Support thread for the Mental Health board

(51 Posts)
amillionyears Thu 11-Oct-12 19:18:23

I have ok'd this thread with MNHQ, and they are happy about it.
They suggested it is set up here, and link to it from the MH topic so this is what I am doing.

I am thinking it would be a nice thing to do,that if any persons on the MH board would like a prayer or prayers said for them,that they ask for a prayer to be said for them, either on the MH thread that they are on,or post directly onto the thread I am about to start on the Mental Health board.

Flosie1989 Fri 19-Oct-12 20:50:20

Lovely idea xx

Mylittlepuds Sun 21-Oct-12 20:56:20

You could try saying a prayer for me? Feels very self indulgent to ask but it's worth a shot :-) I've had extreme anxiety since the birth of my DS 18 months ago and have found out I'm expecting again. Unplanned but we're thrilled. I still suffer anxiety. All I want is to be able to enjoy my son and this new baby without anxiety as it effectively ruined my time with my beautiful, amazing son. I realise there's people who have been through things in life a lot more serious than this.

Mylittlepuds Sun 21-Oct-12 21:02:22

I feel guilty for asking now!! I do emphasise that I do know there are people with worse 'problems' than mine. It's a lovely thought, very caring.

fourbears Sun 21-Oct-12 21:04:13

Great idea. Will say a little prayer, puds. thanks

Kaykat Mon 22-Oct-12 17:38:20

Hi puds, don't feel guilty, just because there are people worse off doesn't mean your situation isn't important. I will pray for you.

Mylittlepuds Mon 22-Oct-12 18:21:48

That's so lovely both of you. Thank you!

susiedaisy Mon 19-Nov-12 16:34:28

Great idea smile

Will pray for lessening of anxiety.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Sun 25-Nov-12 08:32:20

That's what the thread is here for puds! Praying for you.

Lovely idea amillionyears! smile

tuffie Sun 25-Nov-12 20:45:26

I had extreme anxiety after the birth of my son so I know what you are going through. I too will pray that your anxiety will cease and you will be able to enjoy both of your children.

Mylittlepuds. Just wanted to post on here to (hopefully) offer a little reassurance. I had horrific PND after DS1 was born & was terrified it would happen again if I had another one. DS2 is now 9 weeks old & apart from one minor wobble (seemed major at the time but looking back it wasn't) I haven't had any signs it's returning. So be aware but don't assume you'll have the same experiences with further children that you had with your first.

corblimeymadam Sun 25-Nov-12 21:25:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lottieloulou Mon 26-Nov-12 08:03:40

For the strength to make it through another day.

Hoophopes Tue 27-Nov-12 11:33:57

What a kind thought. I am struggling to pray for self as don't feel I deserve it (hypocritical as a believer I know sad and am struggling to have faith). I have a baby, much longed and waited for, pnd (turned down for help by peri-natal mental health team), had some short term assessment adn help and told I need specific help but the person who can help me has a new job and although it is possible for her to work with me she has said "no" and that is that. Am struggling, admitting I need help was so hard after years of hiding things and I so wanted to enjoy my baby and each day is hard to get through now. To have been given hope and to lose it has made struggles harder. (sorry feel so selfish asking for prayer, when I know there is no hope in my life but am desperate for ds).

Prayer of course Hoophopes. I had PND with my first and so you have this virtual hug (((()))) but it sounds like you need to talk to your health visitor/GP ASAP.

amillionyears Tue 27-Nov-12 16:29:01

I will pray for you Hoophopes.
Never give up hope.
It is never selfish to ask for help, it is a strong thing to do.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Tue 27-Nov-12 17:17:33

Praying for the emetophobes.

Praying for Lottie and what you're going through.

Hoophopes I've not had PND but have been depressed and felt like I didn't deserve prayers and felt so low I couldn't imagine how God could love me. Praying you feel immersed in God's love and become surrounded by people who can love and restore you.

Hoophopes Tue 27-Nov-12 18:18:42

Thanks. It is because I had depression before the peri-natal team will not help. Health visitor useless as can't do anything and all hope was on getting help that I now can't have and don't deserve.

amillionyears Tue 27-Nov-12 21:46:34

Hoophopes, does your GP know you have been turned down for help?
Could he suggest someone else to help you?

Hoophopes Wed 28-Nov-12 16:48:46

Gp knows and can't get me anything amillionyears. I was offered someone from another service who could help me but she has been offered another job which starts in December and as it is funded by another agency she cannot work with me and I don't fit the requirements to work with her replacement (it is confusing - this help I was offered wasn't linked to pnd, but something my husband fought for over 18mths!!). I don't fit any box, too bad for one service and not good enough for another, or no funding or worker. Main issue is I know what I need and can't have it, which is making things worse. Dh taken a week off work as he knows how i can't cope with this situation. Saw the lady today who told me definitely there is no time or funding for the help she says I need. So it is final.

amillionyears Wed 28-Nov-12 16:55:56

There do seem to be a few charities for peri-natal support. Would any of these be of any use to you do you think?
Dont know how useful or specific they are, or whether they are in your area at all.

Hoophopes Thu 29-Nov-12 17:41:34

thanks - prayer is holding me up right now, when little else is. Also a faintest glimmer of hope of help, after my husband had a phonecall today. but it sounds beyond human ability that I will get it, it is so confusing. The NHS peri-natal team will not help, so not sure of charity.

Catree Mon 03-Dec-12 21:41:30

Please can I make a prayer request? I am struggling with PND. I haven't spoken to my GP about this as I am too scared that they will tell social services (which other people say has happened to them) and I couldn't cope if they got involved.

I feel lost. I feel I am trapped by my two children, and can't see any way out. I genuinely feel they would be better off if I wasn't around, and I cry out of pity for them that they have been given me as their mother. I know I love them, but I feel guilty that I do not love them enough. I lose my temper with them, and then feel so guilty for shouting I just sit on the floor and cry, which scares my poor beautiful boys and makes them cry too. I hate myself for feeling this way, and not being in control.

Please can you pray for my healing from this? Or that I will find the help I need without risking losing my beautiful boys? Or that I could one day find the strength to admit to my husband some of what I feel?

Kaykat Mon 03-Dec-12 23:00:33

Hi Catree, I will pray for you. I have no personal experience of pnd, but I am a mum so I do know that your DCs would definitely not be better off without you. I hope you can find the strength to tell someone, it would lift a weight off you to share this.

Hi Hoophopes, I am praying for you too.

amillionyears Wed 05-Dec-12 20:08:26

Catree, your post has been bothering me a lot since you wrote it.
I will pray for you.
When you say that other people have said that ss might be informed, is that because of stuff you have read on MN?

You clearly love your boys very much.
I pray that you get healing and the help that you need.

Catree Wed 05-Dec-12 21:41:03

Thank you amillion.

I have decided to go to the GP when I next have the car (Monday or Tuesday). I think I owe it to my boys to face the outcome whatever it is.

Yes, I read that SS have been informed by GPs of depression from other people on here. But I guess it depends on each situation.

Thank you for your prayers, I am finding prayer is the only thing that is keeping me going at the moment. It isn't helping yet, but He is the only one I can be honest with. And now you too, so thank you.

Hoophopes Wed 05-Dec-12 22:58:46

Hi - I know this is a prayer request and not a discussion board, but just want to say Catree that I have pnd (and other mental health issues) and my gp didn't contact social care due to that, nor the health visitor. Being honest and reaching out for help - if help is there - is seen as pro-active and that isn't an issue for social care I was told, when I was concerned about that. (sorry to but in just wanted to offer some encouragement if at all )

amillionyears Thu 06-Dec-12 10:19:34

I think that is a great post Hoophopes.

keekeeblue Fri 07-Dec-12 14:31:13

Praying for all anxiety sufferers that we have the strength to get through the difficult times and to accept the good times for what they are. It is OK to be happy, it is OK when things are going well.

thinking of my Nan especially today x

Catree Mon 10-Dec-12 12:35:21

I couldn't do it. I phoned GP but they said they would get a Dr to call me back as so busy, and if she thought it warranted an appt I would get one today.
And when she phoned I just chickened out. I couldn't bring myself to say it out loud and made up some rubbish about wanting to go on the pill and she just made me an appt with family planning nurse.
Please pray that I will have the courage to call again one day! I feel like that was my chance and I blew it. Been in tears for most of the day since. Too embarrassed to call back and say its something else.

Please pray. Feel desperate now, and scared. (dont know why scared, just am)

Kaykat Mon 10-Dec-12 14:19:11

So sorry to hear you are feeling sad. You were brave and took the first step, it doesn't matter what you said, you shouldn't have to explain anything to the receptionist.
You said you have the car tomorrow, why not have another go? Just ask for an appointment and say that you would rather not discuss the reason on the phone.
I myself have sat in front of the GP crying and unable to get any words out, they are used to it and sympathetic. I heard of someone in a similar situation who wrote a note in advance and passed it to the GP because she was too upset to speak the words.
I will continue to pray for courage for you.

amillionyears Mon 10-Dec-12 20:16:59

You are not the only one with this fear.
Yesterday I started a thread on this subject, because others on MN have been thinking the same.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1632758-It-is-safe-to-go-to-the-doctors

hth

Catree Mon 10-Dec-12 21:13:58

amillionyears, thanks a million! That has been like a breath of fresh air to read through. I know you didn't do that just for me, but the thought that my post might have in some way contributed to you starting that thread shows more care than I would ever imagine to receive on a webchat.

Thank you amillionyears. I feel like a small weight has been lifted!

amillionyears Mon 10-Dec-12 21:17:41

You are very welcome. smile

amillionyears Wed 19-Dec-12 12:14:34

Is there anyone who wants prayers, at what is a more than usual difficult time of year for some people to cope with.

amillionyears Wed 19-Dec-12 12:15:50

For those who might, but dont want to ask or post, I pray for peace for you.

jingleallthespringy Thu 20-Dec-12 17:26:55

I'll be brave then! I have a very shocking family situation and although I have tried every avenue to get professional support I have so far drawn a blank. The result is that I haven't been able to work for a year and have recently started ADs. Please pray that I have the courage to find work (I heard today that my benefits are being stopped as of 10 Dec. terrified!) and that I survive in the workplace. Please pray for a miracle in my family situation - because that's what it's going to take. Very serious situation. Thanks.

I'm praying for yous with anxiety/PND. I've had PND so know what you are facing.

jingleallthespringy Thu 20-Dec-12 17:37:58

re suggested it is set up here, and link to it from the MH topic

Can't find the link to the MH board (or vice versa)??

Great idea btw. I often read things I pray about and great to know we can all pray together smile

amillionyears Thu 20-Dec-12 20:32:57

Hi springy.
The link that I talked about was set up on the 25 November. But about 3 posters objected to it being on the MH board.
Not sure whether to put the link here. MNHQ and I had discussed it before and after. They said, that as it is now on the MH board, to leave it as it all stands. So there is just this bit on here now, which the 3 posters didnt have a problem with. If you are the posts from the thread on the MH board, on the 25th and 26th November, it will make what I have said a bit clearer. hth

I will pray for all the things you have mentioned. I am sorry that you have ongoing difficulties with your family, and those other problems too.
Sending flowers

jingleallthespringy Fri 21-Dec-12 19:05:20

I am here to report a rather quick answer to your prayers. The benefit agency have decided they made a mistake and all is reinstated - certainly later than expected, so it'll be a lean Christmas, but a huge relief (I barely slept last night with the fear of it) . Some very good things have come of it, one way and another: I'm a step closer to finding employment, for one.

Plus! my dad just appeared on my doorstep and I gave him/initiated a hug. This is huge in one way, not so huge in another - he is not the source of the terrible family thing but, shall we say, has hardly helped [understatement]. But all good, a small step.

Thank you for your prayers. It is great to give some positive feedback so quickly smile

amillionyears Fri 21-Dec-12 23:22:52

Brilliant. Wonderful!
Thank you God, and you have a Happy Christmas smile

Catree55 Mon 21-Jan-13 19:55:19

amillion I thought you might like an update.

I have been brave and saw a GP before Christmas, am now on antidepressants and seeing a counsellor. Everyone has been really supportive and understanding, and I am starting to feel a bit more like I can cope again.

Thank you for your prayers, I feel so strong now that I have admitted it. And I want you to know that your quiet support has helped as well. I will keep an eye on this thread and others, and be sure to pray for anyone who asks for it, as I have seen that it can be a help as it was to me. Thank you.

Hoophopes Mon 21-Jan-13 21:05:24

Hi - an update from me, also if that is ok amillion. I have deteriorated, which is not so good. After much debate not involving me, "someone" has been found to work with me. But isn't available for me to meet for 2 months. And then I don't know anything other than she only works one day a week, a short day at that, and it is a day I have to be in work. I cannot change my days of work due to the work I do. I work part-time, well will be going back after maternity leave in February. The only way I can see her, and not sure if I can see her yet as she not met with anyone to confirm it, is if I take half a day a week off work (due to where would have to go to her, the time of the appointment and then time to work. I think the only way to have this time off is to ask for a fit note from gp - which would then trigger Occupational Health, then gossip at work (that is what happened in my last job, sigh). She isn't able to see me until March anyway.

So - can only have counselling if I admit to work what is going on in personal life. Then when have next round of redundancies (due in May due to financial reasons) I will top target - I was targetted last year as on maternity leave, had email from top person asking me to consider reducing my hours more than I wanted to.

I cannot have medication yet, until seen a doctor who cannot fit me in until March, again a day I work - and no, dr will not see me any other day.

Really struggling to see any answers to prayer - am losing hope. Am struggling at being able to return to work, but can't cope being signed off either.

Sorry, mememe post. Haven't managed church for many weeks now, have no energy to get out of bed, dress, brush teeth - so trying to pretend am ok at church is one step too far.

Catree55 Mon 21-Jan-13 22:03:45

Hoophopes I am so sorry to hear that. I know I don't have as much faith as the others on this board, and am quite new to this praying thing, but I will pray for you.

Specifically that you will find someone who will help you, and that the days of counselling will be ones you are able to make.

Is there another Dr's surgery you can try? One that might see you sooner, and prescribe something in the meantime until you can talk with someone? It sounds like a horrible situation at work, of course you wouldn't want them to know about all this.

I have no advice, I'm sorry, but I hope and pray it all works out somehow for you. Take care of yourself.

Hoophopes Tue 22-Jan-13 09:13:05

I cannot even get a Dr's appointment - due to snow right now. My appointment was cancelled, as Dr's only seeing emergencies, which is not me. Interestingly all schools were open.

I have given up really now.

Twosugarsplease Thu 31-Jan-13 20:55:53

Yes please, this is a lovely gesture.
Waiting for dh's results (as are many on cancer support threads)
Thankyou x

luckywinner Mon 04-Feb-13 17:42:10

I am not sure I want to ask for a prayer but I think is a lovely idea, whether you have faith or not. Too many people don't think of others and their suffering and just by starting this thread you have done that already.

I suffer from severe depression and am also bipolar. I struggle to find people I feel comfortable to confide in. You are a lovely lot by starting this thread.

amillionyears Thu 21-Feb-13 14:12:53

Not exactly sure what to write here right now.
How are people doing?

amillionyears Thu 21-Feb-13 14:19:03

For those of you not wanting to read all of the thread, we are not just praying for those with Mental Health issues.

Hoophopes Thu 07-Mar-13 21:11:40

I would value prayer for very difficult time right now. Sadly the support I had hoped for is not available due to resource constraints. I cannot get NHS help and feel lost right now. Miracles will not happen to resources, but I just need to survive right now without any help in everyday life.

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