It is quite tough sometimes to ^not^ have religious or spiritual belief

[newlifenewname]

I follow no religion and believe in nothing beyond that which can be scientifically proven, as a rule.

I'm coming to terms with the death of someone very close - someone I'd desperately like to talk to again.

There are things I want them to know and believe and I find myself talking aloud to them but this lacks any comforting effect because I cannot convince myself they might be able to hear me.

I don't want to have religion to prop me up but I can see why one might turn to it.

The simple facts of death are very hard to face without the veneer of hope.

[Whooosh]

Well we agree again on another subject NLNN!

I actually am amazed that people find comfort in religion when someone dies-I think I would be the reverse and questioning why,why why.

I lost my Mum very suddenly and there was so much I wanted to say and for her to know.

It's 2yrs now and I did go through a phase fo going to mediums but surprise,surprise,nothing happened to make me feel any better.

About 14mts after her death,the cloud lifted a littel and I read book by Mia Dolan (will try to check which one) and it really did change my perspective.

I lent it to another friend who had a similar situation and she found it a help too.

If I can dig it out (if friend doesn't still have it) I will post it to you.

[newlifenewname]

Hiya Whoosh!

I'd really appreciate that, thank you.

I had the idea of a medium pop into my head for a split second too but I realised as you did that that isn't going to be the way to go for me.

I sort of wish it was but I know it isn't and I'll probably just feel even more helpless and at a loss.

[newlifenewname]

And, sorry to hear that you lost your mum. Mum is a very tough one to have to say goodbye to I'm sure. I feel for you.