listening to your inner voice....(37 Posts)
does anyone have any tips on how to listen to your inner voice or your heart? how do you tune in to knowing what your heart wants and seperate it from what your head may be telling you? would be interesting to hear your comments.
Interesting you should bring this up. I was wondering the very same recently. We are often encouraged to " trust your instincts. They are never wrong"
Well mine have been spectacularly wrong in the past !
I am not sure the head / heart thing really exists. If you are struggling with an issue I think you just need to mull it over for a long time until you reach a conclusion. Not always easy.
Is there a particular issue vexing you for now?
Well, one of the easiest ways to do it is to note your body reactions to things. I think you should always opt for what feels good, to you. You only came here with a body, and it has all the tools you require for your life's journey - whether you believe it or not. Therefore, it also has magical powers on discernment.
The thing about following your intuition and your heart is that it is NEVER wrong. This is where people often fall into the trap of thinking that if they take the risk to do so, when it turns out in a completely different way than was expected they can just go with the flow. Trusting that what your body tells you is correct.
Sometimes its fairly hard to discern what our own inner voice/heart sounds like. Once you get into the whole debating over issues in your mind - then your mind has taken over - but evenso, the body is still present for all of this, therefore try to figure out what feels like the 'best' option for you. And, by feel - I mean - sense it in your body. With practise it becomes so much easier. You can learn to be in your own space, your own mind and you don't have anyone else's views clouding your own.
Sorry it's a quick answer, I'll come back later on with some actual real and proper tips. One thing though is - you know that sinkign feeling you get sometimes that feels like fear? That's your body telling you something isn't right with whatever you are dealing with now. When your body feels happy and good, your intuition is communicating with you. with love xx
There's no such thing as an "inner voice" - other than your conciousness - and the heart is a muscle that pumps blood around your body.
What you have, though, is an emotional response & an intellectual one. The emotional one tends to be based around what you'd like to be true, and the rational, intellectual one tends to be what actually is true.
Sometimes they are in accordance, but often they are not. If you're trying to understand what the truth is likely to be be in an objective way then I would take more notice of your rational response.
hey, thank you all for your very very interesting comments. yes, i am debating with an issue at the moment...i am trying to figure out what my calling in life is. For the 1st time in my life, i feel determined to have a career. i often admire people that are successful and who have many acheivements through hard work and perserverance. i applied for nursing recently but when the uni came back with an offer... i realised this did not make me feel good...in fact i felt fearful and in doubt about whether its really what i WANT to do. i felt worried at the thought of spending so much time away from my son...studying and working unsociable hours! i think...i applied for the wrong reasons in the 1st place. i just feel so confused. At the same time i don't want to end up missing out on an opportunity.
i am a real big believer in following your heart as i believe it is never wrong and it knows what is best for you.
i read a very interesting article a while back about how before we are born into this world, we speak with our spirit guides about our life plan...but soon as we are born into our physical bodies; that bond is broken and the only way to know our life plan is to connect with our spirit guides through listening to our intuition. Sometimes we go off track but the universe can always help get us in the right path if we learn to connect with ourselves better.
I'm not sure this is a 'heart or head' issue but rather your realisation that a particular path may not be for you - that there are implications that you hadn't thought through before.
Have you tried any meditation techniques? It may help you to still the chatter and the arguing back and forth with yourself, and just be still. I also think it helps to put stuff on paper - just get it out and then look at it so it isn't swirling in your head. Both will help clear your thoughts.
On a practical level you can make your own opportunities. If being at home with your ds is a priority maybe you could look at distance learning to get a qualification that would enable you to be self employed and work from home? Or maybe look to work p/t until he is older and then think about university, taking the time to think about what you really want to do? Don't feel pressured into a course of action that you have big doubts about - you can always defer.
hey, thanks lovinglurchers. i am considering a different path and hopefully i will have made the right choice! i have tried meditation but think i need to make it a regular habit. Will definately get things down on paper too. It always helps to be able to see things more clearly rather than having it all running around in my head!! thank you.
"I think you should always opt for what feels good, to you."
Chocolate and ice cream feels good to me.
gtedder Not really what you're asking, I know, but I did an about face with my career when my DS was a toddler. I went to university as a mature student and while it wasn't the easiest thing in the world, we managed.
Would OU be an option for you? If you haven't done a degree before (if that's what you're planning) then you can get student loans and stuff now.
Whatever you decide - good luck
To be honest..i really want to do a Pitman course. i have wanted to do this for a very long time but always ended up goibg off track and never raised the money for the course. I dnt think there is any funding for pitman courses. And it may take me a very long time to save for one but i feel pretty determined.
This might be the answer:
I utterly refute the notion that your intuition is NEVER wrong
Wow Selba, say what you really mean.
Generally we have to build a relationship with our intuition to know whats right and wrong for us, personally.
Intuition, is never wrong. It's the interpretation and expectations that people place on it. And I speak from my own experiences, my own truth, always.
If you 'utterly refute the notion' you might have to explore for yourself (if it's your own you are struggling with) why this might be. We cannot judge another's intuition. We can only go with our own.
Indigo - When you said I should always do what feels good to me, did you mean I should eat as much chocolate and ice cream as I want?
Cote, what you do is up to you
I know that, but you said "I think you should always opt for what feels good, to you. You only came here with a body, and it has all the tools you require for your life's journey - whether you believe it or not. Therefore, it also has magical powers on discernment. "
So... chocolate & ice cream feel really good. These unconscious magical powers of discernment, manifesting themselves through that good feeling seem to be telling me to eat as much of both as I can find.
Are you saying I should not listen to my brain when it says "Don't eat more than a little bit of choc & ice cream or you will get fat" and just do what feels good?
I love it that you provide me with so much to think about. I didn't say anything about brains.
You listen to whatever part of you speaks and you feel like listening, if it says chocolate and ice cream - you go for it.
I'm definitely with Indigo. Intuition is never wrong, only your interpretation of what its telling you could be incorrect. Your intuition is your true essence and I also believe you have to work on getting to know it. Also intuition is not to be confused with feelings of over- paranoia and other related emotions.
That overwhelmed you, did it? I thought it was an easy question.
Sleep on it and I'm sure you will be able to give me an answer tomorrow morning.
(Hint: Using your brain rather than your heart will help )
Cote, why does what you say need to be right?
If you don't agree with what I've said, that's fine. You might never have experienced feeling things with your body, or your heart. The best way to reconnect is to do some right brain stuff. If you want to try it.
I haven't even said anything.
I asked a question.
Can you try to answer it?
cote, I'll have a go at answering if you dnt mind.. i think the voice speaking to you wen it says to eat choc and icecream is not your intuition spking to you...and indigo was saying that if wen your intuition spks to you and it feels good, then follow your intuition as it won't be wrong. When you hear a voice asking you to eat more choc and icecream...its the voice of temptation whose only purpose is to stray you further from what is actually good for you. Moderation would be a good thing in the case of eating choc and ice- cream.
gtedder - No, actually, what Indigo said was "Well, one of the easiest ways to do it is to note your body reactions to things. I think you should always opt for what feels good, to you."
I don't see any mention of intuition. I see mention of body reactions and opt for what feels good, to you.
Anyway, how am I supposed to differentiate between temptation and intuition when I get the urge to do something?
Do they talk to different ears?
Cote, you raise such good questions. Do you mean temptation as some kind of negative force?
The question you asked me (and please do correct me if I am wrong) was
Are you saying I should not listen to my brain when it says "Don't eat more than a little bit of choc & ice cream or you will get fat" and just do what feels good?"
My answer was that I said nothing about brains. That was my answer, Cote.
This thread is hilarious. I could give you some real life examples of my and others' intuition that were well out, but there is no potential for debate if the answer is just that I have not properly developed my intuition!
And Cote, my body is very much for large helpings of chocolate and ice cream too. And wine. Fortunately i have a pretty good brain that influences my actions and choices
yes, but the discussion is about how to listen to your inner voice/ intuition. And feeling how your body reacts to something is one of the ways in which you can tap in to your intuition which is what indigo was saying. So if your body tells you, eat more choc and ice- cream because it feels...you know deep down , when that subtle intuitive voice tells you, no too much of this choc and icecream is NOT going to make your body feel good in the long run...is the voice you should be listening to, because that voice knows what is ultimately good for you and your body .
Selba, I don't come here for any kind of debate. However, some posters thrive on it. I don't.
I give my honesty and experiences, often to be patted down by those looking for some kind of 'proof', or debate. I offer neither.
I have many experiences of where my intuition was 'wrong' too. Looking back I can see how I received some kind of 'red flags' but still chose to ignore.
This is why I have dedicated part of my life to learning what is right for me. I use my intuition to do this- as following what anyone else says just doesn't do it for me. If something resonates with me, and it feels 'right'; I will often go with it. If it doesn't feel right, then I don't.
cote, it isn't easy to differentiate between the voices. Precisly the discussion in this thread. But it really isn't rocket science to know that too much choc and ice-cream is bad for your health. Intuition is to be consulted when it comes to more meaningful things or decisions one may be struggling with. I am sure at some point in your life you must have had a hunch or a gut feeling about something which ended up being true....no?
I think a craving for chocolate and ice cream has much to do with our ancestors restricted sugar consumption and absolutely nothing to do with intuition.
Of course we 'feel' with our bodies. It is why we say ' my heart wasn't in it' or 'it was a gut feeling' or even ' i feel it in my water'. Think of the reaction if you lose someone you love - you feel it, viscerally. The emotions affect how the body feels. These feelings expresses themselves as a biological process, but start with the emotions.
Came across this quote which made me smile. " your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma- which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary" . ~ steve jobs, ex CEO of Apple.
Love to everyone. xx
Hmmm. Well Steve Jobs listened to his "intuition" & "inner voice" and chose to fight his cancer with alternative treatments like acupuncture & a special diet - something he came to regret, and which probably cost him his life.
Steve Jobs' inner voice lives on in this Apple laptop I'm posting from ..... probably the most beautiful machine I've ever owned. I 'knew' it was right the moment the salesman put it into my hands
Every time I think my heart is speaking to me, I challenge it. Essentially, I question if it's my heart or mind. If the feeling doesn't go away and gets stronger, I generally consider it to be my heart talking. If it lessens or disappears, I disregard it as my mind.
When it comes to major decisions, I try to go with a heart and mind approach, and get to a point where my heart and mind are in agreement before going forward.
Also, I occasionally ask God for guidance on small matters so that I can learn to recognize his guidance better on the important things.
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