Daily Gratitudes

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crescentmoon Wed 19-Sep-12 21:51:54

i was listening to Nina Simone's "Ain't Got No..." here or better one and i got to thinking about gratitude. apparently regular grateful thinking can increase happiness by as much as 25 percent just by wanting what one actually has. so i hope maybe that we can regularly write about the things that go well for us each day, no matter how little they are. from any faith and no faith too.

il start by saying over the past few days im grateful that...

1. its the middle of september and ds1 hasnt had to use his blue inhaler once
2. id worried that dd wouldnt like her new school but shes settled in very quickly
3. the sun shone brightly so i went exploring around my local high street
4. i have learnt how to make chai tea for myself now
5. the house is cosy and warm

HardlyEverHoovers Thu 20-Sep-12 19:58:41

That's a lovely idea. I used to do a '3 good things that happened today' thought before I went to sleep, but seem to have forgotten about that.
I'm grateful that:
we eat lovely food everyday
we have a nice little garden
DS always seems happy
we are safe

headinhands Thu 20-Sep-12 20:44:33

Nice idea op

1, dd went to school grumpy but came out happy, phew.
2, had some good feedback from my boss
3, managed the longest run I've done since June.

Salbertina Thu 20-Sep-12 21:08:08

I cheered a sad friend up
Dc say they love each other
Dh v supportive
I am realizing family dynamics for which I am not responsible or to blame for, understanding this a huge release am v v grateful
Spring here, sort of

crescentmoon Thu 20-Sep-12 21:36:57

hello hardly, headinhands, and salbertina! i liked reading your lists, and it reminds me to think about the details of my day. to look at my children fast asleep now you wouldnt believe the angst they caused me all afternoon! but im grateful that...

1. my younger brother phoned me today - first time we've spoken since July - and we had a long heartfelt chat. i didnt realise how much id missed him.
2. i got an answer back on a course i wanted to take and im excited i have the chance to do it.
3. my children are very protective of each other when i have to tell one of them off. im secretly pleased that they feel that way about each other.
4. i have good neighbours. very, very good neighbours.
5. dh never hesitates to give time to any of my hypochondriac aunts

stressedHEmum Fri 21-Sep-12 09:12:47

DS4 (10) has finally slept a full night in his own bed (Thank you, God).
BB went well last night, it's my first year organising evenings and was very nervous about all the boys hating it.
Everyone ate dinner last night without complaining (very trivial, I know).
Have a food bank meeting this morning and I'm so pleased that I can finally tell them that I have persuaded my church to take part.
I got up this morning and I'm not in as much pain as I expected to be.

It's good to thank God every day for all the many, small blessings that he grants us. It helps to foster contentment and an outlook of gratitude.

HardlyEverHoovers Sat 22-Sep-12 14:52:46

Hmm, today I am grateful for:
1)Saturdays - a whole day for myself and DS with no guilt about not studying
2)That I live in a place where everyone is friendly and chatty and a lovely lady helped DS cross the road even though she didn't know us, just because he decided he'd rather hold her hand than mine!
4)My slow cooker, among all the other things that make life easy and not everyone in the world has
5)That DH takes DS to Friday prayers every week, all dressed in white and smelling of a perfume shop...
I agree stressedHEmum, it is a lovely way remind us to be grateful for what we have, rather than wanting what we don't.

stressedHEmum Sat 22-Sep-12 15:07:25

Today I am grateful for

A dry day to hang out the washing
A good friend who has volunteered to help with the food bank project
That I was able to pass on a jacket that another child can get good use from this winter
The fact that no-one in this house will have to go to bed hungry when so many other people don't have that luxury
The chance of a quiet time to pray in peace

crescentmoon Sat 22-Sep-12 18:06:47

when i listen to the song


i realise, checking things off the list, that....

iv got a home, iv got shoes, iv got money, iv got friends, iv got schooling, iv got a place to stay,
iv got a father, iv got a mother, iv got children, iv got sisters, iv got brothers, iv got faith, iv got love, i have a lovely husband,
iv clothes, iv got a country,
iv got water, iv got food, iv got clothes,

about the only things i don't have are a job - im grateful i can choose when to go back to that
- iv got no wine - im ok with that lol -
and iv got no cigarettes - lol im ok with that too

and on top of all those things, i still have...

my hair on my head (though its a tangled mess right now!),my brains, my ears, my eyes, my nose and my mouth,
iv got my smile - yes, yes cheesy
my tongue, my neck, my chin, my heart, my soul and my back
iv got my arms, my hands, my fingers, my legs, my feet, my toes, my liver, my blood
im alive, everyday i wake up and im still alive i still have a chance to change my condition!

plus, im grateful that...

1) i live in a land of security, no bombs, no guns, no aerial bombardments, no drone attacks, no curfews
2) i can walk in safety. my children have never seen anything but good from strangers.
3) i have never been at the mercy of merciless people.
4) i have trustworthy people around me who i can leave my children with when needed. saturdays are my formal study days hardly, the rest of the week i dont even pick up a pen!

i read an article about church food banks awhile ago



and really appreciated their work stressedHEmum.

stressedHEmum Sat 22-Sep-12 19:20:15

Food banks are a wonderful thing, crescent, they are God's love in action. Although, I never know whether to be happy they are there or sad that they are needed. They serve a very real need and they make no distinctions or discrimination. You should be able to get a parcel when you need one whether you are veggie/vegan. coeliac/lactose intolerant/need halal/kosher or whatever, as long as there is something in the bank. Many food banks strike up relationships with halal/kosher suppliers etc. to make sure that that need is filled as well. In a very big way it's about giving people back some dignity in very difficult circumstances.

HardlyEverHoovers Sun 23-Sep-12 06:58:37

The food bank sounds fantastic.

stressedHEmum Sun 23-Sep-12 09:18:46

They are, Hardly. I've been trying to get one set up in our church for about 2 1/2 years sad and was kind of hitting my head off a wall. Thankfully, another church a few miles away decided to start an official one about 6 months ago and I've been involved in that since the start. Now my own church is opening what's called a distribution centre, which is like an off shoot of the main bank.

I am so happy and thankful that God has finally moved the hearts of my Kirk Session to take part in this because we live in an area that is right at the top of Scotland's multiple deprivation index and where almost 30% of working age people are unemployed. So the need here is very great. I also feel very blessed to be involved in this and some other projects that local churches are starting up here. I actually feel that God's Spirit is at work here now in a way that He hasn't been for ages. (I know how pious and sickening that sounds, sorry).

crescentmoon Sun 23-Sep-12 16:11:33

no not pious or sickening stressed. i think that its great to find people of faith from whatever background. i admire the good acts that you are doing, i hope that i will join you in something like that where i live. its so sad that its required but knowing that there are people devoted to acts of helping their fellow man really makes you have hope that the Big Society is not just a gimmick.

today im grateful that...

after leaving my phone - that DS2 had held under a running tap! - in a bowl of dried rice for 2 days it now works very well. granted i have to use headphones to listen, but its very minor compared to a completely broken phone!

i have access to medication and information in managing ds1's asthma - the 'coughing' season has begun!

Salbertina Sun 23-Sep-12 16:23:37

That's good!

1. I'm so grateful that I received an incredibly thoughtful, appropriate v carefully chosen card from a good friend (although misdirected via Kenya for some reason!)

2. It's cold & rainy but warm inside
3. I've just baked a lovely low carb cheesecake for everyone

stressedHEmum Sun 23-Sep-12 16:33:48

Ah, coughing season, I know it well. Hope your DD doesn't suffer too badly this year.

Today, I am grateful for

Another dry day, for washing purposes and for the fresh air the children can get.
Living in a country where I am free to go to church and worship without fear of persecution
Having a DH who is prepared to work 7 days a week so that we can keep a roof over our heads.
5 minutes quiet for a cup of fruit tea and some bible reading while the kids are out.

headinhands Sun 23-Sep-12 20:14:03

1. We had 11 round the dinner table today. I like gatherings over food and wine.
2 All set for tomorrow so no ironing to do in the morning.
3. Have been finding something funny all day and have laughed lots!

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sun 23-Sep-12 20:21:15

May I join you?

I really need to do something like this, I tried having a gratitude journal to write in but I didn't keep it up.

1) I am grateful for this thread, timing is perfect
2) I am grateful that we have had a good weekend for DS2's birthday, after a week of sleepless nights worrying about it.
3) I am grateful that I have fabulous inlaws
4) I am grateful for my wonderful sister who helped all day Saturday at the party.
I am grateful for my children who remind me why it is important to wake up each morning.

MagicalWonderMutt Sun 23-Sep-12 20:41:48

I am grateful for a lazy lie in with a gorgeous DS to bring me coffee in bed
I am grateful that my DH still makes me laugh after 23 years
I am grateful for a beautiful walk in the autumn sun with my little family
I am grateful for the food on my table

.... Mostly, I am just grateful........

Salbertina Tue 25-Sep-12 07:27:33

Lovely walk w dh
Sun was shining
Wine good!

Today so far-
Sun shining
Easyish day ahead -thank God, as knackered
Can hear mainly birdsong from home right now

crescentmoon Tue 25-Sep-12 08:24:52

hey salbertina, neverknowingly understood, magical wondermutt. keep posting as often as you can no matter how small those gratitudes are!

yesterday - got to school on time
remembered my rainmac so didnt get drenched,
my parents were very happy with me yesterday im grateful theyre still alive i have a chance to do things for them
accomplished lots of errands i normally would have left to DH
had guests in evening i only had short notice for!

today -

WE ARE READY! i took a leaf out of headinhandss sunday gratitudes and for the first time ever, got lunch and clothes ready in the evening. so this morning has ben very relaxed so far!

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 25-Sep-12 12:34:40

Hi ladies
I am grateful that yesterday the vets could see our lovely old saggy cat at short notice.
I am grateful that football was cancelled due to rain
I am grateful for the lovely bath with DS2 whilst DS1 was at cubs.

I am grateful for the shining sun,
I am grateful for support of friends

stressedHEmum Tue 25-Sep-12 13:19:04

Yesterday I was grateful that

DS2 was on holiday from college so that I could stay in bed (ME quite bad at the moment)
It stayed dry long enough for me to dry some washing
The children all liked what I made for dinner
We have a roof over our heads and food for our stomachs

Today, so far, I am grateful that

I don't feel quite as bad today as I did yesterday
I have nowhere to go today, so we can all stay warm and dry in the house
My good friends feel that they can confide in my during the difficult times that they are facing
My faith strengthens me to face each day without fear and helps me cope with the difficulties we have.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 25-Sep-12 21:08:39

I am also grateful that I did not expire during my panic at the PTA AGM this evening.

demisemiquaver Tue 25-Sep-12 22:44:47

OP this is a lovely thread!!

Salbertina Wed 26-Sep-12 08:24:17


Mine so far today:

Managed to order nice gift for friend
Dc off on lovely school walk to beach
Time to myself today to regroup, do admin & chores

crescentmoon Wed 26-Sep-12 10:00:36

hello dear demisemiquaver, why not join in? there are lots of benefits to daily gratitude, found a simple list here onzenhabits.net

short copy/paste from the site...

the benefits of daily gratitudes...

Because it reminds you of the positive things in your life. It makes you happy about the people in your life, whether they’re loved ones or just a stranger you met who was kind to you in some ways.
Because it turns bad things into good things. Having problems at work? Be grateful you have work. Be grateful you have challenges, and that life isn’t boring. Be grateful that you can learn from these challenges. Be thankful they make you a stronger person.
Because it reminds you of what’s important. It’s hard to complain about the little things when you give thanks that your children are alive and healthy. It’s hard to get stressed out over paying bills when you are grateful there is a roof over your head.
Because it reminds you to thank others. I’ll talk about this more below, but the simple act of saying “thank you” to someone can make a big difference in that person’s life. Calling them, emailing them, stopping by to say thank you … just taking that minute out of your life to tell them why you are grateful toward them is important to them. People like being appreciated for who they are and what they do. It costs you little, but makes someone else happy. And making someone else happy will make you happy.

Ragwort Wed 26-Sep-12 10:08:13

Just found this lovely thread smile.

crescent - good luck setting up your food bank; it's a wonderful project. I moved about 18 months ago and one of the first things I did was to help et up the new food bank in our town, it was great to be involved in such inspiring work and also a lovely opportunity to make like minded friends.

This weekend we are spending the whole day in a local supermarket, hopefully collecting lots of donations from shoppers.

I am so grateful for good friends, a comfortable home, my son enjoying school more ......... and my headaches clearing after two whole weeks !

crescentmoon Wed 26-Sep-12 11:23:56

i am sorry stressedHEmum that your ME was bad yesterday, i had to look it up as i didnt know about the condition. I hope you are better today.

today i am grateful that...

1) i tried a new very simple dinner last night - just pasta, philadelphia cheese, tuna and tomato sauce - and DH and the kids loved it.
2) discovered you can buy crispy onions. so now along with minced ginger and minced garlic, cooking is no longer the chore it used to be!
3) i got some great news about one of my relatives this morning - i couldnt stop jumping and laughing through the conversation.
4) everyday i spend with my children i marvel at how my mother managed to bring me up so lovingly for so many years. i cant pay her back but i can pay it forward to the next generation.

crescentmoon Wed 26-Sep-12 11:32:28

no its stressedHEmum thats setting up a food bank, im going to try and get involved in a local one here!

i have cooked for the homeless before, wrapped sandwiches, made large pots of rice and curry, but always in my home and someone would come to take the food to a shelter. but those few occasions i have only done as a religious expiation for breaking a rule - and muslims will know which sins require feeding the poor as expiation! but iv never got involved in a food bank. never knew they existed until this summer when i read about them.

stressedHEmum Wed 26-Sep-12 12:14:24

Crescent, thank you. I'm trying to rest as much as I can for the next couple of days because I have a busy weekend. I'm a BB leader and have that tomorrow night, then I'm organising family BBQ night for the Church on Friday and I have BB and church commitments Saturday and Sunday, so doubtless next week will be a washout. it's just another wee challenge to have to deal with.

So today I am grateful for
the fact that I could rest yesterday and today to prepare for the weekend.
the sun and wind today that will dry my washing
getting to this time today without DS3 and DD (teens) coming to blows
cuddles from DS4(9) in the morning
39p brocolli in Aldi for my guinea pigs because they love it and it's normally too expensive.

HardlyEverHoovers Wed 26-Sep-12 20:03:18

Been away for a while, Stressed, I echo Crescents thoughts, not sickening, quite the opposite.
Today I am grateful for:
health, brought into sharp focus by a good friend being diagnosed with a serious illness
faith, that will God willing get my friend and her loved ones through the above

Salbertina Thu 27-Sep-12 07:57:25

Sorry to hear about yr friend sad

Ok, today so far- sun shining again in between rain clouds

Made lovely stir fry for everyone, look forward to later

Donating new clothes to our gardeners family

crescentmoon Thu 27-Sep-12 08:21:38

salams Hardly, hey salbertina,

today im grateful that...

1) we were all ready in our going out clothes this morning by 8am. i am so proud of the children.

2) inspired by your last point salbertina im going to take the 20 or so unwanted books in our house the charity shop this morning. half of them i bought from the charity shop anyway so am now returning for someone else to enjoy!

3) dd1 is such a cheerful girl and it spreads to all of us - i hope that she always has that effect on people.

4) a dear friend is moving with her family to my city in a couple of months, im so excited.

5) today i finally get my payout from a savings scheme i have been in for the past year and im so excited. its the first time iv done it with this group of people and we already have plans to restart straight after it ends.

Salbertina Thu 27-Sep-12 08:46:59

Like your number 3!
Well, you've reminded me am off to library later and can donate lots of books to them also ( in Africa, not Uk local gov cutbacks!)

stressedHEmum Thu 27-Sep-12 08:53:43

Today, so far, I am grateful for

22 years with my fabulous DS1 (it's his birthday today)

the university scholarship that means that he is now in 5th year at his uni of choice, a thing which we could never have afforded without it

the fact that he has made such a success of being there and livng independently even though he has AS

sunshine between the showers

being a BB leader and having the chance to have a positive effect on the lives of lots of little boys (am celebrating harvest with 6-10 year olds tonight)

crescentmoon Thu 27-Sep-12 10:50:28

Just reading the thread on ME in Aibu. Im grateful I woke up this morning in good health. It doesn't mean il wake up tomorrow with good health. I hope that your friend has access to the best care and support dear hardly. May we not be tested with anything more than we have strength to bear.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Thu 27-Sep-12 22:15:07

Hi everyone,
I am once again grateful for this thread.
So grateful for school helping us with some challenges
Grateful that DH managed to join me for parents evening, his support is so vital.
I am grateful that I have the time to spend in school helping, hearing a few of the little ones read and make such progress is magical.
I am grateful that antibiotcs work quickly when they are needed.

I am grateful that I have a comfy bed to go to.

Salbertina Thu 27-Sep-12 22:22:06

Wish there was a like button for those, Never smile

stressedHEmum Fri 28-Sep-12 22:01:56

Today I am grateful -

that the family BBQ that I was organising for the church was a roaring success. We had at least 90 people, mainly young families from the community. It was fabulous.

for the help that my BB boys gave . setting up the marquee, running the disco and manning the tuck shop.

for the dry weather that helped people to come.

for my children, who helped out all over the place.

that tomorrow is Saturday and I don't have anywhere to go because I feel like I've just gone 10 rounds with Mike Tyson.

Salbertina Sat 29-Sep-12 07:28:58

Hope no rounds s Tyson today!

Am grateful not to have been around in ww2 Germany ESP as a Jew- just been watching "Good"

It's sat

Had fun night out last night

crescentmoon Sat 29-Sep-12 09:22:59

today im grateful that,

1) agree with your second one salbertina,

2) im healthy, woke up this morning no aches, no pains, in control of my limbs and my senses,

3) ds 1 slept through the whole of last night without coughing, first time in a week,

4) children are enjoying their new school - im not going to think about if we might move next year just enjoying our life day to day,

5) my new tumble drier is finally arriving this morning after being ordered 3 weeks ago - i am grateful i no longer have to watch out for the weather!

6) im grateful i have a fishmongers round the corner for when i cant get to the butchers

yesterdays gratitudes...

got to school on time,
went out for coffee after drop off with a couple of other mums,
enjoyed watching ds2 playing with other children rather than around other children,
came back to a clean house,
got an email back with reasonable price quotations so we can afford to go for a larger package.
went to bed with small worries and no grudges

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 29-Sep-12 09:40:18

I am today grateful for my lovely husband,
I am grateful to the parents who have put themselves forward to run the football league in the village for the children
I am grateful that the sun is shining and I can dry some washing.

I am also grateful that we got a doub;e up of gifts at last week's birthday. It means I have a gift for a childs party this afternoon.

HardlyEverHoovers Sat 29-Sep-12 20:57:28

So enjoy reading these. My gratitudes for today are:
That DS was generous enough to offer me some of his chocolate bar, even though he was really enjoying it smile
That we have a great sisterhood where I live and are all able to support my ill friend, the same sisterhood that cooked for me for 2 weeks after I gave birth
That God gave me the courage and great advice from MNers wink, to challenge some things in my marriage, and 2 months later, it's so much better

crescentmoon Sat 29-Sep-12 22:45:44

Woohoo mashaallah hardly, I'm very pleased to hear that! I'm off to bed but that is on my list of today's gratitudes now.

stressedHEmum Sun 30-Sep-12 14:22:45

Hardly, I am really glad that things have improved for you.

today I am grateful

for the church service that allows me to spend time with God and to focus on things outside myself
for the Sunday School leaders who work hard to lead our children into faith
for the bag pack that my DD is doing in Asda today with the Girls' Brigade. This will help fund the company activities for the rest of the year
for the fact that we can live in safety and security, without threat of war or oppression

crescentmoon Mon 01-Oct-12 10:12:20

yesterday's gratitudes...

1) woke up in full health, children were well and DH up before me!
2) had a lovely day visiting old friends up north - we had talked about it for a long time and finally decided to meet on Sunday.
3) DH took a rare day off all work to look after the children so i could head off early on my own - literally!
4) train was on time, fast, convenient and reliable, - i enjoyed reading my book and looking out at the scenery without having to worry about anything.
5) got back home late but the journey was safe, i never felt threatened about my personal security, got a cab quickly and DH waited up for me at home.
6) the children were still alive!

today's gratitudes...

1) got to school on time
2) new drier in place and working well - one less thing to worry about this winter.
3) had a yummy hot croissant for breakfast this morning, sweet cardamom tea and a pastry - i am blessed!

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Mon 01-Oct-12 11:37:27

sounds like lovely "you time" CM

Today I am grateful for good friends
I am grateful for the bond I have with my sister
I am grateful that I managed to get through my first Bootcamp without an ambulance being required!
I am also grateful that I have nothing required of me until pick up so I can recover smile

crescentmoon Tue 02-Oct-12 08:03:28


1) i am grateful for the bond with my sisters too, we used to fight like anything when we all lived at home but now call each other every day. of all the things in my life that i didnt expect, that was one of the unlikeliest!

2) i am grateful i read the word bootcamp on this thread to remind myself to get back into exercise!

3) woke up in good health so that should be my lovely start to the day. i should not take that for granted that i will wake up tomorrow with the same start!

4) i have had a lovely period these last two weeks of balancing dh's and my parents interests. who should my loyalty go to first has often conflicted me for a long time and i think iv cracked the balance now.

stressedHEmum Tue 02-Oct-12 09:28:31

yesterday I was grateful...

that I didn't have anywhere to go and was able to rest a bit
that my Dh got an unexpected couple of hours overtime
that I had the food in the house to make an easy pan of lovely spiced carrot soup for tea, which didn't take much effort
that my teenagers were able to curb their fighting enough to let me get some sleep

today so far, I am grateful...

that yesterday is over and I don't feel quite so bad today
that DS2 has a day off college, so he might be able to help a little
that the sun is shining at the moment
that I have a lovely hot cup of blackcurrant tea to take my meds with.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 02-Oct-12 11:20:12

Hmm Blackcurrant tea sounds delicious!

I am grateful that the weather is gorgeous, the sun is shining and everything just looks so happy, the leaves are dancing on the trees and from where I am I can see a butterfly.
I am grateful that I made it through another bootcamp without injury 2 down 10 to go!
I am very grateful that I have clean water to go and bathe in to soothe the soul and muscles.

crescentmoon Wed 03-Oct-12 10:35:11

today's gratitudes...

1) walked to school in the sunshine with my children - unhurriedly because we were able to leave early.
2) i still have ds2 with me during the day, it will be strange without my little buddy when he starts school soon.
3) iv been reading a book over the past two days on early 20th century Russia.sometimes the descriptions of the poverty and desititution made my eyes teary. im grateful i didnt have to live and fight through such times.
4) after reading that 80% of humanity live on less than $10 a day i realised i am actually wealthy. i have to train my eye and my mind to consider that always.

stressedHEmum Wed 03-Oct-12 10:47:11

I know what you mean about the last one, crescent. I work with Christian Aid in a voluntary capacity and this is something that I am always trying to drive home to my children. if you have any money at all in your pocket or in the bank, even if it is only a few pence, you are amongst the richest 8% of people in the world.

I am very grateful that however bad things seem, I am amongst that 8%.
I am grateful for a little quiet this morning
I am grateful for hot, running water so that I can go for a bath in a few minutes
I am grateful that all my children are safe and well
I am grateful that m husband has a job and that he mostly enjoys it

crescentmoon Thu 04-Oct-12 17:12:53

Salams (peace) all, hope more find time to post,

Today iv had a trying day So I'm going to be grateful for the little things...

Kids are well,
DH is well
Parents are well,
Siblings are well,
Nephews nieces are well,
Cousins are well,
And I am well but tired.god willing it will be better tomorrow and il wake up with the patience of Job! Really appreciated your posts on the thee tread btw stressed hope you and everyone else is well today.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Thu 04-Oct-12 21:21:44

Hello everyone.
This evening I am very grateful for my freezer.
I am grateful for Jesus's help with a problem I had earlier
I am ever grateful that I have my children safe and well with me, here at our home.
I am grateful for the internet allowing me to plan alot of work from the comfort of my sittingroom

stressedHEmum Fri 05-Oct-12 08:19:06

Yesterday I was grateful

for my friend who was able to take me shopping in her car for baking stuff for Christian Aid and for Harvest
for the sunshine that dried my washing after so much rain
for the senior boys who were able to come along and help me at BB last night
for my children all being safe and well
for the progress that another friend in making in recovering from a huge op to treat her cancer

crescentmoon Fri 05-Oct-12 16:11:11

today im grateful that:

though i left home without keys thankfully back door was unlocked!
no burglars in my house even though the back door was unlocked!
ds1 didnt cough to much last night and today went to and from school without coughing
all my children are very generous, even 2 year old ds2 gets remarked on. im so grateful that quality is in them and i hope they are never afraid to be giving.
dh is enjoying his new job, he's happy where he is and we are happy where we are.

crescentmoon Fri 05-Oct-12 16:12:47

(though im grateful the children are so positive about new places i really hope we don't have to move again for another job)

stressedHEmum Sat 06-Oct-12 17:58:16

Today, I am grateful that -

DS1 arrived home safely from uni for the weekend
a friend was able to take me shopping for the Harvest lunch today
I got my baking for the Christian Aid coffee morning done and the sandwiches and cakes for the Harvest made
the sun has been shining to dry my washing
that my recently separated friend has found joy in a new puppy
that DS4 took part in his first BB competition today without any trauma (and won a bronze medalgrin)

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 06-Oct-12 21:02:57

today I am grateful that DH and I have a strong enough relationship to weather disagreeing with each other!
I am so grateful that the weather was gorgeous
I am grateful to Lindy Smith for her perfect chocolate cake recipe
I am grateful for the skills I have been taught in 3 years of therapy allowing me to sit with the children and DH and talk about how it is ok to disagree and still love each other

crescentmoon Sun 07-Oct-12 11:24:51

yesterday's gratitudes:

i have lovely people who look after my children when DH is not around,
i have found an excellent religious teacher - i feel my faith flowering and unfurling,
i am grateful that my children have lots of aunts and uncles from both sides who give them alot of love and gifts - i didnt have that growing up,
after talking with a friend about her troubles i am grateful i have the husband i have.i couldnt have stayed married to a stingy man and a stingy man could never have stayed married to me!

today's gratitudes:

children are well,
i weighed myself and have lost 1kilo , i am happy as that is 2 bags of 500g new potatoes,
my parents are well, my in laws are well,
im grateful today is going to be a sunny day

stressedHEmum Mon 08-Oct-12 09:12:06

yesterday's gratitudes -

I am very grateful that the Harvest lunch which I was organising went really, really well
I am grateful that about 1/2 of my BB boys turned out for Harvest Thanksgiving and behaved so well in church
I am very grateful that the food bank received so many donations at the Harvest service, far more than I had thought we would get from so small a congregation
I am grateful for the sunshine to dry my washing and to let the kids out for some fresh air
I am grateful that we have food on the table, unlimited clean water and a roof over our heads when so many are lacking even these.

crescentmoon Tue 09-Oct-12 11:01:57

today's gratitudes...

left home very late but still got to school on time - or rather, school started late today!
my children are healthy, i thanked God they were born that way but i should be thankful for everyday of good health they have.
sun is shining
stood outside talking to my neighbour about small inconsequential things but glad for that human connection
house is clean and tidy, i can just concentrate on running errands outside

yesterday's gratitudes...

health - the crown on my head that i wear all the time without noticing
wealth - i have enough to live on and feed my children so that is a great wealth,
security - i can walk in the streets in safety fearing nothing but potholes in the pavement
love and family

stressedHEmum Tue 09-Oct-12 11:19:37

yesterday I was grateful -

for time spent with my family
for a food item given to me by my mother which meant that I didn't have to cook yesterday because I was pretty unwell
for the weekend that DS1 was able to spend at home
that I was around to have a chat with a friend who had just received some bad news from her doctor
for sunshine to dry my washing (recurring theme)

Today, so far, I am grateful -

that DS1 got safely away back to uni this morning
that the sun is shining for more washing (it never ends)
for a hot bath to try and ease some of my discomfort
for medication that means that even though I feel bad, I'm not as bad as I was previously.
for free prescriptions in Scotland because without them I wouldn't be able to afford all my meds.

Poledra Tue 09-Oct-12 11:31:45

What a lovely thread! I'd like to try this. Today I am grateful for:

The sunshine
The fact that my children are all safe and well (something which has been in mind a lot with the recent events in Wales)
For my childminder, who looks after my DCs so well that I can happily go off to work knowing that she will love and care for them in the meantime
That DH was able to take the time off to study for his OU exam
That tonight's tea is already made and waiting to be heated up when I go home tonight
For the lovely women who run my DD1's Brownie pack, to which she will head off tonight with a smile on her face and return absolutely buzzing (that brownie pack was a lifeline when she was unhappy in school last year, it was a really 'safe' place for her)
For the glowing reports I got for the girls from their teachers at Parents' Evening last week, not just academically but their attitudes to school and other people.

Thank you for reminding how much I have in life.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 09-Oct-12 21:31:09

Today I am grateful that I managed to fit everything in.
Each of the elements of the day slotted together well.
I am grateful for the view over the field as I was leaving the village this morning. The mist rising over newly turned soil looked so spectacular, it had to have been given by God.
I am grateful that I live in a village with families who have enough means to support the school community, allowing us to provide for those children with fewer opportunities.
I am grateful for my blossoming relationship with DS1 it has never been an easy one but he seems more at ease with my love.

crescentmoon Wed 10-Oct-12 19:56:47

peace all,

i really want to start asking you about your days soon so i should leave more time to contribute to these threads. i worried before if there was too much commentary then people would be less likely to post over time so had thought to keep it to just individual gratitudes only!

today i am grateful for...

central heating
childrens cartoons

(all 3 of my children are ill with a bad cold today. its the little things)

Poledra Wed 10-Oct-12 20:31:08

I am ashamed of my gratitude today. I found out that a professional acquaintance who is only slightly older than me has ovarian cancer. I am devastated for her, and selfishly grateful that it is not me.

Not really in the spirit of the thread, I think. Sorry.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 10-Oct-12 21:58:34

Oh Poledra, please don't give yoursef a hard time.
You are being grateful for your own health, you are not having positive thoughts about someone else's illness.
Be kind to yourself!

Poledra Wed 10-Oct-12 22:44:27

Thank you, Never - you are right, it is gratitude for my own health, and you have made me feel so much better about it.

I am so heart-sorry for my acquaintance; although I don't know her terribly well, everything I knew about her I liked and she is someone I would like to know better. Can I ask for people to pray for her?

Screaminabdabs Wed 10-Oct-12 22:53:50

Great thread - mind if I join? smile

Today it's:

the dog is a sweetie
I have an improving relationship with ds
I am succeeding in my attempts to be more assertive with the dc

And a little prayer for Poledra's acquaintance. smile

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Thu 11-Oct-12 18:25:50

evening all,
I am today very grateful for the skills I have developed.
I am grateful for the ability to prioritise and not feel guilty
I am grateful for our local shop being well stocked and not over priced
Most of all, I am totally grateful for the amazing children DH and I have, we have been together 10 years tomorrow and luckily we found each other... for that too I am very grateful.
I am also grateful that we live close enough to the coast that we can go for the weekend. Beaches in Norfolk are the best in the world.

crescentmoon Thu 11-Oct-12 18:29:39

hello poledra, i agree with neverknowingly that gratitude for ones own health is good, you are not rejoicing at your colleague's ill health. i prayed for her today, i hope you will keep us posted how she is.

hello *screaminabdabs, hope that you post today. and that more join in this thread! your another one here who has a dog like *never. i am very uneasy/afraid of all animals especially dogs. its a silly fear which iv tried very hard not to pass onto the DC even though my heart sinks when they walk upto pet them. thankfully they are desperate for a cat but know that its only when iv worked up the courage we finally settle down!
truly one of my gratitudes recently was that they had finally stopped pestering me about a kitten my SIL had promised as a gift to them.

today's gratitudes...

dc are better and the coughing orchestra has now become a coughing chorus! (God willing they will go to school tomorrow!)
my GP is a very compassionate and responsive doctor (may Allah bless the NHS),
my siblings and i are all getting on well with each other - rare state of affairs between the lot of us!
my cousins new baby is thriving and well and beautiful,
iv been very lazy in worship this year week but today i got back to basics,
this morning i managed to catch a spider under a cup - thus it was saved from my evil and i was saved from its evil!

Poledra Thu 11-Oct-12 21:21:50

Thank you, crescent, and tnak you for praying for my colleague.

Today's gratitudes:
I finally resolved an ongoing issue at work with one of my projects
DH had an exam for the OU, and he thinks it went well
As DH has now done the exam, he will not be revising every spare minute of the evening, and he will have time for the DCs and me
It's Thursday evening, and I do not work Fridays so it's the weekend!

Screaminabdabs Fri 12-Oct-12 00:30:51

The sky at 7am today (Thurs) was so beautiful
I had a lovely sociable lunch with friends
My cold is a lot better and I can breathe


NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Fri 12-Oct-12 11:49:40

today I am grateful for 10 years of marriage to my wonderful husband.
I am grateful for hot water to shower in
and grateful that the sun is shining as we prepare for a weekend away.

stressedHEmum Fri 12-Oct-12 12:41:46

Poledra, I have said a little prayer for your friend and for you. Feeling grateful for your own health is not the same as rejoicing in someone else's ill health.

Screamin, it's good that you are feeling better and that Crescent's kids are also recovering. it's rubbish when you feel ill. I think that we all take out health for granted and then we get a bit of a shock when it fails a bit.

NKU, have a fab weekend. I hope that the weather stays fine for you.

Yesterdays gratitudes -
I am grateful that I got through the day without having to go back to bed (first time for a few weeks, really)
I am grateful that my BB's all enjoyed their evening last night and for the help of the 2 Staff Sergeants who helped out so very much.
I am grateful that Wednesday's Board and Session meetings at the church didn't go too badly and didn't put me back in bed like they usually do.
I am grateful for my husband and my children and the simple pleasures that being with them brings

Today -

I am grateful for the people who developed my pain killers (paying the price for the last couple of days)
I am grateful that we have a warm house to hide in during this terrible weather
I am grateful for this thread for helping me to see the positives in my life
I am grateful that I am able to donate something, even if it is only small, to the Christmas Appeal to help cheer someone up at what can be a difficult time.

Poledra Fri 12-Oct-12 22:26:34

Evening all. Thanks for your prayers for my colleague. stressed, glad you're feeling a bit better today. Never, happy wedding anniversary. DH and I celebrated our tenth anniversary in April this year - 2002 was a good year to get married smile

Today's gratitudes:

I'm grateful for a lovely sunny, windy autumn day and 2 loads of dried washing
For a lovely couple of hours after school at a friend's house where the children all played really well together while my friend and I drank coffee and gassed!
For the sheer delight on my 6 yo's face when I came into the school hall for an event her class were doing (she knew I was coming but still looked so thrilled!)

Here's to a lovely weekend for all of us, and much to be grateful for.

crescentmoon Fri 12-Oct-12 23:35:11

Salams (peace) all,

neverknowingly I am so happy for you that today is your anniversary and I hope that you have a wonderful weekend. I also pray to one day say im celebrating my tenth anniversary like poledra and you have! IDH and I are happier and 'fit' better now in our 8th year than in our 1st year and I hope I can enjoy us 2 years from now even more! Loke your dh poledra mine also has to study alot at home and rarely gets to take his mind off. There's a race in his field to publish in as many academic journals as possible but I help him more with his master's coursework assignments and leave the research to him. It's a drag though I hope you really enjoy your weekend with all your family.

Today's gratitudes:

Ds1 and dd got on relatively ok at school
DH came home early this afternoon- 6pm- which was very nice for dc and me
I'm grateful I have my health, a strong back and strong limbs-I did nothing to deserve them,
Ds2 sleeping in own cot instead of Across my stomach,
My hope today was renewed on learning a good friend and her DH had managed to save enough deposit for a sharia compliant mortgage without any parental help- it came at just the right time.

Screaminabdabs Sun 14-Oct-12 00:24:48

The autumn sky


stressedHEmum Mon 15-Oct-12 08:46:30

dry weather (washing)
hot fruit tea
pain killers
helpful children
all the wee birds singing outside

can't type much, today. Sorry, not that great.

crescentmoon Mon 15-Oct-12 18:02:15

I am sorry stressed that you are Having a difficult day, please go easy b yourself. I'm happy your children are hapy and are not causing strain.

Today I am grateful for:


Yesterday's gratitudes:

All the ingredients to a lovely family day out:
Sun shone all day
Children behaved beautifully
Smooth journey there and back
Lovely things to do and see

Going through very difficult times often makes it hard to refocus my thinking. If nobody minds, I will join you as I need to remember what makes my life good. So much of it is hard sad.

For yesterday:

I am grateful for my lovely children.
I am grateful for my lovely husband.
I am grateful for the rather fantastic gingerbread men that DS and DH made at the weekend. (I am guessing the scales at Slimming World will not be as grateful, but they were needed and appreciated.)
I am grateful that my new boss was kind to me yesterday.

crescentmoon Tue 16-Oct-12 08:08:07

let me be the first to welcome you ghoulish. congratulations on your new boss. i also recently joined slimming world - its made me think differently about a lb lost here and there.

gratitudes so far this morning...

i got to sleep in abit later this morning,
i started a new book last night thats pretty good,
DH has got some locum work this weekend - means we can splurge for Eid ul Adha next week,
the more the dc grow the more i am enjoying being a mum - im so glad the baby years are behind us now!

Screaminabdabs Tue 16-Oct-12 21:01:01

Coriander! I love it! And it is so good for us, Crescentmoon. smile

Our small pond with all that lives within it
Dh helping ds with his maths smile
My friend Tara, who has helped me with difficult stuff

My crochet squares - I learned in summer and I love the pile of them that is gathering
Making stuffed jacket potatoes for tea using the same recipe I used to get my Guides cooking badge many, many years ago
That my DD felt well, in spite of waking up in the night and panicking me (illness is usually a slippery slope that results in hospital stays) and she looks much brighter

Thanks Crescent. My new boss is new to us - I still work in the same place. I am just grateful that at the moment he seems kind. I need kinder people around me.

stressedHEmum Wed 17-Oct-12 09:04:00

Glad things are going well with you boss goulish and that your DD seems to be all right. Hope everyone is OK and having a good few days.

Today I am grateful

that this week is a holiday week here, so there is no pressure to be anywhere
that, just for once, I have a week without meetings/groups so that I can stay in and rest in the evenings
that yesterday referral services started signing up for the food bank
that DS2, who has AS, has taken on extra volunteering during the holiday
for my friends who try so hard to understand how I am feeling
for the fact that my heating had its annual gas safety check yesterday and passed for another year
that I have a stockpile of food like dried beans, rice, stock cubes, flour, tinned fish and tinned fruit and veg because we have had a massive drop in income and don't really have much money for food atm.
for everything that I do have because it is so much more than I really need.

Thank you stressed.

Yesterday I was grateful for:

My DD (14) cooking her first meal at home (she wanted to; she has ASC and leukaemia so she doesn't do very much but she suddenly decided she wanted to cook. I had to switch off my mum head as she is poor at concentrating, but she did a fantastic job and roasted vegetable pasta bake was enjoyed by all!! grin).
That my boss had once again helped me by doing some of the things I was supposed to go back and do. It took so much pressure off me when I was so stressed and worried about going back in.
For the lovely social club that has started at school that gives DD something a bit different to do on a Weds evening. She had a lovely time.
For my DS coming in and snuggling on the sofa with me whilst DD cooked.

A nice day with lots to be happy for. smile

stressedHEmum Fri 19-Oct-12 09:05:00

I am very grateful

for homemade broth
for a decent night's sleep
for all the lovely people at the church who were able to sponsor DS3 for his fundraising hike through the Cairngorms this weekend
for all DS4's night-night hugs and kisses before he took himself voluntarily off to his own bed for the first time ever (he is almost 10). I love a good kiss and cuddle with my kids and the rest of them think that they are far too big.

crescentmoon Fri 19-Oct-12 11:25:47

hello screamin - i love herbs so much, im grateful i live in a world with them. if i cook a simple meal the herb i use to garnish them changes the whole taste/ flavour and i didnt know the benefits of coriander after i saw your post!

dear kinky i really rate you on looking for the positives of life with what your family are dealing with. may you and your dd both be a cause of strength for each other.

i started this because i was feeling stuck/fed up about a few things in my life and wanted to look for the small blessings/happinesses in each day. recording and then reading your gratitudes has made me reflect alot.

today's gratitudes:

this summer was my 6th move in 8 years because of DHs job and it has made me vulnerable and reliant on the mercy of others in a way i never expected.

when i lived among my family and the friends id known since birth i used to be so weary of 'our' tradition of extreme hospitality and of the sense of entitlement some had to 'guest' rights. i used to say 'this is too much' and complain about constant social visiting and entertaining. i thought it was old fashioned and impractical, that life was too busy and nobody had time to do all that.

then i got married and started a 'nomadic' life. and i myself came to be so grateful that so many muslims practise the sunnah (prophet pbuh's tradition) of hospitality.

i am so grateful that i can almost feel 'entitled' to it, that its part of the duties of brotherhood and every time we have moved we have always met hospitable welcoming families who take our family under their wing and introduce us to the rest of the community. if i didnt have that sisterhood to tap into i would be very lonely and depressed.

it is very informal, never organised. but i have come to be so grateful for the countless times we have been invited to peoples homes for dinner, then their friends who dont know us invite us, we get called for community events by people who do not know us, our dc are involved with the local play days. iv been given neighbour rights, guest rights, newcomer rights, im so grateful that people still observe these traditions, and i love and pray for the prophet (pbuh) who made it a part of our tradition. it really lessens the feeling of starting all over again we have each time we move and the feelings of being anonymous. we've been here less than 2 months and have received so many gestures of welcome its overwhelmed us. and its made me resolve to show that hand of welcome to others when we settle - but im not at that stage yet and so still reliant on the kindness of others!

yesterday's gratitudes:

parents are well.
ds2 finally shook off the last of the chest infection.
dc's teachers like them and told me they are settling in very well at parents evening.
younger brother is calling me regularly - iv got over the surprise that theres no catch!
my bils are good son in laws and husbands - im grateful my sisters dont have to deal with difficult in laws....!

Screaminabdabs Fri 19-Oct-12 20:20:40

Ds' new friend has a lovely Scottish accent and likes to talk to me
The dog's ginger hair goes all curly in the rain
The deer were lovely in the park and I didn't lose my grip on the dog's lead (a terrifying prospect)

Poledra Fri 19-Oct-12 23:12:38

Been slacking a bit on this, but that means I have a lot to be thankful for. So, I am grateful that:

the important business meeting on Thursday went well
the two friends DDs 1 and 2 had asked over after school today were such lovely girls, and that they seemed to enjoy their tea!
after a very wet walk to deliver the friends back home, dry clothes (PJs for the children) and hot chocolate!

Today I delivered a pram, pushchair and some winter baby clothes to a womens' refuge. This has made me grateful for my wealth, comfortable home, caring DH and family. They were so grateful to me as they have a woman in the refuge with a newborn, and they said the pram would perfect for her. I am so very grateful that the births of each of our children were nothing but a joy for us, and a time when our family (me, DH, our parents, siblings etc) and friends came together to celebrate and help the new parents and show our new baby how much they were loved. I am grateful for being able to give some material help to someone who does not have that sort of family around them.
And, on a more frivolous note, I am grateful to have got back the space the pram was taking up in my kitchen!

crescentmoon Sat 20-Oct-12 17:12:53

ha at terrifying prospect of losing your hold on the dog's lead screamin. im sure you've probably seen fentonn in action!

glad your back poledra. the only thing i enjoy about walking in the rain is arriving home and changing into warm dry clothes too!

today's gratitudes...

i am grateful that when ds2 vomited all his breakfast up this morning at least he was still in his PJS, and in the dining room, and it was on the wooden floor not the rug (trying to see the positives in it!),
i am grateful that when he was done, he toddled off happily and has been playing with older siblings all day with no other problems,
i am grateful that i was at home to receive a rare phone call from my cousin,
i am grateful for oranges, and bananas, and mangos, and watermelon (iv been dreaming of mangos and watermelons but the best ones are only in the season, which is over till next year!)
i am grateful that this week is half term! i am soooo grateful this week is half term.

stressedHEmum Mon 22-Oct-12 09:00:50

I am very grateful that my DS4 )and all the other boys) returned unharmed last night from their 2 day hike through the Cairngorms. The mountains can be very treacherous and I was a bit worried.

I am grateful for another dry day to try to catch up with some washing.

I am grateful that my DH hung some washing out for me yesterday when I wasn't able to do it myself.

I am grateful that I had the 1st Aid knowledge and was able to be calm enough to deal with DS4's injury when he impaled his foot on one of my sock knitting needles and that it hasn't developed any kind of infection. (The needle sank about 2 inches into the side of his foot and he is hopping about refusing to put his foot on the floor.)

I am grateful that DD was able to come and help me get the church flowers on Saturday when I couldn't have gone by myself, even if she did keep making comments like "I think we should get you a wheelchair, mum shock

I am grateful for the sight of my warm, fluffy cat curled up asleep on the sofa looking peaceful and content

I am grateful that my friend was able to get new medication from her GP to help her deal with a bad arthritis flare up.

I am grateful for my faith that keeps me going from day to day when, sometimes, I just feel like pulling the covers back up over my head and hiding.

OhWouldYouJust Mon 22-Oct-12 14:18:01

I am grateful that today i received a phonecall from my father, whom i have not spoken to or seen since august.

I am grateful that my youngest daughter is making a wonderfully quick recovery from an ear infection and tonsilitis.

I am grateful to the lord for answering my prayers about the above and for leading me back to him after having lost my faith for so long.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Mon 22-Oct-12 17:44:32

Am finding it hard to be grateful at the moment.
But I am grateful for this thread that is keepng me searching for the good.

Poledra Tue 23-Oct-12 12:37:53

Oh, Never - keep searching for the good, it will be there!

Today I am grateful for:
the NHS
the fact that, although DD3 has shingles, it's not painful in children as it is in adults

crescentmoon Wed 24-Oct-12 08:21:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

stressedHEmum Wed 24-Oct-12 09:43:37

((*Never*)), there will be some good, it's just hard to see it just now. I'm sorry things are so difficult for you and have said a wee prayer for comfort and support.

I am grateful, today,

that my DH has a few days holiday next week, he needs the rest
that DS4's knitting needle injury appears to have healed up fine
for another dry day, so that I might finally catch up with my washing
for the fun and fellowship at choir practice last night
for the vast improvement in my next door neighbours lives over the last year.

Inspired by Crescent, our neighbours are very, very young (18 and 15). When they moved in, they were a nightmare, constant drug fuelled rampages, all night parties of drugged up, drunk teens, police around every other day, fights on a massive scale....I prayed and prayed for them, that their lives would get better, that they would find the peace and happiness they needed to settle down a bit but it never seemed to go anywhere. Then last year, the wee girl fell pregnant with their 2nd child, they were given a final warning re eviction by the council and the boy got a job working with his dad. Now we hardly hear them, they only have a party every couple of months and it's confined to their house instead of spilling out into the street for everyone for miles around to hear. So their lives have obviously improved so, so much, as have ours. God is good.

Salbertina Wed 24-Oct-12 13:20:01

Am grateful -
For this inspirational thread
For a v sunny day
That the End of my masters is in sight!

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 24-Oct-12 17:08:28

Today I have found something to be grateful for YAY!!

I am so very grateful for your support and prayers
I am grateful for the prayers of my friends

I am grateful for a son who wants to cook (have just made cheese straws)
I am grateful that I felt well enough to go into school and help this morning, it really is an honor.
I am grateful that my other son is kind and gentle

crescentmoon Thu 25-Oct-12 12:42:39

today's gratitudes:

i finally finished making decorations for tomorrow - the only time each year i do any arts and crafts with the dc!
i am grateful that i am waiting for tomorrow in the safety of my home, around my dc who are warm and fed, and not as a refugee in a camp or far from familiar things,
i am grateful that i have things to bake and cook with and that tomorrow is not the only time in the year i can eat meat as for so many other people.
i am grateful i woke up this morning with my health, and DH is getting over his cold, and the children are well!

Poledra Thu 25-Oct-12 12:51:47

Enjoy Eid, crescent. And see, Never, we told you the good was there! I love cooking with the children, and it's something that gets more fun as they get older and can do more of it themselves. It used to be a mammoth task to make and decorate 12 fairycakes - now we can manage 12 fairycakes, some gingerbread men, scones and maybe even a treacle tart in an afternoon's baking. I so prefer it to doing arty stuff with them, which I'm not so good at.

Today I am grateful that:

DD3's shingles are not really bothering her at all, just a little itchy and still no pain.
My lovely in-laws are arriving tomorrow to spend the week with us
I can look forward to seeing my in-laws! I am blessed with them, and tell DH that if we ever get divorced, I'm keeping them as part of the settlement grin

stressedHEmum Thu 25-Oct-12 13:14:05

Eid Mubarak, crescent, have a joyful and peaceful time with your family.
Never, there is always something good, sometimes you just have to look really hard to find it in the little things.

Today, I am grateful

that I don't feel as bad today as I did yesterday
that I am able to support my closest friend while she and her husband await results of cancer tests
that I have been able to spend a happy half hour with DS4 making chocolate marshmallows for the BB party tonight
that DS3 was awarded his college bursary and can go to college now without worrying about whether we will be able to afford to send him.
that Poledra's DD doesn't appear to be suffering to badly because shingles is a horrible thing
that Never has been able to find something positive at a difficult time.

crescentmoon Thu 25-Oct-12 13:29:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

stressedHEmum Fri 26-Oct-12 08:59:38

Thank you, crescent. It's one of the great challenges of Christianity, praying for your enemies and trying not to judge. I don't always manage very well. I can tell you, it was very tempting to wish them gone, but then I thought, God has put them here for a reason and maybe part of that was so that they could move forward with their lives with a bit of patience and support from those around them. I don't know what brought them to that point in their lives, but I know how hard it must be to have a baby at 15 and to suddenly find yourself trying to be a family and run a house and everything that goes along with it. I couldn't help them much physically, but I could pray for them, I like to think that it helped a little.

Today, so far, I am grateful

for the sunshine that we have just now, it makes a lovely change after all the dull, cloudy weather we've had for days and all the rain of last week.

for all the help that the older boys gave me at BB last night for our wee party. I couldn't have managed without them to do the lifting and shifting and to work the music for the games and dancing

for the fact that I have nowhere to go today. I'm shattered and sore and my eyes/brain aren't working that well, so a quiet day is in order.

for my children and their smiles

for the food in out cupboards which, although very simple, sustains and nourishes us in a way many people in the world can only dream of.

crescentmoon Sat 03-Nov-12 14:34:57

Salams all,

I am glad praying for ones enemies is not a part of my religion stressed as it is an extremely hard value to be held up to. It would render me a hypocrit everyday!

Daily gratitudes today:

Dairy milk chocolate
Central heating
Fresh bread

stressedHEmum Sat 03-Nov-12 21:30:03

Hope you had a blessed Eid, crescent.

Haven't posted for a while because I've not been that great, but I have a lot to be thankful for -

healthy children
DS1 safely home from uni for the weekend
a dry morning for my BB boys to do their Cross Country
the fabulous progress we are making with the food bank, which opens in 4 weeks
good friends who can support one another when we are all having a tough time
warm food and shelter during the wintry weather we are having. I pray daily for those who are not as blessed in this as we are.
the brilliant time we all had at BB on Thursday evening when we had a firework themed night, with hotdogs and juice for the boys while we had a wee firework display and did a load of fireworky crafts and games.

I think, crescent, that praying for your enemies is one of the hardest bit of Christianity, but, do you know, it actually helps bring about some kind of reconciliation or acceptance. it's really hard to keep up bad feeling when you are praying for someone over and over again.

crescentmoon Mon 05-Nov-12 16:52:25

yesterday's gratitudes:

sun shone all day,
DH took over with the dc so i could have the day to myself out in town,
did some window shopping then had a coffee and read a book in costas,
went to visit new friend on way home who served delicious tea and cake,
came home to find house was NOT a tip - all in all a great day

today's gratitudes:

a long long long dreaded talk with DH about last months credit card bill went really well- considering id gone over so much - thats my big gratitude today!

i had a lovely Eid - spent much of it travelling on motorways though! saw lots of relatives and friends, had fun with neices and nephews i don't often see, got glammed up and and ate lots of yummy food - which i am still paying the excess for a week later! i was too scared to go to my slimming world meeting last week and im still nervous to go tomorrow!

crescentmoon Mon 05-Nov-12 17:14:33

"but, do you know, it actually helps bring about some kind of reconciliation or acceptance. it's really hard to keep up bad feeling when you are praying for someone over and over again."

i think its relative and depends on context. my parents came to the UK from a country with a gvt that stripped them of their wealth, their citizenship, killed and imprisoned some of their relatives, and they left with just the clothes on their backs. when they pray they ask God to let them see justice done, never to forgive their oppressor. turning the cheek? its impossible to their mind. perhaps i can consider it because i was born and grew up in a peaceful country. but that message to someone living under a dictatorship, oppressed because of their ethnicity or gender or religion, whether christian or muslim it is very hard by itself!

stressedHEmum Tue 06-Nov-12 09:07:35

it is a very hard message, crescent,. I'm so sorry that your family has experienced all that. I think it's hard to imagine, in this country, life like that.

Not on nearly the same scale of suffering, but I was sexually abused for about 15 years, I've been raped, robbed, beaten, bullied and been in 2 abusive marriages. So I kind of understand how difficult it can be to forgive and I know that my mother, in particular, finds it impossible to forgive all the people who have abused me over the years. To be honest, I find that forgiveness and praying for these people is the only thing that has given me any peace over the years. When I was younger (teens and early 20's), my life was a nightmare. I was eaten up by anger, hate, fear and self loathing and I developed a drink problem and really severe eating disorder which haunted me for 2 decades. It was only when I started trying to take up the challenge of praying for those who had hurt me. forgiving them and relying more on God to give me peace that I started to make any kind of progress.

I think, though, that had I been in your parents' position, I would have found this aspect of Christianity very, very hard indeed.

Today's gratitudes -

today I am very grateful

for doctors, nurses and medical staff
for the fact that my dear friend's husband appears not to have cancer, even though no-one knows yet what he does have
that we live in a peaceful country where our freedoms are protected
for a warm, dry house

Poledra Tue 06-Nov-12 11:24:07

stressed, I am humbled by your post - I do not think that I could manage to forgive in your situation. Even reading your post makes me angry that people suffer such dreadful events in their lives in what is a peaceful country and should be a safe place to live.

This is not meant to diminish what your parents have gone through, crescent, and I can relate more to them wanting to see justice to be done!

I am so angry at the moment, mind you, with the things we are seeing in the media and the things I read here on MN. I cannot understand how people can be so abhorrent and do such dreadful things, particularly to children. DH was raging last night about the cover-up of the child abuse that has allegedly gone on in high places, and that no-one listened to those children. There is also some stupid guilt, that I was a child then and that I had such a golden childhood by comparison. And it makes you wonder if such things are going on under one's nose right now and you're not noticing them and not doing anything to stop them happening.

To counter that anger, today I am grateful:

That my Seventies childhood was golden, and that my parents loved and protected us (ditto for my DH and his parents)
That I love my family and DH's family, and we can happily leave our children in the care of our parents or siblings and know that they will be cared for and protected while we're gone (I'm just talking about going for dinner or to the cinema, but I can see so many people on MN who cannot even do that)
That my DCs have a lovely leisurely half-term with their GPs, and I hugely enjoyed the company of my ILs, and even got a night out with one of my oldest friends on our own grin

crescentmoon Tue 06-Nov-12 11:53:46

i completely agree with what you wrote poledra, i became very emotional and teary reading your last thread stressed. what can one say to that? i am also truly humbled. to forgive and pray for those who did that to you personally is really inspiring - actually awe inspiring. i knew you had health difficulties and admired you for keeping your faith and helping others, and i admire you even more knowing your history and that you still hold to goodness and positivity after it.
i would probably feel like your mother stressed. could i even forgive on my own behalf let alone on someone elses behalf? i do not know but i dont think so. with my parents, they have a kind of peace believing that justice will come sooner or later. theyve held that belief for more than 30 years, i hope for them that they see it in their lifetime.

gratitudes today:

i lived long enough to read stressed's last entry.

stressedHEmum Wed 07-Nov-12 12:53:08

Poledra and crescent, I am humbled by your posts. I'm not special or particularly good, I don't think. I'm just someone trying to do the best they can with the hand that they've been dealt and trying to turn the bad into positives.

In all honesty, I tend to believe that things happen for a purpose and perhaps my life has been hard so that I can empathise with the suffering of others and try to help. I also think that the nightmare that was my life helps me, now, to deal with the hardships that we face at the moment. I have 3 AS kids with all the challenges that brings and we have a very, very low income. But I don't find that I worry too much about any of it because I know that things could be much worse. So I have learned the gift of contentment.

I do think that had I not been abused as a child (from pre-school age until late teens by a family member) or raped and incessantly bullied at school, my life would have been very different. I would have avoided a lot of the other problems But then, I would not have the life that I have now with my beautiful children. As we say up here, "what's for you will no go by you."

Poledra, there is nothing for you to feel guilt about. Every child is entitled to, and should expect, a safe, loving childhood. We should rejoice for those who do have this. I do think, though, that abuse of all kinds is rife in our society and I think that when I was growing up (70's and 80's) attitudes were very different and there was not the same level of awareness. Couple that with guilt that those who have been longterm abused often feel and it's no wonder that many things went unnoticed or unreported.

crescent, I hope and pray that your parents, and all like them, find peace. I do think that faith brings peace. Christianity talks about the peace that passes all understanding coming from handing yourself and your troubles over to God. That's what I try, and often fail, to do and it is what I wish for everyone whose life is hard and full of troubles, whether Christian or not. As Jesus said, "sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof" so I try to find the good in each and every day and not worry too much about either tomorrow or yesterday.

I apologise because I sound all preachy again. I don't mean to.

Today's gratitudes -

a warm bed and a half decent nights sleep
shelter from the wintry rain bombarding us
toast for breakfast (my favourite)
DS1's safe return to uni yesterday
a good and productive meeting on Monday night to organise some Christmas events at church
the peace to take one day at a time

tuffie Wed 07-Nov-12 21:03:17

What a great thread. It's so easy to focus on what you haven t got rather than what you have.
I am grateful for:
My dhs safe arrival in South Africa today.
My very supportive ds.
My wonderful friends.
My faith.

stressedHEmum Fri 09-Nov-12 07:43:10

Today I am grateful -

that, even though I shut my hand in a car door yesterday, I am not nearly as injured as I might have been. Can't use my right hand properly, though, so apologies for any typos

for the community police who visited my BB boys last night

for ready chopped vegetables that allowed me to make soup for dinner last night because I can't use my cutting hand

for warmth, shelter and painkillers that helped me manage my shock yesterday.

crescentmoon Sat 10-Nov-12 15:57:55

Hello tuffie, please keep posting! stressed, i really enjoy your posts, i recognise much of alot of what you say and find alot to admire.

today's gratitudes..

weight this morning finally down to pre Eid - 3 days of bingeing took two weeks to get rid of!
i went to a lovely multifaith event and got into really interesting conversations with women of other faiths.
they let me know about a homeless shelter they organise food for and i inspired by the food banks here i leapt to put my name down to cook for a few dates. i would have liked to volunteer at a food bank but tbh this arrangement has always suited me more as i can cook by myself a large batch at home with ds2 by me!
DH found out this week his contract is extended for another 6 months taking us upto end of next year - i feel in my head i can finally put my suitcases down now!
ds2 got a place at a preschool very close to our home which opens the way for me to try other things. we've got to juggle around our finances abit earlier than expected as we hadnt expected a place to open up so quickly!

tuffie Sat 10-Nov-12 16:26:58

Talking of homeless shelters, I am organising for a group of friends to go to a Christmas Bash where all proceeds go to the homeless at Christmas. The food - a very posh menu! - is being cooked by catering students from our local college and therefore costing a fraction of some of the extortionate Christmas menus elsewhere. I know it will give us a warm feeling knowing that we will be helping to feed and home the homeless.

So today I am grateful that I have a home.

stressedHEmum Mon 12-Nov-12 16:31:52

Haven't posted for a few days becase of my hand, but I am getting better at managing it.

Today, I am grateful -

that I am getting better at working one handed
that this is only a temporary situation
that I still have all my fingers
that the psychologist is referring my DS4 to the local Children with Disabilities team to try and find him a couple of wee groups to attend where we can work on helping him manage social situations
that I went to the psychologist and when I came home DS3 and DD hadn't killed one another
that the older children have been able to help out while I can't use my right hand,

crescentmoon Tue 13-Nov-12 08:07:24

today i am grateful that...

all the dc are ready this morning early,
that i dont have to work myself into the ground like DH does,
that im healthy - my back is strong and i can use of all my limbs,
that i get to live in a time of peace where all the big battles had already been fought by great people before i was born,
that i have clean water to drink, bathe in and wash with

crescentmoon Tue 13-Nov-12 14:49:31

"Talking of homeless shelters, I am organising for a group of friends to go to a Christmas Bash where all proceeds go to the homeless at Christmas. The food - a very posh menu! - is being cooked by catering students from our local college and therefore costing a fraction of some of the extortionate Christmas menus elsewhere. I know it will give us a warm feeling knowing that we will be helping to feed and home the homeless. "

^^thats wonderful tuffie i meant to write that earlier. what an excellent idea to get catering students to do all the cooking, more profit and more money to give to the homeless. iv just been looking at volunteering opportunities in my area, i cannot believe there are people who volunteer on xmas day for charity. i noted all the places for volunteering on that day are taken up already!

stressedHEmum Tue 13-Nov-12 15:40:52

today I am very grateful

for a warm and dry home to live in
for the ability to cook good, nourishing meals from very little
that DS4 has finally patched things up with his one and only friend, whom he has refused to speak to for about 3 months
for delicious hot fruit tea because I cannot get warm at all and it heats my hands upsmile

tuffie, i think it's brilliant, as well. I would love to volunteer on Christmas day as a family. I think that it would be so rewarding and a valuable experience, especially for the children, but DH won't even entertain the idea, sadly. Our food bank will be open on Christmas Eve, though, so I'll do that instead.

Salbertina Wed 14-Nov-12 11:09:55

Today i am grateful for-

1) beautiful walk this lunchtime
2) a roof over our heads
3) summer sun! My washing dried in less than an hour! Plus feels good grin

Poledra Wed 14-Nov-12 11:16:20

I've been staying off the thread for a few days, as I was having a stressful time and didn't want to find things to be grateful for. The I realised that the whole point of this is to find the good bits in the bad, so have decied to stop wallowing and think positive. So today I am grateful:

That DD1's brownie sash (and all its badges) has turned up after missing for nearly 6 months (one of the other girls had taken it home by mistake and didn't realise she had two!)
That my lovely colleague has brought me doughnuts to say thanks for some work I did - it's part of my job but she's so good at appreciating anything that people do for her.
That I got a load of Christmas presents at a book fair yesterday - I love buying books and these were really good value.

crescentmoon Thu 15-Nov-12 16:07:31

daily gratitudes:

hello salbertina, glad to see you after so long. where are you that it is summer? southern hemisphere definitely! poledra i feel like that too sometimes, it would be far easier to write a list of things going wrong than things to be grateful for but its the actual exercise of doing it everyday that changes your outlook on life after a time.

grateful for children, husband, parents, siblings
grateful for my health
grateful iv heard no bad news today

stressedHEmum Thu 15-Nov-12 16:34:44

Hi, Poledra, I'm sirry that things aren't so great just now. Hopefully, finding the good, no matter how small, will help you feel better.

Today I am grateful.

that my hand is healing up fine
for friends
that I have found a driver for the minibus taking my BB to the fire station tonight
for warmth and shelter in the wintry weather
for electric lights because it is dark practically all day now.

stressedHEmum Sat 17-Nov-12 10:03:52

Today, I am grateful -

for a good friend who has helped me remain calm and get a new perspective on something that happened on Wednesday evening
for a potentially dry day for drying washing
for warm, snuggly cuddles from DS4
for all my children
for warmth, food and shelter because I detest this time of year
for quietness to pray and the strength and calm that brings me

crescentmoon Sun 18-Nov-12 09:18:50

dear stressed hope your hand is getting better.

todays gratitudes:

hot water bottle for relieving bad period pain,
eyes that can see,
ears that can hear,
my two hands and my two legs,
hot sweet tea

crescentmoon Sun 18-Nov-12 09:19:26

(today is a 'trying to find something good to say' day!)

stressedHEmum Sun 18-Nov-12 19:26:17

Crescent, I hope you feel a bit better tomorrow and am really glad that you can still find something to be thankful for even when you feel grim. My hand is healing up quite well, thanks, I still can't use my right thumb, but mostly I am managing.

Today I am grateful for -
lovely and thought provoking church service
delicious cake with tea after the service
the support of a particular person at church in finding somewhere to store the food boxes for the food bank, which opens in a fortnight
paracetamol and things for DS3 who isn't feeling to well and has spent all day in bed
the fact that DS3 has a warm, safe, comfortable bed to stay in to help him get better
the fact that I have a few hours paid work at church next week which will give me a little extra to buy the kids new winter pj's.

Poledra Sun 18-Nov-12 22:39:19

Evening all. Crescent, I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Glad to hear the hand is healing up, stressed

Today, I feel grateful that

1. it was a perfect day for horseriding, and that DD1 and I did just that this morning
2. DH took the other two DDs outside while we were riding and picked up wood for the stove and got them moving around in the fresh air
3. we had a delicious roast this evening - I don't always make a roast on a Sunday, so it's more special when we do have one
4. the DDs and I got started on the Christmas dinner! No, we didn't get the sprouts on to boil, we made two different types of stuffing this afternoon and put them in the freezer.
5. DH and I have reconnected again after a difficult few weeks - we still need to sort a few things out between us, but I feel that it is possible rather than the insurmountable obstacle it appeared last week.

crescentmoon Mon 19-Nov-12 12:22:42

salams (peace) all,

thanks for the commiserations i felt much better by yesterday evening! i had a good day on saturday, went to sleep feeling so lucky and grateful for my life then woke up yesterday morning with horrible pain to herald aunty flo's visit!

sounds like a lovely weekend poledra and great that you got to spend one on one time with dd1. DH cooked for us yesterday, a rare occasion and abit galling as he cooks far better than me! i am glad you and your DH have had a chance to reconnect again - im hoping to make it to 10 years like you guys! im glad the food bank is going to open in a fortnight now stressed - it is really going to enrich the local community, especially with christmas just around the corner there. my first day cooking for the homeless shelter is coming up soon i cant wait - for any other reason id duck out of cooking for such a large number but i felt inspired by the good works of others here and in rl and God Willing i will be someone who helps her community as well!

daily gratitudes

i was feeling put out with myself that id fallen back into a certain old habit but iv figured a way out,
iv been reading a very interesting book thats highlighting to me something which i do not want to pass on to my children - the muslim equivalent of 'catholic guilt',
DB is staying with us and is a joy in our lives at the moment,

Salbertina Tue 20-Nov-12 07:08:03

Namaste smile

Some lovely, determined people on here.. An inspiration.

Intrigued, crescent- Am guessing its a more positive take on Catholic guilt? Sounds so, from what you say. My childhood memories of overly strict, guilt-ridden and convent-educated dm not so happy. But agree, religious tenets around self-discipline something to try to adhere to..

My 3 for today:
1. Dh currently being v supportive thro tricky time for me
2. Boys seem quite happy
3. I have time to study today if i pull my finger out

stressedHEmum Tue 20-Nov-12 08:03:47

Good morning, everyonegrin

crescent, I hope that your volunteering goes well. I'm sure that you will cook up a storm and that you will be a very great blessing to those in need in your community. I know what you mean about guilt. If anything, Presbyterian guilt is even worse than "catholic guilt". I always feel a bit guilty if I am happy, for instance, because proper Presbyterianism has no room for joy and cheerfulness, we're supposed to feel guilty all the time because we are all such irredeemable sinners. Advent is fast approaching so we are all supposed to be miserable and spend the time reflecting on our need for a saviour and feeling guilty that man's inherent sinfulness and pride meant God had to send Jesus in the first place. In our church we aren't even allowed to put Christmas decoration up in the church building until the Sunday before Christmas, bah humbug! I'm afraid that I don't work like that, I see advent as a time of hope, preparation and joy. I'm not a very good Presbyterian and, guess what, I don't even feel guilty about itsmile

I try very hard not to pass all the joylessness and guilt on to the children but to show them the peace, strength and happiness that God brings. All the negativity and guilt is destructive and puts folk off, rather than drawing them in.

Yesterday I was grateful -

that a good friend treated me to lunch and was able to get a lot of worries off her chest
that the kids survived a couple of hours without me and didn't either burn the house down or kill one another
that DH seems to be softening towards my work in the BB
that DS2 passed another exam at college with flying colours and is making really good progress towards entry to his university of choice
that I got some really good reduced to clear stuff at the Spar last night which makes the tiny amount of money I have this week go a bit further.
that God is good and continues to bless me, even though I fall so far short of the mark.

Poledra Tue 20-Nov-12 09:16:44

Good morning! Quickly before I start work, yesterday I was grateful that:

1. a meeting was cancelled in the afternoon so I could run home and watch DD2's dance club do a short performance for their parents after school.
2. although the boiler didn't switch on in the morning, it was a minor fault and DH was able to reset it before he went to work so we had heating for the evening
3. DD3 is still enjoying school (she only started in Sept) and is beginning to be able to read a (very!) little.

crescentmoon Tue 20-Nov-12 11:51:22

salams all,

salbertina i actually looked up namaste, its a lovely greeting namaste to you.
the book im reading is the gifts of imperfection by brene brown. she writes alot on shame, vulnerability and authenticity and i first watched her speak on shame and vulnerability. its short but affected me so profoundly - i couldnt sleep the night i watched it and the next day began realigning alot of my relationships. her work is especially good for anyone who has had a 'what will people think?' based upbringing, like me!
i laughed so much at your description of presbyterian guilt stressed. lol, it still makes me chuckle now - bah humbug indeed. my dad was of the misery is piety school of thought, thought laughing too much was a character defect! he doesnt even like to pray in a mosque that has even the words 'muhammad' on the walls, he thinks its a distraction from worship of God!
i think muslim shame has as powerful a hold as presbyterian/catholic guilt - maybe more! i find it at the core of alot of my motivations - either shame of letting God down or shame of letting people down. but, truth be told, i also fall back and rely upon it for many things, especially saving money with the group(s) i do it with where it seems to be a fail safe mechanism for getting everyone to pay up on time.
the challenge for me with my children is can i teach them to be honourable people without using the mechanism of shame? i have already used 'what will people think' on ds1 and dd - i have to be careful i do not teach them hypocrisy...

daily gratitudes..

1. im grateful that dc are kinder to ds2 than my siblings and i were to our youngest sibling!
2. i have just been accepted onto a volunteer programme in my former field - i am abit daunted but glad for the opportunity to take those steps,
3. my mum will be coming to stay with us in the new year - that gives me 2 months to get a job prepare the house!
4. my bils are good husbands and my sisters are happy in their lives. id be the first person they would complain to if they werent so i know all is well!
5. slow cooker is on and cooking the dinner. i need only boil some rice after school today!

stressedHEmum Wed 21-Nov-12 11:41:33

Today I am grateful for -

the joy bringing sight of 2 little squirrels frolicking about outside the church door when I was opening up for the baby sensory class this morning
sunshine after days of pouring rain
DS1's 1st ever phone interview for a graduate job this morning - he thinks that it went well.

It is hard crescent to avoid the whole "what will people think" thing and it's hard to not feel as if perhaps we are making some kind of show of piety because we care what people think. it's just, imo, part and parcel of faith, but, I agree, we have to try to avoid that kind of thinking because it undermines so much of what we actually do and believe.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Poledra Wed 21-Nov-12 13:32:45

Today I am grateful for:

painkillers, which let DD3 get some sleep last night when she had dreadful earache sad
DH, who has stayed at home with her today so I can go to work and to my first governors' meeting this evening
my lovely childminder, who will drop the other two children off at home if DD3 is too unwell to come out to pick them up

stressedHEmum Thu 22-Nov-12 11:22:39

Today I am grateful -

that my friend is being let home from psych hospital next week
that I got some washing dried yesterday
that I live in a country where I am free from the threat and fear of war
that I have access to unlimited clean water
that we are warm and dry and have a home to hide in during this awful weather

crescentmoon Thu 22-Nov-12 13:46:59

daily gratitudes:

i live in a lovely area where people smile and say good morning - this gladdens my heart everyday.
my children are learning and changing and progressing - i am enjoying watching them. dd has started doing mental arithmetic - i am so happy at how much shes learning at school.
DS2 has started to recognise smaller babies than him - its gobsmacking to see him being careful and touching them tenderly!
DH has a new boss that already seems much better than the old one - im really happy for him as he had to be very very patient.
im happy about the middle east ceasefire and especially the conditions that both sides have agreed on. im especially happy that both sides feel they won and i pray it holds and gets built upon.

dear stressed im so glad for your eldest ds about applying for graduate level jobs. does he also have AS? with or without its a testament to both his and your hard work. poledra i hope you get time to post today. glad you made it to the governor's meeting especially as you work full time, i recently joined the PTA and have had fun getting to know other parents. but governors sounds very full on!

i hope more people join in this thread, and salbertina, tuffie, neverknowingly etc also find time to post!

Salbertina Fri 23-Nov-12 17:47:50

I did a beautiful beach run this morning
Boys settling here so much more
Dh supports me with my crappy parents, thank God sad

Salbertina Fri 23-Nov-12 17:53:00

and Crescent, Namaste again, yes such a lovely greeting, indeed. Am turning to buddhist meditation for comfort and my favourite always starts with namaste, obviously, I guess! I am a fan of Brene too- great Ted podcast thought not yet read the book. Shame should be discussed so much more in schools, its toxic!

stressedHEmum Sat 24-Nov-12 09:16:13

Morning all.

Hi, crescent. it is very lovely and awe inspiring to watch your children grow and become aware of others needs, isn't it? I'm so glad that your kids are making progress and growing up into wonderful little individuals.

Salbertina, glad things are improving for you. I'm very jealous of your beach run. I love the beach, it's such a special place.

Poledra, I hope that your DD is feeling better. I have said a little prayer for comfort for her and strength for you and your DH.

Yes, DS1 has AS and dyspraxia. It's not that long since we thought that he wouldn't be able to leave home, ever, because he struggled with even basic things like dressing properly. So it is a real testament to his determination. Going away to university has really been the making of him, even though it has caused us untold worry and sleepless nights. I am very, very proud of him.

Today -

I am also grateful for the middle eastern ceasefire, it is such an awful situation for the people living there. I hope and pray that a permanent solution can be found so that ordinary people can get on with living their lives without fear.

I am grateful that we live in a country where we don't have to live in fear of that kind of thing.

I am grateful for a dry day yesterday, and my thoughts are with all those who are facing flooding and disruption.

I am grateful for my DD's help with cleaning the church this week, I wouldn't have managed on my own.

I am grateful that someone was available to drive the BB minibus to take my boys to football today, because I can't drive and they wouldn't have been able to go otherwise.

I am grateful, as always, for food, clean water and shelter. I am blessed that I can take all these things for granted.

Salbertina Sat 24-Nov-12 09:32:59

Hi stressed
My dc1 has dyspraxia too so can relate to your earlier concerns, well done to him on getting to uni!
Really like your mixture of global and personal concerns so am inspired:

1. Really pleased that dc have township kids as friends (currently on sleepover, his grandma's a witchdoctor, and a lovely one at that! ) - both get to see other as real people and school/social mix hopefully a real leg-up in terms of life-chances for their friends
2. Peaceful household as dc both friends to play with so none of the usual fighting going on
3. I have my health and can run

Salbertina Sat 24-Nov-12 09:39:45

Actually, that wasn't very global...blush
I am grateful that the gov here is being increasingly called to account fir its failure to provide basic services
That people care enough to muck in with township projects
That Obama got in again though what actual difference will that make-
That we have shelter
That our kids are being educated to question the exploitation of the planet, taught about finite resources etc. maybe they'll do a better job!

crescentmoon Sat 24-Nov-12 10:46:32

daily gratitudes today...

my brilliant well stocked local library,
that my local tescos stocks kosher food so i can pick up meat with my supermarket shopping - i normally have to do meat and food shopping separate!
a very kind honest mechanic who is fixing our wretched car for a good price,
a lovely circle of people where i live who i am fast becoming not just good but close friends with,
dc's school is really inclusive and friendly - the nicest school theyve been to yet and theyre so small but already have been to 3!

dear stressed love how your eldest dc has surpassed expectations so well. i think your other children sound really lovely and helpful to you at home and with your ministry work. salbertina i think its very important to educate our children about finite resources as well and exploitation of the planet - i worry alot about that more than anything else for my own children.

stressedHEmum Sat 24-Nov-12 12:09:13

salbertina, do you live in South Africa? I have a friend who was brought up there, her father was a missionary doctor. They were forced to leave in the late 70's because of all the violence. I'm glad things are beginning to improve where you are and that the people have higher expectations of their government. To often the people at the bottom of the heap are voiceless and forgotten. That's the basis of my work with Christian Aid, to work towards widespread social justice for the world's most disadvantaged people.

crescent, it's great that you are settling in to your new neighbourhood. it can be hard to move, especially with kids. There is always the worry that no-one will settle. I think that, sometimes, being part of a faith community can help, because you are able to meet people at church/mosque/temple, but it's still stressful. It's a source of joy when you are welcomed . it's especially nice that your kids have settled into school and have been made to feel included and valued. it helps so much to ease the change.

Yes, I am very proud of both DS1 and DS2. They have far exceeded expectations, not academically, because they are both scarily bright, but in every other way. 5 years ago, I couldn't imagine either of them being in the position that they are in now. They are on the cusp of the next stage of their lives and both of them are managing in a way I never thought would be possible. God is good and has blessed us abundantly.

Salbertina Sat 24-Nov-12 12:15:00

Stressed, well you have done them proud. Good for you all. Yes, in SA. Obv apartheid over officially but huge economic inequality, officially the worst in the world. This tends to demarcate on racial lines still as impoverished, poorly skilled/schooled parents struggle to bring up new generation of "born frees" hard not to pass on legacy of their disadvantage. Ot is improving in that they can at least theoretically attend the same schools tho fee differentials reduces the mix.

Salbertina Sun 25-Nov-12 15:49:30

Beautiful run on mountain this morning
Kids got bunch of friends to play with.

Salbertina Mon 26-Nov-12 13:44:38

Hope am not alone here?
Today finally got dc1 so long needed support
Sun is shining
Dog is happy ( he's normally happy...)

Poledra Mon 26-Nov-12 13:51:20

Hi Salbertina! I'm still here (just don't tend to post as much at the weekend...) Today's gratitudes:

1. The shoe shop accepted that DD2's boots were faulty without any trouble and replaced them straight away
2. DH got onto the training course he wanted to do this week (though it does mean he's on very long days this week so it's just me and the DDs mostly!)
3. This is an odd one - I'm grateful that I can apologise to my children when I get things wrong. My parents, who are lovely people but are products of their time, never really apologised to us - you just didn't in those days. I lost the plot completely with my 3 this weekend; OK, they were being rotten but I didn't need to fly off the handle and into orbit in the way I did. So, I said sorry, and I lay down with DD1 (who bore the brunt of it) when she was going to bed and made my peace with her and I hope that even if she remembers me being such a hatchet-faced old harridan, she'll also remember that I said sorry and admitted I was wrong.

crescentmoon Mon 26-Nov-12 15:48:39

salam alaikum (peace be upon you) salbertina and poledra! glad to read your gratitudes today. hope stressed and other previous posters and new posters get to join this thread also.

recent article on the benefits of thankfulness and gratitude in the huffington post.


im really benefitting from this thread. reading others posts as well as writing my own reminds me gratitude is just recognising that life itself is a gift.

yesterday's gratitudes:

1) it was nice dry weather so i took dc to a new park i havent had time to discover.
2) i realised that my dc are pleased by very simple things: a cheap loaf of bread and going to feed the ducks there and it was like taking them to an expensive safari,
3) im grateful that i can enjoy activities like that with my children, for peace, prosperity, well tended parks and green spaces
4) that DH got to come home from work earlier than usual yday evening so that the children got to see him for a little while this weekend.

today's gratitudes:

1) ds1 seems to be learning his lines for the xmas play quickly and all by himself
2) im enjoying seeing DH motivated and psyched for some upcoming events
3) ds2 has met his new keyworker and she seems very nice
4) i finally filled out some forms that have needed to be complete for awhile

Salbertina Mon 26-Nov-12 18:19:26

Salam alaikum, Crescent. I like the link- one interesting question to ponder in that- what is the one thing you are most grateful for this year?? Hmm....

Salbertina Tue 27-Nov-12 07:59:47

Today, I'm grateful for:

Beautiful mountain walk this morning
MIL ok so far in the floods
Time to focus today

stressedHEmum Tue 27-Nov-12 09:07:24

Hi, All, hope everyone is having a good day.

Poledra, I am sure that you're not a harridan. Sometimes children just push all the buttons.

Sunday I was grateful that a few people came forward to volunteer for the foodbank, which opens on Monday.
The chance to go to the lovely, peaceful evening service at church which always gives me a feeling of calm to face the week.

Yesterday, I was grateful for a warm bed to lie in because I couldn't get off it
for painkillers that helped a bit
that my kids are old enough to take a bit of responsibility for themselves because there was nothing that I cold do for them yesterday

Today, thus far, I am grateful

that I have been able to get out of bed
for even more painkillers
that DS2 has a week's holiday from college so that he can kind of be in charge when I can't
that my kids are HE so there is no pressure to be anywhere or do anything just now.

My gratitudes are all very selfish today, when the world is so full of suffering and need and for that, I am grateful that my God is forgiving.

crescentmoon Tue 27-Nov-12 10:45:29

daily gratitudes:

1. that dc want to live with their dad more than live near their friends
2. that dc are making good solid new friendships at their new school
3. DH and I had a rare evening out last night together - the last time was in May! - and had the dc babysat.
4. my local charity shops are brilliant for books - im glad people donate locally and i was up half the night reading a brilliant new story!

Salbertina Wed 28-Nov-12 19:19:11

Its bed-time!!
That i can afford more than oily pap or potatoes to give my kids
That so many people- esp women- genuinely care about making life better for others- educators, social workers, volunteers ... Some w cunningly creative and affordable ideas such as around Hot Pot (solar cooker) cookery classes for parents

stressedHEmum Wed 28-Nov-12 19:32:24

pain killers, again
a beautiful, sunny winter's day
central heating
macaroni cheese for tea

Salbertina Thu 29-Nov-12 07:38:01

Stressed, hope you're not in too much pain? Your gratitudes sound v comforting, hope they're helping

1. blush but glad (heavy) period come now not at w/e with long flight ahead of me! Ifykwim?!
2. Found and ordered some nice pressies for dh and kids
3. Starting to feel part of community here

crescentmoon Thu 29-Nov-12 17:51:32

Dear stressed I hope you get time to post soon and that you feel better soon. May God grant you ease. Btw are you home educating? Is that what HE stands for? And what does BB stand for I've been searching trying to find out! salbertina glad your feeling part of the community.i really got you when you said grateful to be able To eat more than oily pap, was standing at the supermarket actually marvelling at how much variety there is to eat and grateful that I could afford more than vegetable oil and rice.youve got a long haul trip coming up then hope that means you'll be spending time here for Xmas!

Daily gratitudes:

1.Found an excellent broadband deal to replace our current BT contract- over 20 pounds cheaper,,
2.Have no Internet for another week while waiting for the new connection but I'm so glad to be free of the old contract!
3.Reading more than I normally do during the day as I've had to decrease time online!
4.ds1 has been reducing his use of blue inhaler- its been cold but he has hardly had to use it the last few weeks
5.the last few days have been dry and I'm hoping it continues!

stressedHEmum Fri 30-Nov-12 09:37:42

Morning, everyone. Hope you are all well. I'm feeling a little better this morning, I think, now I just have to be careful not to overdo it and end up pushing myself backwards, again.

Salbertina, have you recently emigrated? That must have been scary. such a big upheaval, especially for the children. I am so glad that you are all starting to be a part of the community, now. We all need to feel as if we belong and it's good to have friends and neighbours that we can rely on. I hope that you have a good flight and enjoy your time at home.

crescent, Yes HE stands for home ed. Thank goodness that I do because I could never manage to get the kids out for school, now. It means that we don't have to be anywhere and on bad days/during bad spells, they can more or less deal with themselves between reading, online stuff, crafts, puzzles, construction toys and text books. So, even though it's often a struggle, it's a real blessing.

BB is Boys' Brigade. I'm officer in Charge of Junior Section. That means that every Thursday evening during term time, I lead an evening of activities for about 20 7-10 year old boys. Last night we had a St. Andrew's Night, which meant that we learned a bit about who St. Andrew was; played a couple of traditional Scottish playground games; had a Scottish cheese tasting with oatcakes and potted hough; had a Scottish phrases quiz; read a story in Scots; had shortbread and Irn Bru for snack and did a Saltire craft and a Scotland word-search. Every week, I try to have a different theme that I base my activities around. We've had creepy crawlies, winter, Harvest, Remembrance, BB knowledge and healthy eating nights recently as well as a visit to the fire station and a visit from the community police. It's probably the highlight of my week, actually, even though it takes a lot out me.

I'm glad that your DS is managing better without his inhaler. I always found that DS1 managed better in winter if the weather was dry like it has been the last few days. For your DS's sake, I hope it stays fine and dry for a long time.

Yesterday's gratitudes;

I was able to help out my young next door neighbour and have a shot at her wee baby into the bargain. I had almost forgotten what it feels like to hold a tiny, warm, soft, smiling baby.
It was a lovely crisp. dry winter's day here so I got some washing dried again.
BB went well again, the boys seemed to enjoy themselves.
The weather seems to be improving so that the danger of flooding has passed and all those poor people can begin to clear up and rebuild their lives.

Thus far today -

I am grateful
that I feel a little better today
that it's another beautiful winter day and I might get some more washing dried
that I have a night out tonight with my Outreach Committee, am praying that God gives me the strength and energy to get through it without too many consequences
that the house is warm, dry and safe now we are definitely in wintertime and my thoughts are with all those, everywhere, that don't have that luxury.
that Salbertina is settling in her new home
that Crescent's DS is keeping a bit better
that, even though we have hardly any money, I can go to the supermarket and buy food for a healthy, balanced and varied diet for my family every week.

God is good and he has blessed me greatly. Thanks be to God.

crescentmoon Sat 01-Dec-12 09:28:13

I considered home educating stressed instead of putting dc in a new school but reading into it i thought it was just too much. Much much respect for you doing that it requires a lot of sacrifice - may you see the fruit of it! Had my children had DHs personality I would have as shy children would have found it hard moving home and starting over in different places. But ds1 and dd find it very easy making friends and I thank God for that else the stress of moving schools would have been so difficult and painful.cant believe you actually run boys brigade as well your ideas sound so fun and great. How on earth though with having dc with AS and HE them and managing your own health conditions? You show what can be done when you have the drive and the heart to accomplish many things.
Hope salbertina and poledra are well and find time to post. And others new and old post up too.

Daily gratitudes

Car is working well- we've had so many problems recently with it!
Dc are happy and healthy
I'm grateful they're so easy to please and generally eager to please.
Had some lovely ripe bananas for breakfast - I love to eat them when they start having speckles on the skin but they're usually eaten long before that!

stressedHEmum Mon 03-Dec-12 18:48:51

Thank you, crescent, I have to admit that BB takes a lot out of me and that I always find Friday and Saturday quite difficult after a BB night. But it os so rewarding that I couldn't give it up. To see the smiles on the boys' faces and hear them laughing makes the pain and fatigue worthwhile. The other thing is that all my boys got/get so much out of going to BB that it's nice to give something back.

The HE just happened. we were having such a difficult time with the school that it was making all of us ill, so we eventually decided that we were better off without school. I've been doing it, now, for about 8 years. I don't know what'll happen with the kids in the long term, but they are so much happier now that they were when they were in school that we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. I't makes it easier to manage my ME, now, too. There isn't the same pressure and rushing about to be places and meet deadlines, so if I need a quiet day, we can have it.

I have had a lot to be grateful the last few days -

2 different friends gave us a lift to BB training at the weekend, which went well
food bank launch went smoothly
I have lots of volunteers for the food bank
I got through the weekend not too badly, now God will give me the strength to get through this very busy week
Advent lunch went well and raised £100 for Shelter, not bad ofr about 30 people
food, warmth and shelter during this terrible weather

Mostly, at the moment, I am thankful for the joy of Advent and for God's gift of Christ

in relation for that, I am grateful that I got to give birth in a clean, safe hospital with trained midwives and doctors and not some smelly, dirty place full of animals.

stressedHEmum Wed 05-Dec-12 09:42:22

Today, I am grateful for -

family and friends, food and shelter, peace and freedom, bright winter sunshine, trained medical staff and modern medicines.

mostly, I am grateful for the gift of faith and the joy of Advent, both of which give me the strength and hope to keep going.

crescentmoon Wed 05-Dec-12 10:13:23

Good morning stressed. Congratulations on the food bank starting! You s worked so hard for it and I'm so glad you have so many volunteers. When I think of Jesus (upon him be peace) and his tradition I think of people like yourself- i think you show the best of his way.

Haven't kept up with gratitudes so il just post today's:

One of my best friends got a new job yesterday- I am so happy for her like as if her success was my success! (was talking on the phone with her when they called)
Ds 2 has recovered from his cold and last night was the first night we'd all got to sleep through since last week!
After a blip I'm back to on time school runs- 10 days and counting no lates!
I'm so grateful for the strength and agility of my body- in started exercising again and I'm enjoying how much I can push myself,

Poledra Wed 05-Dec-12 10:18:29

Good morning all, from a snowy East Anglia - that was a surprise this morning! My over-the-last-week's gratitudes are:

1. my DD1's lovely Brownie pack, and the beautiful Christingle service they did last night. I sometimes wish I had faith - I was brought up in a faith, but cannot bring myself to believe. However, the lovely warm feeling of gathering with others to sing (I love a good Christmas Carol!) and be thankful for what we have was a joy. The minister of the church the Brownies are associated with is a thoroughly lovely man, and very good at relating to the children. I was feeling a little tearful as DD2 belted out the carols she knew till I caught DH's eye, and was then got an inapproriate fit of the giggles instead - DD2 is of the school of thought that if you can't find the right note, just slide around a bit till you do, whilst giving it as much welly as possible. DH whispered in my ear 'Gwan, my girl!' and that was it, sniggers all round!

2. the food on our table. I love to cook and am thankful that I can afford good quality ingredients and enjoy changing them into filling, nutritious meals for my family. There's no better feeling than eating a slow-cooked stew on a cold night and having your DCs tell you how delicious it was smile

3. DD3 has had some unbroken nights' sleep recently. Unfortunately, last night, she was up coughing again and gets a bit distressed because of the 'orrible gunk coming up but it's a good sign that's it's moving (hopefully!). Roll on the holidays - she's a tired little bunny.

4. my friend was safely delivered of a baby daughter last week! She was 10 days late but all is well. In that group of friends (5 couples) we now have 10 little girls between us and not one boy - I do wonder what they're putting in the water round here...

5. When I did my food shop at the weekend, the local foodbank was collecting at the supermarket so I was able to fill a bag with food for them. I hope they're there again this week - last week I mostly gave them 'practical' food and I'd love to do again this week with some more treat stuff in there.

Stressed well done on HEing. I know I couldn't do it - we're lucky to have a friendly local primary, though we need to start looking at secondaries for DD1 next year and that's making me nervous! My parents (retired teachers) always say that with supportive parents, most children will do very well at primary, regardless of other factors. Secondary is another matter though!

besy wishes to crescent and salbertina.

WeatherWitch Wed 05-Dec-12 10:24:25

This is such a lovely thread when everything else I read seems to be about how people are lacking in their lives, when much of the time they really aren't.

I am grateful that I have a secure and well-paid job, I'm healthy and reasonably fit, I live in a lovely place, I have an amazing, kind, strong and supportive DH and a gorgeous dog. I thank God most days for sending me my DH in particular, but I know I'm blessed in most areas of my life and I'm so happy to be able to express this.

crescentmoon Thu 06-Dec-12 19:34:27

welcome weatherwitch. Please do express the blessings in your life here- however large or small. No accusations of stealth boasting on this thread- note Down all the good stuff!

Daily gratitudes today:

1. Stomach ache gotten much better this evening,
2. DH is a wonderful husband- a year into my marriage I didn't see us lasting long and now 8years on I'm very happy I stuck at it and with him! (it's very strange for me to write that as in real life I fake moan about DH to empathise with other women!)
3. Im Grateful to have my parents still alive and DHs parents still alive
4. It's coming to the end of 2012 and im grateful it's been a happy one of weddings and births for both our families. No deaths and no tragic news- every night I go to sleep without hearing something awful I thank God.
5. All the dc are fast asleep and safe in bed - I'm grateful ds1,dd1 and ds2 all sleep on time and quickly because I would have found it difficult to cope otherwise!

stressedHEmum Fri 07-Dec-12 09:00:54

Good morning, all. hello, weatherwitch.

I am grateful for -

a lot of sleep, yesterday. Hopefully it will help me get through this weekend
food and shelter
cuddles from my kids
DH's ability to fix the washing machine
a beautiful pink sky this morning
fun and laughter with my BB boys last night
a hot bath to help ease some of my pain
God's grace helping me try to be a better person

Salbertina Fri 07-Dec-12 12:38:40

Helllo again

Spending lots of time just the 4 of us- been loads a little arguing but still good bonding experience, sometimes fun as well as great memory-building for dcs.

Post-run high, nothing legal like it!

We live in a truly stunning country

The (long over-due) lessons I'm finally learning after dipping my toe in the waters of Buddhism/mindfulness/meditation.

May you all be at peace today.
Lovely to read thro everyone else's daily gratitudes - such a range from a sterling-sounding bunch.

crescentmoon Fri 07-Dec-12 13:35:02

glad your ok salbertina!

daily gratitudes

1. that i do not rely on child benefit for anything as it seems to change when it comes through month to month. im seriously confused but at least its a nice surprise when it does turn up!
2. that although DH works long hours he gets paid well for it - there are people who work long backbreaking hours like him but are not fairly paid.
3. that i live in a country with security - several times a week i think to myself what would i have done if id been born in a land of war or where there is little personal safety/ high crime.
4. weather this morning was sunny and almost balmy - it was a relatively warm walk to school strangely!
5. im grateful my childrens teachers are so lovely to them - both are enjoying learning this year

Salbertina Sun 09-Dec-12 11:14:57

Hi crescent- am fine thanks, had been away.. We relocated overseas about 18 mths ago.

Am grateful that i managed to make dh feel happy and hopeful this morning

Boys happily playing in pool

I have a full tummy as do my kids...families just down the road less lucky

crescentmoon Mon 10-Dec-12 13:02:07

Salams all,

I am enjoying the beautiful shining sunshine and warm (for December) weather!
My lovely neighbour this morning took the ds1 and dd to school so I got to stay home and revise for some big tests I have this week,
Ds2 is so cute - ha if I do say so myself! - that I can't get angry for long,
That my parents are still alive and I have a chance to do something for them in their old age,
That DH supports my parents rights on me- I would have been 1000 more torn if he had opposed it. I love him very much just for his patience on that alone.

HardlyEverHoovers Tue 11-Dec-12 07:34:01

Hi all, back on this lovely thread after a long absence, reflective of my lack of reflection!
Sat here in my dressing gown trying to write up my thesis on this cold morning I am grateful for:
1)A sleeping baby
2)DH looking after DS lots while I write my thesis
3)The tranquility in my house
4)Health and safety
5)The ease and comfort of living in my home country

Poledra Wed 12-Dec-12 09:51:03

Morning all.
Today I am grateful for the beautiful hoar frost which has etched all the trees, cobwebs and wire fences in a thick white frost, and the sinshine with which to appreciate it. grin

stressedHEmum Wed 12-Dec-12 10:02:00

Haven't posted for a few days but have a lot to be grateful for

I am very grateful -

that I got to the end of the last couple of weeks with a bit less fallout than I expected - God is good
that the house is warm and safe for my family during the very cold weather that we are having
that my friend has now spent 2 weeks out of psychiatric hospital, after having been in most of the year, and seems to be coping all right for the moment
that my other friend has been given the all clear from a suspected heart condition
that the food bank collection raised almost 1 tonne of food for those in desperate need
that the church fayre did better than expected on Saturday
that I was able to attend a beautiful carol service on Sunday evening
that I have food for the family and the skills to prepare it
that I can bake/knit/sew/make sweets etc. which saves me a fortune in gifts at this time of the year - I thank God for the gifts and talents that he has blessed me with
that the Irish side of my family no longer live in Belfast

All these are just a few of the blessings that I have just now.

I hope everyone is well and enjoying a blessed Advent (no matter what their faith).

stressedHEmum Fri 14-Dec-12 15:04:05

Hello again, How is everyone? The thread seems to have gone quiet, it's such a busy time of year.

Today I am grateful -

that I was able to put a smile on someone's face through the MN Secret Santa appeal
that DS1's 5th year exams seem to be going fine
that DS2 is excelling at college
that the cold weather has eased a little
for food and shelter
for friends and family
for this thread to make me stop and reflect a bit
that DH and DS3 went shopping for me yesterday evening because I couldn't have managed at all.

crescentmoon Fri 14-Dec-12 17:18:08

Salams all, glad to see poledra, hardly, stressedHE have been posting. Hope salbertina is ok and u find time to post.

daily gratitudes:

1.Ds2 started at his new nursery this week and it's gone very well- considering!
2.My neighbour has taken ds1 and dd to school all week- my quality of life has changed so much just for being emancipated from the school run!
3.I got some nice ideas from xmas threads last week and decided to give out Xmas cards to my neighbours and they have been taken very well.we are apparently the only family to have give out cards on this street!
4.I get embarrassed to tell people what I studied at UNi as I've forgotten so much. But I had to go over my old papers for an interview and though I didn't get the position I feel much more confident about my knowledge and not just that I have a few bits of paper!

WeatherWitch Fri 14-Dec-12 17:19:45

Hi all,

Today I am grateful for:

My gorgeous dog who is now affectionate, happy and healthy, having been a shy bag of bones this time last year
DH, as always
The lovely MNer who made me smile on another thread by telling me that I sounded lovely
The beautiful place in which I live
The smiles on the faces of the children when the band I am in played at their nativity yesterday
Friends, family and my health

crescentmoon Fri 14-Dec-12 17:37:57

You do sound lovely weatherwitch. Glad youve posted again. Have a great weekend.

WeatherWitch Fri 14-Dec-12 20:06:00

You too crescentmoon - and another gratitude for starting this thread that has made me happy yet again this evening. So many of us are so often so blessed when we actually take the time to stop and think about it.

tuffie Fri 14-Dec-12 21:06:12

I'm not able to get on here very often but love this upbeat thread !
Today I am grateful for:

My lovely friends who are being so fantastic while my dh is working away.

Christmas carols which make this time of year so special. Can't stop playing Silent Night - my favourite.

demisemiquaver Sat 15-Dec-12 00:19:41

hi all!
also love christmas music...just gearing up to start playing our various christmasy CDs : thoroughly enjoyable!

Salbertina Sat 15-Dec-12 03:30:19

Hi all
Lovely to catch up with everyone's postings..

I am grateful for:
Dh's support
That the dc love each other and are relaxing a little
That i can hear birdsong.

crescentmoon Sat 15-Dec-12 08:06:15

waves at tuffie and demisemiquaver. my favourite carol is Good King Wenceslas. i havent heard it in years but i still remember most of the words from my childhood - and now il be humming it all morning.

daily gratitudes

1. woke up this morning in control of my wits and my limbs - whatever happens the rest of today i am grateful for my health
2. reminded by salbertina to be grateful that my dc love each other and love playing together - even at 6.30am in the morning!
3. DB is heading home today and we have all loved this time spent with him - DH though going along with it reluctantly at first has enjoyed DBs company the most!
4. our boiler stopped working earlier this week and we had someone come out to fix it. one night of no heating and since then im especially grateful every night for central heating.
5. im grateful for hot sweet milky spiced tea - im on my second cup this morning!

Salbertina Mon 17-Dec-12 03:47:13


Your tea sounds nice, Crescent. Hope you're enjoying time w DB.

Am grateful for car and shelter having driven through thunder, lightening and lashing rain for several hours past so many people walking without jackets along the roadside

Am grateful to the wonder that is fresh coffee!

Am grateful that dh and dc1 had a "talk" last night which seems to have reassured...

crescentmoon Tue 18-Dec-12 07:37:50

morning all,

daily gratitudes today:

wealth (i can afford to feed and clothe my children),

Poledra Tue 18-Dec-12 09:40:46

Morning all! Daily gratitudes:

It's my birthday! I'm glad to have reached the age I have (21, of course grin) and to have my health
I am grateful for my comfortable life and my beautiful family - it's o good time to look on what I have and be amazed at how different my life is to how I thought it would be but to be happy that I am where I am.

stressedHEmum Wed 19-Dec-12 09:52:15

Morning all.

Happy birthday, Poledra. Hope that you had a fabulous day.

I am grateful -

that we have started to get clients at the food bank. I'm not grateful that we are needed but I am so very grateful that we have been able to help people out of crisis and that there are fewer people going hungry for the next few days around here.
that my choir's 9 lessons and carols service went well on Sunday. God gave us the voices and the confidence to get through it.
that a very close friend's daughter has finally been able to find a job in her field. it was awful watching her become more and more down and losing confidence in herself.
for family, friends, food and shelter.
that my Dh can now go to a works night out and come home sober (even more grateful that he now comes home sober every day)
for the calm before the storm when my battling teenagers get up.

crescentmoon Wed 19-Dec-12 15:56:22

Salaam alaikum all,

Happy birthday poledra! Hope you had a great day today with your lovely family. stressed wonderful news about the food bank. Glad you had a lovely weekend. I Feel the way you do about your DH about my DB with a weed habit-relief. I'd written him years ago but soon after I started this gratitudes thread he called me asking for help. I've watched him break a very strong habit amazingly and after years has turned from the 'feckless waste of space' into a family centred young man.tbh he saved me too as he solved a big problem for me.

Daily gratitudes

1.Children finished school today- I'm so happy they had a great first term
2.i had worried that we'd rushed ds2 out this month just to keep the nursery space that opened but he's coping ok.
3.im grateful for that as recently I decided to break out of 'trailing spouse' mode and do something for myself.paid or unpaid 2013 Inshaallah God Willing will be my year back in.
4.I love that DH spoils and indulges dd more than he does ds1 and ds2.I grew up with a dad who made my sisters and I feel like a lodestone around his neck.he did his duty by us but his joy was in his sons.the love and attention DH gives dd gets is like a balm to me too!
5.lots of my neighbours have given us Christmas cards which I really appreciate. I'm grateful I took the advice and started first!

stressedHEmum Fri 21-Dec-12 10:52:59

Today, I am grateful

that my BB party went really well last night and that all the boys seem to have enjoyed this first part of the session
for all the help the lovely junior officers have given me this session. They are only wee boys but are so good with the kids. I couldn't manage without them.
that the warehouse controller for the food bank was kind enough to drive over here on Wednesday night at 8pm with more food boxes for us, so that we can actually open today.
that DS1's exams are finished now and seem to have gone well
for Christmas carols and music
for food, shelter, family and friends
for painkillers and the chance for a long lie this morning because I have kind of hit a wall now.
for things like ready made red cabbage and cauliflower cheese blush which will mean that we can still have nice dinners over the holidays even though I'm not fit to cook this year.

ChelseaSmiles Sun 23-Dec-12 01:50:57

Hello Everyone,
I'm super grateful for:
- Having a nice/healthy family
- The fact that we are safe/fed/warm/happy
- Being able to give my daughter a nice Christmas

crescentmoon Sun 23-Dec-12 12:46:54

Welcome chelseasmiles, merry christmas,

yesterday's gratitudes:

1. that ds1 is becoming better behaved and agreeable - i never understood where his stubbornness came from as both DH and I are pretty easygoing but im glad it doesnt rear its head that often anymore!
2. that dd1 is growing it seems miraculously overnight, she climbed a wall yday without ds1s help that she had struggled with before!
3. DH is working all weeked, im grateful for the extra that will bring in for the new year,
4. my mum has been abit unwell but yesterday said she felt better
5. cousin arrived safely after his 10 flight

daily gratitude today

1. day is very shiny and bright, im thinking to take the children out to play
2. lots of lovely books from my local charity shop to read this week!
3. only 3 more days till the sales - iv been sitting on my hands for weeks waiting!
4. i think i have a superpower - when i feel a headache coming on i can suppress it just by imagining ICE blocks building an igloo! i have done it for years but only recently began to wonder why it works.
5. im grateful i dont get migraines - my friends who do suffer really badly.

Salbertina Sun 23-Dec-12 14:33:54

Am grateful for
Our dog, strong disobedient stubborn hound that he is, he's loyal and much loved by dc
Our Christmas food - been baking cheesecake today and looking forward to it on Christmas Day
Sun, pool and summer!

Salbertina Sun 23-Dec-12 14:34:24

Oh and my lovely MIL smile

ChelseaSmiles Sun 23-Dec-12 15:24:25

Thanks crescentmoon and Merry Christmas to you smile

Salbertina Sun 23-Dec-12 15:39:35

Welcome,Chelsea and Merry Christmas to you and everyone <unable to do a Christmassy emotcion. Where are they?>

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Sun 23-Dec-12 15:59:17

I do this before bed, I'm grateful we are all safe, healthy and most of the time happy!
But most of all I'm so thankful to be blessed with my little boy. I never thought I'd be lucky enough to have a little one so for that I will feel eternally blessed - remind me again when he's a stroppy teen though!!

Salbertina Sun 23-Dec-12 16:05:25

Sleep well!

Crescent- ikwym re trailing spouse mode, good for you. Where are you and what are your plans? I have struggled so much w this and have greatly missed my career/independence but am trying to be grateful for opportunity also, often failing dismally! blush

crescentmoon Tue 25-Dec-12 09:05:59

Peace be upon you all today, merry Christmas! Welcome cantbelieveitsnotbutter. I also feel like you that my life is so blessed for my children in it!

DH has just gone off to work. As we don't celebrate Christmas he always works on Xmas day to let those who do be at home with their families. We've had lots of cards and a couple of gifts from our neighbours though- it was the biggest shock to be remembered yesterday by a couple of new friends who came by separately to give my children gifts.
As for trailing spouse it is really hard but we're in touching distance of the goal now. After dd I decided to stop working until DH got a permanent post somewhere but now iv decided just to go for it whether or not DH gets his contract extended past the year or not. It's the uncertainty how do you cope with it salbertina?

Daily gratitudes
1.My lovely neighbours,
2.The lovely gifts the dc received,
3.Having people comfortable enough with me to come by,
4.The rule of law - my racial memory never lets me forget the importance of that
5.chocolate- iv been munching all morning no slimming world this evening ha!

Salbertina Tue 25-Dec-12 11:57:31

Indeed, may you all be at peace, may you all enjoy today. Merry Christmas to everyone!
I am grateful for the fact that my dc are happy and relaxed and enjoying the day

Salbertina Wed 26-Dec-12 18:50:29

I am grateful
For dh cutting me some slack today
To buddhism and the wonderful Tara Brach for teaching me some wise truths which i had failed yo learn by myself these past 40 years blush
For my cute cat, a long time with us and usurped over the years by dc and now the hound, v tolerant consideringz

crescentmoon Wed 26-Dec-12 19:11:50

namaste salbertina and others. hope your having a great time all

today's gratitudes:

1.the dc were easy today which was great as my wrist is sprained,
2.plenty of food at home for us all, my dc can say 'can i have that?' and i can give it to them without worrying,
3.grateful for bananas and grapes and satsumas to keep them going between meal times
4.grateful that i managed to control myself today after going overboard yesterday

stressedHEmum Thu 27-Dec-12 08:25:23

Merry Christmas, everyone. I hope that you all had a joyful and peaceful holiday and that peace and joy stay with you as we face another year.

Crescent, I hope your wrist isn't too painful. Are you managing? Before we had so many kids, my DH used to do what yours does and work at Christmas so that other people could spend it with their families. It's a lovely thing to do, your DH is very thoughtful.

This Christmas, I am grateful -

for the gift that God gave us in Jesus
for the gift of faith
for the chance to listen to and sing Christmas carols
that Christmas passed peacefully in here with no arguments or tantrums from over excited and over tired children or autistic meltdowns because of the different structure to our day
that the children are all pleased with their gifts
that I have plenty of food and a warm home, many are not so blessed
that my foodbank was able to help someone on Christmas Eve sad
that DS1's partner had a safe journey through here on Boxing Day despite difficult driving conditions

crescentmoon Thu 27-Dec-12 11:15:27

good morning stressed - im so glad to hear that your day went well. thats really nice that your DH used to do that - how did it affect your christmas? in years when DH has worked over eid i would always take the children and visit my parents. my wrist is much better this morning - it shocked me how a sprained wrist affected how much i was able to get done yesterday. and as inexplicably as the pain come on yesterday - i didnt do anything out of the ordinary - i woke up this morning to find it completely normal again.

it had me musing to myself what am i in control of really? there are a million things going on in my body that i do not instigate or regulate but i wake up in normal good health regardless. heartfelt thanks and gratitude to God for that.

daily gratitudes

im grateful for being able to exercise this morning and use my wrist as normal,
im grateful that the day is looking bright and dry so i can go shopping with the DC,

gtedder1 Fri 28-Dec-12 00:15:03

i am grateful for this thread because it reminded me to never stop being grateful.

i am grateful for the bad relationships i hav had because they have taught me to be understanding, kind and compassionate towards others.

i am grateful that my son and i have a roof over our heads and a warm bed to sleep in.

i am grateful to be alive, to exist, to breathe, to walk and talk and to be able to type this comment right now.


crescentmoon Fri 28-Dec-12 09:29:08

welcome gtedder, please post regularly and any other newcomers as well!as often as you can.

daily gratitudes today:

1.warm cozy house,
2.children behaving well so far this morning,
3.its coming to the end of the year and so far this year has been a year of good news in our families - im so grateful for that i hope 2013 is the same,
4.we are not in debt to anyone
5.we have a really fast responsive landlord - and our last house was the same and the house before that. we have been very lucky in that regard.

stressedHEmum Fri 28-Dec-12 10:23:49

Welcome, gtedder*, your gratitudes are lovely and very thought provoking. I too an grateful for all the bad relationships and difficult things that have happened to me because they have made me compassionate and non-judgemental. it is a great gift to be able to find the positive in negative situations.

Hi, crescent. Working Christmas Day, the impact always depended on what shift DH was working. If it was a day shift, we would have a festive meal when he came home, although, he wouldn't be there for the boys opening their presents; Back shift meant that he couldn't be there for lunch but he would see the presents. I think that nightshift was the worst, tbh, because he really missed everything and the kids had to be quiet most of the day. I usually took them to my parents for more presents and Christmas munchies. DH is a rampant atheist, so he wasn't that bothered by the more religious aspects of Christmas (at all).

Today I am grateful

that DS4 slept in his own bed last night, after a bit of a tantrum over it
that the rest of the kids are away to the cinema together to see the Hobbit - one of the advantages of having some adult kids
that the house is warm and dry
that DH hung some washing up to dry when he came in from work last night - I had had to go to bed whenever I came home from visiting my folks
for clean, running water
for the gift of music

Salbertina Fri 28-Dec-12 11:11:47

Hello everyone!
Yes also contemplating those gratitudes especially for bad relationships from which one can learn compassion. Need to digest that, would love to have the discipline and sufficiently sanguine approach to apply that.

I am grateful for
Endless supply of leftovers, we'll never starve
The sun
Dh's ongoing though often grumpy support for me processing stuff from my dysfunctional birth family

MrRected Fri 28-Dec-12 11:25:54

I am grateful for my comfortable home
I am grateful for my family
I am grateful for the fact that DS2 has been seizure free for 7 weeks and 2 days and for the medicine that has made this possible

Poledra Sat 29-Dec-12 00:12:34

Haven't been online over the holidays but I hope you all had a peaceful and loving Christmas time! I really should go to bed, but just quickly, my gratitudea are:

DH and I having all the holiday time off with the DCs
My lovely PILs, who are staying with us just now
The lovely memories I have of my DCs on Christmas Day
Having a warm house, plenty food and lots of time for family and for cooking (thought DH has bought me more cookbooks so I really need some more time to try them out grin)

Salbertina Mon 31-Dec-12 15:32:04

Mmm, feeling a little lonely and billy-no mates today (no NYE invites), just dh and i and am climbing the walls after so long just us. Ok, shaking off self pity

I am grateful that
2012, my annus horriblis is ending, hope 2013 is much better.
We have nice food for tonight
Dh got home ok after car broke down

tuffie Mon 31-Dec-12 18:48:05

Sorry you have no invites Salbertina but don t feel lonely. Instead have a lovely cosy night with your dh. My dh is working away for 6 months and we miss each other terribly esp at this time of year. However lots to be grateful for :

Lovely friends who have been a great support.
Wonderful dc who are there when I need them.
A body that can still enjoy sport even at my advancing years !
As ever, my faith which is always constant.

Happy New Year Everyone. Love this thread, lets continue to count our blessings in 2013 !

Salbertina Mon 31-Dec-12 19:10:46

Thsnks, tuffie. Lovely post- sounds hard w yr dh bring away. Hope you see him soon and happy new year.

DioneTheDiabolist Mon 31-Dec-12 19:20:35

I am grateful that god believed in me when I didn't.

crescentmoon Mon 31-Dec-12 21:47:07

daily gratitudes:

1) that DH hasnt had to go in this afternoon and we had a lovely rare day watching dvds with the dc,
2) that im grateful to be alive at the end of 2012

tuffie im sorry that your DH is working away - sounds like its not the first year? bless you and bless your children this year. welcome dione, happy new year to all.

Salbertina Tue 01-Jan-13 07:44:41

Hello and Happy New Year from deep in the southern hemisphere

I'm grateful that
Its a new year, a fresh start
We had a lovely family NYE
We're all okay.

crescentmoon Tue 01-Jan-13 18:45:46

Todays gratitiudes:

1.Lovely bright day for first of 2013
2.finally cleared through some messy cupboards
3.dh and I disagreed on something then patched up quickly - I'm so grateful it doesn't take 3 days like when we first got married
4.had chips and fish fingers tonight - yummy and a treat (me)!
5.my beautful dc

Happy new year salbertina! May this year exceed all your wishes and expectations

tacal Tue 01-Jan-13 19:13:51

Happy new year everyone. I would love to join this thread, if that's ok.
Today I am grateful that

1.Ds and I have had so much time together over the holiday period. It has been lovely.

2.That I have had the courage to follow my heart and attend the church I want to (and not the one my family want me to)

3.It is a new year and a new start. I am going to worry less.

4. DS and I have a comfortable and warm home with a small garden. We feel very lucky

5. I have decided which school to register ds at. I can stop worry about this now and start to look forward to him attending school.

This thread is such a good idea.

Salbertina Wed 02-Jan-13 19:42:45

Welcome Tacal nice to have new people

Mine for the day are:
Dc v affectionate unusually v touched!
Dh & i have concocted a cunning plan to return to Uk which hopefully shall come off somehow, v complicated to relocate us all back along w coordinating jobs, house, schools etc
Lovely walk w dog in evening sun, beautiful estate, feel part of community

crescentmoon Thu 03-Jan-13 07:46:36

welcome tacal, hope you and others get to post today,

love the idea of a plan to relocate salbertina- what kind of timeframe have you given it? so sweet that your dc are being affectionate - i love their cuddles and hugs too.

daily gratitudes:

1. im feeling content today though ds2 woke me up at 4.30am!
2. picked up some lovely tops in the sales yesterday
3. i feel well in mind!
4. that my friend recommended truvia to me to help me replace aspartame sweetener
5. just discovered camomile and spiced apple tea - thats probably the main reason im so chilled out right now!

stressedHEmum Thu 03-Jan-13 10:02:15

Good morning, everyone. May God bring you all a peaceful and blessed 2013.

Today, I am grateful -

that God has brought us all safely through another year
that we face a new year with a roof over our heads and food in our stomachs
that Dh's relationship with 13yo DD seems to be moving towards more stable ground (she has been very difficult to live with for the last couple of years and he finds it hard to cope with her or understand that she's not a small girl any more)
that DS4 seems to be able to "put his monster back in its box" a little bit more easily at the moment. he is autistic and has real problems dealing with his emotions, especially anger and frustration
that the wretched cold that has floored me for the last week seems to be easing off a little today.
that the Americans managed to cobble together some kind of financial deal. That can only be good for the economic situation everywhere
for the opportunity to get A LOT of rest the last few days, so that today I am not in too much pain and might be able to manage to tidy up a bit and do some washing
for this thread to help me focus on the positive.

Crescent - chamomile and spiced apple tea is lovely. Have you tried the chamomile, vanilla and honey one - it's really good for bedtime.

crescentmoon Fri 04-Jan-13 07:45:50

dear stressed im sorry that you have been down with a cold, i hope you feel better today as well. i havent tried the vanilla and honey one you mentioned - i saw it next to it and once i finish this box very soon i will try that next. im trying to wean myself off fatty sugary treats and instead treating myself with 'special' herbal/spiced teas instead. i tried jasmine tea recently - didnt like it as it smells too much like the oil i put in my hair! iv tried one with bergamot in too but i didnt like the taste too - im just working my way through the tesco tea aisle lol.

daily gratitudes:

wealth - i dont have to live on $1 a day,

stressedHEmum Fri 04-Jan-13 11:43:33

Thank you, crescent. I feel a little better today, again, so hopefully this cold is finally breaking. I have an appointment with the GP on the 21st of this month (the first available appointment) to talk about the ME, because I feel as if I'm going backwards again, if I'm honest. I spend quite a lot of time trying to work out what lessons God wants me to learn from this, but I'm struggling to see any at the moment, unless it's just patience and relying on Him rather than on my own abilities.

I think that it is lovely to perfume your hair, I would love to have the kind of hair that I could do that to. Jasmine has such a rich, exotic scent. Your hair must be beautiful. I have an image of long, thick, glossy dark hair (a bit like my DD's, only more exotic somehow.) I mostly hide mine under my headscarf, it covers a multitude of sins.

I think that you'll like the chamomile, vanilla and honey tea. The pomegranate one is nice as well, also the apple and blueberry and the lemon and ginger. I like most of them, to be honest. I started drinking fruit tea all the time when I had to stop drinking caffeine and alcohol because of my ME. Before that, I just used to drink it during the Advent and Lent fasts. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, it's so nice and comforting.

Today, I am grateful -

for family and friends
food and shelter
that we live in a country where we don't have to fear war, violence or persecution

crescentmoon Fri 04-Jan-13 19:41:18

hello stressed how has your day been? im so sorry about the ME getting more difficult again - can the GP change your medication or will you hope he moves you onto the next stage of treatment? i know what you mean about trying to work out what lessons God wants you to learn. in islam we believe suffering raises an individual's rank with God, that even the fact one has a trial in their life is a sign that God already knows they have the strength to bear it. for us the Prophet Job is someone whose life we take alot of lessons from.

"Whatever the blow that arrives from heaven
Wait to receive a robe of honor afterwards:
He is not a King who thrashes you and then
Does not give you a crown and a throne to rest on.
The world is worth less than the eye of a mosquito,
Yet for a single blow there is infinite reward:
Take from your neck now the world's golden collar,
Receive with no protection the blows God sends.
Didn't the Prophets receive blows on their necks?
That pain is what forced them to hold their heads high.
Never abandon your innermost core even a moment
so the Beloved will always find you at home.
Otherwise, He'll remove His robe of honor and say,
"I came to see him Myself, and found no one in."

-- Rumi

as for glossy hair i wish! actually i started using jasmine oil for a much more prosaic reason than that. i had a problem after ds3 of my hair getting very thin so i started using the oil to make my hair thick again and it has really helped in that way! 2013 will be about glossy hair - 2012 was just to save my hair!
how come you wear a headscarf stressed. i know you are a devout christian but i did not know any UK ones who cover their hair. is it for religious reasons i am very curious.

stressedHEmum Sat 05-Jan-13 10:40:56

Hi, crescent, that's a lovely verse. I don't know much about Islam, there aren't really any Muslims where I live, you have to travel to the city to have even a small hope of seeing an Hijab for instance, and I went to school in the days before RE was taught [old duffer]. But it would seem, from what I do know, that Christianity and Islam have quite a lot of basic messages in common.

We believe that God doesn't test us beyond what we can cope with, with His help. So suffering and trials are about leaning on God for the strength He gives us. There is a verse that says "All things are possible through Christ who strengthens me."

"Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." comes from the Book of James and has a similar message to your passage. I always think that we should look at the things we have in common rather than the things which divide us - the world would be a better place, don't you think? A bit of respect and tolerance goes a long way, just like on this threadgrin

Yes, I wear a headscarf. it's not really a normal thing. There are a few sects of Christianity that still expect a woman to cover her hair, but they tend to be the very extreme ones that think that a woman should know her place. i don't belong to one of them, thankfully, or else I wouldn't be able to serve God the way that I do.

it is a religious thing, though. it comes from the idea that we should be "praying without cease" and that women should cover their hair when they pray. It's my personal belief that our whole lives are a prayer and an act of service - even when we're doing mundane things like cleaning the toilet or ironing a shirt - so I choose, after much prayer and consideration, to wear a scarf. I don't wear it absolutely all the time, sometimes my arms are too sore to reach up to tie one on, but on those days I have one of those elastic bandana things that my DD uses when she is cleansing her face to keep her hair out of the way. I know it's very old fashioned and quite controversial in Christianity, but I'm comfortable with it and I feel that things like that are between us and God.

Funnily enough, for years and years, I didn't wear trousers, only long skirts or dresses with high necklines and long sleeves, but since I've been ill, skirts just don't cut it - it's too hard to wrestle with petticoats and tightsblush. I don't think that God's too bothered about it all as long as we dress modestly and don't make a complete show of ourselves. That was the only concern that I had about the headscarf - that I'd be drawing attention to myself and my so-called "piety", but I don't make any kind of deal out of it and folk are used to it, so it's fine.

Oh dear, I appear to have rambled on and on. I'm glad that the jasmine oil is working, 2013 will definitely be the year of long, flowing, glossy hair for you - perhaps I will try it, mine could certainly do with something.

Today I am grateful -

for a new day
for the cute chirping of the guinea pigs - they sing like wee birds
that DS1 got home safely from his visit to his partner's parents
that Dh has a job and is able to work hard
for food, shelter, wealth and water
for the internet that allows me to "meet" lovely people like everyone on this thread.

stressedHEmum Sun 06-Jan-13 14:39:58

Today, I am grateful -

for my lovely friend from church who is celebrating 60 years of marriage this week. She and her husband are such a lovely couple
for the beautiful service of blessing and renewal of vows that we had for them this morning and the fabulous lunch that they provided for their family and friends
that DS4 has gone to the cinema with Dh, today, without any trouble or difficulty - he finds it really difficult to go out without me normally
for doctors, nurses and healthcare workers
for the gift of Christ, not just for Christmas
for the sure and certain knowledge that there is nothing that I can't cope with as long as I rely on God for strength and purpose
that I was able to bring some comfort to one of my friends, today, who is going through a very rough time.

crescentmoon Sun 06-Jan-13 14:52:31

Salam alaikum (peace be upon you),

Currently have house guests so can't post very much this weekend but I really enjoyed reading your last post stressed. Have more questions but will ask once dc go back to school!

crescentmoon Tue 08-Jan-13 06:26:58

i always used to focus before on the differences between the bible and the quran, not the similarities. sometimes on these boards when someone quotes from the bible - as you did in that passage from 'James' i get astonished because of how similar it sounds to the quran. though i shouldnt as its an article of islamic faith to believe that the gospels were also from God and chronologically they came beforehand!

i agree with you that alot of the basic messages are the same. my father likes to tell a funny story about a tribe in africa that were animists. they became exposed to christianity and islam at the same time, and the tribe decided both of them had beneficial things and decided on a vote which to choose. it was an even vote so they decided to split in half - the ones who wanted to keep their second wives converted to islam, and the ones who wanted to keep their drink converted to christianity! grin lol

as for the headscarf that is amazing that you choose to wear it by your own volition. for me it took alot of soul searching and internal struggle to don it - no one stood over me to tell me to but i felt God above me watching as i read and read about it in deciding whether it was important or not. it was funny i used to think - will anyone marry me if i wear this? how will someone even get to know me if i have this on it will make me seem unapproachable? i secretly used to be very vain about my hair and felt covering it was covering my best asset! so it took a big jihad ' holy struggle - to bring myself to. like you i never used to wear trousers, always long dresses because they were very practical. but as iv gotten older - i turn 30 next year - and secretly because i feel like my children are almost my hijab now lol - iv gotten much more relaxed about how i dress.

i also believe like you that you say that our lives should be prayer and acts of service. his is a basic islamic viewpoint but we also have the daily prayers as rituals. most everyday daily tasks can be turned into an act of service if one makes the intention to make it an act of worship. going to work to provide for ones family is worship, gaining knowledge is worship being kind to your neighbour is worship. muhammad (pbuh) said the least act that can gain reward is a smile. refraining from something which is harmful is also worship and a source of reward in islam.

yday's gratitudes:

1.dc came back from their first day at school yday very happy.
2.i managed to finish an assignment i left to the very last minute to complete,
3.ds2 is a lovely fun toddler - but im glad hes my last!
4.i found lovely brittle fudge in my local store over the weekend the same as my relatives used to bring us back from abroad,

stressedHEmum Wed 09-Jan-13 14:00:00

That's a funny story, crescent. it highlights the similarities in faiths as well, which is something that people should pay more attention to. When I was in Egypt, just before I got ill, our tour guide was explaining some stuff about Islam to me, after we'd been to visit a mosque, and he said that, as far as he was concerned, Islam and Christianity were practically the same, with far more in common than different. He was a very liberal Muslim - didn't want his daughters to wear hijab etc.- so I don't know if that makes a difference. He explained "jihad" as the struggle against the evil/bad tendencies within oneself. we have that idea in Christianity as well- the perpetual struggle against our sinful nature.

I'm A LOT older than you, so I've had a long time to come to some kind of understanding of my faith. TBH, my life has not always been modest, if anything , when I was a teenager it was really chaotic. I've always been "Christian" in that I went to church, prayed, believed Jesus was the Son of God and all that; but as a youngster the impact on my life was fairly minimal. It wasn't until I was in my mid 20's that I began to settle down a bit and find some acceptance of my life, that I set about trying to change things. The headscarf was just a kind of extension of that, a natural progression sort of thing. I've been wearing it for about 10 years now and feel really strange without it.

Another part of the whole modesty thing was about wanting to set a better example for my children as well, if I am honest. I would be horrified if they did some of the things that I did when I was a teenager, so I try hard to give them a restrained, modest, moderate example in the hope that some of the extremes of youth will pass them by.

In my stripe of Christianity, we believe that God works within us on an ongoing basis, changing us and making us more the person He would have us be. We have to listen for His nudgings and allow ourselves to be changed. That's what I believe has happened to me over the years. God has worked within me and with me to change me. It's also why I think my life has had so many difficulties - I have been passed through the refiner's fire and made stronger (Is.48:10, Zech 13:9. 1Pet 1:6 and 5:10). I like to think all the trials and tribulations have made me a more compassionate, less judgemental person as well. So some good has come from all the unpleasantness.

Today, I am grateful -
for another day
for food, shelter, clean water and clothing
for family and friends
that DS1 has heard back positively from another graduate scheme that he applied for - he has to sit some kind of test for this one and he has an interview next week for another one. Hopefully, he will hear back from some more soon.
that DH starts a professional training course this evening with his work. It should make him more employable if things go wrong with this job.
that DS2 has happily started back at college this week without too many issues.
that my children are old enough now not to need me to do too much for them, so that I can try to rest a bit to try and get back on my feet.

Salbertina Fri 11-Jan-13 06:53:49

Good to hear the background to your faith - i don't believe in a God (incline towards Buddhism fir this reason) but respect those who do. Unless they're uber-dogmatic about it (had my fill of this from various teachers at my sec sch) Lovely that we're all so respectful, curious and undogmatic on here smile

It seems to me that being spiritual/mindful in whatever form is an attempt to recognise and set a moral code around the fact that we're all part of something bigger. Its a shame that so many no longer feel the need fir this (who called it "the God-shaped hole"?)

My gratitudes:
Fasting going well so far
Am trying to be more mindful
Dc having fun today w their friends

I was asked re our relocation plans a while back. Thanks, yes, they're in motion, rather a lot to undo and then redo the other end but we'll get there. Dc1 rather upset and dh and i also torn- bittersweet to be going as roots here now too and its much sunnier

Salbertina Fri 11-Jan-13 06:56:26

Stressed- interesting about our "sinful nature". Buddhist dharma teaches that we are pure/innocent but have to face our "cravings". Same thing looked at from other pov...

crescentmoon Fri 11-Jan-13 21:26:59

dear salbertina happy new year! fast? what fast im curious. is it something related to buddhism or a resolve you have put on yourself this month? im so glad your relocation plans are in motion - its exciting but so heart wrenching to leave friends behind as well, both the childrens and your own. i dont think id give up the sun though!
stressed enjoyed reading your reply. yes that is how i understand the word jihad as well the way the egyptian tour guide explained it to you. my jihad is to keep good relations with my parents, my in laws, my jihad to stop eating fatty foods, my jihad to be a good mother etc i use the word jihad often. even the headscarf is a jihad sometimes tbh especially in the summer. its the last thing i put on before going out and the first thing i take off when i get home lol. i say 'only for your sake God' when my hair is looking good and then 'thank goodness i dont have to comb my hair before taking the kids to school' when it is a bad hair day. im so happy that your ds1 has heard back from another graduate scheme God willing 2013 will be his year. great that your dh is doing a new professional qualification may it benefit all of you.

my gratitudes:

1.dd is like sunshine,
2.ds1 has had a lovely first week back,
3.ds2 didnt cry as much when i left him,
4.i found out about a great loan company this evening that looks like the answer to all DH and Is dreams,
5.i am going to go to bed in awhile content.

stressedHEmum Sat 12-Jan-13 12:18:20

Hi, Salbertina - relocation must be very daunting, especially when you have roots where you are. it's a very big thought, isn't it. i don't think that I could give up a sunny life, though, especially if there was a beach nearby. is that very shallow of me?

Why are you fasting? Is it a Bhuddist thing? DS2 did a whole, big study of Buddhism a couple of years ago - 36 university level lectures on the history, development, beliefs and practices. I shall ask him what he knows when he comes back from his conservation group. I only fast during Advent and Lent. I'm not very good at it. I don't not eat fro 40 days or anything, but I try to simplify everything - eating only very basic food like rice, beans, veg, fruit and bread, with no snacks, treats, caffeine or alcohol. I also try to limit internet use, not watch telly, that kind of thing and use the freed up time for prayer and bible study. I find that it helps to focus the mind on what's important in life and helps me grow a little in spirit and faith.

Crescent, that's really interesting about jihad. it's so very different from what we hear about in the news. It is a constant struggle, isn't it, to try to overcome our basic natures and our weaknesses. Mine are things like trying to be patient with the children, trying to keep my pride in check, trying not to get too frustrated with some of the folk at church who are so very set in their ways that even having modern worship music is frowned upon... I really admire women who wear the hijab in hot weather, you know. It must be uncomfortable. I usually wear my scarf kind of like an Israeli tichel - tied into a bun at the back or with the back loose and the ends braided like a crown over the top. Many times, I have really wanted to wear it like an hijab, but I think that it would draw too much attention and that it would likely be a step to far for my DH. One of the things that I like most about it is that I don't have to worry what my hair looks likesmile.

I'm glad things are going well with you and that the children are happy and settled. it's such a blessing. I hope the loan works well and that you can realise your dreams with God's blessing.

I have lots to be grateful for today -

another day
warmth and shelter
food and clean water
an education
family and friends
my church family
medication and medical people
This website which is absolutely beautiful and has helped me many times with cheap, easy but delicious meals for the family. I made this yesterday. It is absolutely delicious but incredible easy and only costs something like 40p a portion.

Salbertina Sun 13-Jan-13 07:32:05

Stressed- yes it is a little daunting. Sun bevomes less important that other things i guess. Become v isolated over here and big security issues sad
Am v impressed that you commit to simplifying your diet for 40 days! Hardly "not being good at it".. I have often tried to give up just one thing for Lent but never succeeded blush I've been doing my own variation of the 5:2 diet (with the occasional blip) for about a year now. Basically i have only 1 meal usually in the evening about 2x a week and splurge eat normally the rest if the time. Iy works for me as its a case of "jam tomorrow" not "no jam at all" grin mainly do for reasons of vanity health but also find it good for my soul and in keeping with Buddhist simplicity and mindfulness.
Crescent- i also was fascinated by your explanation of your personal jihads! I had no idea and now feel rather ignorant..it makes me think thats its a personal tool to be mindful in a way?

My gratitudes
Fridge-full of food
V sunny day

crescentmoon Sun 13-Jan-13 18:09:29

peace be upon everyone this Sunday,

ds2 has been unwell since this morning so iv not had time to post properly but enjoyed reading your posts stressed and salbertina. i love that prudent homemaker website stressed its brilliant - fab recipes but iv explored other parts of the website especially on saving money. every week i tell myself im going to do 5:2 salbertina but when it comes down to it i just dont have that self discipline! have a good night all!

stressedHEmum Mon 14-Jan-13 08:41:52

Crescent, I hope DS is feeling a bit better today, poor wee lamb.

I love the Prudent Homemaker site. When I first started reading it, she only had 4 children, now she has 7! And yet, she always seems so calm and gracious. I wish my kids would be content with some homemade bookmarks and embroidered hankies - sadly, I don't think that they would. Too much peer pressure. Do you ever read her blog, crescent? When I see some of the prices of things, like 10cents for a pound of potatoes, I always think "why can't things be that cheap, here?" I think that she is a fab example of how to make the best out of testing circumstances.

Salbertina, I hope your move goes well and that, eventually, you will feel the benefits of being back with your family.

Today I am grateful -

that we don't have snow
that we have a warm, safe house in this awful weather
that DS1 is away today for an interview in the south of England
that DS2 has reached the age of 20, today, and is far more independent that we ever thought possible
for Asda fake takeaway pizzas which have saved me from paying a fortune for Domino's for DS2's birthday tea
for a lovely, thought provoking service at church yesterday

Episkopos Mon 14-Jan-13 09:31:27

I am grateful for the blessing of life
I am grateful that I am alive at this time and part of the new year
I am grateful for good health and the opportunity to work in the ministry
I am especially grateful for this forum...it reminds us to count our blessings.
Thank YOU!

Salbertina Mon 14-Jan-13 10:05:22

Am so grateful for this board also!

Stressed, happy birthday to ds2 and fingers crossed for ds1.

Crescent, how is your ds today?

Am also grateful for
Day at home just be & dc dh was driving me mad
Fresh healthy food for dc
Our health

Salbertina Tue 15-Jan-13 06:13:08

Am grateful for normal eating day today
My cleaner coming blush but grin after 5 weeks off in long school hols
Kids seem happy

crescentmoon Tue 15-Jan-13 07:51:24

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stressedHEmum Tue 15-Jan-13 12:31:10

Oh, crescent, that must have been so difficult for you and your family both. I'm sure that they did what they thought was best at the time, but the trauma and upheaval for you must have been horrendous along with the sense of betrayal. it's times like those when we really need our faith to help us cope and to guide us. I'm glad that you are making progress in this and feeling more at peace with things. God has blessed you with 2 sets of parents to love and be loved by, although, that is a very hard road to walk.

Faith and putting it all into practice isn't easy. is it? It can all be very challenging. I think that the refiner's fire image is a very good one, really because burning away the dross from our lives really does make us stronger people.

I love Brandy's blog and her whole site. When I read all her wee articles, I realise how much I have to be thankful for and I try harder to cultivate that spirit of gratitude. I might not agree with her religious beliefs but I find her very inspirational.

I hope that your kids are feeling a bit better now. Thanks for your good wishes for DS1. I haven't heard from him, yet. he had a meal with the assessors last night and the interview thing is today. He's really quite keen on working for this form and it's in an area that he's really interested in, so I hope all goes well. Even if it doesn't though, it's all good experience for him.

Salbertina, enjoy your food todaysmile

Episkopos, welcome to the thread. It's a wonderful place.

Today I am grateful -

for sunshine
for food, clean water, shelter and warmth
for freedom from fear, oppression and violence
for painkillers and medicines in general
for the faith that gets me up every morning to say "Good morning, Lord instead of just hiding in bed all day feeling sorry for myself
for the gift of contentment that God has given me that has freed me from always wanting stuff.

hillbilly Tue 15-Jan-13 13:36:54

I am grateful for

-coming across this thread
-the cold crisp winter day
- my lovely husband
-my children woke up smiling
- that I work for myself

Salbertina Wed 16-Jan-13 05:53:42

Cresecent - i am so sorry to hear about your birth family.. Goodness! There is a Stately Homes thread in relationships- you may or may not find it useful as you sound as if you're at peace with it now? Whereas this thread is more for those on the (often angry) journey but it is supportive. I speak from experience , sadly, due to issues with my own birth family

Stressed- hope you're not in too much pain? Lovingkindness to you..

My gratitudes:
Beautiful birdsong
Time to catch up on my studies
Sudden sense of freedom for us all in going back to UK

Salbertina Wed 16-Jan-13 05:54:37

And Hillbilly, love your gratitudes, made me smile

Salbertina Wed 16-Jan-13 05:56:02

And belated welcome, Episkopos

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stressedHEmum Thu 17-Jan-13 10:23:25

Morning all.

Salbertina, thank you. I'm just struggling a bit at the moment. I think things are getting a bit worse, tbh. I'm back at the GP on Monday, so we'll see what she says. I don't hold out much hope, though, as the last time I was there, she said that there wasn't really much else she could do.

Crescent, may you continue to grow in peace and acceptance. Hope your kiddies are a bit better today.

Today, I am grateful

for a warm bed
for Ninja Meerkats - DS4 is really hard to engage with reading but he loves these
for food, water, clothing and shelter
for family and friends
that we live in a free and mostly peaceful and secure country

Poledra Thu 17-Jan-13 10:43:02

Good morning all. I'm sorry I haven't been by here for some time, and I see that I missed some of crescent's posts. Whatever it was, may you find peace. my lovely.

Gratitudes today:

1. The absolutely breath-taking scenery. It went down to -7 here last night and hasn't risen above -3 yet, so the trees are etched in white and the sun is shining and it is just glorious.
2. We can afford to have the heating on during this cold weather.
3. When DH came home from the pub last night, he dragged my olive tree in its pot into the kitchen from outdoors, so it wouldn't get damaged by the frost. And he put an old blanket under it to save the floor smile
4. Slightly complicated one this - I'd arranged DD1's birthday party and, on the same day she gave out the invitations, another child gave out invitations for her party. DD1's is only a small party at home, and the other child's is a big event at a soft-play place. I am so grateful that DD1's good friends have all accepted her party invitation, and they are the good friends we thought they are (had a lot of trouble with friendships as a child myself and fret unreasonably about whether the DCs are happy)

Poledra Thu 17-Jan-13 10:44:37

Oh, and just to give you a giggle, when I proof-read the post above, I'd originally written that the trees were etched in shite shock. Not quite teh beautiful picture I was trying to paint grin

crescentmoon Fri 18-Jan-13 09:09:47

Morning all,

poledra im so glad your back, hope all is well in your family! felt abit naked with my last few posts so asked for them to be withdrawn as im - generally - in a good place anyway. smile thanks stressed. hope hillbilly, episkopos and others get time to post. and that we have new posters on this page!


1. like poledra, that i can afford to have the heating on in this weather.
2. that my children are much better today - so maybe by sunday il let them go out in the snow
3. that DH was positive this morning after being very disappointed yday
4. that the snow came at the end of the week rather than the beginning
5. peace and security.

Salbertina Fri 18-Jan-13 09:27:01

Hi Crescent- so glad to see you post, had been bit worried... Glad you're comfortable again now though smile

I'm grateful for
Dc1 - quirkiness, strong sense of self
Opport to rest after troubled sleep

Salbertina Fri 18-Jan-13 09:28:41

And poledra- that was such an evocative description, loved it and would have been quite ruined without your correction grin

crescentmoon Sat 19-Jan-13 11:10:12

namaste salbertina, hope you are doing well.

daily gratitudes;

1. children are much better today after coughing their guts out all yday afternoon just because i opened the door to let them watch the snow falling!
2. central heating
3. our milkman for bringing his delivery even though i expected he wouldnt get through
4. inhalers for ds1, what would i have done if i didnt have them when he was ill?
5. chocolate fingers!

stressedHEmum Sat 19-Jan-13 11:12:51

Nice to "see" you again, Poledra.

Peace and blessings to all.

Today, I am grateful -

for sunshine when so many have awful winter weather
for a warm home to hide from the biting cold
for food, water, clothing and warmth
that we had a client at the foodbank , yesterday and were able to help him with food but also with some companionship and a hot cup of tea.
warm, cuddly children
another interview for DS1

Salbertina Sat 19-Jan-13 14:08:18

Peace and blessings and lovingkindness to you all
Am grateful for
Nice family lunch, all relaxed at same time for once
Dh relaxed by cooking. A Good Thing
Sun, birdsong and summer.

Salbertina Sun 20-Jan-13 06:07:20

Am grateful for:
Lovely brunch today with friends haven't seen for a while
Kids excited about going back

stressedHEmum Mon 21-Jan-13 13:52:54

I am grateful

for a successful supermarket collection for the food bank on Saturday
for escaping most of the really bad weather
for a warm house and hot food
for friends and family
for faith

crescentmoon Mon 21-Jan-13 14:07:25

fabulous work stressed bless you.

daily gratitudes

that the dc's school is cancelled today,
that DH has finished early and is on his way home,
for books and the internet - my mind would have atrophied otherwise!
that ds2 is almost back to his cheerful cheeky self,
that i have a kitchen full of food

Salbertina Tue 22-Jan-13 04:42:28

Morning! Namaste.

Crescent- glad you're all fine in that snow and have food.

Stressed- so pleased you managed to get food for yr foodbank

Am grateful for
Ds enjoying his birthday so far
Such a Beautiful sunrise over the sea this morning
Charity work option moving forward

crescentmoon Tue 22-Jan-13 13:09:42

morning all,

daily gratitudes:

1. lovely walk to school with dc, sun shone and it wasnt too cold surprisingly,
2. snow is melting - thankfully i HATE snow,
3. had to stop our cleaner as needed to save on that to afford ds2 at nursery, i am finding it oookkkkk so far, have to remind myself of long term goals this year!
4. got a job interview yesterday so very happy. i dont know whether it was just for an equal opportunities tick or not but im feeling happy. not going to say anything to anyone this time - i was a little too excited last month!
5. took ds2 to gp today and got some antibiotics, both for free. when we moved abroad i used to pay the equiovalent of 50 pounds each time to see the gp for my children. we could afford it but it still made me baulk and think twice sometimes. what a blessing not to have to think if i have to afford it here.

crescentmoon Tue 22-Jan-13 13:30:09

(i meant AFTERNOON all, not morning!)

msrisotto Tue 22-Jan-13 13:35:19

I am thankful for the snow. (so ner crescent!) I like a bit of variation in the seasons otherwise i'd get very bored.
I am thankful I drove home safely in the snow on Sunday....!
I am thankful to the photographer who inspired me at the weekend to take up a new hobby!
I am thankful that I can afford some photography kit! Expensive hobby!
I am thankful for all the free advice and information online.
I am thankful to my DH who makes such a huge effort to support me.

When you first think about it,it's hard to think of anything but once you get going, you could go all day couldn't you?!!
So! Thank you for this thread! It has pulled me out of a little slump in mood today.

stressedHEmum Tue 22-Jan-13 18:23:19

Well done on another interview crescent. I hope that you have a positive outcome. Also good news that the GP was able to sort out something for DS2. Hopefully, he will be on the mend soon.

Salbertina, are you involved in charity work? How fabulous. What charity are you looking at working for?

"Msrisotto", hello and welcome. I am glad that you are safe and managed to navigate the snow. My brother and his kids are kind of trapped in their house because they have 7ft drifts and howling gales. It makes me grateful that we have avoided the snow completely.

Today, I am grateful

that we have avoided most of the bad weather
for a warm, dry house
for food and clean water
for my children all sitting together and playing Dungeons and Dragons without conflict
for choir practice
for doctors, medication and healthcare.
that my GP has decided to refer me on to a specialist to see if they can find anything to help me even just a little bit.

tuffie Tue 22-Jan-13 21:47:35

Today I am grateful for:
-our church for organising such a stimulating and thought provoking series of events during this Our Year of Faith. The first one was tonight and it was with a group of lovely people and I came away feeling completely uplifted.
-crescentmoon for starting this thread. I always find I feel closer to God when I think of things to be grateful for, rather than when I'm asking for things.
-as ever, my fantastic friends.
Stressed - I do hope the specialist is able to help you.

stressedHEmum Wed 23-Jan-13 18:16:38

Thank you, tuffie. We're not sure what they can do, but GP has rub out of ideas and is hoping for something new to come out of it.

Hope everyone is well, today.

I am grateful for -

family and friends
for shelter from the cold
for the ability to read, write and communicate
for the reduced food section - kids just had rolls with bacon, sausage, egg and potato scone. Bacon - 20p for 16 slices, eggs - 30p for 6, sausages - 45p for 10, potato scones - 50p for 6, rolls 40p for 8. We would never normally buy/cook that kind of thing because it's expensive

crescentmoon Fri 25-Jan-13 08:11:05

peace be upon you all this morning,

glad to see your back tuffie. dear stressed i really hope that the referral you get is more specific and beneficial to your own needs.

daily gratitudes

1.ds2 completely back to his cheeky naughty self - iv missed him,
2.DH cleaned the oven this week as it really needed it,
3.grateful for ability to read and write and to have been TAUGHT to read and write - and the world that opened to me because of that,
5.spent a lovely time in waterstones yesterday and got some great books for DH and i, i buy more books in a month than clothes!

i love reading other peoples gratitudes as it reminds me to look for more goodness in my own life. i wouldnt have kept this up longer than a week if id done it on my own.

stressedHEmum Sat 26-Jan-13 13:10:59

Thank you, crescent. I hope that they can come up with something, even just to improve the fatigue and pain a little bit.

I'm glad that DS is finally on the mend. There are so many wee bugs doing the rounds just now, almost everyone has something.

Today I am grateful -

that the food bank was open yesterday. Someone made a 30 mile round trip on the bus to get to us yesterday evening. Thank goodness we were still open when he found us.
for sunshine and wind to dry some washing
for a quiet day at home with nowhere to go today.
for the nurse who decided to do my blood tests yesterday at the same time as my B12 injections. it saves me going back next week. Although I had 7 tubes of blood taken out unexpectedly and now I can hardly use my right arm - hey-ho.
for the skills that I have that allow us to make the most of what we have.
for another day's life in an incredible world

tuffie Sat 26-Jan-13 17:18:04

"for another day's life in an incredible world" - I love that, stressed !

Today's gratitudes:
-the sun which shone today after what seems like 20 years,
-a lovely walk with my friend and her very entertaining dog who kept jumping in the cows' water trough ( the dog ,not my friend),
-the gift of appreciating good things all around - you don t have to look far.

crescentmoon Sat 26-Jan-13 22:23:59

loved reading your gratitudes stressed, so happy for that man that he found your food bank still open. cant imagine going on such a long journey in the UK to get food, think of all the supermarkets and shops passed on the way, thank goodness you were still open. iv already done a few days of cooking for the scheme done near me but i dont get to hear the personal stories. i just make the food then it gets picked up and if im lucky i get my pans back lol!

daily gratitudes:

1. did a deep clean even with dc playing ontop around me!
2. spoke to my dear friend who had an amazing amazing answer to her prayer - i felt inspired
3. chocolate caramel squares
4. cups of sweet tea all day
5. that DB has come back and that i sent him out to buy things for me all day and he never complained!

crescentmoon Sat 26-Jan-13 22:26:03

i loved this one tuffie 'In the midst of my affliction my table is spread' from a blog stressed posted up earlier.

Poledra Mon 28-Jan-13 09:25:16

Morning all! Today's gratitudes are:

1. the sun is shining and the snow has gone (overnight - 'twas amazing!)
2. DD1 really enjoyed her birthday party and sleep-over at the weekend (though I was threatening to horsewhip them all at 11pm on Saturday night if they didn't Go To Sleep Right NOW!)
3. that I've made a new friend through DDs 2 and 3's dancing class - her children are at the same school as mine and it's so nice to have someone to chat to while the children are doing their class.

stressedHEmum Mon 28-Jan-13 13:01:16

i know, crescent, it's so desperately sad and very frustrating that someone would have to come all that way for a couple of bags of basic food. I can't imagine how it must feel, especially going past all the shops filled with people buying things that they choose for themselves. I think that it might be quite easy to become a bit bitter and angry about it.

I think that it is fantastic that you cook for your local scheme. Being able to give people a hot, nourishing meal is such an amazing thing to do and a blessing to everyone involved.

Everyone's blessings are so lovely just not. You really don't have to look too hard to find good things in life.

Poledra, may you find joy and companionship in your new friendship. Friends are so very precious.

Today's gratitudes -

shelter from the rain and wind
plenty of rest yesterday and nowhere to go today
watching Wonders of Life on TV last night - life really is a wonder
a good chat and a strawberry tart with a dear friend
hot fruit tea to heat me up
hot soup for lunch

stressedHEmum Mon 28-Jan-13 17:33:26

I have another gratitude today.

I am very grateful that I was in this afternoon. One of my elderly parishioners has one of those emergency alert buttons. I got a phonecall this afternoon saying that he had pressed his button but wasn't responding. They had tried all his other contact numbers but no-one else was in - could I go and check that he was all right.

I walked down and had to let myself in. The poor old thing was lying unconscious and unresponsive in his own mess. He was twitching and gasping for breath. I thought that he was going to die. I was able to put him in the recovery position, phone the ambulance and wait until the medics arrived and took him off to hospital.

Thank goodness I was home. He could have been lying like that for hours if I hadn't been.

crescentmoon Mon 28-Jan-13 17:58:00

Stressed that's amazing. And that you could do first aid for him as well! I'm so happy you managed to get him to hospital. I feel so sad for old people who don't have neighbours like you. In the worst case It's awful when you read those stories of people who don't know their neighbours are dead until they smell them.
poledra great news that your daughter's slumber party went well. Im also grateful for friedships with dcs friends parents. I love my dcs current school because of how friendly the parents are. To the extent I like to get to the playground early on in the morning/or before home time to have a chat with some of the other mums as we wait! They are so welcoming and different from the parents at my dcs old school- where I used to time my arrival exactly as dc were supposed to be in and exactly as it was home time so I would spend as little time standing around as possible! Joining the PTA helped alot and I enjoy more for social reasons than helping out the school lol.

Daily gratitudes
1. Ds2 is so much nicer to take out now
2. got to see some good friends
3. Dhs payday today so i stopped off at my local bakery to buy some treats for everybody!
4. Lovely warm home
5. Really kind teachers at dcs school

stressedHEmum Thu 31-Jan-13 11:29:37

Haven't been on for a couple of days - I think Monday's adventure was just a bit much for me sad

I have much to be grateful for

that the old chap I helped on Monday is in hospital being looked after. They still don't know what happened to him but at least he is in the best place for the moment.
that DH had a day off yesterday so I was able to spend almost the whole day in bed because I felt really grim
hot porridge for breakfast
another day at home to try and rest a bit
a Sunday School outing to the bowling for the DCs this evening - it should cheer them up a bit after a difficult week

crescentmoon Thu 31-Jan-13 19:15:51

daily gratitudes:

1. i found i can rely always rely on db to look after ds2
2. had a lovely morning
3. didnt panic when friends dropped by this afternoon as i had nice biscuits in the house!
4. ditto nice tea.
5. DH on his way home as its a quiet night at work

crescentmoon Thu 31-Jan-13 19:16:52

(hope the rest of your week goes better dear stressed)

stressedHEmum Fri 01-Feb-13 12:08:02

Today I am grateful -

for DS4 - he is 10 today
for sunshine after all the rain
for Asda pizzas - another predictable birthday tea
for my Dh, who brought me some more fruit tea home last night. I had run out without realising and was a bit fed up about it.

I'm glad things are going well, crescent. I panic every time someone comes to the door because the place is such a mess. I am grateful that my friends understand how hard it is for me.

Thank you. I feel a wee bit better this morning, so hopefully things will improve over the weekend. I think that Monday just took too much out of me, I've been in bed because of pain and fatigue for most of the week since then. Not much good when you have a family to look after.

townbuiltonahill Fri 01-Feb-13 13:11:32

What a spirit - lifting thread!

A few days ago I thought of starting a 'someone was nice to me today' thread.

But I've mislaid my Round Tuit.


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stressedHEmum Sat 02-Feb-13 13:26:44

No news is good news, indeed, crescent. I hope that you here something positive soon. I like the aort of wintery fruit teas - the ones with cinnamon or ginger in them and citrusy flavours rather than the berry sort. Although, I do like Apple and Blueberry and the Pomegranate one a lot. One of the nicest was a Twinings one with cherries and cinnamon, but it was a limited edition.

Your mum is so organised, I wish that I was a bit more like that.

Today I am grateful -

for 14hrs sleep last night blush. I might be able to get through the day today.
that yesterday passed off with no tears, fighting or other miserable events to spoil DS4's birthday
for sunshine a a bit of a breeze to try to dry some washing

crescentmoon Sat 02-Feb-13 13:43:50

hello stressed, really hope your well! so glad you got some sleep and that the birthday tea went well.

daily gratitudes -

1. God answered my prayers,
2. DH got the kids ready from start to finish and took them out for the day - normally if i want a break i have to leave the house bodily myself!
3. my cousin's baby is soo adorable and cute
4. the day is lovely and bright and shining

stressedHEmum Mon 04-Feb-13 08:39:08

Today I am grateful -

for a dear, dear friend from church who is about to turn 90. We had a wee surprise tea after church yesterday with birthday cake and candles. It was very moving.

for warmth and shelter from the dreadful wind and gales that we have today

for Aldi's super six - the guinea pigs and I are sorted for fresh veg for the week

that God has brought us all safely through another night to meet the hew day.

crescentmoon Tue 05-Feb-13 11:21:18

Good morning all,

daily gratitudes today:

1. dc are well
2. i got great news smile
3. grateful for a chance to change my material condition
4. that the dc love each other and express that love to us as well.
5. that i at least have the food in the slow cooker no matter what it turns out later!

tuffie Tue 05-Feb-13 18:57:40

Good Evening everyone

Today I was grateful for:
The birds making me laugh before I went to work, squabbling over the bird bath,
My job which I am so lucky to have and enjoy,
My friends from church for a lovely uplifting evening last night,
My dh and dcs.
townbuilt - I hope you found your Round Tuit - I often lose mine too, but I am getting a bit better..
stressed - Hope you are feeling better.

crescentmoon Wed 06-Feb-13 08:13:54

(what is a round tuit? iv googled and still dont get it. is it some metaphysical thing?)

stressedHEmum Wed 06-Feb-13 10:08:17

crescent - it's a "round to it", like getting round to it. I seem to have permanently lost mine.

Thank you, every one, for all the good wishes and concern. I'm fine, just struggling a bit, just now. I seem to be having many more bad spells than good ones at the moment, but you just have to keep on going, don't you.

crescent, I'm so glad that you have had good news and that things seem to be taking a turn for the better. A bit of hope keeps us going when things look tough.

tuffie, I love the birds, the family refer to them as my pets. I think that they are fascinating and I can often be found having a quiet chuckle while watching them out the window. They are like a little ray of sunshine on a bleak day.

town, hope you get a chance to join us. It's really good to focus on the positive things in life. it helps get me through the day and to realise how blessed I actually am.

Today, I am grateful -

that I have heard from the lady who will lead our summer holiday club at the church. I have a preliminary meeting with her on Friday to talk about options. I'm really excited about this because I love to see youngsters about the church and I think that it is really important to try to build links with the community.
for sunshine after the appalling weather of the last few days
that the old chap from up thread has been allowed home from hospital
that the DC are still asleep - 2 of them were poorly yesterday, so sleep will hopefully sort them out a bit
for my soft, cuddly guinea pigs and my fish - I love to watch them swimming around.
for the simple pleasure of a toasted potato scone and butter for breakfast.

Salbertina Wed 06-Feb-13 19:36:08

Our health
Dc revelling being in the pool
Gorgeous birdsong ay dusk
That we don't live in a rusty, mud-floored shack next to a cesspit...just so many poor buggers who do sad

Namaste, everyone.

Salbertina Thu 07-Feb-13 06:12:08

Options in life, however stressful, good to have options which is more than many have.

Hello to everyone, lovely to catch up with the thread again. smile

crescentmoon Thu 07-Feb-13 13:58:33

Salbertina, salam, salam, im so glad your back and posting!

stressed - that is so funny i only got it when i said it OUT LOUD ha. i thought it was some latin thing lol - tuit? its hte way tuffie and town used it which made me think it was something unusual lol.

daily gratitudes,

1. lovely day with my little buddy ds2
2. house is warm and clean - by my own effort too!
3. my back and limbs are strong
4. dd had a few niggles at school but they'd sorted themselves out by this morning - they held hands and ran through layground together
5. delicious leftovers from yesterday so i can relax and not have to cook today

Salbertina Fri 08-Feb-13 08:47:30

My kids go to decent school and decent afterschool club with caring trained staff, outdoor space and loos
Dc love their dog
Sun and blue sky

Salbertina Fri 08-Feb-13 08:48:46

Crescent, Salam and namaste!

Sounds like you had a cosy day w dc yesterday smile

crescentmoon Sat 09-Feb-13 00:44:11

peace salbertina, stressed tuffie, poledra, and welcome to any other old and new posters/ readers.

Daily gratitudes:

1. finally finished my essay - havent had to write in continuous prose for a looong time!
2. grateful i had my slow cooker on to sort the evening meal out so i could get on with work
3. ds1 is really good at getting his younger siblings ready to leave - i rely on him to search for their hats, gloves, shoes etc!
4. beautiful happy children growing and changing
5. that i woke up in good health and finish the day with good health

JaneLane Sat 09-Feb-13 00:58:48

I'm a new poster. I think it is so important to be thankful - however awful a day has been there is always something good to be grateful about. I've been trying to do 5 things to be grateful about every day but always forget so hopefully this will help me not to!

1. My DH is a wonderful, wonderful husband and father and said he'd do the dinner/bath/bed routine this evening so I could slob on the sofa even though he'd been working today and it was my day off.
2. Am currently 8 months pregnant and the little one has been moving about to let me know it's okay
3. Got some fantastic news from my SiL - she is in her final year of uni and has just got a major piece of coursework back and is very pleased with her result.
4. Managed to make brownies without burning them smile
5. My DH's grandparents are going to come and stay for a couple of days next weekend which will be lovely.

Salbertina Sat 09-Feb-13 05:13:19

Jane, welcome and enjoy those brownies

1."Wisdom teaches me I know nothing, love teaches me I have everything. Between the two, my life flows."
Am grateful to Tara Brach for that one and for bringing me some current peace of mind at a turbulent time.
2. dc getting better after bug
3. For encouragement from my former employer which has given me a confidence boost


stressedHEmum Sat 09-Feb-13 16:52:19

Blessings to everyone. welcome, Jane, I hope that you find the thread helpful.

Today I am grateful

for a fab day doing BB training and all the lovely trainers who work so hard preparing all the material
for the lovely lunch while I was there and the fact that I didn't have to do any clearing up after
that I came home to a reasonably tidy house and all the children peacefully doing their own thing without any aggro (amazing with teens in the house)
that I made tonight's dinner last night, so I can have a rest now
that DS2 has been offered an interview with St. Andrew's university grin

crescentmoon Sat 09-Feb-13 17:02:26

congratulations to your boy stressed, that is your hard work just as much as his. mabruk! (congratulations) ST Andrews wow!

daily gratitudes

great morning on my own away from DH and dc,
came home to find them alive well,
lovely belgian bun with my tea today
DH has cooked dinner - just about to go and eat!

crescentmoon Sat 09-Feb-13 17:31:36

(Even an interview at top uni is amazing. Was he homeschooled as well?)

Welcome jane your DH sounds lovely and it's so good that you feel happy for your SIL's successes. Reminds me to call mine tomorrow thanks .

stressedHEmum Sat 09-Feb-13 18:49:06

Thank you, crescent. yes he was He'ed from when he was 11. his education since then has been almost completely self-directed. This past year he has been in college doing an Access course so that he has something to show universities, but it is so far below his actual working level that it's silly. What makes it even better for him is that he has AS and up until a couple of years ago, he couldn't even go to the corner shop on his own. His progress is unbelievable to me.

St. Andrews is his first choice (DS1 is in the 5th year of his MSci, there), but even if he doesn't get in, just getting an interview is an achievement.

crescentmoon Sun 10-Feb-13 12:21:31

oh my goodness ds1 is there too? thats brilliant stressed. and for ds2 to go from where he was 2 years ago to applying to move away to uni and a high calibre one at that is brilliant. would that my dc are also in the same position in 10 odd years lol, and hopefully by less effort on my part than your homeschooling self also!

daily gratitudes:

came down to find DH had done the mountain of washing up from yday,
dc playing well together,
wet windy day but we're inside safe and warm,
so far no sabotage getting the house ready for estate agent inspection tomorrow by the dc but its still midday!

Salbertina Sun 10-Feb-13 12:28:08

Cat not been killed by our dog
Boys built great den
Packing proceeding.

Great news re St Andrews, am v impressed! How satisfying when you've schooled them yourself!

Great about husband plus washing = done could do with with some of that here

Salbertina Sun 10-Feb-13 12:29:02

Stressed, are you a trained teacher? If not, am even more impressed...

Salbertina Sun 10-Feb-13 12:29:54

Crescent, forgot to ask- you're moving then?

tuffie Sun 10-Feb-13 17:19:33

Good evening fellow grateful people !

Today I am grateful that

My cat eventually swallowed her tablet after spitting it out 4 times (and thank you to God for holding me back from throttling her), and seems to be getting better as a result.
The children at our church who led the service this morning. What a treat it was.
My lovely friend for inviting me round for a cottage pie and a natter tonight.

Stressed - can I add my congrats to your boy.
Salbertina - I'm glad your dog didn t kill the cat ! ( that made me laugh)
Crescent - hope you manage to stop the dc turning the house upside down before the inspection , and good luck with the house move!

crescentmoon Sun 10-Feb-13 17:27:55

hello lovelies no im not moving house its in our tenancy agreement to have house inspections every 6 months. which is a drag but the agents and the landlord are very quick to respond whenever we have any problems/ concerns so we try to be ok with it! have a lovely evening, house still clean, may put kids to bed early to give it max chance to stay clean

Sunnywithshowers Sun 10-Feb-13 17:42:22

Hello all

Can I join in?

Today I'm grateful that:
1. My DCat is alive (he's nearly 19 and has been cuddly all day)
2. It's not snowing - yet
3. We've done a bit of tidying and the house is much more welcoming
4. As I've been typing, the Venerable Oscar (see 1. above) has got on the sofa for more fuss...

crescentmoon Sun 10-Feb-13 18:20:02

Welcome sunnywithshowers! And your gratitudes are to do with a cat like salbertina and tuffie. I also laughed at the dog didnt kill the cat.id love one if he was like your 'Oscar' summer-cuddly- but I'm afraid I'd get a cat like this one...

''The Dog's diary:

8:00 am - Dog food! My favorite thing!
9:30 am - A car ride! My favorite thing!
9:40 am - A walk in the park! My favorite thing!
10:30 am - Got rubbed and petted! My favorite thing!
12:00 pm - Milk bones! My favorite thing!
1:00 pm - Played in the yard! My favorite thing!
3:00 pm - Wagged my tail! My favorite thing!
5:00 pm - Dinner! My favorite thing!
7:00 pm - Got to play ball! My favorite thing!
8:00 pm - Wow! Watched TV with the people! My favorite thing!
11:00 pm - Sleeping on the bed! My favorite thing!

The Cat's diary

Day 983 of My Captivity

My captors continue to taunt me with bizarre little dangling objects. They dine lavishly on fresh meat, while the other inmates and I are fed hash or some sort of dry nuggets. Although I make my contempt for the rations perfectly clear, I nevertheless must eat something in order to keep up my strength.
The only thing that keeps me going is my dream of escape. In an attempt to disgust them, I once again vomit on the carpet. Today I decapitated a mouse and dropped its headless body at their feet. I had hoped this would strike fear into their hearts, since it clearly demonstrates my capabilities. However, they merely made condescending comments about what a "good little hunter" I am. Bastards!
There was some sort of assembly of their accomplices tonight. I was placed in solitary confinement for the duration of the event. However, I could hear the noises and smell the food. I overheard that my confinement was due to the power of "allergies." I must learn what this means, and how to use it to my advantage.
Today I was almost successful in an attempt to assassinate one of my tormentors by weaving around his feet as he was walking. I must try this again tomorrow, but at the top of the stairs.
I am convinced that the other prisoners here are flunkies and snitches. The dog receives special privileges. He is regularly released, and seems to be more than willing to return. He is obviously retarded. The bird must be an informant. I observe him communicate with the guards regularly. I am certain that he reports my every move. My captors have arranged protective custody for him in an elevated cell, so he is safe. For now ...''

Salbertina Sun 10-Feb-13 19:39:54

My cat is like that one, Crescent! Thanks for that, hilarious, made dh & I laugh!

Salbertina Mon 11-Feb-13 06:54:10

Time to myself to plan, pack and regroup a little
The air is fresher
Just arranged to see some friends later smile

Sunnywithshowers Mon 11-Feb-13 12:54:08

smile I think Oscar used to be more like that one, at least when we had another cat and he was younger...

stressedHEmum Mon 11-Feb-13 12:56:58

Thanks to everyone, I have passed congratulations on the DS2. salbertina, no, I'm not a teacher, just a mum who struggles on. We were very badly let down by the LA and the schools, so were kind os forced into HE. To be honest, DS2 has been mostly self directed for years. He is scarily bright, probably the brightest person I have ever met, so there is far more credit to him than to me. I'm just a kind of guiding and supporting influence for him.

Crescent, I have that cat, but I love her anyway.

Tuffie, I hope that your cat is on the mend. Mine won't take medicine, either, and trying to flea/worm her is a nightmare - she turns into Taz. Sunny, my cat is 15, not quite as old as yours, but I find myself worrying more and more as she seems to slow down a bit. She doesn't go out in the rain, cold, wind or anything like that anymore and seems to sleep most of the day now. I wish Oscar more years of cuddles and fuss.

Today, I am grateful -

for the sunshine at the moment
for an absolutely beautiful and uplifting church service, yesterday, from a visiting minister (ours was away at a family do.)
that all the arrangements are made for my Outreach committee's quiz night on Friday - I just pray for a good turnout now.
for family and good friends
for my older boys who help out willingly at the food bank, doing all the lifting and shifting
that my friend's wife has been told that she won't need a much dreaded lumbar puncture after all
that I am fed, warm and comfortable.

crescentmoon Mon 11-Feb-13 14:52:26

Lol at taz sTressed you mean the Warner brothers Tasmanian devil one? So funny I can just imagine but that adds to my list of risks of cats as pets! That piece was from an email forward I got years ago but it's online in a few variations. Glad you liked it salbertina I'm so glad your onwards and forwards for emigrating back to the UK.

Daily gratitudes

Inspection was very quick and went well- they were more apologetic than me!
Got a lift back home from school this morning with my neighbour
Lovey chat with my mum this afternoon- trying to convince me to go up to stay with her this coming half term

stressedHEmum Tue 12-Feb-13 20:10:23

evening -

just popping in to say that I probably won't be around much for the next few weeks. Lent starts tomorrow and I usually try to cut out internet use and other distracting things as well as fast.

I will be very grateful if God answers my prayers for strength smile

Today I am grateful -

for a dry day
for warm food and a safe home
for all the good things in my life
for this time of year which allows me to grow in faith and in peace.

crescentmoon Wed 13-Feb-13 00:10:20

Oh stressed that's really good. I might use this time to start cutting down my Internet use too, it really eats into my productivity time!

Daily gratitudes

1. That I had 3weeks of rest before this latest bout of sickness amongst my 3 dc
2. For inhalers for ds1
3. Calpol to reduce temperature for all 3
4. That I don't have to start yet so I can concentrate on them
5. That I'm healthy so I can take care of them!

Salbertina Thu 14-Feb-13 12:44:01

Stressed- hope Lent is going well for you. Good idea to limit screen-time/Internet. Should myself!

Crescent, hope yr dc are recovering well. We've all been ill too.

1) awoke before dawn to hear an eagle owl on the roof right above me hooting to another in a nearby tree smile What a privilege, such a beautiful, mystical sound - not quite a full T-wit- to- woo. More like a w-h-hooo...lovely!

2. Had some kind words from a wise man earlier, much needed as am so stressed!

3. Dc go to a lovely beautiful school

crescentmoon Thu 14-Feb-13 17:09:18

sorry to hear that salbertina, really hope you and your lovely family get better soon. mine are still unwell - its been a strange start to the new year but there is something to be learned from it. really liked that expression you had awhile ago by tara brach? "Wisdom teaches me I know nothing, love teaches me I have everything. Between the two, my life flows." that one, and another through a blog stressed posted "in the midst of my affliction my table is spread".

daily gratitudes

1. my body: my liver, my kidneys, my eyes, my nose, my ears, my heart, my lungs, my blood
2. my body's strength
3. that I have DH behind me which makes raising a family so much easier that we work together.
4. that my online order came through today and it cheered me up
5. for lovely friends and family

Salbertina Fri 15-Feb-13 09:46:27

Thanks, Crescent smile. Yes that quote was cited by the fab Tara Brach in one of her podcasts, not sure who originally said it though. Glad your family are so close and supportive.

Today i am grateful for
1) the beauty of the landscape around me and good company on a lovely run
2) good coffee!
3) its Friday.. Chance to take stock and plan

crescentmoon Fri 15-Feb-13 19:59:28

hope your all getting better today salbertina. been feeling a little under the weather today hoping to get better over this weekend!

daily gratitudes

1. that my neighbour was able to collect ds1 and dd from school for me and drop them off
2. that its only a sore throat and tiredness, nothing on the scale of what my dc had.
3. that DH made a rare trip home this afternoon just to see and check on me. downside is he is still at work!
4. 'in the midst of my affliction my table is spread' - i have a kitchen full of food to feed my family even though i didnt feel like eating myself.
5. watching ds2 coming more and more into his own personality is such a pleasure and a privilege.

Salbertina Sat 16-Feb-13 10:20:18

Thanks, Crescent, all better now

1) in the spirit of your post, "our table is spread" also

2) dc both happily playing with friends

3) packing quite therapeutic

Salbertina Sun 17-Feb-13 04:35:12

Distant cockerels crowing
Air buzzing with insects already
Beautiful, pastel pink sunrise over the sea...
Am grateful to be alive.

crescentmoon Sun 17-Feb-13 10:30:52

hello salbertina sunrise over the sea are you sure you want to leave? i get what you mean about packing being therapeutic. some places iv lived iv packed with a heavy heart but some places its been with gladness!

yesterday's gratitudes

1. morning started off horribly but got better as day progressed
2. grateful DH has a job though it makes him leave me in the lurch often!
3. enjoyed watching dc make new friends - i usually hover when they are around shy children as they can overpower them abit but yesterday's kids were just as bossy confident so i just sat back and watched them figure out the pecking order between themselves!
4. had a mid afternoon nap which i woke up from feeling great
5. rewarded the kids for staying quiet with a pizza takeaway - im grateful theyre so easy to please!

today's gratitudes

1. called MIL for a chat this morning and it was really pleasant
2. looking forward to a week of no school next week and the children are well
3. low laundry pile, kitchen is clean (but dining room floor needs cleaning!)
4. sunny bright day

Salbertina Mon 18-Feb-13 06:25:35

Hello everyone

Hi, Crescent - enjoy your school free week - hope your kids stay easily pleased wink
No, am absolutely not sure about going- its a wrench either way. Am scared of such a radical change, we have roots here and they're the ones which are present on our minds not the UK ones...but, its v expensive, i cant work and its got security issues...

Today am grateful for such a picture postcard-perfect beautiful morning
A loyal dog
Time to plan/pack as house to myself again

crescentmoon Mon 18-Feb-13 18:10:00

namaste salbertina,

i know what you mean about a wrench either way. a few years ago we were being urged by friends to move to south africa as apparently they are world experts in DHs field. we looked into it, considered job vs lifestyle, had a job lined up by our friends but we decided against it because of security issues also. our friends themselves had had even relatives be victims of violent crime. i thought whats the money worth if you cant take a walk on the street! is it that you cant work for visa or is it reduced work opportunities out there in your field? it is difficult i think to weigh up matters.

daily gratitudes:

1. took dc to park, ds1 and dd made friends. then went to feed ducks with cheap loaf of bread from nearby supermarket. very nice time out
2. ds2 more intrepid on park equipment - i think thats the influence of nursery!
3. had friends round for tea and cake - dc didnt embarress me that much!
4. swotting up getting ready to start new stage of my life.

Salbertina Tue 19-Feb-13 07:44:40

Hello everyone or is it just us left, Crescent? Oh well, lovely thread so Im happy to keep going. Guess Stressed will re-join us after Lent.

Crescent- what your pending new life-stage? New course/job?

Intrigued by your cancelled SA plan also. Can understand why esp after youf friends' experience sad. Yes, its a beautiful place with tons of potential, exuberance and energy along with a (costly) fantastic lifestyle in material ways for the privileged few..however, grinding poverty all around, constant threat of violent crime- guards everywhere so never quite relax. SA gov v strict on foreigners working and am on spousal visa.

Anyway, am grateful for
Hooting owl at dawn again
Options in our lives however painful it is to choose, at least we can
This thread! It's lovely to share and have a window into each other's worlds and also to reflect on my own and realise how lucky i am despite life's challenges.

crescentmoon Tue 19-Feb-13 11:52:19

salams salbertina and others. hope the previous posters find time to post and new posters join us! im also missing stressed, hope she is well and she doesnt forget to come back after Lent!
Yeah we were really on the cusp then decided to back out. our friends were Cape Malay South Africans, both successful professionals and they really talked up the lifestyle. but theres a high risk in their profession and DH didnt want to run the same risk though the flip side was working with world class experts. as for me, i wouldnt have had the same career opportunities there as in the UK so i vetoed it for that also because i wanted there to be a chance for me to work when i decided to!
yeah new life stage is ... a job! i finally got one - tried to refer to it euphemistically earlier. just waiting for checks to clear through and to start next month. im still in shock iv not worked in a long while though i started volunteering a couple of months ago and it was off the back of that really! we shall see though!

daily gratitudes

dc up bright and early
beautiful sunny day
we're not in debt
i have my health,
DH has his health

Salbertina Wed 20-Feb-13 20:14:44

Choice. Food, sunlight.
Salams, Crescent, missing Stressed too, hope Lent going well for her

Salbertina Wed 20-Feb-13 20:19:36

Many congratulations on your new job, Crescent. When do you start? Interesting to hear more about the SA offer - yes, large Cape Malay community here but yes jobs often high risk... Shame but sounds like right decision for
you all. As you say, career limiting here at least for following spouse

Salbertina Thu 21-Feb-13 07:01:24

Choices, choices... My kids had a decent, healthy breakfast, lovely sunny day. Dh a decent man unlike so many here who still think its ok to hit and even rape a woman/girl. 3 women murdered a day here, 1 rape every 4 mins. Thats how bad it is (and how lucky I am)


crescentmoon Thu 21-Feb-13 15:57:07

Totally agree with you salbertina about choices. Im grateful I live in the Uk where children living on the street is unacceptable, physical abuse is always the mans fault never the woman's, ditto with rape. Iv never faced sexual harrasment have always felt safe to walk around by myself or with my kids. There have been strange times and places iv not felt that safety tbh.

crescentmoon Thu 21-Feb-13 16:07:35

Whoops pressed too soon - But always abroad never in the UK! Rule of law, huge intolerance to corruption, you don't have to pay bribes and there aren't government workers who take bribes even if offered. Grateful for security first and foremost-you don't need to come from a big family with lots of male relatives to keep you safe from problems the police maintain law and order themselves.


Im going to a ladies only wedding this evening- so grateful to be invited though I haven't known the family long,
I can just about fit into my favourite dress so got my whole outfit head to toe sorted,
DH is home early so il be able to leave on time though it will be on until late,
No school tomorrow so il be able to laze about in the morning with the dc!

(All of this God willing of course, I could break my leg in the next half hour and end up in a and e tonight instead!)

Namaste salbertina

Salbertina Fri 22-Feb-13 08:16:12

Salams, Crescent and everyone

Yes, true meaning of "civilised society", isn't it? Equality and choice for all. SA still has a long way to go but then its a v young democracy, Uk's had centuries to evolve to its current state. Sometimes think there are huge parallels between here and late-Victorian England in terms of housing/sanitation/huge social divides/position of women

Anyway... How was your all-female wedding, Crescent? Have been to similar wedding reception tho dh allowed also.

Today am grateful for:

Final news on plans pending (cross fingers)
Both dc excited about weekend playdates
Beautiful area we live in- its smells, vistas and landscapes are breathtaking