5yo dd blaming God for everything. 'Why can't God just make it Friday so i can have Golden time today?'

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EweHaveGoatToBeSkiddinInSnow Tue 03-Dec-13 10:27:47

It's really irritating me. We're both Catholics (me not a practicing one, though) and dd attends a Catholic school.

These past few weeks, she's been going on about God and bombarding me with questions such as "Who made God?" "What was there before God?" "How can God be everywhere at the same time?"

I've answered as well as i could.

But now she's blaming God for every little thing. And it's these ones I'm struggling with.

"Why can't God just make it my birthday today?"

"Why can't God make me turn into a kitten instead of being a human?"

"Why can't God make me fly?"

"Why can't God make someone else have my cough?"

Etc etc etc. God is being blamed for such things 3-5 times a day in my house.

I've explained to her this morning about the Golden Time/Friday thing that it was humans who invented the idea of days and time etc, so it's nothing to do with God. But then she spun it around that God was the one who made humans and gave them their brains to think about naming the days in the first place.

Any ideas?

SnakePlissken Tue 03-Dec-13 13:51:30

Isn't the stock answer something like 'God works in mysterious ways' ?

ErrolTheDragon Tue 03-Dec-13 13:54:53

She sounds like a very intelligent child with an ability to think for herself which you should encourage! smile

MooncupGoddess Tue 03-Dec-13 13:55:35

grin These are all perfectly sensible questions.

Can you remind her that God cares about everyone in the world, not just her, so he's not going to give someone else her cough or make it her birthday today when it should be someone else's?

revivingshower Wed 04-Dec-13 00:41:14

I agree it is great she is learning about the nature of God and to understand him. God isn't a genie who grants wishes she should know that.

msmiggins Wed 04-Dec-13 08:17:39

She sounds a clever girl- you have to admit she has a point.

I'd be so proud of her.

curlew Wed 04-Dec-13 12:05:56

She's got a point. Wait til she hears about cancer and famine and child abuse and war and the Holocaust and tidal waves........ Then you'll have your work cut out!

technodad Wed 04-Dec-13 19:00:59

They sound like excellent questions to me. She doesn't sound like she is blaming god for anything, just exploring the world and asking sensible questions. Ones that you should be able to answer.

You should be very proud of her!

niminypiminy Wed 04-Dec-13 19:39:21

The questions are all versions of 'why can't I have what I want?' aren't they? As MooncupGoddess says, God is the God of everyone, and everyone can't have exactly what they want -- since getting what we want frequently means that other people don't get what they want. Could we all have what we want all of the time?

These are good questions for a child to ask, and they are hard ones too. They're hard to answer even if you leave God out of it, because the lesson that we cannot have what we want all the time is a hard one for anyone to learn.

LittleBabyPigsus Sun 08-Dec-13 23:17:37

She sounds very intelligent! I would be very proud.

whereisshe Sun 08-Dec-13 23:32:22

She sounds like a smart kid. But as niminy said, I think the correct answer is "I want doesn't get" (ie just because god is omnipotent doesn't automatically imply those powers get rolled out as and when you want).

springythatlldo Mon 09-Dec-13 03:12:02

What a gorgeous little sweetie! grin

Though I appreciate how trying the questions can be. YOu could go along with it a bit ie explore it with her - 'Zoe could have your cough I suppose, yes...' and see where she goes with it. Sounds like she'll work it out for herself tbh.

claraschu Mon 09-Dec-13 04:49:38

These questions are also versions of "Why does evil exist?", or "Why does God let millions of children die in agony from preventable diseases/ People in Africa starve/ Hitler kill 6 million Jews/ My brother die in a car crash/ etc.".

I have never seen an answer to these questions that made any sense to me.

She is clever and thoughtful.

EweHaveGoatToBeSkiddinInSnow Mon 09-Dec-13 10:43:48

Thanks so much for all your answers. Unfortunately the questions are still going on and she's started getting really annoyed with me.

The latest was this morning: "Why can't God just make my brain already know everything so that i don't have to go to school?"

"Why can't God make you give me toast instead of porridge?"

I agree that these are all her way of saying "Why can't I get what I want?"

And i have started answering her questions with things like "God isn't a magician." "You can't always have everything you want." "God treats everyone the same, and can't make someone else have a cough just because you don't want it."

And she answered to the last one: "But why did he give me the cough in the first place?"

So then i started going into how it was her body that controls her illnesses, not God. God is in charge of big, major things, not things like toast and coughs.

But then she started saying "But i thought God was everywhere? Why is he everywhere if he's only interested in big important stuff?"

My head is aching with it all. I just don't have the answers. I've been trying to find some child friendly books to help with it all, but to no avail. the librarian and the Waterstones guy both gave me hmm and confused looks when i asked them to help.

So I'll ask you all instead. Does anyone have a website or a book that could explain things a bit better to my dd than I'm able to? It seems like every explanation i give her, she follows it with another question.

whereisshe Mon 09-Dec-13 10:47:15

Since it's just a god-themed version of the "why stage" I'd look for resources on how to deal with that.

Could you start talking to her about how God expects people to make their own decisions and choices. That he gave her a brain and expects her to use it?

The questions are good - enjoy them while they last. It won't be long before she is telling you rather than asking - and rolling her eyes when you get the answers wrong.

Thistledew Mon 09-Dec-13 10:54:14

Just tell her that god is not about logic, or reason, or common sense but that some people find it helpful to believe that (there is a) god (who) does these things 'just because' he wants to.

Dutchoma Mon 09-Dec-13 10:54:35

I think whyisshe is right and this is just another phase of the 'whys' . In the end the only way to deal with it is to say: "why is why, darling?"
Re-inforce that God is God and that He loves her. That difficult things do happen in life, even though God does love us. Such is life. It is not fair. But then: if we were always happy we wouldn't know it.

EweHaveGoatToBeSkiddinInSnow Mon 09-Dec-13 10:54:58

Thanks again.

That's a good spin on it, Mrs Cakes. The 'free will' angle.

That God doesn't want us all to be robots. he wants us to make our own minds up about things. He wants us to learn patience etc which is why he can't make it Friday right now.

I'll try that and see how i get on.

NoComet Mon 09-Dec-13 10:57:57

There is no good answer that's why I've been an atheist since I was your DD's age.

Dutchoma Mon 09-Dec-13 11:03:32

Also in one of the Anne of Green Gables books Davey asks: "Can God make a stone that is so heavy that He cannot lift it?" And the answer is: "No, He can't". There are things God can do and there are things that He cannot do.
Quite a few of those if you think about it.

crescentmoon Mon 09-Dec-13 13:22:08

commiserations - i think your dd is making you explore and think about your religion more. i know my children do. there was a stage my eldest was asking me a particular question and i found it hard to answer. so i googled and found a great answer on a jewish website - we're muslims! i talked with him about ti and once when middle dc asked he gave her that same explanation!

BertieBowtiesAreCool Mon 09-Dec-13 13:24:38

Do you go to church? Or any family members. I bet someone in a church would love to sit and explore the concept of God with her and why he can do this but not that or perhaps that he can but doesn't choose to etc.

BertieBowtiesAreCool Mon 09-Dec-13 13:27:01

There was a nice part in Heidi when Heidi is upset because she has been praying and praying for God to send her home to the mountains and it doesn't happen, and when she speaks to Clara' Grandmama, Grandmama explains that although God listens to and hears all of our prayers, he doesn't always give us what we want right away and it's usually because he thinks there's something which is better for us, or he wants to answer our prayers in a different way which might be a good angle.

HoneyandRum Wed 25-Dec-13 23:51:47

Also God is not just a big human in the sky. We are created and we do not have an existence like God, for a start we are finite and mortal. We cannot understand God's ways except as Christians we believe that Jesus is God and by understanding Jesus we can understand who God is and what God's priorities are such as: love, kindness, forgiveness, humbleness, mercy etc. God's attributes help us get a handle on who God is.

FionasFatFairy Thu 26-Dec-13 00:00:21

Our Parish Sister says she dreads the days the children are sent to ask her these questions!

I agree with the suggestion that what we want is not always what is best for us, or for those around us.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 08:08:41

"What we want is not always what is best for us"

I'd say a starving person has a fair idea what would be best for them, only is seems quite often god disagrees. Could you explain how it's best for them to not have food or clean water?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 08:49:16

Thistledew and headinhands, God has everything to do with reason and we can come to know God through reason and "common sense". in Catholic theology truth and reason are very important. The modern University as we know it today and the scientific method were both developments of Catholicism. Education has always been an expression of faith for Catholics. With live in a world and universe of natural laws and where we can gain knowledge and understanding through reason.

Headinhands, we live in a world where if humans chose to we could provide basic sustenance for everyone but we choose not to share our resources. Some people would prefer a God who was their own personal wish-granter deciding to ignore the miraculous and generous environment we live in by taking it for granted. Catholics also believe we bear a responsibility for all human beings as our brother and sisters and therefore have always had a "preferential option for the poor". Working to relieve poverty, suffering and lack of education. The right for people to organize themselves and unionize to gain their fair share of resources is also part of Catholic theology.

Catholic theology has always understood that one way in which God is revealed and can be known is through observing and experiencing the natural world and the human person.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 10:47:50

I think the history of learning and education predates Catholicism by, oh, a few thousand years.

We may have the bare resources to feed everyone but other issues prevent that happening, issues that god knew about beforehand. It's the caged animals analogy again. Would it be moral to shove a load of animals into a cage knowing that some would suffer at the hands of the other animals?

If I put a mouse and a cat in a cage and then sat back and watched the mouse get killed, am I really in no way responsible? Who could look at me sitting there and not wonder what the hell is going on in my head? How ridiculous would it be for us to go 'oh what a bad cat' if we had orchestrated that situation?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 11:10:33

I did not state that education started with Catholicism, my point is that reason and education are intrinsic to the faith and not incompatible. The modern university as we know it in the western world is a development of Catholicism.

The theory that the universe is expanding (otherwise known as The Big Bang) was first proposed by Georges Lemaitre a Belgian Catholic priest and professor of physics. Catholics are not afraid of exploring any kind of truth.

I do not find your analogy of a complex, diverse world to a prison as enlightening, I do not believe God is a watch-maker/prison warden who created, wound everything up (or locked it in a prison) then left. As Catholics we believe that in God "we live, and move and have our being".

As humans, suffering is a mystery to us because we believe we should somehow be able to live with no suffering - what makes us think that? What are we comparing to?

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 12:34:45

Why don't I want suffering? Same reason as you, because it hurts people. As for thinking its strange for someone to wish there was no suffering, I'm not the one who thinks such a place exists and that some of us are headed there. If you think the idea of a world with no suffering is silly then why don't you have a problem with the idea of heaven?

Your post suggested that we would not have education if it weren't for Catholicism which is a ridiculous notion. What about the pivotal part Islam has played in the development of the modern day university such as Al-Azhar?

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 12:37:01

My analogy still stands until you have any proof that god is not passive. All of the evidence shows that god is very much hands off, yet he created it knowing what would happen.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 12:41:57

I don't believe we should be able to live without suffering but I would like us to use our knowledge to reduce suffering, as is being done with modern medicine. I don't have a belief that 'I shouldn't have to suffer' but I do find suffering upsetting for me and for anyone. It's empathy and it makes me want people to have what they need and to have their human rights met.

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 12:56:23

Well, why can't he? Why are only things that are important my middle class, middle aged, white men deemed as important by the catholic god?

You need to explain to your five year old that the god she has learned about doesn't think that what she wants is important or interesting, but don't be surprised if she carries on questioning because no child is born acceptingly relious.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 12:59:08

Headinhands you are claiming I have said things that I have not. I have not said at any time that education or universities only came from Catholicism. My point is that Cathollicism is not incompatible with reason or education which is implied from posters in this thread.

Knowledge and models of education have naturally spread throughout the world throughout history. I never implied otherwise. My point is that rather than an irrational faith which thrives on ignorance Catholicism supports and promotes education and many of the oldest universities in the western world were founded by Catholics. Practicing Catholics continue to push the boundaries of knowledge in many fields including science.

To clarify; just because I say Catholics are is not to imply others are not. I am only explaining that Catholics are not afraid of reasoning or education.

Neither did I say that to want to avoid suffering was strange.

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 13:00:40

If god isn't a magician, how did he create the world in seven days?

If god can't just take a cough away, why do people pray for sick relatives?

If she can't always have anything she wants, what's the point in prayer?

If you can't answer any of her questions, why do you get to pick her religion for her?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 13:02:22

The majority of Catholics are not white, male or middle class.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 13:05:42

There are many forms of prayer. Only one kind is requesting from God which is prayer of petition.

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 13:08:23

The majority of the Catholics in charge are white, middle aged, middle class, and male.

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 13:11:41

But how does a prayer of petition work for cancer if it won't work for a child's cough?

Why do middle class white people get to be warm, fat and leisurely, and poor black people along the equator get to starve and die of aids?

Why is the catholic god not fair? Why do Catholics choose to worship a god that isn't fair, even handed, and loving to ALL his children?

If I treated a child the way "god" treats Africans, I'd be in jail. Why is it ok for "god" to do it.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 13:18:30

Honeyandrum, when you said 'what are we comparing it to' it implied you didn't understand how a person of no faith could want a irradiate suffering. It's not rocket science is it. It's basic empathy. I don't need to see someone get stabbed to not want them to be stabbed again. Are you suggesting that god has put this desire in us, this desire to eradicate suffering? Why would god give us something he obviously doesn't have himself?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 13:20:40

I'm sorry if I worded that badly, I meant it as a rhetorical question; in that we all want to avoid suffering.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 13:24:13

Many Africans are Catholic (and most Africans are deists) and I think they would disagree with your assessment that God does not love or care for them.

Yes, why is it that a tiny minority of the world's population is living in luxury comapred to the rest? Is that God's fault?

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 13:47:29

If I created an animal sanctuary with bonobo chimps, knowing that bonobo chimps will sometimes share food, is it ok for me to let some of them starve because others are hoarding? Is it ok for me to provide comfortable sleeping quarters for 75% of the bonobos and not the others?

Is it the bonobo chimps fault when some of them are ill? Hungry? Cold?

Or, as the alleged head of a beautiful world of my creation, is it mine?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 13:51:12

Maybe you should create a sanctuary for Bobo chimps and try out your experiment?

You just need to create some Bobo chimps to start off.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 13:58:57

The Catholic church does not teach a simplistic creationism, evolution for example in not incompatible with Catholic theology. On the other hand current theories put the creation of the universe in minute slices of time (particles of a second) and seven days would be an extravagantly leisurely time frame.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 14:20:58

They might say that god loves them but that doesn't mean he does or that he even exists. I would want evidence that he loved them. There is none.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 14:23:21

I can't make bonobo chimps, I've never even seen a god let alone a god that makes stuff.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 14:26:28

God knew how it would pan out. And at the same time he props up the injustice. For example he heals more people who have access to modern medicine than those who don't.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 14:35:48

That's because God gave us reason and creativity and expects us to use them.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 14:53:46

Why doesn't he give it to everyone? Why did we need to wait thousands of years to get to the stage we're at if it's innate? How come our reasoning abilities depend largely on education?

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 14:57:44

Seems cruel to give us the desire to find solutions but set it up so that millions suffer until we learn enough? It's a bit like sticking a load of people on a desert island and hiding a trunk of food and medical supplies but not telling them where it was, forcing them to waste valuable energy digging up the whole island and watching most if them die in the meantime. That's just nasty. Expect god didn't hie a trunk of anything anywhere. We made the stuff we needed ourselves after years of research and trial and error.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 15:10:32

I should've corrected my grammar to say gives us creativity rather than gave as it is continual.

Catholics believe in freewill so we are not puppets we can cooperate with God's grace or not.

There is no mention of love in any of your postings. It's a wonder there is anything good in the world considering how depraved, selfish and ignorant we all are apparently. I believe we are created good, and so does the church.

I already stated that Catholics believe in the use of reason and we understand that the nature of human beings means that we respond to education. Why are we not allowed to change and grow? Isn't that the very nature of life? It seems you can only accept a God who gives you your idea of perfection instantly.

Would I be a loving parent if I gave my young child everything they wanted immediately?

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 15:11:46

My reason tells me that a kind and loving omnipotent creator would not leave his creations to die screaming of aids before they leave infancy.

colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 15:13:09

Food, health and shelter aren't wants, they are needs. WOuld you be a good and loving parent if you refused to provide these for 1 of your children?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 15:27:02

We have already covered this point. We have the resources and the abilities to alleviate suffering (not completely and not in all cases). Suffering is a mystery and something we cannot completely avoid.

As Catholics we believe that God came to live with us as one of us. A human person who lived among us, born of a human mother and who did not avoid suffering but was executed.

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 16:24:04
colditz Thu 26-Dec-13 17:29:40

Suffering isn't a mystery at all. It's a lack of basic resources. I don't think many things are less of a mystery than suffering.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 17:38:09

Honey, you're telling us god is loving but have provided no evidence for him being loving. If I told you that actually the god Shrambalambakka created the world and loves all of us wouldn't you point out that there was zero evidence?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 17:55:35

I do not feel any need or responsibility to convince you of God's existence. I have plenty of evidence that is convincing to me. To me you are still my brother or sister in Christ and precious in God's sight. You are a reasonable person and you have the freedom to accept or reject God as we all can.

To Catholics it would make no difference to be surrounded by unbelievers, we still should love and serve each other as our sisters and brothers as much as we are able. For the bed bound that might mean through prayer.

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 18:03:54

Honey

And why would god answer the prayer for the bed bound, and not that of an African toddler that is about to die of aids?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 18:04:10

One of our children had chemotherapy from a baby, I don't think that was a lack of basic resources. We were also aware if this child had lived in a different era or was born in another less developed nation then this child would have died as a baby.

This still involved suffering for everyone. I don't believe God was evil or unloving because our child and family suffered through this experience. I was very grateful for all the love and care we all experienced.

Many people in the UK and US do not lack basic resources but are miserable more from a lack of love.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 18:05:58

What do you mean by a lack of love?

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 18:06:57

I think you are mistaking me for Christ, I do not have all the answers you seem to be seeking. Suffering is the mystery that all religions confront and I don't see a lack of faith solving any of the problems of suffering,

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 18:11:55

Evidence is not a subjective thing though. It means something that we can all observe and test. The same way that you think your car runs on petrol/diesel. You put it in the tank and the car works, I can watch and observe that regardless of any other opinions or beliefs I have. I could come along and say that no, it runs on chocolate milkshake but I can't expect anyone to even entertain the notion without showing how chocolate milkshake makes the engine work.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 18:15:36

The thing is, you can't have it both ways. Half the time you're explaining how suffering is necessary and part of the plan and then the other half of the time retreating behind a facade titled mystery.

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 18:17:46

Excellent point Head

Honey claims she had lots of evidence, but she is completely confusing the definition of the word "evidence"

My definition of evidence would be something like "the available body of facts or information indicating whether a belief or proposition is true or valid."

Unfortunately, Honey is using confirmation bias.

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 18:27:17

The natural world and the universe to me is evidence of God and to you it is not, it is true I have a bias, I am not trying to convince you of anything. I am stating the Catholic position that is all.

TeamHank Thu 26-Dec-13 18:30:24

Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able?
Then he is not omnipotent.
Is he able, but not willing?
Then he is malevolent.
Is he both able and willing?
Then whence cometh evil?
Is he neither able nor willing?
Then why call him God?

Your DD sounds very bright - a future as a happy atheist awaits her smile.

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 18:32:22

Honey

So if the natural world is evidence of god, I presume you believe this because the natural world is so amazing, that it had to be made by a creator?

If so, then surely God himself (itself / herself?) is even more amazing than the natural world, and so by the same definition, god must also have had a creator (because he is too amazing to have greater himself)!

If so, who is god's creator and why do you not worship him?

TheNumberfaker Thu 26-Dec-13 18:37:45

Read her 'The God Delusion' as her bedtime story.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 18:56:29

How does one decide that the catholic god was responsible for creation as opposed to the other 3'999 gods that humanity did or does currently believe in? How do you decide it was your god and not a different one?

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 19:07:15

It depends who got to you first and managed to brain wash you I suppose (or which fictional website you found first and were naively convinced by).

HoneyandRum Thu 26-Dec-13 19:52:16

I converted as an adult from atheism. I grew up with no faith background. I converted because of my encounters with God's love and because I was convinced by Catholic doctrine and teaching - which I studied. The beauty and holiness of Catholic life and culture also attracted me. By the grace of God I will remain in God's love and would die if necessary for my faith like the Christians in Syria and Egypt. I was baptized and received into the church in 1988.

headinhands Thu 26-Dec-13 19:58:24

How are you able to trust the validity of your encounters while rejecting the encounters people have with other gods? A desire to die for ones faith is by no means particular to Catholicism. Strength of conviction is no indicator of the reality of the beliefs otherwise all manner of contradictory beliefs are true, which is impossible/nonsense.

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 21:16:50

Honey.

Regarding my post below about god's creator.

Do you have an opinion?

technodad Thu 26-Dec-13 23:13:10

Honey?

technodad Fri 27-Dec-13 19:13:32

Hello?

sunnyspot Fri 27-Dec-13 20:46:37

td - serious question, don't you ever get bored of de railing threads and insulting people who believe?

technodad Fri 27-Dec-13 20:58:13

Sunny.

I joined the thread long after it had been "derailed" as you call it.

Why is my question not valid. honey says that the world is her "evidence" of god. I think my question is relevant to her statement.

msmiggins Fri 27-Dec-13 21:10:20

The OP was asking for ideas-

"But then she spun it around that God was the one who made humans and gave them their brains to think about naming the days in the first place.
Any ideas?"
The OP didn't actually ask for ideas only from Catholics or believers.
I technodad's ideas are as valid as any and a great deal more sensible than most.

I think the idea that we spoonfeed dogma to 5 year olds needs to be challenged if the OP was serioulsy askimg for "ideas". Why can't we have a reasoned discussion? THe OP's daughter sounds amazingly sensible.

headinhands Fri 27-Dec-13 21:38:25

Maybe the op could try sidestepping her dd's logical questions by repeating sunny's 'don't you ever get bored of insulting my beliefs' type responses. That way she wouldn't have to formulate a reasoned and coherent explanation.

technodad Fri 27-Dec-13 21:44:24

Or maybe try saying "Just be quiet, or you will go to hell".

Honey. Are you still there. I am really interested in your opinion regarding the creators creator.

Thanks.

msmiggins Fri 27-Dec-13 21:44:53

I think the reason the OP is finding it so difficult to explain to her daughter is that none of it makes any sense to anyone. Even to the believers- religion is so full of holes and contradictions it sometimes takes a 5 year old to show that with clarity. Kids are good at that- seeing things as they really are.

headinhands Fri 27-Dec-13 21:50:05

Yes Mrs, out of the mouths of babes as it were grin

technodad Fri 27-Dec-13 22:14:25

Interestingly, I never got annoyed with my DD when she was 5 and constantly asking questions (well, maybe the word "why" might have grated once or twice, maybe).

There were some really easy questions like:
"Daddy, why is the sky blue?" which got a short answer about how the the light from the sun has all colours, and that blue light gets spread around in the sky more than the other colours when the light hits the gasses in the sky, so it looks lovely and blue.

There are some emotionally difficult questions like "what happens to Nanny now she is dead" which got an answer along the lines of "different people believe different things, but the only thing we know for sure is that she isn't alive anymore, and her body will turn into compost and feed the plants, which will feed the animals, and keep creating life for ever".

There are some hard questions like: "why am I me?", which got an answer like "I don't know, and no one knows. Maybe you will be the person who finds out the answer when you are older".

The answer "I don't know" is a perfectly acceptable answer (perhaps the best and most honest answer). I don't really understand why people feel they have to have an answer to every question (or make one up with some inane fiction). It is a bit sad really, since the unknown is one of the most exciting things in life!

msmiggins Fri 27-Dec-13 22:20:56

TD - I agree- I was never irritated by thoughtful questions- it's a pity that the OP is. And since the OP is the one with faith I though she would be well qualified to answer these fundamental questions about her own faith. It speaks volumes about how some people blindly follow without really giving too much thought about what they actually believe in.

technodad Fri 27-Dec-13 22:29:09

Maybe Sunnyspot knows who made god?

technodad Sat 28-Dec-13 18:50:07

Anyone there?

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