New Christian Prayer Thread for February...

(607 Posts)
Tuo Mon 04-Feb-13 20:32:02

Is it too early to call this the ‘early Spring’ thread? Wishful thinking? wink

Praying at this time especially for:
amberlight – for strength to cope with those who would campaign against those with ASDs; and, in contrast, giving thanks for her work in raising awareness of the needs of people with autism;
BabyBeatrice and her family – for healing and fortitude as they deal with Beatrice’s illness;
BlackEyedSusan – for health and strength for her; for an easier time at school for her children; and for her mum to feel more settled;
BlueTinkerbell – giving thanks for her baby DD; and praying for her as she explores her vocation;
charlottecollinsislost – for her to know more certainty in her difficult relationship situation;
DoctorAnge – for health for her little girl;
Dontsteponthemomeraths – for her DS as he is referred to the community paediatrician; for her ‘LM’ as he tries to establish contact with his children; for her brother to regain full use of his thumb, following an accident;
DutchOma and Bob – for health for Bob and for him to feel at ease in his new ; and for Oma to feel supported as she cares for him day-to-day;
FlatsInDagenham – for the family and friends of her colleague, who died recently; for her SIL who has cancer; and for her brother and their family;
GingerCurl – for the successful and (relatively) stress-free completion of her thesis;
HaveALittleFaith – for health and happiness as she nears the end of her pregnancy;
jann2013 – for her health; for an easier relationship with her ex; and for her to feel accepted at her church following the break-up of her relationship;
Kaykat – for her and her DS to know peace and happiness as they emerge from an abusive relationship;
MadHairDay - for her continued good health; and for her whole family and their mission, that they will find the resources (financial, practical, spiritual, whatever) that they need to grow and flourish;
PositiveAttitude – for her mission overseas; and especially for her DD1 who has been going through some tough times and may soon be spending some time abroad with her parents; for happiness for the whole Attitude family; also for PA’s mum who has Alzheimer’s; and prayers of thanks for the birth of PA’s baby great-nephew;
raininginbaltimore – for healing for her broken foot; for health for her baby girl who has terrible reflux; and for her financial situation to improve;
Roomforalittleone - for her hyperemesis to ease and for her house sale to go through smoothly, easing her family’s financial anxieties;
Teahouse – for healing following her TVT operation;
waitingtobeamummy – for her to feel closer to God following a series of difficult situations, and in the meantime for her to feel our prayers supporting her;
...and for all who post on this thread, for those who lurk, for occasional visitors, and for those known to us who are in need of prayer, whether mentioned here or not.

Lord, in Your mercy, hear our prayers.

GingerCurl Mon 04-Feb-13 21:06:21

Thank you, Tuo. Marking my place.

Tuo Mon 04-Feb-13 21:06:50

Can I add a prayer for Sarah (as per this thread, who has cancer and meningitis and is gravely ill? Thanks.

Marking place and praying.

Marking my place

Dutchoma Mon 04-Feb-13 22:12:38

Thank you TUO

blackeyedsusan Mon 04-Feb-13 22:41:10

thanks tuo

mary how are you?

prayers for mum would be appreciated aas she was crying aabout the boiler tonight... just over 24 hours home. I hope it was a glitch.

MaryBS Tue 05-Feb-13 08:00:03

Thanks TUO. Prayers for your mum BES, and also for Sarah. Please also pray for N, a boy at DD's school who tried to kill himself sad, that God will guide him through this difficult time, and he will see life is worth living.

BES, I'm OK, things keep getting fraught, I am hoping to have a relatively quiet day and get some tasks done that I've neglected...

MadHairDay Tue 05-Feb-13 08:53:20

Thankyou TUO, you're a star, but you missed yourself off the list, so I'm adding you and praying for you :P smile

Oh Mary, praying for N and his family. sad

It's snowing!

blackeyedsusan Tue 05-Feb-13 10:03:54

we had a sprinkling of snow.

I have put in the request for a parents evening appointment. I am hoping that we will get one when we have asked, rather than an appointment on competely different day at a time when there is no creche and that the childen's dad can't get to, after he has booked time off work and done 170 mile round trip to attend. hmm

Thank you Tuo another very helpful start of a thread!

Praying for everyone!

blackeyedsusan Tue 05-Feb-13 13:31:36

oh joy. I have got to go to school to see the salt about ds. i am worried his behaviour will not be good when I turn up. I m also worried that the teacher will not be happy. she is not the easiest to work with. it certainly does not feel that we arre working in partnership.

Dutchoma Tue 05-Feb-13 13:37:57

Too many stories like that BES. My daughter reports the same about dgrandson's school.

flying by and marking my spot. Thanks Tuo smile thanks

GingerCurl Tue 05-Feb-13 14:59:54

Praying BES

amberlight Tue 05-Feb-13 20:26:48

Praying through....

blackeyedsusan Tue 05-Feb-13 22:26:22

the salt was lovely again! apparently a lot of parents have not got letters or letters on time. (phew) she was working with ds as she thought I was not coming... but on the other hand he got to work and concentrate in the quiet and without interuption.. by the time I arrived the corridor he was working in was heaving hmm

salt said she would have a quiet word about the effect of the classroom changes on asd children as it seemed that the teacher did not seem to realise the big effect it would have and said it would unsettle all childen. I hope it goes in! training for teachers is patchy.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 05-Feb-13 22:33:11

Settling in. Really pleased to hear working with the SALT was a positive experience bes.

Glad you've had a better day Mary.

Back to work for me tomorrow sad please pray its a steady day! My last two long days coming up!

eskimofriends Wed 06-Feb-13 01:05:29

Marking and praying

blackeyedsusan Wed 06-Feb-13 07:29:04

good luck with work faith

Dutchoma Wed 06-Feb-13 09:35:49

Welcome eskimofriends.

Morning All.

I'd really appreciate some prayers for peace this morning. I suspect that the buyer for our house may kick off or pull out today. I have no idea what we'll do about money. Sometimes I think it would just be easier to default on mortgage payments or stop training and go back to work. I can't believe that God doesn't want us here but I also can't see how we can stay if the house sale doesn't proceed sadsadsad

Also DH had some interesting phone calls about something separate yesterday. Annoyingly I probably won't be able to discuss it with anyone for months but I really need to talk about it because it will have a huge effect on my life and I don't really have any say in the matter.

I am feeling more than a little trapped by life at the moment. I know that following DH's calling is not about making me happy, it's about the people who we will share Jesus with. But, I have given up my entire life as I knew it, feel like I've lost my entire identity, am facing financial ruin and am having a hideous pregnancy that is preventing me from getting stuck in up here. I can't help but feel like if I have to change so much, then it's not me who God really wants. The annoying thing is that I could quote scriptures and teaching about this until the cows come home but it doesn't help how I'm feeling.

Sorry for the rant. It's not the sort of thing that you are supposed to admit to in leadership, is it?!

GingerCurl Wed 06-Feb-13 10:12:54

Oh Room, I had a similar feeling of being trapped when I was studying theology many years ago. It's a horrible place to be emotionally. I got out in the end. Praying for you and for house sale.

blackeyedsusan Wed 06-Feb-13 11:15:32

sometimes room, you just need a hug and a helping hand...the theology can come later...

Feeling much better having chatted with DO. I just needed to let it out! The pressure to 'keep up appearances' was really getting to me. Life is hard and I'm not good at keeping that to myself!

Dutchoma Wed 06-Feb-13 12:25:33

smile

GingerCurl Wed 06-Feb-13 13:35:04

Could I ask you also to pray for protection for Dsis, her family and MIL who today are travelling to India for three weeks. DN1(14) and DN2(11) are adopted as babies and this trip is to show them their country of origin. They will be travelling across the country and also visit the orphanage they both came from. Please pray that the adults will be able to support and respond appropriately to any questions and reactions that DNs may have.

MadHairDay Wed 06-Feb-13 19:22:02

Praying, Ginger.

Room - I know. I know just what you mean. I think it's something very common to vicar factory spouses. It's something pretty hard to get your head round - it's a bit of a lifetime process in some ways (sorry, that's probably not awfully helpful) - you are welcome anytime to talk it through with me. I'm not long out the other end of college smile Prayers for you, and for the house situation.

Tuo Wed 06-Feb-13 20:20:43

Praying Ginger. It sounds like an important, but potentially difficult, trip for all of them. Hoping it does well.

Room - I'm sorry things are so tough for you at the moment.

Sorry for my melt fown earlier. I had a good cry in chapel this evening and now I have managed to pull myself together. I have come down with a cold so I guess that's why I've been feeling physically rotten all day. Thanks for the prayers.

JaneLane Wed 06-Feb-13 23:26:36

Hi, I'm new here! I'm a vicar's wife who to be very honest is struggling at the moment! My DH is three years out of curacy and we spent two years at a university with him being a chaplain and then last year we moved in to his first parish as a fully fledged priest.

This has started a very tough period in our lives (I don't want to say too much and make it clear who I am/which parish we are in). Their is great uncertainty within the parish and a rift is starting between two distinct groups within the parish. It feels like me and DH are between these two battling sides and can't form any real relationships for fear of being seen to have chosen sides. The argument has stemmed from a difference of theological (and to some extent generational in my opinion) opinion.

DH felt a calling to this parish and feels he could make a difference if people allowed him to mediate more so he feels very frustrated at the moment and obviously this then affects our family and home life.

We are both the children of clergy so knew this was a part of parish life but it is still very hard at the moment.

I'm finding it upsetting and DH is finding it upsetting and I'm worrying that my DC will start picking up on it and they will find it all upsetting and that's the last thing I want obviously.

Prayers for the situation to come to a resolve soon - or at least for my DH to feel that his mediation is beginning to help would be much appreciated.

Tuo Thu 07-Feb-13 00:48:52

Welcome Jane, and prayers. Obviously I don't know the detail of the situation, but I can imagine the kinds of things that might be an issue... and how difficult it must be. Is there any support from within the Church for people in your DH's (and your - your family's) situation, trying to mediate and resolve in such situations? Is there someone you can talk this through with? No idea how these things work, but I hope you can find some support. Meanwhile, keeping you in prayer.

Room - no need to apologise, it's what we're here for. How's your sickness at the moment? I hope you're feeling a bit better in that department, despite the cold.

JaneLane Thu 07-Feb-13 01:12:27

My DH has had some help from a communications adviser at the diocese and one of the older vicars in a neighbouring parish has been very kind to the both of us and has given him some fantastic advice.

The issues are two-fold - both of which have been voted on recently. They are very sensitive subjects for many people still.

It doesn't help that we moved hundreds of miles away from our family and friends for this opportunity for DH so our complete support network is gone. And I'm 8 months pregnant which will never aid rational thinking!

It is very nice knowing there are people out there praying for us and I've read through the thread and have everyone very much in my prayers.

jann2013 Thu 07-Feb-13 08:05:55

lurking n praying

amberlight Thu 07-Feb-13 09:07:40

Praying for everyone.
JaneLane, the joys of clergy life are many and varied and eeek, that's for sure...from the huge array of clergy friends I have, I sense that this is pretty standard at the moment alas. Not that this makes it any easier for anyone to get through. In a way, clergy life is very isolation-making, with all this moving round the country stuff that most clergy are expected to do. Prayers that you will both find wonderful local people outside of this situation who can just be there for you.

Here, DS (now 20 and at Uni) is home to have an eye operation today to stabilise his eyesight. After my cancer treatment, hospitals are not my favourite place to be, and they are a sensory nightmare for both of us. Prayers that all goes well would be much appreciated.

MadHairDay Thu 07-Feb-13 09:14:27

Welcome JaneLane! I'm another vicar's kid/vicar's wife, dh is a pioneer minister atm. I'm so sorry for the situation you find yourself in - it sounds hard work. This thing can be so isolating. Glad you've found us smile

Room, glad you're ok, this is the place for a meltdown when you need one smile

Amber, oh praying for you and for ds today very much.

Jan, nice to see you lurking, how are things going?

Morning All!

Janelane DH is currently training so I guess we have all this to look forward to. Praying for unity and tolerance. Also that you will have your own bit of space and spiritual feeding. Is a short retreat for you possible? A bit of refreshing might be just what you need?

Amber praying for you and your DS.

I've woken up feeling even worse with my cold sore throat and it is making my nausea worse. At least I feel far better spiritually and emotionally. I'm taking paperwork in to the solicitor in the hope that the house actually sells. I'm not sure that I entirely care today about the house though. I'm sure God's got it in hand somehow.

JaneLane Thu 07-Feb-13 11:57:28

Amber - praying for you and your DS that the operation will go well and that the hospital will not be too upsetting for you or him.

I think it probably is a common occurrence across the CofE - however DH has pretty much convinced himself it is something that he has done/not done which has made the situation here so fractious. I'm hoping when I get in to the baby group circle with this baby I'll be able to meet some more people. We're in a large village community here but it is much more insular than either DH or I was expecting so I'm hoping to try some baby groups in the nearby larger town to meet more people.

Mad hello! Nice to meet somebody else in the same position! It's amazing how you can be constantly surrounded by so many people in parish life yet still feel isolated and alone in the community. I don't think we'd be able to do this as a family without the strength God gives us.

Room being a clergy wife is tough but rewarding most of the time I promise! My parents are coming to stay for half term so I hope that will help us both feel less isolated and take a bit of the pressure of for a couple of days. Who knew everyday life could be so tiring? I'm praying that everything goes well with your house sale and that if it doesn't you will feel strength from God to be able to cope with all that will happen.

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Feb-13 12:58:38

I haave a meeting with the head teacher and caf today. oh joy of joys.

if I get chance I am going to ask the head if he can answer a couple of dd's questions as he was so highly hmm she (me) is deluded at the last meeting.

"lead has a higher atomic mass number than gold, does that mean it is more dense?"

"is an electron the smallest thing in the world?"

"when you pull on a sock and let go and it springs back, is that an example of newton's third law?"

so that is now chemistry, physics and particle physics I need to revise/learn from scratch... oh and there was a minor interest in latin which thankfully prof wiki was able to sort.

having had a meeting with the teacher and emailed, i am hoping that they will actually get around to looking at her science and doing an assessment

I have another meeting with the autism advisor and head teacher next week... I have another question to put to the head with an audience...

I shall soon be getting a whole drawer to myself in the awkward squad filing cabinet.

oh and I get the joy of reading though the sen code of prractice again tomorrow and monday.

cloutiedumpling Thu 07-Feb-13 13:46:56

Hi everyone. PWraying and lurking. Lurking and praying.

Anyone know off hand when babies are meant to crawl? DD is 11 months now and is still not crawling. I'm afraid to look generally on MN because it often seems full of babies who were walking at 6 months and reading before they were two. I think she is probably slower than average at physical things but don't know when it becomes a problem.

cloutiedumpling Thu 07-Feb-13 13:49:46

Praying. I've no idea what PWraying is...

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Feb-13 13:51:41

dd crawled at 8 months... did not walk til 17.5 months.

is she bum shuffling instead?

ds crawled about the same time and walked about 11 months.

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Feb-13 13:52:31

keyboard must have a listhp!

Dutchoma Thu 07-Feb-13 14:14:24

Rose my dgrandaughter is hardly crawling, although she can. She bumshffles at high speed and has about 8 words. She is 18 months.

This is going to sound pathetic but I feel really ill. I've had cramping pains and backache on and off since yesterday evening as well so I can't sleep properly. I don't feel like I have the reserves to deal with this in top of my normal sickness. DH is going to do the school/ballet run for me. I feel like a failure!

Kaykat Thu 07-Feb-13 15:54:16

Littleone, please don't feel like a failure, it's not your fault that you're ill and feeling sick for such a long time must really get you down. Do you think you should get the cramps checked out? Just to make sure everything's ok. Praying that you start to feel better really soon.

Dutchoma Thu 07-Feb-13 16:18:16

Definitely get the cramps checked out, my love. Although you have so much stress in your life that they could easily be the result of that. You really don't need to be down on yourself with all the hassle going on. Prayers going up for you.

As well as for Amber' son.
And for BES and her dd. What a clever girl you have. She sounds so brilliant.

MadHairDay Thu 07-Feb-13 16:32:46

Praying for you Room, I agree with the others, I think you should get it checked out. Don't feel pathetic about feeling ill, it's the hardest thing with little ones around. Hope you feel much better soon.

I've got a sore throat and headache, so willing it not to go on my chest...

cloutiedumpling Thu 07-Feb-13 17:59:29

Room - poor you. You have so much on your plate just now. I think it is so hard when you are pregnant but already have kids. I think you should also get yourself checked out too. It is probably just one of those annoying pregnancy things but best to find out. Praying for you and your family.

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Feb-13 18:48:53

room, have you managed to get yourself checked out? just give up the idea of keeping up appearances now. you will not be able to do it and yyou will get yourself more stressed. you are human like the rest of us none vicars. giving up you home, friends, family and familiar suroundings is very stressful it is a normal reaction to be upset over that and find things difficult fo a while. you ae not a failure anymore than the rest of us.

I spoke to the on-call midwife who thinks it is 'growing pains' but if it gets worse or I get other symptoms it's straight to A&E (not pg enough for labour ward). IME, even if you start bleeding they will do nothing (bled at 18, 20 and 22 weeks with DS) until you have a 'viable foetus'. To top it all, I now have toothache as well. Ouch!

amberlight Thu 07-Feb-13 19:42:41

Home from operation - it went well but it's very painful despite the painkillers. If prayer could be extended to pain tolerance, that would be great.
And praying here for L, who had a major stroke. And for her family.

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Feb-13 19:56:10

angry will be back later

Amber, well done to you and DS for getting through today. Praying for pain relief and good results. Also for a good night's sleep after what I guess has been a very draining day.

Tuo Fri 08-Feb-13 00:32:21

Lots of prayers, Amber.

BES, you OK?

Just popping by quickly with a thank you for a prayer answered. Don't want to go into details... too complicated and involves a bit of a row with DH, but everything is fine now.

blackeyedsusan Fri 08-Feb-13 11:58:02

i am now!

I waas a bit cross at the Whole school thing last night. a meeting as cancelled...but the head had not been clear on which meeting on which day and with whom was the cancelled one. so i turned up.. also he has told me that we will be discussing dd after the meeting (rearranged) next week. that should be a productive meeting then... NOT!

I spoke to dd's class teacher about her science, that rreceived a reasonable hearing, emailed with some details of what to look for... hear nothing, but obviously the head has been told so asked the teacher she had passed on the information to the deputy. I am beginning to wish that I never said anything. oh wwell we will find out a little more at parents evening, I hope [deluded] or on tuesday.

and joy of joys, I have lost the email.

Kaykat Fri 08-Feb-13 11:59:47

Had a happy week but today I am wondering what the purpose of my life will be. My life was all about H and DS and if they end up spending lots of time together without me what will I do? There's no sign of that happening at the moment thankfully but something DS said made me start thinking about that. I don't have much else in my life and everything feels a bit pointless.

Kaykat Fri 08-Feb-13 12:09:45

BES do they have an able and gifted programme in your area? The school would need to put her name forward for it, you might need to push them a bit. Check your local council website for information.

Dutchoma Fri 08-Feb-13 12:21:04

Oh Kaykat, how sad that you feel you have nothing else to do than appease your NOTSODARLINGHUSBAND. You have so much to give to the world, with or without your son and you will be able to do that without feeling guilty about having to do something else. Your son will have had a wonderful example in his mother, he is growing up straight, realising that there are right and wrong ways to treat women and he would not have had that if you hadn't called time on the relationship.
BES it's hard if they are so very advanced in a subject, we were very helped by a programme the university here ran on one Saturday a month. I'm glad you flagged it up to the school, she deserves that.

jann2013 Fri 08-Feb-13 12:23:48

hey there, Kaykat sorry you are feeling this way. it is really hard what did you do before you had ds? someone once told me its good to pursue other things in your life anyway, cos there comes a time when the nest will be empty and then people don't know who they are or what to do. maybe you could spend the time when he is at his dads to think about who you are and what you like to do and maybe get involved with something? and maybe ds won't end up spending a lot of time with his dad.. maybe his dad will just not be as bothered after awhile, its hard to know. my dh doesn't want any overnights as its too hard work. i don't know if thats going to change.
thinking of you.

can i ask a wee prayer request...tonight i am minding my friends 3 year old while she is at work. im nervous.. i know it sounds really silly, but im not used to other children apart from my own, and just hope it all goes ok and i will be able to cope with it ok.

Kaykat Fri 08-Feb-13 12:57:43

I met H quite young so before I had DS we did everything together. There are a few interests that come to mind I would like to pursue. ATM DS can't stay with H, his place is too small and too far away and he doesn't seem very interested in seeing DS much either so I am probably worrying unnecessarily about my empty nest.

blackeyedsusan Fri 08-Feb-13 13:07:45

shhh don't mention the g word... at least not until I have my flame proof suit! wink

it is not done to mention the g word... one is not allowed to "boasst" you know!

I am really worried about the attitude of the head to the email I sent. I am wishing that I had kept quiet.. it may of course be ok. I have not gone in with the atttude that the school is crap and blind or anything...just asked for an objective opinion.... I have put a lot of work into not speaking to the teachers when I am hormonal, grin sending in thankyou cards and christmas presents... (get 2 terms of goodwill) I shall start leaving a paper trail though. (as long as I do not loose the sodding emails)

ds has a friend!

Dutchoma Fri 08-Feb-13 13:21:27

Hallelujah for ds friend BES. I don't think you can 'lose' an e.mail, it should still be around somewhere. No idea how you can go about finding it, though.

blackeyedsusan Fri 08-Feb-13 13:24:07

I can lose anything. prrofoundly gifted at losing things. if there was a meaasure of losing things iq mine would be well over 160...

Check in your deleted folder, BES.

It could also be called 'trash'

<wonders if that is a strangely fitting title for this e-mail from the head>

Dutchoma Fri 08-Feb-13 13:46:41

How are you feeling Littleone

Better than yesterday. I'm still grotty with a cold but my head isn't spinning, the crampy pains/back ache and horrible pressure 'low down' that I was having yesterday has eased loads and my 'toothache' seems to just be an ulcer between my wisdom tooth and the next tooth in a very delicate place so I guess most of the pain is referred pain. As for house sale news, the estate agent seemed a bit taken back by my firm and exasperated attitude to the buyers demands. Apparently the solicitors need to talk. The buyer is still being a demanding bully but I feel peaceful and that it's up to God as we've done everything we can at the minute.

Oh and exciting news of the day...

<drum roll>


I felt the baby move!

Dutchoma Fri 08-Feb-13 14:44:36

Oh Littleone's littleone moved. How very special. So glad you are feeling better. Do you have some tea tree lotion to rince with? 6 drops of pure tea tree oil in a 500ml bottle of spring water.

Apparently you're not supposed to take tea tree oil by mouth when pregnant. I'll have to do DH's trick of salt on the area - painful but effective!

Tuo Fri 08-Feb-13 16:27:16

Salt? Blimey, you are hard core, Roomy! [wince] I swear by Anbesol for mouth ulcers, but I can't remember if it's safe in pregnancy or not, so that's not a lot of help to you. Prayers for you to feel better very soon. And hooray for a moving LittleOne!

Kay... It must be really hard, but I think the trick is probably to see this as an opportunity to do something (or more than one thing) that you have always fancied but have never had time to do: new hobby, evening class, church group, voluntary work, whatever... And I completely second everything that wise Oma has said!

BES - praying for better support for your dd. And hooray for your DS's little friend. smile

Kaykat Fri 08-Feb-13 16:32:23

grin at the g word.

Jan your H thinks its too much hard work? Some men think the mum should do all the hard work whilst they pick an choose the easy and nice bits, seems like you and I both ended up with men like that sad

Oma thanks for your straight talking you sound like my mum. I just chatted to her and she thinks its all just normal teenage stuff and of course he thinks its better to have no boundaries but when he grows up he will understand that I did what was best for him.

And me Kaykat <sigh>
Thankfully God is the perfect Father x

BES, how old is your DD?

blackeyedsusan Fri 08-Feb-13 22:17:09

pmed you the answerr room. toasty enough around here thanks!

blackeyedsusan Fri 08-Feb-13 22:19:55

oh ds survived the disco. he decided it was too spotty at one point so we went out and sat in the corridor. (spotty swirly disco lights)

Have replied smile

And I reckon your DS was right. How on earth is your brain supposed to cope with that many swirly spotty lights and not get a headache or totally disorientated? There's probably too many areas of the brain being stimulated at once with all the light, movement and noise from the disco.

blackeyedsusan Sat 09-Feb-13 08:55:21

i was thrilled that he could say too spotty rather than scream.

Dutchoma Sat 09-Feb-13 12:35:47

That is such an enormous step forward, BES, can't be underestimated, no wonder you are thrilled.

MadHairDay Sat 09-Feb-13 14:30:36

Afternoon all, that is wonderful BES smile Bless him at the spotty disco. And lovely about his friend!

Roomy, aw lovely to feel the baby move, especially after you've been feeling so rough the past few days.

Kaykat, I can't put it any better than Oma, she is so wise as usual. Just remember you are yourself, made in God's image, you are who you are meant to be, and your purpose is not bound up in other people and in serving your h and your ds. It's not in anything you do, but in who you are. I love that in the Christian life our purpose does not have to be in what we are to others or what we do in society, but only in who we are in God - you're his precious daughter. Loved and delighted in. What could be a higher purpose? Praying for you.

Jan, continuing to pray.

PA, how are things?

Having a nice relaxing weekend, still feeling much better. Feel a bit more cheered up re ministry too so thanks for prayers.

pannetone Sat 09-Feb-13 20:14:48

I haven't often posted on this thread but I have just had some very sad news. A mum at school and church who was expecting her fourth child died of a heart attack yesterday. They managed to save the baby who was born a month early but is ok. My heart goes out to her husband and 3 children who are in the juniors at school. It was very sudden and unexpected - the mum was well and their had been no problems with the pregnancy. I was on a school trip with her on Thursday. It is so shocking that something so awful can happen completely unexpectedly. Please pray for her husband and children and the whole extended family.

Dutchoma Sat 09-Feb-13 20:40:42

Oh pannetone, I'm so glad you came on here to ask for prayers for your friend. Sometimes the only consolation we have is in knowing there is a God and knowing that when things get really awful He is still there. It can't get much more awful though, can it? May God have mercy on that dear family.

Oh, Pannetone! How sad! Definitely praying for her DH and 4 DCs. Also praying for you as well. It must be such a shock for you. May you all know the peace of The Lord at this time.

pannetone Sat 09-Feb-13 21:27:49

Thank you Dutchoma and RoomForALittleOne. Please pray for our church and school community as well. So many families are going to be so shocked and upset by this loss. At school we already have a family where the mum died of meningitis 3 years ago - that bereaved dad has a child in the same class as the newly bereaved family. The same class has a family who tragically lost their 1 year old just over a year ago. I pray for them all as it will cause them so much heartache with memories of their losses.

Duthchoma - I did have a moment of feeling angry with God that this should be happening again, but I know that truly God is with us 'weeping with us in the pain'.

Dutchoma Sat 09-Feb-13 21:31:58

Yes, of course you feel anger towards God in such circumstances, you would not be human if you didn't. And yet in the deepest pain people have said they have found the deepest peace and that is what I pray for all the bereaved people in your schooll and church: that the peace of God will truly come upon you in all its fullness

Tuo Sat 09-Feb-13 22:47:32

Pannetone - I am glad you came here too. I am praying for that family and for your church and school community. I pray that you will be able to support one another through this terrible time; in my experience, when the most awful things happen we can often be surprised by the ability of human beings to show love and strength and truly to be there for one another. May God's peace be with you all at this time.

Pannetone, probably a silly question, but do you know if people are cooking meals for the family or shopping, cleaning, offering to do the school run when it's appropriate? I only ask because 1) I felt a real God prompting to do so (it seems obvious to me, but I am not about to argue with God in case I look like a fool) and 2) IME, men like to 'cope' and often you have to just give them help without asking first (sounds rude I know but it's the only reason we got any help while I was really sick as DH was too busy coping to agree to accepting help). Of course I will pray for the wider community. I particularly pray for wise and sensitive words from the vicar in church tomorrow. And that people will realise that when there is nothing good to say, it's OK to not say something totally trite but to come alongside each other in recognising that life is sometimes totally sh*t. As I've said on here before though, God is good and God is fair. So when life is this bad, there is no more perfect being to lean on and rest in the presence of.

<Stumbles in>

DS kept us up until gone 2am vomiting. He is now totally fine, full of beans in fact. DH and I are not. He has to go to his placement today and has an essay due tomorrow. Please pray for him. And please pray for lack of grumpiness due to tiredness...

cloutiedumpling Sun 10-Feb-13 08:40:17

Pannetone - praying for the family and the wider community.

BES - that is wonderful news about DS. I hope everything goes well with your DD too. In my opinion some teachers teach to the level of the average person in the class, so that the people at the bottom and the top don't get the attention they need too. Friends have raised similar issues at parents nights and have felt that the teacher has looked at them in amazement and said "but your child is doing fine and is doing all that is required of them".

MadHairDay Sun 10-Feb-13 13:18:38

Pannetone - there are just no words. The family, school, church and you all are in my prayers sad

pannetone Sun 10-Feb-13 20:58:18

Thank you for prayer. Room - Hope your family's day went as well as it could with the lack of sleep.

The bereaved family are getting practical help. The mum's sister (who is single, no children) is staying and their mum is coming over from Europe today. R. had lots of friends locally and they are rallying round as are her neighbours. The baby is still in hospital but a good weight(for gestation) and doing ok. R.'s sister says he is a beautiful baby. The 3 DC have been to see their new brother - and their mum.sad

I'm not a close friend but I will make be in touch with those who know the family best to offer help. I can see it is important for us all not to think someone else is doing it - and to organise help when the poor Dad has so much on his mind.

My friend knows the family better than me and she saw the Dad today. He is very shocked. It all happened so quickly on Friday. Having chest pain R. was transferred from a local hospital to a city one and they knew how serious it was - apparently one of the nurses was crying. sad The Dad thinks R was holding on for the baby. I just pray that her determination meant she didn't feel afraid and that on some level she knows that she gave life to her baby whilst she was losing hers.

Kaykat Mon 11-Feb-13 01:16:57

Please pray for me. Don't want to post details but desperately needed. I'm happy for anyone to message me who wants to know more.

jann2013 Mon 11-Feb-13 08:33:24

hope ur ok Kaykat thinking of you x

GingerCurl Mon 11-Feb-13 12:13:45

Praying for the family, school and community and you, Pannetone.
I hope you are OK Kay. Praying.
Yay re BES DS at disco. Praying re DDs situation.
How is your cold MHD? I've been praying that it hasn't migrated to you lungs.
Amber, how are you?
How's Bob, Oma?
Jann are you getting any sleep?
I'm struggling with feeling v resentful towards my DB's wife. It seems that since she's come into our lives she's damaged, or tried to damage, just about all DB's relationships with his family, incl. his sons, who don't feel welcome to see him and our DSis. I'm also angry with DB for letting her do it. DB wife's due to be ordained within the next 2 years, depending on when she finishes her training. What on earth were they thinking when they accepted her as a candidate for the ministry? Thinking about all this makes me so angry and sad and feel very un-Christian towards her.

Dutchoma Mon 11-Feb-13 12:20:47

Oh Ginger that is such a hard situation. Hopefully you can keep track of the fact that God is just and sees into the heart of each one of us. He will be the judge, the righteous judge of everyone. All you can do is love and support your DB and his family and leave her to the mercy of God. It is very hard though.

We are alright-ish, we saw dd and dgrandchildren yesterday, which was hard for Bob as they can be a bit noisy.

pannetone Mon 11-Feb-13 17:50:49

I went to the breaved Dad's house today with some other mums. Please continue to pray for L. His grief is terrible to see. He is in shock and can't make sense of the tragedy - as indeed none of us can. R. died of an aortal anuerism. I now appreciate and thank God for the miracle of the baby being saved.

Also a prayer for a mum who knew R. well. She lost her husband to the same condition 5 years ago when her DS was 3. She is reliving the terrible time she went through.

blackeyedsusan Mon 11-Feb-13 23:02:56

praying kay. and others.

Tuo Tue 12-Feb-13 00:37:51

Praying for Kay, Panettone, Gingercurl, BES, Jan, Bob, Room and all... Has anyone heard from Kay? I hope she's OK...

I feel it's time to repost St Augustine's night prayer, for all those on this thread and/or known to us who need it:

Watch, dear Lord, with those who wake, or watch, or weep tonight, and let your angels protect those who sleep. Tend the sick. Refresh the weary. Sustain the dying. Calm the suffering. Pity the distressed. We ask this for the sake of your love, AMEN.

Kaykat Tue 12-Feb-13 05:42:10

My H sank to new lows of emotional blackmail, threats and lies. He is also a sexual predator to me and other women and its caught up with him. I have been referred to a high risk domestic abuse multi agency team. Can't even go to my own house ATM. I really want to get back to my house.

blackeyedsusan Tue 12-Feb-13 07:41:22

oh kay. hugs. and prayers. I hope they give you lots of support.

I have meeting with the head/autism advice and caf.

jann2013 Tue 12-Feb-13 08:11:36

praying, Kat lots of hugs and many thoughts how upsetting

thinking of each of you

would appreciate prayer this morning i have a docs appointment

MadHairDay Tue 12-Feb-13 08:50:01

Praying for you Kay sad

Praying for you all as I read - I left a message last night but it's disappeared! Odd.

Praying very much for pannetone's friend and for Ginger and family relationships.

Praying for you Jan.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 12-Feb-13 09:07:20

Praying as I read too, especially for kay. Sorry to hear things have got so bad you can't be at home sad praying for a breakthrough.

Pannatonne what an awful situation. Praying for everyone affected.

I'm generally ok but have developed a severe case of the itchies, especially at night, with a bit of a rash so I'm off to the GP. What fun confused Google has indicated it could be a third trimester pregnancy problem so please pray its not a big problem!

Dutchoma Tue 12-Feb-13 09:46:50

Oh Faith be careful with itchies. That happened to my dd-i-l and she had to have extensive treatment for it. Glad to hear that you are off to the doctor, but you need to be in touch with your midwifery team too. Take care.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 12-Feb-13 11:29:00

It's driving me bonkers! Waiting for the doc now. Not due to see the MW for another week so thought it must to see the GP! Going to be late for work confused because the doc is running late too. Not good!

I have read through and prayed for everyone. I'm not feeling particularly good today so I hope you don't mind the lack of individual responses. Generically, I hope that the Lord is providing the right care for each and every one who needs it in whatever form necessary.

I'd appreciate prayers for house sale again. It's all come to a head and is more likely to fall apart than proceed unless the estate agent bridges a gap that one of his employees has created by promising that all fixtures and fittings were included. Prayers for an understanding GP on Thursday would be great too. I really can't keep anything down without a specific anti-sickness medication. Unfortunately it's by far the most expensive one and they don't like prescribing it...

blackeyedsusan Tue 12-Feb-13 13:43:39

ouchy... got a meeting with the head teacher and others in a hour. got a violent migraaine like headache.. feeling sick. it impoved ith paracetamol... which is wearing off before time fo the next so going to hit it with ibuprofen too. I need to be on top form for the sen meeting. I hve been revising. the sen code of practice

jann2013 Tue 12-Feb-13 15:39:02

hope your meeting went ok BES... migraines are not good sad

i got a new doctor today who was really nice (unusual for my practise) so going to stick with her. thanks for prayers. have to go back in 2 wks

amberlight Tue 12-Feb-13 16:35:14

Still praying.
And prayers of thanks - first checkup for our son after his eye operation says it seems to be doing whatever it is that it's supposed to do. Hurrah!

blackeyedsusan Tue 12-Feb-13 20:11:50

meeting did not go well and I could be in a lot of trouble fo letting her reaad science books. really upset. need prayer for clear thinking and composition of an email.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 12-Feb-13 21:11:34

Praying bes. Why is the science reading such a problem?!

Doc thinks my itchiness is just heat rash/normal pregnancy rather than anything sinister but I'm glad I got checked out! I'm pleased to say having swapped to short shifts, I'm finding work much easier to cope with, physically and emotionally so that's definitely an answer to prayer!

That's great news amber smile

Praying Room.

GingerCurl Tue 12-Feb-13 22:00:29

Praying. I'm signing off and out now. Am giving up MN for lent. Will be praying for you all while away.
See you on the other side.

jann2013 Wed 13-Feb-13 08:30:07

So glad everything went well Amber smile Bes - it sounds like you are going through such a stressful time with the school... it sounds out of order that they would be annoyed about science books! thanks for praying for me and asking for me, i appreciate it so so much. things have been difficult lately but God is taking good care of me

im actually going to take a break from mn for lent as well. i really feel like i am making excuses not to be spending the time with God and want to draw closer to him for this time. i also will be thinking of each of you xo

MadHairDay Wed 13-Feb-13 10:09:00

Praying for all those going offline for Lent - will miss you, hope you find it a rich and helpful time.

Faith, so glad all is well.

Room, been praying for you.

Kaykat, howare things?

House sale may cruelly complete on Monday! Eek!

<Hyperventilates>

<Runs to get children from nursery>

Argh! Actually not cruelly. My post is ruined!

blackeyedsusan Wed 13-Feb-13 13:00:11

ahhh the perils of autocorrect grin

I've given up fb only, as I spend more time on there than anything else. I literally check it every 30 mins when I'm not at work or sleeping blush

ZipadiSoozi Wed 13-Feb-13 17:09:35

Please could we have your prayers, my dh and I have had no relationship for over a year now, he sleeps on the settee every night, in a dilema because he would move heaven and earth for me, is the kindest man on earth, but there is nothing there. The lights are definitely extinguished, I feel very sad because we have been through so much together, we just exist round our dc which I am sure will affect them, we haven't said anything to them, we cannot seperate because we can't afford it, its a case of can't live with each other and can't live without each other, there are no petty arguments, but I can't stand to be in the same room as him, we just lead separate lives but in the same house. I have tried to find a solution but there is not one, my family have acknowledged the problem but don't like me talk about it so its all knotted inside me as well as in my dh. I don't want to mange it anymore I want it to disappear, miracles hey! (plus 3 bedrooms and 5 people) sad

Dutchoma Wed 13-Feb-13 17:26:50

Oh Suzy, that must have taken so much courage to post that on here and acknowledge the problem. Of course you have my prayers, but you need more than that, a listening ear and some practical solutions re sleeping arrangements.
If there are no petty arguments and a reasonably pleasant atmosphere in the home it need not affect the children that much. In the very first instance I would say: make sure that the sofa is comfortable to sleep on.

Tuo Thu 14-Feb-13 01:49:11

Hello. I've given up everything (not everything, but all social media) except the work FB page that I update and this thread for Lent. Let's see if I can keep it up.

I am praying for everyone, but especially for:

Soozi... I agree that it must have been so hard for you to post that, and I hope that you feel a bit better for getting it down. I shall be praying for a way forward for your family that is bearable for you all, and for you to find happiness. I have - kind of - been where you are: married very young; realised very soon that I didn't love him, although he was a good man; handled it very badly (which I regret, although I don't regret that the marriage ended - I think that needed to happen); but got out before we had children which certainly made it a lot easier both practically and emotionally. It was a very hard time and I have no advice, but I shall be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.

Room... for the house sale to go through actually and smoothly, not curelly! wink How are you feeling?

BES... for support for your DD. Why on earth would the school object to her reading science books?

Momey... how's your DBro? I was thinking about him today.

Faith... glad you're OK, but you did right to get it checked out.

and for

Jan and Ginger in their absence.

Have had a hard day today which culminated in me bursting into tears on my boss. blush He took it quite well, considering, but I would like not to do that again! Also need getting-things-done prayers, as I am off to Ireland on Friday for work and need to get things written and prepared before I go.

Went to a beautiful Ash Wednesday service this evening. I nearly didn't go as it snowed a lot today and the roads and pavements were quite slippery, but I am so glad I did. I felt quite emotional, but in a helpful way (unlike at work earlier, when I felt emotional in a really crappy way!), and came away feeling a lot more positive, so thanking God for that.

He's having physio. The metal plates were removed last week. Slow going, not much movement.

Can I just send big ((hugs)) to all women separated, divorced and in loveless marriages on here or reading. This day can be hard x

Cuddledup Thu 14-Feb-13 08:10:10

Morning all - I wonder if someone could kindly point me in the direction of good online resources for Lent. I would like a list of readings, prayers and if poss explanations of the Bible passages.! I've had a quick look on the web but can't find anything that meets all these criteria.

THANK YOU!
For Lent I'm taking up reading to DD every evening (she's thrilled) and doing the 5:2 Fast diet.

MadHairDay Thu 14-Feb-13 11:06:17

Soozi - like the others said, it must have taken a lot of courage to write this down.

I am so sorry; I have no words, but I will pray. May you know God's love surrounding you, especially today.

Cuddled, I'm not sure what's out there - there are some good resources on for eg doing something positive each day like Love Life Live Lent but can't think of something that is a list of readings etc, I am doing a book called 'Abiding' which is the Lent Book 2013 endorsed by the AB of C, it seems good so far.

Lovely idea of using Lent as a positive, reading to your dd every evening smile

MaryBS Thu 14-Feb-13 15:45:33

Prayers Sooz...

cloutiedumpling Thu 14-Feb-13 22:24:09

Praying and lurking, lurking and praying.

DD has started crawling! I was starting to get a bit worried about it because I know she is slower than the DSs were at physical things but she is getting there.

Tuo Thu 14-Feb-13 23:33:19

Praying for all. I won't be around for a bit, as I'm off to Ireland tomorrow and won't be back till Wednesday, but will be thinking of you all.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 14-Feb-13 23:44:39

Please would you add a prayer for VirtuousVamp's daughter, who is very ill in hospital, a long way from home.

Kaykat Fri 15-Feb-13 06:38:23

Still not at home, he stopped me from entering and it's not safe. Getting lots of good advice but very worried about the future. Missing my home but don't think I'd feel safe there. He threatened me and was very irrational, then he lied about it all, no surprise really as he has done nothing but lie for months now, when they are unfaithful it seems so easy for them to lie after that. I hope people will see through his lies. Don't know what to ask for in prayer but God will know a way to sort it out even though I have no clue.

amberlight Fri 15-Feb-13 07:37:23

Much prayer for each of you as I'm reading what you've written.

MaryBS Fri 15-Feb-13 07:41:44

Prayers for VV's DD, and for you Kaykat. Best to leave it up to God, if you can, and be patient for his answer. I spent a long time praying to save my first marriage, but it wasn't the best thing for me, even though I didn't see it at the time.

How are you Sooz? Boing?

Dutchoma Fri 15-Feb-13 10:50:22

Thank you Maud for posting that request on the board for VirtuousVamp's dd. Are they still an army family?

Praying for KayKat too. It's hard to understand that the police lets him get away with making you not safe in your own home. Praying for a speedy solution.
Praying for a successful trip for TUO
And praying for everybody else on the thread too

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 15-Feb-13 11:08:06

Thanks to all of you for your prayerful support.

Yes, Dutchoma, they are still an army family.

VirtuousVamp Fri 15-Feb-13 13:05:55

Thanks all!!

Hi Dutchoma. Do I know you? My Oma was Dutch. Would love to think she's there watching over us with God!

No change here on my daughter if anything she's getting worse. We are being transferred to a specialist hospital where hopefully they'll get to the bottom of what's causing her infection. smile

Dutchoma Fri 15-Feb-13 14:48:07

Hiya VV. No I don't think we have come across each other. When Maud posted this morning I just had a look at your other posts to see if I could find out a bit more about what your dd was suffering with.
My husband was in the army in Germany when we met (over 40 years ago) so an army background rings a bit of a bell.
I really hope that you can soon post some positive news about your dd. How old is she?

ZipadiSoozi Fri 15-Feb-13 15:16:00

Thank you all for your prayers of support, I hate to moan but sometimes I just don't manage very well with the situation. xx

VirtuousVamp Fri 15-Feb-13 15:33:42

Hi Dutchoma. She's 8. She has periorbital cellulitis a rare complication to a mild cold followed by sinusitis. Has has two operations so far to drain the pus from her head and on a cocktail of antibiotics and painkillers. We are being transferred as she still has an infection inside her skull so they want her at a hospital which is equipped to deal with child brain surgery. Keeping everything possible that wont be needed and her body and faith will fight it!

Thanks again for your prayerful support. smile

Dutchoma Fri 15-Feb-13 16:44:53

That sounds nasty VV. Praying that the doctors will get on top of the situation very quickly without the need for surgery.

Soozy I know how hard you have worked at this marriage and how hard it has been. Keep being 'kind and considerate' as the Bible says and God Himself will give you the strength.

cheekbyjowl Fri 15-Feb-13 19:36:18

I was just on search to see where Christians hang out on mumsnet. I think i've found you. Hello to all.

Dutchoma Fri 15-Feb-13 19:44:07

Ooh another newbie. You are very welcome.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Fri 15-Feb-13 20:16:40

I'm reading and praying. Lifting up the situation VV. Praying for strength and health.

Praying for a breakthrough jan.

Sorry to hear about your marriage Sooz. Praying for you at this time.

I decided for lent to give up Coke (I have been drinking way too much!) but also to do my Bible study daily. I've been really bad (despite it coming by email daily so no excuse!) and so far, so good. I'm also trying to listen to worship music in the car. I'm hoping it'll help me reconnect with God because I have been struggling.

Welcome to cheek. This is a lovely support network smile

blackeyedsusan Fri 15-Feb-13 23:24:58

hello to newcomers

<drags in another bench>

envy <<<--too many maltesers face. chocolate is not always a cure for eveything.

I have had an email from the ed psych. i need to ring back. envy <<<-- phone calls make me feel sick face

Dutchoma Sat 16-Feb-13 10:20:31

It's the maltesers that make you feel envy

MadHairDay Sat 16-Feb-13 10:27:14

Morning all and welcome to cheek, and hello to VirtuousVamp, praying for your dd, that sounds really horrible sad

Kay, continuing to pray.

Please can you remember Ginger in prayer - she's off Mn for Lent but asked for prayer about her thesis - her supervisor is asking for an extension so pray that goes through for her.

BES, pray the phone call goes ok.

Can i ask for prayers for my grandad, he's in hospital and i think this might be the beginning of the end. He's slowly deteriorating.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Sat 16-Feb-13 23:41:42

blue sad praying x

Kaykat Sun 17-Feb-13 08:07:15

Sorry I am in no state to mention others at the moment. Please pray for my meeting with solicitor tomorrow, I need her to act swiftly this time. Also I feel it is very likely I will get a visit from ss as police always refer you and this is the second time. Last time they wrote to me urging me to separate from H but hey didnt visit me. They make me nervous, I hope they will see I am doing everything to keep DS safe and that is my top priority. And of course I would love to get back to my house very soon. Thank you.

MaryBS Sun 17-Feb-13 08:23:34

Prayers Kaykat, Blue, Sooz, VV and all in need of prayer either for themselves or their LOs... xxx

Had a lovely day yesterday. Went to take part in a quiet day by Liz Babbs and her lent material "Transformed by the presence of Jesus". Was really good, she's very good.

MadHairDay Sun 17-Feb-13 10:13:52

Kay, praying for that meeting now.

Mary, pleased you had a good day, sounds lovely.

Please can I yet again ask for healing prayers, chest has been naughty all weekend and I'm in a lot of pain from pleurisy again. Seeing my consultant on Tuesday so prayers for that would be good. Some days I just get so tired of it all

Dutchoma Sun 17-Feb-13 10:24:37

Only some days MHD I think you are doing very well not to get fed up every day. Praying for healing and peace of mind.
Kay praying for that meeting with the solicitor. Ss will only want to help, but I can understand that it makes you nervous.
Praying also for VV dd and for PA who is overrun by ants.

blackeyedsusan Sun 17-Feb-13 19:24:29

prayers mhd

blackeyedsusan Mon 18-Feb-13 14:11:07

I am running out of patience with the mini tornado who is wreaking havoc. the bigger slower version has gone home, leaving his mess behind him.

I am supposed to be off to mums, wherrer mini tonado will run ound there as well, wrrecking the place. I am working on the behaviour. but therre arre tantrums where things get thrown.

Cuddledup Mon 18-Feb-13 21:37:42

Prayers for all especially VV's little one.
MHD thank you for your Lent book suggestions - appreciated. I also watched Songs of Praise the other week (the one about angels) as you said your parents were on it. It was v interesting.
Take care all and stay safe XX

MadHairDay Tue 19-Feb-13 10:07:42

Morning all, and prayers. Blue, how is your grandad? sad

Cuddled, glad you enjoyed the SOP, bless em, they did well.

Praying for Kay, Jan and Sooz this morning, thinking of people struggling with relationship breakdowns.

Off to see my consultant this afternoon, so will see what she has to say.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 19-Feb-13 11:21:26

Praying the consultant has constructive advice mhd. I admire your strength.

Praying for you grandad and family blue.

I'd appreciate prayer. For lent I decided (as well as cutting out fizzy drinks!) to start doing my Bible study daily and listen to worship music again - especially travelling to work. I feel more connected to God but I also feel more plagued by little things (enemy's nose out of joint?!). I saw my MW today who said I had glucose in my urine and lectured me on a low sugar diet. (I have worked on cutting down but could do more). Instead of taking it how I should, I'm in a tail spin about it. I'm also quite paranoid at work. Prayers that I can fight these attacks would be greatly appreciated. I want to stay closer to God! smile

amberlight Tue 19-Feb-13 11:32:38

Praying...

Dutchoma Tue 19-Feb-13 17:16:54

Praying specially for Faith, Jan and MHD.

I would appreciate prayer too: There is a family day in Holland on 28th April which happens every two or three years. Up until now Bob and I have always gone together, even two years ago when ds and ddil took us in the car. This year there is no hope of Bob going and I will have to find a nursing home for him again. Given the fact that he was so wildly unhappy last time it is very difficult to do. I haven't even told him about the family day.

Just popping by to let you know that our house sale completed today. It's been very stressful getting to this point and I feel a bit sad but I'm looking forward to receiving the equity and paying off all of our debts in a few days time smile smilesmile Thank-you for all your prayers about this. Please join me in prayers of praise and thanks as we come to realise that this has actually happened!

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 19-Feb-13 21:36:23

Ah that's wonderful news Room! smile

Dutchoma Tue 19-Feb-13 21:40:08

Just heard that MyjobisMum had a ds2 today.Reuben Sam 6lb. She has been too busy to post here, but I have kept in touch (although not close touch as I had no idea it was so imminent) through FB.
Congratulations.

Dutchoma Tue 19-Feb-13 21:43:21

Oh no, Reuben James, sorry.

Dutchoma Tue 19-Feb-13 21:44:22

And congratulations to LittleOne on the sale of the house. Praise God!

Kaykat Wed 20-Feb-13 08:20:42

I am feeling very sad I am missing my home so much. I am very grateful too for the kindness of those looking after me. The solicitor is moving fast to try to get me back home. And just to add a bit more stress I have an interview tomorrow for a promotion.

Dutchoma Wed 20-Feb-13 09:34:14

Feeling very sad with you Kay. Praing that it will all be resolved very soon. Glad to hear that your solicitor is getting faster.

I have now talked to Bob about the respite care and thrown him into quite a tizzy, I think. he said he knew it had to come but now that it is taking shape it scares him. He wants me to go to Holland though, he's just not sure he will cope with the respite care.

MadHairDay Wed 20-Feb-13 09:45:36

Kay, sending love and prayers and standing with you in this.

DO, praying that Bob will feel peaceful about the care and al will work out for your trip.when are you going?

Room, that's excellent! smile

Praising God that my xray showed huge improvement yesterday, still some crap/fluid there but soooo much better.

Dutchoma Wed 20-Feb-13 09:55:50

Oh MHD that is very good, praying that the improvement will continue.

The family day is planned for the 28th April but not at all sure that things will work out.

Dutchoma Wed 20-Feb-13 10:46:51

Well, I never. I spoke to the one nursing home that we wanted all the time for Bob and they said I can come and have a look round this morning. Thank you Lord.

Dutchoma Wed 20-Feb-13 20:10:41

And then an hour later got a phonecall from the manager to say that they did not really do any nursing beds.
It's all to do with money and it makes me a bit cross because I think Bob would do really well there. He will ring me back tomorrow. I was so pleased with the result and now someone has rained on my parade.

Could do with prayers, just had meeting with DDO and feel like I'm starting from zero again... sad

Dutchoma Wed 20-Feb-13 20:55:02

Oh Blue that is difficult. In what way do you feel you are starting from zero again? You'll have to spell it out for me a bit as I'm not much acquainted with this whole selection malarkey.

Oh Blue, why? What happened? There can be lots of highs and lows in the process.

Well he just made it clear it is going to be a lengthy process which means I won't be able to start studying this September... Which means having to find another job if church can't find funding to keep me on... sad
Very frustrating...

I am still here reading and praying far more regularly than I post.

Some things not going well here and I still feel under attack. A big meeting with the CEOs today. DH had his on Monday, which went really well, please pray that mine goes the same way as I have some tough things to say and explain! - not really my forte!!

thank you

Tuo Wed 20-Feb-13 23:46:02

I'm back! Had to get up to get my flight at 5.30 this morning, and went straight into work when I got back, so feeling a lot bit zonked now. Have read - and prayed - through, but forgive me if I don't now mention everyone by name.

Thanking God here for good friends, a successful trip, and (I think) a good lecture yesterday. And thinking of all of you...

Dutchoma Thu 21-Feb-13 11:14:13

Quote from Niminypiminy on the other thread:

"It's a good thing God doesn't mind having his ear bent about our troubles smile"

Anyone fancy hearing some more good news? My 20 week scan went well this morning. Everything looked fine. Baby was very camera shy and kept looking away when the sonographer was trying to get a picture grin we had a lovely sonographer who explained everything and took his time. He offered to tell us the sex but I asked him not to. Anything to help me push when the time comes!

We also seem to have come up with some creative solutions to the fact that we got such a rubbish amount for the house that we can't afford to change the car for one that fits four children. And we're making headway on our tax credits appeal.

Hopefully we are getting on top of life now smile

Dutchoma Thu 21-Feb-13 13:47:59

On top of life is a good place to be Littleone Long may it last.

Kaykat Thu 21-Feb-13 17:13:53

Really missing my home, feeling very low. Now got to wait for the legal process to get him out and no idea how long that will take.

My grandad isn't doing very well, he needs surgery for kidney stones but can't have it because he's too weak. If the worst should happen we won't be able to go over to Belgium as DD3 doesn't have a passport yet sad

Dutchoma Fri 22-Feb-13 09:56:24

Can you apply for an emergency passport? They might do as it is a bereavement.

No, the only thing we could do is fast track it, which would still take a week.

Dutchoma Fri 22-Feb-13 11:09:46

Can you start it off today? If so I would do it, grandad or no grandad.

we're sending it off on Monday, need countersignature from friend on Sunday!

amberlight Fri 22-Feb-13 19:06:31

Hi all. Praying for you. Here, naff time, having discovered that one of my church leaders has been lying to me. A kind friend revealed all and showed me emails on it. If there's a prayer going for healing and reconciliation being possible after this point (and goodness me I've tried hard in the past with them), that would be great.

Dutchoma Fri 22-Feb-13 19:39:22

Praying for you Amber. That sort of hurt is hard to bear. May peace be with you.

Kaykat Fri 22-Feb-13 22:02:37

Somehow in the middle of being homeless and completely devastated I have managed to get a promotion.

Well done Kat, although it must be bittersweet and rather surreal. I'm praying for your awful situation x

Tuo Fri 22-Feb-13 23:11:14

Prayers for all, but especially...

... for amber for the possibility of reconciliation, for the person who has been lying to see that what he has been doing is wrong and hurtful, and for resilience to bounce back from this hurt;

... for Blue's grandad and for DD's passport to arrive quickly;

... for Kay, thanking God for her promotion and praying that she'll be back home and feeling safer and more settled very soon;

... for Oma and Bob to find the respite care that they need;

... and for Room, thanking God for a healthy baby, for the house sale and for generally feeling more on top of things.

blackeyedsusan Sat 23-Feb-13 00:25:25

hello. I have caught up. I hve been off line, away and with a dodgy computer. the childen have been awake a lot this evening. I m off to bed now. I maay not be online agin fo hwile if the computer has a wobbly again nd I can't follow the instructions to fix.

hello all.

Amber prayers for your situation. Being hurt by Christians always seems to cut deeper somehow. I have found it so much easier in the past to forgive non-Christians!!

KayKat well done on the promotion and prayers that you will be back home soon.

DO prayers for you and Bob and that you can have a break without having to worry about Bob being happy in respite care.

Oooops cannot scroll, so just to let everyone else know that I have been reading and praying.

Thank you for your prayers for us. DH is now well after being scarily very ill for about 10 days. - when he asked me to take him to the hospital I seriously thought that he was on his way!! Now he is well again, but lacking energy. I have now got a rotten cold!
BUT the meetings with the CEOs went very well this week, I think. They certainly seemed to understand and take on board our various frustrations and knew exactly where the problems lie etc. Things will definitely improve after the summer, but I just don't want to feel as if our first year has been wasted before we can get going on what we should be doing here.
DD1 could still do with prayers, but all seems to be quiet on that front at the moment - not sure is she is quiet because things are going well, or whether it is because of the opposite. Time will tell!!
DD2 is in Ghana and returns next weekend
DD3 is preparing for her summer wedding and trying to get her health as good as possible so that she can start married life in a good place healthwise.

DS and DD4 have just returned from a week long school retreat, which sounds as if they have both had a fantastic time and have both been challenged in their spiritual walk. DS especially seems to have matured spiritually this week. What a blessing it is to have the children at a Christian school where all the teachers are so committed to encouraging their spiritual journey as well as their education. All the staff are certainly not here for the money as it is just about enough to live on, but here to teach missionaries children. Also, the children in the classes freely and openly talk about their faith to each other and encourage each other in such a mature way. It is wonderful!!

Bye for now, but a special (((hug))) to Sooz .

I'm really struggling today. Feeling very grumpy and tearful and it's not pmt. That was 10 days ago. I think it's just life in general as a lone parent, an estranged relationship with my Dad, tiredness and two young kids. I also feel I'm not doing my best as a mum right now, just surviving. I have no energy and I'm too grumpy sad

I don't know what to ask for really. I found the talk really helpful this morning at Church but do not know how to put it into practise iyswim? I feel stuck...

Dutchoma Sun 24-Feb-13 14:23:24

Are the children being noisy, Mome? If so ask one of the them to play in the bedroom and have the other with you for half an hour. If they are playing happily together, say you are going to have some 'time out' as you have been grumpy and you need to think about your behaviour grin

Kaykat Sun 24-Feb-13 15:37:58

Sorry you're feeling sad, Mome, really hope you feel happier soon. I have wondered so many times whether I should do anything differently to be a better mum. Trouble is its all out of my control, there's no way I can risk going home with him there and the threats he has made, that would definitely make me a bad mum. I worry so much about the long term affect this will all have on DS. And I feel so very very sad, missing my home so much, it shouldn't really mean so much to me should it? I feel very lost not having a home any more. I also worry about the long term affects of witnessing all those years of a controlling, dominating dad and I didn't even realise it at the time, now I am free I look back and feel horrified by what I thought was normal.

Dutchoma Sun 24-Feb-13 16:44:17

The only thing you can pray for Kay is that you both come out stronger. But it is a terrible situation. What is happening about getting him out?

Lots of things really oma, I'm also convinced no one likes me they just tolerate me at the moment. It's over whelming in fact. My self esteem is very low right now and I am lonely. I'm part of a massive church but weirdly, I've never felt more alone. I'm not making sense I suspect.

Missing Facebook now. Why did I give it up for lent again? wink

HavingALittleFaithBaby Sun 24-Feb-13 22:15:44

Mome I felt like that at my old church to the point that we left for somewhere smaller. Current church feels more like extended family.
It's ok to pour your thoughts out here to try to make sense of things. God knows whats going on, even if you don't!

kay how awful for you sad I hope and pray things will improve soon.

DO I pray you can find the right location for Bob's respite and go on the trip. If its the right place, it could be a positive experience for you both. Praying for God's hand in it.

Still praying for your grandad's situation blue,

Congratulations on the scan Room! How are you feeling in yourself?

I am struggling a bit with the pregnancy now. I've been getting low down pressure/discomfort when I'm active/busy. My MW says its an indication of an irritable uterus and basically when it happens its a sign I'm overdoing it and I should rest. Trouble is, it's happening a lot at work. As a ward based nurse, I often struggle to stop! Last week it got progressively worse. Prayer for this to ease would be great, if it doesn't I'm going to need to consider going off sooner (due to stop in just under 4 weeks). It concerns me slightly as it can result in premature labour! I've been getting things ready just in case!

Blessings to all smile

Yes. People promise to meet up with you, you try and arrange, chase 3 weeks later etc and it never happens. You find yourself thinking that if they really wanted to, they'd make it happen and you're left feeling worse about yourself. I also find social media unhelpful sometimes, as it can highlight things more.

Tuo Mon 25-Feb-13 00:09:07

Hello! I'm struggling to write another stupid talk... Aaargh! Why do I never learn to say 'no' to requests?

Praying for all, but especially tonight for...

... Kay - you are in a terrible situation, but you have always only done what you thought was best for your DS and he will recognise that, even if he's struggling now. Don't feel bad about missing your home... it's not the material things you're missing, but the having a place to call home, a place where you feel safe, and where you belong. I pray that you will be home soon, and that you will stay safe and strong, as you have been throughout this horrible situation.

... Mome - I'm sorry that things are so tough for you. I can see how the big church is helpful in some ways and not in others. Are there smaller groups within it with whom you feel more comfortable? Maybe what you need right now is to focus your energies on a smaller group of core people who can help you to feel a bit more confident and better about yourself. Staying away from social media (this thread excepted, of course wink) can help with that. Praying for you to feel better about yourself, as a person and as a mum. Sometimes I find I need to remind myself that Jesus told us to love our neighbours as ourselves, not instead of ourselves...

... Faith - for you to find ways to get enough rest so that you stay well for the rest of this pregnancy. Your employer has a responsibility to take your pregnancy into account when planning your work, so if you need more breaks (or whatever) you must say so and they should respect that.

... PA - for your work over there, and for all your children in their different situations.

Back to the grindstone now... I can feel some late nights coming up if I want to get this thing done!

Dutchoma Mon 25-Feb-13 09:52:38

Faith the most important thing is your baby. Then you. Then the baby. And then in about the 10th place, the ward. If your midwife says you are not resting enough it is no good pushing yourself into premature labour for the next four weeks. Speak to the ward manager and get yourself signed off.
Tuo you do love it really?
Mome good plan to ask for a small group to meet at yours? Speak to the leadership. We have a scheme whereby the group is hosted by someone with small children or mobility issues and led by someone else. 8 people max.

MadHairDay Mon 25-Feb-13 11:39:18

Praying as I read for all of you...

Blue, so sorry to hear that, did the DDO give any indication of how long? Maybe your church could get funding for another year? It must be so disappointing.

Sorry to be short and sweet here but be assured of my prayers.

Have to have this op on weds and a bit nervous. Not feeling too well again and on abs so we'll see what they say.

Had a lovely half term catching up with frineds but paying for it now.

Amber sad that really sucks. Praying for reconciliation...poor you.

MaryBS Mon 25-Feb-13 11:55:50

Still here, praying for those concerns. Not being a good enough mum particularly resonates with me, but being a loving mum trumps everything, I think.

Prayers please for our retired priest who has just been diagnosed with prostate cancer, starts treatment this week...

Prayers also for all those hearing about school allocations this week...

blackeyedsusan Mon 25-Feb-13 15:22:30

once more into the breach... time to go and get the children and do battle ith the boy.

cloutiedumpling Mon 25-Feb-13 21:34:23

lurking and praying, praying and lurking.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 26-Feb-13 12:53:48

I struggled through work yesterday (walking like a penguin) so waddled into the GP this morning. He thinks I have a UTI and has given me antibiotics and suggested I take a bit of time off work to recover so I will.

Praying for all, especially your op MHD.

Dutchoma Tue 26-Feb-13 14:24:34

Thak goodness for a sensible GP. Will it eat into your maternity leave if you get signed off now?

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 26-Feb-13 14:28:28

I'm self-certifying for this week. Hopefully the symptoms will ease off so I can finish as planned (only 15 shifts assuming I go back on Monday!). I think I'd be bored if I finish too soon! So it won't eat into my mat leave unless I get signed off til the end of pregnancy (they can start me on mat leave from 36 weeks and I'm 32 now). I'm currently installed on the soda watching tv smile

Dutchoma Tue 26-Feb-13 14:54:48

Would you not rather be bored than in premature labour? Go by what your midwife says.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 26-Feb-13 15:04:44

grin yes I suppose that's a fair point! Well I've got a few days now to rest and I'll see how I go. If it doesn't ease in a few days I'll know it's not just down to a UTI so I'll go back to the GP for a sick note.

Faith, I had to get signed off and started mat leave at 29 weeks with DD1. My ward manager didn't mind too much. I was finding it hard to reach to get a blood pressure cuff around some of the less mobile patients anyway grin I certainly couldn't hurry in an emergency either. I was huge! It wasn't entirely surprising when I gave birth at 34+6!

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 26-Feb-13 20:23:40

My bump is certainly getting in the way! Work is very busy at the best of times but for various reasons, extremely busy at present. One issue is we have lots of newly qualified nurses who can't do IVs - I've been put on a few shifts when I'm the only nurse who can do IVs. That doesn't halve add pressure to my work load confused. I had a call from an apologetic GP saying he'd forgotten to do my blood pressure today, I'm popping into the surgery in the morning to check it but I'm a bit concerned. He diagnosed UTI because there was protein and leukocytes in my wee but I always have leukocytes because tmi? I have lots of discharge...if it was protein alone, if there's a BP rise, it could be a sign of preeclampsia.....so prayers that I don't worry about that til I can get my BP done would be good! smile

blackeyedsusan Wed 27-Feb-13 11:23:13

how re you doing faith? get to the gp?

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HavingALittleFaithBaby Wed 27-Feb-13 11:30:16

Yes BP was typically pregnancy low so no concerns there. I do feel a bit better so presume the antibiotics are helping although I'm still getting pains when walking more than about 5m so good job I took some time off work!

I'll report those weird spam posts!

blackeyedsusan Wed 27-Feb-13 14:58:22

struggling. I think it must be homones. I normally do not feel this bad for not lot of reason.

Phew! Glad that you are improving a bit and that BP is not high, Faith.

Ladies, I am starting to write a talk that I will be giving in May at a women's evening about responding to the call of God. The talk is entitled "Holding Nothing Back" (my choice/God-given). Anyway, I could do with reading a good book about having a servant heart. I had some controversial/extreme/theologically in-sound teaching on this by a lay person recently and am keen to not repeat that to others! I think that serving out of a sense of duty on a long-term basis leads to resentment and the feeling of being trapped/enslaved. I think God calls us to serve Him out of love and we can only do that when we know him well and know His love for us (I also think the same goes for marriage/motherhood/daughterhood). I am struggling to balance this with obedience and how to respond to a calling that you don't like eg Jonah, Jesus' crucifixion, my husband's calling to be an Army chaplain!

I find it hard to get this sort of stuff out of my heart through my mouth and still be coherent and correct!

Dutchoma Wed 27-Feb-13 16:55:11

PositiveAttitude may have to say something on this score as they were called out on a mission to Cambodia with lots of hurdles.

Glad you are feeling a bit better Faith. I hope those last few weeks are not going to be too hard.
Praying that MHD's op has gone well.

amberlight Wed 27-Feb-13 21:20:38

praying

Apologies for just swooping in with a prayer request but I hope you'll understand. My darling little Beatrice is going in to hospital tomorrow for surgery on Friday. If all goes well she'll have a hepatectomy ie removal of half her liver (incl cancerous tumour). Otherwise she'll have to wait for a transplant. Please would you pray for Beatrice, especially on Friday? Thank you, and praying for all the prayer requests here too.

MaryBS Thu 28-Feb-13 08:28:46

Prayers for Beatrice, and for peace of mind for you. God guide the surgeons and give Beatrice the best possible chance of success.

Dutchoma Thu 28-Feb-13 10:04:19

So glad you came to ask for prayer Beatrice's mummy. What a worry for you all. Many prayers.

blackeyedsusan Thu 28-Feb-13 10:05:27

prayers too. did not have time to post. we were almost late for school.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Thu 28-Feb-13 10:14:37

Praying for wisdom about treatment choice, that it can be the straightforward hepatectomy, that it all goes smoothly and protection against post-op complications. Also praying that you feel the support and comfort of The Lord during this time.

VirtuousVamp Thu 28-Feb-13 10:21:07

Hi all

Thought I'd pop back with an update. Sorry I've not been around, we've been moved from hospital to hospital and finally we are home! DD still has a long way to go - another 4 weeks antibiotics and follow up CT scan in 2 weeks to check her brain abscess is shrinking - if not further surgery will be needed. But thankfully she has been allowed home, rather than kept in hospital for the full 6 weeks. Feel very responsible looking after her thoughconfused

On top of all this, my mother's cancer is looking far worse than first thought as instead of having a hysterectomy last week as originally planned, they discovered many more tumours in her abdomen, so she's having chemotherapy first to shrink them before they attempt any surgery. My father's prostate cancer diagnosis which started off our year of health woes, seems the least of our worries now. Funny how life deals you a rough hand all at once, but strangely it has brought me back to God. Life has been getting in the way too much, but the last 2 months, particularly the last 3 weeks have really been a turning point for me.

I am very grateful to you all for your prayers and I hope you all continue to make your own personal recoveries. I'll keep popping in from time to time to say hellosmile

Dutchoma Thu 28-Feb-13 10:27:13

Thank you for updating VV. Giving thanks to God for your daughter being at home now, hope all goes well.
Prayers for your parents and their comfort and care. Are you having the support of the MacMillan nurses? For us (and we are not dealing with cancer) this has been an absolute lifeline. Also giving thanks for your greater awareness of the presence of God: "I can do everything through Him who strengthens me"

VirtuousVamp Thu 28-Feb-13 10:41:01

Thanks Dutchoma. They live abroad so added difficulty all round as we can't just pop and see them. I think they are getting wonderful care over there though. Just wish we all lived nearer one another.

Dutchoma Thu 28-Feb-13 11:16:51

Ah, so no MM nurses to fall back on. Prayer crosses borders, though. smile

<Bounds in>

<Does a little dance>

The tax credits appeal went in our favour! Phew! They admitted their huge mistake and have put things right grin

Praying for all the poorly people and those who care for them and make decisions for them. May God give wisdom, guidance, healing and peace.

blackeyedsusan Thu 28-Feb-13 14:59:08

school time. libaarry time... but no parcel. eek dd will not be happy. I suppose that is what rredeliveries arrer for.

still hormonal and everything is a big deal. I am waiting for it to pass.

Dutchoma Thu 28-Feb-13 15:55:08

It will BES

blackeyedsusan Thu 28-Feb-13 16:32:57

grr. it is back in the depot. they must have come at school drop off time.

Dutchoma Thu 28-Feb-13 16:39:41

How annoying. Our depot is miles away and we have no transport, so would have to go for re-delivery which would not be till Monday now.

Things going from bad to worse here. Beatrice's blood counts are bad so unless they improve dramatically the operation will be cancelled. We are devastated, but trying hard to trust... Would love your prayers.

cloutiedumpling Thu 28-Feb-13 21:25:09

Praying for Beatrice.

It is minor compared to everything everyone else is facing, but I'd be grateful for prayers for DD. She keeps on being sick at night when she is having her tea and I don't know why. It makes her really upset.

Tuo Fri 01-Mar-13 00:11:02

Hi all! Did my lecture tonight and it went well, so thanking God for that, and for the fact that some work issues that have been quite worrying are starting to be resolved. I'm very tired, though!

Also thanking God for dd2, whose birthday is tomorrow - sad I won't be there in the morning for her, but will be home by the time she comes in from school. smile

Praying for Beatrice - for the operation to be able to go ahead and to be successful.

Thanking God that your dd is home, VV, and praying for a full recovery. Also praying for your parents.

Praying also for MHD - for her op to have gone well and her recovery to be smooth.

Praying for cloutie's dd to stop being sick.

And for all on this thread, whether their prayers are listed here or known only to them and to God.

MaryBS Fri 01-Mar-13 11:26:59

Prayers for Beatrice...

Thank God, DS has a place at the faith secondary school. Thats the first step, then its a question of transition... confused

blackeyedsusan Fri 01-Mar-13 11:36:51

yay mary and oh my goodness is he that old aalready?

prayers

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Dutchoma Fri 01-Mar-13 13:25:31

Praying for Beatrice and for everyone else.
And giving thanks for all successes and answered prayers.

Quick prayer request: DD2 has just returned from a mission trip to Ghana and her luggage went missing on her journey out there. She has spent the last few weeks borrowing friends clothes. Most things she can just replace, but some things are really upsetting her, like her Bible with all her own personal notes in and other personal belongings. Can I ask you to all pray that her suitcase turns up with everything in it?

Thank you.

Thank you all, thank you Lord!

Beatrice's neutrophils needed to double in order for the op to go ahead -- they sextupled!

She had the op. The tumour was resected plus the section round the biopsy track. She's now recovering in PICU.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Fri 01-Mar-13 19:51:11

That's awesome news Praying! God is good! grin Praying that it goes smoothly for here on and it's all in the Lord's hands.

Great news for Mary and family too. We are seeing breakthroughs!

Tuo glad the lecture went well.

Praying for your DD's bag to be returned safely PA.

cloutie that seems odd, it's just that time of day? Praying it settles.

bes I hope/pray things improve soon for you.

VV both my parents had the same (strange, no?). Sorry to hear they are a distance away but praying for the Lord's strength for you all at this difficult time.

I am much better today, less Braxton Hicks and have had energy to do some jobs round the house smile Agreed to go back to work next week although if it kicks off again I'm going to get a sick note. Note worth putting me and Pickle in jeopardy!

Dutchoma Fri 01-Mar-13 19:55:16

Oh praise the Lord for that news Beatrice's mummy. Thank you for updating up, so we can join you in giving thanks to God. Continuing in prayer for a complete recovery.

Kaykat Sat 02-Mar-13 08:38:48

Hi all, please pray the legal system will work quickly to get me back home. It would be great if H responded quickly and reasonably to the legal stuff, something he's never done before, he normally tries to be awkward with solicitors. I pray it's all in Gods hands for the best outcome.

Kaykat Sat 02-Mar-13 09:45:43

Finding myself wondering if I will ever be happy again.

Dutchoma Sat 02-Mar-13 10:01:11

Happiness? Maybe. Joy in the Lord? Most certainly. Praying for you in these very difficult circumstances.

MaryBS Sat 02-Mar-13 12:02:23

I thought that Kaykat, when my first marriage broke up. Its only with the benefit of time that I've realised just how unhappy I was in that marriage.

Prayers for all feeling low, for the lonely, the suffering, those awaiting/having operations, those worried, particularly about money or family.

MadHairDay Sat 02-Mar-13 12:29:48

Great news about Beatrice, praying for good recovery smile

Have prayed as I have read. Especially praying for you Kaykat, for peace and a sense of God's presence in this desert time.

Room, am thinking about any books for your talk - will have a ponder. Great news on the TCs!

Keeping you all in prayers.

OP went well! Sill a bit tired and shaky. Only had spinal as was too high risk for general, apparently. Had some back trouble but OK now.

Can I have prayers for my sister, she told me today she's suffering from postnatal depression. sad wish she would have told me earlier.
I was trying to give her some well meant advice about baby carrying which didn't go down well.

Dutchoma Sat 02-Mar-13 21:57:51

She is quite a long way away form you isn't she Blue And her baby is a little bit older than your dd?

Yes she's in Belgium, her little boy is just over 7 months.
We're going over in April for his baptism as I'm his godmother.

Dutchoma Sun 03-Mar-13 11:05:20

Oh how lovely. Prayers she will feel better by that time.

Tuo Sun 03-Mar-13 23:14:35

Hello all. I missed church this morning, as I had my parents staying and poor dd2 was exhausted after her birthday sleepover got a bit out of hand, and no-one got much sleep at all... I have really missed it, though. Can't believe how much a part of my life it has become in just a couple of years!

Making up for my absence this morning with a little prayer round-up:

Prayers then...
...for Blue's sister to get the help she needs to feel better soon; also continuing to pray for your grandfather, Blue; and for you, as you follow God's call;
... for MHD to recover well from her operation with no nasty side-effects;
... for Kay to be back in her home soon, and for her H to behave reasonably --for once--; above all, for Kay to know happiness in her life;
... for PA's dd to recover her luggage, and all her precious possessions;
... thanking God for Mary's DS's school admission decision (talking of which, we still don't know about DD2's because DH forgot to make a note of his login details when he did the application, so we can't get into the system and have to wait for the postman [drums fingers nervously]);
... thanking God, too, for the fact that Beatrice was well enough to have her operation and for the skill of the medical staff who've been looking after her; praying for her family at this difficult time; and praying for a full and swift recovery from this operation;
... for Faith to stay well in these last weeks of her pregnancy, and to remember to take it easy;
... and for those who haven't posted requests recently, but are still in our prayers... BES, jan, Oma and Bob, Room, CharlotteCollins, Momey, amber and anyone else I've forgotten.

Praying for a safe journey home tomorrow for my parents: it's a drive of nearly 400 miles and my dad is nearly 80 (though fit as a fiddle, for which thank God, too). And thanking God for a lovely weekend with my family, which has made me appreciate each and every one of them more than ever. Also thanking God for the chance to meet up on Friday with a friend who'd been 'virtual' till then: it was wonderful and inspiring to make that friendship 'real'.

I'm reading the Tom Wright 'Luke for Lent' book atm, and on the Sundays he leaves Luke and writes about a psalm - today, Psalm 63. I can't do better than to end with these words.

For you have been my help
and in the shadow of your wings I sing for joy.
My soul clings to you;
your right hand upholds me.

Morning All. Can I ask for prayers for my morning sickness please? I'm 21 weeks now and today is day four of trying to not take any medication. I haven't been sick yet but continually feel like I'm going to be. I know it's loads better than when I was vomiting everything all the time but I'm finding it very wearing. I'd love to remember how it feels to not feel sick.

blackeyedsusan Mon 04-Mar-13 07:48:11

oh. feeling sick all the time is grim.

i have cough and have been awake in the night with it. tis very annoying.

blackeyedsusan Mon 04-Mar-13 10:55:04

yay. books have come! I was not properly dressed. blush but on the other hand, I no do not have to maake a phone call to the company to find out hat is happening.

Dutchoma Mon 04-Mar-13 12:39:25

Dd will be happy!

Just had a wonderful time with Cupofteapease. A real blessing.

Praise The Lord, DH is getting DD1 from school so I can stay in my pyjamas and have a nap. Sickness today is not good at all. I'm off to GP tomorrow. Please pray for wisdom and the right decisions to be made.

Prayers for you room - I remember it well!! Have you tired the travel sickness bands? They were what kept me sane and able to function a little better.

Still no sign of DD2s luggage. sad

Could you please pray that our finances will stretch to a new laptop as ours has broken totally, so I am using a very old one which is just terrible and there is no way i can do my work on it. Can't describe why things have gone all wrong with them both because by the time I do this laptop will have given up for the night, so can only do short messages. I so need a laptop though, to keep in touch with my girls back home. Please God provide finances for a new one! Or for a good fix for one of these defective ones. Thank you

blackeyedsusan Mon 04-Mar-13 20:32:28

praying for a lap top.

amberlight Mon 04-Mar-13 22:03:54

you can tell when you've been absent too much when you aren't on the prayer lists. Apols for that. I pray, as ever

Tuo Mon 04-Mar-13 23:10:10

Hey, amber - I name-checked you last night! smile Hope all is well with you. How is your DS now? (I may have missed an update on this, as was away quite a lot in the last couple of weeks.)

Room - still feeling continually sick at 21 weeks is grim. Praying you'll feel better soon and that the GP will be helpful.

BES - praying for your cough to feel better and for you to get a decent night's sleep.

PA - praying for a laptop so you can keep in touch with your family.

Oma - glad you had a good day, and love to Cupofteaplease.

Thanking God tonight that DD2 got into our first choice secondary school - the same one that DD1 attends. Thought we'd be OK because of the sibling rule, but it's not our catchment area school, so there's always a vague chance it'll go pear-shaped. Anyway, thankfully it didn't. Also thanks that my parents got home safely.

Prayers have been answered. DD2 has her luggage back after it has travelled the world, literally, for 3 weeks!!!

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 05-Mar-13 10:59:25

Ah wonderful news PA! smile

MadHairDay Tue 05-Mar-13 11:06:19

That's good news PA! Praying for a new laptop/finances for one/fixes for present ones!

TUO, praise God for answered prayer about secondary school place, remember well the nerves this time last year.

Kaykat, praying hard for you, how are you today?

Can I ask for prayer for me and dh, we are doing a month long initiative here and need lots of prayer and protection, there is a lot of attack going on...means it's the right thing, of course, but it's hard nonetheless, especially when the attack is on the dc sad

Interesting time at GP this morning. I'm back on the anti-sickness tablets and I had glucose in my urine (again) so I'm off for a glucose tolerance test next Wednesday...

Sorry! Posted without refreshing screen first.

Yay! For luggage turning up PA. Does it have to be a laptop or would a smartphone or tablet suffice?

MHD I know that joy of DC's being under attack all too well. Sounds like you're onto a good thing if the devil is lashing out. Stick with it. God is so much stronger than the devil and will not forsake you.

blackeyedsusan Tue 05-Mar-13 14:54:07

prayed mhd.

yay for luggage.

yay for cough medicine too.

Where is everybody?

blackeyedsusan Wed 06-Mar-13 23:54:39

here. pretending not to be up late at all.

i ran out of deodorant... perhaps the dug out with a fingernail and smeared on wwas not as effective as one hoped! <sniffs> blush

I have been to tesco, it will be safe for people to return now!

night all!

Tuo Thu 07-Mar-13 00:17:22

Oh dear, BES, that made me laugh. Been there, done that! smile

Hooray for luggage returned, PA. What a relief for your dd.

Room - are you feeling better now you're back on the meds? Praying for no more sickness and no diabetes either.

Wonder how Faith is? Hope she's taking it easy and not rushing around too much at work.

Praying for your and your dh's work, MHD, and for the whole family. How are you feeling now after your op?

corblimeymadam Thu 07-Mar-13 00:22:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Tuo Thu 07-Mar-13 01:25:28

Praying, belgianbun. May God grant you strength to cope with your difficulties, health, resilience, and, as you come through these tough times, happiness.

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Mar-13 07:39:59

see it worked!.. new deodoant,eveyone comes back!

I am lurking but I'm finding trying to balance work, school and my volunteering tricky right now.

Lovely man has had another set back and broken his ankle badly. I'm feeling rather ambivalent after a year of our dating/ friendship and have suggested we focus on friendship only. The truth is that the court case is putting such a huge strain on him and now with not being able to drive as well. I'm unlikely to see him at all, as we were dating long distance anyway. I feel at peace but do pray for him. This is terrible timing for him.

I've rather foolishly put a profile up on a Christian online dating website. Really not sure this sort of thing is for me. <help>

MaryBS Thu 07-Mar-13 08:55:58

xxx love and prayers

HavingALittleFaithBaby Thu 07-Mar-13 08:57:05

Hello all.

I'm around Tuo! I'm ok. Back to work Monday but joyfully have the next two days off. Only 12 shifts to go! I'm fairly prepared for this baby now but hoping it doesn't pop out too soon.

Mome I met Mr Faith on Fusion101.com smile There was no-one in church that took my fancy so I had a browse on there. Lo and behold, we were married within 18 months of meeting!

Praying for you belgian that where you strength ends, The Lord will pick up and give you strength to carry on and support your DDs too.

mhd hoping and praying you are recovering well from your op?

Room I really hope the meds improve your quality of life so you can relax and start to enjoy this pregnancy.

Oma how are things with Bob? Any further along with the respite/holiday plans?

Nice to have you smelling fresh bes grin

Hello! People returned!

Mome I picked DH up off of a Christian dating site. Neither of us met anyone else from there. His profile said very little but it intrigued me and so I prayed about contacting him. The rest is history!

I can't remember who asked if I'm feeling better now as it's on the previous page. I'm feeling pretty terrible. I'm not sure if it's coming off the drugs and then going back on them or whether I'm just feeling poorly because I'm not doing pregnancy very well. I really don't think I have gestational diabetes. Not looking forward to the test though!

Today I'm trying to get my head round drafting a term's worth of weekly bible study for the spouses at college. I need to get it sorted so that I can relax about juggling too much with pregnancy/baby appearing towards the end of term.

corblimeymadam Thu 07-Mar-13 09:57:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Dutchoma Thu 07-Mar-13 11:27:16

Belgianbun, no wonder we haven't seen you about with a ll that going on. Hopefully life will straighten itself out for you very soon.
Littleone, don't put yourself under too much pressure with doing Bible studies etc. Nothing more important than getting through the pregnance safely and (hopefully) enjoyably.
Faith same goes for you. Glad to see that you have things sorted for the baby. PM me if you want a little handknitted whatever for the baby?
Bes thank goodness you got some deodorant grin, I thought it was me! Not even smellies involved there.

I am going with a friend to have a look at the nursing home where Bob was so desperately unhappy in the hope that we can iron out some of the wrinkles that bugged him there. When I spoke to them yesterday they seemed absolutely lovely. Everybody, apart from Bob has said how good they were, so I'm hoping that we can make it into a happier experience for him this time and that he will afterwards say that he can't understand why he was so unhappy there in the first place. The whole experience has already been more positive, since the lady I am speaking to at Continuing Health Care has a very different attitude to the one I spoke to in August.
On the down side he is complaining about his teeth again and we can't see the dentist who was so very helpful before because he has an upstairs surgery and no lift. Not sure what to do there.

MadHairDay Thu 07-Mar-13 17:16:05

That's so difficult about the dentist, Oma, surely a service provider like that should be accessible? Odd. Hope you can find a good alternative, and do hope you can sort out the nursing home too.

Room, take it easy on yourself, you could always use a dvd series like Nooma or The Road to Maturity rather than doing a lot of work - I did that when I led the spouses bible study at college and it worked well, lots of good discussion.

Praying for you all.

I'm recovering ok thanks, have had a much too busy day today rushing round getting dd to her hospital appt where she's been referred for a second opinion on her skin to Birmingham Childrens sad It's just one thing after another. Then had very tight schedule to get ds to his guitar exam. I'm so exhausted I can hardly see tonight. Hoping I've not overdone it. Certainly haven't got any brain cells to spare for the Jesus thread tonight, but really want to sad

blackeyedsusan Thu 07-Mar-13 21:00:24

got a bugger of a sinus pain, and stomach ache, not improved by ds kicking me in the tummy mid tantrum as he lost his pencil down the back of the bed, oh and jabbing be in the side wwith a key because he opened the cupboard door really quickly and it stuck into me..

dd is reading happily. I have just given he a box of books thta did not get delivered at christmas because I was ill, then we did not feel like it much with losing mil.

That's encouraging to hear that two of you met your H's online.

I have to admit that I won't be every Christian mans cup of tea, as I'm divorced with two kids. A catholic cannot remarry can they? (Or did I make that up) There is some stigma in the church over divorce and remarriage as well, so I'll have to hope I find someone who has a similar faith/ beliefs and isn't put off by my situation. It's a bit scary. I feel very vulnerable.

MaryBS Fri 08-Mar-13 08:40:47

I'm a divorced/remarried Catholic who is now an Anglican! grin

Prayers. Not got a lot of energy, but can still pray smile

HavingALittleFaithBaby Fri 08-Mar-13 08:50:51

I have a friend who divorced (what sounded like a pretty abusive H). She met a nice guy through a mutual friend. The Catholic Church agreed to annul her first marriage so they could marry in church because he's Catholic.

When I was online looking, I was after a 25+ graduate. I got (now) DH who was still at uni and only 22! smile God knows better what we need wink

Ouch bes, are you inhaling steam? I'm glad DD is enjoying the books!

MadHairDay Fri 08-Mar-13 11:13:23

Oh Mome - praying for you as you take this step.

Hope you're OK, Mary?

I'm not too well, overdid it yesterday. chest is crappy so onto another course of abs sad

Prayers please having a difficult time at work and on the verge of handing in my resignation really, if only we could financially be able to...
Feeling very sad and not understood.

MadHairDay Fri 08-Mar-13 15:50:00

Oh Blue...

I'm here if you need to talk.

Praying.

Are you ok Blue? sad

No sad very upset.
Basically work denied me my request of not having to work evenings. Had to do youth club and also not allowed to take DD3, so when I got back after almost 3 hours she was completely distraught, she refuses bottles and DH couldn't settle her. She's been drinking non stop for almost 2 hours now.
Really sad I couldn't stay on maternity leave longer. On the verge of breakdown. Wish I could resign but can't as we can't manage financially... I'm the main earner...

blackeyedsusan Fri 08-Mar-13 22:19:15

sad blue

((hugs))

Tuo Fri 08-Mar-13 22:54:49

Oh Blue - I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm no expert, but I know that legally employers have to consider any request to work flexibly, etc. Has your employer done this? I understand that you need to go back to work (I had to, too, with both mine, as DH was a student when they were born), but your dd is still very little, and they should try to take this into account.

Can you start looking for another job? Something you can do from home? Could you afford to reduce your hours slightly just for a few more months (presumably someone was covering for you when you were on leave, after all)? Sorry... I'm sure you've already thought of all this, but it makes me sad to hear you sounding so low about everything.

I am praying for a resolution to this situation.

Praying for MHD's lungs to feel better soon. Please try to take it as easy as you can.

Praying, too, for BES's sinuses to clear. I have a friend who swears by that squirty-through-with-water system, which clears them out on a regular basis (she does it every day), but I have always been too squeamish to try.

Praying for Mome to find someone who'll love and value her as she so richly deserves. (And if not that, then for her to have some fun in the looking wink. )

Praying for energy for Mary - sorry to hear you're so tired.

Praying for Oma to find suitable respite care (and an accessible dentist) for Bob, and for Bob to be happy and settled there.

And praying for BelgianBun in her difficult situation. (BelgianBun - you won't know who I am, because I left MN for a few years and then came back under a new name when I became a Christian because I knew there was a group of people here to whom I could talk about my faith, even when I didn't really have anyone in real life... but years ago I am fairly certain that we talked quite a lot on emetophobe threads - forgive me if I'm mixing you up with someone else.)

On International Women's Day, praying for women everywhere who are discriminated against, abused or excluded because of their gender. Praying for all who work for women's rights (male and female), for our daughters, our mothers, and the women who've inspired us and supported us in our lives. And praying, therefore, for this group of wonderful caring women. I thank God that you are all here (wherever 'here' is ... out there in www-land somewhere) and for all the support you've given me.

thanks

Blue I'm so sad for you having to go through this. Have you explained to your employer what the consequences of their refusal is and how distraught you are? Is there really no compromise that can be achieved or a short term solution? Your DD3 will not be this little forever so it won't always cause problems at work and distress at home. Failing that, can you shame them with a discussion about your rights in the workplace as a BFing mother? Are your employed by the church if it's a youth club you had to run? Can you sit down and pray with them for a creative solution? After all, God does a pretty fab line in creative solutions!

amberlight Sat 09-Mar-13 07:19:00

praying about each situation

Kaykat Sat 09-Mar-13 08:21:34

Hi all, thanks for praying and asking how I am. I have been very homesick this week, not helped by delays with the legal stuff, but all sorted now. In the next few days he will get a letter outlining his terrible behaviour and stating what I want to happen next. I know him well enough to know his reaction will be to deny, lie and fight. But I am really hoping that he will be reasonable for the first time in nearly a year and agree to my requests, now that would be a true miracle. Either way things will get moving as I will be going to court if he isn't reasonable and the divorce petition has been prepared. I cried buckets submitting my marriage certificate but I know it's my only option, I could never go back to him even if he changed his character which he won't.

Tuo Sat 09-Mar-13 09:53:58

Praying for you, Kay. I pray that this will go more smoothly than you fear and that your H will behave reasonably. You have been so courageous through all of this, and I pray that the strength you've found to get this far (even when you thought you couldn't) will continue and grow. We are all behind you, and our prayers are surrounding you.

blackeyedsusan Sat 09-Mar-13 10:55:14

off for a weekend of shopping cooking and cleaning. oh joy. got to do it all again when I get back.

Prayers KayKat

Please pray for my 3 oldest girls tomorrow, they are all missing their mum on mother's day. sad
A bit of an emotional weekend here as I am so aware that they are missing me, then Monday is the birthdate of our first born daughter who died after just 8 days with us. Always a bad day!

MadHairDay Sat 09-Mar-13 14:30:27

Oh Kaykat, I can't begin to imagine how you must feel. Tuo is right - you have been so courageous and dignified through this. Hoping that taking this step along the way to divorce will give you peace in your spirit and freedom as you go forwards. Praying for you.

PA sad Praying for dds and especially for you as you remember your first little dd. May you know God's peace deep within and his arms around you as you mourn.

Blue. I think they are being unreasonable. I would echo the suggestions above to sit down with them if possible. dd3 cannot be left for that period of time at the moment so they need to make reasonable arrangements. What's the problem with her coming to youth group? They'd love her! I'm so sorry this is happening sad Praying for a quick and satisfactory solution for you. lots of love.

Thanks for prayers. Pleurisy is bad, but on abs so hopefully it will get better again. At least I am up and about.

corblimeymadam Sat 09-Mar-13 21:33:39

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

amberlight Sat 09-Mar-13 22:24:43

Please may I ask for prayers for C, a friend in the West country, who has two small children and is battling breast cancer that has spread to other parts. It's not looking very good for the future. Praying hard for something that delays things until a proper answer can be found....

Please pray for me, preaching this morning for the archdeacon and also need to tackle difficult work problem with church wardens! Not exactly a good combination!

Kaykat Sun 10-Mar-13 09:16:58

To all the wonderful mums and soon to be mums on this thread, have a very happy Mother's Day, hope you get thoroughly spoilt. Your words and prayers help to keep me strong. Sorry to have sounded a bit self absorbed these past few weeks, I do still pray for all of your situations.

Thanks Kaykat. I find this day very hard as a lone parent. I'm on my own with the kids. It feels like any other day. So glad I've given up fb for lent and I won't see my newsfeed full of pictures or statuses about how wonderful their morning/ day has been, how spoiled they are etc. It's too painful seeing all these happy families and being treated by their H's.

I did consider trying to do something special but it's exhausting with my two and anything we do is always interspersed with tantrums and just generally negotiating/ managing their behaviour. I would end up feeling more resentful tbh. I'm roasting a chicken instead and staying home.

What are you doing today Kat? Can you see your son? It must be even harder for you.

Happy Mothers Day to all of you x

Kaykat Sun 10-Mar-13 11:49:30

Yes my son is with me all the time, hasn't seen his dad since he threatened us. I am lucky to have other family who made a point of taking him shopping for Mother's Day but must be very hard if you don't have that and with younger children who can't organise anything themselves. So sorry that your parents or siblings didnt organise that for you, maybe hey are too far away? For my birthday my son went into th shop on his own to get something and kept it all secret but he is a lot older than yours. Yes Facebook is extremely annoying today, I noticed that. x

Tuo Sun 10-Mar-13 12:17:54

thanksthanksthanks <-- Special flowers for Momey and anyone else who doesn't have anyone to remember Mother's Day for them; also for those grieving lost children (thinking of PA, but also remembering Expat), or unable to be mothers, those missing their own mothers today, those estranged from their mothers and those mothers estranged from their children.

I thought that today's Gospel ('Woman behold your son [...]; behold your mother') was very appropriate in reminding us that our 'mothers' are not necessarily only those who gave birth to us but all those (of whatever gender) who look after us, love us, care for us, protect us, feed us, pray for us, shelter us... And that it may not be just one person doing all those things, but that we may be 'mothered' by different people at different times and in different situations. Praying today, then, for all who care for us and for those we care for.

Praying for Blue this morning, for a resolution to the work issue, and for your service to go well.

Praying for MHD to feel better soon. Pleurisy is hideous (my mum's had it a few times and I know how ill she has felt with it).

Praying for PA as she remembers her DD1. I am so sorry for your loss.

Praying for amber's friend C, for ways to be found to fight the cancer, for her to know love and support around her, and for her DCs also to be supported through this time.

And praying for Kay, that you will be back in your own home soon and will know peace and happiness.

I did my first 'shift' as a sidesperson today. It was a bit manic (there should have been three or four of us, and I was on my own for most of the time - joined by one other about 5 mins before the service was due to start; we ran out of hymn sheets; Junior Church took the collection, and instead of placing the baskets of offerings on the plate they started tipping it all out wildly, with coins and envelopes going everywhere, and I was powerless to stop them!) but at least I felt that my contribution had been important and recognised!

My Dad is abusive and I haven't seen him in over a year. My parents haven't been much help in the last 3 years tbh. I find I get quite envious of families whose parents are hands on sometimes. But actually as my Dad used to speak horrid things over my son and smacked him when he was only 18 months. I'm thankful I no longer see him.

Mum comes here now and then but she's very negative and critical of my parenting. I have 4 brothers but they all live quite a drive from me and they're all busy with their own families. So it's just little old me.

Their Dad will see them after School tomorrow. First time in 8 days.

Prayers of thanks for a solution to work problem, I can nip home during youth club to feed L. smile
Service went fine, although DH said he was struggling to get music balanced, we were using just backing tracks due to no pianist.

Kaykat Sun 10-Mar-13 13:14:27

It brought tears to my eyes to hear you are so alone Mome, then I recalled your previous post about the Christian dating and the positive experiences of Faith and Room who met their DHs on Christian dating websites. Maybe the time is right for a lovely new man to come into your life.

Thanks Tuo, I am still very homesick although there are many positives about being where I am now, mostly being able to sleep soundly without fear. That's why I'm going the legal route, I need a home where he can't just turn up whenever he likes. I thought I would get a reaction from him to the letter, texts or emails accusing me of lying, but nothing so far so I am a bit perplexed whether he has received it yet, or whether he will pretend to have not received it.

blackeyedsusan Sun 10-Mar-13 21:10:53

blue. i thhink there is some employment law about breastfeeding. not sure what though. (that came out as beast feeding... at first)

I am back from mums. stressful and I have a bit of a black eye as ds kneed me in it this morning in bed.... ouch. embarressing.

sudka1 Sun 10-Mar-13 21:21:17

I have just found this thread and I have to say how lovely it is. I am praying that I will be able to stay strong for an event on Wednesday-God willing it won't be as painful as I am expecting it to be!!!!

Dutchoma Sun 10-Mar-13 21:32:49

Welcome sudka. Praying for strength and wisdom for Wednesday.

Praying for everyone else too. For peace, for reliance on God alone in all our diverse circumstances and difficulties.
We have just had a pretty awful day with dd and the two grandchildren, but they all apologised and I hope they will soon be back.

MadHairDay Sun 10-Mar-13 21:42:25

Oh DO - I'm so sorry to hear that sad Praying for good reconciliation and for them to come back soon.

Momey, praying for you tonight that you will know God's comfort, and for you too Kaykat, in the midst of all your storm. with love and prayers.

Not heard from Jan in a while, hope she is OK.

Blue, I'm glad there is a solution. Are you happy with it? Is it enough? Praying for you.

love to all - and thanks for prayers. welcome sudka.

I've been reading and praying through. I think the overwhelming sense I have is the need for peace for everyone on here so that is what I'm praying for. I'm not entirely well and trying to discern a few things at the moment so I'm maybe a bit more deep in thought and posting less than usual!

Praying for everyone!

Yes atm I'm happy with it, will need to see how it works out when we actually try it out!
I think there should be more awareness about breastfeeding out there!

MaryBS Mon 11-Mar-13 08:58:42

Thats such a shame DO sad, on Mothering Sunday too! I ended up going to bed with a headache, due to various tensions, both at home and with my mother (who doesn't know when to stop and won't stop even when she is told "not to go there")

Dutchoma Mon 11-Mar-13 10:10:14

Thank you all for your prayers. They all said sorry and that they would come back soon, so that is some result.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Mon 11-Mar-13 10:23:04

Morning all!

DO sorry to hear it was a bad day, but glad you got an apology.

blue I'm really glad you've found a solution, I pray it all works for you.

Room praying for health and clarity!

kay you're in my prayers during this difficult time.

Hello to sudka, always nice to see fresh faces. Tell us a little more about yourself?

I'm feeling very tired today, I'm in the middle of a run of 6 shifts confused but only 10 left before my leave! Now that I'm looking forward to! smile

blackeyedsusan Mon 11-Mar-13 15:15:57

time to fetch the screaming hoard... (one small boy counts doesn't he?)

hope the shifts go well faith... counting down with you!

HavingALittleFaithBaby Mon 11-Mar-13 15:51:38

Sadly it's awful! On my break but it's bedlam and I have a really sick patient, Braxton Hicks and until 15 minutes ago we were short staffed! Please pray!

Dutchoma Mon 11-Mar-13 16:36:20

I have heard from Jan and she has difficultiy getting on the computer, not sure whether that is the computer's fault or her dd's but she says she is ok.
Praying for Faith on her shift in 'bedlam', may the peace of Jesus reign.

blackeyedsusan Mon 11-Mar-13 23:02:11

oh heck faith. I hope you are home and in bed now.

dd is half way through making a tissue paper pictuer of the solar system for homework. she will then write some facts about which are volcanic... (the inner planets apparently, oh and some of the moons of the outer planets...til now I was vaguely aware that the first few planets were rocky, then a couple of big gassy ones and the next couple were something ermm something... oh and there were a few moons floating about somewhere.. thank goodness for text books and google!)

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 12-Mar-13 07:58:18

Yes, I survived and DH had a bath run for me when I got home! I am impatient to finish now!

That solar system sounds very involved bes!

Dutchoma Tue 12-Mar-13 09:38:58

Let's hope the teachers read the text books and dd is not the one who has to teach them grin

Dippyeggsrock Tue 12-Mar-13 09:54:16

Hello - was Sudka - fancied a name change!!
Thank you for your prayers for tomorrow - I am meeting my biological mother for the first time and I don't know which way it will go.
I am nervous, excited, scared and all the emotions that I can think of all rolled into one!
In church on Sunday morning, one of the sentences in the sermon got me thinking - 'he who was lost, is now found, and we shall rejoice'. Found it all a bit emotional with it being mother's day as well!
I do so hope that the sentence sums up tomorrow, but we shall see!!
Please prayer that I will keep strong!
smile

blackeyedsusan Tue 12-Mar-13 12:32:41

the solar system is not complicted. google. look at pictures. copy the colour with tissue paper make cirlcle big or small depending on size of picture on google.

google is a wonderful thing!

I am hoping that the solar system is more acceptable than the periodic table grin

MadHairDay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:56:42

Hello dippy, wow, that sounds a huge day for you. Certainly praying.

Keeping prayers going here

Prayers for tomorrow Dippy.

Hello to everyone. Power cut here, so I cant see the keyboard and the power on the laptop is just about to run out. Only option is an early night really!! Lets hope it's back before the morning.

CharlotteCollinsismovingon Tue 12-Mar-13 20:30:06

Hello all, just popped in looking for jan and noticed that my name is still in the OP. Thanks for still praying; it feels like years since I was on here last but is probably only a month or two!

Just to update you; on Sunday I told H that I want us to separate. He acted the victim a lot and tried some passive-aggressive guilt-tripping about my selfish decision... but has gone on the work trip he had planned, so all is now peaceful here. I felt very peaceful about telling him (it was unpleasant but felt totally the right thing to do) and sustained by God. My pastor has recently moved on to a new church, but a woman on the leadership team is proving herself to be totally understanding. So I'm thankful for all that.

I'm mostly concerned about the dcs as over time it is becoming more apparent how he has also affected them. Please pray for them as they adjust (as yet we haven't told them, but it won't be long now).

Thank you, friends. I will come back to this thread in the future, but am just too caught up in my own problems at the moment! blush

Praying for you Charlotte x

blackeyedsusan Tue 12-Mar-13 20:42:51

hugs charlotte. I hope that your dh does not cause too much stress and emotion.

i am a bit stressed out by having no water for several hours, I aas fine hile e had no water but have cried in relief now it is back. the man got reaally stressed s it waas not working and things ere stuck nd would not fit. i have payed next to the hole whilst talking to my frriend and it seems to have worked, so thank God! lovely neighbour caame and knocked to say it was back too. I now have to steel myself to flush the loo and turn on taps... with all those bangs and splurts

Can I ask for some prayer please? I am really struggling to not be sick this morning and I haven't even got to the GP surgery for my glucose tolerance test yet.

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 07:58:34

Hope its still working OK BES and you are less stressed.

Prayers Room for you... and for you also Charlotte. Prayers for today Dippyegg.

For all in need of prayer.... <waves at Amber, praying today goes well>

I've arrived at GP's without vomiting! Now I just need to tolerate the lucozade!

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 08:45:12

xxx

Oooo, I feel like I have some virtual company in the waiting room, Mary grin I don't know how but my half litre of lucozade is now in and I think it's time to read a rubbish mag write a Bible study.

Would people pray for DH today please? He is leading the evening service for the first time tonight and we have a very famous speaker coming. Nothing like a bit of pressure. I'm sure he will be fab. Specific prayer that he is able to lead well, speak coherently and confidently (he has an accent that sometimes people struggle with) and that our children will not try and mob him when they return from kids' groups would be appreciated smile

Dutchoma Wed 13-Mar-13 10:43:19

Prayers for all of that. Prayers of thanks that you made it to the surgery Littleone, not sure what half a litre of Lucozade is all about, but there you go.

Test all done! DO I was having a glucose tolerance test so I had to fast for 12 hours, have a blood test, drink the lucozade, wait two hours and then have another blood test. They are testing for gestational diabetes.

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 11:11:42

Hope all the tests go well, Room, LOL at being there virtually with you, hope it helped!

I quite like the idea of the children mobbing your DH - just think what an impression of love and inclusion that gives, Room grin. Can we ask who the famous person is?

We recently had a retired priest move into the village, and I am conscious of the fact he was one of my tutors during Reader training. Our vicar is also conscious of his status too, because on Ash Wednesday, she told him to "turn away from Christ" rather than "turn away from sin". Sometimes a bit of "going wrong" does everyone some good, we are only human grin. Prayers anyway that it all goes well smile.

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 11:57:25

Just wanted to share this, found it and printed it off for encouragement when I need it (ignore the web address, not a joke):

www.jokeawhenever.com/inspirational/102-just-for-today-trust-god-one.html

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 13:21:39

Prayers needed here:

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/1706974-If-ever-we-needed-the-power-of-Mumsnet-please-say-a-prayer-for-my-1-y-o-d-godson

Can I just ask something? On Sunday I am preaching on Philippians 3.4b-14, and I will speak about the goal, and keeping our eyes on the goal. I've been feeling pretty low recently, and feel I've taken my eyes off that goal. That "Trust God one day at a time" I posted below I find helpful for me. What I was thinking was, maybe I could print off a few copies, mention it in my sermon, as something being helpful for keeping our eyes on that Goal. I've emailed my vicar, see what she thinks, but what do you lot think?

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 13:22:32
blackeyedsusan Wed 13-Mar-13 22:38:13

oh heck. I made a bit of mess of tea time and was a bit late. (adding an extra walk into the schedule becausse ds was getting stressed at the end of school did not help. possibly because there were two teachers today and no warning for him.) we have had screams because I would not let him do his homework. he has thrown a pencil and it narrowly missed dd's eye... and was sent to time out. a couple of spilled drinks this morning and ds getting himself locked in the playpen repeatedly, requiring me to walk through from the kitchen to release him (he likes to crawl in it to hide.. today he was playing crystal maze) and I am a bit stressed anad tearful.

MaryBS Wed 13-Mar-13 22:43:22

Hugs and prayers BES. Sounds like he got overloaded, but its so hard for you sad

Tuo Wed 13-Mar-13 23:18:48

Popping in quickly with prayers for all. Feeling very overwhelmed with work stuff at the moment, but you are in my thoughts. Particularly pleased to see an update from Charlotte.

Love and prayers to all.

MadHairDay Thu 14-Mar-13 09:36:49

Just popping in here quickly too. So pleased to see you Charlotte, and thinking of you as you are taking this step - you've been so brave. Praying for continuous peace.

Praying for you BES in your struggles daily.

Have an incredibly busy few days and feel a little stressed, but looking forward to going to the NW women's day on sat smile

MadHairDay Thu 14-Mar-13 09:38:36

Also just to give an update from Gingercurl: She has been granted the extension (praise God for answered prayer) but says it's still v stressful with a major deadline at easter. She is thanking God for the safe return of her Dsis and family from India. She says thanks for all the prayers and that she is keeping us all in her prayers. smile

blackeyedsusan Thu 14-Mar-13 11:02:23

thnks mhd. praying for you too.

bit worried about accessing money for the car insurance.

also peeved because the school is doing non uniform day with payment as an easter egg or a pound each and I am stressed about having enough in the correct account to pay for the car insurance. it is bit complicted getting ccess to money sometimes, even though Itechnically have some, I can't get access without bills in my name and the missing marriage certificte due to money laundering laws. bills in my name are difficult. they are all in h's nme and he needs to deal with the companies to change them and won't. other money is in an account tht hs no card nd can't use it to pay. if it is put in the shared account, it will disappear.

CharlotteCollinsismovingon Thu 14-Mar-13 11:35:06

Thanks, mhd. x

blackeyedsusan Thu 14-Mar-13 21:01:38

ok... so ds has been sleep on the sofa for 3 hours. he was fresh out of the bath and nude in a towel. and is under a heap of blankets to keep him wam (when he isn't throwing them off)

I have to wake him and see if he wants his tea. must dress him and put him to bed. he may want to do his homework. he had a melt down because he was not allowed to do his homework last night. hmm oh joy.

MaryBS Thu 14-Mar-13 21:31:52

Best of luck with that, BES.

Anyone looked at the link I posted earlier....? Feedback would be useful please...

blackeyedsusan Thu 14-Mar-13 21:52:10

tis a bit judgmental if you are not managing just for today... I think some are taken out of context and are ignoring the normal human feelings of despair, grief, exhaustion... jesus cried over lazarus, even though he was going to resurect him, he wept in the garden at the thought of death, he was so tieed he did not wake in a storm and had to take time out to be on his own at times.
sometimes people need to trust god in the midst of/despite the trouble and grief. they need others to do one anothering when things are too hard.

MaryBS Thu 14-Mar-13 22:18:01

Thats interesting because I didn't take it that way at all. When I'm not coping, thats the sort of thing I would find helpful. But its useful to know that this may not how it might be seen by others, so perhaps I won't use it.

blackeyedsusan Thu 14-Mar-13 22:20:09

ds is dressed and on the sofa eating dinner. he was a bit confused when I woke him, asking for dd. he also could not remember whether he had dinner or not. surely his grumbling tummy would tell him? I have had dinner, but my tummy thinks I have not.

blackeyedsusan Thu 14-Mar-13 22:21:18

I would use some of it but it needs careful explanaation so that the stuggling listener does not go away feeling that they have failed at one more thing.

MaryBS Thu 14-Mar-13 22:26:46

I wasn't going to explain it, its not the main focus of the sermon (which is why I can choose whether or not to include it), just say that sometimes we need help to focus on the goal that is Jesus, and that if people wanted, there was a list of bible verses which I found helpful, available at the back of church. Sometimes I feel worthless, and for example there is a verse which tells me I am not.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Thu 14-Mar-13 22:41:14

Mary I think I'd perceive it better on a good day! I was told once that we should live 'above' rather than 'under' our circumstances. I have always struggled with this! Sometimes I would feel like it reflected on me that my faith isn't enough to surpass my circumstances. Overall though, it's very encouraging.

bes I'm glad he's woken and doing ok. Continuing to pray into your circumstances.

Lovely to hear from Charlotte. I'm glad things are progressing and I pray God is clearing the path ahead of you,

HavingALittleFaithBaby Thu 14-Mar-13 22:43:27

Oops! Not sure if I said that MW thinks baby might be breach? Big lump near belly button could be head or bottom?! Anyway I've got a gym ball and started bouncing and it's already shifting so prayers that its the right way round a week on Tuesday (for 36 week appointment) appreciated! Only 6 shifts to work now! smile

MaryBS Thu 14-Mar-13 22:48:54

Oo, what does it mean, to live above our circumstances? Prayers for you HavingALittleFaithBaby

HavingALittleFaithBaby Thu 14-Mar-13 22:59:27

It means not getting bogged down by them, giving our troubles to God to manage rather than trying to manage ourselves....something I aspire to! smile

MaryBS Fri 15-Mar-13 07:52:46

Thanks! If its likely to upset even one person and make them feel a failure then I'd rather not do it. I was unsure, so thought I'd test the waters here smile

Prayers for everyone. I'm going to a carer support day today and I'm not well sad

Mary, I like it but out of sensitivity to others, I would present it differently so people don't feel like they have tried. Maybe more like 'if this is how you're feeling, counteract it with this biblical truth' and to talk about not being bound up by the enemy???

Please will people pray? I have a headache, feel sick, still don't have GTT results (missed the call from the GP yesterday) and I need to host bible study this morning...

Sorry, just re-read post and realise that it doesn't make sense. It should say to not make people feel like they have failed!

blackeyedsusan Fri 15-Mar-13 14:53:48

I am struggling today. it is all an effort.

the boy was fine yesterday. (apart from melt down in the library)

Tuo Fri 15-Mar-13 21:11:49

Hello all. Well, I haven't quite finished everything I needed to do this week, but I'm over the hump and by about 3am a little later tonight I should be ready for the weekend.

Sorry to hear you were having a tough day today, BES. I hope it got better as the day wore on, and that you're feeling a bit more chilled now. Praying for a good day tomorrow.

Praying for good news from the docs, Room, and sending head-down prayers to LittleFaithBaby.

Mary - hope your carers' day went well, and praying that you're feeling better now.

I'm just back from a servers' training session in the cathedral, ready for when the nave reopens on Palm Sunday after being closed for over a year. I am terminally confused (the ease of understanding was not helped by the fact that there is still no altar, no chairs, no ambo, no nothing basically...) but the cathedral looks amazing. I'm so excited to see it with people in soon. And, even more excitingly, it's warm. Positively balmy I tell you! grin

Seriously... thanking God for the builders, and craftspeople, and volunteers and fundraisers, and clergy and especially the Dean, who made it all happen.

Kaykat Sat 16-Mar-13 10:20:16

Saturdays are really tough, I find myself wishing I could go back to my old life, then I have to battle against the urge to go back to him and pretend nothing has happened. I know it's totally stupid. And I am so fed up with waiting for something to happen. I miss my home so badly. I miss my life as a family so badly. I spoke to a lady this week who was talking about how lovely H used to be and she thought he was like a big teddy bear who adored me. There were lots of cruel things he did over the years that she didn't know about although they were fairly rare compared to these past months. She also said that for some people the effects of cannabis can take a couple of years to wear off and that got me wondering if he will eventually turn back into the person he used to be. She is a nice lady i like her a lot but it wasnt really a helpful conversation I guess.

Dutchoma Sat 16-Mar-13 10:31:12

No, KAY it wasn't. And for one thing, do you know he is now off the cannabis? She may be a nice lady but that was quite the wrong thing to say.
What are you waiting for? Are the courts/police/solicitors dragging their feet?
Did anything happen when he last got some communication from them?
You are coping with an awful lot and I have been thinking about you. [hugs]

Kaykat Sat 16-Mar-13 15:56:56

No I don't know if he's off the cannabis and not sure how she knew about the two year thing. He has to be given a reasonable time to respond, that's why I'm waiting. Things should get moving again in a week or so.

blackeyedsusan Sat 16-Mar-13 16:09:22

kay, she only sees what is on show. no-one knows what really goes on behind closed doors. I can rerlate to the wanting to go back, but really it is to the life it should have been, not the actual reality.

Kaykat Sat 16-Mar-13 16:22:29

BEs and Oma you are both so right. I just read something on a relationship thread which reminded me of something very very cruel that my H said to me a few months ago when he was telling me how terrible I am and how wonderful OW was. Probably TMI to share it in detail here. It brought me with a sharp jolt out of this stupid nostalgia I always seem to get on a Saturday.

Dutchoma Sat 16-Mar-13 19:53:01

Share if you want to Kay

blackeyedsusan Sat 16-Mar-13 19:56:09

<nosey>

grin

do not base you decision on my nosiness...

amberlight Sat 16-Mar-13 19:57:32

Still here and praying, but quietly

Kaykat Sat 16-Mar-13 22:42:21

Ok well you asked for it.

Before I realised what was going on with OW he had erection problems a few times. Later after I knew about OW he asked why I thought that happened. I said 'erm... maybe your age?' He said 'I can assure you it wasn't my age I had no such problems with OW it was because you were so bad in bed'. Charming eh? How could I ever miss an H like that? I need to keep reminding myself of these things.

It's ok Kaykat. My ExH said he wouldn't get back with me unless I agreed to deep throating and basically said things were dull in the bedroom. It's so so painful.

You're in good company here and nothing is too shocking for us ladies.

I ask Father God to release you from that label now though, in the name of Jesus! Amen x

Abusive men are so good at looking like the perfect Dad/ husband to the outside world angry

blackeyedsusan Sat 16-Mar-13 22:52:48

sounds like you are both well rid.

Kaykat Sun 17-Mar-13 07:54:52

Thanks Mome. It's interesting how OW seem to be able to fulfil all their bedroom desires. I got accused of putting other things before his needs and was told many times that his needs should be my priority over housework, child and even needing a drink or a wee! If I wasn't in the mood or too tired he would keep me awake all night discussing it. Every time I dropped off the sleep waking me up to discuss it. When it got to the point that I was only going to get a couple of hours sleep and had to work the next day I had to give in. This happened many times throughout the marriage, so nothing to do with OW or cannabis. I think it will be helpful for me to remember things that happened before the cannabis otherwise I might be tempted to blame everything on the cannabis if the effects of it wear off at some point.

It's Sunday and during my happy month of January I managed o get to church twice. I was starting to rebuild my life. Now I feel like my life is on hold. I am in crisis mode and can't do many social things at the moment.

They rewrite history to justify their actions.

Keeping you awake all night to talk about you being too tired for sex. Is not a loving husbands actions. He is/ was abusive sad How awful, and he knew you'd give in so you could get some sleep.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Sun 17-Mar-13 13:20:37

Definitely think there's some wise words above kay. Only you know what your relationship was really like with him. It sounds like you're missing the life you wanted to have - if he was the husband he pretended to be (to the outside world). With your not being at home, I imagine its much tougher. Just remind yourself of what he is really like...

Well I made it to church today for the first time in weeks! DH didn't because he isn't feeling 100% - upset stomach which is settling. I'm glad I made it and hopefully I'll be able to go more in the next few weeks since I finish work on Friday!

Afternoon All.

So much to pray about here. Thank-you to Mome and Kay for your honesty. Sometimes we need to be deeply honest with others so that ignorance isn't an option. I don't want to live in my nice house with my nice husband and nice children (well, sometimes!) and think that I don't need to worry about others.

My GTT came back normal so hopefully I can continue to wee out glucose without anyone fussing! And we also have come closer to discerning what we should do about where we attend church. DH and I have both gone on the electoral roll at his placement church this morning. We are gaining so much as a family from going to the church in terms of considering the future and seeing church done differently. I think it's one of those times in life when you think you are going along to serve and end up learning so much from the people you are serving that they are the ones serving you! I do wonder what God is calling us to when it comes to curacy...

Dutchoma Sun 17-Mar-13 16:22:24

That's good news LittleOne.

MadHairDay Sun 17-Mar-13 19:33:24

That's good Room - I remember that time well! smile

Kay... sad You have been through so much. He abused you. He belittled you and used you. sad Don't be taken in by the platitudes of those who saw the face he put on and believed it. You have taken this brave, brave step, and it's onwards and upwards now. You're doing so well....it must be so heartbreaking, so hard. Prayers for courage, strength, comfort, peace are surrounding you. Keep going. xx

I enjoyed the women's day....overtired though, today, and a bit down about our situation here again..it's so hard

blackeyedsusan Sun 17-Mar-13 20:29:35

praying for you and your littlies this morning mhd. is all ok?

also praying for dd1(?) pa... (the one at home not getting married) oh well , god will sot it out if I have got it all muddled. blush

blackeyedsusan Tue 19-Mar-13 08:03:43

(sniffs)

I did have a bath you know! sad [lonely]

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 19-Mar-13 08:09:30

Oh dear bes! Personally I'm just powering through til Friday. 4 shifts to go!

Lol BES! Sitting in my car waiting for tyre to be repaired. Screw Weng through it yesterday and I'm in my spare temp thin 50 mph one

'went'

amberlight Tue 19-Mar-13 16:59:29

giving quiet prayers of thanks for another cancer checkup today that says I'll still ok at the moment.
And keeping all of you in prayers.

MadHairDay Tue 19-Mar-13 19:02:39

Oh, thanks to God, amber smile

CharlotteCollinsismovingon Tue 19-Mar-13 19:56:43

Yay, amber

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 19-Mar-13 21:26:43

Wonderful news Amber, praise God! smile

blackeyedsusan Tue 19-Mar-13 21:59:27

another answererd prayer amber. smile

a significant name change charlotte?

blackeyedsusan Wed 20-Mar-13 10:14:34

off to the bank to try and get some money shifted round for car insurance/holiday.

blackeyedsusan Wed 20-Mar-13 10:37:01

oh nd thaank God I hve found my map forr tomorrow. I was stressing about it. doing trial run to find where dd is going to be tested.

Dutchoma Wed 20-Mar-13 16:32:04

I've had a prayer request from Jan for her dd who has broken her arm and needs an operation. No more details I will update as soon as I can.

Prayer request here too, I've got mastitis and it's very painful! sad

Praying for everyone

Dutchoma Wed 20-Mar-13 20:27:38

I've heard from Jan that she's got to stay in the hospital with dd overnight and her telephone battery is running out, so not much more info about what happened.
Prayers for Blue as well, mastitis is horrible.

blackeyedsusan Wed 20-Mar-13 21:44:23

oh poor jan and blue. (not hadmastitis, but know how painful a chewed boob can be)

Tuo Wed 20-Mar-13 21:48:23

Very quick check-in from me to say thank God for another clear check-up, amber, and to add prayers for jan and her dd, and for * Blue*.

More soon. Still a bit swamped, but praying.

MaryBS Thu 21-Mar-13 08:39:50

Prayers

MadHairDay Thu 21-Mar-13 09:24:39

Praying for Jan and her dd and for Blue (ouch - been there)

Can I ask for prayer for a friend of a friend of a friend who lost her 12 yr old dd at the weekend after a seizure sad Awfully, awfully tragic. sad

Dutchoma Thu 21-Mar-13 11:47:19

Just had a message from Jan to say that dd is doing well and that they are home. There are still issues for prayer, but I will leave it to her to explain as she wishes.

Afternoon All. Praying for the poorly people. DO how is Bob?

Dutchoma Thu 21-Mar-13 12:48:26

Difficult to say Littleone. We had a GP out last Friday who said that "he was stable in his own normality". That is a good expression, they couldn't find any sign of infection or anything else. But I have the impression that his 'normality' is getting worse, if that makes any sense. He is anxious about the respite care and did not manage to get to the day centre yesterday, but otherwise he is ok.
I, however have a very sore back which has been grumbling for a while and is now quite a pest.

Oh dear. You must be so fed up and ready for a break. Are you getting any support for Bob's day to day care or are you doing it all? And what about Spiritual and emotional support?

Dutchoma Thu 21-Mar-13 14:46:13

There is some support, but basically I do it myself because the idea of being dependent on carers coming in is the last thing I want.
My main emotional support comes from the hospice who organise two days carers' support a month and also have Bob in for a day a month.
We can also have 8 hours a month of Age UK carers, who come in to do lunch for Bob and who even come in on a Sunday so I can go to church once a month.
We also have one of the chaplains from the hospice who calls every fortnight.
Having said that I often feel very lonely and would love to chat with someone over a cup of tea. Mainly that happens over the internet and MN is a real support in that respect.

blackeyedsusan Thu 21-Mar-13 22:46:08

(((hugs))) oma

please pray that dd's assessment on saturday will be a fair assessment and if there are any difficulties that they will be picked up. and I can get up and get there on time.

I started typing this last night but fell asleep whilst typing!

DO, I have so much respect for you. You are an amazing daughter of God and what a fabulous wife you are! Praying for spiritual refreshment for you, a quenching of your Spirit in the des

Whoops! ... Desert place.

We're supposed to be going away on a retreat today but all of the children are a bit niggly poorly and DH is exhausted from being up in the night with them. It's a four hour drive and we are not at all ready for it...

blackeyedsusan Fri 22-Mar-13 07:37:42

it has snowed.... eek. hope you can go without snow disruption room.

The snow on the roads has melted and we are heading away from the snow so it's unlikely to stop us travelling. On the other hand, me being too poorly to pack isn't going to help us get there...

Dutchoma Fri 22-Mar-13 10:45:26

Thanks Littleone. Hope your retreat goes well and you all feel refreshed when you come back for it.
I asked for some help from the Mac nurse,someone is coming out to visit on Thursday then phoned a friend to take me shopping.
Amusingly she 'organised' her husband to do it, always makes me laugh a bit, but I don't think he minds.
Then I asked my neighbour to take my parcel from Holland in.
So I feel I have done well in organising me some help after bending over the toilet this morning trying to be sick and failing. The tether has stretched.
Praying for all who have posted and those who have not.

Oh, DO, how awful for you. Please seek out and accept as much help as you can. If you want Bob to be cared for at home, you can't get to the point of being ill. You are more likely to stop coping and he will have to be admitted somewhere for his care. I don't want to trample all over your feelings or disrespect your wishes but I've seen it happen so many times and I think it is less devastating to be 'reliant' on carers in your own home than to not cope and have everything fall apart. Is there any family or a friend who could give you a good 24 hours off to re-charge? I hope you don't mind me being direct. I don't want you to get to a point of not coping that other people will try to make all of the decisions for you.

Dutchoma Fri 22-Mar-13 12:31:18

Well I am just back from an epic shopping trip and have food in the house for a week at least. The trouble is that I don't know what I would want carers to do. I get 8 hours a month from Age UK, but not overnight I will get that at the end of next month, but the fuss that Bob is making makes me query whether it is worth the hassle. It is going to happen though and I will just have to cope till then.

Dutchoma Fri 22-Mar-13 12:32:04

Has everybody got a spell checker on messages or is that just Firefox? Only just noticed.

blackeyedsusan Fri 22-Mar-13 12:48:54

obviously not grin

Tuo Fri 22-Mar-13 14:39:58

In haste as usual, but don't want to read and not post. Thinking of you all, but especially Oma and Bob, Room and family, Jan and her dd, BES and her dd, and MHD's bereaved friend.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Fri 22-Mar-13 18:36:35

Hello all.

Sorry it's so tough DO. Have you had any assessments to see what the carers actually could offer? In theory? I'm glad you got the shopping done and got organised.

bes praying for the assessment.

Praying that Roomy was well enough to pack and has a great trip.

Wahoo I'm on leave! I now have 4 weeks holiday that just about takes me up to my due date. Time to potter round the house and chill out! smile

Dutchoma Fri 22-Mar-13 21:15:34

Congratulations Faith. I have thought about what I would want anybody to do, but can't come up with anything. The idea of having people in the house terrifies me. Even having the AgeUK carers or my friend Margaret make me feel as if the house is no longer mine.
I had a rest and a bit of a sleep this afternoon and my back feels a bit better. No visitors though this weekend as ds and family are suffering with tummy bugs and dd and children are having a 'chill-out' Sunday. Oh well, at least there isn't a lot of snow here...yet

blackeyedsusan Fri 22-Mar-13 21:54:58

I hate hving people in the house too oma. mum does too.

yay faith. made it to the end!

HavingALittleFaithBaby Fri 22-Mar-13 22:03:18

Yes bes I am amazed/proud. I really thought I'd end up bring signed off sick!

I do understand the weirdness of having someone else in your home DO. I'm glad you got some rest.

blackeyedsusan Sat 23-Mar-13 06:36:19

ha, who prayed I would be awake in time? I was woken by a headbutt to a full bladder. (sorry faith the bladder headbutting thing does not necessily stop when they get on the outside) I was awake before all 3 working alarrms. write it in history. I have been awake since before 6.

it is snowy, but not too bad. we are 50 yards or so from the gritted road, and it is main roads all the way, a roads and motorway. apart from the last 20 feet into the drive

Kaykat Sat 23-Mar-13 08:23:58

I've been so unhappy all week, crying every day. I can't take this any more I need to go home. Keep thinking about all my things and wondering if he's dumped them. Divorce petition didn't come in post from solicitor as promised. No word whether he has answered the letter and I doubt he will as it would be allowing someone to control him and he doesn't ever allow that. I keep thinking about all the things I can't do now I am single and what a miserable summer I will have. I keep thinking I should have stayed with him, at least I would have a home.

Tuo Sat 23-Mar-13 08:54:47

Oh Kay... Can't type much as on phone, but I am praying right now for a swift resolution. You know you did the right thing in getting out: indeed, the way he treated you left you no choice. One day you will look back and see this huge mountain behind you and will know that you climbed it and are on the other side, but while you keep climbing you need to just keep putting one foot in front of the other and trusting that you are going the right way. Praying for that clarity for you, and for support in these tough times.

Praying for a safe journey, BES. And if anyone is praying for snow, can they please stop now!

Dutchoma Sat 23-Mar-13 09:14:47

Our minister, who is in Australia at the moment posted on Facebook a few days ago: "If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it." Personally I have trouble believing for that, although deep down I know it's true.
And while reading your post Kay I was thinking of Hagar who was also thrown out of her home and with a baby too. And just as she thought she could go on no longer God intervened.