Daily Gratitudes 2014

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Annunziata Wed 01-Jan-14 16:55:28

Old thread here

Welcome to our Gratitudes for 2014! The lovely crescentmoon started last years, and we are running out of space. So, here is our 2014 thread-for little things that go well for us each day.

Any MNer can join in! From any faith, no faith, every day, once in a while, everyone is welcome!

I am grateful for
a New Year and new starts
all my grown up DC having a good time at parties and returning home safely
a warm bath and a glass of wine

crescentmoon Wed 01-Jan-14 20:12:50

very happy you started a new 2014 thread annunziata, and what a welcoming message also! happy new year to you and everyone else old and new who will join in this thread.

gratitudes today:

that ds2 has improved so much today with toilet training when i was almost in despair!
that his speech is improving really well also,
that ds1 and dd are having a great time at dparents,
for my lovely DH - (today is one of those 'how lucky am i with a man like this' days!),
for a lovely new years day,
a warm house and a lovely hot cup of tea!

Annunziata Thu 02-Jan-14 23:45:03

Thank you very much my love!

warm apple pie with ice cream!

stressedHEmum Fri 03-Jan-14 10:11:24

A happy and blessed New Year to everyonesmile What a lovely new thread. Thank you Annunziata.

shelter from this terrible weather - I hope everyone is safe
DS1 had a safe journey up from Cumbria and is currently making his way back - hopefully there will be no problems with his journey
DD loved her new violin for her birthday
mince pies (again)
painkillers and sleep

WingDefence Fri 03-Jan-14 19:51:57

May I join in please?

Today I'm thankful for:
- my two lovely DCs - it was DS's 5th birthday party today and both DCs were brilliant (DD is only 9 months though...!)
- the fact that all his friends turned up and everyone had a great time
- my friends and family who helped out and made the afternoon only mildly stressful and actually enjoyable grin
- this thread! Thanks Annunziata thanks

Annunziata Fri 03-Jan-14 20:11:26

Welcome wingdefence! Happy birthday to your little one!

Glad you found us, stressed, did your DH make it up? I hope you haven't been hit by the floods today.

Grateful for
- being able to run out for a bit of fresh air between rain storms!

sugar4eva Sat 04-Jan-14 09:14:16

What a lovely thread . How fab to think of our grattitues. Thankyou ! I'm grateful for sitting in my bed right now scoring a cup of tea . For my lovely ds who went to a party and mixed his drinks and called us for help and he was like a little boy letting me help him . For my dh who is out getting coal for our multi fuel burner. For my dd who is navigating a first relationship . For my job which feels like a vocation and causes me to be exposed to human vulnerability daily , and after 20 years of it upsetting me I feel as if I am balancing the stress so that I doesn't cost me too much emotionally . For rivers , trees, the wild sea,for buildings of beauty and the people who had the vision to build them . And - this is a little scary - my start on a spiritual path am grateful but afraid as don't know how to start . Am grateful for this thread! Thankyou . Ps I'm not v good on phones and I don't know how to do paragraphs on it , and I realise it makes it more difficult to read - apologies !

stressedHEmum Sat 04-Jan-14 13:36:50

Welcome, Wing and Sugar. it's always lovely to see new faces. May you find this thread to be as much of a blessing as I have.

Annunziata, we are a wee bit inland, so avoided the flooding, but have some friends who live right on the front in Ardrossan who aren't so lucky. Thankfully, they have a good support network (they are elderly). DH got to work and back without too much difficulty, DS1 had loads of delays on his journey back to Cumbria, though. At least he got there safely in the end.

for the chance to visit my parents this afternoon
for hot food and a warm home
for all of my children growing and blossoming
for DS2's endless patience with DS4
for time spent with friends yesterday - they are such a blessing to me.

WingDefence Sat 04-Jan-14 17:19:49

I'm currently thankful for my wonderful DPs. They followed us up north when we moved to the NW from London 3 years ago and I'm at their housewarming party right now (sleeping baby on my shoulder so only have NN for company!).

Lots of people have turned up from the area inc their church - all friends they've made in the last 18 months - and they all keep saying how lovely my DPs are. So blessed smile

WingDefence Sat 04-Jan-14 17:20:17

*MN for company on my phone!

crescentmoon Sat 04-Jan-14 18:06:14

you are very blessed wing - wow! my DPs love me but not enough to relocate so far as yours would! thats so lovely.

stressed iv missed you love very glad to see you here on annunziatas thread. sugar4eva id like to join with the welcomes to you as well.


1.the lovely chat with dm this evening,
2.and from that - for my quiet non dramatic life,
3.for annunziata getting us off to a positive start for 2014!
4.that ds has had no accidents for 2 days - none at all!
5.the great free books on my lovely kindle

sugar4eva Sun 05-Jan-14 09:23:02

For my supportive dh who works very hard with passion and commitment and my own ; which I am lucky to do part time as I wd burn out otherwise
For just learning how to do paragraphs on thus phone!
For neighbour s who we can say hello to but also ask for help and vica versa as well as some socialising

For the amazing view from our house which looks over the distant Lakeland hills and the coast

For the happiness gained from small things

For my shower ; not posh but appriciAte it !

sugar4eva Sun 05-Jan-14 09:23:59

And for the welcomes!

Annunziata Sun 05-Jan-14 12:41:45

Ooooh, free kindle books? Any recommendations?

Glad the weather didn't hit too badly. Just waiting on the next battering now, this winter is crazy!

Welcome sugar!

the choir in our church, they are really, really good

WingDefence Sun 05-Jan-14 15:06:32

Yes gratitudes for the welcomes on here smile

Well I'm very thankful for our church and the amazing friends we have there. DH was appointed part-time Pastor of our church today (it's not had a pastor since something like 1940 - can't say much more or I'll out myself) and we truly feel like God has brought us up here for this purpose.

I'm thankful (again) for this thread. I lurk on the prayer threads but it's wonderful to focus on the positives in our lives too, no matter how small. So uplifting.

stressedHEmum Sun 05-Jan-14 15:26:31


for this mornings church service
that my friend who is the organist is feeling better this week - he was off sick last week - it makes for an adventure on a Sunday morning, we miss him so much and are very, very blessed to have him. He truly is a gift from God
for a nice chat over a cup of tea after the service and that a couple of people volunteered to help me when they realised that I was on my own in the kitchen
for time spent with family
for shelter from the weather

sugar4eva Sun 05-Jan-14 16:21:00

Wings ; I'm in the n w too ! If you look at my grattitues you can prob narrow it down to a few places . Hope you like it here.sounds like you do!

HellesBellesThinksSometimes Sun 05-Jan-14 18:10:14

Hope it's ok to join in smile

My 13yo still having fun with me
Snowman marshmallows (see above!)
My wonderful church who are my rocks
Today's preacher who made the gospels jist a little easier to navigate
That I return to work tomorrow and can get back into a routine

stressedHEmum Mon 06-Jan-14 18:19:41

Welcome, helles, the more the merrier.


a lull in the rain
food, water, shelter and safety
fluffy socks
hot fruit tea
pain killers

WingDefence Mon 06-Jan-14 20:09:09

I'm a newbie too Helles - welcome smile

Sugar, we could well be near to each other? PM me?

Gratitudes for today:
- being able to work from home so that I can drop my DCs off at school/childcare
- my DPs (again) for looking after DD on Mondays
- my DH for cooking tea
And the basics that I should always try not to take for granted: food, our house, health.

sugar4eva Mon 06-Jan-14 23:24:05

Hi wings ; will pm you ! Think I may have to so via lap top
- cant see pm button on phone!
Grattitues :
My teen ds bringing a teen orientated snack for me - first time ever.
My dog s warm tummy .
Neighbours Christmas pud with vanilla cream
Getting the ok to move desks to a room with a view of a grand old tree
New diary ;fresh paper and writing space.
A quote on fb about stillness.
Working too late but getting home and flopping !
Slippers from a friend which are too big and make my feet look like cartoon feet. Dh can no longer take me seriously when grumpy when I wear them.

sugar4eva Mon 06-Jan-14 23:27:25

Ps and for the thought"what you focuss on grows".

HellesBellesThinksSometimes Tue 07-Jan-14 17:01:29


sugar4eva typed 'what you focus on grows'
The opportunity to get to know new people and make good friends
Young adults are very resilient
Memories of those gone from our lives
People who tell you when something has gone well
Rain when the windscreen jets are broken
Opportunities to praise
Freedom to design experiments

crescentmoon Tue 07-Jan-14 17:34:02

hello lovelies, i hope you are all keeping well.

first off: a warm welcome hellesbelles and sugar from me too.

also,some nice videos and articles on gratitude from the last thread:

heres a video on if you want to be a happy person, become a grateful person.

www.ted.com/talks/david_steindl_rast_want_to_be_happy_be_grateful.html (the speaker is David Steindl-Rast "a benedictine monk and interfaith scholar on how happiness is born from gratitude. An inspiring lesson in slowing down, looking where you’re going, and above all, being grateful.")

and a couple of articles on the benefits: social/health/mental of gratitudes



if you ever read or see anything about the positivity of taking stock of things to be grateful for in one's life, please post it on the thread!

gratitudes today:

dc are well and cheerful,
dh has accepted my olive branch - not with the best of grace but im grateful anyway as i was in the wrong,
my good friend and her good advice to me,
that we had enough in the bank to weather the very large directdebit taken out today,
that in helping themselves to our money, the question of settling the bill before moving energy company has been sorted!

WingDefence Tue 07-Jan-14 22:20:40

Evening all. Gratitudes today include:
- for the gift of music and singing
- for the beauty of creation
- for friendship and laughter
- for sweets grin

sugar4eva Tue 07-Jan-14 22:26:42

For simple pleasures after a hectic day
- egg on toast with cheese on top with a glass of wine.
Dd making a hand shake up with me. !
For the wind outside, cosy inside
The more you celebrate your life , the more their is to celebrate! Yay. Mind you when dh knocked my b day picture of the wall last night I was not celebrating ! ; 0 !

sugar4eva Tue 07-Jan-14 22:27:57

As the glass smashed I was a harridan !

WingDefence Wed 08-Jan-14 08:15:01

In DS's daily devotionals book today:

This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24 smile

crescent are you Muslim? Hope you don't mind me asking - your user name might relate to something completely different! If you are, I'm afraid I've not read the Koran (sorry if that spelling's wrong) - is it broken down into verses like the Bible is?

stressedHEmum Wed 08-Jan-14 10:41:55

Wing, we often have that verse as a call to worship . So simple, yet so profound.

sugar, there is so very much to celebrate. Even when things are tough, there are always so many blessings and joys. Sometimes we just have to look a bit harder for them.

Crescent, hope you are well, dear sister.

DS2 made a successful journey down to Cumbria to visit DS1 yesterday. It's the farthest he has ever gone on his own and I was worried sick all day. There were many delays and at times the trains had to be abandoned for replacement bus services but he took it all in his stride. I am so proud of him. Even a year ago he would have really, really struggled and someone would have had to travel with him. He is learning to cope so wellgrin
a lull in the weather
a warm home
homemade soup and crusty bread for tea
small furry pets

Poledra Wed 08-Jan-14 10:52:41

A happy new year to all! I'd dropped the last thread rather but I am still in the habit of thinking of my gratitudes, even if I don't find time to post them. So, i am grateful:

for my family - my beautiful children especially
that SleekCat finally came back last night - he's not given to wandering much in winter, so when he didn't turn up for tea, it was rather a concern. He strolled back in about 8pm, giving us the 'Whaaaat? I was just, y'know, out!' look when we fell on him in relief
that the garage agreed the fault in the car I recently bought from them should not have happened, and replaced the faulty part free
that we are far away from the flooding and we are warm and safe

crescentmoon Wed 08-Jan-14 12:12:36

morning all!

poledra very glad to see you on annunziatas new thread. wing yes i am muslim you got the reference right! its a great multifaith group here on the gratitudes thread and im also proud to say sister to stressed also! the Qu'ran is structured into verses and chapters like the Bible but its much shorter, probably something like 25000 less verses!


that stressed is seeing such improvement with ds2, i pray that you see that with all your children all the time!
for good friends,
for health,
for good food,
for a warm house - im grateful for my warm dry house today.

sugar4eva Wed 08-Jan-14 21:48:49

For laughter shared at work today amongst the background of a pressured environment .
For being able to help folk.
For my cosy bed .
For a moment of stillness .

WingDefence Wed 08-Jan-14 22:17:47

Well then crescent, I'm thankful today that this thread is multi-faith, especially when I'm currently listening to the awful news about fighting between Christians and Muslims in the Central African Republic sad

Also that DS and DD had good days at school / the CM
For my cat, who is lovely.
For the ability in our country to all follow our religions.

stressedHEmum Thu 09-Jan-14 10:03:13

One of the greatest blessings of this thread is that it is multi-faith. It is so very important that we respect and love each other and that we focus on the things that we have in common rather than the things that are different. The news from the CAR is awful. I can never understand why people from religions that are essentially very peaceful and tolerant can think that they are doing the right thing by engaging in such violence and hate.

freedom and the rule of law
God's great mercy and the peace that it brings
beautiful flowers
children are all well
hot fruit tea and a warm house

crescentmoon Thu 09-Jan-14 10:38:42

i find stories about peaceful coexistence between the world faiths a very good antidote to the depressive news out of central african republic,
burma, afghanistan, the west bank and gaza, etc.


some of the stories in the link above are really surprising, the one that surprised me most was about the syrian war refugees:men women and children being quietly treated in israeli hospitals. such stories and many more thousands of people of different faiths living alongside each other peacefully all around the world just don't fit what warmongers on all sides and stripes want. its a great sadness to me what happens to minority christian populations in countries such as pakistan. muslim minorities complain about being blamed for Al qaida here in the west as those peaceful christians in the ME and asia get blamed for US foreign policy. with the ME especially, its very sad over the last decade the degradation in relations between ME christians and muslims who had coexisted alongside each other for centuries in syria, iraq, egypt etc. i always pray for peace.

gratitudes today:

il carry on a tradition here of borrowing a gratitude from another list:

1.For the ability in our country to all follow our religions,
2.for living in a peaceful country where rule of law dominates far more than many other nations - for me that is the most special and important,
3. for living in a powerful country that is not beholden to other nations or at the helpless mercy of war decisions far away,
4. for being able to pass onto my children the protection and the privileges of citizenship.
5.grateful that i am insulated from the extremes of poverty and war

Annunziata Thu 09-Jan-14 19:34:17

It is so lovely to see our thread filling up smile

being able to clean and make things new

sugar4eva Thu 09-Jan-14 20:32:55

For daffodil bulbs growing ,for fairy lights in the dark , for our wood burner, for being able to stay positive when my tumble dryer died today instead of panic re replacement and remembering it has worked more than it has been broken !

WingDefence Thu 09-Jan-14 21:41:13

Ditto to your Gratitudes today crescent.

Also for good friends, newborn snuggles, piping hot water on tap for showers!

Poledra Thu 09-Jan-14 22:16:43

For the car on my lap and the one cuddled up against my leg!

Poledra Thu 09-Jan-14 22:17:26

And that should be cat, not car...

Annunziata Fri 10-Jan-14 15:27:03

peace and quiet for 10 minutes
family recipes

sugar4eva Fri 10-Jan-14 19:26:59

An ordered ish house, ds enthusiasm for his a levels, the energy of teens, a nice glass of wine by the fire. For behind uninterested in designer stuff; liberating. ( just been talk to dh who gave his Christmas money to disaster fund and we got to talking re stuff like that)

WingDefence Fri 10-Jan-14 19:32:37

Thankful that it's Friday!

BluBurd Fri 10-Jan-14 22:15:29

Hi all, new to gratitudes and would like to join in here smile

I am grateful for having a chat with my SIL and putting her mind at rest.

I am grateful for a visit from my best friend and her lovely baby that never fails to cheer me up.

I am grateful for my partner who popped in with some new towels he bought for me.

I am grateful for my children who make me smile every day and remind me to have fun.

HellesBellesThinksSometimes Fri 10-Jan-14 23:26:17

I am thankful for:
DS is safe and asleep upstairs and his biggest worries are about which after-school clubs to join.
Most of the traumas in my life were pre-social media
Friends who accept me even with all my shortcomings
Being part of several communities
Loving my job and the people I work with
Fish and chips when I'm late home and haven't been to the supermarket
The methodist church app so that I can use its daily bible study wherever and whenever it is convenient - really saved me on very difficult days this week, being able to take time-out and read and meditate on the bible

stressedHEmum Sat 11-Jan-14 12:56:34

lessening of pain todaysmile
16 hours of straight sleep
light hugs from the children
that they are old enough now, to more or less deal with themselves when I can't
DS3 ironed his first shirt yesterdaygrin - the first of many I hope
food, water, shelter and safety
friends and family

Annunziata Sat 11-Jan-14 13:07:28

Welcome bluburd!

getting washing out (hurray!)

WingDefence Sat 11-Jan-14 14:05:29

stressed I'd love that amount of sleep! Not through illness though.
Welcome bluburd smile

So much to be thankful for today:
Sunshine and blue skies
Baking fun with DS
A marriage strengthened through faith

crescentmoon Sat 11-Jan-14 19:46:19


finding a lovely new cover for the ipad at my local charity shop for 99p - im dead chuffed!
being invited out with my dc by lovely friends,
that the kids didnt embarress me too much,
for the gift of a lovely cup of tea,
for simple pleasures

crescentmoon Sat 11-Jan-14 19:46:38

(oh and welcome blueburd too!)

sugar4eva Sun 12-Jan-14 10:06:24

Struggling with grattitues today and I know that I should t be! It's because a significant number of my colleagues are putting self forward for vol redundancy with a years wage as incentive and I can't do it too has gave ds to get thro uni soon - which I'm glad about- and dd.: but it hard seeing people exit around me and pay off mortgages when due to freq moving I just can't ! Sorry for moan I am grateful for many things as well as thus thread to keep on track! : )
Bird song
Nice coffee
My wonderful dad before he pAssed away and much treasured memories
That my bro had fab time in India. And is now back
For my lovely home and garden
My lovely pals
For collecting wood for burner at the river y day with dd so rewarding !

WingDefence Sun 12-Jan-14 17:24:56

That's a tough position to be in sugar. Something similar happened to my DH just before we moved up north but you have to not let your feelings turn into resentment sad

Gratitudes today:
People polite enough to compliment me this morning on my baking for church refreshments grin
My DM popping round this afternoon to teach DS chess
My health
The fact that my friend didn't chop his finger off (just sliced it down to the bone!) when he slipped chipping wood last week...

Annunziata Sun 12-Jan-14 19:46:10

Oh that's not moaning sugar, that's a hard place to be. I hope you get through okay, and good luck to your DS!

happy dc
our lovely dinner
sleeping baby

sugar4eva Sun 12-Jan-14 20:10:02

Thank you ! Onward and upward! Gratitude for comments ! : )

HellesBellesThinksSometimes Mon 13-Jan-14 17:04:50


I am grateful for how rarely does experience match fear.

I am grateful to have friends who care enough to ask how things are going.

I am grateful that ds is happy.

wishingyouwell Mon 13-Jan-14 21:49:15

Hello wonderful thread.

For these and countless blessings I thank God:

Grateful to have come across such an inspiring thread
For the blessing of mobility
For a home in this recent stormy weather
For having a tap with running water -what a blessing when so many don't.

WingDefence Mon 13-Jan-14 21:55:00

Hi wishing and everyone else smile

For having the biggest giggles with DS today because I kept making bum jokes: that's allowed, right?!
For inspirational worship songs that make me feel happy
For my lovely purry cat who decided the warmest place in the house today was sitting right under my desk lamp while I was trying to work! grin

Annunziata Tue 14-Jan-14 17:06:32

Welcome wishing smile

for a few hours to myself yesterday
for Pope Francis praising breastfeeding

stressedHEmum Tue 14-Jan-14 17:59:00

Welcome, wishing.

Annunziata, I was telling the children yesterday about Pope Francis. He rocks! i don't know much about the Catholic Church, but he really seems to be what people need - a down to earth, ordinary kind of man who understands what life is like. Nowhere near as remote as some Popes that I can remembersmile. We could all do a lot worse than follow his example, he is very Christ-like, I think. The fruits of the Spirit are very evident in how he speaks and how he seems to live.

gratitudes -
DS2 made it back from Cumbria in one piece
21 years today with DS2 - grin
shelter from this ongoing dreadful weather
food and water
food bank continues to help many people
feel a bit better today - I have the hospital again on Wednesday to see the Rheumy physio - hopefully she will have some helpful ideas, especially about dealing with the fatigue - I am fed uf of being tired, but I suppose that's the nature of the illnesses.
children happily scoffing pizza for DS2's birthday tea.

crescentmoon Wed 15-Jan-14 17:15:09

annunziata, i said on the other thread too how i really think alot of this pope. he's made alot of people sit up and take notice and i like how his focus is on the poor and social justice. i always wanted to read more abit the catholic liberation theology of south america, i know pope francis wasnt part of that movement but his concern with the ordinary lay people over all is really heart touching. im enjoying the breastfeeding thread too, really interesting points being made there.


ds2 enjoying new school nursery,
enjoying listening to music and relaxing with dc,
house is full of food,
the month is so far going well

WingDefence Wed 15-Jan-14 18:33:19

Oops missed yesterday!

For a caring DH
For the rain to water our countryside
For friends

Annunziata Wed 15-Jan-14 21:39:32

21 stressed! I hope you had a really lovely day. Did he get the key of the door? grin

Unfortunately such a lovely thread has now been ruined by vileness sad Urghhhh.

DC being able to go to school

crescentmoon Thu 16-Jan-14 07:24:25

i dont think it was a bad thread annunziata, far more good stuff said and people expressing approval of your Pope's recent announcement than the negative stuff. and its hard when your reading it but everyone get's that kind of crap thrown at them when it comes to religion - no prizes for guessing how quickly bin laden gets brought up on any thread to do with islam! but i think it was a positive thread about catholicism on the whole.


that i managed to wake up to have my early morning meal today: fasting is alot harder when i dont!
that dd is in much brighter spirits today - she didnt have a nice day yday school,
that ds1 is getting better at remembering to take his brown inhaler without reminding,
ds2 has had not a single accident for almost a week!

WingDefence Thu 16-Jan-14 21:26:33

stressed I missed that bit about your DS being 21! Congrats smile


For new MNers who all were brave enough to come to a MN Local meet-up I organised today grin
For DD being lovely and smiley all day when we were here, there and everywhere
For the hope that faith brings in seemingly impossible situations.

Annunziata Thu 16-Jan-14 22:05:28

I can imagine crescent sad It finished fairly civilly, which wasn't bad. It does get very tiring though. What a world we live in...

a clean house

Poledra Fri 17-Jan-14 09:10:09

Congratulations to stressed's DS2 (and to stressed for getting him this far grin).

WingDefence, bum jokes are the best, closely followed by fart jokes. I discovered the dangers of reading classic novels with DD1 the other day - someone was described as 'a real trump' - that's not a compliment in our house...

following on from having a meeting in London the other day,I am soooo glad I don't usually have a long crowded commute.
all 3 DDs have had fabulous fun days at school this week, as the teachers introduce their new topic for this term
warmth, food and love are in ready supply in my house smile

stressedHEmum Fri 17-Jan-14 13:48:22

Thanks to allgrin - 21 years of ups and downs but DS2 is doing so well now. it's still a worry, Asperger's never goes away, but things are much better now than they used to be.

food water, shelter and safety
faith and peace
family and friends

greeneyedcat Fri 17-Jan-14 17:03:53

Can I please add my thankyous, actually they are for yesterday but I didnt have time to switch on my laptop.

DS2 left home a few weeks ago, he came back to visit yesterday, I forgot how handsome he is. He looked so happy, I am so thankful things are working out for him.

DS3 passed his driving test!

And my biggest gratitude is for myself if I may be allowed...3 month check with oncologist following a pretty horrendous year of diagnosis and treatment. Results all good, no sign of cancer smile

Poledra Fri 17-Jan-14 17:11:52

Woohoo, greeneyedcat! That is a wonderful gratitude, I am so happy for you. Have some wine to celebrate tonight (red wine's good for you, of course). smile

greeneyedcat Fri 17-Jan-14 17:34:47

What a fab thread, thank you poledra i'll do just that and pour myself a glass wine cheers!

Since having treatment for cancer im finding so much more to be grateful for, little things I didnt even notice before.

Annunziata Fri 17-Jan-14 19:38:02

greeneyed how absolutely marvellous! wine my lovely, that is definitely something to be grateful for!


WingDefence Sat 18-Jan-14 22:16:14

Great news greeneyedcat!

Poledra, I tend to miss or change words if they are like that and would be misunderstood by DS. I'm reading Charlie & The Great Glass Elevator to him at the moment and I'm skipping paragraphs out because (sorry blush) it's actually boring shock.

Gratitudes today:
For my church family, pulling together in many different ways for the funeral of a church member today

For all the friends I've made up here since we moved

For the beautiful countryside, even when it's chucking it down!

wishingyouwell Mon 20-Jan-14 11:50:07

Thank you all for your warm welcome smile

For sunshine today and the sound of the birds outside
For slightly longer days
For my work computer which is functioning much better

Annunziata Mon 20-Jan-14 15:01:28

the extra light this morning
old friends

WingDefence Mon 20-Jan-14 20:03:01

For my wonderful DH on his birthday
For my DS for being so excited about DH's birthday!
For DD being such a happy little soul and the fact we get even more interaction with her on a daily basis
For friends & family

stressedHEmum Mon 20-Jan-14 23:06:54

Greeneyedcat, that is wonderful news, long may it continue.grin

Happy birthday Wing's DHgrin

lovely service at church yesterday
progress making raffle prizes for my Christian Aid Daffodil tea
food bank continues to meet a great need
friend's dad's tumour has shrunk, giving him a few more precious weeks with his family
slightly longer day, today
warm house in this cold weather
food, clean water, shelter and safety
bit less tired today, so have to try not to do too much tomorrow. I will get over this latest crash eventuallysmile

WingDefence Tue 21-Jan-14 08:14:11

Morning all - I'm on the train down to London but I have tonsilitis (second time in a month but I think this bout is viral so prob no need for antibiotics). So I'm feeling a bit rotten but the sunrise this morning out of the train window is so stunning I have to add it to my gratitudes list!

stressedHEmum Wed 22-Jan-14 10:03:03

DS2's exam results are finally in -he passed them all very convincingly
the support of good friends in a difficult situation
shelter from the weather
hugs from the children
the mercy of God
blessings unnumbered

Annunziata Fri 24-Jan-14 16:00:32


WingDefence Fri 24-Jan-14 18:51:50

Argh sorry I've been horribly ill with tonsilitis again so had forgotten to post!

For medicine and antibiotics and the research that goes into those areas every year
For music
For friends

wishingyouwell Sat 25-Jan-14 15:52:11

Hope you feel better soon Wing

Grateful for:

Warm texts from people who mean a lot

Sincere people

Beautiful animals in my life

Very grateful God has given me a wonderful neighbour. A woman who, despite suffering greatly with cancerteaches me the importance and depth of gratitude with her constant thankfulness and praise of God. She says things like ' The Lord is looking after me, He is Magnificent. He is wonderful...'

Puts much into perspective

Annunziata Sat 25-Jan-14 22:10:59

Get better soon wings!

grateful for my sister

WingDefence Sat 25-Jan-14 22:53:37

Thanks all - the antibiotics have kicked in an I felt completely normal as normal as I can be haha today, hurrah.


For mumsnet - the many amazing threads that entertain; bring you closer to people; offer life-saving advice.

For the amazing diversity of weather. Today we had hail, rain, blue sky, brightness, wind and it was wonderful to feel the power of creation.

sugar4eva Sun 26-Jan-14 08:28:12

Been AWOL! I work in nhs and have been working extra in own time as hosp sit been v difficult and I didn't want patients to suffer due to lack of people as resource to help them . Worked till 7 every work night and then crashed. I need to learn the difference between helping but not overdoing myself . I see each person as everyone s child , father etc and struggle hugely to give less than one hundred percent and then can't function myself. I just feel bad if I give less than what I wd expect for my own.maybe a gratitude coulld be learning my limits.
Grateful for very understanding dh.
My lovely home.
My lovely children
Memories of my lovely d f
Friends and their children
For my dh who accepts he will need to work till he is quite old with grace.
For my lovely soft gentle dog
For sitting here feeling content
For the idea that I can only do what I can do .
For this thread. : )

WingDefence Sun 26-Jan-14 20:41:16

Hiya sugar - I agree that you need to make time for yourself and not burn out.

Hope you've all had a good day.

For my fertility as I know that so many women in the world are unable to have children naturally

Poledra Sun 26-Jan-14 22:39:25

Today, my lovely DD1 is 10 years old. My heart is so full of love and gratitude for her and all she brings to my life that I have no room for anything else today.

Here's wishing for a peaceful week for us all.

stressedHEmum Mon 27-Jan-14 11:16:05

Happy Birthday to Pol's DD. May the Lord bless you and Keep you.

Glad you're feeling better Wing. DD is v. prone to tonsillitis and it is awful.

a lovely, very rare, night out with friends for Burns Night on Saturday
good singing voice yesterday to lead the congregation, our organist was off sick
shelter from the cold and wet
food, water, warmth
faith and God's unending grace
this thread for reminding me to count my blessings

"Count your blessings, name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord has done."

I hope Crescent is OK, it's not like her to miss so long.

wishingyouwell Mon 27-Jan-14 12:09:58

Warm wishes all.


For cash however small to treat myself now and then - a cappuccino for lunch break as I write this.

For my beautiful patient cat who loves to sit by me when I work at home

For the birds who tweet outside my workplace every so often

For the ability to digest food thank God. I am especially reminded of this when my neighbour is suffering so much with this. May God cure her.

For poetry and it's oft-forgotten beauty

Annunziata Mon 27-Jan-14 16:06:08

light and warmth
the ability to say I was wrong!

crescentmoon Mon 27-Jan-14 19:44:06

peace to you all! im loving reading the gratitudes here, really life affirming and a reminder to count the smallest. or the ones that we wouldnt realise how precious they are until we lose it or see someone who doesnt have it.
i havent been counting my blessings much recently stressed, but all of yours and others reminds me that is the key to happiness and contentment.

so, whilst little things here and there have been niggling at me, i remember the beautiful verse from 'The Lord is my Shepherd'...

''In the midst of affliction my table is spread;
With blessings unmeasured my cup runneth o'er;
With perfume and oil Thou anointest my head;
O what shall I ask of Thy providence more?
O what shall I ask of Thy providence more?''

stressedHEmum Wed 29-Jan-14 10:34:13

The 23rd Psalm is beautiful, crescent. it's all about the faithfulness of God and how, even in the darkest times, he is there with us, looking after us and blessing us with all the small things that we might not actually notice. it's really apt for this thread, I think. It's easy to count our blessings when things are good and they are big and obvious, it's a lit harder when life is hard, but that's when we need it most. I hope that makes any sense.

I am still praying for you and your family to have peace.

gratitudes -
sleep and a warm bed
medical care and medication
shelter from the winter weather
food in the cupboards and clean water from the tap
heard some wee birds singing yesterday - what a joyful sound
DS2 settled straight back in to uni after the holidays
cuddles from children

Poledra Wed 29-Jan-14 10:36:21

Today's gratitude - snowdrops! I took a slightly different route to work this morning as there's roadworks on my usual route, and there was a big ol' oak tree with masses and masses of snowdrops underneath it. Just beautiful and it lifted my heart.

WingDefence Wed 29-Jan-14 11:14:59

Morning all - sorry I missed your DD's birthday Poledra but I hope she had a lovely day smile

For life
For love
For laughter grin

Annunziata Wed 29-Jan-14 17:02:00

a pink sky at night

SecretWitch Thu 30-Jan-14 10:14:51

Hello All, I'm hoping to join you,if that is alright? I've been thinking a lot about mindfulness, grace, and acceptance. I read about your thread and decided this might be an excellent place for me to begin!


For my mum,taking care of me and my family as I recover from a pelvic fracture.
For my dh, working so hard to provide for us.
For my long time best friend who supports me
For my wonderful father,deceased 13 years now. He lived his faith.

crescentmoon Thu 30-Jan-14 10:32:53

im happy to be the first to welcome you secretwitch! i certainly need more mindfulness, grace and acceptance in my life. i hope you continue to recover well from your pelvic fracture.
stressed i hope you are well, how is your health these days i can tell from your recent gratitudes about tiredness, medication that you've not been well love. i hope you are getting lots of rest.
salam to annunziata and everyone else on the thread.


that i can be athome today with dc whilst they are sick,
for my little DB who is on his way to sit with them whilst i get some work done,
for waking up this morning alive and in good health,
for the new top number 1 and how cheerful it makes me

Poledra Thu 30-Jan-14 10:33:15

Welcome SecretWitch, we're pleased to see you. Fractured pelvis ouch! How did you do that? Glad you've got your mum there - my mum would drop everything to come help too, and has done, when I got appendicitis. Hope you're not in too much pain

Gratitudes today:

Good friends (spent last night with a friend I've know for 25 years - it's just brilliant)

Bourdic Thu 30-Jan-14 10:46:32

For my son-in-law who is so caring and loving to my dd. and dgs. She's 37 weeks now and he comes home after a hard day at work, a crowded train and 3 miles on the bike in the pouring rain and just looks after her with a big smile on his face

SecretWitch Thu 30-Jan-14 10:49:49

Thank you very much Crescent Moon and Poledra!

I often lurk in the Muslim Tea Room as I find it a place of serenity.

I fell at work and really banged myself up! I'm on the mend now. I should give thanks to my wonderful ortho who is very liberal with pain medication and support. She says you can't heal if you are in pain..

My mum is 73 and has taken on all my child care responsibilities.My parents have taught me the true meaning of faith.

crescentmoon Thu 30-Jan-14 12:01:41

im very glad you find it so secret and i hope you know that you are always welcome to post there along with anyone else on this thread. im also very glad you found such a sympathetic ortho, i know a fair few and they are not really known for being the most empathic or sympathetic of the medical profession tbh! its so lovely to have that kind of support when you are laid up or struggling - its a very special blessing. and i know what you mean by saying the true meaning of faith - "to have complete trust and faith in someone or something." like you i have that faith in my parents to have my back at the worst times too.

crescentmoon Thu 30-Jan-14 15:00:41

Welcome bourdic that's lovely about your son in law. Very exciting your daughter is having a baby so soon. I'm Very sure he'll be just as good a new father as he is an expectant father now!

Annunziata Thu 30-Jan-14 16:27:02

Ciao, crescent, my lovely, I was thinking of you flowers

Ooouch, secret, that sounds horrible, I am glad you are resting. God bless your mum.

How lovely, bourdic, thinking of your family in the weeks ahead.

even more light, every morning
a dry day!
my lunch today, which I have to say was lovely
my beautiful, daft DH

stressedHEmum Thu 30-Jan-14 17:22:54

Welcome, Bourdic, what a lovely wee family you have and what a blessing in a new babygrin

Secret, how terrible, it must be so painful. Glad you have had positive experience with medical folk. it makes all the difference when you have an understanding doctor, I think.

*Annunziata, my DD used to call a pink sunset a princess sky. When she was little, she thought that her daddy made them just for her. It makes me smile every time I see one.

Crescent, yes, I've been really struggling with pain and fatigue for the last few weeks. It could be a lot worse, though, so I try to look on the bright side.

a bright, sunny day
line dry washing
wee birds chasing one another about the garden
an easy night to plan for BB tonight - Chinese New Year
food, water, shelter and safety

WingDefence Thu 30-Jan-14 21:27:38

Evening all and welcome to Secret and Bourdic.

My gratitudes are for the warmth and safety of our house and for the joy our DCs bring when we feel rough.

SecretWitch Thu 30-Jan-14 22:55:06

Might I say how blessed I feel to have found this thread? Thank you all from the bottem of my heart..<3

Annunziata Fri 31-Jan-14 19:27:46

Oh stressed that's a beautiful thing for a wee girl to say! Was she a daddy's girl then?

Thank you very much Secret, you are so welcome!

another week safely by

wishingyouwell Fri 31-Jan-14 20:30:02

Evening All, hope you had a good week.

Tonight I count the following blessings. Thank you God. You are so merciful and kind.

For the gift of literacy
For work completed today
For better sleep last night
For the chance to change if not circumstances, mindset
For an amazing Aunt whose gratitude is inspirational
For a creative writing class which costs not a penny!

crescentmoon Fri 31-Jan-14 22:49:32

stressed how are you today? hope that the medications have some improvement for you.
i really liked your gratitudes this evening wishing, they made me remember i did have lots of things to feel blessed for recently:


for the gift of literacy,
for watching ds1 and dd enjoy their literacy,
for the chance to change circumstances,
for good company to remind me to be thankful

WingDefence Sat 01-Feb-14 08:26:19

Morning all

My first gratitude today is for the blue sky up above when I know the forecast is for heavy wintry rain/sleet/snow later!

stressedHEmum Sat 01-Feb-14 15:35:03

Secret, you are very welcome, what a lovely thing to say. This is a really nice thread, full of support and love I hope you find a happy home here.

Annunziata, yes she was very much a Daddy's girl. Being the only girl among all the boys, it was inevitable really. I wish it was still like that, for the last couple of years it's been like living in a warzone - I don't think DH knows how to cope with teenage girls at all, he can't deal with her mood swings, hates her clothes/earrings/hair colour. I don't think that he realised that she would grow up. And EVERYTHING that he says annoys the living daylights out of DD. I'm hoping and praying things settle down in the next couple of yearssmile

crescent, I'm not so bad today. it's definitely better with the meds that it would be without, so I am always grateful for healthcare in this country.

gratitudes -

11 years with DS4
that his is the last birthday for a few months (have had 3 of them in the last 5 weeks, DD, DS2 and DS4)
shelter from the awful weather
that the scare at DS1's work yesterday appears to be a faulty instrument more than likely (silly, but when you see it on the news, you do worry a bit)
warm slippers and jumpers
food, clean water, shelter and safety.
friends and family
the gift of reading

crescentmoon Sat 01-Feb-14 16:27:18

wing i keep waiting anxiously for snow and was really happy to see a blue sky today too

so happy that its a simple explanation at your ds1's work. very nice that your ds4 is 11 years old, stressed i remember your posting last year when he turned 10 and it feels like yesterday! time really runs i just pray i have more blessing in mine.


DH taking charge of dc even when he was after a night shift,
tesco lemon drizzle cake,
im grateful we were able to afford to keep the heating on last year when having to keep it off alot more now!
healthcare in this country. i saw this joke about what if the US TV show 'Breaking Bad' was set in the UK. and it made me realise how really blessed we are with the NHS.

Annunziata Sat 01-Feb-14 19:42:41

I think things will settle down stressed, it's only natural. DH struggles a lot, especially with the clothes and the boyfriends, but, as I say to mine, it's out of worry, not because he doesn't want them to have a good time. Happy birthday to your boy!

I love a good lemon drizzle cake grin Actually, I love all cake

lovely in-laws

SecretWitch Sun 02-Feb-14 03:43:47

Hello, All!

Today I am grateful for
My husband, he came home work at 7am, slept for 2 hours and then was off to basketball practice with our six year old daughter.
My beloved best friend, she makes me laugh and has seen me through some very difficult times in our 35 years of friendship.
Sanssoleil, a wonderful poster here, she is so compassionate and intelligent

Hugs to all of you on this thread..xx

Annunziata Sun 02-Feb-14 19:43:05

Hugs smile

I am grateful that my favourite big brother is coming back to Scotland to visit tomorrow grin

greeneyedcat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:45:36

Gratitudes - a beautiful blue sky and bright sunshine. Walking in the fresh air without fear. We take our freedom so much for granted.

Good food and friendship.

Wishing everyone a peaceful week.

stressedHEmum Sun 02-Feb-14 20:45:42

gratitudes -
managed to hold prayer group this morning - there are only 2 of us, but it's so important that we keep going and it's a lovely start to a Sunday morning, I really feel the difference if we don't manage it
lovely service and after service tea and biscuits
wonderful replacement organist. Sadly my friend, the regular organist is still sick
food and water, safety and shelter
friends and family

crescent, DS1 works at Sellafield, so it's a worry when there are reports of things going wrong. Thankfully, it's never anything serious, let's hope that continues.

SecretWitch Mon 03-Feb-14 17:14:16

Hello all you lovely people smile


Showers instead of bed baths! I feel so clean and refreshed

My mum, she continues to care for me and my family. My children adore her. They will be bereft when we move back home!

For my mum..Psalm 121 (I think) I will lift mine eyes to the hills...

She loves this verse..

Annunziata Wed 05-Feb-14 20:10:58

a dry(ish) day

crescentmoon Thu 06-Feb-14 22:44:07

and there i was stressed looking for news articles about scottish oil rigs thinking your son was somewhere in the north sea! i hope he is ok and God keep him and protect him.
secret, love the way you mention your mum. im a mummy's girl too. i looked up Psalm 21, iv never read it before so really appreciated the reference to look it up. so glad your able to now have a shower, its so refreshing but also so surprising what you miss when you are recovering from a big op like that! annunziata, thank you for the thread.



SecretWitch Thu 06-Feb-14 22:53:28

Good Evening All,
Many thanks to Annunziatta for this thread. She probably does not realise how many people she touches with her calm and steady faith..

crescentmoon, how lucky are we to have our lovely mums! My mum is constantly showing me how to be a good woman. I love her dearly...


For the warmth of my mum's house as the snow piles up outside
For my husband who works so hard for his family
For my children coming on the hour to visit and see if I need anything

stressedHEmum Fri 07-Feb-14 10:37:20

Secret, the things that we miss when we can't have them are amazing, aren't they. I never for a moment imagined that I would miss taking DS4 for walks in the rain so that e could jump in puddles and "drink" the rain. But, now that I can't do it, I find that I do actually miss it a lot. I'm so glad that you are recovering and that your family are so supportive. That's something that we all need.

crescent, thank you. Being a bit of a leftie, green freak (and old enough to remember things like 3 Mile Island, Chernobyl and all the Windscale stuff) I wasn't too happy about him going to work there. But you have to let them live their own lives and, now the plant is decommissioned, there's not that much too worry about, I suppose. Still, I can't help but feel uncomfortable about it.


a sunny daygrin
food bank has fed 15 people in less than a week
for all the people who so generously donate in any way
friends and family
food, shelter, safety and security
hot water at the turn of a tap
wee birds singing in the garden and flying around the feeders - how I love to watch them

Annunziata Fri 07-Feb-14 19:49:48


Also I love my mamma, I will be grateful for her today.

giggleshizz Sat 08-Feb-14 19:56:01

Having come from quite a dark place in the past year due to becoming a single parent, I decided at the beginning of the year to really start being grateful for what I have and stop mourning what I lost!

So I am grateful for
An amazing little dd who is who she is because I have raised her that way on my own
For having a roof over my head (albeit my mums but so many people are homeless and I consider myself very fortunate to be living with her)
For having kept in touch with lots of ex colleagues who now want to meet up with me and discuss work opportunities - yay, going back to work!
For watching Peter Kay last night on Ch 4 and almost wetting myself with laughter

Thanks MN, might dip in here now and again to continue these....

Annunziata Sat 08-Feb-14 21:35:16

You will be more than welcome to dip in giggles! Welcome!

more light this morning and tonight

WingDefence Sun 09-Feb-14 09:11:31

Morning all - sorry it's been over a week since I posted blush Combination of sickness bug in the family (all fine now) and a stupid amount of work which will hopefully ease off around Tuesday...

For the hope of new friends
For the amazing Winter Olympics
For the chance to share my faith with others
For you lot wink

crescentmoon Sun 09-Feb-14 09:25:15

glad to see you back wing, welcome giggle really liked reading your gratitudes.
stressed totally understand where you said you have to let them work and live their lives. you just hope they take your values on green issues or on money and how to earn it and manage but we just leave the rest to God. its great its getting decommisioned, i was reaing a thread over christmas about people living near Sellafield, cant remember details but i thought to myself glad i live miles away from any power stations or plants!


living in a decent area with decent neighbours,
that when fasting its by choice, having a lovely meal at the end of the day, rather than because there is no food to eat,
that im in my home with my kids, warm, secure, and not in a refugee camp in syria,
that i live in a country that if a region decides to secede and go independent, there wont be civil war and conscription as in parts of the world even today. its a sign of how far democracy and the rule of law goes that if scotland decides to go independent the rest of the UK accepts that,
im grateful for the goodness in my in laws that i rarely used to acknowledge before now.

Annunziata Sun 09-Feb-14 19:57:51


WingDefence Sun 09-Feb-14 21:25:01

My DPs
The wonder of majestic mountains (in Sochi!)

giggleshizz Sun 09-Feb-14 21:30:38

Thanks and dipping back in already smile

For seeing two very close friends today who reminded me that I have some beautiful people around me.
Summer holiday plans seem to be coming together, exactly as I had visualised them. Just had a fantastic offer from someone who will enable my holiday dreams to come true this summer at a fraction of the price so THANK YOU.
Oh and it was sunny today!

giggleshizz Sun 09-Feb-14 21:34:04

Oh and seeing as people are mentioning the Winter Olympics, is it naughty of me to thank German athlete Andreas Wank for NOT changing his name and giving me a good laugh listening to the TV presenter trying not to laugh!!??

Poledra Mon 10-Feb-14 09:49:15

<sniggers at Andreas Wank>

Morning all! I often come back to this thread on a Monday as I sit down at work and need to try to be grateful!
So, I'm grateful that:
I have a job -OK, it's hard work and I'm not enjoying it right now but it's not boring and it pays well
DD2's birthday party went well yesterday (and that I don't need to think about organizing another one till the summer - I have DD1 and DD2 in the 6 weeks after Christmas and it's always a mad rush!)
That we are not flooded on my area.

stressedHEmum Mon 10-Feb-14 17:34:13

central heating
hot soup

WingDefence Mon 10-Feb-14 19:25:39

Evening all.

I have a job -OK, it's hard work and I'm not enjoying it right now but it's not boring and it pays well.
Ditto this Poledra. In fact, I'm working again tonight partially because I didn't have a productive day today

For no flooding here too.

For food in the fridge and cupboards and on the table without having to think where the next meal is coming from.

Annunziata Tue 11-Feb-14 19:10:47

For the sunshine and the snow we had today
For a good long walk to blow away the cobwebs!

crescentmoon Tue 11-Feb-14 19:25:57


that i managed to get home quite quickly in the snow,
for the lovely new tearoom thats opened up in my area and the nice new owner,
thati can see my dc blossoming under my attention,
that DH is not being judgemental about awkward problems iv gotten myself into at the moment,
that all is going well for this sunday.

WingDefence Tue 11-Feb-14 22:32:19

Hope everything's okay crescent.

Today's gratitudes:

For the gift of music and singing
For laughter
For my DH painting the kitchen cupboard doors, when I have meant to do it for the last 2 years (and even bought all the paint etc)

Annunziata Wed 12-Feb-14 21:10:10

Do you have a lovely fresh kitchen now Wing? Early spring cleaning smile

Hope you are alright, crescent, you know to shout if there's anything we can do!

a nice warm coat

stressedHEmum Fri 14-Feb-14 19:02:30

Is everything all right, crescent. You know you can always talk to us if you need to.

gratitudes -
the support of good friends
hot food and clean water

I have happy news. DS1 and his partner got engaged yesterday, so an exciting time for themgrin

Annunziata Fri 14-Feb-14 19:44:07

So did my DS1 this morning stressed! We can be MILs together!!!! Congratulations to them. Have you calmed down yet? I am still laughing grin

I am grateful for love smile

WingDefence Sat 15-Feb-14 09:03:54

Congrats you two ladies! How wonderful smile

So much to be thankful for today - number one is that I made it through the week and finally got all my work out. It's been a nightmare couple of weeks!
Also for my gorgeous DCs who make my mood lift when I see them
And I'm very thankful for the weekend and the promise of nice family time that I can rally enjoy without having to think about work for a day or two smile

crescentmoon Sat 15-Feb-14 09:23:50

annunziata and stressed, im very very glad for both of you and congratulations to your lovely boys and their fiances! how exciting! so sweet your reaction annunziata! as for me iv had a down and then up week. something foolish i did, well, a couple of foolish things i did that snowballed. in the past i wouldnt have talked it over with my DH in case he did an 'i told you so', but now we can talk about things like that. thankfully he listened and gave me good advice. so im grateful for that as i still feel quite sheepish myself!


for getting a chance at my ideal job next week, even if i fail the interview im still on a buzz that i even got called in,
that all plans for half term are going really well,
for that strange beautiful thing called love,
for my dc,
im grateful for having good neighbours and living in a peaceful crime free area.
that im not affected by the awful flooding.

stressedHEmum Sat 15-Feb-14 10:32:36

Glad things are OK, crescent. I was worried about you. Being able to talk to your husband about things is a blessing indeed. May you continue to be such a support to each other. Good luck with the interview.

Annunziata, how wonderful! TBH, it wasn't entirely unexpected, they have been together for 5 years. But exciting, happy news and a very bright spot in an extremely difficult week for me.

I have had to resign from something that I really love and that is very important to me because my male colleagues continue to make discriminatory comments about my (female) colleague and I not being able to do as good a job as a man would and our charges needing a man to look up to and to be a suitable role model for them.

I am actually distraught over this because I do love the activity so much and because my colleague and I do a really, really good job. Just being a man doesn't mean that someone else would be better at it.

crescent is Ok
happy children
over the counter meds for DD, she has yet another throat infection
food, water, shelter and safety
the love and support of family and friends

Annunziata Sat 15-Feb-14 13:01:33

That is rotten stressed sad Eejit. It was a bit more of a surprise for us, but they went to Paris so when they told us that we were all expecting!

I am glad things are looking up, crescent and best of luck for your interview, I am sure you will do absolutely brilliantly!

Thank you wings, I hope you enjoy your weekend flowers

WingDefence Mon 17-Feb-14 16:47:11

stressed that's horrible to have to do that sad
crescent good luck with the interview smile

Hope you all had a lovely weekend?

I've been down to London for work today and I'm knackered after getting up at 5:15 and having meetings solidly 10-4pm with a working lunch before leaving to catch the train home!

I'm helping to lead a ladies' night at another church tonight and I'm speaking for about 10mins at it. Bit nervous as although I present lots professionally, when it's to do with your faith it's more personal, isn't it?

Aaaaanyway, gratitudes:
- for the fact that it's light now while I'm on the train so I can stare out of the window at the lovely countryside
- that my meetings went well
- for my DPs who have got DS today and overnight and took him to the Lego movie today and out for a special tea. I spoke to him a few mins ago and he is having a great time

stressedHEmum Mon 17-Feb-14 18:58:04

Prayers are with you, crescent and Wing

DS4 is desperate to see the Lego Movie. Perhaps DH will be able to take him at the weekend.

Foolishly, I am still very upset. I've not been sleeping properly or anything because of this. I keep worrying about all the disruption to my boys. The section might even have to close because 1 man is too proud to apologise. I think my colleague and O might take the whole thing further, tbh. Jesus saw the value of women and treated them with respect and care, it's a joke that, in this day and age, mature, supposedly Christian men can't do the same.

central heating is fixed - hooray!
warm water
hot food and drink
family and friends
shelter from the weather
books and the ability to read

giggleshizz Mon 17-Feb-14 20:58:05

Gratitudes today smile

-Impromptu invite to play date with dd and new friends
-Having dinner in bed infront of the telly because I am single and dd is asleep (such a luxurious treat, sounds crazy I know)
-Thinking today how lucky I am that I get to spend so much time with dd and watch her growing up
-For friends far and wide who get in touch and remind me that there is a lot of love around me
-And to echo Wing above....for chocolate grin

WingDefence Wed 19-Feb-14 06:55:58

stressed you sound very stressed sad Perhaps you could post something on the prayer thread on here?

giggle, sounds like a fun day smile

DS loved the Lego Movie. In fact I'm wondering if we can squeeze on another showing this week so I can see it! My DPs thought it was brilliant too.

For a good night's sleep even if DD does wake too early
For the feeling of having got through a recent peak of work
For the unspoken mutual bond we have in friendships based on faith.

crescentmoon Wed 19-Feb-14 09:34:42

ahh poor stressed, i totally understand your feelings. i really hope this isnt your BB that theyre trying to hijack - you've put so much effort into it. im so sorry if it is, thats crap. i often wish there were women only mosques i could go to - theyve had them in China for centuries. but not really in many other places. i really hope somebody higher up can stop this person taking over, and you and your colleague be reinstated dear stressed. hope today is better for you. giggle and wing really lovely to read your gratitudes.


for faith,
for friendship,
for central heating - and the choice ourselves to have it on or not,
for waking up this morning in good health,
for my new handbag

stressedHEmum Wed 19-Feb-14 09:52:23

Thank you all for your prayers. it is the BB, crescent. 1 man is, essentially, destroying the company because of his prejudices. Hopefully, the higher ups will be able to do something about it. Jesus recognised the worth of women and the early church was full of us, so it's totally galling that, in this day and age, others within the church community can't. I will just have to get on with things and leave it to God to sort out, but that's hard sometimes.

I didn't realise that you could get women only mosques! Some churches have special services just for women/men and women's'/men's groups. They make a nice change because they can focus on different issues and concerns from normal.

gratitudes -
a nice evening with a friend last night, counting all the money my wee BB boys have saved/collected for Mary's Meals. So far this year, we have nearly £250 and we have filled 5 backpacks full of basic school stuff, clothes, shoes and basic personal hygiene things. Not bad for 6 wee boys. ]
busy day at foodbank yesterday - I never know whether I should be grateful for this or not
a warm house
food and clean water
cuddles from the children
heard from DS2 yesterday, he is doing well and has his accommodation sorted out for next year now.

Annunziata Wed 19-Feb-14 10:37:51

I love Mary's Meals, stressed. They made a film earlier this year, have you seen it? Hard to watch but very very touching.

I am also grateful for chocolate and handbags grin

stressedHEmum Wed 19-Feb-14 12:43:41

I haven't seen the film, annunziata, but when the Mary's Meals lady came to talk to the boys, she brought a wee DVD of children before and after they had received their backpacks. It reduced some of my boys (and me) to tears. They couldn't believe the way some kids have to live, eating their porridge with a leaf because they don't have a spoon etc. So most of them have worked really hard at saving their pennies and collecting things. I'm very proud of them. We will be able to feed over 20 children for a year with the money they have collectedgrin

Annunziata Thu 20-Feb-14 20:17:08

You should be so proud of them, what lovely boys!

Grateful for
a little bit more light in the evening

stressedHEmum Fri 21-Feb-14 10:09:03

I am very proud of them annunziata. One of the great things about BB is that it can give the boys a glimpse of their place in the world and of how blessed they really are.

gratitudes today
that I live in a country which is stable and governed by the rule of law. All those poor people in the Ukrainesad

WingDefence Sat 22-Feb-14 07:04:49

Morning all

I did yesterday's gratitudes in my head while I was tucked up in bed last night!

They were (I think)
For my safe journey down to London and back home
That there were no major incidents in London yesterday
For the spring-like sunshine
For longer days (echoing Annunziata)

stressedHEmum Sat 22-Feb-14 11:06:24


a very successful Messy Church yesterday - we had almost 20 kids, so with their parents, we had 40 people. SO enjoyable and very well worth doing.
some lovely sunshine
food and clean water
children's telly, am really suffering today

Annunziata Sat 22-Feb-14 20:23:37

Did you enjoy London, wing? I have only ever been to the airports and even they scare me, so big and crowded!

I am getting back into children's telly, stressed, my favourite is definitely Peppa grin


WingDefence Sat 22-Feb-14 22:39:35

I'm from London Annunziata so it doesn't faze me grin

- for the opportunity to listen to those with other religious viewpoints, both within my own religion as well as from others
- for the comfort those who are grieving can get from their faith

ShellyF Sat 22-Feb-14 22:45:39

Just discovered this thread.
I do need to remember to be grateful more often.
a lovely safe home

ShellyF Sat 22-Feb-14 22:49:13

Hope it is okay to joinsmile

WingDefence Sun 23-Feb-14 07:30:05

Hi Shelly! smile

DD woke early this morning and I got up with her and DS who crept downstairs soon after. It made me very thankful for DH who gives me a lie-in every other morning in the week! (He's a morning person, me not so much.)

Annunziata Sun 23-Feb-14 20:12:38

Welcome Shelly!

A lie in every other morning, you've got a good one there Wings! grin

I am grateful my mother did not insult too many of my SILs today!

PatTheDog Mon 24-Feb-14 11:06:47

Hello! Am new here...

Grateful for

my lovely friend who has kindly taken DC3 on holiday for a few days
with her family...

half-term, kids home from school, relaxed evenings, lazy mornings...

sunshine (even tho it may not last!)

Love this thread!

stressedHEmum Mon 24-Feb-14 18:34:34

Welcome, Shelley and Pat.

for the love and support of friends and family
for faith
for the power of prayer
for food, clean water, shelter and safety
for longer days and signs of spring
for wee birds in the garden

ShellyF Mon 24-Feb-14 20:13:44

Thank you for the welcomesmile .
Grateful today for the beautiful spring likr weather.

ShellyF Mon 24-Feb-14 20:14:10


Annunziata Mon 24-Feb-14 21:20:57

Ciao a tutti, welcome Pat!

grateful for
the wee robin in the garden
a tumble dryer!

wishingyouwell Mon 24-Feb-14 22:18:25

Evening all, hope all is well

Grateful for safe flight back to UK
For the amazing sites as you fly especially beautiful sunsets and beds of clouds
For great artwork - am loving Carl Warner's foodscapes at the moment
For being able to visit my amazing Aunt
A place I can be reminded of my gratitudes
For guidance
For cats that catch mice

WingDefence Tue 25-Feb-14 09:46:28

Hi Pat smile

wishing where have you been? Hope it was for pleasure and not business.

That I didn't hear DD until 6:20am this morning as opposed to 5:40 which it's been the past few mornings!
That DS ran into school this morning so happy.
For the ability to buy new sofas for the first time in years (last ones were second hand) which will give us more space for our church house group.
For spring! (Although it's most odd that there hasn't been any snow this winter for sledging.)

wishingyouwell Wed 26-Feb-14 21:48:00

Evening Wing et al,
I was in the West of Ireland short haul but flew at sunset and was simply spectacular over the river Shannon. Given all the storms and flooding here and there was grateful was able to fly on the days. Not there for work thankfully smile


Holidays - even short versions that are weekends which I am grateful to have as some work 7 days a week.

My neighbour who continues to live with such gratitude and patience despite her grave illness

The beautiful sunshine

The human ability to forget - we can complain about forgetting but it can serve a very positive purpose too I think

WingDefence Thu 27-Feb-14 08:59:23

Morning all.

That DD slept till 6:40 today! (She's got hand foot and mouth so I think the calpol assisted with the lie-in.)
For birdsong
For great music of every type

Annunziata Thu 27-Feb-14 16:33:03

Oh bless her Wing, I hope she's on the mend soon.

Did you have a good time in Ireland then wishing?

Well, we had 4 seasons in one day today in Glasgow, so I shall be glad for the variety and entertainment!

Annunziata Sat 01-Mar-14 12:37:55


stressedHEmum Sun 02-Mar-14 09:12:31

haven't been very grateful this week blush

Hope everyone is well.


over the counter medicines
home ed - it means there's no hassle from school when the kids are ill
lovely sunshine
line dried washing on Friday and Saturday before the rain came
food, water, safety and shelter
the strength that comes from faith
peace and the rule of law that goes with living in a stable. mature country

WingDefence Sun 02-Mar-14 10:14:42

Happy Sunday all

That DD seems to be recovering well
For friendship
For prayer and the comfort it can bring

What an uplifting thread!
May I join in? Lately I've not being as grateful as I normally am.

That my sons are pretty terrific men
My daughters-in-law, whom I really appreciate
My beautiful grandchildren
My wonderful sister and her family
Grateful for the parents I had
Grateful for each day that my sister's husband is still with us against the odds
Thankyou for this thread

Annunziata Sun 02-Mar-14 19:27:25

You're more than welcome, thenumberseven, happy to have you!

Glad the wee one is improving, wing, and hope stressed's bambini are better soon too.

I am grateful
for a lovely Mass this morning
my wonderful children

PatTheDog Sun 02-Mar-14 21:23:01

Thanks for the welcomes!
And welcome thenumberseven smile

a sunny St David's day yesterday
three beautiful children (they should really have been first on list!)
the rhubarb, white choc and nut cake (even if it did turn out a bit soggy in the middle!)
Asda stocking macadamia nuts (enabling the making of above-mentioned cake)
Good friends and friends of friends...
my new church...

Hope everyone's had a nice Sunday

Thanks for the welcome Annunziata and PatTheDog!

Todays Gratitudes:

The almond trees in bloom I can see from my terrace
The tree laden with bright oranges even though they are bitter ones
That the herb seedlings in my pots are coming through
The bag of lemons my 6year old grandson picked for me even though he complains that the tree is 'spiki'

He recommended to put the juice on fish.
So guess what's for dinner tonight?

Annunziata Mon 03-Mar-14 19:47:39

Aaaahh, are you a granny numberseven? Lovely! I am looking forward to being a granny, I have to admit.

That cake sounds heavenly, pat!

There's a crescent moon in Glasgow tonight, thinking of all our friends here.

Most grateful for the sunshine, yes, sunshine! that we had today. I was out with my sunglasses on grin

stressedHEmum Tue 04-Mar-14 08:36:32

Welcome, seven. I hope you find a home here. I'm looking forward to the day that I am a granny, as well. We are a wee step closer to it now than we were a couple of weeks agosmile

Kids are a bit better, thank you, Annunziata. it's just a wee virus, but they have been miserable, espec. DS3 who is hardly ever ill and is taking it quite badlyhmm Now DH appears to have a mancold, which, apparently, is much worse than any other kind.

beautiful sunshine yesterday
shelter from the rain today
food, water, safety and shelter
all the small blessings that God gives us every day.

I've been thinking a lot about *crescent. I hope she's all right. I'm quite worried about her, tbh.

WingDefence Tue 04-Mar-14 09:18:28

Hi there seven. Sounds like you live somewhere that's not the UK...?!

crescent's not posted on here for a while - if you're lurking crescent I'll pray for you and I'm sure the others will too.

That DD's next top front tooth has finally cut through after a couple of months of threatening it.
That DS loves maths and thinks numbers are fun
For my friends who are going to a close family member's funeral this morning. They are lovely and deserve a lot of comfort at this time.

crescentmoon Tue 04-Mar-14 18:44:40

aww stressed, annunziata thanks so much for thinking of me. im fine generally, i keep falling out of the habit of posting things to be grateful for as sometimes they are very personal, or the logic would seem strange to others! but i have that gratitude in my heart. wing i very much appreciate your praying for me thank you. so glad to be part of this lovely thread, definitely want to extend my greetings to seven and patthedog.


watching a family member's marriage implode recently, im very grateful my interfering- know- it- all father insisted on civil marriages for all of us as well as religious marriage,
for living in a country where the rule of law prevails - that its there when people no longer feel loving or merciful for each other,
for the good man - maybe id say even lovely sometimes too! - that im married to, (and i used to tell him to be more romantic like cousin's soon to be arsehole ex was!)
for my healthy happy cheerful children,
the new song by one of my favourite bands, really makes me feel mellow!

Thanks for the welcome stressedHemum and WingDefence.
Anunziata, yes I'm grandma to 2 boys and a girl

5 yr old boy (from Ds 1)
2yr old boy & 1yr old girl (from Ds 2)
Ds3 no children yet

StressedHemum are you to be a gran soon? Sorry to hear about kid's virus.
Know exactly what you mean about mancold.
Hope everyone's better soon. That will be something to be grateful for...

WingDefence I'm in southern Spain. Already having nice weather. I'll soon be complaining about the heat.

Great that your Ds likes the maths and finds them fun. Half the battle won.
Aww a new top tooth for Dd. I gather you have 2 DC ?

Grateful today: played shopkeepers with Dgs 1
Had a lovely long walk this morning
Today I also was appreciative of the people who keep the block of flats where I live looking good, so I let the cleaner and gardener know what a good job they do

Annunziata Tue 04-Mar-14 21:30:56

grateful for seeing everyone,
for the dry-ish weather
for pancakes
for Lent coming and new starts

stressedHEmum Wed 05-Mar-14 09:38:18

Thank goodness your OK, crescent. May God be with your cousin, and her ex, at this very difficult time. I know how much hurt and confusion divorce bring. it's never prettysad

seven, no not yet, but DS1 and his long term partner got engaged a couple of weeks ago. Marriage will not be until he is chartered and she has finished her PhD, but grannyhood is a step closer. I love babies and children (kids call me a "baby-sniffer") but, after No5 almost killed me - pregnancy cardiomyopathy, blood clots, terrible mobility problems etc. - I was forbidden to have any more. I just have to wait to be a granny now mine are all bigger grin

that crescent is OK and that her marruage is doing well
for my family
for line dried washing, yesterday - hooray
for this Lenten period of prayer, reflection and trying to make myself better, with God's help, and, perhaps, becoming more the person that He would like me to be
for the glory and joy of Easter approaching.

Annunziata Wed 05-Mar-14 11:41:40

gratitudes for more time to spend with my mother
for having made a phone call I was dreading
for my children

GarlicMarchHare Wed 05-Mar-14 13:57:03

Grateful the Court overturned the DWP's decision. Grateful for the advice given online, and for the woman who came with me for moral support.

Grateful that it's not raining as I have to go out!

Grateful that violence against women is finally receiving media attention.

Grateful for the internet, which keeps me connected with people.


crescentmoon Wed 05-Mar-14 22:08:58

Hello garlic, let me be the first to give you a big welcome. Not that I'm much of an example but I hope we all get to do our gratitudes daily. If your the garlic I think you are I learnt loads from your posts last year about issues to do with the changes to dwp rules. I was grateful I had the internet so I could learn about such issues. Very glad you won on appeal(?) today.

stressed, thanks so much for your concern. Last week if you'd asked me how life was I'd have sworn blind I'd never seen any good from him I was so mad about a particular thing he didn't do. Marriage and Life is very strange, I hope and plan we go the distance but my cousin did too and now they are separating. Ontop of everything else because she only had the Islamic religious marriage not civil ceremony along with it, her husband is being very very dismissive of their years together. It's why Muslim community groups actively try to reach couples to say go for the civil marriage for the protections as women were finding they had no recourse legally except csa if things went wrong if they only did the nikah. I hope I won't ever need that but I also thought they would never be splitting up. It's sad.


The gratitudes thread

GarlicMarchHare Thu 06-Mar-14 14:19:00

Thanks, crescent, and how nice of you to remember! flowers

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles, and about your cousin. The religious marriage issue was a huge problem in the part of London where I used to live; the local paper ran a campaign about it, making the head imam (?) very cross. His arguments read, to me, very much as though women just need to stay in their rotten marriages and seek religious counselling angry Shortly before I left he was replaced by an imam who sounded more sympathetic, but the thrust of his argument was that the nikah should be legally recognised here - which is no help, because all marriages here have to be registered and there's nothing stopping mosques from doing it the way churches do! I hope things have moved on.

crescentmoon Thu 06-Mar-14 17:57:35

you know a fair bit about the issue then! that imam is unusual I think very few people are talking of legalising nikah marriages - which have the same status as jewish/hindu/Sikh/british pagan etc anyway. except Christian churches, all other religious marriages require a further civil marriage to be recognised by the state if performed in the UK. some women prefer only a nikah - I know a fair few white female converts who want to make sure the man marrying them is not looking for a passport so only want a nikah not a civil marriage! others are young couples who just want a quick ceremony- nikahs much shorter and easier to organise than a church wedding or civil service for instance. but increasingly many UK mosques are only issuing nikah certificates if a civil marriage certificate is shown, and today I just found out my local mosque doesn't issue religious divorce unless civil divorce papers are presented first. which formalises both processes and makes it a state/court process. some muftis have now ruled if one obtains a court/civil divorce then that suffices for a religious divorce also no further process required. though in the tearoom and previous threads we've spoken about how that can be both a bad and good thing. but theres proof its definitely getting better - better information etc. but this doesn't help my relative atm!

stressed, I realised that you wrote may God be with your cousin and her ex at this time. very different to how I see it, i figure thats the 'pray for your enemies' feature in your faith. he's very much the bad unfair one so any prayers involving his name on our side are that he gets his just desserts frankly! but I suppose we should instead be praying for hearts to soften and that both sides try to be reasonable.


for a lovely afternoon with friend,
that I managed to climb the mountain that was my laundry pile today,
for stressed and her very gentle reminder,
DH for having a stable reliable job (atm! God only knows in the future!) that I could leave mine and take time to think on what to do next.

GarlicMarchHare Thu 06-Mar-14 18:55:29

This is what I meant, crescent: "the nikah ceremony may be organised so that it includes the civil ceremony if the mosque has been officially registered firstly as a place of worship, and secondly as a place for civil marriages." It's exactly what churches do - the church wedding on its own isn't a legal marriage, but the churches are legally registered. The bit where the couple & witnesses sign the register, after the religious service, is the legal part. I see most of the big mosques are now registered and won't perform a marriage unless both are done together. Thank goodness smile I hope your cousin gets the community support she needs.

I would "pray" (atheists don't pray, but we can do something similar) for the ex as well, mainly because it is helpful to me. When I see a 'bad person' as someone whose own pain and confusion have rendered him cruel or selfish, it frees me from resentment if not regret. On that note, I guess I'm grateful for my mindful compassion training wink

Congrats on the laundry!

Annunziata Thu 06-Mar-14 19:25:58

Welcome garlic!

Ah, crescent, I never realised how big an impact a divorce could have until my brother's. To make things worse, he was the one at fault sad I still find it very hard, I hope your cousin gets some support and kindness.

a good warm jacket in this rain!

LadyRabbit Thu 06-Mar-14 22:35:40

Hello not posted on here before.
Tonight I am grateful for finding this thread at the end of a long trying and slightly demoralising day! What a great thread.
My DH who is kind and patient and hardworking and always on my side.
And hot cross buns which are everywhere right now!

stressedHEmum Thu 06-Mar-14 23:33:15

Hello, garlic and Lady.

Yes, that would be the pray for your enemies part. Easier said than done, I know. When I divorced, a long time ago, I found it VERY difficult to pray for my ex. I was just so angry, but praying for those who hurt you helps you move on, I find, and helps you be a bit more compassionate. I still find it hard, though. Am having a tough time praying for the people involved in this BB thing. I must try harder. I really hope that your cousin gets the support and kindness she needs. Divorce is so very traumatic.

I didn't realise that about Muslim marriage. I knew that Pagan weddings and the like had to be backed up by a civil ceremony, I think that I just assumed weddings in a Mosque would be the same as weddings in a church, religious and civil. I hope more mosques make the move towards registered marriage places. Women, especially, need the protection that brings.

another day of life in God's wonderful world
a fab night at BB -we had the local Radio controlled racing car club in doing a demo evening and letting the boys have a go at racing the cars. They absolutely loved it.
cuddles from my kids
shelter from the rain]a hot meal - trying to eat very simply for Lent, so hm bean burgers and wedges for tea.

Annunziata Fri 07-Mar-14 21:25:33

Welcome Rabbit!

some peace and quiet

stressedHEmum Sun 09-Mar-14 09:10:15

beautiful little spring flowers popping up

crescentmoon Sun 09-Mar-14 12:24:23

garlic I honestly didn't know about mosques could be registered marriage places at all, it must have changed a lot in the last 10 years! nor that church weddings were registered not because of the ceremony but the venue being registered! very interesting.
stressed and garlic Iv thought on what you said earlier this week. I still cant bring myself to pray for this person, but anyway, he's wronging my cousin and their dc its on her to forgive him not me. right now she's in righteous anger mode, and that's powering her through this time!
I know what you mean annunziata my older brother and his wife were about to split up awhile ago and it was driven by him tbh. but, we all piled in took part in mediation, and thankfully theyre still together and reasonably happy and stable till now. God Willing to continue.
welcome ladyrabbit to the thread from me too! have you tried the hot cross bun loaf from warburtons? its lovely - absolutely lovely toasted and spread with butter!


1.im so glad your back at boy's brigade stressed - how did it go in the end did your complaint go forward?
2.life - for waking up alive and in good health.
3.bright sunny day
4.warburton's hot cross bun loaf - the opposite of your Lenten diet I think stressed but you have to try it this day if its your break day!

GarlicMarchHare Sun 09-Mar-14 15:33:31

Sunshine! Hurrah!
The lovely friend who visited, with her equally lovely daughters.
Being free to go back to bed & sleep off my hangover wink

Crescent's enjoyment of her hot cross bun loaf!

Hope everyone has a peaceful Sunday evening.

Annunziata Sun 09-Mar-14 19:44:47


WingDefence Tue 11-Mar-14 10:03:46

Hello all

Hot cross bun loaf sounds delicious! And also a bit dangerous - if I had any of that in the house I'd eat it all grin

The support of my DH
That DS is doing really well at school

GarlicMarchHare Tue 11-Mar-14 20:37:02

I'm having a tricky time with me mental elf at the moment, being bullied by various people with power over my life; finding it difficult to stay in 'grown-up' mode. I took myself for a coffee break, sitting outside in the town square and watching the birds in the last of the sun. It was lovely.
I'm grateful that I could afford a coffee & chocolate brownie, and grateful for my mindfulness smile

crescentmoon Wed 12-Mar-14 07:55:05

im sorry to hear that garlic, i would have hoped winning your appeal last week would have given you back more power from whoever they are. im glad for your mindfulness and hope its always there to help when feeling about to be overwhelmed by circumstances/situations. also love your peaceful moment yday, i had a very similar one too! except mine was at the park yday with ds2 where we just sat quietly at the lake enjoying the sun and watching the ducks in front of us. very peaceful and im still very surprised he was content to do that for almost 15 mins.
wing you dont know how dangerous this bread is, we've finished our second loaf in a week! but so delicious, you'd find the normal shaped buns would pale after this.


for a beautiful sunset moment yesterday in the park,
that i got to just enjoy sitting with ds doing nothing whereas before i would have been playing with my iphone,
that its still gathering dust in the drawer 3 months into going handsfree (im working to not needing to keep a phone at all but for now my little nokia is great!)

stressedHEmum Wed 12-Mar-14 08:35:29

Hi, Crescent, yes I am back at BB and the complaint is going forward. it's a bit of a nightmare, though. I'm being bullied and harassed and having all sorts of false accusations and mud slung at me. There's talk of the company having to close "because of me" - failing to remember that it wasn't me, or my female colleagues who instigated the situation. Even DS3 is getting it from some of the boys, now. He went to a different company this week because he was sick of the back stabbing. He's the most senior boy in the company and he is being left out of everythingsad

Never mind, things will work out according to God's will. I'm just finding it a bit hard just now, am also finding it hard to forgive and to pray for the people involved. I would like to believe that the reason they are behaving as they are is because they are stressed about things, so I am trying to pray for peace for them and God's help, but it's not easy and I feel like I am failing.

garlic, I hope you feel better, soon. Sometimes, just sitting peacefully in the fresh air can really help. I don't think that we spend enough time just being. We can get a bit more perspective, I think, when we take the time to stop. I hope your situation improves and I will pray for you, if you don't mind.

frosty mornings
line dried washing
that my friend was there to help me up when I fell yesterday (it was my own fault, I went out without my stick)
family and friends

GarlicMarchHare Wed 12-Mar-14 13:11:51

Thank you for the kind thoughts! flowers It is a tremendous relief, crescent - huge - and I probably should have anticipated several weeks of sickness afterwards, as the stress was so taxing. I've resolved to exercise more self-compassion.

Bullying is just awful, stressed - very undermining, which of course is the point sad I think that, when it gets to the point where you can no longer shrug it off or rise above it, the sanest thing to do is make a dignified exit. I don't know anything about how BBs work, but trust you and your DC will find better activities very soon.

Currently deciding whether to cancel today's Work Progamme appointment and go back to bed! I guess I'm grateful to have the option grin

WingDefence Wed 12-Mar-14 22:46:11

Oh gosh such horrible situations on this thread for some of you sad

I pray that you all get through your testing times with a closeness to God. I know that when I'm going through a dreadful time, my prayer time shoots up and I find myself definitely getting comfort from that.

That a close friend's DM was found to have a chest infection and not a mini heart attack
For DS doing so well at school
For the wonderful smell of nature outside tonight (we live fairly rurally and I love the smell of woods!)

crescentmoon Thu 13-Mar-14 18:02:42

stressed im very sad that theyre treating you and even your son like that. cant believe talking of closing down the BB, a case of 'if he cant have it no one can'? to treat such a lovely person as you like that, gosh thats so ugly. i hate how politics and one upmanship enters everything, people bring it into the most innocent simple projects/initiatives. it would be easier to make a dignified exit, leave it and live a simple life - thats what id do probably. its much easier to love your neighbour when you don't know them very well (familiarity breeds contempt and all that!). but theres this saying in my faith: "the believer who lives with the people and deals with their annoyances is better than the one who does not mix with them and does not deal with their annoyances." and i think of it often dealing with family and friends doing my head in! how easy it is to be a good kind thoughtful calm person if you are by yourself, but the crux of the matter is can you keep those qualities when you mix with others, all types of people not just those emotionally like yourself, people with all their complexes and complications - that come from their free will, as we have our own free will. they may be rude, arrogant, ignorant, rough mannered etc, but in dealing with them well, and fairly (to be just even if you cant stretch to love!) thats when the noble qualities of the human being show themselves.

"“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” – from Mother Teresa

i really gain alot of wisdom from those wise words stressed,(from the paradoxical commandments ). wry, but true.

please garlic exercise self-compassion - i think thats so important for ourselves. especially after a taxing few weeks on your physical as well as mental health. cant believe you have work programme appointments to end optional or compulsory - did you end up going to it in the end? hope you've had a good day. glad your ds is doing well in school wing - may that stay the same throughout!

crescentmoon Thu 13-Mar-14 18:12:56

and after all that, forgot to write my gratitudes:

grateful for being able to stand and walk on my legs - i dont drive so they take me everywhere (well to the train and bus anyway!)
a lovely lunch with a compassionate wise auntie this afternoon,
that my kids skip along to their supplementary classes after school,
for painkillers (toothache again!)

Annunziata Thu 13-Mar-14 19:38:47

I am sorry that so many of us are having a hard time at the moment. I am struggling too, it is coming up to a year since my adopted DD came home.

I will say a prayer for us all and hope for a calm weekend flowers

grateful for
little things

I will try and cheer you up, actually, today DS was trying to reverse out of the drive but there was a cat sitting behind him. He went very slowly, no, didn't move. He beeped the horn, it looked at him as if to say, 'excuse me?!' grin, he tried going a little nearer- no, this cat was not moving. By this point the rest of the DC are hanging out of the window laughing, so he got out of the car and shooed the cat off. By the time he had got back into the car- the cat had come back (I was in tears by this point!), lay down and just looked at him! Eventually DS2 went out and shooed it off grin

PatTheDog Thu 13-Mar-14 20:25:28

That's funny, Annunziata! Sorry to hear you are struggling sad

Today, grateful for
the "stray" cat who came to dinner...
the daffodils and the sunshine
my three beautiful children (as ever...)
how lovely my (hopefully "my") soon to be house is...
and how lovely the vendor was when I went round there...
food, more than enough food (after watching Sports Relief programme last night)
the Food Bank

Prayers for everyone who is having a hard time x

WingDefence Fri 14-Mar-14 06:43:49

That made me laugh too Annunziata!

For the tolerance on this thread (I've been upset by the two threads about Christians yesterday)
For the NHS
For the (relative) good health of my parents when other close relatives are suffering from cancer

crescentmoon Sat 15-Mar-14 08:35:07

i liked your last list wing and realised i had the same things to be grateful for too!

1.also for the tolerance on this thread (wing i know how you feel. i try to steer clear of threads on my faith too, they can get much nastier much quicker!),
2.for the NHS,
3.for both my parents being alive and in good health.
4.for my faith - for the strength and guidance it gives me in dealing with life
5.that i can feed, clothe and shelter my children

stressedHEmum Sat 15-Mar-14 10:27:54

Crescent, thank you. Really wise words. I'm trying to live out the idea that it's better to carry on in the face of opposition and to show a good example but it's hard at the moment. It's easy to be kind and loving when things are going well, it's when you're faced with persecution that it becomes a test of faith. However, I shall keep struggling on trying to be an example to my wee Junior boys and to those around me that God helps us in times of trouble - even if inside I am actually sad and seething. I really need to let it go.

Annunziata, that's really funny. We live in cat central, here, one woman in the street has 7 cats! There are some of them that I can imagine doing just that - with the exception that they would probably try to eat the person who was shooing themgrin

faith and the strength that it gives me
family and friends
food, water, shelter and safety
longer days
for the medical care freely available to my parents while their health is deteriorating.

crescentmoon Sat 15-Mar-14 10:33:51

annunziata i also found your story very funny, there must be something about the people of your part of scotland that animals dont fear getting run over. remember that thread in chat recently about those scottish men in the lorry and the rabbit that kept running ahead of them and wouldnt move out of their way? really funny video and comments on it - i remembered it when i first read about your sweet ds! (forgive the swearing! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wVN4PRLrpsA)

Annunziata Sat 15-Mar-14 10:35:42

I was shocked by 7 cats at first and then I remembered how many dc I have... grin

God bless the NHS for sure, also education for everyone.

My lovely sister
My daft DH

Annunziata Sat 15-Mar-14 10:37:05

Crescent I have seen that! The swearing makes it funnier, and when they can't decide if it's a hare or a rabbit grin

crescentmoon Sat 15-Mar-14 11:05:32

aww stressed so sorry love, very true about test of faith - may you be helped in passing this phase. remember your doing it for your wee Junior Boys, so sad about the conduct of the adults but your not doing it for them. its so easy to share wise words than to heed them oneself but this week iv tried to be patient with the irresponsible and immature ppl in my life too!

stressedHEmum Tue 18-Mar-14 09:09:05

My wee cat has been run over and killedsad

the life of my wee, warm, furry cat
all the blessings in my life

crescentmoon Tue 18-Mar-14 09:20:21

so sorry stressed, i loved reading about your cat on the last thread and this one. its so hard when a beloved pet dies - especially one that gave you so much simple comfort and happiness. sorry again.


that im at home to take care of ds1 when he's sick,
for inhalers and cough syrup,
the strength in my limbs - to hold and carry my children,
for the goodness in my life

Annunziata Tue 18-Mar-14 19:19:10

Oh stressed sad Poor little thing.

a coat with a hood
a car

stressedHEmum Wed 19-Mar-14 10:17:11

Thank you, crescent and Annunziata

gratitudes today

sunshine, at the moment
lemon and ginger tea

WingDefence Thu 20-Mar-14 09:42:22

Oh my goodness stressed that's dreadful news sad We're a cat family here too so my heart goes out to you. I pray that he/she didn't suffer.

Gosh this thread is so important when we are all going through such testing times, isn't it? My DD's not well again (I'm guessing she's going through everything she can possibly pick up at the CM's) and DH has been away all week with work so it's been a bit of s struggle TBH.

Anyway, gratitudes:
For calpol(!)
For the support of friends' prayers
For the strength that God gives me and the verse "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me".

WingDefence Thu 20-Mar-14 11:58:35

I saw this today and thought of all of us, Christian & Muslim alike.

crescentmoon Thu 20-Mar-14 16:55:21

thanks wing, thats a lovely verse and reminder. i hope your DD is feeling abit better this afternoon. its such a lovely and important thread.


antibiotics - for toothache and for ds's cough,
the NHS - my lovely GP who always sees me or dc ASAP,
the sun thats finally revealed itself!
that sunset is in less than 2 hours and i can break my fast,
for my good neighbours and the gifts they brought ds2 (we didnt even buy him birthday presents but they did blush!)

Annunziata Thu 20-Mar-14 19:39:42

That's lovely wing!

It was Father's Day in Italy yesterday, because it was the festa di San Giuseppe! We made special cakes- sfinci and zeppole.

so I am grateful for my DH, being a wonderful papa, and my own papa, who I miss very much.

WingDefence Thu 20-Mar-14 20:04:05

Oh those cakes look amazing! What's the symbolism behind the sfinci decoration Annunziata?

What are you eating to break your fast crescent? Ramadan isn't until June is it I may have googled that information but is this something else religious or for health reasons?

Annunziata Fri 21-Mar-14 20:53:51

I don't actually know wing blush But that will be my challenge for the weekend- I will report back!

a voice

jaabaar Sat 22-Mar-14 00:59:36

I am grateful that I read this thread
Grateful that for once I'm not being made to feel like a criminal for being catholic

stressedHEmum Sat 22-Mar-14 09:22:18

How brave is the Pope. I am so glad that Catholics have such a strong, compassionate leader who really does seem to live a Christlike life!

Jaabaar, welcome. No-one should be made to feel ashamed or guilty because of their faith. We each are responsible for our own behaviour and sins, folk should remember that.

Annunziatta, those cakes look delicious.

a warm home
food, water, shelter and safety
new life in Easter

crescentmoon Sat 22-Mar-14 09:43:08

stressed, that reference to the Pope had me very curious so i went to a news website to see what you were referring to and loved the headline pope tells mafia: 'repent or go to hell'. (the drug cartels in mexico and other places should take a warning from that also!) i like this new pope too, iv always been interested in catholic liberation theology and whilst i know he wasnt part of that movement. i think coming from S America where it was more prominent has made him so much more simple living and sympathetic to the poor and vulnerable than iv heard previous popes to be. i think in speaking out against crime and injustice he's rehabilitating religion as a whole not just the catholic church jaabar - hopefully he will always continue to speak for justice and righteousness.
wing the thursday fast is part of a weekly recommendation to fast Mondays and Thursdays in Islam. its a long tradition going back to the words of muhammad (pbuh) and its something i started doing a few months ago - partly to prep myself for Ramadan thats coming up in June where the days will be quite long.
though i always wonder if the Lenten fast is harder as at least in ramadan one can eat what they like between sunset and dawn no restrictions on chocolate/meat/dairy etc. (the yummy rich food is partly what makes ramadan so fun actually!)


dp for taking dc for the weekend,
dh for not making a fuss,
a warm home,
lovely warm pitta bread and tea,
prayer and faith

Annunziata Sun 23-Mar-14 21:03:08


a lovely birthday tea
44 years alive!

baci a tutti, kisses to all xxx

crescentmoon Sun 23-Mar-14 21:12:17

happy birthday annunziata!

WingDefence Sun 23-Mar-14 21:53:59

Happy birthday Annunziata! thanks flowers

I never knew that about weekly fasting crescent, you must think me ignorant. I've worked with Muslims before but perhaps they didn't observe it as I'm sure I'd have known otherwise.

Welcome jaabaar and I hope everyone else is well too.

Gratitudes: that my DPs came back from their holiday abroad safely. I've never worried before but this whole MH370 missing plane thing just made me nervous this time round.
For my wonderful DCousin whose house I'm staying at tomorrow night when I'm down in London for two days for work.
For technology which lets us keep in out ouch with those far away.

crescentmoon Mon 24-Mar-14 12:03:19

not ignorant at all wing! why would you have known! i didnt start to observe it until recently and in real life very quietly. its not something i talk about with friends of any faith persuasion including mine. but i do enjoy waiting for the day to end!
last year was the first time i started to learn a little of the stories in the Bible around the life of Jesus. i didnt realise that the 40 days of Lent was about the 40 days in the desert Jesus spent, and that Easter was a separate story from the Bible about the end of his life. i felt much more informed after learning that through christian threads in RL and on the previous gratitudes thread!
annunziata i loved the look of those thnigs you baked for your dad. they looked amazing.


my lovely friend for visiting me this morning,
that dc got back safe and sound late last night,
that everytime they come back from my dad i find more forgiveness and mercy in my heart for him,
no laundry to be done!

stressedHEmum Tue 25-Mar-14 09:56:48

Happy birthday, Annunziata. I hope you had a lovely day and that someone made you some fabulous cakessmile

very interesting bible study group last night
spring sunshine
central heating because it's still cold even when the sun shines
bright spring flowers

WingDefence Wed 26-Mar-14 19:25:57

Evening all.

Thanks crescent smile

That DD has recovered from her illness last week and is back to her normal little troublemaker cheeky self, and that I'm nearly recovered from the sickness bug I had!
For friends and family
For technology
For food and running water on tap

Annunziata Wed 26-Mar-14 21:08:21

Thank you all so much smile flowers


stressedHEmum Sat 29-Mar-14 10:18:07


daffodils smile
DS2 was home for a few days this week
healthy children

Annunziata Sat 29-Mar-14 19:53:53


plenty of food
family recipes

WingDefence Sun 30-Mar-14 08:18:40

It was DD's first birthday yesterday so my gratitudes are fairly simple today:
For DD and the joy she has brought us
For my whole family
For friends
For mothers

Annunziata Sun 30-Mar-14 12:20:46

Happy birthday to your DD, wing, I hope she and you had a lovely day. How quickly a year goes!

my sister cooking dinner today (although she is fond of burning, ask me tonight! Just kidding grin)

crescentmoon Sun 30-Mar-14 12:35:17

happy birthday to your dd wing, with my children first birthday was always when id get them out of daily babygrows into proper clothes!


my family,
that so far i haven't burnt anything this week,
that our pleasant guests are (God Willing!) leaving tomorrow,

Lovely to re-find this thread as I really need to remember the good things at the moment. First I have to tell you that .....
Very sadly we lost my nephew on March 10th, aged only 22.

In the middle of this I am glad to see signs of spring .... in particular I'm thankful for spring blossom which always lifts my spirits.

I just shared some mango and passion fruit, and strawberry sorbets with my ds and dd. They were yummy and much recommended (from LIDL)
They came in a little wine glass and dd has just filled these with a little water and some gorgeous apple blossom.

These are things to keep you going they really are thanks

WingDefence Sun 30-Mar-14 20:49:03

Hello Juggling - I'm so sorry to hear about your DNephew sad

Your gratitudes are lovely, and I'll take that Lidl recommendation thank you!

Aww, thank-you Wing and every blessing to you and your dd on her first birthday smile

Loving crescent's post too about your visitors .... "that our pleasant guests are (God willing) leaving tomorrow" grin

Do try the sorbets they're very good x

WingDefence Wed 02-Apr-14 21:05:32

Evening all.

That we are all recovered from our various sicknesses (please may it last!)
For the invention of the car
For my job
For my family

Hugs from my DC, especially maybe from DS, he's just soooo cuddly smile (and he was the last one to hug me, just now before bed x)

MargotThreadbetter Thu 03-Apr-14 00:34:11

Just found this wonderful thread.
I'm not religious but I am so, so grateful every day for the following:

My DS - he's only 18 months old and it's just the two of us, a but he's meant to be here - I had him at 44! We're a little team. He's a joy and I'm blessed to have him smile

For the doctors and medical staff that are helping keep my dear mum alive at the moment. And that mum's strength and positivity through chemotherapy is helping our family cope too.

For my health and working body.

For my family and friends.

For my home and community.

For relative freedom and choice.

For the job offer I received today!! grin

stressedHEmum Thu 03-Apr-14 09:46:27

Juggling, I'm so sorry to hear about your nephew sad, it's even more awful when we lose someone young. I have 2 DSs that age and I don't know how I would cope if something happened to them.

Happy Birthday to *Wing's" DD grin

Welcome and congratulations to Margot. May you have nothing but success in your new job and may your wee DS grow and flourish in your love flowers

gratitudes -
shelter from the rain
hot tea
peace and quiet

Thanks stressed

I'll join you for a brew if I may, and with gratitude for hot tea

crescentmoon Sat 05-Apr-14 13:28:08

hello all.

juggling my condolences to you and your sister. im very sorry for your recent loss and admire you so much for looking or moments of thankfulness with losing your nephew so recently. like stressed i cant imagine to raise and watch a child grow up for 22 years and then lose them after all that. i hope your sister gains support from your strength also.

*morgotthreadbetter il add my welcomes to you please! very happy for you and congratulations on your new job.


for the closure i got this week - God Bless the NHS,
that from it i was able to let go of the final thing i held onto from that time of my life,
for good friends and good company,
for the multifaith gratitudes thread

Thanks crescent

Many of us have been saying that in time our hope is to be able to remember more of the good times we shared with him through those 22 years. Already there are many happy memories, but it is hard to hold onto them as yet in our grief.

The little things in life are the easiest to notice thankfully I find - such as a small, beautiful flower thanks

stressedHEmum Tue 08-Apr-14 09:58:13

gratitudes -

that crescent is finding peace
for juggling's strength and her family support for each other
for Spring sunshine after the rain
for food, water, shelter and safety
for faith of all kinds and the strength that it brings
for the support of friends and family as this BB thing just goes from bad to worse

Thanks HE what a lovely thing to say.

Your gratitudes are beautiful too x

WingDefence Tue 08-Apr-14 19:39:03

Evening all

Apologies for the radio silence - it's not that I haven't had anything to be thankful for!

- For my DPs who are taking the DCs to LEGOLAND while DH and I are at a wedding on Friday (woo hoo!)
- For the sunshine today while the DCs were out with DH, allowing me to get on with work
- For birdsong
- For nice colleagues who make me laugh

WingDefence Tue 08-Apr-14 19:39:37

Hmm, Legoland seemed to autocorrect to capitals hmm I wasn't shouting it, honestly!

stressedHEmum Fri 11-Apr-14 10:29:53

Welcome back, Wingsmile Hope your Dcs have a fab time at Legoland, today and the the weather keeps dry for them. Enjoy your day.


all the wee birds in the garden - I could watch them all day
food, water, shelter and safety
a calm, peaceful neighbourhood to live in
medical care
soft, warm, cuddly children - even though they mostly all think that they are too big for cuddles.

Today's gratitudes ...

Really warm sunshine
Gardens and flowers
Wise words such as in poetry
Hot tea brew
dd (dh and ds are away just now)

MargotThreadbetter Sat 12-Apr-14 01:23:52

Back again! Thanks for the warm welcome smile

Today I'm grateful for the lovely weather
Having been able to spend time with two of my best friends
Hearing my son laugh
Watching him learn new words and master new activities
Talking to my parents and am so grateful they are both still here

Rachie1986 Sat 12-Apr-14 04:28:58

Just found this thread... Love it!

Tonight I feel so grateful for my wonderful parents and all the help and support they give with dd (15wks).. Been staying with them a few days and Mum has been coming up and staying with us to help out a bit. They are just so fab and I am just so lucky to have them... :-)

SecretWitch Sat 12-Apr-14 04:36:45

My friends, away too long..

I am grateful my husband is almost fully recovered from his heart attack last month
I am grateful we now understand how strong our love for each other is
I am grateful than Spring has made it's way to New England
I am grateful for the lovely birdsong in the morning

Annunziata Sat 12-Apr-14 20:55:14

Hello everyone, I am sorry I haven't been here in a while but I have been thinking of you all flowers


crescentmoon Tue 15-Apr-14 08:55:48

Yay annunziata- our lovely host is back. we had really missed you - hope your baby and children and loved ones are ok. Glad you are making the time to sleep and accepting help from others.

secretwitch very glad to see you again- it has been too long.so sorry about your husbands heart attack and hope he is well into his recovery. Also hope that the weather holds out for you also.

rachie would like to be the first to welcome you and give you congratulations on your new baby.

juggling stressed hope you are well this Easter week.


For beautiful weather to go to the park,
For all the expertise and professionalism I can access locally,
For health and ability to access free healthcare wen I don't have good health,

stressedHEmum Tue 15-Apr-14 09:38:52

Welcome home, Annunziata and Secret. I'm sorry to hear about your husband, Secret, what a worrying time for you and your family. Long may his recovery last.

Rachie, welcome. We love to meet someone new here. Congratulations on a beautiful new babyflowers

Crescent, thank you. I love Holy Week, such a special time and I have the joy and privilege of being able to attend church services every day. Our local CoS churches all band together and have nightly services in a different church each year. All the ministers take a night and we follow Jesus' journey through the week towards the cross. it's always very moving and thought provoking and helps me draw closer to God.


last nights service - it was very beautiful
our fabulous Palm Sunday service - it was hilarious and a lot of fun. I got about 10 minutes notice to organise a song for the kids, but they did so well and the congregation loved it, the children put a smile on everyone's face.
beautiful sunshine
line dried washing
signs of spring all around
DS1 is coming home for Easter Weekendsmile

Rachie welcome, it is a lovely thread isn't it? So peaceful and encouraging
Congratulations on your new baby thanks

Gratitudes today ....

Lovely warm sunshine and signs of spring
Friends (a new one invited me in for tea and homemade cake today, whilst ds played with his (also fairly new) friend and siblings)
The stability of home and family, even with all it's challenges

stressedHEmum Thu 17-Apr-14 10:20:34

line dry washing
wee blackbird having a bath in the bowl of water that I put out for them smile
food, water, safety and shelter
healthy children
a roof over our heads
life in a reasonable stable country subject to the rule of law

For children, especially ...

their resilience
their play
their friendship, especially between cousins

And, as always, for a hot cup of tea for the grown-ups brew

WingDefence Fri 18-Apr-14 21:24:08

My goodness - I thought I'd posted the other day but I think my iPad battery died just as I posted and I forgot to check blush

Hello to all and I hope those who are going through difficult times find their faith (or friends & family if of no-faith) are supporting you.

One big gratitude today for me:
Thank you Jesus for dying for me on the cross and wiping out my sins.

stressedHEmum Sun 20-Apr-14 18:34:13

Happy Easter thanks

gratitudes -
the joy, love and peace of the Risen Christ
the grace of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit
an uplifting and joyful Easter morning service
happy children
line dried washing
spring flowers and wee birds singing

A slightly less religious one for those of us who find blessings mainly elsewhere ....

Spring with it's blossom and colourful flowers
Chocolate, especially when shared with others
Friendship and family, including on here
A roof over our heads in the rain and all our essential needs met - such as for food and water.

Annunziata Sun 20-Apr-14 21:08:13

this thread
God and his love for us!

Also for the chance to go back to Italy for a few days, will raise a glass to you all flowers

MrsSteptoe Sun 20-Apr-14 21:15:01

My good-natured cheerful boy
My good-egg DH who is currently wiping up the kitchen after making himself supper and who often takes on more than his fair share because I work nights and flake out a lot now that I'm 50 am a lazy moo and take advantage of the fact that I work nights
Enough money in my purse to go for a piano lesson tomorrow with my lovely teacher
No debt
Health all round

Ooh, have a wonderful time in Italy Annunziata tbusmile tbuenvy
And enjoy your piano lesson tomorrow MrsS tbusmile

stressedHEmum Wed 23-Apr-14 11:15:00

have a fab time in Italy, Annunziata grin

Juggling, yes, blessings are found everywhere, aren't theysmile

more sunshine and line dry washing
hot cross buns
food, water, safety and shelter
family and friends
DS1 got safely back to Cumbria yesterday

Thanks for your generosity HE, you'll have to forgive me I'm a right grump ATM blush
Well of course you don't have to, but I sense you do anyway which is nice smile
Such lovely people on this thread

Gratitudes today for you all x
For sunshine smile
And for that good book I've started and need to finish, that I'm hoping to pick up with my book token from the bookshop a bit later.

stressedHEmum Thu 24-Apr-14 09:34:40

No forgiveness is necessary, Juggling. We are all grumpy sometimes (or even all the time smile)

I hope everyone else is well and enjoying some Spring weather.

gratitiudes -

the NHS, medical care and skilled doctors - friend's wee boy had his appendix out last night. he and DS4 will be able to compare scarssmile
children who are safe and well
more lovely sunshine
vets - another friend's wee cat was run over at the same spot that mine was, he's still alive but will likely lose his legsad
food, water, safety and shelter
that we live in a stable country, governed by the rule of law and not mad paramilitary factions

stressedHEmum Fri 25-Apr-14 09:07:20

gratitudes -

excellent trip to the lifeboat station with my wee BBs
very, very beautiful view of sunset over Arran when we were ther
the patience and kindness of the coxswain
dry washing
food, water, safety and shelter
a productive meeting with a local minister looking to set up a foodbank branch
family and friends

crescentmoon Fri 25-Apr-14 09:38:00

gratitudes -

faith and the positivity from that against all odds,
that at least i was a day early for yday's hospital trip, rather than a day late!
that DH has the day off today so i wont need to take a taxi to make it to the appointment today,

stressedHEmum Sun 27-Apr-14 08:49:26

more sunshine and dry washing
quiet prayer

WingDefence Mon 28-Apr-14 16:23:12

Hi all! I've been absolutely snowed under with work so hence not posting.

But I have gratitudes of course!
- for friends of my Faith who can support me when I need it
- for the warmer, brighter days ignoring that the weather's going to turn colder this week
- for my DCs who are being particularly lovely at the moment
- for DH who is doing a wonderful job as pastor

BishB Mon 28-Apr-14 20:38:11

I'd like to join, if you don't mind. I'm currently undergoing treatment for cancer so it's very, very important for me to recognise the good things still going on around me...

My gratitudes today:
- Listening to and watching my vibrant, beautiful 5yo DD sing a song from Frozen at bedtime. I was so rapt by her. Usually I'm hustling her into bed so I can get some "me time" but tonight I really took the time to be fully present to her and it made my night!
- Enjoying a few moments of physical comfort (I'm in a fair bit of pain often)
- Remembering God's presence and thanking Him for no other reason but to thank Him.

Annunziata Mon 28-Apr-14 22:40:52

Of course Bish, welcome! I hope your treatment is going as well as possible, and that you are not too poorly.

I am grateful that I haven't made dinner for a week! Imagine that! I think I was 19 the last time that happened!

Welcome Bish

Your gratitudes are beautiful, I especially like the first one of really taking the time to hear your dd's singing - that sounds wonderful x

The last one reminded me of the rather lovely phrase I've come across again in the book I'm reading "Have a little faith" by the wonderful Mitch Albom .....

"Hallelujah anyway" thanks

Thank you for joining us here smile

Annunziata who is making you all these lovely dinners? Can they make me one? wink It's not in Italy as well is it?

If so, doubly jealous envy grin

And one more gratitude from me this morning ....

For the beautiful meditation I went to last night with a friend at the Buddhist Centre. I went to support my friend but there was a sense that grace had brought me there as I found the words and ideas, especially of having compassion for all, really helpful following my own loss of DNephew recently.

stressedHEmum Tue 29-Apr-14 09:22:26

Welcome, Bish. I hope that you are not in too much pain and that your treatment is successful. Your DD sounds lovely, I can hardly remember when mine were so small and cutesmile

Crescent, I hope you're OK and that the hospital appointment wasn't for anything too serious.

Annunziata, I dream of getting a week off making dinner. Alas, it's a a rather impossible dream in here!

Nice to "see you again, Wing. Hope you are well.

gratitudes -

more sunshine and dry washing - yes my life really is that exciting
happy, healthy kids
food, water, safety and shelter
a safe place to live
family and friends
comfortable, appropriate clothing

Just for DS4 - dragon

BishB Tue 29-Apr-14 22:18:29

Hello. My gratitudes today:

- to you all for your warm welcome
- for a relatively pain free day
- for my darling mother for all her help today
- for DD for her patience with me
- for the warm, friendly hospital staff
- for Seville orange marmalade on buttered toast & freshly brewed coffee

Those are lovely too Bish - liking the Seville orange marmalade on buttered toast - very evocative smile

Also love HE with "yes my life really is that exciting" and with more of her dry washing grin

Mine today, let me see ....

One that really stood out was hearing a blackbird singing from my neighbour's chimney top when I went for an evening walk to buy cheese for our pasta

A friend came round and we gave him some plants from our pond to put in his one.

My DC gave me some nice hugs tonight

BishB Wed 30-Apr-14 22:06:15

My gratitudes today:

- the sunshine smile
- fresh mango
- my crisp white sheets (spent alot of time in bed today due to a bit of food poisoning)
- my mother, as usual, for helping look after DD
- as always... God. No matter how bad it gets I always feel His presence.

Ooh, I love mango too Bish smile

Mine today ....

For my little kitchen hob (regular gas stove)
where I can easily rustle up some pasta with sauce and cheese for supper
to feed my DC
For the clean water in the nearby tap that makes this possible too
For the telephone which isn't always my friend but which helps me keep in touch with friends and family (same as the net really, which I sometimes prefer smile)

WingDefence Thu 01-May-14 07:16:40

Morning all and big welcome to Bish smile

For the hospitality of my cousin (I'm at her house and stayed over last night because I'm in London for work)
For having a job that is relatively stable
For technology that allows me to FaceTime the DCs (video calls is like some weird space technology isn't it!)
For friendship
For love

crescentmoon Thu 01-May-14 08:22:38

welcome dear bish, i was moved to read your last gratitude on your first post, i hope that i will have that sort of faith even in such circumstances as you are in.

lol at weird space technology wing, i find some of the new technology on smart phones unnerving actually. abit too 'rise of the machines' for me - thinking of the smart scroll eye tracking on my DS new samsung phone!


my dear friends on the thread are well,
coco pops - havent had them in years and a free toy inside too!

crescentmoon Thu 01-May-14 08:27:15

(ds for darling sister, not darling son!)

stressedHEmum Thu 01-May-14 09:58:29

Bish, your gratitudes are beautiful and your faith is inspiring. I am in awethanks


shelter from the rain (am sad that I can't dry my washing thoughsad)
children who are tolerant of differences
food and easy access to clean water
the NHS for the care that it provides to so many people
the inspiration on this thread

again just for DS4 dragon

BishB Thu 01-May-14 19:53:07

Thank you wing, crescent and stressed.

My gratitudes today:
- the rain that makes my garden grow
- sour cherry sourdough bread from my local artisan bakers (I'm always grateful for yummy food... even an occasional Big Mac!)
- having the energy to finalise and confirm my DD's 6th birthday party next month
- a lovely school mum who offered to collect and drop off my DD from school whenever I need to. "Just text me!" she said

Annunziata Thu 01-May-14 20:16:42

Ooooh a dragon dragon

Delighted to 'see' everyone, our thread got a little quiet for a while! Hope you are all doing well flowers

Grateful for
the first of May
my favourite hymn at Mass this morning

stressedHEmum Fri 02-May-14 09:37:56

more sunshine - hurraysmile
hot fruit tea
family and friends
salad for tea

Maisie0 Fri 02-May-14 20:23:27

-How my mother sacrificed for me and managed to deliver me safely.
-Friends who are understanding and listens to my woes without judgments. I genuinely appreciate them so.
-Friends who made me laugh when I am down.

Mine this evening ....

A bottle of red to share wine (is that bad? sorry, not everyone drinks do they?)

A lovely, understanding, exchange of emails with my cousin

The new thread by Justine suggesting we have a charities week, offering that MNHQ will match donations, and asking who we'd like to support thanks

BishB Sat 03-May-14 06:35:04

Juggling I rarely drink but I know Jesus apparently appreciated a good red wine in his day. And if it's good enough for him... ;)

WingDefence Sat 03-May-14 07:14:38

Hello Maisie - was this your first post on here or have you namechanged and posted before? smile

- for a good night's sleep
- for my DCs and the love they have for me
- for the gift of music and God's gift to me of a singing voice
- for nicer weather

stressedHEmum Sat 03-May-14 10:39:37

Juggling, I can't really drink since I've been ill, very sadly, but as Bish says, if it was good enough for Jesus, who appears to have been partial to a nice drop of red then ...grin

Maisie, is this your first post? I think that it is. Welcome to our lovely threadsmile


safe and healthy children
a nice warm bed - it was cold last night
time with friends
helped 8 people at food bank yesterday
the generosity of people who donate to to my foodbank

stressedHEmum Sat 03-May-14 10:40:18

forgot - dragon - especially for DS4

Sorry to hear you've not been well HE sad
Seriously impressed that you run a foodbank - I should volunteer for something. Hope to look into possibilities very soon - I started to look but need to pick that up again ....

About the wine, partly I think it's just that I like a good emoticon smile
well, that's my excuse anyway blush

Here's a dragon wishing you all a good day dragon

Gratitudes so far this morning ....

For tea, almond pastry, and crumpet with butter and marmite - leisurely weekend breakfasts

For friends, one has taken my two to band practice (she and her dd are also in the band) and another has sent me a very funny post-party pic of her son's party last night - featuring ds striking a fetching pose grin

For things to look forward to .... there's a great sounding May day event going on this afternoon which I'm hoping we'll all get along to later

BishB Sat 03-May-14 22:39:00


- big blue skies and wispy clouds
- excitement on DD's face when she returned from the Lego store with DH
- big hugs from DH
- complete honesty of feelings between DH and I during fearful times

Maisie0 Sat 03-May-14 23:26:03

Hi Wing, Stressed, no, it is not my first post. I have posted a few before. I am still fairly new on MN though. Under 1 month or so ? I am glad I found this thread. It brings me back down to Earth a little bit.

Annunziata Sat 03-May-14 23:30:42

That sounds a great breakfast Juggling grin

Oh Bish even my grown up children love the Lego store, I can magine her wee face!

I don't think I've said hello to yet, have I Maisie? <waves>

being able to see where I have been wrong!
the chance to fix mistakes
chocolate... grin

crescentmoon Sun 04-May-14 10:10:21

Hello maisie from me, I've also found reading annunziata thread brings me back down to count my blessings everytime!


Lovely simple day out yesterday with the children- a new book for me, new summer hats for the children,
That DH has a job in this economic climate and that its stable- not on yer bike every six months/year as it used to be until recently,
The positive thread on AIBU yesterday on Christians - i liked reading it for all the different stories,
That ds2's SALT really engages with him and even has him singing stories and rhymes with her!
That his big brother and sister play all kinds of babyish games for them just to get him to talk more.

WingDefence Sun 04-May-14 15:15:57

Mmm chocolate!

crescent, can you please post the link to that AIBU thread on here as I've not seen that one? Thanks flowers

And for all those who are going through tough times at the moment, have a listen to this song by Casting Crowns. I'm singing it tonight, just me and a piano, at church. Gulp!

For the 10 friends we welcomed into Membership at church this morning
For the hint of summer
For my DH, doing such a great job as pastor
For the food and drink that we have on this planet

crescentmoon Sun 04-May-14 18:16:49

here you go love, annunziata and stressed were on it as well, i really found their posts and those of others interesting. the thread itself has been so different from any other AIBU thread on xtianity or religion that i described it as positive blush. i hope it hasnt turned!

Annunziata Sun 04-May-14 20:43:29

There wasn't an argument on that one, crescent? Good gracious, wonders never cease grin

grateful for
good home cooked food

Maisie0 Mon 05-May-14 12:01:32

Hi Annunziata. smile

Cresent - Yes, that day, I just needed something very strong to ground myself. I was very torn in my heart, but I am thankful now that it is in the past.

Today's gratitude:
I am still grateful that my ex is in my life. He still listens, and he still cares after what we have been through.

stressedHEmum Tue 06-May-14 10:18:50

How was your May Day event, Juggling?

Hope everyone is as well as possible this fine Spring morningthanks

a decent night's sleep
DS2 is handling exam stress well at the moment
time spent with friends
DH had a rest yesterday on a rare day off.

Hi HE and daily gratitudes friends thanks

Thanks HE the May day event was lovely, DCs enjoyed it very much, sun was shining, and met many friends there too, but sadly couldn't persuade DH to come with us which was a bit disappointing, especially initially.

In fact my little family is having a bit of a wobble today, especially DH (who has the day off but is out ATM) and me. Please pray that we make it through together if that is for the best
(that is, make it through both today and generally)
I'd love for DH to come back from his day out feeling a little more understanding after I talked with him about how I'm feeling this morning.

Anyway, perhaps some gratitudes might help ....

For my little family thanks
For the roof over our heads
For our lovely garden
For tonight's supper
For exciting things to do sometimes - dd has gone on a nice school trip today, and the sun is shining for them too
For friends to talk to (here or in RL smile)

BishB Tue 06-May-14 11:20:09

Praying for you juggling.

My gratitudes:
- Lovely family picnic at the Diana Memorial in Hyde Park yesterday
- A reasonable night's sleep (broken but slept in between wake-ups)
- Sunshine and warmth
- Ice lollies with the family in the garden
- Washing on the line - such a lovely sign of Summer coming

Thanks lovely Bish x

Annunziata Wed 07-May-14 21:05:27

How are you now, juggling? I hope very much things are better.

I love getting my washing on the line bish.

food on the table
exams passing well (hopefully!)

Thanks Annunziata, things are back on a much more even keel today, and storm has subsided considerably. Trouble is recent sadness has upset my equilibrium so that when things are bad (like on Monday) they do seem terrible. I just feel I do need everyone (DH!) to be kind and supportive ATM (or all the time would be good!)

Anyway, tonight's gratitudes ....

For my peaceful home
For my friends and family
For my work (I think the desiderata says to keep an interest in it however humble - so whether it's my work with children and families outside the home, or with my own family here and wider family, I am thankful for it and all it means and has meant to me. Also an interesting work related opportunity has come up today - a new possibility. My voluntary work also provides interest and encouragement)
For my DC who for example both did a lovely card tonight for their Auntie

stressedHEmum Thu 08-May-14 09:12:15

Glad to here things are a bit better, Juggling, am keeping you and your wee family in my prayers. marriage can be so hard sometimes, I think, especially when other pressures are there.

Bish, how are you atm?

gratitudes -
that Dh is feeling a bit better and was able to go back to work today - he's just too tired at the moment, I think, because they are under so much pressure
that my friend's job seems to be secure for the time being
that my foodbank continues to help people in desperate circumstances
that this whole situation with the Boys' brigade seems to be moving towards a conclusion
that DS2 seems to be coping well with exam stress
food, clean water, shelter and safety

Could anyone who does pray, please pray for my friend and her family. her Dh finds out next week if he still has a job. he is very, very senior and it would be a devastating blow to them if he lost it. They are funding 2 kids through uni at the mo and the huge loss of income would really affect them all.

SouthernHippyChick Thu 08-May-14 13:30:41

For birdsong
For health
For food and shelter.

Today's gratitudes ....

For hot, spicy tea brew
For encouraging job prospects (email exchange today has been promising)
For my DSis, am going to visit her and DBro for her birthday this weekend
(visiting both homes) - looking forward to seeing everyone

BishB Fri 09-May-14 20:05:16

juggling glad things are a bit better.
stressed I'm okay. Quite shattered from chemotherapy and have permanent brain fog too. Had to have a blood transfusion as my blood count was too low.

Couldn't get through these tiring times without some amazing school mums who are helping out with my 5 year old.

So, my main gratitude right now are:
- school mums thanks

Annunziata Fri 09-May-14 22:02:03

I am glad things are looking up Juggling. What type of tea do you drink that is spicy?!

Praying for your friends, stressed. Have they had any news? I'm glad to hear that BB things are also moving towards an end.

The birds singing make me happy in the morning too southern smile

Do you have to stay in hospital or are at you home, Bish? I will pray for you at St Peregrine mass, if you would like?

exams going well
summer coming!

Hi Annunziata - for our spicy tea we just put in a bit of tea masala bought from our corner shop. We both think it makes it more interesting smile

Gratitudes this evening ....

for friends - have just got in from an evening with friends, just sitting out in the garden and chatting.
for gardens - have spent a lot of the day in two lovely gardens thanks
for family - our own wee one here, and wider family I'll be seeing over the weekend

BishB Fri 09-May-14 23:25:18

Annunziata prayers most appreciated smile

I'm home, luckily. Hospital just for appointments (chemo, transfusion).

imisssleepandwine Sun 11-May-14 21:51:30

Lovely idea for a tread

Gratitude today.
Morning cuddles from DD
A leisurely breakfast with DD and DH
A walk in the woods with a friend
a hot shower in a lovely clean bathroom
Second DC growing big and strong inside me.

I'm very blessed.

Annunziata Sun 11-May-14 22:02:54

Help imisssleepandwine! I miss those things too grin How far along are you?

I'm glad you get to stay at home sometimes bish, it must be make you feel a little better?

Masala and tea, I must try that! I can't imagine it.

my hilarious mother

Annunziata Sun 11-May-14 22:03:31

Help? Oh dear- hello!

SouthernHippyChick Sun 11-May-14 23:06:38

struggling but- dc2's lovely concerned hugs, food on the table, sleeping children.
Prayers to those on here going through physical and/or psychological challenges. I feel humbled by your resilience, bless you and kerp you strong.

stressedHEmum Mon 12-May-14 09:15:41

Imiss, welcome and hellosmile I hope your pregnancy is going well. Have you long to go?

Bish, being able to be at home is a small blessing. it must help you feel a wee bit better.

My friends still haven't heard anything, but they are not hopeful. heads are rolling all around. All this talk of economic recovery[hmm. I don't know, almost everyone I know is in a precarious position work wise. Another friend will find out on the 27th whether she still has a job or not (she works in benefit fraud and all the changes mean loads of folk are losing jobs), my Dh's department has just lost 4 people with more to come (another government related job!). There is no recover here.

Enough of bringing the place down. There are far more good things than bad to think about.

foodbank continues to help people
God gave my very dear friend the strength to get through her beloved husband's funeral on Friday - they had been married over 60years
DS2 is managing exam stress well - yoga is apparently giving him inner peacesmile
DS2's very dry sense of humour
other children are all healthy
a warm bed
food, water, safety and shelter
lovely church service yesterday - it was BB and GB closing service, so the formal part of our year is almost over.

imisssleepandwine Mon 12-May-14 21:52:36

Annunziata and Stressed

I'm 24 week pregnant and it's going well, the first few months were hard but I feel great now.

today I'm grateful for a job that's not too busy, I'm feeling on top of my workload so I worked from home and went for a walk in the morning sun with DH.

my little garden that is transforming as the weeks pass.

watching DD with her playdate today was so cute. I was bursting with love and pride.

stressedHEmum Tue 13-May-14 20:58:14

line dried washing
wild flowers

Ooh yes, wildflowers are wonderful aren't they HE - they always lift my spirits. I remember spotting some beautiful little hearts-ease violets in the wonderful Findhorn Valley in the Highlands when we were there last summer .... heart's ease by name, heart's ease by nature

stressedHEmum Thu 15-May-14 10:31:48

I love wild flowers, Juggling, they're a wee splash of God's love in the most unexpected places.

gratitudes -
Girl's Brigade parents' night went really well last night
sunshine and line dry washing
freely available hot water
food, clean water, safety and shelter
huggs from my children
DS2's exams are going really well - he is so calm
my parents - it's my mother's 70th birthday at the weekend and I am so grateful that I still have both my parents

Mine for today ....

A lovely blue sky and time to sit in the garden and listen to the birdsong - a beautiful warbler was singing away yesterday
My DS's first Y7 exams also going well HE and just got a well done letter from school about him because he has got lots of points for his house. DD now getting the results of her recent ones and all seem to be going well, though with a heads up that we maybe need to work on timing before GCSE's next year - am so glad that both of them are doing OK, especially emotionally, following our recent bereavement
And for food, clean water, safety and shelter - thankfulness for those simple things is so grounding isn't it?
This thread has been, and continues to be, such a help.
So thanks to those who initiated, continue, and support it thanks

Annunziata Thu 15-May-14 21:01:50

I hope things are better Southern.

Happy birthday to your mum, stressed! Are you having a party?

24 weeks, oh the rest of the time will fly by imiss! Do you know what you're having?

My older DC have got their exams too Juggling, I feel like I am sitting them all with the stress in the house grin

my daft, funny, lovely DH

imisssleepandwine Sun 18-May-14 22:28:07

Annunziata - Thanks and yes the time is flying past, 25 weeks now and feel really good. We are having a boy so we will have one of each which is lovely.


I'm feeling very blessed at the moment for all the wonderful people and things in my life. Especially DH and DD who make me laugh and smile everyday.
The sunshine
delicious food
hot camomile tea before bed

Just off to see if we still have some chamomole tea in the cupboard, I think there's some there somewhere ..... brew

crescentmoon Mon 19-May-14 01:57:38

Hello all! lovely to read and get inspired by the gratitudes here, and the welcomes to newcomers.

Gratitudes recently are:

That the grass finally got mowed- it was getting so long I was afraid to let the dc out in case they wouldn't be able to see back to the door,
Sunny weekend so dc able to go to park and play in garden,
That after all these years iv finally learnt drinking water can be enough when feeling hungry!
'Yorkshire tea' bags- cannot believe how anaemic other teas are now I can make a strong brew with these new ones!

stressedHEmum Mon 19-May-14 09:36:03

Imisssleep, have you tried chamomile and maple tea. It's lovely.

Annunziata, we didn't have a party but we did have a nice wee family lunch. My folks' health isn't that great, I think that a party would probably have been beyond them. it was lovely, though, very relaxed.

sunshine today - hopefully a nice ashing drying daysmile
supportive friends
everyone is doing Ok at the moment
nice service at church yesterday
food, clean water, safety and shelter
all my needs are met

Daily gratitudes .....

For an interview for a great job (looks perfect for me and there has been some encouragement)
For hope
For my dear DC, go on then, since I'm feeling generous, and for DH smile

WingDefence Tue 20-May-14 14:54:46

Hi all!

I have been extremely busy these past few weeks and haven't been on MN at all shock Most unlike me grin

Anyway, gratitudes:
For the five young people baptised at our church last Friday
For friends I have, near and far
For my DPs who are brilliant and always there for me/us
For the snippet of summer we had over the weekend!

Annunziata Wed 21-May-14 22:45:56

That’s lovely imisssleepandwine smile

<waves> at crescent

I’m glad you had a nice weekend with your parents stressed smile

Have you heard about your interview yet juggling? Good luck!

I love this springy sunshine we have just now too wing, although it’s not quite warm enough for me yet! It is nearly reaching the 30s at my brother’s in Italy now already, lucky sod.

my MIL
washing weather

stressedHEmum Thu 22-May-14 10:14:37

sunny day yesterday - nice washing weather
salad for tea
DS3 had a college interview yesterday

crescentmoon Thu 22-May-14 10:34:39

Wow great news about ds3 stressed. Really hope he gets on to what he wants God Willing.
annunziata and others I hope yourselves children and families are well.

Can't wait for half term holidays to come

Hi annunziata, thanks thanks my interview is on Thursday and I've been to visit two of the pre-schools where I'd be working - they both seemed lovely.

Other gratitudes ...

dd is off for an exciting adventure with her friend (including paint-balling) over the holiday weekend
We have a couple of other things planned over half-term which remind me to be thankful for friends, and family too
Also generally things to look forward to smile

And time for another brew I think ....

Annunziata Sun 25-May-14 22:07:21

Good luck for Thursday!

All fine here crescent, up to their usual tricks!

Hope everyone has a lovely harm term holiday!

summer getting closer, even if the weather hasn't heard yet!
tummy mummies and forever families

VitoCorleone Mon 26-May-14 11:15:35

Can i join?

My gratitudes are..

My beautiful 5 year old, who makes me smile and laugh every day with his wonderful imagination

My beautiful 2 year old, who is starting to develop his own mischievous personality

My DP, who would do anything for me.

Starting my new job this afternoon

Having a roof over our heads and food on the table.

Getting the grass cut whilst the sun is out

stressedHEmum Tue 27-May-14 11:07:49

Hi, crescent, it's great news. I never really thought that we would get this far with him but here we are. He thinks the interview went OK and he should here sometime in the next couple of weeks. it's just an entry course but it will give him the qualifications and , hopefully, the direction, to move on next year.

Best of luck with the interview, juggling, I hope everything turns out as you hope.

Hello, Vito, how was your first day in your new job? Your gratitudes are lovely, children are all so different and each one of them is a wee blessing. Enjoy them while they are young because they grow up so quickly.

gratitudes -
lighter nights and the odd bit of sunshine between the rain
the awful business with the BB is finally over and, God willing, we are now able to move forward and plan for next session
the support of family and friends
faith and prayer
food, water, safety and shelter

VitoCorleone Tue 27-May-14 21:05:16

Hi stressed smile first day at work didn't go to well, one of my new colleges made it obvious that she didn't like me, ignored me the whole time i was there then i overheard her bitching about me, not very nice sad

But anyway, my gratitudes for today are

Its stayed dry so i managed to get some washing out

My 5 year old, who yesterday got one of those world cup sticker books and decided to create his own stickers by drawing pictures of himself, me and DP and sticking them in his book, he left DS2 out because "he's too little to play football" it really made me smile smile

My DP managing to get in work today and tomorrow for overtime - every little helps

And mumsnet, because after reading the creative writing section ive decided to have a go at writing a book smile

Annunziata Wed 28-May-14 13:05:57

Ciao Vito! What a horrible woman at work sad I hope things get better. Can you have a word with a manager?

I am so glad things are better with BB stressed!

a good book
good food
family recipes

crescentmoon Wed 28-May-14 13:42:35

Hello all!

stressed I wish my DB would have half the get up and go of your ds, he's so laid back he's practically horizontal. Much gnashing of teeth and premature grey hairs here as you can tell!

vito I hope today is a better day for you and congratulations on your new job. Love the idea of writing a book may it also be a lucrative sideline for you!

annunziata I had a good laugh at your post in chat yday about advice from your dad on pet dogs. Mine would say keep a rabbit or chicken not cats or dogs.


That my back is only stiff first thing in the morning,
Grateful I had years and years of non Stiff backness,
The Lovely polish crumbly fudge I tried,

VitoCorleone Wed 28-May-14 14:23:51

Ooh cheers to good food and crumbly fudge smile well today is a better day, just been packing my suitcases as we are off to Spain tomorrow morning! Bad timing with my new job but it was booked ages ago so my manager doesn't mind. I'm not going to speak to him about that ignorant woman, I'll just give it some time and maybe she'll warm to me, if not well its no big deal, i go there to make money not make friends.

Gratitudes for today...

Managing to get everything packed and ready without too much of a rush

Won £10 on a scratchcard smile

Annunziata Thu 29-May-14 21:28:08

grin He was so serious as well crescent. Our next door neighbours had a wee terrier and he was genuinely baffled by it. He couldn't understand why you would waste food on it and not get anything back!

Have a wonderful holiday Vito! It will be just getting lovely and warm!

the lovely sky
hardworking DC

stressedHEmum Fri 30-May-14 08:27:32

Oh, DS3 is very, very laid back, crescent. We've been tearing our hair out with him for years, he just seems to drift along. I think that fact that all his friends are off to uni or college this year has given him a bit of a spur to be honest. I'm just praying that he gets accepted for college and then discovers something that he is passionate enough about to want to take it forward. it's frustrating, isn't it, when you see someone you love just drifting and not making the most of their potential.

Vito, how horrible. Why would someone make a snap judgement like that. The woman doesn't even know you. Perhaps she feels threatened somehow. Just keep working away and, as she gets to know you, perhaps her heart will soften. Have a fab holiday, I am envy.

Annunziata, your dad is hilarious! Although, I can, in a way, see his point. Our last dog was a HUGE black lab - plenty of meat on his bones, unfortunately, towards the end, it would have been mostly fat, I think. Not very appetisingsmile

gratitudes -
Springwatch - I am, worryingly, becoming addicted to the live cams.
BB parents' night went really, really well last night. it makes it all worthwhile to see all the happy wee faces and to have the parents tell you how much the boys enjoy Thursday evenings
nice weather
cuddles from the children
DS2 is coming home today for the summer - I can't believe that he has finished his first year alreadygrin

gratitudes for today ....

For my new job - just heard, will be perfect for me I hope!
For tea and toast with cottage cheese (I think yum, ds thinks yuck! brew)
For holidays and having the DC at home for lazy days, meet-ups with friends, or bigger adventures - and that this can continue with my lovely new job (which starts in late August/September and is term time and school hours and working with young children)

crescentmoon Sat 31-May-14 13:15:36

fantastic news juggling, really wonderful news and what a great thnig to end the summer on. so lovely you can still enjoy time at home when your dcs are at home through school and holiday times as well!

stressed iv loved getting to know about how your ds1, ds2 and now ds3 have matured and sought out higher education/work. my db still even with seeing friends having got on and ahead still doesnt feel the urgency of it. my hope for him is that he gets with an ambitious young woman who can give him the kick up the bum he needs to work hard, but i need toharangue get him to a certain level for a girl like that to give him a second look! so happy about BB going so well in your last few posts too.

annunziata i think your dad has a similar utilitarian view of things as mine.

back at home
lovely sunny weather
kids are enjoying the garden.

Thanks crescentmoon - we're all beginning to get a bit excited about the possibilities my new job might bring for us all - such as the DC caught me looking at a few holiday websites last night, and they've started doing their own explorations on their tablets this morning. We quite like the look of Crete grin Or perhaps we could go back to lovely Mallorja
- though may have to be next summer rather than this one. This year might be a few nights in the Highlands with DH after our break in the Lakes with friends (in lovely hostel with woods to play in) just as we did last year.

Do feel blessed though, especially now that new possibilities are opening up for us with this new opportunity.

Also have to admit to feeling a little daunted at prospect of working 30+ hours, but I've done 20 before and been happy with that, so just have to not be a wuss - and get the DC and DH to help out a bit more, which will be good for them now they're teenagers - DH has been one for a while LOL grin

Annunziata Sun 01-Jun-14 21:52:12

It's so nice to hear all the good news!

Summer coming
Good friends

stressedHEmum Mon 02-Jun-14 18:21:51

Congratulations, Juggling, All the best in your new job.

crescent, funnily enough, my mum said something similar about DS3 - a nice, ambitious girl is what he needs to help him focussmile I hope and pray that your DB finds his path soon.

gratitudes -
dry washing

Thanks HE and Annunziata - I've also been appreciating bird-song recently, especially the blackbirds singing from their high perches in the evenings - in fact I can hear one singing beautifully outside the window right now smile

crescentmoon Tue 03-Jun-14 11:45:38

Very funny that your mum has the same advice stressed. juggling I'm sure 30 hours be as easy for you to handle as 20 hours was.its great to consider how it will all improve your quality of life- so cool the dc were looking up holidays!
annunziata hope your well and vito that your enjoying yur holiday.


Good wholesome food- even if a little unappetising,
That I'm Losing weight slowly but surely,
My new CC cream,
Dd for showing so much responsibility lately,
That we got to laugh about turning up at school on an inset say!

stressedHEmum Wed 04-Jun-14 09:24:26

Great minds think alike, crescentsmile

more sunshine, it's unexpectedly lovely here just now
Ds2 took DS4 a nice walk yesterday and found a load of ducks and baby coots on the woodland pond
Springwatch live cams - I love them
the smell of fresh cut grass
food, water, safety and shelter
productive holiday mission meeting last night.

Simple gratitudes that were helping me last night and this morning ....

Things like, the clean water, the kettle, the tea bags from faraway lands, the fresh milk from the cows and farms, to all help me make my morning cuppa brew
My safe, warm bed
Hugs and cuddles from my dear DC
Shelter in my home from the rain (whereabouts are you stressed ? - it's not looking too bright here just now)
Also loving Springwatch and Great British Menu and other very companiable telly (dh is away for a few days ATM)

stressedHEmum Sat 07-Jun-14 15:06:40

Juggling, I am on the Ayrshire coast. it was beautiful yesterday, but today - not so much.

Gratitudes -
glorious sunshine and summer warmth yesterday
rain to feed the soil today
DH and DS4 had a great 1st day down with DS1 yesterday - they went for a day out on the miniature stem railwaysmile
friends who know and accept my limitations and don't mind when I'm to tired and sore to be of much use to anyone
once again, Springwatch live cams - seeing all the new life really lifts my spirits
Hope everyone is well and is having a lovely weekendthanks

Annunziata Sat 07-Jun-14 21:13:12

Happy Saturday everyone flowers

some lovely weather this morning and yesterday
my sister

qumquat Mon 09-Jun-14 15:37:30

Hello all, I have just discovered this wonderful thread. Having a tough time at the moment as may be splitting with partner, so really need to notice the good things:

Baby dd asleep on me
Chatting with friends
Exercise in the park
Friends thinking of me and supporting me
Refreshing drinks of water on a hot day

Ahh, welcome qumquat - it is a beautiful idea for a thread isn''t it, and has been helping me through a difficult spring.

Baby dd asleep on you, doesn't get better than that smile
Friends, chat, refreshing drinks of water - I think you're going to feel right at home on this thread.

Welcome again thanks

stressedHEmum Wed 11-Jun-14 14:45:34

Welcome, qumquat. I am so sorry to here that you are having a difficult time. I hope this thread can bring you some strength and peace. It's the small pleasures and blessings that keep us going through the hard times. Cuddly, sleeping babies are the best, enjoy it thanks


washing that smells of sunshine - one of my favourite things, even thought the children think that I am loopy
a lovely time of prayer today with the Moderator of our presbytery - he was visiting my church as part of a prayer walk around presbytery
DS4 and DH had a lovely long weekend down visiting DS1
DS2 has settled back home well, now that he is on holiday
clean water, readily available food, safety, shelter and peace
the blessing of friendship

"even though the children think I'm loopy" - they're not the only ones stressed grin Just joking - but boy do you like your freshly dried washing smile

Mine today ....

Toast with almond butter and brew
Interesting trips and holidays for the DC and for us all
Summer days ahead thanks - good for drying that washing wink

stressedHEmum Wed 11-Jun-14 19:37:29

yep! I do love line dried washing. I think that it comes from all the years of washing for 7 people without having a tumble drier (house is too small and there isn't any space for one.) When it's wet outside, the washing just piles up and makes me unhappy!

Sunshiney washing is one of my favourite things, like the smell of freshly cut grass and hot toast with peanut butter and a cup of fruit tea. I'm easily pleasedsmile

I'm easily pleased too but often too lazy to hang things out to dry, plus the towels go a bit crinkly on the line don't they?

How about gratitudes for ....

domestic appliances
humour &
friendship ....

I could go on all day smile

stressedHEmum Fri 13-Jun-14 09:47:19

Aye, where we would be without domestic appliances? Having lived for a good while without a washing machine or hoover, I can say that I am truly grateful to have them - washing for 7 folk by hand is no funsmile

more sunshine
a wee bit of warmth in the air
a brilliant night at BB last night, the boys are in great form just now.

Annunziata Fri 13-Jun-14 11:01:04

Hello kumquat smile How old is your wee one?

I was one of 8 growing up in the 70s and 80s- the housework was incredible shock

Well, 3 of my DC managed to break their ankles this week- 1 fell off a scooter, 1 tried to climb over the baby gate and I don't even know what the last one did as he informed me that it would not be gentlemanly to tell shock Lord give me strength!

so I am grateful for strong coffee and good friends!

stressedHEmum Fri 13-Jun-14 18:41:01

Good grief, Annunziata, 3 at once. I thought that this house was accident prone. Poor wee things. You'll have to do a lot of fetching and carrying. Although, it could be worse. A couple of summers ago, DS3 broke both his arms. it's not much fun accompanying a 14 year old boy to the loosmile

extra gratitude -
DS3 appears to have outgrown most of his accident prone-ness

I'm so sorry to hear that Annunziata - what a week sad

Glad for you that you can still be grateful for coffee brew and friends smile

Annunziata Sat 14-Jun-14 22:03:01

How on earth did he break both arms? shock

Thankfully there is enough Glaswegian in me to think it is funny grin I have quite a dark sense of humour, I think I must be grateful for that today!

stressedHEmum Mon 16-Jun-14 09:05:56

Fell off an assault course obstacle at BB camp, Annunziata. he was trying to show off but hadn't quite grown into his size yet, iykwim. After we realised that there was no lasting damage or anything like that, I thought it was quite funny as well. Served him right really.

gratitudes -
lovely warm, summery weekend
DS3 got safely back from his wee holiday without any incident
friends and family
food, water, safety and shelter
the rule of law and a mostly mature, peaceful country to live in

Some good news-
DS3 has got a college place and another interviewsmile
DS2 has won a Physics medal for 1st year - that means that he was top of his year for his physics courses
My friend whose husband was involved in that terrible pile up recently has been released from hospital, albeit with a lot of equipment, community care and conditions on it (they aren't allowed visitors or anything, yet)
My friend whose husband's job was under threat has had a reprieve for the moment, however, many others in his company were not so lucky, so bitter sweet news.

WingDefence Mon 16-Jun-14 20:07:26

Well helllooooooo! Can you tell work has got in the way again? blush

Once to all those who have broken things recently and in the past. I've never broken a bone yet! but I hear it's pretty painful...

I have lots of gratitudes!
For DD who is walking and chatting and just being so adorable
For DS whose behaviour has got a lot better these past few weeks (new older boy at school influencing him to be ruder etc)
For the work my DH does at church
For sunnier, warmer days!
For family
For my health
For a happy marriage
For the World Cup grin
For our wages
For elderflower cordial
For Jesus smile

So a bit of everything in there. Could do with some cake though!

Ahh, bless you all thanks

Daily Gratitudes ...

My DNiece just Facebook'd from the US (where she is for the summer) that she got a 2:1 smile So, all set now to train as a teacher in the autumn, and sooo pleased for her

I signed the contract and sent off the various forms for my new job today
(not keen on forms either - so pleased I've got that done)

Music in the house on Monday evenings when their music teacher comes over and still playing their ukuleles now.

Have some cake everyone!

stressedHEmum Wed 18-Jun-14 10:13:53

Welcome back, wing. Everyone loves cake

Juggling, music in the house is lovely, isn't it. DS1 plays the sax to a really, really high standard (think well above grade 8 level) and I miss hearing him practice.

The other kids play, variously, the harmonica, the guitar, the violin, the ukulele and the ocarina, but nothing compares to a well played sax. I wouldn't tell them that, though.

gratitudes -
the continuing lovely summer weather
sunny washing
summer food - I do love a good salad
summer mission plans going well, it's only 10 days or so till we kick off. I can't believe it.
food, clean water, shelter and safety

WingDefence Wed 18-Jun-14 10:47:27

Morning all smile

For creation
For the wonder of science
For engineering (I'm on the train to London again today!)
For love
For all children

crescentmoon Wed 18-Jun-14 10:52:00

salaam everybody!


beautiful sunny day,
living in security and peace,
my new neighbour and her lovely children,
watermelons to make up for there not being any indo-pak mangoes this year,
for a united family, and that we work to each others strengths,
for whatever is to come for my dcs, God Willing they always have each other.

stressedHEmum Thu 19-Jun-14 09:08:53

Dearest crescent, it's lovely to see you back. How are you? I'm so glad things are going well for your wee family at the moment. I have watermelon lovers in here, too. Sadly they don't so much like mangoes. Oh well, they can't like everything I suppose.

Wing, your gratitudes are lovely. The one about children is challenging me at the moment because I have a v. difficult wee one at BB and I am not grateful for him. I need an attitude adjustment, I think.

gratitudes -
children all got on well last night, for a change (even DS3 and DD), they were all outside playing with waterguns - I thought 21y/o and 17y/o young men would be a bit too grown up for that, but I was wrongsmile
continued beautiful weather
DS3 has had another offer of a college place, so now he has choices
a peaceful neighbourhood to live in
books and the ability to read
birds - a wee fledgling sparrow was perched on one of my bushes last night. it was so lovely to watch it because it hasn't developed much wariness of people yet and I was really, really close.

stressedHEmum Fri 20-Jun-14 10:07:16

Life in God's beautiful world
food and water

Annunziata Fri 20-Jun-14 13:58:01

lovely summer sunshine
my flag grin

WingDefence Sat 21-Jun-14 20:42:29

Hi all!

Seeing friends who I've not seen in over a year
New friends
Summer sun
A head that is free from mental illness (and healing prayers for all those who suffer)
A DH who loves me

crescentmoon Sat 21-Jun-14 20:47:56

Thanks so much dear stressed,I love hearing how your kids are doing too. And also your boys at BB. How is your health?
wing lovely to read your gratitudes, annunziata, juggling too!

Gratitudes today:

That the pounding headache earlier has gone,
My dc have been happily playing In the garden all afternoon,
Chocolate traybake,
Special poignant meals in the sunshine- this time next week it will be a no no for month,
Good people

stressedHEmum Mon 23-Jun-14 09:11:13

I'm much the same, crescent. At the moment, I am able to make it through most days as long as I don't do too much and spend most of the weekend asleepsmile Pain isn't too bad now this new medication has kicked in. Was terrible for the first month, though.

I'm glad your headache has gone. They are dreadful and really affect your ability to do things. Are you fasting this year for Ramadan? May God bless your efforts.

gratitudes -
rest in Jesus and the peace that it brings
faith of all kinds (except the very extreme kind that thrives on conflict)
the laughter of children
all the small blessings of daily life
a brood of wee baby sparrows which are feeding in the garden
peace and quiet to pray and read the bible

qumquat Mon 23-Jun-14 13:48:33

I meant to post here every day then lost the thread! Feel really down today so here goes:

My dd
That she has a father who adores her, even if we split up
Dd sitting up and laughing and blowing bubbles at me as I type
My job, which I miss so much but it will still be there after maternity leave! X

qumquat Mon 23-Jun-14 14:25:05

Thank you so much for your welcomes! Dd is 5 months and loving life!

Hi qumquat, I remember watching wimbledon (on TV) with dd when she was a few months old. I seem to remember her following the ball from side to side in her little bouncy chair in the kitchen, but I might be imagining things. We certainly watched it together anyway!

What's getting you down? I'm a bit down too but had a family bereavement a few months ago and will take the summer I think to get through the worst of grief for everyone.

Gratitudes can be a real help I've found. This is such a lovely thread thanks Doing them daily could be a great idea - you and me both qumquat?

Some for today then ....

Our lovely town park, have just been for a walk around it, and some pea soup in the cafe too. Also saw a friend to say hi to.

A relaxing summer ahead, a few weeks before the end of term, then lots of time with dd and ds (and sometimes dh) over the summer, with a new job to look forward to after the hols (though am feeling slightly nervous about that ATM truth be told, mainly the hours as more than I've done before)

My lovely dd and ds and their wonderful resilience and enthusiasm for life

Food, water, shelter, friendship

qumquat Mon 23-Jun-14 17:14:19

juggling dp and I might be splitting up, plus I have ongoing depression, so things are tough at the moment! I'm a bit of a workaholic and realise work kept me together, really struggling with maternity leave. Gratitude does really help though so I will keep coming back. A couple more:

The way I have managed to improve my mood from this morning
Possibly making a new friend
The ability to feel hope for the future

qumquat Mon 23-Jun-14 17:17:11

I'm very sorry for your loss Juggling I hope the summer together with your family will help you all to grieve as you need to. thanks

Thanks qumquat - singing is a nice one to add. I love all sorts of music, especially song, but wish my own singing voice was a bit more reliable/tuneful!

WingDefence Mon 23-Jun-14 19:55:59

Evening all!

qumquat, sorry to hear that you're feeling down at the moment sad The first few months with a baby is hard going for anyone, let alone if you have depression etc. I'm also better when I'm working - I lasted 8 months in both my maternity leaves before getting back to work, albeit part-time. I loved my time off and I really appreciate the day off every week I have with DD (DS at school), but I could not be a SAHM!

Gratitudes: for exciting footy football
For kind friends
For the sun
For my DPs

stressedHEmum Tue 24-Jun-14 09:59:55

Oh, qumquat, I am sorry to here that you are feeling down and that you and DP are having a hard time. Having a new baby can wreak havoc on a relationship. They are small, cuddly and smell so good, but they bring so many changes and are so much hard work that they can push us to our very limits. I will pray that things settle down for you, if you don't mindthanks

gratitudes -
rain to water the world
summer warmth
children who grow more independent each day
our Summer Mission is fast approaching and we already have 40 kids registered with another reg. day on Saturday.
food, water, safety and shelter
the laughter of the two little children next door as they play outside, mine are, sadly, past that stage now

qumquat Tue 24-Jun-14 22:44:32

Thank you stressed that is very kind of you.

Today's Gratitudes:

Dd's incredible belly laugh
Hearing beautiful cello playing
My wonderful friend keeping me company and working together on mindfulness
A little lie in ( until 7!)
Dd's fascination with the world
Being in a more positive mood
That I have had a good day

crescentmoon Wed 25-Jun-14 10:04:43

Stressed to be honest I always admire your strength in your faith and also the commitment to your community even with having to take pain medication always. its very humbling to me as after 30 plus years of rude health, and always seeing my body as a strong obedient machine, suddenly in the last 6 months iv lost that confidence with one thing after another. its made me appreciate all those good years and take better care of myself now too!
lovely to read your gratitudes qumquat, who plays the cello in your family? i find i become re energised by my childrens fascination with the world too, it makes me look upon the ordinary with new eyes.


the NHS,
ds's nursery teachers for the great work they do with him,
for inspirational people in my life,
for faith and the comfort and succor it brings,
hot cups of tea, each one more precious than the last with Ramadan fast approaching (i will be doing the fast stressed this year),
for lovely fruit from my local greengrocer

Annunziata Wed 25-Jun-14 15:29:09

kumquat i am sorry you are feeling down, but hopefully a lovely 5 month old will cheer you up!

good luck in your new job, juggling, I really miss working!

<waves> at wing- who are you supporting?

stressed, 40 children, marvellous. your community is so lucky to have you!

crescent, i hope you have a peaceful fast. it must have been this time last year i ‘met’ you all, and i feel so lucky and grateful for that.

Also I am grateful for music, I heard a marvellous song the other day, my DD made me listen to it, it is very cheerful. ‘When Jesus says yes, nobody can say no!’ And it is Beyonce singing, believe it or not!


WingDefence Wed 25-Jun-14 22:22:35

I'll listen to that later!

For a great evening outside playing netball
For a lovely school sports day at which none if the children were hurt and everyone had a great time
For answers to prayers
For bananas (yes really!)

qumquat Thu 26-Jun-14 08:57:51

I have decided to try doing Gratitudes in the morning to get my day off to a positive start. crescentmoon the cello was at a baby group where they have different love music every week, it's the high point of my week!

Here we go:
Breast feeding cafés and peer supporters
Our wonderful cleaner who's last day it is today as we can't afford her any more
Mindfulness exercises
Dd sitting herself up in the bath (eek)
Dd bum shuffling across the floor (double eek)
Interesting documentaries on TV

qumquat Thu 26-Jun-14 09:14:04

I sometimes find Gratitudes can be another stick to beat myself with eg. 'All these good things so how dare you be miserable?!?' Does anyone else get this? I know I need to be kinder with myself as nothing achieved by turning even the positives into a negative!

I don't know if I get that qumquat but I have a feeling that small, specific things seem to work best gratitude wise - to really help you feel it.

So, making myself a brew just now, and could feel gratitude too for the clean water and the lovely dried chamomile leaves which will create the infusion (we're out of milk after breakfast until I buy some more, hence experimenting with more fancy store-cupboard finds) and some golden syrup which I'm hoping will add a slightly caramalised sweetness

A beautiful wild flower or semi wild flower in our garden will often catch my eye and lift my spirits too - we have some beautiful blue campanula's at the moment - gorgeous bright blue and slightly delicate bell shapes catching the breeze

stressedHEmum Thu 26-Jun-14 10:24:43

I understand that completely, qumquat. The whole "get a grip, look how blessed you actually are" thing. it's a bad way to think and gains us nothing.

Like Juggling, I think that it's good to focus on small things when you feel like that, things outside yourself. Things like birdsong, wild flowers, the smell of cut grass or hearing a child laugh always make me smile and make me feel blessed.

You really do need to be kinder to yourself. Depression is a horrible illness and it takes away so much of what makes us who we are. Try to cut yourself some slack, please, and look after yourself as best you can. Remembering the small blessings and high points should be a positive thing.

gratitudes -
sleep - have had a really hard couple of days, I think I slept for 19 hours yesterday, just being overdoing it and need to get back on track.
wee birds
rain to water the plants
fruit tea
beautiful music

qumquat Fri 27-Jun-14 09:05:53

Thank you stressed and juggling, doing these Gratitudes is helping.

Beautiful bubbles reflecting rainbows at baby group
Decaf tea so I can get that wonderful tea comfort any time of day
Davina fitness video lifting my mood
My best friends
Delicious chicken sandwich for lunch
Dd enjoying her first taste of cucumber
The lovely refreshing taste of cucumber

Lovely to see you mention the refreshing cucumber for both you and dd ....
it's often like they help us to re-discover things with their own discoveries.

I remember appreciating pear in a whole new way after ds decided it was his favourite fruit ....
The delicious, juicy, often under appreciated English pear smile

We have sports day today so gratitudes for that

We also have rain at present so trying to have some gratitude for that as we do need it at some point don't we?! But a sunnier afternoon would be good too!

crescentmoon Fri 27-Jun-14 09:36:53

morning all, its so lovely reading through everyones gratitudes,

mine today,

spending time with family this week,
a great workout yday,
for my neighbour taking ds and dd to school,
the cozy coupe my friend passed on to us - lots of fun for ds2 already,

stressedHEmum Fri 27-Jun-14 10:00:09

Cosy Coupes are great, crescent. Mine all loved their wee car, years of enjoyment came from that wee thing.

I'm glad this is helping, qumquat. it's good to focus on the wee positive things.

gratitudes -
sunshine - hooray, more dry washing. It's been wet here for a few days.
hot tea
comfy seat to sit on
food, water, safety and shelter
crispy salad to eat
my beautiful children

The sun even shone for the end of sports day, in spite of the forecast being an afternoon deluge!
Met some lovely friends there to chat to.
Really enjoyed a charity lunch I was helping with earlier, and hosting it with friends
Good to have a slightly busier day, though time to relax especially in the garden in summer is a blessing too

WingDefence Fri 27-Jun-14 22:34:38

Evening all. I'm in a bit of a grump this evening (nothing serious, don't want to take away from those who are really suffering) but my gratitudes today may be a bit repetitive.

For my gorgeous DCs
For my Dfriend's strength of mind through a recent horrible period
For music (Glasto!)
For sport

Lots of good ones there WingDefence

- especially music, that's got to be one for everyone?

BTW I liked Goal Attack best - can go nearly everywhere and still have a go at shooting! IIRC smile

qumquat Sat 28-Jun-14 09:16:29


I had a lovely day yesterday:

Beautiful roses in the sun
The park
Mindfulness meditation
A fit body to walk and run
Friendly people eg the gardener in the park who smiled and said hello- little things like this can really brighten my day
Cooking without fear (I have a history of eating disorders and still wobble sometimes)
Delicious soup
Dd desperately reaching for her favourite toy
Laughter with friends

Annunziata Sat 28-Jun-14 22:19:58

all our friends back on our thread
people who wave back at enthusiastic toddlers
daft teenagers
young love

crescentmoon Sun 29-Jun-14 13:07:38

salaam (peace) everybody,

stressed its been so fun watching him enjoy it, i only wish i had got him one before this, it would have saved me lots of hovering at mother and toddler groups to make sure he would give it up for other children to play! i think he would take his meals and sleep in it if he could!

qumquat that sounds like a great toddler group with the cello playing. so nice to readyour daily gratitudes and jugglings, wings, annunziata, stressed, reading yours reminds me to make and count mine.


for the dc who remind me to appreciate life,
the food i have ready for the end of the day,
that i woke up on time today,
for watermelons and how hydrating they are, i still dont feel thirsty!
my raw foods health nut friend, may God bless her!

ItHasANiceRingWhenYouLaugh Tue 01-Jul-14 13:27:05

Hi, I have been invited to share gratitude on FB but they are too personal and open to misinterpreation so do you mind if I join?

Thank you, God, for the bounty of your love and for prayer group this morning. Thank you for helping me control myself and not just blub the whole time. Thank you for my new cleaner. Thank you for the cancelled appointment this afternoon which means I can rest more. Thank you for the opportunity to take my children's friends out and repay some of the many favours I have received. Thank you for the sunshine, and the guinea pig. Thank you for the possibility of getting better... I want it so much but am scared of getting my hopes up. Amen.

Welcome WhenYouLaugh (or ItHas ?)

Glad you had some time to rest today. I've had some time today, and generally this summer too, and it's much appreciated.

Just noticing how lovely your greeting is crescentmoon .....

salaam (peace) everybody .....

So, thank you for sharing it, and the same from me to you all x

qumquat Tue 01-Jul-14 22:36:00

Have missed a few days. Lovely to read all of your Gratitudes.

These are from a few days together:

-Dd is helping me to notice the little things like beautiful colours and different textures. Which gives me so much more to notice and be grateful for.
-the man in the park playing classical music while listening to the view - for both his friendliness and his ability to enjoy the simple things
-exercise class
-the miracle of dd's birth. I've been going back over that day and feeling so blessed
-Comfortable sofa
-my new course of cbt
-Flamenco guitar (today's baby group)
-dp getting up with dd in the morning so I can grab an extra hour's sleep
-beautiful views across London

Youoryou Wed 02-Jul-14 18:42:21

I am grateful that my Lord forbade alcohol and it has made my life so much easier especially when I see how alcohol destroys people lives

ItHasANiceRingWhenYouLaugh Wed 02-Jul-14 19:29:12

I am grateful that I have had opportunities to rest today and resources to buy guinea pig supplies. I am grateful to have Downton Abbey to watch when I am low.

Annunziata Wed 02-Jul-14 19:42:09

Salaam, crescent, DD was at her best friends to break their fast yesterday and I was thinking of you smile

Welcome, Ithas, such beautiful gratitudes!

<waves> at juggling,, are you having good weather this summer? Ours is very changeable in Glasgow, I'm sure everyone is not surprised!

That sounds a fabulous baby class, qumquat!

Hello you, welcome to gratitudes!

grateful for
my children
the chance to go on holiday
my mother's new pet chickens!

Grateful first for everyone's cheerful gratitudes - especially noticed yours Annunziata - and thank you for hosting a lovely thread thanks

Yes, we've had a lovely few days of sunshine this week A - and I've enjoyed some nice walks in the park and time in the garden

Gratitudes too for good literature and inspiring or encouraging words - I've especially enjoyed discovering Mitch Albom's books this spring and summer

Thanks too going up for my new job for the new autumn term

And also for the summer days to enjoy first with DC, family and friends over the summer hols x

crescentmoon Thu 03-Jul-14 00:15:32

very glad you liked it juggling, salaam (peace) to you and annunziata and all here,

welcome from me too ithas and you

annuziata so nice your dd was invited for an iftar/a break-fast meal (breakfast but the other end of the day wink]). i hope they put on a good spread for her!


for clean precious water - im on my fifth glass this night,
for wonderful vegetables and fruit,
for spicy chicken wings and gorgeous kebabs,
for kashew nut and date bars,
for now knowing i can live without diet soda or caffeine for 7 days straight!

(my gratitudes are going to be all about food for a few weeks hehe)

Youoryou Thu 03-Jul-14 03:17:39

Thank you crescent and I hope you are having a very blessed Ramadhan smile

Annunziata Fri 04-Jul-14 20:51:20

You're very welcome juggling flowers

A good spread, crescent, she was sent home with enough food to feed us all twice over and that was just the leftovers!

some late evening sunshine
good food
a home
my DH

Have just been reading through this lovely thread again, so firstly tonight ...
gratitudes for you my dear friends
And for music - dh is playing his ukulele - is learning "Fairytale of New York" which we both love, dd wants to play her flute before lesson tomorrow (even if it is getting a bit late!) Can hear her playing a few notes now ...
Goodnight hug from cuddly and cute ds
23rd psalm, which I was reminded of upthread x

Annunziata Sun 06-Jul-14 22:05:28

It is early for Christmas music grin

I am grateful for the beautiful sky outside my window.

I am also grateful that we sang Do Not Be Afraid in Mass, because I know God is within me and guiding me always.

I am taking my brood on holiday this week and afterwards is the Commonwealth Games and we are expecting to be very busy in our shop, so I don't know how often I will be here over the next few weeks, but you are all in my hearts and I will toast you all in bella italia.

baci (kisses) flowers

Tanti bacio per te caro Annunziata thanks Xxx

stressedHEmum Mon 07-Jul-14 10:34:58

Good morning grin. How is everyone. welcome all lovely new people. Your gratitudes are beautiful. Simple blessings make life worthwhile.

Ramadan Mubarak, crescent. I pray that God blesses and sustains you during this time of service and reflection. Blessings to any other Muslim sisters at this most special and important time for them thanks

Annunziata, have a fabulous holiday. Enjoy the calm before the storm.

gratitudes -
Summer mission was fab - 62 kids, all week, learning about Jesus and the Gospel, praising God and having fun
DS4 coped well with it, we only had a couple of incidents all week, thanks be to God.
summer sunshine
line dry washing
clean, cold water
that someone to fix my broken boiler is only a phonecall away - you don't realise how much you depend on hot, running water until you don't have it any more.
beautiful music
birds and bumble bees
safety and shelter

Was there a well hidden broken boiler lurking somewhere in those gratitudes stressed?! grin
If so, hope it gets fixed soon.

And meanwhile I'll join you with gratitudes for clean, cold water smile
It is indeed a great blessing, that many have to walk miles for, and often do not have a clean, safe supply even then.

When I start my new job I hope to be able to support Water Aid

crescentmoon Tue 08-Jul-14 11:55:29

annunziata have a lovely break too. im so glad your family got to eat some lovely iftar food, i wish you were my neighbour so i could cook for your lovely self and children too.
stressed so nice to read Ramadan Mubarak from you my sister. really lovely to read your gratitudes and see how well your all doing.
juggling definitely agree with clean cold water, some days in the past week iv got to points when id just want to give up everything i have for a simple glass of water. i think waterAid do great work too.


lovely meal yday with the kids and DH (we let them all stay up for iftar for the first time).
watermelons - blessed watermelons and their amazing hydrating properties!
clean cold water with ice,
grateful for big juicy dates, i cant believe such a sweet nutritious fruit comes from the dry arid desert!

crescentmoon Tue 08-Jul-14 11:55:42

blessed Ramadan to you too dear you.

Seabright Wed 09-Jul-14 00:01:42

Hello, I'm new to this, but want to say thank you for some good things that happened today:
1. A mistake I made at work came right. I had owned up and although, in hindsight, I could have keep quiet, I am glad I took immediate responsibility for what I'd done. I don't feel deserving of the "luck/whatever" that made my mistake right.
2. My DD's first school report.

stressedHEmum Fri 11-Jul-14 10:08:16

Welcome, Sea, to our happy threadsmile. I'm glad things worked out for you after a mistake. it's always best, sin't it, to take responsibility, it can be hard though, especially when you feel really stupid. Also, a first report card - grins for your wee DD.

Crescent, I love dates. Is Ramadan a lot harder in the summer, you must have to go 16 hours without food or water - I don't think that I could.

Yes, there was a sneaky broken boiler, Juggling. It's fixed now, thankfully. That's about the only good thing about living in a council house - we don't have to worry about repairing things like that.

gratitudes -
restored hot water grin
skilled workmen who can fix things like broken boilers
more glorious summer sun
more lovely, sunny washing
clean, fresh cold water
salad for tea
outside prayer - I always feel closer to God when I'm outside

stressedHEmum Sun 13-Jul-14 09:04:11

rain to water the earth and nourish the crops

Glad your boiler is now fixed HE - it's very hard being without hot water I think. Of course world-wide it is quite a luxury isn't it? Even clean, cold water is far from universal, especially "on tap"

Ramadan Mubarak to all muslim sisters here. I'm curious to know more about how people keep Ramadan, especially as I enjoy shopping at our local asian supermarket, and see many people there in the evenings at the moment, preparing for an evening iftar?

stressedHEmum Wed 16-Jul-14 10:42:34

Clean running water is such a blessing. it's so hard to imagine how people deal with not having it. All the things that we take for granted like baths, showers, washing machines and even cooking with water would be gonesad

food, water, safety, shelter
reasonably happy children - although we all know what teenagers are like1

crescentmoon Thu 17-Jul-14 08:38:48

salaam my dear sisters in faith and my dear sisters in humanity!

lovely reading your gratitudes juggling and stressed, mine are all along the same lines today.


rule of law,
clean cheap water like you stressed, to drink, purify my clothes and wash for my prayers
that i can feed and clothe my children,
for having my home, not living in a refugee camp or centre,
the NHS

ramadan fasting is going really well here, halfway through and i almost dont notice it anymore. main problems juggling are sleep deprivation, the iftar is so late and the early morning meal so early that sleep gets abit disjointed. my appetite has shrunk and iv gone down a dress size so im quite pleased on that front too - i just dont know why i find dieting over the rest of the year so hard.

ItHasANiceRingWhenYouLaugh Thu 17-Jul-14 09:12:57

Hi all. :-) My gratitudes.

Being recovered from a procedure enough to watch my children's sports days.
Having my mum come and help out.
Getting only a little sunburnt yesterday, nothing severe.
Sunscreen. grin
My husband's job being rewarding and accepting of illness, so he can just take a day off when he is sick.
This thread.

Bless you all.

stressedHEmum Fri 18-Jul-14 09:33:31

Hello, nicering, what lovely gratitudes. I hope that you and your DH are feeling better and that illness is not ongoing.

gratitudes -
sunny washing grin
summer warmth
wee plants are beginning to produce delicious things
children continue to be well
Dh has a much needed day off coming up
food, water, safety and shelter.

crescent, I am so glad that Ramadan is going well. it must be difficult with the long days and the heat that some folks ar getting in England. I think that these things are easier when we are doing them for God. Isaiah 40 vv31 says but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.*and Phillipians 4 vv12-13 says *I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength. So God gives us the strength that we need. Do you have similar verses in the Quran?

Oh and I wish that I could lose a much needed dress sizegrin

crescentmoon Sun 20-Jul-14 09:41:20

those were both very lovely verses stressed and we have similar sentiments in the Quran and hadith.

" but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint"

i have felt like this, really strong this ramadan. not just spiritually strong but physically strong. so many little aches and niggles iv had the last few months have just disappeared through the month. and im out often, iv taken the dc to the park and to town every weekend, iv just been so different from the mopey, wiltey, weakly person i normally become when doing the littlest food deprivation! and i think this strength is from faith in the Lord God and because i am doing the fast for Him, not for myself, and how apt 'they will walk and not be faint'. i was thinknig to myself the other day walking along how good i felt in myself, how healthy. really nice to read stressed.

"I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength." again so eloquent. i think the daily gratitudes we do here is part of the secret of being content in and every situation, but i hope i gain more of that.


for stressed's sharing of Isaiah 40 vv31 and Phillipians 4 vv12-13.

Wondering if there is something for me in the idea of being content in every situation. As you know I have been mourning the loss of my DNephew this spring and early summer, so I'm not going to be happy as it's easy to feel modern society wants you to be - you know like you were living in an advert!

But perhaps whilst missing someone and grieving their loss you can hope to still be content? Knowing that that sense of loss has a lot to do with the love you have for that person, and the beautiful, sometimes ephemeral quality of life - as seen in the Japanese celebration of the passing cherry blossom every spring-time.

So gratitudes for those we love, both those we share this Earth with today, and those we've loved but see no more.
For flowers and blossoms
And for poetry and other words of wisdom and insight
For friendship to share all of this with thanks

stressedHEmum Mon 21-Jul-14 23:40:07

Juggling, that is beautiful. I think that th pressure on us to be "happy" is immense and we are given a completely unattainable goal by adverts, magazines, tv programmes and the like. We are set up to fail, really. Contentment and acceptance are wonderful gifts, the weight off your shoulders when you stop trying to attain "the dream" and just try to make the best of the life you have is incredible. I love those verses and Jesus's teachings in the Sermon on the Mount, they are the ones that help keep me grounded.

I really hope that you can find some positivity from your loss and can move towards feeling joy at your memories. I still hold you in my prayers.

God is walking with you this Ramadan, crescent, praise God. I am so very, very glad that you are strong and healthy now and that your faith is growing and strengthening within you. Allahu akbar.

gratitudes -

sunshine and warmth
food, water, safety ans shelter
the fun of playing with the children

ItHasANiceRingWhenYouLaugh Tue 22-Jul-14 10:38:08

Today I am grateful that I found my escaped guinea pig hiding under a bush in the garden, that my daughter's new mattress will arrive today and her room will stop smelling of wee, that my husband is all better, that my procedure seems to have had a good effect, that my children are budding entrepreneurs, and that I can rest a lot if I need to.

Thanks stressed thanks

crescentmoon Wed 23-Jul-14 09:51:41

aww thanks stressed, you dont know how touched i was by your last part there to me. thank you so much, Allahu Akbar, God is Great. thanks

juggling i really found it poignant your talking of the ephemeral aspect of this worldly life in relation to your beloved nephew's passing. i cant add much more to the wise words stressed wrote. but on finding something of gratitude in each moment even when the overall situation is not what you wish, i really recommend this TED talk given by David Steindl Rast (a benedictine monk and interfaith scholar). iv linked him before but it is a great talk open to all faiths and non.


but sometimes you cant find that happiness in difficult times and then i just fall back to patient perseverance. i think as well as the pressure to be 'happy' there is also the complete lack of support in teaching 'patience'. sometimes you just have to work through those emotions and experiences, endure them until you can get through the other side. so sorry again about your nephew juggling.

gratitudes today.

something i was dreading didnt go as badly as i thought,
a new opportunity opened for me, i praise and thank God by His Name Al Fattaah (The Opener).
a roof over my head,

crescentmoon Wed 23-Jul-14 09:52:28

welcome itsanicering btw.

Thanks crescent - that link looks very interesting, though might have to get back to it in a few days as just trying to get the show on the road this morning for a couple of days with the DGP's (who live near London) - hoping for a London day trip during our middle day there.
Will miss this lovely thread whilst I'm away thanks

So today's gratitudes to do with our visit to DGP's - for holidays and interesting things to see and do, and for all our loved ones and time with them.

Thank you too for your very kind words crescent thanks

qumquat Wed 23-Jul-14 21:05:49

Hello. Happy to be back, trying to be on this thread as it does me good, while also trying to curb an unhealthy use of the internet to blot out/numb me to real life. So, attempting again to come here once a day. I've had a terrible day but can still find Gratitudes:

Cold water
Cool breeze
The view from the park
Dd's smile
Dd's face as she sleeps
Beautiful music on the radio
Friendly and supportive work colleague
That I had the confidence to state an opinion which differed from other people's. The more I do this, the less terrifying I will find it!

Sorry I haven't had time to read the thread today. I will hopefully catch up tomorrow

stressedHEmum Thu 24-Jul-14 09:31:29

Welcome back, qumquat. I hope that today is a better day for you and that everything settles down in tour life. Sometimes finding good things amongst all the troubles we face is so very hard but it can give is the perseverance that we need to keep plodding on.

gratitudes -

that *qumquat was able to find the good amongst all the difficulties
that crescent continues to have a blessed and generous Ramadan
that juggling is having a lovely break from day to day life
that DS2 and 4 have been busy tidying up the garden the last couple of days - I don't know what I would do without DS2, he has the patience of a saint. Not many 21 year olds would be willing to spend hours every day with their 11 year old brother
for sunny washing smile
for garden tomatoes - this is the earliest that I have ever had any ripen
for the courgettes, cucumbers, peppers, herbs and everything else that are beginning to be ready to eat in the garden - God is great and his bounty overwhelming
food, water, safety and shelter
friends and family
an education

stressedHEmum Fri 25-Jul-14 10:22:11

sunshine and dry washing
cold, clean water
wee birds

qumquat Fri 25-Jul-14 16:07:36

Thank you stressed


crescent for linking to the TED talk which I found inspiring
Tears when needed
Cold clean water
Scones with butter and jam
Cool breeze
Dd pulling herself up and exploring the world

stressedHEmum Sat 26-Jul-14 11:14:53

Eid mubarak, crescent and all our Muslim sisters. May God bless you all.

Qumquat, am very glad things were a bit better yesterday. I love to watch babies when the begin to explore, they are an endless source of joy.

gratitudes -
my 5 healthy children
DH has taken DS4 to Glasgow today to try an soak up some of the atmosphere which is apparently fab.
sunny washing again - oh how I love it
more garden ripe tomatoes
food, water, safety and shelter
the sound of next door's little children playing in the garden

My gratitudes this morning - oh, ok, afternoon ...

For a chilled morning at home, listening to music and sitting in the garden companionably with dh
For an interesting few days visiting London whilst with DGP's - went to the Globe theatre on the south bank with DGF (DF) which I hadn't been to before. Lovely walk too along from London bridge by the river in the sunshine, and delicious pizza for lunch too (at Pizza Express) Also some clothes shopping with little DNeice and my two which she (especially) loved. Good to see DSis whilst there too.
For a nice cup of tea brew and earlier in the garden toast and marmalade smile

crescentmoon Sun 27-Jul-14 23:50:13

May God bless you and keep you dear stressed. Eid Mubarak to you too thank you so so much my sister. qumquat so glad you liked that TED talk Iv heard it five times and each time I pick up something new from it!


Honestly: that I managed the fasting without backsliding. I had been very scared before ramadan started that I might do that!
For beautful clean drinking water,
For good family and friends,
Delicious watermelons,
Lovely to read sfresseds appreciation of next doors little children playing. I suppose mine is similar, and I'm also grateful there is a good strong fence between us and their happy jumpy dog!

Eid mubarak all, salaam (peace) and love

stressedHEmum Fri 01-Aug-14 09:22:01

Crescent, Do not be afraid for the Lord your God goes with you ( a little bit of Deuteronomy 31:6). I am so glad that you had a blessed Ramadan and managed to maintain your fastthanks.

Speaking of next doors littlies, they went away for a couple of days and the place was so quiet without them. it just wasn't the same. They are always wandering into my garden for a chat or to show me something that they've found. it's a joy to me. When they came back, the older girl (she's 5) came straight round and asked if I'd missed her, so I was able to tell her in all honesty that I had.


rain to nourish the earth
foodbank continues to help lots of people
friends got back safely from a fab holiday
another friend and I cleaned our our BB cupboard yesterday - now we are just about set for a new session
garden veg ripening and being delicious
food, water, safety and shelter
God's many, many blessings

17 years with DS3. he's a bit of a trial sometimes but he's a wonderful boy, really.grin

stressedHEmum Sun 03-Aug-14 08:37:50

food, water, safety and shelter
life in a relatively peaceful, stable country
the grace of God and the peace that it brings

crescentmoon Sun 03-Aug-14 08:54:14

good morning stressed, i always know when you post about painkillers in your daily gratitudes list that must mean you have been in some discomfort lately. i really hope you get better my dear sister. so sweet that your little neighbour came over to say hello and ask if you missed her, its so lovely to have the trust and cinfidence of a small child like that. i never thought i was much maternal before i had children but i realise even now when i am going about childfree i still like to play and talk to children going about my day!


free time

stressedHEmum Wed 06-Aug-14 09:10:36

I've been struggling for a few weeks, now, crescent. What I really need is a couple of weeks off but that's not going to happen, so I'll just have to make the best of itsmile

more garden tomatoes - yum
food, water, safety and shelter
fruit tea
line dry washing, yesterday
family and friends
foodbank continues to do its job.

stressedHEmum Fri 08-Aug-14 09:16:07

gratitudes -

a fab, very, very productive BB staff meeting (with the few staff that we have leftsad) on Wednesday evening. Now we have something positive to take forward.
time spent with my parents yesterday
sunshine and sunny washing
food, water, safety and shelter
delicious cakesmile

Annunziata Fri 08-Aug-14 21:09:35

Hello everyone smile I am so glad to be back on our thread, I have missed you all dearly and I've been praying for you all.

having a house and home
all 3 broken ankles in our house are now healed!

Annunziata Tue 12-Aug-14 14:59:27

my mum
peace in our corner of the world

stressedHEmum Wed 13-Aug-14 09:48:41

Annunziata, how fab to have you backgrin. Did you have a good holiday and them Commonwealth Games. DH said the town was buzzing during them. He'd never seen Glasgow so busy or happy! He took the kids up a couple of days to see the sights and hear the music (sadly, we couldn't afford tickets), they loved it.

Hope everyone else is well.

sunshine after the rain
food, water, safety and shelter
home grown runner beans - I love them!

Annunziata Wed 13-Aug-14 19:13:57

It was great, really wonderful. I was very proud to be Glaswegian grin And you, and the kids? Looking forward to going back to uni?

a good drying day today

stressedHEmum Fri 15-Aug-14 10:00:54

We're fine, thanks, Annunziata. DS2 is preparing to go back to St. Andrews in 3 weeks. DS3 starts at Stow on the 25th - they seem really, really disorganised this year, must be the effects of this merger. it's the same here where all the local colleges have merged into one Ayrshire college and the whole thing is a shambles (a friend's daughter is a lecturer and they are all in a complete flap because the organisation is so bad.)

gratitudes -
line drying - my favourite
more garden courgettes and tomatoes
some sunshine

Annunziata Sun 17-Aug-14 13:11:05

I didn't know the colleges were merging! Are they still in the lovely old red building?

my children

stressedHEmum Mon 18-Aug-14 08:24:10

Ds will, as far as we know, have classes in the Stow building along Cowcaddens Road from the bus station. He's not certain because neither is anyone else. Everything seems to be a bit up in the air at the mo. Glasgow Kelvin is a merger of, I think, Stow, John Wheatley and Glasgow North, so they have quite a lot of different buildings around the city. I just wish that it would all settle down so that DS knew what was happening.

gratitudes -
a relatively peaceful and restful weekend
some sunshine
shelter from the rain and wind

stressedHEmum Tue 19-Aug-14 08:29:04

line dried washing
bumble bees smile

Annunziata Tue 19-Aug-14 21:09:50

What a nightmare! shock You'll want to be all organised with transport as well. I hope they're more on the ball soon.

chickens and eggs

stressedHEmum Thu 21-Aug-14 19:01:22

I know. At the minute the plan is for him to get the X44 at 7am every morning, which gets him in in time to walk along to Stow and get to his class etc. But that'll all have to change if he's at a different campus. They haven't even had him in for the core skills test yet and he starts on Monday.

gratitudes -
afternoon sunshine
warm jumpers - I'm really cold just now.
food, water, safety and shelter
children, mine and everyone else's.

stressedHEmum Tue 26-Aug-14 08:12:33

Hope everyone is well, it's been a quiet thread recentlythanks

DS3 successfully negotiated his first day at college yesterday
fruit tea
food, water, safety and shelter

Annunziata Tue 26-Aug-14 21:02:20

Yes, I am thinking of all our friends flowers

Thank god your DS was alright, did he have a good day? Was he shattered? I am desperate for mine to go back, I was this close to throwing them into the garden with a football like I used to do when they were off school and annoying me!


stressedHEmum Thu 28-Aug-14 09:10:16

Yes, he was fine, Annunziata, but tired, the shock of getting up at 6am was quite clear to see. It's still a bit chaotic, the college are still trying to finalise their the time table etc. but he seems to have settled well. Lets just hope that he can continue with the early starts - he might even have to start going to bed at a sensible timegrin

Uni holidays as looong, DS2 is pretty keen to get back now, although DS4 will be heartbroken again when he goessad

more sun
sunny washing
home grown tomatoes
food, water, safety and shelter
DS3 is settling well at college, please God may it continue

stressedHEmum Sun 31-Aug-14 08:59:17

continued sunshine
continued sunny washing grin
healthy children
a roof over my head
surviving another week

flowers to all, hope everyone is doing OK

Annunziata Sun 31-Aug-14 21:09:54

Ah, are they close? Mine are all a bundle of big puppies really, I know they would be the same!

gratitudes for
wintery nights (yes, already! it's terrible!) with the curtains closed and hot chocolate
family dinners

wotoodoo Mon 01-Sep-14 09:49:47

smile Healthy loving dc and dh
smile Bunches of flowers from the garden for my df who has had a tough year and for our home
smile Animals we have taken on for the RSPCA who call us whenever they can't rehome knowing we never say no grin
smile Homegrown veg and fruit
smile Cuddles from our ponies
smile Living in the countryside
smile Those times living free from emotional and physical pain

stressedHEmum Tue 02-Sep-14 18:38:48

Welcome, wotoo, what lovely gratitudes.

Aye, the nights are fair drawing in, Annunziata. It's always the same, once the schools go back, there's the rapid slide into winter darknesssad

They are very close. Despite the 10 year age gap, DS2 has infinite patience with the wee one and always has time to play with him. it helps that they both like the same kind of geekfest board games and vidoe games. DS4 has even moved out of the room he shares with DS3 and into the top bunk of DS2's room, this holidays because DS2 has a more sensible sleep pattern than DS3. Not many 21 year olds would make room for their 11 year old brother in their hidey hole.

gratitudes -
another dry day
dry washing
sweet and sour lentils for tea
foodbank continues to be able to meet the need

crescentmoon Wed 03-Sep-14 07:37:42

checking in with dear friends on the gratitudes thread, hello wotoo, lovely to read your list!


that our late minute guests managed to catch their flight on time this morning,
that the dc are excited to be back at school today,
deep thankfulness for the strict no nonsense teacher ds's class are having this year, they need it!
for waking up in good health,
safety and security in which to raise my children

stressedHEmum Fri 05-Sep-14 09:09:44

Well, I shall try for the third time. I don't know what's going wrong this morning other than my general uselessness.

So glad your back, crescent. I was starting to worry about you - I forgot that you would still be on holiday. How wonderful that your wee ones are excited to be back at school, long may that continuesmile

gratitudes -
good weather is still here
DS2 is all set for going back to uni, all his paperwork is done
DS3 managed to safely negotiate another week at college (except for the night he missed the last bus home!)
BB started up again last night. We had 30 wee boys from 6-11 yeas old. I'm so relieved and v. happy about that. After last year's stramash, I was dreading having no boys at all.
food, water, safety and shelter
and - last but never least - sunny washinggrin

Hope everyone is well and that folks are just on holiday with their wee ones.

Annunziata Fri 05-Sep-14 21:04:11

Hello, wotoo, so lovely to see smiley faces!

I am so glad to see you again Crescent! Really I am flowers

30! Eeeeekkkk that's a lot shock I would be cowering in the corner grin

DD settling well in nursery
my mum behaving herself this week!
DD's boyfriend, who I like very much

stressedHEmum Sun 07-Sep-14 08:55:04

You wouldn't really, Annunziata. There are some challenging boys, there always are, but as long as you make clear what your expectations are from the get-go and have a consistent discipline structure, then it normally works out fine after a few weeks when they've all settled down. Having a good number makes it a bit easier, actually, because, noise aside, there's a lot more that you can do with them than if you only have a handful.

gratitudes -
very controversially, I am grateful that the yes vote has a lead in a poll. I actually feel sick at the thought of a No vote.
sunny washing - it came of the line yesterday smelling all warm and bakedgrin
the last of my tomatoes and courgettes
food, water, safety and shelter
ceasefires around the world

Annunziata Sun 07-Sep-14 12:39:32

Oh I am the opposite stressed. I wish it was over and we knew one way or another.

not having to cook dinner today!

crescentmoon Sun 07-Sep-14 14:31:53