First Communion fashion advice needed.

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LynetteScavo Sat 09-Feb-13 18:23:34

Are silver shoes (for DD, not me!) a massive no...

...and what is your DD wearing in her hair/on her head?

Bunbaker Sat 09-Feb-13 18:27:56

Are you Catholic? We are protestant and the children didn't wear white dresses, silver shoes, headdresses etc. They just wore what they normally wear to church.

Our church states white shoes. Most girls wear little tiaras or white flowers in their hair but there are still a few who wear veils.

LynetteScavo Sat 09-Feb-13 19:00:26

Yes, Catholic.

Nothing has been said about girls clothes, except no gloves.

I was thinking initially of just a white hair clip, but then realised other girls will be having their hair up (DD has a short bob because her ears stick out, so up-do is not happening) so am now thinking of a veil.

sweetkitty Sat 09-Feb-13 19:03:31

DD1 is having her hair up in a bun probably as its curly and untamed, with a sparkly tiara and a veil also with sparkles.

White shoes too, kindly given to me by her friends mum, her friends sister had them but DD1s friend is a bigger size.

She's also chosen her dress, bolero and bag, no gloves though

ChippyMinton Sat 09-Feb-13 19:17:48

DD made hers last year, after her brothers, so I have seen lots of outfits!

The 'no gloves' is probably because they are a faff to look after, as are bags and other dangly bits and pieces.

Silver shoes would be ok, but white is more popular. A closed-toe rather than sandals looks better, with tights or white ankle socks. There are lots of white satin pumps and mary-janes on ebay, or google bridesmaids shoes.

Very few have the full veil, which does look old-fashioned, but several had a small veil at back of the head (attached with a comb) which looks pretty. Plenty of delicate silver tiaras, or flower clips.
DD had an up-do (quite bridal-looking large bun with diamantes around the base) and she looked lovely, but not over-the-top. She had a small veil fixed underneath the bun - a plain one from Monsoon - her choice.

I'd say that with a bob, keep it simple with a pretty tiara, as a veil might swamp her hair.

Bare shoulders are a no-no here. Most girls had a bolero to match the dress or a white cardi, long- or short-sleeved.

Irishmammybread Sat 09-Feb-13 19:20:00

Is your service a combined First Holy Communion/Confirmation Mass?
Our parish hasn't decided on a dress code yet because it's the first year of the new regime. It used to be white dresses for the girls, white shorts/socks/shirt and a red tie for the boys for Communion and normal smart clothes for Confirmation, but of course they were younger for Communion and a lot older for Confirmation then. Yr 4 boys may not be too impressed with having to wear all white ! The priest is thinking of taking a poll to see what most parents would prefer. DD2 is hoping she'll be able to wear a dress like her big sister had on her big day!

LynetteScavo Sat 09-Feb-13 19:41:43

This year, first communions will take place, five at a time during Saturday evening/Sunday mass.

Thank you - lots of advice there. I'm definitely going for closed toe mary janes with white socks (rather than tights), and a dress with short sleeves. I think we'll need a bolaro/cardigan too, as it may not be warm.

If I go for a veil, it will be at the back of her head, but wasn't sure how that would work with a bob.

I've seen a dress I really, really love but it's ££££. I've also seen a dress which is very nice, and half the price. Oh, the decision!

ChippyMinton Sun 10-Feb-13 15:16:52

Go for the half-price one - it's not about what you wear who am I kidding?!

Have you a friendly hairdresser who could do a try-out with the veil? I'm thinking it would need something to fix the veil into, so maybe backcomb the back to give some body?

Dd wants her hair in loose waves so I'm thinking of a tiara/veil.

Shoes wise I know silver is fine round here but I'll probably go for white, haven't seen any yet though.

Dds dress is sleeveless so she'll have a bolero of some kind too.

I was very lucky and was given a gorgeous dress which dd absolutely loves so can afford to spend a bit more on accessories now.

LynetteScavo Sun 10-Feb-13 22:37:39

If I go for the veil it, it attatches with either a hair clip or a comb (you get a choice) - and I think it would work in DD's hair.

I've had my eye on the ££££ dress for 3 years. If I don't get it I will forever regret it. But it's ridiculous to spend so much on a dress she will wear for such a short time, isn't it? But then the photo's will last forever....

I am happy to do the cake myself, and have a buffet at home rather than anything more elaborate if it means I can have that dress. DH is fed up of me trying to justify the expensive dress, and says he doesn't want to be involved in choosing it. (For example I say things like; "What if she never gets married, and I never get the chance to buy her a lovely dress?") DH is finding the whole thing a bit tiresome, apparently, and I haven't actually bought anything yet.

sweetkitty Sun 10-Feb-13 22:54:49

We wherever lucky with DD1 dress, a friend used to own a designer children's clothes shop and had loads of dresses in her house, DD1 lived one and we got it for half price. Her veil is on a comb at the back.

I'm thinking of just doing a buffet and kind of party in the house for her.

Lynette... Dp is getting rather fed up of me showing him communion gear too. She's my only daughter and of she follows mine and my mother's lead there will never be a fancy wedding dress so I'm getting ot all out of my system now wink

If you can afford it go for the one you love, you can keep it and give it to her for your granddaughters and start a family tradition smile

sweetkitty Mon 11-Feb-13 17:20:59

I have 3 DDs so the dress will be used again although DD2 took one look at it and said it was disgusting but she thinks she is a boy.

LynetteScavo Mon 11-Feb-13 18:11:10

Well, yes, DD too would very much like to be a boy..for a long time she insisted she would be wearing a shirt and tie to her FC like her older brothers.hmm She never wears skirts or dresses. But she now understands that she will be wearing a dress for her FHC. like it or not. grin

I would definitely keep the ££££ one forever, and I would love it if a granddaughter ever wore it. smile.

I should get the one I really love, shouldn't I?

BridgetJonesPants Mon 11-Feb-13 18:20:07

DD is making her Communion & Confirmation at the same time. The children can wear what they want as they wear white albs (overalls the alter servers wear) over their outfits. Some girls wear traditional white dresses with veils and some choose to wear nice white/cream dresses. Again with shoes, although most are white, some have silver or cream.

Although DD will be wearing the albs in the church, we've bought her a long white Communion dress & bolaro. It's gorgeous on her but did cost a bit more than I wanted to pay....but she's my only DD so what the hell smile. Also picked a very plain veil (as her dress has lots of detail in it). She wants to wear her hair up, so will bring veil along to hairdressers before the day so we can see best way to wear it.

I got DD white ballet pumps from Primark for £5 - bargain!

We're having family & friends back to house afterwards for buffet lunch. Will probably order sandwich platters from Greggs (not too costly & near our house), large pot of mums homemade soup, ready made salad stuff & pizza etc. Should all look good & be tasty with minimum effort!

Oh, and as for the communion cake, I'm going to buy a large Asda sponge cake with white icing (only £16 and serves 40). Will also buy some first communion cake toppers & ribbon on-line to decorate the cake. Again, will look fab for fraction of the price of having a cake made & most importantly will take minimum effort allowing me to enjoy the day.

DD1 had a short bob and wore a pearly Alice band headdress with an attached short veil.

People are shocked when I say that her Communion dress cost more than my wedding dress, but my wedding dress was much less than £100 back in the dark ages. It was all balanced out with her younger sister who had her dress made by a dressmaker friend for free. I bought their shoes from BHS.

Both had buffets at the house with Asda sponge cakes decorated with sugar craft flowers and pretty ribbon.

I knitted both my DDs a bolero to go over their dresses (a bit like the short sleeved one in this pattern) - But in a fluffy yarn rather than a shaggy yarn. Do you want a fabric bolero or a knitted one? I have a pattern you are welcome to borrow or I can knit it for you if you want.

LynetteScavo Mon 11-Feb-13 19:38:49

Ohh, I must investigate these ASDA cakes!

TheWoollybacksWife, you are so sweet to offer to knit a bolaro! smile One of the dresses I'm considering comes with a matching bolero jacket, though, so that would be sorted. The other dress has short sleeves, and I don't want her to have anything over it. She can freeze for the sake of showing off the dress The date I've requested is at the beginning of June, so fingers crossed it won't be freezing!

You're welcome Lynette

I would also recommend this website for fimo toppers that would look lovely on the top of a cake. They have flat backs so would lie down on top of the cake. I have ordered from the site before and the figures can be ordered with appropriate hair colour, glasses etc. There is a proviso on the website though as I think she is ceasing trading from 5th April.

Watching with interest. Dd1 is going to be taking her first communion this year. I'm not Catholic so am completely at sea. We have got a dress, hoping it is ok as it is ivory not pure white, but dh reckons they won't chuck her out of church because her dress is ivory. Still need shoes and a bolaro. Do we really need to get her hair up? I can do some french plaits, might need to do that with some white flowers in her hair. I still have my wedding veil somewhere maybe I should trim that.

Dh is wanting a big family party and has promised dd1 a croquembouche (which I think is about all he can remember from his first communion)- he calls it something else but basically a load of profiteroles in a tower. I should add at this point that dh's culinary skills extend to a decent brunch and pasta, so it will be me trying to learn how to make the thing.

She is enjoying her lessons, though they still haven't quite managed to get her to admit that she has ever done anything wrong, but then she never does to us either.

Porkster Mon 11-Feb-13 21:36:37

Silver shoes would be a big no-no at our Church. Priest always gives the talk about a plain dress and no 'mini brides'!

I think the girls look lovely in the simplest dresses with no horrid veils.

As it will be dh at the talk I will be lucky to get any information beyond 'turn up on this day'. Quite happy to just do a nice plait, I can handle that! If I have time between stuffing profiteroles that is. Her dress was £24 from Monsoon in the sale, it's a slightly patterned ivory (well off white) party dress. I'm not going to spend loads on a dress she won't wear again.

Porkster, one of dds classmates is from a settled traveler family and she has announced to the world that she's having 'a dress just like on gypsy weddings' with the fake tan, glitter and hair to go with it. They're having 80+ guests on the day too.

I think our priest is going to have heart failure grin

Porkster Mon 11-Feb-13 22:41:18

Lol, our priest would just die at that.

It's all quite naice in our Church; people at school still talk about the girl who wore fingerless lace gloves in 2006!

10 years or so ago at my mother's church in Liverpool one of the First Communicants was the granddaughter of one of her friends and had a dress that had concealed fairy lights. As she received Communion from the priest she pressed a little button and her whole dress lit up.

It made a huge impression on my mother. As far as she is concerned there is an unwritten 11th Commandment "Thou Shall Not Show Off" grin

I'm quite looking forward to seeing what she turns up in tbh, should provide some light entertainment on the day [mean]

Apparently last year in a nearby town one of the traveller girls had a dress so wide she couldn't fit through the doors of the church and was crying from the weight of it shock I'm hoping it's nothing that dramatic, they're a nice family so I can't imagine they'd go that far.... I think

SandWitch Tue 12-Feb-13 14:09:28

Hello, can I join you?

DD is making her First Holy Communion this year and I am, to be honest without much of a clue as I was received into the Church as an adult.

My dh insists that he can't remember his FHC, or his sisters hmm Dh's family really will expect everything to be 'right' and I know I could ask them what 'right' is, but I want to do this by myself if that makes sense.

We have a really, very beautiful dress (purchased second hand, and no way I could afford it's £250 original price tag) that makes me cry just looking at it.

I have been watching all of the FHC children presented in Chruch for the last 10 years, but have never really paid attention to detail, and I know it will be this detail that mil will notice grin

I am very aware that the most important thing is not the dress, hair, shoes et al, but I want this day to be special, it feels like such a big, grown up step and dd is so very excited about it. I don't want to let her down.
Any tips, suggestions must do's/do not's would be greatly appreciated.

LynetteScavo Tue 12-Feb-13 16:50:39

Hahaha @ the fairylights! I am sooo tempted to stick some up DDs skirty for a laugh

3birthdaybunnies, I might join you with attempting a croquembouche. It can't be that hard, surely! grin

I also have a DH who can't remember his first communion, and even told me he'd never had one. hmm But then he didn't know who his Godparents were (I know he's definitely baptised because I have his baptism certificate)

Oh, and one more question....does the cake have to be plain sponge? DD's asked for chocolate with white icing!

As we have got to the fairy light stage in this conversation, are we expected to do party bags/ favours? Not too sure on the format of the party yet, my preference with a delicate croquembouche is obviously at home, dh was thinking of getting a hall (our house is quite small, but we do have a small garden too). Do you think I need to do a cake as well as the croquembouche Lynette ? I can't see why you can't use chocolate, I make rainbow cakes hidden under a layer of icing, it makes a fun surprise.

For birthday parties I don't usually do tat, but e.g. For ds birthday we did poundland buckets. There are tacky favours online which aren't what I would give, wondered about a tea light and holder, I could give a small plant to symbolise new life, but I can only grow aloe vera. Are you doing party bags/favours, if so what?

LynetteScavo Tue 12-Feb-13 18:10:52

3birthdaybunnies, I think if you are going to the croquembouche, you won't need a cake as well...all very continental. My Irish in-laws would probably be grumbling about where the "proper" cake was, though.

No way am I doing party bags/favours! And I do pride myself of great party bags for birthday parties.

I'm joining forces with dds best friend's mother and we're having as do at her house. Neither of us have any kids in the family but our own and all their classmates will be having their own parties so itmakes more sense for the girls' sakes to have a joint party.

We're both spectacularly disorganised though so it will be all done the day before no doubt with us running around like headless chickens!

Portia4 Tue 12-Feb-13 19:41:35

Hi, have you seen this Holy Communion website, they have lots of pretty Holy Communion dresses and accessories.

Thanks Lynette no Irish contingent to worry about, all French or English. Good news re party bags too, likewise I pride myself on party bags, but seems a bit wierd for this, but when you look on line there seem to be loads of things, they all look quite tacky though. I realise though reading it back that a poundland bucket and spade set might not be considered to be the height of sophistication either!

sweetkitty Tue 12-Feb-13 22:12:26

I'm not RC either, both DPs parents are dead and his sister is useless so I don't have a clue really. We've just had an extension on our house so am hoping we can find done money to decorate it before DD1s FHC, in estranged from my Mum (long story) so that leaves hardly any family, TBH I would probably just have my friends there but there's loads of them and about 25 DC between us.

DD1 would have loved a gypsy dress when trying them on she did ask for more sparkles.

Lynette - DD2 makes hers next year and year and says she wants to wear a kilt like the boys. She wears all boys clothes right to her underwear, I might get away with the plainest white dress ever.

LynetteScavo Mon 08-Apr-13 19:59:01

Ok, so I have an update, if anyone is interested. (DH certainly isn't!)

I didn't go for the £££ hand made dress form the US.

I ordered a "white" dress,bolero, cardigan & veil over the internet. When they arrived the were ivory shock. DH decided it was the loveliest dress ever, and I shouldn't change it. I was very unsure about it not being white.

Anyway, I was passing a local children's shop which sell FHC dresses today, popped in, DD tried on on, and I nearly's so lovely. It's satin (which I'm not usually keen on) and longish (which I'm not usually keen on) but mostly plain with a few sequins. It's very "first communion", but DD looks lovely in I am keeping the very short veil I already ordered, rather than go with a longer one which was being sold with the dress, as I don't wan't DD to look too formal, if that makes sense.

And the most important bit...DD who doesn't do dresses thinks it's great!

I did order some ivory shoes from JL to go with the ivory dress, but I think they may need to go back.

I have ordered printed invitations (get me!) Only 10, but I don't know that many people, lol!

I am thinking of having a cake made professionally. I'm not that good at cakes, and I can't find any tasteful cake toppers, (links to tasteful cake toppers appreciated), but we'll have to see how much money is in the bank. grin I'm thinking of a white icing, with a colourful spnge (chocolate/pink/rainbow layers) on the inside to represent DD's personality.

Now, what have I forgotten?

wigglesrock Mon 08-Apr-13 21:30:21

LynetteScavo my dd1 is making hers next month. She tried the dress, short veil on for my Mum and Nana and they both cried blush I could barely speak blush smile

Glad your dd loves the dress. I was really lucky with dds, got in on the sale rack of a local shop, have shoes and socks to get yet but after being a bit meh about it am now quite excited.

NotTreadingGrapes Sat 13-Apr-13 08:35:53

Can I bump this up please, for I can put off organising no longer.

Dd does hers on 19/5. We are frockless and in Italy. <aaargh>

Can anyone give me any names of UK based shops/online sellers who do white/ivory but not long? Have looked at the usual suspects, M and S, John Lewis, as well as traditional FHC shops but they are so very frilly.

This thread has reminded me of Monsoon though so I'll head over there right now!

LynetteScavo Sun 14-Apr-13 16:45:14

NotTreadingGrapes I would love to help, but the short, non frilly white dress is mysical thing...a bit like a unicorn. You hear about them, but you never see them!

What do the girls in Italy tend to wear? <<curious>>

NEXT have ivory

The "Grace" dress in Monsoon is very nice, but Ivory not white.

LynetteScavo Sun 14-Apr-13 16:49:06

What about this calf length dress from BHS. It looks like the largest size left is age 7 though.

Or this one from Debenhams.

This one is gorgeous from Amazon of all places grin and they ship to Italy.

NotTreadingGrapes Mon 15-Apr-13 09:18:06

Oh, I like all of those! There are loads on Amazon that are nice.

I liked the Grace Monsoon one but don't know if cream will raise eyebrows. I found a nice Tulip and Nettle one as well, that is gorgeous but poss a bit too ethereal and fairylike.

Lynette- they tend to go for the whole bride-of-Christ thing, but without veils (from what I've seen in recent years) It's less the frock, and more the whole "do" that I find shock Dd's friend's mother will end up having a nervous breakdown I'm sure, in January she made her husband take 2 weeks off work so they could buy all the clothes, book the "reception" (yup, like a wedding) organise the photographer and hairdresser for the day (in May) I will no doubt be that mother dashing out of the door shrieking "have you brushed that hair?"

Thing is, they all wear a parish-issue tunic anyway over the top, so all the frockery is for the benefit of the "do" afterwards, which we are doing ourselves at dp's sister's country house. (not as glam as it sounds, it's basically a bed and breakfast with a garden!)

I will let you know what we decide on, as I must order this week, so as to be able to take to granny-seamstress in case of alterations.

(friend's mum is already doing rehearsals! bonkers I tell ya)

I think fresh flowers look beautiful as a hair accessory, instead of tiara/veil. You can buy a plain hairband and wind some gypsophila around it, or put a few tiny white roses on a slide or comb. So pretty, fresh and age-appropriate

Ours is in two weeks [eek]

She has a dress, long gloves (because she's so scrawny a bolero just doesn't look right), veil, tights and shoes. I did a trial run of her hair at easter and it turns out if she sleeps in the rollers it comes out lovely so that will save us some time on the morning. Bouncy castle is orders, her bfs sister is getting them a giant cupcake cake, bfs mother is sorting the booze so we just need to sort the food now.

Ours take the dresses off straight after the service so I need to root out a nice outfit for the rest of the day and I need shoes for myself but other than that we're good I think.

NotTreadingGrapes Mon 15-Apr-13 10:34:48

Can I also ask what you mothers-of-the-communicant are wearing?

I don't do frocks y'see, and it's going to be hot. Gah.

I'm wearing a black and beige dress with 3/4 sleeves, sort of 60s style, a few inches above the knee. I'm desperately trying to find a pair of black shoe boots to go with as it's too leggy for church with normal heels.

The mothers around here go all out, get their hair done at the hairdressers that morning and everything, I'm not sure I'll be glam enough but it was the best I could do on an extremely limited budget!

NotTreadingGrapes Mon 15-Apr-13 13:08:33

Yep, same here. Hairdressers are apparently all booked already.

I'll be chomping at my fringe with the kitchen scissors as usual I expect. grin

I was wondering if a posh-ish tunic and trousers would be OK for me. Will be too hot for tights and I only wear dresses (of the woolly ones with woolly tights and boots) in winter.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Mon 15-Apr-13 13:32:42

Lynette, I made a bible cake for dd's and it was really easy and looked awesome and very Holy grin

My other dd does hers next year and wants a micro mini short dress. Haven't seen any

NotTreadingGrapes Mon 15-Apr-13 13:48:39

Another question!

Do you do the equivalent of party bags in the UK? (little souvenirs of the day, like a photo frame or a dust collecting tacky ornament?

Because I have to get them as well. <panic panic>

wigglesrock Tue 16-Apr-13 14:56:46

No we don't do party bags, well I haven't heard of it. I'm in NI. I will pass on a tip I heard from dd1s teacher yesterday - get the girls to practise kneeling down in the dress. Apparently last year there were quite a few ripped hems, bows etc with shoes getting caught up in the hems.

NotTreadingGrapes Tue 16-Apr-13 15:26:52

Ordered our "souvenirs" last night from the parish, nice little handmade wooden crosses painted bright colours from a co-operative thingy in Brazil. <ticks another thing off list>

Picked up tunic as well. Bit long but she has 6 weeks to grow!

Wiggles... I hadn't even thought of that shock it's a borrowed dress so wouldn't like to hand it back in shreds! Thanks for the warning smile

Ntg... I'm trying to resist the urge to hack at my hair as it never ends well! Going to dye it this weekend and hope for the best wink

LynetteScavo Thu 18-Apr-13 21:59:24

Oh, blimey, I hadn't even thought about kneeling....I think DD will be fine, as I will be next to her.

She asked me yesterday if I will be doing her hair for her first communion. I had a mini panic, and asked if girls at schools were going to the hairdressers to get their hair done. Apparently she meant would I be brushing her hair, or would she be brushing it and putting in the (very small) veil herself? grin

There will be no party bags here.

DD wants a bible cake. I couldn't do that...I can only do round. I know from bitter experience. We have very different taste in cakes, DD and I.

I will probably be wearing a navy blue shift dress, just because I can't be bothered to go shopping and the one I own flattering.

I was going to do a buffet lunch, but I seem to have very hungry friends and family, so am wondering if a chille or something might be more filling. Any ideas welcome.

And will your DD's be wearing the dress for long? DD will be impatient to get out of hers, and she'll be playing in the garden and eating, so was wondering if she needed something decent to wear afterwards.

LynetteScavo Thu 18-Apr-13 22:01:24

And are fathers of the first communicant all wearing suits and ties?

DH will probably insist on it, but I bet the other dads don't.

wigglesrock Thu 18-Apr-13 22:30:32

We don't sit with the kids. They sit together, about 45 of them and everyone else fights gets there 1 hour before the mass to get good seats smile

Dd1 will be keeping her dress on for most of the day. I really lucked out with the price of the dress, it was last years stock so got it really cheap, am not that bothered if it gets dirty. It's a very simple dress so she should be comfy enough smile

Most of the dads wear suits here for First Communion, I told husband he didn't have to bother with a tie but think he wants to wear one.

Am getting shoes, socks tomorrow then I'm done. I realise I have said this every week for the past 3 but am determined to finish it now.

NotTreadingGrapes Fri 19-Apr-13 06:19:11

Same here wiggles. The children all sit together like they do at Sunday mass. (don't know if it is the same in the UK? the 10.30 Sunday mass is designated the children's mass, all the catechism classes sit at the front and any adult who wants to participate at the back, it's lovely) Can only begin to imagine the bunfight for seats as the grannies/extended families/next door neighbours and assorted randoms push each other out of the way on FHC day. Our church is tiny.

Dd's as yet unbought dress will err on the simple I hope so she'll keep it on. Dp will be the only father not wearing a suit I imagine. He'll have a nice jacket and shirt on but be in jeans at the bottom.

I have been madly surfing shops all week and think I am going for a navy tunic thingy from phase 8 with either white skinnies or jeggings grin White skinnies will make me Almost An Italian and I really don't do frocks.

We ordered in the end coloured wooden crosses (the MIL will have a fit when she sees how pretty and not cruxificiony they are) from the Brazilian co-operative that the parish supports for the "party bags" and on etsy I found some really nice little handmade lavender bags which can be personalised name/date/FHC for dd's friends.

On Sunday we have to schlep to dp's sister's place to plan the menu.

NotTreadingGrapes Fri 19-Apr-13 06:20:06

Lasagne- Lynette? Made in advance, reheated.

Actually, anything that can be made in advance!

wigglesrock Fri 19-Apr-13 06:58:03

NotTreadingGrapes loving the use of the word crucifixiony smile Our 12 o clock mass is the kids one.

Dd got to watch last year's Communion on DVD in school yesterday - they are all very excited. You couldnt pay me to be a teacher!! I think she may be asked to do a Prayer of the Faithful my mil and my mum may have the showdown of all showdowns to be the proudest Nana. My mil had all sons and I have 3 daughters - I am almost literally the hen that layed the golden egg wink

Right can't put it off any more off to look at shoes that will probably cost more than the whole Communion outfit put together shock

sashh Fri 19-Apr-13 08:34:30

Dd does hers on 19/5. We are frockless and in Italy.

In Italy, frockless, are you joking?

NotTreadingGrapes Fri 19-Apr-13 11:03:22

lol sashh, only frockless because feckless mummy hasn't got round to it yet! Thanks for link though, will add to my list of sites to feckle through!

My dd is the first female born in dp's family for 52 years. He has 14 nephews. Go figure the pressure I am under! (they needed the foreign blood you see...grin)

Our church allocates a pew per child at the front and parents and siblings sit up there with the communion child, the rest of the guests at the back of the church.

Apparently as each child goes up their whole family go with them to receive communion at the same time... I'll have to prewarn my non catholic father about that!

wigglesrock Sat 20-Apr-13 19:44:18

flat, simple, white, peeptoe shoes - £5.99 H&M smile

Exactly what dd I was looking for and more importantly they have been great granny approved wink

NotTreadingGrapes Sat 20-Apr-13 21:52:24

Just ordered for dd. This was the second dress she looked at and this was what she loved straightaway, she's having the shoes/headband and tights that the girl in the pic is wearing as well!,mon_3.3,mon_3.3.3/3583152829
That's one of us sorted at least!

LynetteScavo Sun 21-Apr-13 17:13:34's very pretty!

I must stop looking at little white dresses, as I keep seeing ones that I think might be nicer than the one I've bought for DD!

LynetteScavo Tue 23-Apr-13 21:56:27

So, if I wear a navy blue dress, I won't be able to wear black tights, will I?Whit black heels? On a Sunday morning?

Nude/tan tights might be better, could be a bit sombre otherwise.

Or how about a new pair of heels as an excuse to shoe shop in a bright colour. One of our moms is wearing a navy dress with bright pink heels.

Last practice in the church tomorrow morning and then I'm stealing dd from school and having a girly day window shopping and picking up the last bits and pieces. She has a hospital appointment in the closest thing to a city we have in this part of the country in the afternoon so it was a good excuse to have a girly afternoon and pick up the last few things I needed in penneys (primark) while I'm there grin

NotTreadingGrapes Wed 24-Apr-13 06:29:54

Lynette, sadly I don't think you will. (hence me going for trousers because I have lumpy calves and so pale tights are definitely out!)

How about skin coloured/vaguely tanned leg colour? (not the old American Tan (Tango?) that they used to do of course, but the leg coloured tights?)

Enjoy your girly shop Summer! Is it your FHC this weekend?

On Sunday shock can't believe it's almost here already.

Awful week for us though, dps dad is dying and is likely to go at any moment sad We haven't told dd yet.

NotTreadingGrapes Wed 24-Apr-13 09:34:40

Oh no. sad

Goodness how awful. Hugs to you all. x

willyoulistentome Wed 24-Apr-13 09:49:01

This is about the only reason I actually thank my lucky stars I only have boys. School troos and white shirt with a red sash supplied by school.
Our parish priest has stated no veils for the girls. Too much faffing I believe.

Thanks ntg.... Dp is understandably all over the place.

We're done shopping now, managed to get myself a bra for €3 in penneys so got lucky there. They had lovely communion socks too so I grabbed those as I'm thinking it's going to be too warm for tights under dds massive dress.

When I went to get dd from school they were filming the communion kids as part of the fhc video that's being made so they're getting really excited now. Last practice run in the church this morning too.

NotTreadingGrapes Wed 24-Apr-13 13:49:14

I ordered my shoes from ebay. £12. grin I don't do shoes so I wasn't prepared to pay much!

LynetteScavo Wed 24-Apr-13 19:32:14

Sorry to hear about your DPs dad, SummerRain. sad

DD hasn't practiced in school yet...she made me practice with her last night, and I noticed she was doing the sign of the cross the wrong way. hmm You'd think at child from a Catholic family, who goes to a Catholic school would have that sorted by now.

I'm not sure I'm brave enough to wear pink heels...I may have to give this some thought.

grin I used to do it back to front too until my communion teacher noticed and made us all practice it everyday blush

When is your dds Lynette? You're getting close too aren't you?

LynetteScavo Thu 25-Apr-13 17:23:39

2nd of June. We have time to practice......

Oh wow, yours is quite late. Plenty of time to get it all right ;)

NotTreadingGrapes Fri 26-Apr-13 08:20:18

Ordered some invites from vistaprint yesterday. Had got a lovely simple one all sorted when dp shrieked in horror it looked like a funeral mass card. angry (it didn't, at all, it just wasn't all OTT blowsy-flowery-gushy like most of them. After chuntering loudly we have gone for OTT blowsy and flowery. Chuh.)


lpa Sat 27-Apr-13 09:30:41

Thanks for the suggestions on here - going shopping for her dress today and hopefully will find the £5.99 shoes at H&M. And the communion's in 2 weeks, and have a multitude of relatives and friends coming for lunch afterwards!
Thought of making my usual easy fruit Christmas cake, icing and then make a fondant cross on the top, but will look at Bible cakes after the ideas on here.
Getting small silver boxes for a slice of cake as a giveaway to all, and MIL has made tiny satin flowers to go on the top.
Now need ideas for the food, actually snacks really, DH is insisting on a caterer for lunch, and something to keep 15 children occupied - from 2-15 years.

NotTreadingGrapes Sat 27-Apr-13 09:40:41

My lot, in true Italian style have all fallen out. <rolls eyes> We were having the do at sister's country house, but brother has said he won't go to sister's as they did him wrong years back over some financial shenanigans. Now the plan is to do it at Ma's country house, except of course sister will now fall out with everyone and won't come.

Anther normal family day in the NotTreading household. God love em. grin

wigglesrock Sat 27-Apr-13 14:17:24

NotTreadingGrapes smile Mind you I'm from Belfast - we're the best at grudges wink

The Irish are as bad ntg.

My mother hasn't spoken to my uncle in almost 15 years. They live two miles from each other!

wigglesrock Sun 28-Apr-13 07:16:23

SummerRainIsA......... Hope today goes well smile

Thanks wiggle.... We've been up since 6.30 shock

All going smoothly so far and dp is holding up ok.

I went to my friends house last night to set up for today and she had everything done already so I'm having an easy time of it really grin

Sorry, that made no sense as I hadn't posted it on here, dps dad passed on Friday night sad

Dp seems to be ok though, he's glad he got there for the end and one of the last things fil said was he should go and enjoy this day with dd so he's not feeling guilt at not staying down with his family for the weekend.

wigglesrock Sun 28-Apr-13 08:47:55

I'm sorry to hear that. I know it was all a bit complicated (dont worry I'm not stalking you, I recognised your name on a different thread ) Anyway hope it's a great day, am sure your dd will be beautiful.

NotTreadingGrapes Sun 28-Apr-13 11:16:15

Oh no. Sorry to hear that Summer. Love to you all. xx

Hope everything is going well today and look forward to hearing all about it, frockery and all!

Thanks wiggles, don't worry... I recognised you from the other thread too smile

Ntg, thank you too. It was a lovely day despite the circumstances. Dd was gorgeous and did so well at the service. It was beautiful, there were 10 of them and they all had readings. Dd brought the gifts up too. Then the priest called them up one by one to present them with a badge to wear to mass and a rose bush. After that they all stood at the alter with him for the whole communion rite, they came down to their families to give the sign of the peace and went back up to him. When it was time for communion they came down one by one and brought their families up and received communion with their whole family (or blessing in the case of my non catholic father and two younger children)

Then tea and cake in the village hall hosted by last years communion parents where we presented the priest and their teacher with cards and flowers.

After that we went to dds best friends house for their joint party, they had a blast. Weather was a bit miserable but the kids didn't seem bothered. We're just home now, the party is probably going to go on til the wee hours but our kids were exhausted and cranky so with that and dp obviously struggling to maintain his happy face we called it a day.

Dd was gorgeous, I'll post a pic tomorrow, too wrecked to haul the laptop out now.

And for those who remember... The traveller family was every bit as entertaining as we'd hoped wink Think gypsy weddings and you have it. Hummer, mahoosive dress, giant tiara, fake tan, hours of photography, skirt so big the child couldn't sit down, make up, crystal studded everything. grin

wigglesrock Mon 29-Apr-13 10:41:03

Glad it all went well :-) Will be thinking of you this week, hope funeral goes as well as it can.

Let us know when you post a pic, I'm not even going to hide my nosinessgrin

Pendipidy Mon 29-Apr-13 11:26:23

Pics up smile

NotTreadingGrapes Mon 29-Apr-13 15:03:10

Oh, lovely Summer! Dd looks so sophisticated and proud! smile

My dd's frockery arrived today, and it all fits perfectly. My own white skinnies arrived however and are so thin and hideous you would see my pants! So off to Boden I go (where I should have gone in the first place tbh) and whack the see through ones on ebay!

Your DD looks beautiful Summer as do the rest of you. smile

Thank you both smile

wigglesrock Mon 29-Apr-13 18:57:41

Beautiful photos, beautiful beautiful dd. You all look lovely.

Ps If anyone is looking I got a plain white cardigan for dd1 (I have 3 dds, I have to do this 3 times grin) in M&S today. Its completely plain, none of this strange inside out seams that seems to be all the rage.

AngiBolen Mon 29-Apr-13 21:17:30

Lovely photos, SummerRainIsADistantMemory! smile

Glad it all went well.

Just beautiful!

My ds made his yesterday. He had a lovely wee suit, a purple shirt & tie & a pair of purple converse (the trousers covered a good bit of these though!)

We'd everyone back here & he had ice-cream cake! We made pasta salad, rice, potato salad, chicken, cooked ham, lasagne, breads, cheeses etc and goujons/ sausages/garlic bread for the kids.

Bouncy castle in our yard and for the hard core ones, toasties @ 11pm last night!!!

Irish so no wine except for mil wink

Congrats to your ds fairhaired grin

Was at mass with dd this morning and she and the other communion kids were grinning at each other like loons going up to receive grin was lovely to see

Thank you! We were out this morning too, only 3 others from his class were there though, all in their wee rigouts from yesterday too smile

I just wore my jeans wink

LynetteScavo Sun 05-May-13 19:19:45

Congratulations to your DS Fairhaired!

Re the H&M shoes - I mangaged to buy a pair yesterday....did any of you need to put elastic on them? DD can't walk in slip-ons, os I'm going to have to put elastic/ribbon on them...just wondering about the best way to do it.

Who knew white shoes could be so difficult?

wigglesrock Sun 05-May-13 21:31:36

FairheadedandFrustrated congratulation to your son. All the boys in my dds class are wearing converse, dd is jealous smile

My dd is fine in slip ons, she has a few dozen pairs from H&M
Sorry not much help!

LynetteScavo Mon 13-May-13 18:27:48

Probably no one needs them now...but Tesco are selling white shoes (which stay on!) for 5....I only know about them because I stopped a random child and asked them where they got their shoes. grin

I popped to Tesco after school with DD and got her some...which means I won't have to faff about trying to tie the H&M ones onto DDs feet.

(I still want these but can't justify it for one hours wear, when no one will really notice)

LynetteScavo Mon 13-May-13 18:28:11

that's £5

wigglesrock Mon 20-May-13 08:37:47

Think there may have been a few that did theirs on Saturday!

Hope everyone had a great time. Dd1s went really well, even though the rain bucketed :-). She was lovely, they all were, I cried but not as much as my Mum smile

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong Mon 20-May-13 14:07:38

It's me! NotTreading, still wearing my Eurovision name!

All done and dusted and out the other end unscathed....

I cried more than anyone in the place

LynetteScavo Wed 05-Jun-13 20:17:51

In case anyone is still here...just wanted to say it was the most beautiful perfect day, ever. smile

There were six DC, all girls, who DD knew from school, which made it special for her.

Afterwards there was a white stretch Hummer outside for one of the girls. grin

DH earnestly tried telling DD (and me hmm) the girl needed such a large car, because she had such a large family.

I only wish I'd taken more photos.

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong Wed 05-Jun-13 20:25:00

I'm still here! In fact, was going to bump this thread to see how everyone's went!

Lovely Lynette, glad it went well! I took 150 pics and we have to go to the photographer this week to order the official churchy ones. The dvd we get in September.

LynetteScavo Wed 05-Jun-13 22:13:19

We don't get a DVD anymore. sad

I found the DVD of DS1's FHC the other was soooo sweet! (And his cheeks were so chubby! grin)

No official photos either. I think I may have to put DD back in her dress, and do her hair, and get her to pose a bit next time the sun comes out, so we have a nice photo to frame.

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong Thu 06-Jun-13 13:53:51

Oh yes you must! I keep forgetting to go to the photographers to look through (and order) the official ones.

Must say, it's been the one and only time when I have been amazed and thrilled at Italian organisation precision. Clockwork. Everything, perfect. Why don't they let priests and catechist ladies run the country I ask myself......grin

wigglesrock Thu 06-Jun-13 23:12:19

LynetteScavo we did that smile Bucketed down on the day of dds. But they all wore them again on Sunday for Corpus Christi and the weather was lovely, so parked dd1 out the back and took loads of photos.

We get our DVD next week I think. The PTA do it and then the proceeds go to the school.

Glad it all went well smile

I was wondering where this thread had gotten to!

I'm glad it went so well Lynette, sounds like a really lovely day. And a hummer is always good for some added entertainment wink

Dd had another go in the dress for the corpus Christi procession on Sunday and it was a gloriously sunny day so we got some lovely pics.

Dd insisted on ordering the DVD, no sign of it appearing yet though, they break for summer in two weeks so it would want to come soon hmm

sweetkitty Sat 08-Jun-13 22:48:34

DD1 made hers a few weeks ago, it poured own all day hmm she was stunning, there was 19 who made it. She loved all the attention. Only down side was I invited too many children to the afters in our house they wrecked the place hmm.

It was sunny in the corpus christi procession though

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