren't arguing - you can't argue with a mad-man.

[PandaG]

broadly similar, and generally vote the same. I think that I have voted tactically in the past when he has voted for his first choice of party, but our intentions have been the same.